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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.
Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it.
Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*.
If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.
*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.
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Something weird happened with this week's episode - 102: Hoping it will get better but it never does - only 1 minute and 23 seconds of the episode was uploaded. Yes. Very odd. I can't tell you why (because I've got absolutely no idea either), but I can tell you that the issue has been fixed and the FULL episode should now be available on all podcasting platforms. Listen in! It's a really good one. 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📩 Join my Email List to rec...
If there's one experience we can all agree on... It's the feeling of hoping things will get better. Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free. Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past. But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine? And when you underst...
The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session. Why do I work with clients on this? It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions! When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey. But there's a problem: most people hav...
I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same. These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community. They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour. Listen in to find out which you feel ...
Stress is a big root cause of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting. With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM! It's partly true but mostly a total lie and deeply unhelpful. Yes, there are probably some things in your life that cause unnecessary stress that you'd be better off removing... BUT, we cannot remove stress altogether and trying to do so only causes more of it. So what do we do? We turn inward. I...
Hope is hard when you've tried for years to stop engaging in a behaviour that you logically understand is not good for you and yet seem to have no control over. It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better." I've spoken to so many incredible people inside this community who desperately want to hope that healing and freedom from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting is possible... But their experiences have taught them otherwise. Let me share with you why hope feels...
Positive affirmations truly can help you to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting BUT... You've got to go about creating them in the right way. Most people don't, and so they end up with affirmations that err on the side of toxic positivity. They give the "ick" and make people believe that affirmations are just useless fluff with no substance. Toxic positivity is useless fluff, but true affirmations are deeply powerful and will help you to stay grounded as yo...
We all have a few abandoned and neglected HEALTHY habits weighing on the back of our minds... "I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby." We know they'd be good for us if we just did them more regularly. If thinking about these neglected habits makes you feel kinda shitty about yourself, then this episode was recorded for you. Find out what might be the real culprit holding you back from following through and what you can do about it...
There's a 99% chance you've been in this trap. In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too. I did for years, and I still catch myself slipping into this self-sabotaging and degrading way of thinking. If you want to feel more content, present, and fulfilled in your day-to-day life, make sure you listen to this because navigating this mental trap is a MUST! 🌟Download y...
This is what really works. And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment. I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the better. Because the truth is, you're not struggling with chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting - you're struggling with shame. And I guarantee, the skin picking became a problem because you needed help coping with the shame (and stress and overwhelm), N...
Most people set really crappy goals for the new year and wonder why, by mid-March, they seem to be no further than they were on January 1st. I personally don't love the idea of New Year's resolutions, but I absolutely love goal setting and teaching others how to do it effectively because goal setting is a skill that will genuinely transform your life! In this episode, I share with you: The top 3 areas you need to focus on to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting in 202...
Trying to get them to “just stop” isn’t working. In fact, it’s probably making things worse. There is a right way and a wrong way to support someone with a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB). Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there explaining what the right way actually is. That’s why I created this episode. It’s short, because supporting your loved one effectively is much simpler than you might think. You may even discover a thing or two about yourself while liste...
It's not because of genetics, or because you lack willpower, or because you're just a malfunctioning human being. It's because you didn't learn this one vital skill. This skill lies at the core of why you pick, pull, & bite and learning it is the most powerful and effective path to healing you can take. Listen in to find out what this skill is, why you never learnt it, and how you can truly start! 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📩 Join my Email List to recei...
You'll be surprised how this is also making you pick, pull, and bite at your body... Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lost that zest for life. Rather than waking up looking forward to the day, we wake up not wanting to get out of bed, dreading what the day might bring, or feeling an underlying sense of urgency, like we're already behind. Here's what the solution is not... It's not doing more and trying harder, or quitting your job, selling all your belongings, and moving to a cab...
When you STOP venting, you'll take huge steps towards accessing freedom from chronic skin picking and hair pulling. And when I say "venting", I mean the cathartic act of complaining or offloading about your problems onto a loving and listening ear. We've all done it/do it. Don't even try to deny it! I struggled with chronic skin picking for 15 years, and venting was one of those hidden behaviours that was holding me back. Is it doing to you what it did to me? Find out in this episode what ven...
Skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting won't stop without this vital piece. I've spoken to hundreds of people like you in this community, and they all want the same thing: relief, a break, the space to be themselves without this behaviour constantly getting in their way, like a shackle around their legs or a thorn in their side. What I've noticed is that this "vital piece" holds the key to their chains, and yet almost every person I speak to is missing it, OR they're not as connected to ...
Are you making this big mistake too? "When I stop picking, I'll be free, I'll be able to relax and just be." Yes, finding freedom from skin picking and hair pulling will have a drastically positive impact on your life, BUT what most people describe as freedom is usually not based in reality and is actually keeping them stuck. So is it truly possible to be free? Or have we got our heads in the clouds? Listen in to find out. 🫂Join "Home💛", my free community on Instagram 🌟Download your FREE...
If you’ve been feeling moody, foggy, or struggling with PMS or menopause symptoms, this episode is going to shift the way you see your body. My guest, Vanessa Kerr, is one of Australia’s most respected strength coaches and the owner of Hills Barbell Club. She’s also the NSW Head Coach for the High Performance Team and a team coach for the Australian Weightlifting Federation. Vanessa has spent over a decade proving that strength training doesn’t just transform your body, it transforms your hor...
Most people try to “fix” skin picking or hair pulling by focusing on the behaviour, but that’s why we stay stuck in it. In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root of your BFRB (body-focused repetitive behaviour) and what’s keeping you stuck in the cycle. You’ll walk away seeing your healing in a completely new light! One that’s grounded, empowering, and deeply personal. Listen to discover: • Why surface-level tip...
Are evenings your weak spot for picking? You’re likely overstimulated, not "weak" or “failing.” In this episode, I break down why modern-day overload drains impulse control and heightens emotional reactivity, making nights the hardest. You’ll learn simple somatic practices to reduce daily overstimulation so you can arrive in the evening more grounded, present, and in control. What you’ll learn How all-day head noise and nonstop “go” prime your brain for nighttime pickingWhy overstimulat...
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