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Motherhood changes everything... including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels disconnected from your husband, stuck in roommate mode, or exhausted by the constant tension, miscommunication, or emotional distance after kids, this podcast is for you.
Join Marriage Coach Michelle Purta each week to learn how to strengthen your marriage without waiting until the kids are grown. Each episode offers practical communication tools, mindset shifts, and real conversations that help you rebuild emotional connection, navigate conflict without escalation, and feel like true partners again...not just co-parents managing a household.
This show is especially for you if you want to:
• Communicate clearly without shutdowns or blow-ups
• Reduce resentment and mental load in motherhood and marriage
• Reconnect emotionally and rebuild intimacy after kids
• Create a healthier, more connected marriage in the middle of busy family life
Having a strong marriage is all about learning the right skills, not about being perfect.
This podcast is your weekly reminder that you don’t have to choose between being a great mom and having a deeply connected marriage.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
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Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Doing more doesn’t make you a better partner. It makes you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the mental load, keeping everything running, and wondering why your partner isn’t stepping up… this episode is going to shift how you see it. The truth is, this dynamic isn’t just happening to you. It’s being created inside the relationship pattern itself. In this episode, we’re talking about: Why overfuncti...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Your body isn’t broken. It just needs a different approach. If you’ve hit your late 30s or 40s and suddenly feel like nothing is working anymore… you’re not imagining it. The strategies that used to “just work” stop working — and most women are left feeling frustrated, confused, and honestly… a little betrayed by their bodies. In this episode, I am joined by Health and Fitness Coach Emily Erb to talk about what’s actually happening in your body, wh...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! The fastest way to change your marriage is not by getting your partner to change. If your marriage has been feeling heavy, tense, or stuck in the same arguments on repeat… you’re not alone. Most couples believe things will finally get better when their partner starts communicating differently, showing up more, or meeting their needs. But here’s the truth: waiting for your partner to go first keeps you stuck. In this episode, we’re diving into the p...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! So many women are living lives that look right on the outside… but internally feel off, overwhelming, or unfulfilling. In this episode, I am joined by Intuition Coach, Taylor Nosakhere to unpack what intuition actually is, why so many women feel disconnected from it, and how rebuilding self-trust can transform your motherhood, marriage, and everyday decisions. You’ll learn why following your intuition doesn’t always feel easy—and why that doesn’t me...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Staying calm in conflict doesn’t mean your conversation is actually working. If you’ve ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought… “Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you. In today’s episode, we’re talking about the missing skill most couples were never taught: collaborative problem solving. Because the truth is— You can regulate your emotions, say things nicely, and still end up stuck in the sam...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Your reactions aren’t random — they’re regulated (or dysregulated). If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I react like that?” — this episode is for you. In this episode, I am joined by Personal Growth Coach and Breathwork Facilitator, Ashlee Livingstone to break down what nervous system regulation actually is and why it’s the foundation for healthy communication, emotional control, and connection in your marriage. Becaus...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Most arguments don’t spiral because of the original issue. They spiral because couples start reacting to each other instead of understanding each other. One partner gets upset. The other partner reacts to their partner being upset. Suddenly both people are defending themselves instead of solving the problem. What started as frustration turns into a much bigger fight because neither person feels heard. This dynamic is one of the most common conflict...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Most kids don’t ignore their parents because they’re disrespectful. They ignore them because their brain isn’t developmentally ready to respond yet. If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same instruction five times before your child finally listens, you’re not alone. Many parents fall into a frustrating cycle: You ask nicely. Your child ignores you. You repeat yourself. You get frustrated. Eventually you yell. And suddenly everyone in the ho...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Have you felt more and more disconnected from your partner after having kids? Most couples don’t stop loving each other after kids. They just stop prioritizing their marriage and that's what causes the disconnect. After kids enter the picture, life gets full fast. Between school schedules, activities, work responsibilities, chores, and bedtime routines, it can feel like there’s barely enough time to breathe, let alone nurture your relationship. So c...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Have you ever reacted to your kids in a way that brought on feelings of guilt and shame? Looking back, have you ever felt surprised by how strongly you reacted when you lost your cool or struggled to stay calm when the kids aren't listening? Parenting triggers aren’t random. They’re rooted in your past. I am joined by Psychodynamic Coach Lavinia Brown to talk about inner child healing and how it directly impacts the way you parent. In this episode, ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Emotional maturity is the difference between repeating patterns and transforming your marriage into a relationship that gets better and better. In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in a marriage— and what often gets mistakened for maturity. This episode will help you understand: - What emotional maturity really means in marriage - Why projection feels relieving in the momen...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Letting your kids be bored isn't a failure on your part. Boredom is actually essential for your kid's development. In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children and author of But I’m Bored: Discover the Power of Independent Play to Raise Confident, Resilient Kids. We talk about why modern parents feel overstimulated, pressured to entertain, and responsible for optimizing eve...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn’t mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently. If you feel like you’re always the one trying to talk things through — or you’re the one who shuts down and gets overwhelmed — this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface. In this episode, I break down: - The pursue–withdraw dynamic in marriage - Why shutting down is about ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage. In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants, to explore: - How transactional love patterns form in immigrant households - Why achievement often becomes tied to worth - The impact of collectivistic vs. individuali...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Most communication breakdowns happen before anyone even starts talking. If you’ve ever walked into a conversation with your spouse calm and they still got defensive or shutdown, this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down the often-missed step that determines whether your conversations lead to connection or conflict: nervous system regulation before engagement. Tune in to learn: - Why intention vs. impact matters more than wording - How ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! If you constantly feel like you can’t keep up or get ahead with time, this episode will change how you see productivity. In this episode, I am joined by Jill Wright, time management expert and creator of the Time Magic System, to talk about why so many women—especially moms and neurodivergent women—feel perpetually behind no matter how hard they try. Jill breaks down why traditional productivity advice doesn’t work for women, how ADHD and neurodiver...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Valentine’s Day can feel heavy when your marriage isn’t where you want it to be — and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something is asking for your attention. If Valentine’s Day brings up disappointment, sadness, resentment, or pressure, this episode is for you. Instead of viewing this holiday as a test of your marriage, we’re reframing it as a signal — one that highlights what’s really going on beneath the surface. In this episode, I shar...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Postpartum can feel overwhelming—not because something is wrong, but because no one prepares you for how much conflicting information you’ll receive after having a baby. In today’s guest episode, I’m joined by a Postpartum Doula and Matrescence Educator, Heather Magill who helps parents navigate one of the most vulnerable transitions of their lives with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. We talk about how hard it can be to know what’s normal, wh...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Going on regular dates but still feeling emotionally disconnected? You’re not imagining it—and you’re not doing anything wrong. In this episode, I explain why spending more time together doesn’t automatically rebuild connection, intimacy, or closeness in your marriage—and why date nights often fall flat when deeper issues haven’t been addressed. You’ll learn: - The foundation of real connection (it's not time together) - How unresolved resentment a...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic violence. Nothing graphic is shared, but listener discretion is advised. Domestic violence doesn’t always leave bruises—but it always leaves an unwanted, undeserved impact. In this episode, I am joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Brooke LaLone to define what domestic violence actually looks like—especially the forms most women don’t recognize until they’re deeply entrenched. If you’ve e...
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