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This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, you are believed and supported in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs.
Handing the Shame Back is a New Zealand based charity, focused on preventing child sexual abuse through education and supporting adult survivors. Find out more about us and what we do: https://www.handingtheshameback.org
Each week, Handing the Shame Back will add a Survivor Interview, Tip for Survivors, or Blog to help support our community in finding their way to truth and freedom. Please feel free to reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show.
Together, we can provide support and protect...
The children of yesterday, whose pain was silenced.
The children of today, who need our protection.
The children of tomorrow, who deserve a safer world.
From silence to action. From shame to strength.
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Deb Aldrick Author. Speaker. Advocate Deb was abused from 5 - 14 by a family member while another family member did nothing to protect her. Pre-abuse she was happy and confident, and enjoyed life with lots of friends. Post-abuse she became anxious and a worrier. To reach Deb go to: https://dragonflyadvocacy.com.au/ or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dragonflyadvocacy/ or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dragonflyadvocacy3/ or LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b...
Meet Raymond Lum Survivor and Film Producer As a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’. To reach Raymond go to: https://www.facebook.com/sting16 or https://www.instagram.com/raymondtlum/ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ L...
As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it. What that meant (for some of us), is that we weren’t just controlled through sexual abuse, there was also the emotional and physical manipulation as well. How that impacted us was we had no opportunity to live or behave in a way that was truly ours. We are on all soci...
Meet Kel Humphries Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher. She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 - 8, and recognises the grooming for what it was. He knew exactly what he was doing, her parents had no idea. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA&n...
Meet Kel Humphries Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher. She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 -8, and now realises her parents were the ones being groomed. At age 12 her mother asked her directly if she had been abused, but she couldn't speak. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotea...
Uipo Tagaloasa Part 2 Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born. He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents. He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend. As he was working through his trauma, he considered shooting his abuser and then realised it would really only punish him and his family unnecessarily. To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages...
Uipo Tagaloasa Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born. He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents. He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend, who was helping his family out with things. He also played rugby with him. To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram https://www.instagram.c...
Meet Janet Jacobsen Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor. Janet's story continues. You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adu...
Meet Janet Jacobsen Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor. Janet was abused by a doctor while her father was dying. she also had a local shopkeeper do the same. Her call to action was on hearing of the death of the doctor. Don't miss this survivors incredible story of courage and overcoming. You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, supp...
Gloria talks about her life story. What she experienced and what led her to do the work she does on Handing the Shame Back.HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Suppor...
Meet Three incredible survivors of Abuse in Care. Malcolm Justice. Phill Ashworth and Neil Harding. Their stories will move you. For more on this please watch the entire video. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK ...
Meet Heidi Olson Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast. She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She looks at the link between early child abuse and the risky behaviour she engaged in as a young adult, when she felt broken, and in self destruct mode. You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safeto...
Meet Heidi Olson Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast. Heidi did not feel seen growing up. She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She believes this (in part), occurred because of the ongoing and unresolved intergenerational trauma her parents experienced. You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text ...
Meet Allen Goodall He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups. He experienced sexual abuse beginning at age of 3. He eventually recognised that the fear of public speaking/panic attacks was linked to the abuse as in he was threatened to keep silent in many ways. He now speaks out! You can reach out to Allen at allgoodie011@outlook.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. ...
Meet Allen Goodall He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups. He experienced sexual abuse from the age of 3 and was threatened about ever speaking out. He now does so fully and freely due to the want and desire to end the demons, and to give other men some hope. You can reach out to Allen at allgoodie011@outlook.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Hel...
Meet Justine Dean Coach, Mentor, Confidante From the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother seemed unable to support her through this. When Justine was 5 years old and being molested by her 12 year old male neighbour, her mother screamed at her; 'What did you do?' Don't miss this profound interview. You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk....
Meet Justine Dean Coach, Mentor, Confidante Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence. You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK &nbs...
Meet John Cardamone He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne. When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member. When his son became that age, John became really anxious and concerned about his safety and eventually recognised he was being triggered by his own history of abuse. You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/ https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/ https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone...
Meet John Cardamone He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne. When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member. When he told his mother, she believed him instantly and from that point on, he was kept safe. Looking back he sees, that his parents were groomed as well You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/ https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/ https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone HELP ...
Welcome to Part 2 of Jeanie Dean's interview. She is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specialist interviewer and Trainer | Managing Director at Safeguarding Solutions Australia. The impact of her abuse began a healing journey leading into researching why sex offenders do what they do.This became her purpose in life. You can reach Jeanie on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483/ HELP NZ Sexual Har...
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