Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

One of the hardest parts of betrayal is grieving something no one else can see.This episode gently names the invisible grief of staying. Of still loving. Of rebuilding while still breaking.Because betrayal doesn’t just shatter trust — It shatters your future. Your story. Your sense of self. And no one brings you flowers for that.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Join the ⁠Interest List⁠ for an upcoming course for parents called ⁠Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Betrayal trauma is often talked about as a couple’s crisis, but betrayal is never contained to the marriage alone.In this episode, Hali Roderick and her daughter Morgan Ellsworth explore the often-overlooked impact of parental betrayal on children and the entire family system.As both professionals in the betrayal trauma field, and as a mother and daughter who have lived this experience firsthand, they invite listeners into an essential conversation on generational healing, witnessing, and family recovery. They discuss how children often feel the impact of betrayal in the family, without the truth to give language to their experience. Without support, they often carry confusion, self-blame, distorted beliefs, and unprocessed grief into adulthood.Together, they discuss how children often sit in an unaware and disempowered place and why compassionate witnessing, emotional validation, and developmentally appropriate disclosure are essential for restoring agency and safety.Healing is messy. It is courageous. And it is possible across generations. View the Typology of Witness Grid mentioned in this episode HERE.Join the Interest List for our upcoming course for parents: Intentional Parenting After Betrayal.Read Witnessing Wonder and Hope  (Full Study)Connect with Morgan on Instagram and listen to her podcast, Healing Betrayed Families.You can email her directly at morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 ⁠Instagram⁠👉 ⁠Facebook⁠👉 ⁠Website

Trauma bonds are one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing and relationship conversations — and often one of the most painful to confront.In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Staci Somes, and together we slow this conversation way down. Rather than framing trauma bonds as weakness, addiction, or a failure to “just leave,” we explore what trauma bonds really are: a nervous system survival response to attachment under threat.We talk about how trauma bonds form, why they can feel so powerful and confusing, and why insight alone is rarely enough to break them. We also explore the difference between trauma bonding and authentic love — helping you distinguish intensity from safety, survival from choice.If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is this so hard to let go of?” or “Why do I still feel attached even after everything that’s happened?” — this episode is for you.In this episode we mentioned the follow two resources: A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After BetrayalTrauma Bonding by Lauren KozlowskiConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

After betrayal, many women find themselves asking, Why don’t I know what I need anymore? This episode explores why that loss of clarity isn’t a personal failure — it’s a nervous system response to relational trauma.When trust is broken, your body shifts into survival mode. Instead of tuning in to yourself, your system starts scanning for danger, trying to stay safe. Over time, this can make your own feelings, needs, and desires feel distant, confusing, or even inaccessible. In this episode, Hali explains what’s really happening inside your body and brain, and why it makes so much sense that you feel disconnected right now.You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting with yourself in a gentle, grounded way — not by forcing answers, but by creating safety in your nervous system first. Hali shares a simple three-layer model for understanding needs (nervous system, emotional, and relational), along with practical ways to start listening to your body again after betrayal.CONNECT WITH ME & CONTINUE YOUR HEALINGIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

In this special shared episode, Hali Roderick joins Amie Woolsey on the Empowered Divorce Podcast for a powerful conversation about betrayal trauma, the nervous system, and the role of somatic breathwork in healing what talking alone often can’t reach.Betrayal doesn’t just live in the story — it lives in the body. When shock, fear, rage, and heartbreak don’t get a chance to move through, they become stored survival energy that continues to drive anxiety, hypervigilance, and emotional overwhelm. In this episode, Hali explains how SomatIQ-style activating breathwork creates a safe pathway for the body to release what was never allowed to finish.This conversation is especially meaningful for betrayed partners who feel stuck despite therapy, insight, or years of effort — and who know their body is still holding the impact.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship?In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC - trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal.Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in their growth.This conversation is not about abusive dynamics. It’s for the woman who is trying to stay anchored in herself while navigating a relationship that still feels uneven—and who is wondering how to do that without resentment, self-abandonment, or losing herself in the process.Connect With MeJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

One of the most painful and disorienting effects of betrayal isn’t just losing trust in your partner - it’s losing trust in yourself.After deception, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation, many women begin to question their instincts, their memories, and their inner knowing. You may find yourself wondering, How did I not see this? Can I trust myself again? What if I’m wrong?In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach and founder of Rooted & Rising Healing, explores how betrayal disrupts self-trust - not because you were weak, but because your reality was made unsafe. You’ll learn why self-doubt is a trauma response to being lied to, how boundaries support clarity, and how to begin reconnecting with your inner compass in a grounded, gentle, and empowering way.This episode also includes a trauma-informed guided Inner Compass practice to help you tune back into yourself without pressure, urgency, or self-abandonment.Stay Connected with Me:Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free Guide Book:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

If you’ve ever set a boundary after betrayal and immediately questioned yourself — Was that too harsh? Was that a threat? Am I being controlling? — this episode is for you.After betrayal, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or even shame-inducing. Many women fear that setting limits means issuing ultimatums, threatening the relationship, or trying to control their partner’s recovery. But boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about self-respect, safety, and agency.In this episode, we clearly break down the difference between a boundary and a threat, why this confusion is so common after betrayal trauma, and how to set boundaries that are rooted in clarity rather than fear. You’ll learn how to protect yourself without self-abandoning — and without trying to manage someone else’s choices.Stay Connected with Me:Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or Intensive:If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women's Retreat in Costa Rica coming in July 2026.Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change.Stay Connected with Me:Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 2026, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

If you’ve experienced betrayal, being triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken - it means your nervous system is trying to protect you. In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast, we’re talking about what actually happens when you get triggered after betrayal and how to respond in a way that builds self-trust instead of shame.Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with me?”, you’ll learn three grounding questions that help you pause, regulate, and reconnect with your body, your discernment, and your power.These questions are designed to help you:Understand your triggers without minimizing themSeparate past trauma from present realityRespond from safety instead of survival modeStop gaslighting yourself about your reactionsMake empowered choices when emotions feel overwhelmingStay Connected with Me: Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyHealing isn’t about never being triggered again—it’s about learning how to trust yourself when you are.Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

After betrayal, one of the most painful and destabilizing experiences isn’t just the trauma itself — it’s the constant self-doubt.Am I crazy? Am I overreacting? Is this just a trigger… or is something actually wrong?If you’ve been told “you’re just triggered” so often that you’ve started questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking one of the most damaging patterns in betrayal recovery: losing trust in your own perceptions. You’ll learn how to reclaim your discernment, rebuild self-trust, and stop letting anyone — including yourself — dismiss your legitimate concerns as “just trauma.”Yes, betrayal creates trauma. Yes, you may experience triggers. But that does NOT mean you’ve lost your ability to tell when something isn’t right.In fact, you may be more attuned to red flags than ever before.This episode will help you stop gaslighting yourself, understand the difference between triggers and present-moment boundary violations, and begin trusting your knowing again.Stay Connected with Me:Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

In Episode 12 of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we continue the identity-to-empowerment arc by exploring what it means to reclaim your narrative after trauma. Building on the last three episodes—your values, your Bill of Rights, and your Identity Statement—this conversation teaches you how to move from “who I am” to “how I choose to live from that identity.” Drawing from Dr. Jake Porter’s Free to Choose model, we unpack how betrayal trauma hijacks the brain, interrupts choice, and pulls you into a story you never agreed to. You’ll learn the difference between being victimized (which is real and valid) and remaining in the victim position, and how reclaiming nuance, agency, and self-direction allows you to shift from survival narratives like “I’m powerless” into identity-led stories such as “I am discovering my choices” and “This is my story now.”This episode also guides you through a powerful “I used to believe… now I know…” journaling practice, a visioning exercise of your future empowered self, and a grounding exploration of how black-and-white thinking evolves into nuanced clarity during healing. You’ll walk away with renewed awareness, expanded choice, and the reminder that every boundary you set and every truth you claim becomes a line in your new story. If this identity and narrative work is resonating, you’re invited to join the waitlist for Hali’s upcoming course—an intimate, step-by-step journey through values, rights, identity, boundaries, and the healing-centered narrative that will carry you forward. Your next chapter starts now—and you hold the pen.Stay Connected with Me:Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide: Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

In this episode of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we complete a powerful three-part arc by bringing together your values, your personal Bill of Rights, and your emerging sense of identity. You’ll learn why an Identity Statement is essential for healing after betrayal—because it shifts you from reacting to life to intentionally leading your life. Values clarify what matters most, your Bill of Rights affirms what you inherently deserve, and your Identity Statement weaves these pieces into a lived declaration of who you are and what you protect. This episode helps you understand that boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about honoring your truth and protecting the parts of you that should never be abandoned again.This episode naturally sets the stage for Hali’s upcoming course, where you’ll build your values, your Bill of Rights, your Identity Statement, and a boundary framework step-by-step within a safe, supportive community. If you’re ready to start living from your core identity, this course is your next step. Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseStay Connected with Me:Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free guide: Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook: Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

In this powerful episode, Hali guides you through one of the most important steps in healing after betrayal: reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights. Betrayal trauma can leave you doubting your worth, silencing your needs, and abandoning yourself in the hope of keeping connection. Today, we rewrite that story.Together, we explore why creating a Personal Bill of Rights is essential—not as a demand on your partner, but as a declaration of what is inherently yours as a woman with divine worth: safety, dignity, voice, honesty, and agency. You’ll learn what a Bill of Rights is (and what it is not), and how it becomes a roadmap for emotional safety, boundary work, and nervous system healing.Hali also shares real-life examples of what it looks like to rewire your neural pathways—to pause, rehearse your rights, and choose self-honoring actions instead of instinctive self-abandonment. These small internal shifts create massive transformation: courage, clarity, grounded boundaries, and the quiet confidence to live in alignment with your truth.If you’ve felt afraid to take up space, guilty for having needs, or unsure of what you’re “allowed” to ask for—this episode will help you rebuild the foundation of your identity, one right at a time.Stay Connected with Me:Sign up for my newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyDownload my free: ⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

In this episode, we move from survival to self-redefinition. After betrayal, it's common to question everything—your identity, values, and purpose. These "identity quakes" aren’t endings; they’re invitations to release inherited roles and beliefs and begin to rebuild. We explore how values serve as your soul’s GPS, anchoring your decisions, boundaries, and healing. Many values were shaped by early environments or culture—not chosen. Now, you’re invited to ask: Which values feel like mine? Which ones reflect who I’m becoming? Which are rooted in safety, authenticity, and divine alignment?You'll also be guided through a gentle Core Values Discovery process to uncover what truly matters to you. From daily choices to defining moments, your values help you reconstruct your identity from the inside out. Next episode, we’ll shape these insights into your personal Identity Statement and begin crafting your own Bill of Rights.Stay Connected with Me:Download my free:⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠Download my free ebook: ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠Connect on Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠Follow on Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠Contact: rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com

In this powerful episode, Hali invites you to explore the relational survival patterns that once helped you feel safe and how they might now be keeping you from fully healing and rising. These patterns didn’t start with betrayal. Most began long before - in childhood, in family systems where love felt conditional, emotions weren’t safe to express, or connection came with responsibility. Betrayal reactivates these old protective parts. With compassion and clarity, Hali helps you see these patterns not as personal failings, but as brilliant survival strategies that can now be gently released. You’ll learn how to recognize where your nervous system is still trying to protect you, and how to begin shifting from protection to peace, from adaptation to agency.In This Episode, You’ll Discover:The childhood roots of relational survival patterns and how they show up after betrayalWhy hypervigilance, overfunctioning, and emotional suppression are protective, not pathologicalThe cost of staying in survival mode — and how it quietly blocks intimacy, truth, and restThe healing shifts that help you move from survival to empowermentHow to re-parent the parts of you that still believe safety means self-abandonmentWhy growth feels uncomfortable — and how that discomfort is actually a sign of freedomStay Connected with Me:Download my free: ⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠Download my free ebook: ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠Connect on Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠Follow on Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠Contact: rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com

After betrayal, your body becomes exquisitely alert — scanning for signs of danger, tension, or inconsistency. But sometimes, that activation you feel isn’t just a trigger from the past… it’s a warning from your nervous system that something in the present isn’t safe.In this episode, Hali explores the powerful question every survivor of betrayal trauma faces: “Is this my trauma being reactivated — or is my body alerting me to a real-time threat?”You’ll learn how to interpret your body’s cues, rebuild trust in your intuition, and discern between echoes of old pain and present signs of unsafety. This conversation will help you reconnect with your body as a wise ally in your healing — not an enemy to silence or suppress.In This Episode, You’ll Discover:The difference between old pain (a trigger from the past) and current threat (a warning in real time).How betrayal trauma can cause you to doubt your intuition — and how to begin trusting it again.Why some “triggers” are actually your body’s truth signals, not overreactions.Practical ways to ground yourself and ask your body what it’s trying to communicate.The different types of safety — physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial — and how to identify where safety is missing.How to tell when your partner’s behavior is soothing vs. manipulative, congruent vs. deceptive.

If you’ve ever been blindsided by a wave of emotion — your heart racing, stomach tightening, or thoughts spiraling — you’re not alone. Triggers after betrayal can feel like setbacks or proof that you’re “not healing fast enough,” but they’re actually sacred invitations to listen, tend, and heal what’s still tender inside.In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali unpacks what it really means to be triggered — both the external reminders (like a smell, song, or look) and the internal cues (thoughts, sensations, or fears) that can suddenly flood your nervous system. You’ll learn why these moments aren’t failures, but messages from your body asking for safety, care, and grounding.What triggers really are — and why your body reacts the way it doesWhy being triggered doesn’t mean you’re back at square oneSimple tools to regulate in the momentA gentle reframe: “You’re not failing — you’re feeling.”Recommended in today’s Episode: How We Feel AppStay Connected with Me:Download my free ⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠Download my free ebook: ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠Connect on Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠Follow on Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠Contact: rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com

After betrayal, kindness toward ourselves can feel impossible. We question everything — including our own worth and intuition. In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach (APSATS) and trauma-informed guide, explores what it means to rebuild safety within through self-compassion. You’ll learn how to move from self-criticism to self-kindness, from isolation to connection, and from self-betrayal to fierce self-loyalty.Together, we’ll explore Kristin Neff’s three elements of self-compassion — Self-Kindness, Common Humanity, and Mindfulness — and how they apply to healing betrayal trauma. Hali also introduces the concept of Fierce Self-Compassion, the form of love that protects, sets boundaries, and reclaims your power.You’ll walk away with practical ways to show yourself both tenderness and strength as you continue rising into wholeness.In This Episode, You’ll Discover:The difference between self-pity and self-compassionWhy betrayal often wounds self-worth — and how to rebuild itHow the fight/flight/freeze response can turn inward after traumaWays to meet your inner critic with compassion, not shameHow to access both tender and fierce self-compassionOne simple act of kindness you can offer yourself this weekStay Connected: Download my free Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After BetrayalDownload my free ebook: Your First Steps to Rising From BetrayalRootedAndRisingHealing.comConnect on Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing Follow on Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali RoderickContact: rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com

When betrayal trauma has shaken your sense of safety and trust, boundaries are where you begin to rebuild both. In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali explores why boundaries are not punishment or control - but sacred self-protection. You’ll learn how most boundaries begin with a violated value or personal right, and how reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights can bring clarity and power back to your healing journey. In this episode you’ll learn:Why boundaries are rooted in your values, not just your limitsHow to create your own Personal Bill of RightsHow to identify where your boundaries have been crossedSimple, powerful phrases to set and hold boundariesHow honoring your boundaries builds self-trust and safety againResources + Links:Learn more about Hali and her healing resources at www.rootedandrisinghealing.comConnect with me on IG: @rootedandrising.healingFollow me in FB: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali RoderickConnect + Subscribe: If this episode spoke to you, don’t keep it to yourself. → Share it with a sister who’s walking through betrayal → Subscribe so you never miss a healing moment → Leave a review to help more women find this sacred space