The Divorce Course Podcast

Are you currently going through your property settlement or about to go through who gets what in your divorce process then this episode is perfect for you. This is part three of a series of episodes that covers Sorting your Property Settlement in Divorce. This episode covers how the court may consider your future needs and how it may change your property settlement outcome. Listen to this episode to know what you might be entitled to and to make sure you don't make the mistake of glossing over the property settlement process and leaving yourself high and dry in the future. Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar    Click below to listen to the other episodes we refer to in the episode Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during & after marriage. Spousal Maintenance - are you eligible?   FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 75 Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance You Don't Want to Miss Out On 75(2) factors of the family law act What future needs are considered when negotiating property settlement How can age affect your property settlement? How can your health affect your property settlement? What happens if you are married for a short time in property settlement? What happens if you've never worked a paid job and you are getting divorced? What happens if you need to upgrade your skills to get back into the workforce and you are getting divorced? How taking care of the children can affect your property settlement Children with special needs and your property settlement  What are the factors considered for future needs? Does your ex's girlfriend or boyfriend gets considered in your property settlement? Superannuation and how it is calculated in future needs for your divorce? What happens if your ex has superannuation that cannot be split? How are overseas pensions taken into account during property settlement? What happens with a trust and property settlement?  Did you support your ex while they were studying for a degree? Learn how this can affect your property settlement in your divorce. What you should raise with your lawyer when discussing property settlement How to help property settlement in mediation How to find the family law act and how to read it to help you. How child support is considered  If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Are you about to hire a lawyer or do you currently have a lawyer and are starting to wonder if they are a good fit for your case. In this episode we cover what you should be looking for when hiring a lawyer and the red flags to keep an eye out with your current family or domestic violence lawyer. We discuss what type of lawyer you need based on what divorce personality you are facing and why. We also cover what the process is if you decide to change lawyers. Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How to choose the right lawyer Why do you need to check your lawyer's experience?  Why some children's matter lawyers are not that great at property matters. Why are some domestic violence lawyers not great family lawyers?  Why is it important to choose the right lawyer for the kind of work you need? Why it is important to choose a certain type of lawyer based on your divorce course personality prism. Why it's important to have a lawyer that will tell you the things you sometimes probably don't want to hear during your case but need to. Why is it helpful for your lawyer to have appeared in front of your  judge before? Why should you be concerned if your lawyer doesn't want to put your case to the judge because they seem scared? Why it's important to have a lawyer who is upfront about costs and billing. Family law and domestic violence legal billing and the best way to do it.  Why it's a good idea to check LinkedIn when choosing a family lawyer or domestic violence lawyer. How often should you expect to hear from your lawyer? How to make sure you avoid unnecessary billing from your family lawyer. Why it's important you trust your lawyer and what to do if you don't. The process involved if you want to change lawyers. Can you change lawyers midway through your case? What kind of lawyer do you need if you are divorcing a narcissist? What kind of lawyer do you need if your divorce is amicable? What lawyer to look for if you have a high conflict case? If your ex is controlling and manipulative what lawyer would work best for your case.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.   

Are you suffering from Post Separation Abuse? Are you finding yourself being kept under coercive control, isolated, harassed, stalked, subjected to legal abuse, financial abuse, counter parenting, alienation allegations or neglectful coparenting? We discuss what post separation abuse can look like and how you can counter it. We examine the One Mom's Battles Post Separation Abuse Wheel and Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years gives tips and advice that you can follow if you find yourself in any of these situations.   Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  One Moms Battle - Post Separation Abuse Wheel You Don't Want to Miss Out On What is coercive control? What is post separation abuse? How can you be isolated after separating from an abusive ex? What to do if you feel like you are being harassed and stalked? How to approach a police officer refusing to take your statement about domestic violence.  Why it is still important to report your concerns and incidents each time.  How to try prove abuse of legal services How the children are used in post separation abuse Counter parenting and what to do about it. Alienation allegations and what to do about it. Neglectful parenting and what to do about it What is an unfriendly parent in the eyes of the court? Abuse vs alienation What is an ICL independent children's lawyers What is a contact centre?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

If you are worried about what happens to your money after separation or divorce and how it will be split between your ex and yourself this episode is for you. We discuss non financial and financial contributions during the marriage and after cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement in the family court. Did you get a lump sum of money during your marriage? Did you get an inheritance, or have you been saving money after separation and are now facing a property settlement and wondering if your money should be a part of the property pool. Even if you have a family lawyer this is a good episode for you to listen to so that you know how the property settlement is decided and how what you've contributed during the marriage and after you've separated can affect the property split.  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement    Episodes you might want to listen to as well Podcast Episode Part 1: Property Settlement: property before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Podcast Episode: DIY Property Pool Discover and Disclosure    You Don't Want to Miss Out On How your inheritance is treated in property settlement How money made and spent during the marriage or cohabitation is looked at for property settlement What is a non financial contribution What is a financial contribution What is matrimonial property  Is there such a thing as non matrimonial property How the length of the marriage affects the property settlement Exceptions for during cohabitation that don't normally gets considered 50/50  inheritance and windfalls and lump sums What the case law says about contributions How percentages are used in property settlement  What happens with your money after separation. How is it included in the property settlement in the family court?  Does the money you save after separation get included in the property pool. How does caring for the kids affect the property pool in your property settlement.  What are non-financial contributions that go towards the property pool? Documenting post separation contributions  What are financial contributions after separation? What are negative contributions post separation? How is credit card debt treated in post separation property settlement? Does the waiting time get included into the judgement on property?  What is the difference between consent orders and judge ordered court orders? What are the risks of property settlement What are future needs and why are they considered in the property settlement? If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

Are you about to go to trial or worried what your trial would be like in your family court. We will break it down in a really easy to understand way so you know what you will be facing and you won't have any surprises. Break up the fear of the unknown and be prepared for your day in family court for your divorce, children's or property settlement. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How knowing what goes on in a trial will help you face your fear. How keeping a mindfulness approach to your trial day can really keep you focused and achieve better outcomes for you on the day. The theatre of a trial and what to expect Who will be in the trial room with you. What the trial room will look like. What to expect from the judge How to speak to a judge What a judges associate is and what to expect from them on the day of the trial  How to know where to stand when you go into court The layout of the courtroom What is a bar table and why is it called one? When do witnesses come into the trial Where do witnesses wait during the trial proceedings Can you take a support person with you? How does the judge enter? How does the trial start What kind of housekeeping does the judge do at the beginning What is the point of the witness box What do you have to do in the witness box What kind of questions do they ask in the witness box How can you prepare for a trial What does the affidavit have to do with the trial Why it's important to refresh your memory Why it's important to eat breakfast the day of court Top strategy for the witness box What is going on in the head of the barrister or the lawyer How long can you be in the witness box How to ask to go to the bathroom if you're in the witness box What should you do when a judge asks you a direct question How should you address the judge during your family court trial What are closing submissions What's the difference between written and spoken submissions What do you find out the outcome of your family court trial How long does it take to get a judgement Can you cross examine your ex in the witness box yourself? How to prepare for trial and cross examine if you are doing it yourself If you are self representing What happens if your trial is via zoom? What's the difference between a divorce trial with zoom as opposed to in the court room? How many support people should you bring to a trial Objections during court, how does it happen, why and who can do it. Can you object yourself to questions asked of you in the witness box? How to take care of yourself after the trial What happens if you cry in the witness box Why do lots of people settle on the day of the trial? How to avoid being done for costs? What happens if the judgement matches the offer you or your ex offered a year ago or months ago?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.   

Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyone's divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isn't as scary as you think it is. We've got your back. Press play and feel better today. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings Your ex isn't special, the family court has seen it all before Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce What happens if mediation fails? How long it takes from initial application to final trial What are the new family court directives How to stop your ex from freaking you out. How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive. How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you don't have to worry about what their response will be, if any. How to speed up your divorce process. Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward. Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself Why setting your own divorce goals are important Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce. Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff. Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process? How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process. How to reclaim your power after separation. You don't need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised Why threats don't always end up in reality Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce.  We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How your pet is viewed in the family court.  Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets? Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this? Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?  Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet? How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?  Show dogs and divorce. What happens if your ex takes your pet? What should you do before separation with your pet? Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T Domestic Violence and Pet Care Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets? Consent orders and financial agreements and pets. If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Listener Divorce Questions:   This podcast is general advice only How can you change existing parenting orders? Can you change your parenting orders after a few years? What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia? What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders. Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce. Post separation savings and in the property settlement. What happens to your bank account savings you've saved after separation in the divorce proceedings. Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement? Send your questions to thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com  Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series.  This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss: How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome? How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome? How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage? How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.  Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?  You Don't Want to Miss Out On   Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce. How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce? What is a contribution? The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage? If you bring in a house or shares it doesn't automatically be given back to you at separation.  What is considered a short marriage? How do children factor into property settlement percentage?  A case of gold bars under the waterbed Why furniture and pianos don't count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage? How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage Superannuation. If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement? How future needs are considered in a property settlement.  If you helped pay child support for your ex's kids can you get the money back after divorce? What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side? When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court? Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation. How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement. If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?  Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Divorce Listener Questions:   What happens to the money from your house sale after it is sold but you are still in divorce proceedings? What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement? Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court? What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?  How the family court is streamlining their system What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings? What are the new case practice management directions of the Family  court and how does it change things? General advice only Send your questions tothedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com    Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womenslineon 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Menslineon 1800 600 636 National DV lineon 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732  Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Over Lyns many years of Family Law experience she has found that there are typically four different types of divorces. The strategies and outcomes you use can change based on what type of divorce you are facing. If you intend on following through with each step that the divorce course podcast intends to lay out, it is important to identify your type. The mother daughter duo Lyn and Laura will be referring to each stage and referring to what is best to do based on the type of divorce you determine from this episode.  Lyn aims to talk to people like she talks to people in consultation, with her daughter Laura, asking the questions you would most likely ask during the visit.    You don't want to miss: Knowing your type of divorce An overall summary of what to expect in these types of separations. A basic summary of the steps in the divorvce process Some simple basic 101 rules to start following in your communication with your ex partner. !  Lyns plainly put divorce tips.   Links and resources: Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon.  And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review. Thank you. 

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're confused about why your divorce feels so hard You're not sure how to communicate or negotiate with your ex You suspect you're dealing with avoidance, conflict, or control or you are a people pleaser. You're tired of being blindsided and want clarity You want a divorce strategy that matches the actual dynamic you're in You want a downloadable, printable version of the quiz You love practical tools that help you feel calm, informed, and back in control You want to take the quiz and finally understand your ex's divorce behaviour Trigger warning there are discussions of Family Violence & Coercive Control.  Legal Warning: this is not legal advice 📝 Episode Summary In this episode, Laura and Lyn guide you through the 20-question Divorce Personality Quiz, designed to help you identify the divorce pattern you're dealing with Your divorce type affects: your communication strategy your negotiation style whether mediation will work how to set boundaries what evidence you need how to emotionally protect yourself whether safety planning is appropriate You'll take the quiz with us live inside the episode and learn what each answer (A, B, C, or D) reveals about your ex's behaviour. This insight can transform your divorce experience by helping you understand what's really happening and why your current approach may or may not be working. And if you want the free downloadable PDF of the quiz, a printable results sheet, and access to our bonus email guide "How to Strategise Based on Your Divorce Type", head to: 👉 www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (Join the newsletter and we'll send the printable straight to your inbox.) This episode includes general behavioural discussion, not legal advice. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 Introduction: What Divorce Type Are You Dealing With? 00:36 Why Identifying Your Divorce Type Matters for Your Strategy 00:58 Overview of the Four Divorce Types: Amicable, Avoidant, High-Conflict & Controlling 01:14 How to Take the Divorce Personality Quiz 01:39 Meet Your Hosts and Episode Overview 02:11 Understanding Divorce Personality Types & Behaviour Patterns 03:15 Divorce Quiz Part 1: Decision-Making, Conflict & Communication 05:51 What Your Answers Mean: Interpreting the First Quiz Results 09:40 Divorce Quiz Part 2: Boundaries, Money Issues & Emotional Safety 19:05 Divorce Quiz Part 3: Rules, Power Imbalances & Information Control 25:23 Final Divorce Quiz Questions + Strategy Insights 30:08 Recognising Manipulative or Controlling Divorce Dynamics 31:41 How to Identify Your Divorce Type From Your Quiz Results 32:30 Amicable Divorce: Strengths, Risks & When It Fails 35:14 Avoidant Ex Partners: Why Progress Feels Impossible 38:23 High-Conflict Divorce Explained: Escalation, Triggers & Survival Strategies 41:16 Controlling or Coercive Ex Partners: Red Flags & Safety Considerations 44:40 How to Create a Safety Plan During Divorce 48:20 Helpful Resources, Support Services & Next Steps 52:49 Final Thoughts: Matching Your Strategy to Your Ex's Behaviour 🔗 Links & Resources ✨ Download the FREE Divorce Personality Quiz Printable 👉 www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/quiz ✨ Join the Newsletter for Bonus Divorce Strategy Tools (We only send practical, supportive content ) ✨ Safety & Support Resources 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 Episodes Mentioned 10 Boundaries You Should Set Up Before Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=Eb_uqTJnSbS2Vtyz80tBmQ   The Purple Book Episode (Coercive Control & Abuse Patterns) https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=WJ7wQy9mTmKYhd2sTPiO0g   The Original "Divorce Personality Types" Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/1X89h1IBOUa0QFxiICIuwo?si=neoemW5URuubT8VYaGjlPw If this episode helped you finally understand the behaviour you've been dealing with, please follow, rate and review the podcast. And don't forget to grab your FREE quiz download  it's one of the most powerful tools to help you navigate your divorce with clarity and confidence.

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're worried your custody or property case might end up eventually in court.  You are preparing for Family Court or worried your case might escalate You want to avoid mistakes that judges hate seeing in parenting or property matters You're dealing with a high-conflict ex or coercive control You're self-represented and want to understand what the court looks for You want to protect your credibility and stay child-focused You feel overwhelmed and want to understand how to present better in court You want to understand how Family Court judges make decisions If you're going through separation, divorce, or a parenting dispute in Australia, this episode will help you avoid the most common mistakes people make in the Family Court. These insights can make or break your credibility, influence parenting outcomes, and help you stay calm and strategic throughout the legal process. In this episode, we unpack 10 behaviours that can ruin your case — the things that damage cases, frustrate judges, increase legal costs, and affect how your evidence is viewed. Whether you're self-represented, considering mediation, managing a high-conflict ex, or worried about how your actions may be interpreted, this conversation will give you clarity on what the court expects from parents. Learn how to stay child-focused, how to avoid actions that look like parental alienation, how to communicate effectively, how to avoid sabotaging your own case, and why honesty, disclosure, and consistency matter so much. If you're feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or stuck in conflict, this episode offers guidance to help you stay grounded and organised. LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This episode contains general discussion only this is  not legal advice please always get independent legal advice as each situation is different.  Trigger Warning: This episode has some discussions of family violence.     ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – Introduction: How to Avoid Mistakes That Hurt Your Family Court Case Overview of the most common behaviours that weaken parenting and property cases. 02:07 – Why Judges Prioritise Child-Focused Parenting in Family Court Understanding how child welfare drives decisions and how to demonstrate it clearly. 06:36 – Keeping Emotions Out of Family Court: What Judges Look For Why emotional reactions, venting and accusations can damage your credibility. 13:26 – Presenting Evidence Properly: What Counts in Family Court How to gather, organise and present evidence that the court will actually rely on. 16:59 – The Serious Consequences of Lying or Exaggerating in Court How dishonesty can destroy your case and impact parenting or property outcomes. 21:27 – Disclosure Rules in Property Settlement: What You MUST Provide Explaining financial disclosure obligations and what happens if you don't comply. 25:26 – Following Court Orders and Deadlines: Why Timing Matters How delays, missed tasks or ignoring directions reflect poorly on your case. 25:58 – Understanding Family Court Practice Directions (CPD Requirements) What the Central Practice Direction means for your behaviour and preparation. 28:40 – Narrowing the Issues Before Court: What Judges Expect You to Do Why bringing every problem to court backfires and how to refine your case. 33:19 – Avoiding Behaviour That Looks Like Parental Alienation How to protect your children and yourself without appearing to obstruct the other parent. 39:43 – Acting Reasonably in Family Court: How It Influences Outcomes Examples of unreasonable behaviour and why judges pay close attention to it. 42:03 – Courtroom Etiquette, Presentation and Final Takeaways How to conduct yourself, communicate effectively, and stay credible throughout your case.     🔗 Links & Resources Free Webinar https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration The Divorce Course Website – Courses & Support www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 Dealing with Narc Lies in court https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=P-fwZYVSQxO7JnVs5yYJdw When your ex lies in court https://open.spotify.com/episode/2OpAGxXfx78iAO81TMPPxJ?si=wcN-tRFdSaSjGLU51fmV7w Overcoming disclosure delays  https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uOO8dKYV4NWlCfyu8FZEh?si=PI-J7YtGTb6pFRKGa7KjdA Disclosure Deadlocks https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yrShRhq4jcGVuVDN6Jq6C?si=ZFmAHXmAT1-JS0neHjsDHQ Is your ex hiding assets  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4KbgLRFXB9r2rCz3vycZ98?si=nKf11LeYS_66Uzn003Ydug Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd False Accusations of Parental Alienation https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=jNYKY5cBTCatIXZpEHXisQ Handover Hell https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=UrHDcaRBTwuKpnVmWty-qA Family Reports https://open.spotify.com/episode/4k2Z4glD8WpY4dsqz6vn5Y?si=MMj_I2N5RlaT_5flBfZjMQ Court Etiquette  https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JOwxZOGxT182UOp8iqd8z?si=8ib6y9qLRvuD5n8AO4y46w 💛 Closing Reminder If this episode helped you feel more prepared or confident, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. 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🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're going through DV, coercive control, divorce or separation You've survived DV and want to help other women going through it You feel alone, isolated, or unsure where to turn You want to hear about real support available for women in crisis You've lost hope and need to know good people still exist You want to understand what homelessness really looks like for women You want to connect with a service that listens without judgment You've wondered where to get help if you don't know where to start   📝 Episode Summary If you've ever felt invisible, silenced, or completely alone while living through domestic violence, coercive control, separation, or divorce this episode is for you. Today, Laura sits down with Jo West, the founder of 4 Voices, a remarkable charity supporting women experiencing domestic violence, financial abuse, homelessness, social isolation, and coercive control. This episode is different from our usual legal conversations it's a conversation about hope, humanity, and the power of connection when someone is going through hell and doesn't know where to turn. Jo shares the reality of what women face when they're living in fear, why so many are afraid to reach out, and how simple acts of kindness like someone showing up, listening, and seeing you can genuinely change the course of a woman's life. If you're struggling right now, this episode will remind you of something important: There are helpers. You are not alone. And there is support waiting for you. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains general discussion about domestic violence and support, not legal information. Finding Hope Again: The Charity Giving Women a Voice during DV, Coercive Control & Divorce ⏱️ Episode Timeline [00:00] Meet Four Voices: A Support Service for Women Facing DV & Crisis [01:00] Why Women Experiencing Coercive Control Often Feel Too Afraid to Reach Out [02:06] Hidden Homelessness: The Reality for Women Leaving Unsafe Homes [03:41] How Four Voices Uses Human Connection to Support Isolated Women [07:00] What Happens on a Four Voices Support Van Shift [09:04] A Story of Strength: One Woman Starting Over After 25 Years of Abuse [12:33] Financial Abuse, Survival Mode & Why Leaving Is So Hard [14:00] Why Some Women Get Turned Away From Services [16:57] A Phone-Based Support System Designed for Women Who Are Scared to Talk [18:55] Check-Ins, Consistency & Why They Matter for Recovery [20:40] How You Can Help: Volunteering, Corporate Support & Raising Awareness [23:50] Understanding the Hidden Crisis of Female Homelessness [27:23] Misconceptions About DV, Leaving, and Life After Abuse [30:41] Hope Stories: Courage, Connection & What Keeps Jo Going [33:30] Final Message for Anyone Feeling Alone or Hopeless   🔗 Links & Resources Four Voices Charity: https://www.4voices.org.au Instagram: @4voicesau 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 If in danger, call 000 immediately in Australia   🚨 Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 Safe Beds for Pets (RSPCA)   💛 Closing Reminder If this conversation brought you comfort or hope, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Sharing this episode could help another woman find the support she desperately needs.  

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're selling the family home during divorce or de facto separation A real estate agent has told you to renovate or stage before selling Your ex wants to delay settlement until renovations are finished You're stuck with a half-renovated or unfinished house You've already spent money on renovations and want to know if it "counts" Your ex is demanding reimbursement for renovations Parents or in-laws contributed money to renovations You're deciding whether to keep the house, sell it, or buy your ex out Renovations feel emotionally or financially overwhelming right now 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation. 📌 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.   📝 Episode Summary Should you renovate or stage the house when you're going through divorce or is it a costly mistake that keeps you stuck longer than you need to be? In this episode, Mum and I break down renovations, staging, and selling the family home during separation, and what actually matters in property settlements. We talk honestly about when spending money might make sense, when it won't, and how renovations are often used intentionally or not as a delay tactic or control mechanism. We cover staging versus maintenance, half-finished renovations, DIY disasters, family contributions, damage to property, and how the court really views all of it. Most importantly, we talk about how to decide whether renovations are worth the financial and emotional cost, and how to avoid getting trapped in a house  or a settlement that never seems to move forward. 📌 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence and property damage. Support services are listed below.   ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 Should You Renovate Before Selling During Divorce? 00:40 Renovations During Divorce: Common Questions Answered 01:09 Legal and Financial Rules Around Renovations 02:03 Staging vs Renovations: What Actually Adds Value? 05:52 Renovation Traps: Delays, Control and Emotional Attachment 08:41 Half-Finished Renovations and Unsellable Homes 13:32 Renovations as Non-Financial Contributions Explained 16:49 Family Loans, Gifts and Renovation Contributions 23:14 Property Damage, Wastage and How Courts Value Homes 23:47 Keep, Sell or Buy Out the Family Home? 24:51 Renovation Reimbursements: Do You Have to Pay Them Back? 26:34 Renovating During Separation: What to Do and What to Avoid 28:51 How Family Law Courts Determine Property Value 30:02 Renovations and Consent Orders: What Courts Will and Won't Enforce 35:22 Property Valuations in Divorce: What Courts Accept 40:04 Final Thoughts: Avoiding Renovation Mistakes in Divorce   🔗 Links & Resources Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 Related Episodes Selling Your House During Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=Aks8s1YMTguzG-wyYO33Xw Property Settlement Explained https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WcJwbOkw7UcCdla48EpXj?si=JRrkI8pZRdu6EUn0h8gncw Financial Abuse After Separation https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wxVtk6TOSCgqCJikfk6LD?si=Uxr0alr8TeKwX-WvzKx6Cg   🚨 Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14   📌 Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal, financial, and real estate advice for your situation.   🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it you never know who might be stuck in a renovation trap right now.  

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're separating or divorcing someone with narcissistic traits Your ex keeps changing tactics and you feel like you're always one step behind You've experienced love-bombing, guilt, threats, or emotional manipulation Your ex is running smear campaigns or trying to control the narrative Money, disclosure, or property settlement keeps getting delayed Your children are being pulled into adult conflict Your ex is using the legal system as a weapon You feel like the abuse didn't end after separation You want to know what's coming next  before it happens 📌 Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal or psychological advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances. 📝 Episode Summary Divorcing a narcissist isn't just difficult  it's predictable. In this episode, Mum and I walk you through the seven phases most people experience when separating from someone with narcissistic traits, based on what we see every single day in real cases. We talk about how tactics have evolved, why the mask eventually drops, and how emotional manipulation turns into smear campaigns, financial control, legal abuse, and ongoing chaos even after court ends. We're not diagnosing anyone, and this isn't about labelling. It's about pattern recognition. Once you understand the phases, you can stop blaming yourself, protect your boundaries, and make informed decisions instead of reacting in survival mode. 📌 This episode contains discussions around family violence. Support numbers are listed below. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 Divorcing a Narcissist – What to Expect & Why It's Different 01:50 Narcissistic Traits in Divorce and Separation 02:34 Phase One: Love Bombing, Guilt Tripping & Emotional Manipulation 03:50 How Narcissists Use Legal Delays and Manipulation 07:51 Phase Two: Control Tactics, Hoovering & Threats 11:57 Setting Boundaries When Divorcing a Narcissist 14:22 Phase Three: Smear Campaigns & Image Management Tactics 16:16 How to Protect Yourself Before Things Escalate 18:23 The Financial Motives Behind 50/50 Parenting Claims 18:36 Unethical Family Court Reports & Image Control 19:54 Social Media Smear Campaigns and Reputation Control 22:18 Financial Abuse Through Control and Delay Tactics 26:18 Using Children as Pawns in High-Conflict Divorce 28:47 Manipulating the Legal System After Separation 30:48 Post-Separation Abuse: Chaos and Control After Court 32:42 Final Support, Safety Planning & What to Do Next   🔗 Links & Resources Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 Episodes Mentioned The Narcissist Playbook 10 Boundaries You Must Set in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecDTxw4rTc3zXBkcjuYpA?si=0tfzIRFrTuWSfrywenG4lA What About Their Belongings? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=ABBaDvMVRgqnkvfXHJh66A Protecting Your Role as Primary Carer https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oZAEkj18NEcUfJPXP0FOT?si=PR8-zKyXRru7oVeW2Allew Legal & Financial Abuse After Separation https://open.spotify.com/episode/1V23F0O5yhQt9NFLPOu6uJ?si=ZkP-KquxREeTCyQPk8I-TA What If Your Ex Lies in Court? https://open.spotify.com/episode/5SdkXhj3vC2tfO3gDdkM6y?si=sQjxVlNSTm2wnaHQdWxdlA Safety Planning After Separation https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMmTS99LaeUWOXSxKMx1D?si=Y98mBgDoTiK1LQud-tr9BQ DARVO in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JyfH5fCoqrUoxeDj6jCtu?si=mDoKfN3fQWONekpLUQflXg False allegations of Parental Alienation https://open.spotify.com/episode/0l9L5SDovV515EU4H5gpIf?si=5z2-pibvRKavyrPkMeuMIw Resources "Before You Go" Checklist – thedivorcecourse.com.au 🚨 Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 RSPCA Safe Beds for Pets (state dependent) 📌 Legal Disclaimer This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own independent legal support based on your circumstances. 🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it — you never know who else needs to hear this before they get blindsided.

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You're unsure whether your relationship legally counts as de facto Your ex is denying the relationship, the dates, or the level of commitment You want to know how de facto status impacts property settlement You've heard about the 2-year rule and want to know if it applies to you You're wondering if having kids changes your legal rights You're not married, but financially tangled, and don't know where you stand You're trying to prove you were (or weren't) de facto You were "separated under one roof" and need clarity You're with someone who's still married but claim they're de facto with you Episode Summary What exactly does it mean to be de facto in Australia? And why does it matter so much when you separate? In this episode, Mum and I unpack de facto relationships in family law in Australia what counts, what doesn't, and what the court actually looks at when deciding whether a de facto relationship existed. We break down the difference between being married and being de facto, the rules around the two-year relationship requirement, how children change everything, and what happens with short vs long relationships. We also talk through what happens when one person denies the relationship ever existed, how to prove your timeline, and the evidence the court takes most seriously from finances to living arrangements to social media and everything in between. If you've ever thought "Are we de facto? Does this count? What does this mean for my rights?" this episode will give you clarity, confidence and the facts that might help you in your situation. 📌 This is general information only. Always seek your own legal support for your exact situation.   ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – What Is a De Facto Relationship in Australia? A clear explanation of the legal meaning of "de facto" and why it matters. 00:28 – Understanding the Term 'De Facto' Under the Family Law Act Breaking down the true definition and what "genuine domestic relationship" actually means. 01:16 – Why De Facto Status Matters for Property and Parenting How your relationship status affects your rights in separation. 01:47 – How to Prove You're in a De Facto Relationship Evidence, timelines, documents and what the courts look for. 03:50 – Common Myths About De Facto Relationships (Debunked) Misunderstandings about living together, bank accounts, and "we're not married so it doesn't count." 06:46 – Short vs Long De Facto Relationships: What's the Difference? How the length of the relationship can influence property outcomes. 17:45 – How Having Children Impacts De Facto Separation Why children change eligibility, contributions, and financial outcomes. 19:16 – Contributions in De Facto Relationships Explained Financial, non-financial, homemaking and parenting contributions — what the court considers. 19:49 – Proving a De Facto Relationship: Evidence That Helps Photos, messages, leases, documents and everyday interactions that build your case. 21:44 – What Evidence Can Be Used to Show a De Facto Relationship? From moving-day photos to shared responsibilities — what actually matters. 24:11 – Mediation Options When Your Ex Denies the Relationship How mediation and disclosure work when one person disputes being de facto. 26:55 – Can You Be Married and De Facto at the Same Time? How overlap occurs with affairs, breakups under one roof and blurred timelines. 33:31 – Clarifying the Rules Between Marriage vs De Facto How the law treats both pathways similarly for financial and parenting matters. 34:39 – Final Thoughts: Understanding Your Status and Next Steps Key takeaways on proving de facto status and protecting your future.   🔗 Links & Resources "Before You Go" Checklist – thedivorcecourse.com.au Episodes Mentioned Separated Under one Roof Episode  https://youtu.be/er5qlClqOGs?si=o6f2apVsjWNHE_ID Beyond the Split Understanding Separation Dates  https://youtu.be/HDL4mhO94TY?si=1aUlslHr4xGqL_dN Future Needs  https://youtu.be/_-5JlRLCNxY?si=YQKBsqG2cCAEVNqs Cheating and Dating during Divorce  https://youtu.be/kBOV2sRtq7E?si=SlAgBVMkwf-LoaMU     🚨 Support Services (Australia) 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14   📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for education only and not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support based on your circumstances.   🎧 Don't forget to follow, rate & review! If this episode helped you, please share it  you never know who else needs this clarity.  

Listen to this episode if… You're thinking about dating before your divorce, property or children's matters are final Your ex has a new partner and you're worried about parenting or property issues You're unsure how the court sees new relationships in family law matters You want to know what's okay, what's risky, and what doesn't matter at all Wondering if it's okay to date while your divorce is still in progress? You're not alone. In this episode, we unpack the legal, emotional, and strategic impacts of dating during divorce especially when children, property settlements, or court appearances are involved. Whether you've just met someone new, or your ex is already flaunting their next relationship, we break down how new partners can influence family law outcomes in both parenting and property matters. We cover the risks, realities, and misconceptions about what the court actually looks at and how to protect your position without putting your future on hold. 📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.     🔑 Episode Timeline: [00:00] Introduction: How New Relationships Can Impact Your Divorce Case [01:13] Important Legal Disclaimer and Emotional Trigger Warnings [02:02] Can a New Partner Affect Your Property Settlement in Divorce? [09:35] Understanding No-Fault Divorce and How History Shaped Today's Rules [15:11] Spousal Maintenance: Does Repartnering Change Eligibility? [19:50] Child Support Implications When a New Partner Has Money [22:11] Parenting Orders and Custody: What Role Do New Partners Play? [25:25] How the Court Prioritizes Children's Welfare Over Relationship Status [26:03] When (and How) to Introduce Your Kids to a New Partner [28:13] Coercive Control, Repartnering, and Family Court Considerations [30:05] What Are New Partners Responsible for in a Family Law Context? [31:46] Red Flags: What Family Court Looks for in New Relationships [33:34] Raising Concerns About New Partners Without Going to Court [39:43] How to Document and Present Concerns the Right Way [42:51] Does the Court Judge You for Repartnering During Divorce? [45:16] Final Takeaways: Moving Forward with Caution and Clarity   🔗 Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service Daisy App – Connect to Local Services Technology and Safety Guide Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in   Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/   Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro   The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/ Episode Links   Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ   Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg   Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program   1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!   ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.  

 Listen to this episode if… You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe You've left but still don't feel secure You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex 📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732. When things feel uncertain or even unsafe it's not being paranoid to think ahead. It's being prepared. In this important episode, we break down what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, and how to build one tailored to your situation. Whether you're living with abuse, planning to leave, or simply want to feel more secure going through the Family Court, we talk through the key steps and considerations from protecting your children to securing your documents and digital life. You'll learn how safety planning can be a quiet, empowering way to take back control and set up the support you need. I also share resources, tools, and who to call if you want help doing it safely and confidentially. 🔑 Episode Timeline: From Fear to Freedom: Creating a Safety Plan Before You Need One Safety Plans — What They Are & How to Make One 00:00 – Introduction: What is a Safety Plan and Why It Matters Overview of safety planning and who needs one. 02:06 – Why You Might Need a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence Signs, risks, and when it's time to prepare. 03:41 – Recognising Coercive Control and Hidden Danger Signals How emotional and behavioural control can put you at risk. 07:55 – Step‑by‑Step Guide to Creating Your Safety Plan Essential steps to start planning your safety today. 09:04 – Safety at Home: Preparing for a Potential Escape Practical tips for making your environment safer. 16:33 – Safety Technology: Real‑Time Tracking and Digital Risk Understanding digital abuse and how it affects your plan. 16:57 – Important Documents You Should Have Ready Checklist of documents to keep handy for safety or sudden departure. 17:33 – Leaving Without Explanation: When It's Necessary How to plan a quiet departure without alerting an abuser. 18:10 – The Power of Code Words and Communication Safety Using discreet signals to reach out for help. 19:20 – Planning Your Escape Route: Fast and Safe Exits How to map out the quickest way out when it's unsafe to stay. 20:11 – Handling Vehicle Safety and Transport During Escape Car strategies and avoiding being blocked in. 23:29 – Keeping Your Pets Safe During an Escape Plan Options and programs that support pets in family violence situations. 24:22 – Work, Online and Tech Safety Measures Protecting your devices, social media, and work life from monitoring or abuse. 27:00 – Staying Safe After Leaving a Violent Situation Changes to routines, communication, and personal security. 27:56 – Legal Steps to Support Your Safety Plan Protection orders, police involvement, and legal safety mechanisms. 30:58 – Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone — Support Is Available Encouragement and next steps with reminder resources.   🔗 Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service Daisy App – Connect to Local Services Technology and Safety Guide Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in   Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/   Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro   The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/   Episode Links Who gets the Car in the long and short term https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CmoF5nrBhVfDlJgVyXlGp?si=uXtMvH1dRoG74CSd-7pD9w Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too! ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.

💡 Listen to this episode if... You're navigating Christmas while going through separation or divorce You're co-parenting and worried about holiday arrangements or conflict You feel pressure from family and don't know how to handle it You're confused about what to expect from lawyers or the courts over the break You're worried about an emotional or legal crisis over the holidays ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control. Holidays can bring joy, but during separation or divorce, it can also bring stress, confusion, and conflict. If you're dreading the tough conversations this holiday season, you're not alone and this episode is here to help. Mum and I walk through how to manage communication with all the key players during the festive period: your co-parent, your lawyer, your kids, extended family, and even the courts or police. Whether you're trying to set healthy boundaries, stuck living under one roof, or bracing for something to blow up we've got practical strategies to get you through it. ⏱️ Episode Timeline:  00:00 – Introduction: Navigating the Holidays During Divorce 01:52 – Communication Challenges for Divorcing Couples During the Holidays 03:10 – Should You Talk to Your Divorce Lawyer Over the Holiday Break? 06:00 – Co-Parenting Holiday Conflicts & Practical Solutions 13:19 – Managing Property Settlements During the Holiday Season 18:33 – Living Together While Separated: How to Handle the Holidays 22:55 – How to Communicate Holiday Plans with Your Kids During Divorce 26:44 – When to Reach Out to the Court During Holiday Disputes 26:57 – Understanding Court Closures & Delays Over the Holidays 28:06 – Urgent Divorce Matters: Emergency Contacts & What to Do 28:41 – How to Document Incidents for Court During the Holidays 29:16 – Handling Non-Emergency Divorce or Co-Parenting Issues 33:26 – When to Contact the Police During Divorce or Custody Conflicts 37:46 – Setting Boundaries with Family During a Holiday Divorce 39:16 – Creating Emergency Plans & Safety Measures 44:47 – Mental Health Tips for Coping with Divorce During the Holidays 47:04 – Engaging with Your Community for Support 48:07 – Final Thoughts & Holiday Farewell   Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Episode Links   From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce  https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw   Christmas & CoParenting https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fcY2B7N0lDo8U1WAqozVz?si=i_RzkSgMSPSbMT4ZeZqDVA Separated for the Holidays How to deal with it emotionally https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zzVKOc0LJY3uZhnLXfiJC?si=LT0sg7wMT3OACnFHOER8AA   CoParenting without Court Orders https://open.spotify.com/episode/05BC7rliGHpKcQ58JJzZej?si=iKR82uY6S2G-SF_XHeltQA   Handover Hell https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=v8ILJ4p3Qi6dycn4WhEv4g   Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ   Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg   Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode. 📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!