The Divorce Course Podcast

Are you currently going through your property settlement or about to go through who gets what in your divorce process then this episode is perfect for you. This is part three of a series of episodes that covers Sorting your Property Settlement in Divorce. This episode covers how the court may consider your future needs and how it may change your property settlement outcome. Listen to this episode to know what you might be entitled to and to make sure you don't make the mistake of glossing over the property settlement process and leaving yourself high and dry in the future. Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar    Click below to listen to the other episodes we refer to in the episode Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during & after marriage. Spousal Maintenance - are you eligible?   FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 75 Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance You Don't Want to Miss Out On 75(2) factors of the family law act What future needs are considered when negotiating property settlement How can age affect your property settlement? How can your health affect your property settlement? What happens if you are married for a short time in property settlement? What happens if you've never worked a paid job and you are getting divorced? What happens if you need to upgrade your skills to get back into the workforce and you are getting divorced? How taking care of the children can affect your property settlement Children with special needs and your property settlement  What are the factors considered for future needs? Does your ex's girlfriend or boyfriend gets considered in your property settlement? Superannuation and how it is calculated in future needs for your divorce? What happens if your ex has superannuation that cannot be split? How are overseas pensions taken into account during property settlement? What happens with a trust and property settlement?  Did you support your ex while they were studying for a degree? Learn how this can affect your property settlement in your divorce. What you should raise with your lawyer when discussing property settlement How to help property settlement in mediation How to find the family law act and how to read it to help you. How child support is considered  If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Are you about to hire a lawyer or do you currently have a lawyer and are starting to wonder if they are a good fit for your case. In this episode we cover what you should be looking for when hiring a lawyer and the red flags to keep an eye out with your current family or domestic violence lawyer. We discuss what type of lawyer you need based on what divorce personality you are facing and why. We also cover what the process is if you decide to change lawyers. Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How to choose the right lawyer Why do you need to check your lawyer's experience?  Why some children's matter lawyers are not that great at property matters. Why are some domestic violence lawyers not great family lawyers?  Why is it important to choose the right lawyer for the kind of work you need? Why it is important to choose a certain type of lawyer based on your divorce course personality prism. Why it's important to have a lawyer that will tell you the things you sometimes probably don't want to hear during your case but need to. Why is it helpful for your lawyer to have appeared in front of your  judge before? Why should you be concerned if your lawyer doesn't want to put your case to the judge because they seem scared? Why it's important to have a lawyer who is upfront about costs and billing. Family law and domestic violence legal billing and the best way to do it.  Why it's a good idea to check LinkedIn when choosing a family lawyer or domestic violence lawyer. How often should you expect to hear from your lawyer? How to make sure you avoid unnecessary billing from your family lawyer. Why it's important you trust your lawyer and what to do if you don't. The process involved if you want to change lawyers. Can you change lawyers midway through your case? What kind of lawyer do you need if you are divorcing a narcissist? What kind of lawyer do you need if your divorce is amicable? What lawyer to look for if you have a high conflict case? If your ex is controlling and manipulative what lawyer would work best for your case.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.   

Are you suffering from Post Separation Abuse? Are you finding yourself being kept under coercive control, isolated, harassed, stalked, subjected to legal abuse, financial abuse, counter parenting, alienation allegations or neglectful coparenting? We discuss what post separation abuse can look like and how you can counter it. We examine the One Mom's Battles Post Separation Abuse Wheel and Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years gives tips and advice that you can follow if you find yourself in any of these situations.   Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  One Moms Battle - Post Separation Abuse Wheel You Don't Want to Miss Out On What is coercive control? What is post separation abuse? How can you be isolated after separating from an abusive ex? What to do if you feel like you are being harassed and stalked? How to approach a police officer refusing to take your statement about domestic violence.  Why it is still important to report your concerns and incidents each time.  How to try prove abuse of legal services How the children are used in post separation abuse Counter parenting and what to do about it. Alienation allegations and what to do about it. Neglectful parenting and what to do about it What is an unfriendly parent in the eyes of the court? Abuse vs alienation What is an ICL independent children's lawyers What is a contact centre?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

If you are worried about what happens to your money after separation or divorce and how it will be split between your ex and yourself this episode is for you. We discuss non financial and financial contributions during the marriage and after cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement in the family court. Did you get a lump sum of money during your marriage? Did you get an inheritance, or have you been saving money after separation and are now facing a property settlement and wondering if your money should be a part of the property pool. Even if you have a family lawyer this is a good episode for you to listen to so that you know how the property settlement is decided and how what you've contributed during the marriage and after you've separated can affect the property split.  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement    Episodes you might want to listen to as well Podcast Episode Part 1: Property Settlement: property before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Podcast Episode: DIY Property Pool Discover and Disclosure    You Don't Want to Miss Out On How your inheritance is treated in property settlement How money made and spent during the marriage or cohabitation is looked at for property settlement What is a non financial contribution What is a financial contribution What is matrimonial property  Is there such a thing as non matrimonial property How the length of the marriage affects the property settlement Exceptions for during cohabitation that don't normally gets considered 50/50  inheritance and windfalls and lump sums What the case law says about contributions How percentages are used in property settlement  What happens with your money after separation. How is it included in the property settlement in the family court?  Does the money you save after separation get included in the property pool. How does caring for the kids affect the property pool in your property settlement.  What are non-financial contributions that go towards the property pool? Documenting post separation contributions  What are financial contributions after separation? What are negative contributions post separation? How is credit card debt treated in post separation property settlement? Does the waiting time get included into the judgement on property?  What is the difference between consent orders and judge ordered court orders? What are the risks of property settlement What are future needs and why are they considered in the property settlement? If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

Are you about to go to trial or worried what your trial would be like in your family court. We will break it down in a really easy to understand way so you know what you will be facing and you won't have any surprises. Break up the fear of the unknown and be prepared for your day in family court for your divorce, children's or property settlement. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How knowing what goes on in a trial will help you face your fear. How keeping a mindfulness approach to your trial day can really keep you focused and achieve better outcomes for you on the day. The theatre of a trial and what to expect Who will be in the trial room with you. What the trial room will look like. What to expect from the judge How to speak to a judge What a judges associate is and what to expect from them on the day of the trial  How to know where to stand when you go into court The layout of the courtroom What is a bar table and why is it called one? When do witnesses come into the trial Where do witnesses wait during the trial proceedings Can you take a support person with you? How does the judge enter? How does the trial start What kind of housekeeping does the judge do at the beginning What is the point of the witness box What do you have to do in the witness box What kind of questions do they ask in the witness box How can you prepare for a trial What does the affidavit have to do with the trial Why it's important to refresh your memory Why it's important to eat breakfast the day of court Top strategy for the witness box What is going on in the head of the barrister or the lawyer How long can you be in the witness box How to ask to go to the bathroom if you're in the witness box What should you do when a judge asks you a direct question How should you address the judge during your family court trial What are closing submissions What's the difference between written and spoken submissions What do you find out the outcome of your family court trial How long does it take to get a judgement Can you cross examine your ex in the witness box yourself? How to prepare for trial and cross examine if you are doing it yourself If you are self representing What happens if your trial is via zoom? What's the difference between a divorce trial with zoom as opposed to in the court room? How many support people should you bring to a trial Objections during court, how does it happen, why and who can do it. Can you object yourself to questions asked of you in the witness box? How to take care of yourself after the trial What happens if you cry in the witness box Why do lots of people settle on the day of the trial? How to avoid being done for costs? What happens if the judgement matches the offer you or your ex offered a year ago or months ago?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.   

Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyone's divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isn't as scary as you think it is. We've got your back. Press play and feel better today. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings Your ex isn't special, the family court has seen it all before Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce What happens if mediation fails? How long it takes from initial application to final trial What are the new family court directives How to stop your ex from freaking you out. How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive. How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you don't have to worry about what their response will be, if any. How to speed up your divorce process. Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward. Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself Why setting your own divorce goals are important Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce. Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff. Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process? How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process. How to reclaim your power after separation. You don't need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised Why threats don't always end up in reality Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce.  We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How your pet is viewed in the family court.  Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets? Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this? Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?  Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet? How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?  Show dogs and divorce. What happens if your ex takes your pet? What should you do before separation with your pet? Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T Domestic Violence and Pet Care Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets? Consent orders and financial agreements and pets. If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Listener Divorce Questions:   This podcast is general advice only How can you change existing parenting orders? Can you change your parenting orders after a few years? What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia? What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders. Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce. Post separation savings and in the property settlement. What happens to your bank account savings you've saved after separation in the divorce proceedings. Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement? Send your questions to thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com  Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series.  This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss: How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome? How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome? How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage? How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.  Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?  You Don't Want to Miss Out On   Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce. How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce? What is a contribution? The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage? If you bring in a house or shares it doesn't automatically be given back to you at separation.  What is considered a short marriage? How do children factor into property settlement percentage?  A case of gold bars under the waterbed Why furniture and pianos don't count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage? How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage Superannuation. If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement? How future needs are considered in a property settlement.  If you helped pay child support for your ex's kids can you get the money back after divorce? What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side? When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court? Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation. How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement. If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?  Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Divorce Listener Questions:   What happens to the money from your house sale after it is sold but you are still in divorce proceedings? What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement? Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court? What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?  How the family court is streamlining their system What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings? What are the new case practice management directions of the Family  court and how does it change things? General advice only Send your questions tothedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com    Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womenslineon 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Menslineon 1800 600 636 National DV lineon 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732  Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Over Lyns many years of Family Law experience she has found that there are typically four different types of divorces. The strategies and outcomes you use can change based on what type of divorce you are facing. If you intend on following through with each step that the divorce course podcast intends to lay out, it is important to identify your type. The mother daughter duo Lyn and Laura will be referring to each stage and referring to what is best to do based on the type of divorce you determine from this episode.  Lyn aims to talk to people like she talks to people in consultation, with her daughter Laura, asking the questions you would most likely ask during the visit.    You don't want to miss: Knowing your type of divorce An overall summary of what to expect in these types of separations. A basic summary of the steps in the divorvce process Some simple basic 101 rules to start following in your communication with your ex partner. !  Lyns plainly put divorce tips.   Links and resources: Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon.  And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review. Thank you. 

🎧 Listen to This Episode If… You want a real, plain-English breakdown of divorce process fees You're terrified to leave because you've heard divorce costs hundreds of thousands of dollars Your ex is telling you "leave the lawyers out of it" and you're not sure if they're right You've already started racking up legal fees and you're wondering where it's all going You want to understand exactly what you can do yourself versus what you actually need a lawyer for You're heading into mediation and don't know if you need a barrister too ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only – it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law. Always consult a qualified family lawyer. fees may have changed since this episode was recorded (figures quoted reflect May 2026 pricing). This isn't an episode designed to scare you. Laura and Lyn walk you through where you have control, where you can save thousands by doing the work yourself,  00:00 – The Real Cost of Divorce: Why Some Pay $4K and Others $300K 02:36 – The Big Three Fears 04:14 – How Much Does a Divorce Application Actually Cost?  06:35 – Why Lawyers Charge for "Accepting Service" 08:01 – Negotiation Costs:  11:00 – Hourly Rates in 2026: 12:30 – The Cost of Phone Calls, Reviewing Offers & Meetings 14:30 – How Much to Draft Consent Orders 16:00 – Disclosure: The Biggest Budget Blowout in Divorce 19:00 – Paralegal Rates vs Lawyer Rates: Don't Overpay 20:30 – Drip-Feeding vs Dumping Disclosure 23:30 – Mediation Costs 24:50 – Do You Need a Barrister at Mediation? 27:00 – Half-Day vs Full-Day Mediation 29:30 – Hidden Costs 32:30 – The Court's Scale of Fees vs What Lawyers Actually Charge 33:30 – How Sending Late-Night Emails Costs You 34:30 – How People Waste Money 35:30 – Fighting Over Furniture, Revenge Litigation & Lawyer-as-Therapist 36:30 – Stubbornness, Unrealistic Expectations & Knowing When to Let Go 37:30 – Family Law Doesn't Deliver Justice or Retribution 39:00 – How Much to File Consent Orders ($205 Court Fee) 41:00 – How to Be Smart: When to Use a Lawyer and When Not To 41:30 – Saving Thousands on Disclosure by Doing It Yourself 43:00 – The One Meeting Strategy: Walk In Prepared, Walk Out Saving $10K 46:00 – Who Pays for Legal Fees? Section 114UB Explained 47:30 – Fee Exemptions, Cost Agreements & What to Expect 49:30 – Laura's Confession: The Bag of Receipts Story 🎧 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. How to Choose a Mediator (Free vs Private Mediation) https://youtu.be/HKda6QswjAE?si=R27SD6WSDiLiI3VA 2. Do You Need a Lawyer for Mediation? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=ur8ZMCkzPQ9dYFZN 3. Furniture in Divorce: How to Deal With It Without Blowing Your Budgethttps://youtu.be/oZ5h-gxckXU 4. Consent Orders Explained https://youtu.be/-DC72tq8FRM 🎟️ Free Webinar — Register at www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (click "Reserve My Seat") Family Law Act 1975 – Section 114UB (each party bears their own costs) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/ https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/costs https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pubs/legal-costs The Divorce Course Disclosure Checklist —https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosure_checklist_o

🎧 Listen to This Episode If… You've been told you have to go to mediation and you don't know where to start Your ex has already chosen a mediator and something feels off You can't afford the expensive mediator your ex is pushing for You're going through family violence and worried no mediator will take your matter You don't know the difference between free mediation and private mediation You want to know whether your mediator actually needs to be a lawyer ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded. 🛟 Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode discusses family violence and the challenges of mediating where there is a history of abuse, coercion, or control. If you or someone you know is in danger, call 000. For confidential support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732). Episode Summary You don't have to accept whichever mediator gets put in front of you. In this episode, Laura and Mum (family law accredited specialist Lynette Galvin) unpack one of the most under-discussed parts of separation how to actually choose a good mediator, and how to push back when the one your ex is suggesting doesn't feel right. They cover the difference between free mediation (Relationships Australia, Interrelate, CentreCare) and private mediation, when you need an FDRP (Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner) versus when you don't, and whether your mediator really needs to be a lawyer or a former judge. Mum shares the exact wording she uses in letters when the other side proposes a biased or unaffordable mediator  including the "panel of three" approach that keeps the process fair. There's also an honest conversation about the gap in the system for people experiencing family violence, where mediators often refuse to take the matter on leaving survivors stuck heading to court when mediation could have solved the issue. Laura and Mum talk about what to look for in a mediator brave enough to handle high-conflict matters, and the practical safety steps (separate rooms, video links, safe exits) you can ask about. And there's the reminder you might need most: you hold the cards. You don't have to agree to anything in mediation just because you've been pushed to. You can pause, walk away, and come back when you're ready. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – How to Choose a Mediator: Why It Matters More Than You Think 01:00 – Legal Disclaimer & Why Mum Is a Qualified Mediator 01:40 – Can the Mediator Make or Break Your Mediation? 02:30 – How Lawyers Choose Mediators (And Their "Bottom of the Barrel" List) 03:40 – Can You Speak to a Mediator Before Choosing? Why Mum Says No 04:20 – How to Use Google Reviews to Vet a Mediator 05:30 – What Qualifications a Mediator Should Have (FDRP Explained) 07:00 – Does Your Mediator Need to Be a Lawyer? Property vs Children 08:30 – Why Social Workers Often Make the Best Children's Mediators 09:30 – Mediation and Family Violence: The Gap in the System 12:20 – Can You Change Mediators Halfway Through? The Honest Answer 13:50 – Red Flags: Biased, Agenda-Driven and "In Cahoots" Mediators 16:00 – When the Mediator's Office Is Next Door to Your Ex's Lawyer 17:00 – How to Push Back Without Slandering the Mediator 18:30 – What to Do If Your Ex Picks an Expensive Mediator You Can't Afford 19:30 – Free Mediation Options: Relationships Australia, Interrelate, CentreCare 20:20 – How Much Does a Private Mediator Cost? ($5K–$6K Reality Check) 21:30 – Why Free Services Have Long Wait Lists (And When to Go Private) 22:30 – The "Panel of Three" Letter Strategy You Can Use Today 24:00 – Should You Pay More If Your Case Is Serious? 24:50 – Free Mediation Pros and Cons (And Why Parenting Plans Aren't Enforceable) 27:40 – Private Mediators: Former Judges, Barristers and the "Iron Fist in Velvet Glove" 29:30 – Facilitative vs Evaluative vs Pure Mediation Styles Explained 31:30 – Can You Ask the Mediator If You're Getting a Good Deal? No. 32:30 – Pressure to Sign on the Day: How to Push Back 33:40 – Mediation Is Like a Boat in the Ocean — Pick Wisely 35:30 – How to Write the "Panel of Three" Letter to Your Ex 36:30 – Best Mediator Style by Ex Personality Type 38:30 – If You're Amicable, You Might Not Need Mediation At All 39:30 – You Hold the Cards: Don't Be Bullied Into an Agreement 🎧 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode  What Actually Happens Inside a Mediation - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BvkcVNcHNrdWmXALC6bsA?si=31f56fce3c8d48a6 What a divorce mediator wish you knew  - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zeUIkV3O5LTQAHi0dXOGL?si=644698cb744647a8 📚 Links & Resources 📞 1800 RESPECT — 1800 737 732 (24/7 DV support) 📞 Lifeline — 13 11 14 🚓 Police — 000 (immediate danger) 🌐 The Divorce Course — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 🎓 The Divorce Course Podcast — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog   Find an Accredited FDRP (Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner): Attorney-General's Department — https://www.ag.gov.au/families-and-marriage/family-dispute-resolution Free / Low-Cost Mediation Services: Relationships Australia — https://www.relationships.org.au Interrelate — https://www.interrelate.org.au CentreCare — https://centacare.com Find a Family Law Accredited Specialist or Mediator: Queensland Law Society — https://www.qls.com.au Bar Association of Queensland — https://www.qldbar.asn.au (Or your state's equivalent Law Society / Bar Association) The Divorce Course Free Webinar: www.thedivorcecourse.com.au — click "Reserve My Seat" Closing CTA If this episode helped you understand how to choose a mediator who'll actually work for you, please follow, rate, review, and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others heading into mediation can find this information too. All our best, Laura & Lyn Your Guides By Your Side Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST  

🎧 Listen to this episode if… You've been told "add-backs are dead" by your lawyer or your ex Your ex is wasting the property pool and you don't know how to stop it You've watched assets disappear since separation bank accounts, cars, super You're heading into mediation and need to know what to argue You want to understand what  the Shinohara & Shinohara Case and Shamon & Sharon Case actually mean for your case You're worried about delay tactics while your ex quietly drains the joint money ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is general information only – it is not legal advice. The content reflects Australian family law and may not apply to your specific situation or jurisdiction. Always consult a qualified family lawyer about your individual circumstances. Laws may have changed since this episode was recorded. Episode Summary You may have heard the rumour – "add-backs are dead." Lawyers are quoting it, ex-partners are using it as an excuse, and people are panicking that there's nothing they can do when the property pool is being drained. In this episode, Laura and Mum unpack what add-backs actually are, why people think they've disappeared, and what the courts are really doing about wastage now. The short answer? Add-backs aren't on the balance sheet anymore  but wastage is absolutely still considered. Thanks to Shinohara & Shinohara [2025], the courts have stopped putting "imaginary money" into the property pool. But thanks to Section 79(5)(d) of the Family Law Act and the case of Shamon & Shamon [2025], wastage now adjusts the percentage split of what's left – and in Shamon, that meant the wife walked away with nearly 100% of the property pool plus costs. Mum walks through what counts as wastage (selling assets cheap, gambling, blowing money post-separation, gifting funds to a new partner), what doesn't (post-separation income spent on living, ordinary marital spending), and how to protect the property pool before your ex empties it. She also explains exactly what to consider saying if a lawyer or mediator quotes Shinohara at you including the section number, the case names, and the strategy that works. If you suspect your ex is wasting money or stalling property settlement, this is the episode to listen to before you do anything else. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – Are Add-Backs Dead? The Property Pool Myth Going Around 01:00 – Legal Disclaimer & Australian Family Law Context 01:30 – What Is an Add-Back in Property Settlement? 03:15 – The Townsend Case: How Add-Backs Used to Work 04:25 – Property Pool vs Balance Sheet: What's the Difference? 05:25 – The 4 Steps of Property Settlement Explained 05:50 – Why People Think Add-Backs Are Dead: Shinohara Explained 07:15 – "Don't Put Pretend Money on the Balance Sheet" 07:55 – The Real Risk: Ex Spending Everything Before Settlement 08:45 – How Wastage Is Handled Now: Section 79(5)(d) 10:00 – Percentage Adjustments Instead of Balance Sheet Add-Backs 11:30 – The Shamon Case: Wife Got Nearly 100% Plus Costs 13:50 – What to Do If Your Ex Has Already Drained the Pool 14:30 – How to Protect the Property Pool: Caveats Explained 17:00 – Protecting Joint Bank Accounts and Cash 17:50 – Superannuation, Cars and Other Assets 19:50 – Arguing Wastage in Mediation (Not Court) 21:00 – How to Respectfully Tell Your Lawyer They're Wrong 24:30 – Free Webinar Reminder 24:40 – What to Write to Your Ex Before Settlement 26:25 – What Counts as Wastage: Kowaliw, Gambling & More 27:30 – Is Drinking and Drug Use Considered Wastage? 28:15 – Gifts to a New Partner: The Gollings & Scott Case 29:30 – Reckless Spending vs Ordinary Spending 30:15 – Bad Business Decisions Post-Separation 31:10 – So Are Add-Backs Dead? The Final Answer 32:30 – What Evidence You Need to Prove Wastage 33:50 – The Mechanism Has Changed, the Outcome Hasn't 34:25 – Your Toolkit: Section 79(5)(d) of the Family Law Act, Shamon, Townsend, Weir 35:30 – Why Acting Fast Matters in Financial Abuse 36:55 – Reviewer of the Month: Manal from Australia 38:30 – Final Thoughts: Wastage Rules   🎧 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. Equalisation of Super: The Myth That Won't Die https://youtu.be/YFkOnEsNybw?si=LAQd2SUq_YRVl9Ts 3. The Gilded Cage: Delay Tactics in Property Settlement https://youtu.be/cs6-jHDt-Qk?si=ufuSLLwVmasbQKsL 4. Financial Abuse and Hidden Assets https://youtu.be/D3-fV8C4gkM?si=JQMk6eqMXWUktsUf 📚 Links & Resources 📞 1800 RESPECT — 1800 737 732 (24/7 support) 📞 Lifeline — 13 11 14 🚓 Police — 000 (immediate danger) 🌐 The Divorce Course — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 🎓 The Divorce Course Podcast — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog 🎟️ Free Webinar — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au (click "Reserve My Seat") Cases Mentioned Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] — the case people are misreading  https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html Shamon & Shamon [2025] — https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html Townsend & Townsend — the original add-back case (the taxi) Weir & Weir — the quarry / missing gravel case Kowaliw & Kowaliw [1981] — the trashed family home case Gollings & Scott — the engagement ring / post-separation income case Legislation Family Law Act 1975 — Section 79(4), Section 79(5)(d) — https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s79.html Family Law Act 1975 — Section 90SM (de facto equivalent) If this episode helped you understand wastage and feel ready to push back when someone says "add-backs are dead," please follow, rate, review, and share The Divorce Course Podcast so others going through the same thing can find this information too. All our best, Laura & Lyn Your Guides By Your Side Co-Hosts of THE DIVORCE COURSE PODCAST

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You want to understand if domestic violence can affect your property or parenting outcome You've been told by a lawyer to "leave the family violence out" of your case You're scared raising coercive control or domestic violence will backfire on you in mediation You're confused by social media saying the courts ignore family violence Your ex is still using coercive behaviour even after separation You're heading into mediation or court and don't know how to bring it up   ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, post-separation abuse, and the impact of these behaviours on children, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you are unsafe or experiencing family violence, please reach out for support. Support is available in Australia: 📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732   📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14   🚨 In an emergency, call 000 This podcast provides general educational information about Australian family law only and is not legal advice. Laura is not a lawyer. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance tailored to your circumstances.  Episode Summary Should you bring up coercive control and domestic violence in your family law case… or will it backfire? If you've been online lately, you've probably seen wildly different opinions. Some people insist the courts ignore family violence completely. Others say the system is finally taking it seriously. And then there are the lawyers quietly telling clients to "just leave it out so we can settle." So who's right? In this episode, Mum and I unpack how coercive control and domestic violence are actually treated in Australian family law right now and the recent appeal cases that show the courts are starting to listen. We walk through real 2023 and 2024 decisions including Burnell & Rockford, Lainhart & Elinson, Dejani & Dejani, and Sad & Raymond cases your lawyer may not have caught up with yet. We talk about Section 4AB, Section 75, and Section 79 of the Family Law Act, why mediators sometimes forget you're still being coercively controlled while sitting across from your ex, and the very real "peace at any price" trap that costs people thousands in their settlement. If you've been silenced, dismissed, or told it's not worth raising  this episode is for you. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00  –  Coercive Control & Domestic Violence in Family Court: Should You Raise It? 01:00  –  Meet Laura & Lynette: Family Law Mum & Daughter Duo 02:00  –  Trigger Warning & Legal Disclaimer (Australia & Overseas) 03:00  –  Why Social Media Gets Coercive Control So Wrong 04:00  –  Why Lawyers Tell Clients to Leave It Out (And Why It's Wrong) 05:00  –  Judge Best's Powerful Speech: "Soften Your Gaze" 06:00  –  Why Both Parents Having Issues Doesn't Mean Equal Blame 07:00  –  Section 4AB: The Family Violence Definition That Changed Everything 09:00  –  Why Courts Now MUST Consider Family Violence Allegations 10:00  –  The Old Kennon Case vs The New Law: What Changed 11:00  –  Choosing the Right Lawyer When Domestic Violence Is Involved 12:00  –  "Don't Raise It Or You Won't Settle" — The Lawyer Myth 13:00  –  When NOT to Mention Family Violence in Property Mediation 14:00  –  The Smarter Way to Negotiate Coercive Control in Mediation 16:00  –  Parenting Cases: Why You MUST Raise Family Violence 17:00  –  Lainhart & Elinson 2023: The Appeal Case Every Mum Should Know 18:00  –  Section 60CC: Safety of Children Now Comes First 19:00  –  Why Parents Don't Tell Lawyers the Full Truth (And Why You Must) 20:00  –  Coercive Control in Parenting Cases Explained 21:00  –  Counselling Orders: When the Court Mistakes Lip Service for Change 23:00  –  False Alienation Claims: The New Coercive Control Tactic 24:00  –  50/50 Is No Longer the Default — Here's What Replaced It 26:00  –  Free Divorce Webinar With Lynette (Family Law Specialist) 27:00  –  Property Settlement: How Domestic Violence Affects Your Percentage 28:00  –  Kennon & Kennon: The Original Family Violence Property Case 30:00  –  Dejani & Dejani: When a Child's Health Issue Was Hidden 32:00  –  Burnell & Rockford 2024: Coercive Control in Property Settlement 34:00  –  Financial Abuse and PIN Numbers: What the Court Decided 35:00  –  Why You Need These Cases at Your Mediation 37:00  –  How Lawyers Use Cases as Negotiation Leverage 38:00  –  Section 79 & Notice of Risk: The Mediation Framework 40:00  –  Adding Percentage in Mediation Without Saying Why 41:00  –  Why You Must Disclose Family Violence in Parenting Negotiations 43:00  –  Settlement vs Court: The 10 Questions You Should Ask Yourself 44:00  –  Why Mediators Forget You're Still Being Controlled 45:00  –  How to Prove Coercive Control: Affidavits That Stand Up 47:00  –  The Biggest Mistake: Peace at Any Price Mentality 48:00  –  Why Post-Separation Abuse Often Gets Worse 49:00  –  Don't Compromise on Children — Stand Your Ground 50:00  –  Final Thoughts: It's Their Shame, Not Yours 🎧 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1. How to Put Coercive Control Into Writing for Court https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw?si=-7tLxmBpVQb2dNOv 2. Is It Family Violence? A Walk Through the Family Law Act https://youtu.be/YCddFx9cs_Y?si=DbJU6ePYSxDZFrEn 3. Settling vs Going to Court: 10 Questions to Ask Yourself https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=pdg6wWbjMWttMH94   📚 Cases Mentioned (Take These to Your Lawyer) Burnell & Rockford (2024) — Coercive control and financial abuse in property settlement https://austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC2F/2024/468.html Lainhart & Elinson (2023) — Full Court appeal, Deputy Chief Justice McClelland — family violence in parenting https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2023/200.html Dajani & Dajani [2025] FedCFamC1A 28 (26 February 2025) — Hidden health issues in children and the impact on contributions https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/28.html Sayed & Rehmann [2025] FedCFamC1A 145 (21 August 2025) — Family violence and property contributions https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/145.html Kennon & Kennon — The original family violence and property settlement case (Section 75) 📰 Resources Mentioned Article: "Judge urges profession to soften your gaze when dealing with domestic and family violence" — QLS Proctor, 27 March 2024 (Federal Circuit & Family Court Judge Hannah Cara Best) https://www.qlsproctor.com.au/2026/03/judge-urges-profession-to-soften-your-gaze-when-dealing-with-dfv/ Family Law Act 1975 — Sections 4AB, 60CC, 75, 79 https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s4ab.html 🆘 Links & Resources 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 (24/7 family violence support) Lifeline – 13 11 14 Emergency – 000 The Divorce Course – www.thedivorcecourse.com.au Free Webinar with Lynette (family law accredited specialist) — register at thedivorcecourse.com.au If this episode helped you feel braver about raising coercive control and domestic violence in your family law matter, please follow, rate, review, and share the podcast  it helps other people in coercively controlling situations find this information too. You are not alone, and you don't have to stay silent.  

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You're about to go through property settlement in divorce You're focused on the percentage but unsure what it actually means You're dealing with complex finances (trusts, companies, super, shares) or Simple Property Settlement You want to avoid making a financial mistake that costs you years You're wondering whether to take the house, cash, super or investments   ⚖️ Legal Disclaimer & ⚠️ Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, and financial control, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you are unsafe or need support: 📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14 🚨 In an emergency, call 000 This podcast provides general educational information only and is not legal or financial advice. Please seek professional guidance tailored to your situation. Most people going through property settlement are focused on one thing… 👉 What percentage am I going to get? But here's what most people don't realise… Two people can walk away with the same 50/50 split  and end up in completely different financial positions. Because it's not just about the percentage… 👉 it's about what that percentage actually looks like in your life. In this episode, Mum and I sit down with financial planner Pedro Marin and break down the four key steps a financial planner takes during property settlement so you can avoid costly mistakes and actually set yourself up for your future. We talk about everything from figuring out what's in your property pool, to deciding how to structure your settlement, to planning your future and finally, making sure everything is actually set up properly after the deal is done. Because getting a settlement is one thing… 👉 making it work for your life is another. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – Divorce Property Settlement: It's Not Just the Percentage 01:22 – Meet Financial Planner Pedro Marin 04:04 – Why Financial Planning Matters in Divorce 08:01 – Step 1: Mapping Your Property Pool in Divorce 10:46 – Trusts & Companies in Divorce Explained 12:46 – Step 2: How to Structure Your Property Settlement 15:41 – Cash vs Property vs Super vs Shares in Divorce 23:20 – Step 3: Planning Your Financial Future After Divorce 24:48 – Financial Advice Risks: What You Need to Know 25:32 – Setting Financial Goals After Separation 28:58 – When to Start Financial Planning in Divorce 32:41 – Using the Same Financial Planner as Your Ex 34:52 – Budgeting for Mediation & Property Settlement 37:30 – Step 4: Implementing Your Divorce Settlement 40:20 – Insurance, Risk & Protection After Divorce 43:49 – Wills, Estate Planning & Protecting Your Children 47:25 – Biggest Mistake: Emotional Decisions in Divorce 49:35 – How to Work With a Financial Planner (Pedro Marin) 51:19 – Final Takeaways & Legal Disclaimer 🎧 Additional Episodes Mentioned Weapons of Tax Destruction https://youtu.be/tsDlMphLRWk?si=1Fbpw7XJy9jxCK20 Living Arrangements: Should You Keep or Sell the House? https://youtu.be/wknV5CB90yY?si=HGwH5m1AtXba5k7G   🔗 Links & Resources 🌐 Marin Wealth: https://marinwealth.com.au/ 📥 Free Checklists: https://thedivorcecourse.com.au 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14 If this episode helped you think differently about your property settlement, make sure you follow, rate, review, and share the podcast — because someone else out there needs to hear this before they make a costly mistake.

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You're arguing over furniture or household items in divorce Your ex has taken everything or won't give anything back You've been told "you can't take anything if you leave" You want to avoid wasting money on legal fees over small items You're trying to work out what's actually fair vs worth fighting for Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of family violence, coercive control, and separation dynamics, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you are unsafe, do not attempt to retrieve belongings alone. This podcast provides general educational information only and is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance tailored to your circumstances. What happens to all the "stuff" when you separate? Everyone talks about the house, the bank accounts, and the kids… but no one really talks about the furniture, the appliances, the artwork  and yes, even the toilet brush. In this episode, Mum and I unpack what actually happens to household contents in a property settlement, and why these seemingly small things can end up causing some of the biggest fights. We break down what the law really says (and what it doesn't say), whether it matters who paid for something, and why arguing over furniture can end up costing you far more in legal fees than the item is even worth. We also walk through four practical ways to divide furniture based on your ex's personality type whether they're amicable, avoidant, high conflict, or controlling so you can sort it out without derailing your entire settlement. ⏱️ Episode Timeline 00:00 – Furniture in Divorce: Common Myths You Need to Know 01:40 – Safety, Legal Disclaimer & Family Violence Warning 02:36 – What the Law Says About Furniture in Divorce 03:03 – Who Owns Furniture After Separation? 07:02 – Divorce and Possession: Who Keeps What? 07:41 – Myth: Do You Lose Furniture If You Leave the House? 09:45 – Cost vs Value: Is Furniture Worth Fighting Over? 11:32 – Emotional Furniture Fights in Divorce Explained 13:58 – Amicable Divorce: The Two List Method (Simple Solution) 16:24 – Avoidant Ex: How to Pack, Send & Move Their Stuff 18:54 – Shed Disputes & When to Get Legal Advice 20:54 – Free Divorce Resources You Can Use 21:43 – When to Move Out During Divorce (Timing Matters) 22:41 – High Conflict Divorce: Should You Sell Everything? 24:50 – Valuing Furniture in Divorce Negotiations 27:55 – Biggest Mistakes People Make With Furniture 31:11 – Don't Let Furniture Ruin Your Property Settlement 34:03 – Mindset Shift: It's Not About the Stuff 35:30 – Fresh Start After Divorce: Letting Go 39:47 – Final Takeaways: Fairness & Moving Forward 🎧 Additional Episodes Mentioned What About Their Stuff and Belongings? (Referenced when discussing how to handle an ex leaving items behind or refusing to collect them) https://youtu.be/T_tQUbhBxbQ?si=kt1ChMF08dquxgkr    Links & Resources 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline – 13 11 14   If this episode helped you rethink how to approach the "stuff" in your separation, make sure you follow, rate, review, and share the podcast so others can avoid getting stuck in the same fights.  

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You or your ex has a serious illness or disability You've been a carer during the relationship You have ongoing medical expenses You're worried about future financial support after separation You want to understand how courts assess health in property settlement ⚖️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is for educational purposes only and provides general information about Australian family law. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.     What happens in a property settlement when serious illness is part of the story? In this episode, Mum (a family law specialist and family lawyer) and I unpack one of the most emotional and often misunderstood areas of family law: how health issues, illness, and medical needs may impact your property settlement percentage. Because when you're going through separation, you're not just dividing assets… You're also dealing with uncertainty, fear, ongoing treatment, and the reality of what life will look like moving forward. We talk about what happens if: you cared for a sick partner for years you are the one who is unwell there are ongoing medical expenses or even if someone has a life-limiting illness We break down how the court looks at contributions vs future needs, why simply saying "I'm unwell" isn't enough, and how these factors can actually shift the percentages in your property settlement. If illness has played a role in your relationship on either side this episode will help you understand how the law approaches it, and what it might mean for you. ⏱️ Episode Timeline - Health and Divorce: How Illness May Affect Property Settlement Percentage 00:00 – Illness and Divorce: How Health Impacts Property Settlement 00:22 – Why Health Changes Everything in Divorce Outcomes 01:32 – Meet the Hosts & Divorce Episode Overview 01:57 – Real Story: Endometriosis and Divorce Costs 03:07 – Divorce Property Settlement Explained (Step-by-Step) 04:38 – Caring for a Sick Partner in Divorce: Does It Count? 07:43 – What If You're the Sick Partner in Divorce? 09:46 – Divorce and Spousal Maintenance: Your Options 11:37 – Life Expectancy & Divorce Future Needs Explained 15:47 – Medical Expenses, Kids & Divorce (NDIS Explained) 19:12 – Proving Medical Needs in Divorce Settlements 21:00 – Short-Term vs Long-Term Illness in Divorce 21:41 – Temporary vs Chronic Illness in Divorce Cases 23:34 – Open-Ended Spousal Maintenance in Divorce 24:46 – Remission, Recovery & Divorce Medical Evidence 27:43 – How to Prove Illness in Divorce Court 30:18 – Divorce Surveillance, Fraud Claims & Mental Health 32:48 – When Both Parties Are Sick in Divorce 33:34 – Financial Obligations After Divorce Separation 35:19 – Divorce Agreements: Risks You Need to Know 37:20 – Rapid Fire Divorce Questions About Illness 39:07 – Divorce Mediation Tips When Illness Is Involved 40:46 – The Emotional Reality of Illness in Divorce 42:15 – Final Thoughts: Advocating for Yourself in Divorce   🎧 Episodes Mentioned in This Episode 1️⃣ Consent Orders vs Binding Financial Agreements - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5qgGhdAl5UaOo7LHb2Yf5Y?si=OFf8umvVQ7KAbzntw6AnVg 2️⃣ The Divorce Course (Program / Course Reference) www.thedivorcecourse.com.au     ⚠️ Family Violence & Sensitive Content This episode discusses illness, vulnerability, and complex family dynamics, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support in Australia: 📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14 🚨 In an emergency, call 000     ⚖️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is for educational purposes only and provides general information about Australian family law. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.     If this episode helped you better understand how health can impact your divorce, please make sure to follow, rate, review, and share the podcast it helps others going through the same thing find this information too.

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You feel like your ex knows things they shouldn't You suspect you're being tracked, monitored, or watched You're going through separation and worried about digital safety Your ex had access to your devices, passwords, or accounts You want to protect yourself and your children from tech-based abuse What if your ex knew where you were… who you were talking to… and what you were saying — without you ever telling them? In this episode, we're joined by Catherine Plunkett, Director of Safety Net Australia at WESNET, to unpack the growing reality of technology-facilitated abuse in relationships and after separation. Because abuse doesn't always leave bruises. Sometimes it looks like: your ex showing up where you are unexpectedly knowing things you never told them accessing your messages, accounts, or location And increasingly, this is becoming one of the most common forms of domestic and family violence. We break down what tech abuse actually is, how it happens, the warning signs to look for, and most importantly what you can do to protect yourself and your children. If something doesn't feel right, this episode will help you understand what might be happening and what steps you can take next. ⏱️ Episode Timeline - Is Your Ex Watching You? Tech Abuse in Divorce Explained 00:00 – Is Your Ex Spying on You? Hidden Tech Abuse Signs 01:35 – What Is Tech Abuse? How It Works in Relationships 05:10 – How Common Is Digital Abuse After Separation? 06:52 – Tracking Apps, Spyware & How People Monitor You 12:06 – Warning Signs Your Phone or Accounts Are Compromised 16:20 – What NOT to Do If You Suspect You're Being Watched 18:00 – Digital Safety Checks & Getting the Right Support 20:33 – Safe Phones, New Devices & Protecting Your Accounts 23:12 – That "Alarm Feeling": Trusting Your Instincts 24:11 – Smart Homes & Hidden Tracking Risks You Didn't Expect 26:31 – Cars, GPS & How Vehicles Can Track You 27:45 – Digital Safety Checklist: Steps You Can Take Today 30:47 – How Kids Can Be Used in Tech Monitoring 35:20 – AI, Deepfakes & The Future of Digital Abuse 38:39 – Where to Get Help for Tech Abuse 41:17 – Your Right to Privacy and Safe Communication 42:27 – What Safety Net Australia Does for Victims 44:19 – Final Thoughts, Support & Next Steps 🔗 Links & Resources Safety Net Australia – https://techsafety.org.au eSafety Commissioner – https://www.esafety.gov.au 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14 ⚠️ Family Violence Disclaimer This episode contains discussion of family violence and may be distressing for some listeners. If you are experiencing domestic or family violence, support is available: 📞 1800 RESPECT – 1800 737 732 📞 Lifeline – 13 11 14 🚨 In an emergency, call 000 ⚖️ Legal Disclaimer This podcast is for educational purposes only and discusses general concepts. It is not legal advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your circumstances.

🎧 Listen to this episode if: You've been told to attend mediation but feel unsafe agreeing to child care arrangements Your ex is pushing for 50/50 care and you don't believe it's appropriate for the kids You're dealing with substance abuse, family violence, or safety concerns and your child's safety You feel pressured to compromise at mediation when you don't want to You want to understand your options without giving in on safety Have you been told you need to go to mediation, but you're worried about the outcome because you simply cannot budge when it comes to your child's safety? Has your ex demanded 50/50 care, but deep down you know that arrangement isn't in your child's best interests right now? We talk about how to approach mediation when you feel stuck, how to clearly communicate your concerns, and the practical options that may be discussed  including supervised time, stepped arrangements, and drug and alcohol testing. If you're feeling pressured, overwhelmed, or unsure how to stand your ground, this episode will help you navigate mediation with clarity and confidence. ⏱️ Episode Timeline -Refusing 50/50 Care? What to Do in Mediation When Your Child's Safety Comes First [00:00] – Mediation With Safety Fears [02:33] – What Mediation Really Is [05:40] – Holding The Safety Line Why you don't have to agree to unsafe arrangements just to reach an outcome. [06:37] – Define The Real Risks How to clearly identify and communicate your specific safety concerns. [09:27] – What Courts Call Unsafe Understanding how the court views risk and safety in parenting matters. [10:33] – Supervised Time Options Exploring supervised contact as a way to maintain relationships safely. [12:56] – Choosing Contact Centres How supervised contact works and what to consider when selecting a centre. [16:34] – Cutting Contact And Court Optics What happens if time is stopped altogether and how it may be viewed legally. [18:43] – Stepped Parenting Orders Using gradual increases in time to build safety and trust over time. [21:26] – Therapy Conditions And Pitfalls When therapy is suggested, what to watch out for and potential risks. [23:06] – Drug And Alcohol Testing How testing can be used to address concerns and create accountability. [26:25] – Costs And Waitlists The practical realities of supervision services and delays. [26:45] – Paying For Supervision Who pays for supervised time and how this is handled. [27:28] – Preparing For Mediation How to go into mediation feeling clear, confident, and prepared. [28:13] – When They Refuse Supervision What to do if the other parent won't agree to safe options. [28:48] – Best Interests Not 50/50 Why equal time is not automatic and must reflect the child's needs. [30:40] – Court View On Refusal How the court may interpret refusal to compromise or engage. [33:27] – Holding Your Safety Line Practical ways to stay firm without escalating conflict. [35:17] – If Mediation Hits Impasse What happens when no agreement is reached and what comes next. [38:17] – Costs Threats Reality Check Addressing fear around legal costs and pressure tactics. [39:07] – Using Mediation For Property How mediation can still be useful even if parenting isn't resolved. [43:16] – Authenticity And Support Staying grounded, supported, and focused during a difficult process. ⚖️ Family Violence & Legal Disclaimer This episode contains discussion of family violence and may be distressing for some listeners. If you are affected, please consider listening with support or contact: Lifeline (Australia): 13 11 14 1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732 This podcast is for educational purposes only and discusses general concepts in Australian family law. Every situation is different, and you should seek independent professional guidance for your specific circumstances. 🔗 Helpful Resources 1800 RESPECT – National Domestic Violence Support Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14 Relationships Australia (Supervised Contact Services) Parenting communication apps: OurFamilyWizard, AppClose 🎧 Recommended Episodes Mediation: What It Is (and What It Isn't)  https://youtu.be/YvcWAYuG4QA?si=hSiXFvVDaFDV4J6v Understanding the Best Interests of the Child (Section 60CC) https://youtu.be/k4-QTbfW8XM?si=SDzN2cIzO4FtlMQu Mediation Series: How to Prepare and What to Expect https://youtu.be/cmcFWXD2EBs?si=TqUcJvQzmd2MMNJc