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No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

Author: Jake Kastleman

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What have you tried so far to quit porn? Accountability buddies, talk therapy, internet filters, church or religious programs, or mindfulness techniques to 'get rid of cravings'… Many of these have merit, but they're often missing key elements for long-lasting sobriety. It isn’t enough to just “stop watching porn”. Porn addiction is a symptom of deeper, underlying challenges that I address using evidence-based psychological and behavioral practices.

My mission isn't just to help people overcome porn addiction, but to give them each step to establish a recovery mindset and lifestyle. This is done using hands-on, daily exercises that retrain the brain and forge new habits that last a lifetime. Once this mindset and lifestyle are established, the desire for porn naturally fades. 

To discover how to stop porn addiction, join my Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program at nomoredesire.com/program

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Most men believe porn addiction is driven by lust, temptation, or a lack of discipline. But what if that’s not the real problem? In this episode of No More Desire, I challenge one of the most common—and damaging—assumptions in porn addiction recovery: that the part of you that turns to porn is bad, broken, or sinful. What I’ve discovered through my own recovery, and through working with men across the world, is this: Porn addiction often isn’t about pleasure at all. It’s about emotional self-...
Is it possible to quit porn by changing your beliefs? Can you overcome porn addiction—not through willpower or positive thinking—but by going deeper into the painful emotions and unconscious beliefs that actually drive the habit? In this episode, I challenge the popular idea that you can “just believe differently” or manifest your way out of porn addiction. While mindset does matter, most advice about belief change misses a crucial step—and that missing step is the reason so many men keep rel...
Most men think porn addiction is about lust, lack of discipline, or not wanting freedom badly enough. It’s not. In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Jordan Castille, a coach who works with men navigating pornography addiction, shame, and same-sex attraction, to have a conversation most recovery spaces still avoid. We talk about how bullying, rejection, and emotional trauma can shape a man’s relationship with porn long before he ever understands what’s happening insid...
If you’ve ever said to yourself, “Porn ruined my life” — but still find yourself going back to it — this episode is for you. For years, I believed quitting porn was about discipline, willpower, and avoiding temptation. But what I eventually discovered — both in my own recovery and in my work with men — is that porn addiction isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about attachment. And often, it’s an attachment not only to pleasure… but to pain. In this episode, I explore a side of porn addiction rec...
"Why can’t I stay hard?" It’s one of the most painful, confusing, and silent questions men carry — and one that too many men are afraid to ask out loud. If you’ve ever lost your erection during sex, if you’ve ever felt performance anxiety take over your body, if you can get aroused with porn but struggle with a real partner, or if you’ve wondered whether porn addiction has rewired your brain and damaged your ability to connect — This episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I sit down...
Most men don’t struggle with porn addiction because they lack discipline. They struggle because they were never taught how to understand, regulate, or work with their emotions. In this episode, I sit down with Rich Savoy—a coach, leader with Husband Material, and longtime mentor to men—to have one of the most honest conversations I’ve ever had about men, emotions, masculinity, and porn addiction recovery. We go beneath behavior and willpower and into the emotional and psychological roots that...
When I first started building a real recovery lifestyle, I believed the answer to breaking porn addiction was more control — more discipline, more structure, more “push harder.” But the truth is, that mindset only kept me trapped in dopamine overload, emotional numbness, and a constant battle against myself. In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jeremy Lipkowitz — former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different, science-b...
If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t “just stop” watching porn—why you cycle through cravings, shame, self-promises, and relapse—this episode will change the way you see your struggle forever. Because the truth is, porn addiction is not a willpower problem. It’s a nervous system problem. In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Chris Chandler, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), trauma specialist, and one of the most grounded, brilliant men I know in the world of addict...
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel numb, disconnected, or unable to access the full depth of your emotions—this episode may hit closer to home than anything you’ve heard before. In today’s episode, I dig into one of the most overlooked factors in porn addiction recovery: your relationship with your physical body. We talk about why so many men feel emotionally flat, why empathy feels harder than it should, and why your motivation and sense of direction can feel so distant—even when you’re tr...
Most men battling porn addiction think their problem is “lust,” “self-control,” or “not being disciplined enough.” But for millions of men, the real issue is something far deeper—and far more common—than they realize. In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr. Doug Carpenter, licensed psychologist and author of the groundbreaking book Secret Shame, to uncover the hidden link between male sexual abuse, childhood sexual trauma, shame, and porn addiction. What Doug reveals in ...
Do you ever feel like your mind just won’t stop racing? Like you’re constantly doing—working, scrolling, thinking, striving—but rarely being present? If you’ve ever felt trapped in busyness, anxiety, or mental chaos, this episode might be one of the most important you’ll ever hear. In this solo episode, I explore one of the most overlooked truths about porn addiction recovery: your addiction isn’t just about sexual compulsion—it’s about disconnection. A restless, overstimulated brain craves r...
What if the real reason you can’t stop watching porn… isn’t porn itself? In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I dive deep into the hidden connection between tech addiction, dopamine, and porn addiction recovery — and why constant distraction may be the true enemy of your freedom. We live in a world built to hijack your attention. From smartphones and social media to the endless scroll of entertainment, every digital interaction trains your brain for instant gratification. Over time,...
When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.” But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself. In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different path to freedom from porn addiction. We dive deep into the power of mindfuln...
When you love someone who’s caught in addiction—whether it’s porn, alcohol, or anything else that numbs pain—the chaos doesn’t just stay with them. It spills into your relationship, your emotions, and even your identity. In this episode of The No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Holly Thornton, author of The Hardest Help, who’s lived through the agony of betrayal trauma, manipulation, and loss—and emerged with compassion, clarity, and tools that actually work. Together, we explore what mo...
Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one. In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good. Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, ...
As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence? In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free, to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality—not just for them, but for ourselves as men. We explore what it looks like to move beyond fear-based parenti...
If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. They’re signals from your brain and body that point to deeper emotions like fear, shame, grief, or loneliness. And when you learn how to respond to them with the right tools, those urges actually become fuel for your porn addiction recovery. In this epis...
When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses. In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your energy, your mental clarity, and even your desire. If you’ve ever wondered why cravings hit hard...
Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark? In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are especially vulnerable to pornography, how emotional intensity fuels cravings, and why perfection...
What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing? In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn, to uncover what your sexual fantasies are really trying to tell you—and how to use them as a surprising pathway to heal porn addiction. Most men believe that the way to stop porn is more willpower, more discipline, more accountability. But neuroscience and psychology show som...
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Arsham

that was awesome

Mar 25th
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