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Welcome to Healing Childhood Trauma for Millennial Women where healing meets growth. The podcast where we deep dive into healing from the past, overcoming high functioning anxiety and attachment to have better relationships with ourselves and others.
I'm Lizandra Leigertwood, a psychotherapist and relationship therapist who specialises in childhood trauma in adults helping you to transform the relationship you have with yourself and others.
I share the in and outs of being able to let go people pleasing, high functioning anxiety and having better relationships in a way that is practical and relatable.
Get ready to learn more about yourself and change unhelpful patterns into growth.
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A lot of people assume not being ready for therapy means being in denial or lacking self-awareness. That’s usually not the case. In this episode, I’m talking about something I see all the time in early conversations with potential clients. The moment where I can tell someone isn’t quite ready for therapy yet. And it has nothing to do with how much they’ve reflected or how well they understand their past. You can be insightful, emotionally aware, and still feel stuck in the same patterns. Beca...
Many millennials are waking up to something previous generations rarely had language for. Childhood trauma. Emotional neglect. Attachment wounds. In this episode, I talk about what it means to be part of the first generation in many families actively trying to understand and heal these patterns. For a lot of people, this realisation comes with mixed emotions. Greater awareness can bring clarity. But it can also bring grief, anger, and confusion about how to hold compassion for our parents whi...
Burnout isn’t just feeling tired—it shows up in ways that quietly sabotage work, relationships, and daily life. In this episode, I sit down with clinical psychologist and friend Dr Claire Plumbly to explore how burnout presents in real life, share stories from clients, and reflect on our own experiences. We cover: • Common signs of burnout you might be missing • How burnout impacts relationships, work, and wellbeing • Practical ways we work with clients to prevent and recover from burnout • P...
If you’ve ever been told you have an anxious attachment style this episode is going to make you pause. In this conversation, I explore whether what we call anxious attachment is sometimes a nervous system responding to emotional inconsistency, unpredictability, or lack of safety in a relationship. We talk about: What anxious attachment actually is Why women are often labelled “anxious” too quickly The difference between attachment wounds and ongoing unsafe dynamics How emotional unavail...
In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 types of emotionally immature behaviour that high-functioning women often tolerate, excuse or overcompensate for. We cover: • What emotional immaturity actually looks like in adult relationships • The defensive partner who turns every conversation into an attack • Gaslighting and why it slowly erodes your self-trust • The minimiser who makes your feelings feel “too much” • The avoidant who disappears when things get real • The...
In this episode, I talk about the subtle, everyday ways attachment patterns show up in high functioning women. We explore: • Why replying quickly can be about regulation, not politeness • Why resting can feel uncomfortable, even when you’re exhausted • Why asking for help feels harder than just doing it yourself Attachment isn’t only romantic love. It shows up in how you move through your day, how safe you feel slowing down, and how much you carry on your own. 📱Book an initial con...
In this episode, we dive into high-functioning anxiety—what it really looks like, why it’s so common among high-achieving women, and how childhood experiences can secretly shape the way your nervous system responds to stress. We talk about: . How high-functioning anxiety shows up in day-to-day life . The hidden costs of always “being fine” . Why your nervous system can keep you in overdrive even when life seems calm . Small, practical steps to start calming your mind w...
If you've ever wondered what avoidant attachment looks like in women, this episode answers that and more. This looks at the root cause of avoidant attachment, starting with childhood and how it can impact relationships, parenting, friendships and work. Avoidant attachment doesn't always come with self awareness, but this episode looks at what happens when you pair self awareness in high functioning women and avoidant attachment. Listen until the end if you want insight on ho...
And we're back after a mini break with a brand new episode. In this episode, I’m speaking to high-functioning women who look fine on the outside but feel tense, switched on, and disconnected inside. You might be self-aware and insightful, yet still struggle to feel settled in your body or safe in your nervous system. We explore why understanding your patterns isn’t always enough, and how many women stay stuck in their heads instead of moving into embodiment and integration. I talk about...
Christmas has a way of bringing old family dynamics straight back to the surface. Even if you’ve done the work. Even if you’re self-aware. Even if you usually cope well. In this replay of one of my most listened-to episodes, I talk through practical, realistic ways to think about boundaries with family at Christmas. Especially when the dynamics are emotionally immature, critical, or draining. This episode is for you if: • You feel activated around family, even when you wish you wouldn’t...
You like to follow wellness practices but you’re not sure which ones are helpful for nervous system regulation and which ones to leave behind. There are so many choices that often tap into your deepest fears and insecurities and even with the best of intentions, can make you feel worse. This episode explores how you can tell the difference between what’s working and what isn’t and how to listen to yourself more so you can make empowered and informed choices. If you’ve been wonderi...
Have you ever wondered what it means to regulate your nervous system? In this episode you'll learn more about how nervous system regulation doesn't need to be complicated and a starting a simple exercise can help you to feel calmer and relieve anxiety. This is a supportive practice but it’s not a substitute for therapy. Lizandra is a MBACP Registered Psychotherapist based in the UK who works online and in St.Albans Hertfordshire. Visit the Website Book a free 15 ...
In this episode, I talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder and the subtle ways it can creep into your mood, motivation and day-to-day energy. You'll hear me cover: - What to do when you feel yourself withdrawing or shutting off -Simple daily habits that help -When to reach out for extra support If winter always feels harder and you're tired of pushing through on your own. this is the kind of work we do in therapy. I've got current availability for women who want support with anxiet...
Have you ever wondered if you’re the toxic one? Want to know the four toxic behaviours that happen in relationships that stem from an insecure attachment? In this episode, psychotherapist Lizandra explores the patterns that most people get stuck in when dealing with conflict. It’s the everyday behaviours that cause disconnection in the relationships that matter most. Ready to break your unhealthy relationship patterns and heal from the past? 📱Book your free 15 minute i...
Therapy is changing. 2026 is going to look very different for anyone who’s already on a healing journey. This episode breaks down what those changes actually mean for you. We talk about the rise of real connection in therapy. More relational work. More collective healing. Less of the “fix yourself alone” mindset that kept so many women stuck in burnout. We also get honest about AI. It’s growing fast. It can be useful. It’s not therapy. I explain why big tech is pushing into the mental health ...
The internet is talking about Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? Read the Article In this episode, Lizandra, a psychotherapist in private practice at New Frame Therapy talks about the decision to stop working with couples. It relates to the changes happening in relationships and why it's so hard to heal from attachment trauma and form trusting secure attachments in relationships. Connect on TikTok Connect on Instagram Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra ...
Abandonment doesn’t always look like what we think it does. It isn’t just about someone leaving or not choosing you. In this episode, I talk about the less obvious ways abandonment shows up. The ones that start in childhood and shape how we connect (or disconnect) as adults. You’ll hear about: The hidden forms of abandonment that often go unnoticed — like over-functioning or caretaking. How emotional abandonment in childhood can happen even in loving homes. The link between fear of bein...
Being called “needy” in a relationship can feel shaming but what if being needy isn’t the problem? In this episode, I unpack why we end up feeling anxious, clingy, or desperate for reassurance in relationships. We’ll explore how childhood experiences and attachment patterns shape our needs and why trying to suppress them only backfires. You’ll learn: Why needing connection is human — and when it gets labeled as “too much”The hidden cost of ignoring your needs or shutting downPractical s...
Lizandra is a BACP Registered Psychotherapist and Relationship Therapist based in the UK who works with adults healing from childhood trauma and high functioning anxiety. When most people think about healing, they focus on what they should be doing — journaling, setting boundaries, or practicing self-care. But just as important is what you need to stop doing. In this episode, I’m breaking down five common habits that can quietly hold you back from feeling secure in yourself and your relations...
If you’ve ever wondered why you’re working so hard on yourself but still feel stuck, this episode will help you see what needs to shift — and it’s probably not what you expect. Many people who identify as empaths are actually carrying codependent patterns that started in childhood. In this episode, we explore how to tell the difference between being codependent and being an empath and why that distinction matters for your healing. You’ll learn: The key differences between codependency a...
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