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Are you ready to thrive as you are coming out of a toxic or abusive relationship? Join Sybil Cummin, a licensed professional counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse for over a decade and runs a membership community for women on their healing journey. On this podcast you will finally feel understood and your experience will be validated as you learn tangible strategies to handle family court, coparent with your abuser, improve your connection with your children, and heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence.
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What constitutes moral injury? It is quite possible that you have experienced enough trauma to have symptoms of PTSD after experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse. And it is also possible that this is compounded by something even deeper; the destruction of your moral code. As promised in episode 50, I am doing a deep dive into all things moral injury so that I can help you become unstuck on your healing journey and find self-forgiveness which is required for healing. ...
Don’t sign off on your parenting plan until you have listened to this episode! There may be loopholes that a narcissistic ex-partner will exploit for years to come. Divorcing an abusive ex-partner leads to further abuse, called post-separation abuse, especially if you share children with them. The way our family court system is set up allows abuse to continue and at times actually seems to support the abuse. So, it is imperative that you know what loopholes to look out for ...
Did you grow up learning that you were never good enough? Did it feel normal when your abusive partner started their emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship? Growing up with a narcissistic parent can set you up for unhealthy relationships as an adult. Dr. Praveena specializes in working with adult children of narcissistic parents after her own experiences growing up. In this episode, we discuss how to change the thought patterns that were conditioned in your mind as...
Everyone talks about the escape from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship. The resources and support are for those trying to escape the abuse. But what if you were not trying to escape? What if the reason you are now separated from your abuser is that you were discarded? In this episode, we look at the differences in support, perception, and reactions after separation from an abusive partner when the victim is discarded vs someone who left on their own volition and tim...
You dream of the day when you can find freedom and safety for yourself and your children. You escape your abusive partner and are ready to start healing. But years later, you are still dealing with the onslaught of abuse; not only from your abuser but from their family as well. This is what my guest, Aimee has been dealing with for the last 13 years. Aimee shares her story of her abusive relationship and the post-separation abuse she has experienced and the near lethal incid...
If you are like many of The Rising Beyond Community members, then your WHY is around keeping your children safe, physically and emotionally. Getting your children the support they need after leaving an abusive relationship with their other parent can feel extremely overwhelming, especially if they have to continue to see that parent without having you as a buffer. Based on my training as a play therapist, I want to share some tips on building your child’s resilience after this transitio...
What questions do you have about post separation abuse? I received many many questions before, during, and after a webinar I did for domesticshelters.org and know that many of you have the same questions. In this episode I will be answering five of the questions received. If you have not left your abuser yet, how can you prepare for post separation abuse? What should we make sure we do? What should we avoid?Do you have some suggestions for safely maintaining boundaries whi...
Did you ever feel the nagging voice of your intuition telling you to get out or to stop a wedding and then ignore it? You had dreams of a happy marriage and children and you were trying to will that into existence even when there were red flags waving in your face? My guest, Amanda Lee knows this all too well. In this week’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Amanda shares her experience of falling in love with her abuser and getting married even when her gut was telling her to...
If you have just separated from your abusive ex and are facing family court for the first time or if you have been doing this for a while, it is important to have realistic expectations and tangible skills to use as you go through this process. In this episode, you will learn what to expect and how to mitigate the challenges of family court with a high-conflict personality ex-partner before you go to court, during a court hearing and testimony, and then in the aftermath. Some of the top...
Even at your lowest, after experiencing trauma and domestic violence, it is possible to heal and find your purpose. This week’s guest, Misty Chaviers shares her story of abuse and how she was able years later to heal and find her purpose as an advocate and podcaster helping other victims. She is vulnerable and shares how she used drugs and alcohol and eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope with the pain. We discuss how important it is for professionals working in this ...
Does witnessing domestic violence in your family of origin have effects on your relationships in adulthood? My guest, Lovern Gordon shares her experiences of witnessing her father abuse her mother during her childhood and how this affected her self-worth and identity and led her into becoming a victim of domestic violence later in life. We discuss the misconception that we could pick out an abusive person by how they look and about the mask they wear for the outside world. ...
You get to that point in your relationship where you know you can no longer live with the control and abuse. You separate from your abuser and are left to pick up the pieces. Now what? How do I recover from this? Where do I even start the healing process? In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Leanne Kanzler, a psychologist and coach on how she helps women and men who have separated from an abusive and controlling partner get back on their f...
Do you ever feel like you “should” be grateful, especially around the holidays — but underneath, you’re still angry, grieving, or exhausted? You’re not doing anything wrong. You’re being human. This episode explores how gratitude and anger can coexist, why both are valid, and how making room for all of your emotions can actually support your healing after abuse and during post-separation parenting. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why this season can intensify conflicting emotionsHow anger can...
What happens when you have every intention of showing up as the best mom possible and then things go awry and you show up as someone that you do not want to be? Do you beat yourself up for days? We all have bad mom moments no matter how intentional we are in our parenting. I even share some of my bad mom moments so that you do not feel alone in this. When those bad mom moments strike, there are things you can do to repair. And the repair is extremely important because it...
How long do you think it takes for someone to heal after leaving a cult? Coercive control is the underlying tactic of narcissistic abuse relationships, often known as a cult of one. Does it give you more self compassion as you work towards healing when you realize that your healing mimics the healing of someone healing from a cult? In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I do a deep dive into the similarities between domestic violence and narcissistic abuse relationships and tho...
In this final Friday Coaching Corner of 2025, Sybil follows up on a previous episode after hearing from a listener whose story echoes so many others navigating malicious interference in the parent–child relationship. This mom has been enduring post-separation abuse for over two years, including weaponized court orders, ignored therapeutic directives, and a teen who has been heavily influenced by the abusive parent. She asks Sybil to address three painful and important questions: How can...
Speaking out about abuse is never easy. For survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, telling the truth can feel like reclaiming your voice and your dignity, but telling the truth often comes with a significant cost: retaliation. In this episode I do a deep dive (and a bit of a rant) into the reasons why a narcissist feels the need to retaliate and the steps that they take to silence you and anyone who supports you. They use threats, smear campaigns, and then move to reven...
Do the double standards that show up in a narcissistic relationship and “co-parenting” relationship drive you crazy? Double standards are a hallmark of narcissistic abuse and are pervasive even (maybe especially) after you have left the relationship. In this episode we explore why someone with narcissism requires these double standards to work in their world and how the larger system allows and supports them to continue. We also discuss ways in which you can lessen their emotional imp...
In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a mom’s heartfelt question that so many survivors share: “How do I support my children’s relationship with their dad—because the court says I have to—while knowing he is emotionally and psychologically abusing them every week?” This episode dives deep into one of the hardest balancing acts for protective parents: offering emotional honesty and safety without crossing into parental alienation. You’ll hear strategies and validation around: How...
How do you communicate with someone who continues to abuse you post separation? I cannot stress how important it is to learn how to communicate with your “high conflict” co-parent in ways that will protect you and your mental health in order to better protect your children. In this episode I talk with Jill Kaufman about how she supports those going through a “high conflict” divorce and post separation abuse find peace in their lives while also having to communicate with their coparent about...
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