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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.
This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it.
Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.
Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense.
This podcast tackles real challenges like:
How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty
Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop)
Setting boundaries that actually stick
Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence
Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations
Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control
...and more
This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.
Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve.
Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change.
New episodes weekly.
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Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Most people who never learned how to apologize don't even realize that's the problem. I grew up in a Korean household where apologies never happened, so I spent years refusing to apologize without understanding what that was doing to my relationships. In this episode, I'm getting into why some people genuinely can't apologize, why over-apologizing does just as much damage, and what shifted for me when I finally stopped holding back. In this episode: Gro...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without realizing it, and why that kept people from actually connecting with me. Topics covered in this episode: The Golden Buddha story and why we cover ourselves up to feel safeHow I discovered that being "the smart one" wa...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns. I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it. In this episode I'm getting into what unmet needs actually are, how they're different from values, and how they've been running my life in ways I didn't see for years. I share my own story of years of buying way too much stuff and filling up...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Setting boundaries in relationships is one of those things most of us were never properly taught. In this episode, I break down what is a boundary, my 4-step formula, and how to actually set boundaries without being mean with family, friends, and coworkers. Topics covered in this episode: What a boundary actually is (and what it isn't)Why setting boundaries feels selfish, especially for people pleasersSigns you need stronger boundariesThe 4-step boundar...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Why finding your purpose feels impossible: If you have no career direction, feel trapped by the golden handcuffs, and don't know what your next step is, I get it. I spent 39 years cycling through careers I didn't enjoy before I finally found my calling in coaching. In this episode, I talk about why so many of us end up stuck in careers we don't care about and how to choose your next career when you don't know where to start. Topics covered in this episo...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) If you keep getting interviews but not offers, the biggest problem may not be your qualifications. In this episode, I break down the scarcity, desperation, impostor thinking, and interview mindset mistakes that make strong candidates come across shaky. If you've been wondering why you feel so nervous in job interviews, this one's for you. With over a million layoffs in the US in 2025 alone and more people competing for fewer roles, it's taking longer th...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're left wondering what is a friend, really, and what do I actually need from the people around me? I sat down with four people to explore their experiences with friends to answer exactly that. What came out of the...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem. If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episode is going to change what you understand about it. I kept seeing this pattern in my clients, my friends, pretty much everyone around me. They can't stop comparing and they're exhausted. So I dug into it, and what...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Relationship advice from Reddit gets a lot of things wrong. As a coach who works with couples and individuals on communication, boundaries, and emotional patterns, I break down three of the most common relationship posts and unpack what people are asking versus what they actually need to resolve. In this episode, I cover: A girlfriend wondering if she's being manipulative for demanding her boyfriend go to therapy, and why the real issue isn't about mani...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Overcoming a negative mindset, and how I turned my toxic negativity around. If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewriting your mental habits, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake affirmations. This is the framework that helped me get out of a constant...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Women and money mindset. If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially. In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspending and start building wealth. We get brutally honest about our own money mistakes: my near-dail...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out. I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spent two years doing everything except building that business. I was com...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) If you’ve ever hit a big milestone and thought, “that’s it?” - this episode is for you. I’m breaking down why success can still feel empty, why you might struggle to feel proud even after achieving something meaningful, and how imposter thinking and “not earning it the right way” strip the satisfaction out of your wins. In this episode, I talk about what it is like to finish something big - self-love affirmation cards - and still not feel proud, confide...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right now, this episode may feel like a mirror. 2025 wasn’t a highlight reel. I cut ties with my closest friend. I lost my brother unexpectedly. My dad was hospitalized. I was sick on and off for most of the year. And my business barely sta...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you. I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I spent years starting things and quietly stopping, even when I really wanted change. This episode comes from my own experience with ADHD, autism, and struggling with goals and consistency in a way I couldn’t expla...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) If you’ve ever caught yourself making a decision that felt off—like it came from a place of fear, proving yourself, or ego, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my very first guest on the podcast, the incredible podcast visibility coach Chardét Ryel: host of Feel Good Nakd and Her First Three Years. We talk about what ego-driven decisions really look like, how burnout shows up, and why proving yourself is one of the fastest paths to exhaustion. We als...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Healthy emotional processing is more than just “feeling your feelings” - it’s a critical skill most of us were never taught. If you’ve ever rushed to fix a problem because that's what you thought you were supposed to do, or found yourself repeating the same emotional cycles, this episode will show you why. I’m unpacking what happens when you skip emotional reflection and go straight into problem-solving, how emotional repression shows up, and why ...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Why is it so hard to leave situations we know deep down aren't right for us? Whether it’s a relationship that’s run its course or a job that drains us daily, many of us find ourselves stuck—unable to move forward even when the decision seems obvious on paper. In this episode of This Is How You Think, we're unpacking one of the most common (yet least understood) reasons why we stay in cycles that don’t serve us. This conversation dives into the ver...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) We've all heard the same gratitude tips a thousand times. Practice daily gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal. Name three things you're thankful for. Simple, right? And yet, people don't actually stick with their gratitude practice. At least not consistently. In this episode, I'm getting into why gratitude habits don't last, and it has nothing to do with willpower. There's a reason the usual advice doesn't work for most people—and once you understand wha...
Text Jule comments or topic requests :) What is mental toughness? What is mental strength? Mental toughness can help you survive almost anything — but at what point does it start to cost you? In this episode, we talk about the line between mental toughness and mental strength, especially when boundaries feel impossible and self-abandonment starts to feel normal. When you're always the one fixing things, helping others, and staying calm under pressure, it’s easy to miss the impact that r...
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