The Midlife Sex Coach for Women™ Podcast

Creating Your Sexual Self-Identity: Becoming the Woman You Choose to Be Now In this powerful episode of The Midlife Sex Coach for Women Podcast, Dr. Sonia Wright invites you to rethink everything you've been taught about your sexuality and desire in midlife. So many women carry an outdated sexual identity formed in their 20s and 30s — shaped by culture, relationships, religion, body changes, menopause, and past experiences. But what if your sexual self-identity isn't something you "find"… but something you intentionally create? Inspired by identity-based coaching principles taught by Voss Coaching Co, this episode explores how lasting change doesn't start with willpower or techniques — it starts with who you believe yourself to be. When you shift your identity, your thoughts, behaviors, and intimacy naturally begin to change. In this episode, you'll learn how to: 💎 Identify the outdated sexual identity you may still be living from 💎 Release roles that no longer fit the woman you are today 💎 Choose a new sexual self-identity on purpose 💎 Practice becoming the woman you want to be now — not who you were decades ago 💎 Create intimacy and pleasure in midlife without pressure or perfection 💎 Gently work with resistance, shame, and old conditioning This conversation is for you if you've ever thought: "I'm just not a sexual person anymore." "My desire disappeared after menopause." "I want more intimacy, but I don't know how to become that woman." You are not broken. You are not late. You are not behind. You are in the powerful process of becoming. Your sexuality in midlife isn't about going back to who you used to be — it's about choosing who you are becoming now. 🎧 Listen in and begin creating your sexual self-identity on purpose. ✨ Learn more about Dr. Sonia's programs and the Diamond Intimacy Collective: 👉 Click Here for The Diamond Intimacy Collective

🎙 Episode 215: Valentine's Is Not a Day — It's a Beginning Valentine's Day is often treated like the one day a year we're "supposed" to focus on intimacy, connection, and romance. But for so many midlife women, this day can bring up pressure, disappointment, or a quiet grief about what intimacy looks like right now. In this episode, Dr. Sonia gently reframes Valentine's Day — not as a performance, but as a beginning. A moment to choose a new direction for your intimacy. Not for one night, but for an entire year of meaningful, connected intimacy with yourself first, and with any partners you have. You'll hear why intimacy is not a holiday — it's a practice — and how small, compassionate steps can rebuild safety, desire, and connection in your body and relationships. This episode is an invitation to release pressure, let go of perfection, and begin practicing intimacy in a way that feels supportive, real, and sustainable. If Valentine's Day brings up complicated feelings for you, you're not alone. Let this episode remind you that you are not behind — you are right on time for the intimacy you're ready to create now. 💎 Learn more about practicing intimacy as a way of living inside the Diamond Intimacy Collective:  Learn More About The Collective

OYSN! Legacy Series – Bonus Replay Episode 116 As part of the OYSN! Legacy Series, I'm sharing this special bonus replay featuring one of my Diamonds, Velvet Flair, whose story reflects what so many midlife women experience—but rarely talk about. When Velvet Flair joined Own Your Sexuality Now!, she was newly post-menopause and feeling stuck in both her life and her marriage. She knew something wasn't working, felt like she was in crisis with her husband, and realized she needed support beyond what she could do on her own. Opening up about sexual intimacy felt uncomfortable at first—but once she did, everything began to shift. In this episode, Velvet Flair shares the beliefs she carried about intimacy before joining OYSN, what finally motivated her to seek help, and how her relationship and sense of self transformed once she allowed herself to be supported.  https://soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/ ✨ Special Invitation If this conversation resonates with you, Own Your Sexuality Now is being offered one final time, starting Saturday, January 31, as a live weekend intensive on Zoom. This is the last OYSN! Intensive for the foreseeable future, and it's an opportunity to do this work deeply, intentionally, and in community with Dr. Sonia. 👉 Learn more and join us here: Own Your Sexuality Now Intensive: https://soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/ 💎 Your desires matter. 💎 Your intimacy can evolve. 💎 You don't have to do this alone.

OYSN! Legacy Series – Bonus Replay Episode 115 As part of the OYSN! Legacy Series, I'm sharing this special bonus replay featuring one of my Diamonds, Juicy Fruit, whose story speaks to the quiet pain so many women carry for far too long. In this episode, Juicy Fruit opens up about what life felt like before she chose to work on her intimacy and sense of self. Like many women, she had learned to put her desires last, remain in situations that no longer served her, and silence her own needs—until she realized how disconnected and unhappy she had become. This conversation explores the moment of awakening that led her to choose herself, the shifts she made through the Own Your Sexuality Now! program, and how reconnecting with her worth, voice, and desires transformed both her inner world and her relationships. These Legacy Series replays honor the real stories of women who allowed themselves to see the truth of where they were—and courageously chose something more. 💎 Your desires matter. 💎 Your voice matters. 💎 You are worthy of intimacy that feels alive and aligned. Click on the link to find out more about OYSN! Enrollment ends on 1/30/26 at midnight!  👉https://soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/👈

OYSN! Legacy Series – Replay Episode 114 As part of the OYSN! Legacy Series, I'm sharing this special replay episode that highlights the real, lived experiences of women who chose to step into deeper intimacy and self-connection. In this conversation, we explore themes that so many women relate to—how life transitions, relationships, and personal history can quietly shape desire, sexual identity, and emotional closeness. This episode offers an honest look at what it means to notice what's no longer working, ask for support, and begin making intentional changes around intimacy. These Legacy Series replays honor the courage it takes to speak openly, reflect honestly, and allow growth—especially in midlife, when intimacy is ready to evolve rather than disappear. The topics shared in today's replay are the same ones we address inside the Own Your Sexuality Now group coaching program, where women come together in a supportive space to reconnect with desire, rebuild intimacy, and create relationships that feel aligned and nourishing. 💎 Your story matters. 💎 Your intimacy can change. 💎 You don't have to do this alone. Click Here to find out more about OYSN! https://soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/

As part of the OYSN! Legacy Series, I'm sharing this special replay from the Own Your Sexuality Now podcast episode 113—an intimate and honest conversation with one of my incredible Diamonds, Didi. In this episode, Didi reflects on her personal journey through intimacy, growth, and self-discovery, and what it meant for her to choose herself. Her story is a powerful reminder that transformation doesn't come from perfection—it comes from courage, curiosity, and support. These Legacy Series replay episodes are a celebration of the real women who have walked this path, done the work, and allowed themselves to evolve in deeply meaningful ways. If this conversation resonates with you, know that this is the heart of the work we do inside Own Your Sexuality Now—helping midlife women reconnect with desire, confidence, and authentic intimacy. 💎 You are not alone. 💎 Your intimacy gets to evolve. 💎 This is your time. ✨ Enroll in the final OYSN Live Weekend Intensive 1/31 and 2/1: 👉 https://www.soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/ ✨ Not sure if OYSN is the right fit? Dr. Sonia has opened a limited number of 20-minute consults so you can talk it through and get clarity. 👉 Click the consultation link https://SoniaWrightMD.as.me/OYSNIntensive.

🎙 Episode 214: Own Your Sexuality Now — The Legacy Series Five Years of Intimacy Transformation In this deeply personal and reflective episode, Dr. Sonia Wright takes you behind the scenes of Own Your Sexuality Now (OYSN)—the transformational intimacy program that has supported the sexual and emotional awakening of hundreds of women over the past five years. This episode marks a powerful moment in the evolution of OYSN. After more than half a decade of coaching women through desire, disconnection, shame, pleasure, body image, libido, and intimacy, Dr. Sonia shares a major announcement: OYSN will be placed on hold for the foreseeable future. That makes the upcoming OYSN Live Weekend Intensive (January 31–February 1) the final opportunity to experience this work in its current form. In this Legacy Series episode, Dr. Sonia reflects on: why OYSN was first created in 2020 during the height of the pandemic how the program evolved from a 12-week online course to small-group coaching and finally to an immersive live weekend intensive what five years of intimacy coaching has taught her about women, desire, libido, shame, pleasure, and healing You'll hear the core truths that emerged again and again inside OYSN: women are not broken—the system is libido is not the problem; context is shame dissolves faster in safe community pleasure begins with self-compassion laughter is healing intimacy transforms when women stop abandoning themselves Dr. Sonia also walks you through what actually happens during the OYSN Intensive Weekend, including: anxiety, sex, and perfectionism body image and coming home to yourself vulva anatomy and sexual health redefining libido pleasure, prioritization, and choice the Sexual Smorgasbord (yes, toys included) creating your personal pleasure plan moving forward This episode is not meant to pressure or convince—it is an invitation to reflect, feel, and decide what you want the next 20, 30, or 40 years of intimacy to look like. 🎧 Listen to this episode if: intimacy feels muted, confusing, heavy, or disconnected you're tired of feeling pressure or guilt around sex you want intimacy on your terms you're ready to reconnect with your body, desire, and truth ✨ Enroll in the final OYSN Live Weekend Intensive: 👉 https://www.soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/ ✨ Not sure if OYSN is the right fit? Dr. Sonia has opened a limited number of 20-minute consults so you can talk it through and get clarity. 👉 Click the consultation link https://SoniaWrightMD.as.me/OYSNIntensive. This is legacy work. This is reclamation. This is coming home to yourself.

🎙 Podcast Episode 213 From Insight to Intimacy (Part 2): Five More Action Steps to Create Real Change Insight is powerful — but insight alone does not change intimacy. Action does. In Episode 213 of the Midlife Sex Coach for Women Podcast, Dr. Sonia continues the From Insight to Intimacy series with Part 2, guiding you through five additional action steps designed to help you move from awareness into embodiment, ownership, and leadership in your intimate life. If you listened to Part 1 and found yourself saying, "I understand why intimacy has been hard… now what?" — this episode is your answer. This conversation is about doing, not fixing. It's about creating intimacy through choice, practice, and self-leadership, rather than waiting for motivation, confidence, or the "right time." In this episode, Dr. Sonia walks you through Action Steps 6–10, focusing on how intimacy begins with your relationship to yourself and expands outward into your life and relationships. ✨ In this episode, you'll explore how to: 💎 Schedule intimacy with yourself first and learn why self-connection is the foundation of partnered intimacy. Understand and explore your own body so that you can identify what you like and want. 💎 Practice asking for what you want in low-stakes situations, building the muscle of desire expression and emotional safety 💎 Set boundaries that protect your energy, because exhaustion is one of the biggest intimacy killers 💎 Introduce novelty without pressure, using curiosity and sensory awareness to wake your body up 💎 Decide that intimacy is a priority this year, not a someday goal or afterthought This episode gently challenges the cultural conditioning many midlife women have internalized — the belief that wanting more is selfish, that pleasure must be earned, or that intimacy naturally fades with age. Dr. Sonia reminds you that intimacy is not lost — it is practiced. You don't need to do everything at once. You don't need to be "fixed." You simply need to start with one small, intentional action. If you are ready to move from understanding intimacy to living it, this episode offers practical guidance, emotional validation, and a compassionate path forward. 🎧 Listen now and choose one action step to begin creating the intimacy you desire. ✨ And if you're looking for deeper guidance, community, and ongoing support, Dr. Sonia invites you to explore the Diamond Intimacy Collective, where these conversations continue and real transformation happens together. https://www.skool.com/diamond-intimacy-collective/about

New Year, New Intimacy: 10 Actions That Change Everything What if 2026 wasn't the year you thought about changing your intimacy… but the year you actually did something different? In this powerful first part of a two-part series, Dr. Sonia moves beyond insight and awareness and into action—because clarity without action does not change your intimate life. Over the last few episodes, we've laid the foundation: • Honesty • Awareness • Compassion • Releasing old intimacy stories Now it's time to move. In Episode 212 (Part 1), Dr. Sonia shares the first five of ten action steps that help midlife women begin creating intimacy that actually fits who they are now—not who they used to be, and not who society says they "should" be. This episode is conversational, story-driven, and deeply grounding. Dr. Sonia openly shares her own experiences, including what it was like spending years in a sexless marriage, how we slowly tolerate disconnection, and why awareness alone is not enough to create change. In this episode, you'll explore: 💎 Why self-compassion and action are both required for transformation 💎 How naming your intimacy truth creates immediate movement 💎 The stories we tell ourselves to tolerate intimacy issues—and how to loosen their grip 💎 How to begin releasing beliefs that no longer serve your desire or connection 💎 Gentle ways to reconnect with your body without pressure, goals, or performance 💎 How to redefine intimacy for the current version of yourself These are not abstract ideas. They are real, doable actions you can begin today—even if you feel tired, disconnected, unsure, or stuck. This episode is especially for you if: • You've been thinking about intimacy for a long time but haven't known how to start • You feel disconnected from your body or desire • You suspect "this is just how it is now" might be a story—not a fact • You want intimacy that feels authentic, nourishing, and aligned with midlife ✨ This is Part 1 of a 2-part series. Next week, in Episode 213 (Part 2), Dr. Sonia will share Action Steps 6–10, where the work becomes even more embodied, communicative, and integrated into real life. 💎 Community Invitation If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to go deeper, Dr. Sonia has created a private Skool community called The Diamond Intimacy Collective—a supportive space for midlife women who want to practice this work together through reflection, conversation, and action. 👉Click Here to find out more about the Diamond Intimacy Collective👈  or go to bit.ly/DiamondIntimacy Until next time, beautiful Diamond— be gentle with yourself, take one small action, and remember: Your intimacy is not gone. She's evolving right along with you. 💎

New Year, New Diamond Intimacy — What Really Needs to Shift In this final episode of the New Year, New Diamond Intimacy series, Dr. Sonia explores what truly stands in the way of creating the intimacy you want—and why it's often not what you think. Many women believe intimacy will improve if they try harder, push through exhaustion, or fix themselves. In this episode, Dr. Sonia offers a powerful reframe: intimacy doesn't respond to pressure—it responds to safety, self-compassion, and support. You'll learn why tiredness, low desire, body changes, and communication challenges aren't obstacles to overcome, but signals pointing to what needs care and intention. This episode invites you to move from self-blame to self-support and to see intimacy as something to be nurtured, not forced. This conversation brings the three-part series together with a clear message: you are not broken—you are evolving, and your intimacy gets to evolve with you. ✨ This episode also shares information about The New Year, New Diamond Intimacy Experience, a high-touch coaching opportunity for women ready to create intimacy that feels aligned, nourishing, and alive.

New Year, New Diamond Intimacy — Imagination ...Designing the Intimacy You Want In this second episode of the New Year, New Diamond Intimacy series, Dr. Sonia invites you to move beyond reflection and into vision. Rather than recreating intimacy from the past, this episode focuses on intentionally designing intimacy that fits the woman you are now. Dr. Sonia encourages you to release outdated definitions of sex and desire and instead explore what intimacy could feel like when it truly supports you—emotionally, physically, and energetically. You'll reflect on how you want intimacy to feel in the year ahead, identify what no longer serves you, and begin imagining intimacy as something you choose, not manage. This episode is about possibility, permission, and creating a future that feels aligned rather than pressured. ✨ This episode also shares information about The New Year, New Diamond Intimacy Experience, a high-touch coaching opportunity for women ready to turn vision into intentional, supported change.

As we approach the New Year, many women feel pressure to "fix" their intimacy. In this episode, Dr. Sonia invites you to do something different. Instead of judgment or goal-setting, this first episode in the New Year, New Diamond Intimacy series focuses on awareness—looking honestly and compassionately at what intimacy was (and wasn't) for you over the past year. Using a playful A Christmas Carol metaphor, Dr. Sonia helps you visit the "ghost of intimacy past" to gather information, not blame. You'll explore how intimacy felt in your body, what supported connection, what made it harder, and how emotional load, exhaustion, perfectionism, and outdated expectations quietly shape desire. This episode is an invitation to replace self-criticism with curiosity—and to begin the New Year from a place of clarity, kindness, and choice. ✨ This episode also introduces The New Year, New Diamond Intimacy Experience, a high-touch coaching opportunity for women ready to intentionally create intimacy that fits the woman they are now.  

Do you ever reach the end of the day feeling emotionally drained—and then wonder why you have no desire for sex? In this episode, Dr. Sonia explores how the invisible emotional and mental labor women carry throughout the day follows them into the bedroom, quietly shutting down desire and intimacy. This isn't a libido problem—it's a capacity problem. You'll learn why desire cannot exist in a stressed nervous system, how "to-do list sex" and emotional overgiving lead to resentment and numbness, and why pushing through exhaustion only deepens disconnection. Dr. Sonia also shares how intimacy actually begins outside the bedroom, with rest, relief, and support—not pressure. ✨ In this episode, we discuss: 💎 Why emotional exhaustion kills desire 💎 The invisible load women carry—and how it affects intimacy 💎 How sex becomes performative when your tank is empty 💎 The nervous system truth about libido and stress 💎 How to talk to your partner about desire without blame 💎 What desire truly needs to return—naturally If sex has started to feel like one more thing on your to-do list, this episode offers reassurance, clarity, and a compassionate path forward. 👉 Learn more about Own Your Sexuality Now (OYSN) in the show notes.  

Your sexual evolution has no deadline. In this episode, Dr. Sonia shares why intimacy transformation in midlife can't be rushed or forced into a timeline. Becoming a sensual, confident woman is not about being "fixed" fast — it's about identity work, mindset shifts, emotional waves, and showing up even when things feel slow or messy. We talk about the myth of "I should be there already," the seasons of sexual evolution, and how to hold both grace and action while you grow. This episode is your reminder that you're not late — you're evolving.

So many women think improving intimacy requires a big transformation — the perfect mood, the perfect day, the perfect partner response, a 30-day sex sprint, or a complete mindset overhaul. But real intimacy doesn't grow from pressure. It grows from small actions done with presence, curiosity, and consistency. In today's episode, Dr. Sonia shares the most powerful intimacy tool available to every midlife woman: tiny lived actions that build confidence, awaken desire, and reshape sexual identity — one moment at a time. You'll learn why waiting to "feel ready" keeps women stuck, and how simple daily actions can teach your brain and body that you are a woman who deserves connection, pleasure, and confidence. Inside this episode, you'll hear: 💎 why confidence doesn't come before sexual intimacy — it comes from it 💎 how the brain learns through repetition and the body learns through sensation 💎 how small actions, done consistently, rewire sexual identity 💎 the exact signs that sexual energy is beginning to wake up 💎 10 simple actions any woman can take this week to deepen intimacy (no pressure, no performance required) The transformation you're craving doesn't start with a huge leap — it starts with one tiny "yes" to yourself.

If I just focus on this a little longer. We need to feel good and content and ready before we act. And that is the trap really, when your brain is scared, when libido has been dormant, when intimacy feels awkward or vulnerable, when self image isn't fully healed, thoughts and feelings won't be perfect. They just won't be. So listen to me closely when I say this…your thoughts   So many women spend their time thinking about improving intimacy instead of actually living intimacy. We journal, analyze, consume self-help, and wait to feel "ready" — but meanwhile nothing changes. In this episode, Dr. Sonia explains why thoughts and feelings will never become perfect and comfortable before you act and why action — even tiny action — is what actually shifts sexual identity, desire, and confidence. If you've been stuck in your head about intimacy, this one is for you. You'll learn why the brain tries to keep you waiting, how action becomes identity, how momentum awakens desire, and the #1 question to ask yourself this week to get unstuck. Plus, Dr. Sonia gives a simple real-world assignment to take one step toward deeper pleasure and connection — without pressure, perfection, or performance. Enrollment Open: The next Own Your Sexuality Now! Weekend Intensive is happening January 31 & February 1, 2026. Enroll by Saturday, November 29th to receive a FREE 60-minute private consultation call with Dr. Sonia. www.soniawrightmd.com/oysn-intensive/  

Midlife just got a whole lot brighter. In this game-changing episode, Dr. Sonia breaks down the incredibly good news that the long-standing health advisory label on estrogen (HRT) has finally been removed. For decades, this warning scared women away from safe, effective hormone therapy — and kept millions struggling with symptoms they didn't have to suffer through. ✨ Today we talk about what the label really meant ✨ Why it has now been removed ✨ What the updated science actually shows ✨ And how this shift can change your intimacy, health, and pleasure in midlife If you've ever been told to "tough it out" through menopause… If you've been afraid hormones might be dangerous… If you've been struggling with dryness, pain during intimacy, low libido, brain fog, sleep issues, or mood shifts… This episode is your permission slip to feel good again. Estrogen isn't the enemy — misinformation is. And now that the advisory label is gone, women have access to informed choices, real relief, and the chance to reclaim their energy, vitality, and sexuality. Because you deserve more than crumbs. You deserve the comfort. The connection. The pleasure. And you deserve a midlife that feels good. Listen now — your body (and your libido) will thank you.

In this empowering episode of the Midlife Sex Coach for Women podcast, Dr. Sonia Wright dives into the transformative journey of midlife. Through candid storytelling and insightful guidance, she explores the "12 Step Clean Your Damn Toilet Transformation," encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves, set boundaries, and seek joy and fulfillment. Dr. Wright shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on overcoming life's challenges, finding pleasure, and creating a legacy of empowerment. Tune in to discover how to rise and become the person you were always meant to be.  

In this episode, Dr. Sonia Wright shares a heartfelt dedication to her late mother, exploring themes of empowerment, self-compassion, and the journey of self-discovery for women in midlife. She discusses the importance of living a no-regrets life, embracing one's desires, and the transformative power of midlife as a portal to a more powerful chapter. Dr. Wright invites listeners to join a movement of awakening, where women can reconnect with their true selves and live life fully.

Dr. Sonia Wright returns with a new season of her podcast, focusing on empowering women in midlife to embrace their sexuality and life without shame. She shares her journey of self-discovery and the importance of self-care, while promising deeper discussions on pleasure, relationships, and self-love.