Your Virtual Upline Podcast

What if the reason your team isn't growing has less to do with what you're teaching them and more to do with what they haven't yet developed within themselves?   In this episode, we explore one of the most overlooked distinctions in leadership development: Capability vs. Capacity.   Through powerful real-life leadership experiences, you'll discover why knowing what to do isn't always enough, how even the most caring leaders can unintentionally create dependency, and what it takes to develop people who can move forward without constantly needing encouragement, reassurance, or external results to validate them.   Because great leadership isn't just about teaching people how to grow a business.    It's about helping them become the kind of people who can grow without losing themselves in the process.

What if the reason you've stopped setting goals, checking your numbers, or pursuing growth isn't because those things no longer matter... but because you don't want to be disappointed again? In this episode, I share one of the most important discoveries I've made about fear-led and LOVE-LED Growth: fear doesn't always push us to work harder. Sometimes it convinces us to stop wanting more. We'll explore why goals and ambition were never the enemy, how fear can disguise itself as peace, and what it really means to pursue meaningful business growth without allowing the results to define who you are. LOVE-LED Growth isn't about wanting less. It's about learning to want something again from a different source.

My new book LOVE-LED GROWTH is out now! Grab your copy here: https://a.co/d/0fyQDaYU Most of us haven't stopped telling the truth. We've just learned which parts of it feel safe to share. This conversation might change the way you think about telling the truth, leading others, and helping people see what's possible for themselves. If this conversation connects with you, Join me inside THE TRUTH ROOM™ on November 17th - 19th.  https://courses.yourvirtualupline.com/truthroom You'll learn how to create content that makes the right people want to start conversations with you. It's a three-day LIVE experience where I'll teach you a simple process to find meaningful things to share, turn them into content that connects, and keep creating in a way that feels true to you. There's a different way to grow your business, and it starts with a different way of leading yourself.

Missy Hydes is a NVP with Arbonne that has been in this profession for 22 years. In 2019, something happened she has never been able to explain. For three months, her business multiplied in a way that didn't make any sense. She wasn't pushing. She wasn't up until 2 a.m. on the closing night turning over every rock. She was running a 6 a.m. bible study, and telling her team that she loved them. Every day. Here's what she couldn't explain. The people on her team started moving without her having to carry them. Other leaders started asking her what she was doing and she didn't even know what to tell them. Because the honest answer wasn't a system or a strategy. She couldn't explain it.  Twelve days after her big promotion, she wrote something in her journal: 'I can tell fear is trying to creep in, because I'm already afraid we're gonna lose everything we've just built.' Over the next three years, she lost the title and watched most of her leaders quietly lay their businesses down. But she never left. Even though there were plenty of moments when she wanted to. Somewhere along the way she stopped telling her team she loved them. Stopped talking about culture. Started to focus on the rank, the numbers, and the pressures of leadership. She even reached a point where she completely stopped posting on social media altogether. What she didn't realize was all the weight of carrying the rank and success caused her to emotionally disconnect from the business she once loved.  This conversation with Missy is about the season she could never explain, what happened when the scoreboard became the source of her confidence, and what she's beginning to understand about both of those things right now.  It's also about what HASN'T changed yet. Her numbers aren't up. But she said something that might matter even more: 'I don't feel successful. But I finally feel free.'

Annie Steicke is a RVP with Arbonne. For 13 years she believed great leaders stayed strong no matter what. They didn't let their team see them struggle. They stayed positive, held everything together, and carried the weight silently. From the outside, her business looked successful. Inside, leadership was getting heavier. In this episode of Behind the Rank, Annie shares what happened when she realized she had spent years confusing perfomrance with leadership, why pretending everything was okay slowly disconnected her from her self and the people she loved most, and how one simple act of telling the truth changed everything. Together, we explore: Why so many good leaders mistake emotional disconnection for strength The hidden cost of always feelilng like you have to hold it together for everyone else What happened when Annie shared a post she'd spent years believing she could never write What LOVE-LED Leadership looks like when you stop performing and start leading form who you really are If you've ever felt like being a strong leader meant hiding what you were carrying, I think this conversation will help you see leadership, and yourself, in a completely different way. Wondering why your business only works when YOU'RE working? Join me for my brand new free, live diagnostic Leadership Ceiling Experience! It's a weekly live session that happens at 12 ET on Tuesday each week.  https://courses.yourvirtualupline.com/ceiling