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Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. I ensure your mistakes don’t become your permanent reality.
The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers is the essential operational briefing for men navigating the most high-stakes transition of their lives. In a family court system that rewards preparation, pattern, and restraint, this podcast serves as your Command Center for protecting your parental role and securing your children’s future.
Hosted by Jude Sandvall, each weekly briefing delivers mission-critical intelligence designed to help you navigate the "Decision Gap"—the critical time between court dates where your long-term influence as a father is either won or lost through tactical preparation or strategic drift.
Every episode provides the tactical advantage you need to:
- Identify Exposure Points: Pinpoint the subtle mistakes that lead to the "quiet loss" of your parental authority.
- Master Restraint: Develop the high-conflict emotional regulation required to remain calm and defensible under pressure.
- Execute Strategy: Move from reactive "hot mess" to a proactive Strategic Defense Blueprint.
- Bridge the Lawyer Gap: Learn to manage the daily communications and co-parenting precedents that your attorney isn’t designed to handle.
Since 2020, Jude has distilled thousands of hours of coaching and real-world case files into a primary resource for fathers who refuse to be sidelined. This is not just a podcast; it is your guide to paternal authority and role preservation.
Access full briefings and collective intelligence inside the Command Center: https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/
Stay strong—your kids are counting on you.
DISCLAIMER: The purpose of this podcast is to provide strategic information, not legal influence. It is not a substitute for professional legal or psychological care. The host and guests express their own tactical opinions and experiences; The Divorced Dadvocate neither endorses nor opposes specific views discussed.
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The custody battle isn’t decided by a gavel—it’s decided in the quiet hours between court dates. We break down the decision gap, the stretch of weeks where messages, handoffs, and “temporary” deals stack into the patterns a judge will actually see. If you’ve ever fired off a heated text, argued on a porch during pickup, or let a holiday slide without a makeup day, you’ve felt the drift: the slow erosion of paternal authority that turns well‑meaning compromises into a new status quo. We pull ...
The most dangerous part of divorce isn’t the courtroom—it’s the quiet hours between filings where patterns form, and evidence takes shape. We unpack why support alone won’t protect your parenting time and show how a command center mindset helps you close the “decision gap” that turns great dads into weekend visitors. Being unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorced...
The gut-punch of high-conflict divorce isn’t just the paperwork or the silence after a slammed door—it’s realizing the system you’ve entered runs on efficiency, not fairness. We sit down with strategist and author Alex R. Dane, whose High Conflict Playbook was forged in the fire of restricted access, weaponized narratives, and court calendars that move slower than a parent’s panic. Together, we unpack how he went from shock to strategy and earned 50-50 by becoming the calmest, most consistent...
Rebuilding life after divorce often feels like a test of sheer will, but grit alone rarely carries us past Friday without a crash. The missing piece is environment—the external space we live in and the internal landscape we think in. When our surroundings pull us toward distraction, anger, or numbing, our habits follow. The key shift is to design conditions where the best behavior becomes the easiest behavior. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Memb...
The hardest seasons can also be the clearest mirrors. When divorce turns up the heat, it doesn’t create flaws—it reveals the skills you were never taught and now urgently need. We open up about the cracks that surfaced under stress, from shutting down emotionally to fighting without resolving, and map a practical path from intention to execution. Love powers the journey, but skills steer it—presence, boundaries, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation. Join our Signal Channel: https://s...
Your battery isn’t empty because you’re weak—it’s drained because divorce floods your day with nonstop decisions and emotional friction. We unpack why willpower fails under that load and how simple, durable structure can carry you when grit runs out. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membersh...
The new year can feel loud with resolutions while your world feels quiet and broken. If divorce has left you unmoored, this conversation offers a steadier path: not hype or hollow motivation, but direction you can act on today. We walk through a simple 21‑day framework built for dads who need clarity, calm, and a plan that fits real life. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & C...
Divorce can feel like a blender: everything loud, spinning, and out of your control. Yet beneath the chaos is a path that can lead to a stronger you and a better relationship with your kids. That path starts with vision. When dads picture life after divorce—how they parent, how they co-parent, how they live—clarity replaces panic. A vision is not a fantasy; it’s a compass. From that picture, you can map steps, build skills, and design an environment that supports your goals. It’s the shift fr...
The hardest part of alienation isn’t the shouting match—it’s the silence before it. In this special replay from our members’ call, parental alienation coach Charlie McCready unpacks the quiet mechanics of pre‑alienation and shows how small shifts—subtle digs, shrinking one‑on‑one time, “false choices” that adultify kids—set the stage for a later cutoff. We dig into what actually helps: airtight parenting plans that leave no wiggle room, steady documentation, and fast but measured enforcement ...
The script you were handed—study hard, get the job, marry, raise kids—doesn’t teach you what to do when everything shatters. Today, we talk with Steven Jaye, a meteorologist-turned-creator and coach, about how to transform divorce from a dead end into a launchpad. We dig into the mindset that stops the endless postmortem and starts Life 2.0, the role of community in healing, and why the smallest honest action beats another night of numbing out. Stephen's website: ReclaimYourTime.co Listeners ...
Divorce can make even the strongest dads feel stuck in survival mode. We sit down with Anthony Thompson, founder of Divorced Dads of America and creator of the Ascent Brotherhood, to unpack how stress hijacks your brain, why motivation seems to vanish, and what actually helps you lead with calm when everything feels loud and urgent. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim your discount. Don't just survive this—get a strateg...
A hostile email lands. Your heart jumps. Your mind races. Before you can think, your nervous system has already decided: fight, flee, or freeze. We sit down with Joey Klein, author of Relationship Alchemy and founder of Inner Matrix Systems, to unpack how dads in high-conflict divorce can reset their bodies, reclaim their minds, and lead with calm—right in the moment it matters most. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim ...
A child’s bond doesn’t shatter overnight—it frays through small cuts that often go unnoticed. We unpack the idea of “pre-alienation,” the early stage where one parent’s subtle comments, eye rolls, and quiet omissions make a child question the other parent’s love or competence. Using a clear infection-versus-disease analogy, we show how these patterns multiply over time and why the earliest moments are the best time to intervene. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching...
The holidays can feel like a minefield when you’re navigating divorce: shifting schedules, tighter budgets, and a swirl of emotions for you and your kids. We unpack a practical, human-centered plan to steady the season, built around six core habits that reduce pressure and bring back meaning without the overwhelm. Listeners save 25% on 1-on-1 divorce coaching! Book any coaching between now and the end of the year to claim your discount. Don't just survive this—get a strategic plan. Sign up no...
When divorce hits, the noise gets loud—court dates, shifting routines, hard conversations, and a flood of emotions that seem to steer the day. We walk through a clear, practical path rooted in Stoicism that helps you steady the wheel: control what you can, accept what you can’t, and choose your response with intention. Instead of numbing out, we show how to use ancient tools to build very modern resilience and model strength your kids can trust. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8y...
A thirteen-year-old can now decide who sees their records in many states, and too often that means dad gets locked out. We pull back the curtain on how policy, portals, and a feelings-first mindset are reshaping family dynamics in clinics, counseling rooms, and courtrooms—and why active father involvement remains one of the strongest predictors of a child’s long-term wellbeing. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes ...
Some stories punch through the fog. Palmer’s does. He grew up inside a decade of high-conflict divorce, became the “targeted child” of severe alienation, and reached the edge of despair—then found a way back. Today he sits across from tweens and teens as a therapist, turning hard-won insight into practical tools that help kids feel safe, seen, and strong even when the adults around them are at war. We dig into the subtle ways alienation teaches kids it’s unsafe to love both parents and the e...
Divorce can flip your financial world overnight, and the hardest part is often not knowing where to start. We walk through a simple, repeatable system to rebuild from the ground up—so you can stop guessing, start planning, and lead your family with calm and confidence. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddad...
Boundaries don’t make you a tyrant—they make your home feel safe. We dig into what authoritative parenting really looks like for divorced dads: steady warmth, clear limits, and consequences that teach instead of punish. Drawing on evidence from parenting science and decades of outcomes research, we unpack the crucial differences between authoritative and authoritarian styles, why permissiveness backfires even when it feels compassionate, and how dads can hold the line without losing the relat...
We walk through the first days after being served divorce papers and lay out a clear plan to protect your kids, your money, and your peace of mind. The focus stays on calm action, smart strategy, and building the right team for the long game. Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTb Join The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers...
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