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You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response. Muriel Kosovsky is a business owner and coach who has worked internationally for over two decades as a teacher, senior leader, and mentor to support highly sensitive leaders and contributors navigating the workplace. She's the author of the forthcoming book, HSPedia,  a comprehensive blueprint for highly sensitive people.    In this episode, Jay and Muriel Kosovsky discuss: ► The four levels of sensitivity that can be activated in highly sensitive people ► Why many HSPs struggle at work—and the kinds of support that actually help ► The non-negotiable qualities HSPs need for relationships to be sustainable and healthy ► The surprising variant of HSP that craves intensity, adventure, and even danger ► The one quality successful HSPs tend to organize their lives around   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Personal Journeys03:02 Understanding the HSP Trait and Its Impact05:51 Strategies for Managing Sensitivity in Daily Life09:10 Identifying HSP Traits and Characteristics11:47 The Connection Between HSP and High Sensation Seeking14:58 Navigating Life as a Highly Sensitive Person17:56 Ambition and Drive in Highly Sensitive Individuals24:07 The Ambition and Drive of Highly Sensitive People27:00 Challenges in Professional Relationships for HSPs30:37 Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships33:16 The Importance of Non-Judgmental Relationships36:40 Lessons Learned as a Highly Sensitive Person39:39 Introducing HSPedia: A Resource for HSPs45:47 Practices for Staying Grounded as an HSP Learn more about Muriel Kosovsky ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/murielkosovsky/ ► Book waitlist and newsletter: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe9ByfcCz2jio8OxKhzWI68LxxfGKr6w3QUEXLUbQ2Fey1jFw/viewform   If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields   Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.   Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.comFor collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant  

Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools for learning how to use your body as an ally, overcoming being fragmented by the different roles you play, and claiming your birthright to pleasure. In this episode, Jay and Lily discuss: ► Why real power isn't a perfect performance and how movement aids self-expression and healing ► How exhausting it is to negotiate your presence in multiple roles and how to move fluidly between them ► Practical exercises for arriving, grounding yourself when entering a room, and staying present ► Why optimising life can kill pleasure, and why it's about small daily moments rather than Instagram-worthy experiences ► How to avoid becoming the sum total of the expectations of everyone around you   Chapters 00:00 - Embodiment and Movement: A Personal Journey 10:05 - The Shift from Performance to Healing 20:11 - Navigating Fragmentation in Roles 30:03 - Creating Rituals for Transition and Presence 36:41 - Embodiment and Accessibility 47:44 - The Pleasure Principles and Ongoing Journey   Learn more about Lily Shepard ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodyintelligence_academy ► Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lily-shepard/ ► Lily is giving away 3 free copies of her audio book Pleasure Principles for Driven Women to the first 3 people who reach out to her on IG or through email.   If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields   Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question or suggestion for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.   Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.comFor collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?  In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity. Sasha has done a lot of different things. She's published 3 books—two on cheese and one on menopause. She's been a project manager, cheesemonger, podcaster, shopkeeper, restaurant manager, human resources assistant, copywriter and book coach. Her latest venture is Paper Jam Reuse, which is a reuse project focused on using paper to inspire people to create low-stakes, high-satisfaction creative projects. Her numerous professional reinventions have given Sasha deep insight into the internal "ick" that signals a need for change. In this episode, Jay and Sasha discuss: ► Distinguishing between what you think you should want and what actually brings you delight. ► Recognizing the physical and emotional cues that a role or project is no longer aligned. ► Why it's so tempting to reach for crummy opportunities just to avoid the embarrassment of being unmoored. ► How unpredictable bodily changes can destabilize your sense of identity and reality. ► A simple and surprising tool to stay present during moments of overwhelm.   Learn more about Sasha Davies ► Websites: https://paperjamreuse.com https://www.sashadavies.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paperjamreuse/ ► Other links: The Menopause Companion (Book)  If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/   Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to do? And what do I really want? Uma Girish is a Grief Companion, Human Design guide, and the author of four books, including Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage. She works with women who are grieving a loss and feeling lost, helping them navigate not just the death of a loved one, but the "lower-case losses"—breakups, changing roles, diagnoses, empty nesting, and the years spent not choosing themselves. Uma serves as a compassionate witness, helping women listen to what grief is asking of them and who they are becoming in the process.   In this episode, Jay and Uma discuss: ► Grief as an Identity Reset ► Spiritual Bypassing vs. True Feeling ► The nervous system's and mind's common responses to loss ► Human Design as a Soul Map ► Reclaiming Desire Learn more about Uma Girish ► Website: https://umagirish.com/► Substack: Light After Loss (via website) ► Book: Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage ► Special Offer: Uma is offering a free 20-minute Human Design Highlights reading to the first two listeners who email her with their birth details. If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant  

Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help you understand that it isn't a personality flaw; it's your nervous system trying to keep you safe. Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach, author, and the host of Hey Wait. She works with people who struggle to stay connected to themselves while connecting with others, bringing deep insight into nervous system regulation, embodiment, and "unfawning." In this episode, Jay discusses: ► The "Hey, Wait" Tool: Using two simple words as a reset button to interrupt default patterns and reorient to your own needs. ► Defining the Fawn Response: Understanding the fourth stress response (alongside fight, flight, and freeze) as "responding to a threat by becoming more appealing to the threat." ► The High-Functioning Fawner: Why fawning often hides in plain sight, looking like competence, empathy, and success on the outside while feeling like numbness and resentment on the inside. ► A Personal Confession: Jay shares a vulnerable (and slightly ridiculous) story about fawning at the airport with her husband. ► The Path to "Unfawning": An introduction to the steps required to heal, including nervous system regulation, reparenting, and parts work.  If you're interested in learning more about Jay's signature online program, Yours Truly, that teaches you the steps to heal fawning, visit https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly. Use the code heywait-100 at checkout to receive $100 off your registration. If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

This week's episode feels less like an interview and more like a homecoming. Jay sits down to steep in a conversation with Angelo Lazenka, one of her main mentors who shaped her life and work.   Angelo is wilderness rites of passage guide and the former Director and President of the School of Lost Borders. He has worked with thousands of individuals seeking growth and insight in the wilderness and brings deep insight into the practice of living, dying, and the healing of the "lie of separation." At 72 years old, Angelo is stepping away from the role of guide and moving into the next chapter of elderhood. In that way, this conversation comes from a "liminal space," the in-between times when you are no longer who you were, but not yet who you are becoming. In this episode, Jay and Angelo discuss: ► What rites of passage really are—and why they are so rare and necessary in our time. ► The vital distinction between self-improvement and true intimacy with life. ► Healing the "lie of separation" between ourselves, nature, and one another. ► Navigating the shift from adulthood into the rich, stewardship-focused territory of elderhood. ► How to answer the call of "that which you've always been, but have yet to become."  Learn more about Angelo Lazenka ► Website: www.schooloflostborders.org Sponsor / Featured Brand If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant  

I have a feeling it would probably land as truth for you if I said to you, Sweetie, you're doing too much. Almost every client I've worked with lately has been struggling with this—the desire to slow down paired with an almost panicky inability to actually do it. I've felt it myself over the past few months, as I've been forced into a much slower pace and lessened capacity due to some unexpected health issues. In this week's solo episode of Hey, Wait, I share: — How your nervous system makes slowing down feel harder than it should — The social and relational conditioning that keeps you constantly striving instead of resting — How to recognize the part of you shaped by both your wiring and your conditioning — Three steps to help you move through the panic that can arise when you try to do less—so you can finally take care of yourself This is my last episode for the 2025 season, and I want to thank you so much for being here! If there was a single episode that really touched you, or if you loved every one of them and you listened every Thursday when they came out, or you found yourself telling your friends about it or doing something differently because of something you heard on this podcast– I have a very simple way that you could be in reciprocity with me for that. It's a website called buymeacoffee.com and it's a place where you can symbolically buy me a coffee as a thank you if you feel called. Go here: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields If you've been wanting a simple way to honor what you receive here, this is one that is very deeply appreciated. Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode. Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com Original Music produced by Dalton Grant  

If you're a highly sensitive person, you move through life differently than other people. You know what it's like to feel other people's emotions as if they're your own. To struggle to sort out what's your energy and what's someone else's. To walk through the world feeling like your nerves live on the outside of your skin. Today's guest, Dr. Maria Furlano, has spent her entire career helping highly sensitive people interact with the world in ways that don't drain them. She is a Spiritual Intuitive and Consciousness Mentor specializing in Eastern Energetic Medicine and nervous system regulation. She is a Physician of Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture (MTOM, L.Ac.) and a Doctor of Medical Qigong (DMQ, China), and she is one of the most gifted Medical Qigong teachers. If you're feeling anything but radiant, give yourself the gift of this episode. Dr. Maria will make you feel understood, supported, and steadied—and she shares a beautiful, easy practice called The Falling Leaf that will help settle your nervous system and lift your energy.   In this episode, Jay and Dr. Furlano explore: ► What Medical Qi Gong actually is and how it can support your health and well-being ►Energetic hygiene (protection, purging, fortifying) that helps you be more vital and healthier in your relationships ►How to set an energetic boundary (and it's not about imagining a big bubble of white light around yourself) ►How to handle the energetic vampires in your life so they don't suck you dry ►Why getting small by contracting your energy doesn't keep you safe—and what actually does ►How to simply and effectively call your energy back when it's scattered or running ahead of you Guest links and resources Dr. Maria Furlano ►Instagram: @‌mariafurlano ►YouTube: @‌mariafurlano ►LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/mariafurlano ►Website: www.theartoftuningin.com ►Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-tuning-in-podcast/id1457630238 ►Monthly Women's Membership: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/studio ►Programs: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/energetic-protection-101 ►Coaching Sessions: https://www.theartoftuningin.com/soul-sessions   Jay's links ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay ► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields   Credits This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA. For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.comOriginal Music produced by Dalton Grant  

Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion. For many, it's an emotion to be suppressed, a sign of being out of control. But what if anger, when harnessed correctly, could be a force for good in your life?​ Today's guest, Dr. Mitch Abrams, is an expert in sport, clinical, and forensic psychology, and the author of I'm Not Fucking Angry!!! Adjust the Flames to Get What You Want and Need. He has spent his career working with everyone from prison inmates to high-performance athletes, and he believes that anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions.​ In this episode, Jay and Dr. Abrams discuss: ► Why we have so much shame around anger.​ ► The surprising physiological similarities between anger and anxiety.​ ► How to harness anger as a motivator for positive change.​ ► The difference between "good" and "bad" anger.​ ► How to deal with anger in relationships, whether it's your own or someone else's.​ To learn more about Dr. Mitch Abrams and his work, visit his website at drmitchabrams.com. You can also find his book, I'm Not Fucking Angry, on Amazon https://a.co/d/c1BjU91 Connect with Dr. Mitch Abrams: ►Official Website: https://www.drmitchabrams.com ►X: https://x.com/MitchAbramsPsyD ►Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mitch.abrams ►LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmitchabrams/ Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order! And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.​ Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com 

Do you ever feel like you're constantly running at 100 miles an hour, stuck in a state of high-functioning anxiety? You know all the "right" things to do for self-care, but you just can't seem to slow down, feel present, or access that inner wisdom. You might know what to do, but you can't actually do it. That is exactly what today's guest, Erin Washington, has experienced. Erin is the author of From Pain to Purpose, the host of the top 1% podcast thERINpy, and the creator of the Blue Butterfly Foundation, a mentorship program for teen girls. She has navigated a decades-long struggle with perfectionism, body image, and self-worth, and publicly shares her evolution as a way of making other women feel seen and less alone.​ The big hey, wait moment in this episode comes when Jay coaches Erin live on the air. Jay introduces a simple framework for understanding and regulating your nervous system, guiding Erin (and you!) from a state of anxious over-functioning to a place of calm presence in just a few minutes. It's a powerful demonstration of how you can learn to truly be with yourself, even when life feels chaotic.​ In this episode, Erin talks about: ► Her journey from finding confidence through fitness to discovering her deeper purpose.​ ► The evolution of her identity and her brand from "Squats and Margaritas" to  theERINpy.​ ► Navigating divorce in your 40s when you and your partner are no longer aligned.​ ► A live coaching session on regulating your nervous system to move from anxiety to calm.​ ► How to break generational cycles of body image and perfectionism.​ To learn more about Erin Washington, visit her podcast and foundation websites. Connect with Erin Washington: ► Podcast (thERINpy with Erin Washington): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therinpy-with-erin-washington/id1530232466 ► Website (Blue Butterfly Foundation): https://thebluebutterflies.org/ ► Instagram (thERINpy with Erin Washington): https://www.instagram.com/therinpy_with_erin_washington/ ► Instagram (Erin Washington): https://www.instagram.com/iamerinwashington/ To listen to the episode of thERINpy where Jay is interviewed and offers Erin even more coaching, use this link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/embodiment-coach-jay-moon-fields-on-how-to-regulate/id1530232466?i=1000734983793 Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order! And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com 

Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side?​ Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering betrayals, she embarked on a PhD to study the topic, uncovering three groundbreaking discoveries about how we can heal and transform. Dr. Silber found that while you can't count on time to heal the wounds of betrayal, there is a proven, research-based roadmap to move from breakdown to breakthrough.​ Dr. Silber is the founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and a leading expert on healing from betrayal. In this conversation, she and Jay explore the science and soul of recovery, including why this particular type of trauma requires a different approach.​ In this episode, Dr. Silber discusses: ► Her personal story of betrayal and what led her to research the topic.​ ► Post-Betrayal Syndrome and its common physical, mental, and emotional symptoms.​ ► The five predictable stages of healing from betrayal, and how to know if you are stuck.​ ► Why it's possible to not only heal but to become a new, transformed version of yourself.​ To learn more about Dr. Debi Silber and her work, visit her company's website at https://thepbtinstitute.com. Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: ► Official Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com ► Podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ ► TEDx Talk, "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU ► Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/   Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order! And to stay connected with Jay, head over to https://jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction. That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a licensed therapist, coach, and podcaster specializing in codependence and love addiction. Drawing on her professional training and her personal recovery after a 25-year struggle, she helps clients heal relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma and cultural conditioning. For both Jay and Jodi, a huge "Hey, Wait" moment was the realization that these patterns weren't about love, but about a process addiction. It's an addiction to seeking the safety and validation externally that we needed to develop internally. Understanding this is a powerful first step toward breaking the cycle and building a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others. In this episode, Jodi talks about: ►  The difference between codependence and love addiction. ►  The three core symptoms of a love addict. ►  How cultural messages and childhood experiences create these patterns. ►  What the recovery process looks like and how to start healing. To learn more about Jodi White, visit her website or listen to her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict. Connect with Jodi White: ►  Official Website: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/ ►  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_ ►  Podcast: Journals of a Love Addict   Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order!   And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com 

Is your relationship with work your most unhealthy one? In a culture that prioritizes constant production and consumption, it's easy to feel like you're just a cog in a machine, disconnected from your own vitality and purpose. The pressure to hustle is relentless, and the system can feel impossible to escape. What if the antidote isn't working harder, but divesting from that system altogether? That is the question today's guest, Megan Leatherman, helps us explore. Megan is an anticapitalist teacher, writer, and vocational guide who teaches people how to "compost capitalism" by reconnecting to the land, the seasons, and their own inner knowing. For both Jay and Megan, the realization that our lives and bodies are not meant to operate like machines was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment. They discuss how capitalism is both powerful and precarious, and how small, gentle acts of rebellion, like watching the sunset or paying attention to the seasons, can help us reclaim our life force. In this episode, Megan talks about: ► What it means to "compost capitalism" and live an anti-capitalist life.​ ► How to find your true vocation when you feel trapped by the need to earn a wage.​ ► Using the wisdom of the seasons, especially autumn, to practice letting go.​ ► Simple, accessible ways to reconnect with the land, even if you live in a city.​ Connect with Megan Leatherman: ►  Website: https://awildnewwork.com/ ►  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awildnewwork/ ► Podcast: A Wild New Work https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-wild-new-work/id1437555777 And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books: Less Lost and Teaching People, Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Have you ever felt like an imposter, terrified of being "found out" as unqualified, despite your successes? What if the key to overcoming that fear wasn't to "get it together," but to get radically honest and build your own unique toolkit for mental fitness? You may know Stephanie Szostak from her roles in hit films and shows like The Devil Wears Prada, Iron Man 3, and A Million Little Things. But behind the Hollywood success was a decade-long struggle with imposter syndrome that came to a head after she landed her first lead role. Paralyzed by fear and self-criticism, she realized the only way forward was to stop trying to be who she thought she should be and start building a practice to reconnect with herself. That is the "Hey, Wait" moment that led Stephanie to create her "Personal Playbook," a daily practice of mental fitness that became the foundation for her book, Self!sh. It's a powerful tool for anyone who wants to move from self-doubt to self-discovery and live with more confidence, joy, and meaning. In this episode, Stephanie talks about: ► Her journey from the corporate world at Chanel to pursuing acting at age 29. ► The powerful story of how she overcame debilitating imposter syndrome. ► The "Personal Playbook": what it is and how to create your own. ► Finding your "glimmers" and why being "selfish" is essential for your wellbeing. ► What she learned about tough love from playing a real-life mother in her new film, Soul on Fire. To learn more about Stephanie's work, visit her websites and check out her book, "Self!sh: Step Into a Journey of Self-Discovery to Revive Confidence, Joy, and Meaning." And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Stephanie Szostak: ► Official Website: https://www.stephanieszostak.me ► Playbook Website: https://selfishplaybook.com ► Book (Self!sh): https://stephanieszostak.me/selfish/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephshortstak ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-szostak-86556b213/ Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

What happens when your job becomes your entire identity? For many high-achievers, the line between a strong work ethic and a work addiction can become blurry, leading to burnout and a disconnect from what truly matters. Imagine building your identity around being "good at work" since elementary school, only to realize that the success you chased left you feeling empty and anxious. This was the reality for today's guest, Kyle Elliott. He turned his personal struggle with work addiction and mental health into a powerful mission as a trauma-informed coach, helping people navigate their careers with authenticity and intention. Kyle's journey from workaholic to finding a balanced, value-driven life was his "Hey, Wait" moment. He discovered that true success isn't just about performance, but about aligning your work with your most authentic--most fabulous--self. In this episode, Kyle talks about: ► His personal story of work addiction and the "aha" moment that changed everything. ► What it means to be a trauma-informed career coach and how trauma can show up in our work. ► How to define and practice authenticity in the workplace without compromising your well-being. ► Actionable tools to find career clarity and manage stress, including his "Next Job Manifestation Guide." To learn more about Kyle Elliott, visit his website at https://caffeinatedkyle.com To get free actionable tools for your career, visit https://caffeinatedkyle.com/freebies/ And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Kyle Elliott: ► Official Website: https://caffeinatedkyle.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caffeinatedkyle/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylecromerelliott/ Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them. Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating loss. That is exactly what today's guest, Coach Ashley Selman, experienced. After having a hip replacement and going into perimenopause in her early 40's, her body began to take a turn. She needed to find a solution and eventually discovered BFR, or Blood Flow Restriction training. BFR is something both Jay and Coach Selman have in common, and discovering it was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment for them both. It's a powerful tool not only for women navigating menopause, but for anyone with an aging body. In this episode, Ashley talks about: Her path toward becoming a coach Blood Flow Restriction: what it is and how it works Women losing muscle mass sooner than men due to Human Growth Hormone To learn more about Coach Seli and BFR, visit her company's website at selishttps://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait To sign up for the Hey, Wait cohort for BFR training, visit https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait  And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Coach Ashley Selman:   Official Training Website:https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selistrength LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-selman  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves? No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband. In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay sits down with former guest Sara Rusbatch, who turns the tables by interviewing Jay about her own life experiences. Together they trace the moments of trauma and transformation that shaped Jay into the person, author, coach, and educator she is today. In this episode, Jay talks about: Her childhood and feeling disconnected with her inside Getting married young and experiencing separation and divorce The value in working one-on-one with clients vs. corporate Her mission & her legacy To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields Connect with Sarah Rusbatch:   Official Website: https://sarahrusbatch.com/ Sarah's Book, "Beyond Booze": https://sarahrusbatch.com/beyond-booze Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrusbatch/ "The Women's Wellbeing Collective" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/342319476897067/  Sarah's FREE Guide, "100 Things to Do Instead of Drinking": https://sarahrusbatch.com/free-guide-100-things-to-do-instead-of-drinking 

The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live. When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life that truly feels right for you. In today's episode, author, artist, entrepreneur, and improviser Amanda Hirsch joins Jay for an inspiring off-the-cuff conversation. Amanda shares her story of reclaiming her own life and offers practical tips and exercises you can start using today. Together, they explore how asking "why?" (or "Hey, wait") and making a "new choice" can better align your desires, passions, and energy. In this episode, Amanda talks about: Choosing a different life path than the scripted one in front of you Daring to ask "Why?"... Sometimes more than once Noticing what is a "yes" and what is a "no" Making a "new choice" beyond the practical and obvious To learn more about Amanda's book, "Improvising Adulthood" visit her website at amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood  And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.   Connect with Amanda Hirsch: Personal Website: https://www.amandahirsch.com/ "Improvising Adulthood" Book: https://www.amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood  "Mighty Forces" Company Website: https://www.mightyforces.co/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mightyforcesamanda  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahirsch  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

In times of stress, we seek to self-sooth our nervous systems… But it isn't always beneficial in the long run. When we think about eating, it's easy to forget how deeply connected food is to our nervous system, early attachment experiences, and even the ways we relate to ourselves. Eating is not just about nutrients. It's about safety, grounding, and the body's attempt to protect itself. In this episode, Jay sits down for an insightful conversation with Stephanie Mara Fox, founder of Somatic Eating and somatic psychotherapist, to explore how we can begin to understand our relationship with food from a place of curiosity and compassion. Stephanie shares how hyper-palatable foods can become stand-ins for secure attachment, the impact of diet culture on our nervous system, and practical ways to start building trust with our bodies and our meals. In this episode, Stephanie talks about: How food behaviors can reflect survival strategies and unmet attachment needs The role of somatic awareness in understanding impulses around food Practical ways to reconnect with your body through somatic pauses and neutral body check-ins Food fawning and the ways people-pleasing can show up in eating behaviors To learn more about Stephanie's work and programs, visit StephanieMara.com for one-on-one support and her podcast Satiated, or SomaticEating.com for her live three-month Somatic Eating program, community meals, and upcoming Somatic Eating Coach Certification Training. And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Stephanie Mara Fox: Personal Website: https://www.stephaniemara.com/  Somatic Eating Website: https://www.somaticeating.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_stephaniemara/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephmara/  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

When we hold a baby, we naturally cradle the neck and the tailbone. In that moment we are tuned in to something gentle and instinctive, an awareness of subtle energy. It comes so easily to us as parents, and yet it's so often abandoned in our own wellbeing as adults. Many sensitive people, including so many listeners of this podcast, describe feeling as if they "lose themselves" around others. Subtle energy is about deep inner regulation and the quiet exchange that happens between human beings. It is always moving within us and flowing all around us. In this episode, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical conversation with Craig Walker, a chiropractor, yoga instructor, and educator, who helps people strengthen their connection to themselves and to the world through an understanding of subtle energy. In this episode, Craig talks about: Subtle energy: what it is and how it works The value of coordinated breath Empathic people are genuinely capable of absorbing the energy of others Gaining attunement to your body and your surroundings The layers that exist within you To learn more about Craig's work and subtle energy, visit his Youtube at: youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_  And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.   Connect with Craig Walker: Website: https://subtleenergymechanics.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtle_energy_mechanics/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachwithcraig  Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields