Family Brand: Take Back Your Family

In this episode of the Family Brand Podcast, Melissa sits down with a very special guest—her nine-year-old daughter, Indie—to do something the Smith family does every single week: a family check-in. Instead of just talking about the concept, they actually walk through a real check-in live on the podcast, giving listeners a behind-the-scenes look at how these simple conversations help their family stay connected and intentional. The Smith family has a weekly rhythm where they gather for a short family meeting and individual check-ins with each child. The goal isn't to lecture or correct behavior—it's simply to connect. During these conversations, they ask a few consistent questions: What's important to you this week? How can we support you? What goals do you want to set in different areas of your life? By creating space for these conversations regularly, it helps each child feel seen, supported, and understood. In the episode, Indie shares what matters most to her right now—things like riding her horse Stella, skateboarding outside, and planning time with friends. She also sets a few small goals for the week across four areas the family focuses on: spiritual, intellectual, physical, and social. These goals don't have to be complicated. Sometimes they're as simple as working on a church talk, learning more about national parks for homeschool, doing a short workout, or planning a get-together with friends. The point isn't perfection—it's helping kids build awareness and intention around how they spend their time. Melissa also explains that these check-ins often include a small weekly challenge and, of course, something fun like a treat or snack. Over time, the routine has helped their kids open up about what's happening in their lives. Because the conversation happens consistently each week, the kids know they have a safe place to talk about goals, struggles, and ideas they're thinking about. As Indie puts it simply, check-ins help the week feel less chaotic. Instead of just reacting to whatever happens, the family gets a chance to pause, get clear about what matters, and support each other. And sometimes the most important outcome isn't the goals themselves—it's the reminder that everyone in the family has a voice and someone who cares about what's important to them.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: Family Meeting Playbook: http://familybrand.com/meeting  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introducing today's special guest: Indie 01:05 – Meet Indie: homeschool, horses, and being the youngest 02:10 – How this podcast episode came together 02:45 – What family check-ins are and why the Smith family does them 03:40 – Where to download the Family Brand meeting guide 04:10 – Creating a relaxed environment for check-ins (beds, snacks, candy) 06:20 – Question #1: What's important to you this week? 07:10 – Writing down what matters and tracking it as parents 07:45 – Question #2: How can we support you this week? 08:35 – Setting weekly goals in four areas of life 08:50 – Spiritual goal example (church talk) 09:20 – Intellectual goal example (learning about national parks) 09:55 – Physical goal example (workouts and staying active) 11:05 – Social goal example (spending time with friends) 11:50 – The weekly challenge and why it matters 13:10 – Examples of past challenges with kids 14:15 – More examples of goals kids can set 16:10 – Why check-ins bring clarity to the week 17:10 – Following through on what kids say is important 18:20 – Using check-ins to support kids' goals 19:00 – Indie's biggest advice: always include a treat 19:40 – Why consistency makes check-ins easier over time 20:20 – Kids opening up about bigger challenges 21:10 – Funny examples from older siblings' check-ins 22:00 – Final encouragement to try check-ins with your family  

One habit that has created some of the most meaningful conversations in our home is something surprisingly simple: family book club. It's not formal or complicated. Sometimes it's just reading a book over a few weeks and sitting down on a Sunday to talk about it for twenty minutes. But those conversations have opened the door to ideas and discussions that might never have happened otherwise. Recently, our family read the classic How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, and it sparked one of the most practical conversations we've had in a long time. At first glance, the title sounds like it's about influencing people out in the world—at work, at school, or in business. But as we talked about it together, we realized the principle that stood out most actually applies right inside our homes. One of the central ideas from the book is simple: don't criticize, condemn, or complain. Criticism might feel productive in the moment, but it usually puts people on the defensive. When someone feels attacked, their instinct is to justify themselves rather than grow. Encouragement, on the other hand, creates openness. When people feel valued first, they're far more willing to listen and improve. Chris shared a couple recent experiences with our kids' sports that brought this lesson into focus. After a game, his instinct was to point out what they could have done better. The intention was good—he wanted to help them improve—but the criticism didn't land the way he hoped. Instead of helping, it left them discouraged and defensive. The next time, he tried something different and simply told them how much he loved watching them play. What surprised us was that later they came back and asked for feedback themselves. When people feel encouraged first, they become much more open to influence. That conversation led us to a realization we've been thinking about a lot lately: a person to be loved is always more important than a problem to be solved. As parents, it's easy to focus on fixing things—behavior, performance, mistakes. But when the relationship comes first, growth tends to follow naturally. And when we get it wrong (which happens often), modeling repair—apologizing, resetting, and trying again—can be just as powerful as getting it right the first time. For us, the real value of family book club isn't just reading the book—it's the shared experience of learning together. Whether it's through books, videos, or conversations around the dinner table, creating moments where a family learns together can shape the culture of a home in ways that last far beyond the conversation itself. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie: https://amzn.to/4bdF0k7 Smith Family Book Club Book List: https://www.amazon.com/shop/ourfamilybrand/list/1C9YQEQMOSQJS?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_SF4M1KEH4THWG32NS5XV  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – The Smith family book club tradition 02:45 – Why families should read books together 04:30 – The impact of How to Win Friends and Influence People 06:30 – Why social skills feel harder for kids today 07:30 – The principle: Don't criticize, condemn, or complain 09:00 – Why criticism backfires 10:30 – A parenting example from youth sports 12:30 – Encouragement vs criticism 14:00 – A person to be loved vs a problem to solve 15:30 – Modeling repair as parents 18:30 – Ideas for starting your own family book club 21:30 – Creating shared learning experiences as a family 25:00 – Letting kids choose the books

What separates high performers from everyone else? It's not talent. It's not intelligence. It's not even experience. It's consistency. In this episode, Chris and Melissa unpack why consistency might be the single greatest differentiator in business, parenting, marriage, health — and life. Chris shares something he teaches in sales leadership: the highest performers are consistently coachable, consistently curious, and consistently willing to refine their craft. Ironically, it's often lower performers who assume they've "already figured it out." The best stay students. That conversation led to a bigger family reflection. For 2026, the Smith family chose a single word to guide their year: Consistent. Not because they were failing — but because they recognized that almost every area of growth depends on sustained effort. Health goals. Marriage habits. Business development. Family routines. Spiritual practices. None of them collapse because of lack of knowledge. They collapse because of inconsistency. Chris shares a powerful quote their son Tanner selected: "Success isn't owned, it's rented — and the rent is due every day." That line captures the heart of this episode. Everyone can be disciplined for a week. Most can push for a month. Few can sustain effort once excitement fades. They explore some of the biggest threats to consistency: Busyness Boredom Short-term motivation Missing once and quitting altogether One powerful reframe that surfaces: Motivation is unreliable. Vision is sustaining. When you attach your habit to a bigger identity — to the kind of parent, partner, leader, or human you want to become — consistency stops being about willpower and starts being about alignment. Chris shares how coaching basketball didn't stay alive because it was exciting every day. It stayed alive because the vision expanded. It became about mentorship, leadership, and impact — not just a sport. The takeaway is simple but demanding: Anything worthwhile requires showing up after the novelty fades. And the moment you stop expecting it to feel exciting all the time is the moment you actually grow. The real question they leave listeners with: What in your life deserves long-term consistency — even if it isn't always thrilling? Because the difference between who you are and who you want to become may simply be how long you're willing to stay consistent. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Pepper makes a guest appearance! (Our fam dog) 01:00 – The three traits of high performers: coachable, curious, consistent 02:30 – The myth of "experience" without growth 03:30 – Why curiosity matters 04:30 – Introducing the 2026 family word: Consistent 05:30 – How the Smith family chooses a word of the year 07:00 – Scripture and quote for 2026 08:00 – The great divider: consistency 09:30 – "We were doing so good at…" 10:30 – What derails consistency: busyness and boredom 12:30 – The 90-day drop-off pattern 14:30 – Where does motivation come from? 16:00 – Obsession and high performance 17:30 – Vision sustains consistency 19:00 – Anything worthwhile requires grit 20:00 – Practical takeaway: what needs consistency in your life?

This episode was sparked by one of Chris and Melissa's classic "walk conversations" — the kind where something clicks, and you realize it needs to be shared…  They begin with a powerful testimonial from a Family Brand family who realized they were spending more time talking about what they don't like in the world — politics, division, noise — than they were talking about their own values. And that insight led to a bigger question: Where are we allowing our attention to go? Because wherever your attention goes, your energy follows. Chris shares how easy it is to get pulled into news cycles, controversial figures, political opinions, and cultural outrage — sometimes without even realizing it. And while many of those conversations feel urgent, he began asking himself a better question: What is this attention taking me away from? When he thinks about his wife, his five kids, his team, the players he coaches, and the people in his real, immediate life — he realizes that his influence is strongest right there. And every ounce of attention spent elsewhere is attention not available for those relationships. Melissa adds another layer: Sometimes it feels like we're being pressured — even bullied — into having opinions about everything. Social media makes it easy to take a stance instantly. But do we actually have to?  You don't owe the world an opinion on every issue. You don't have to be dragged into every debate. And you definitely don't have to sacrifice your peace or your family's focus in the process.  They also clarify: This isn't about sticking your head in the sand. It's not about ignoring real issues or not standing for something meaningful. It's about being intentional. If you care about a cause, choose it on purpose. If you want to serve your community, do it intentionally. If you want to shape the world, start by loving your family well. Because the most meaningful influence often begins at home.  This episode is ultimately an invitation to do a personal audit: Where am I giving my attention? Is that aligned with who I want to be? Is the energy tradeoff worth it? What deserves more of my focus? When you protect your attention, you protect your energy. And when you protect your energy, you protect your family.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – The walk that inspired today's episode 01:00 – The Nickerson family quote and cultural noise 02:30 – Where attention goes, energy flows 04:00 – The hidden cost of divided attention 05:30 – Do I actually care about this issue? 06:30 – Chris's example: where his energy truly belongs 08:30 – "If you want to change the world, go home and love your family." 09:30 – Being intentional about the causes you support 10:30 – Feeling pressured to take a stance 12:00 – You don't owe anyone an opinion 13:30 – Choosing principles over politics 15:00 – Protecting your attention 16:00 – Practical audit: where is my attention going? 17:00 – Final takeaway and weekly challenge

In this powerful episode, Melissa sits down with Tim Wright — former Lutheran pastor of 41 years, author, and passionate advocate for helping boys grow into strong, compassionate men of character. Melissa begins the conversation with a question many parents of boys are quietly asking: What does it even mean to be a man in today's world? With cultural messages constantly shifting — and often equating masculinity with toxicity — Tim offers a refreshing, grounded perspective. He shares why boys need intentional guidance, not stereotypes. Why strength and compassion are not opposites. And why raising good men starts with developing character — not just behavior. Tim explains how throughout history, many cultures practiced rites of passage to help boys transition into manhood. Today, we often lack those intentional moments. Without guidance, boys will still seek definition — but they may look in the wrong places. Tim shares how simple, intentional experiences can help boys build identity rooted in love, responsibility, empathy, and conviction. He also shares a deeply moving story about the rite of passage ceremony he created for his son when he became a father — gathering strong male figures, reading letters of affirmation, and symbolizing the moment through intentional marking. It's a beautiful picture of what mentorship and generational blessing can look like. The conversation then turns to Tim's middle-grade fantasy series, The Adventures of Toby Baxter. Through adventure, humor, and imagination, Tim weaves character lessons about courage, wisdom, love, grit, and truth into engaging stories designed especially to help boys grow. Melissa and Tim discuss: Why boys need strong male role models beyond just dad The power of language and affirmation ("I love you. I'm proud of you.") How parents can be intentional even if a father is absent Why character must come before labels And how to take back influence in an age of screens and algorithms Tim closes with a simple but powerful reminder: Look your child in the eyes every day and say, "I love you, and I'm proud of you." Because when a child knows they are deeply loved, it becomes a protective force against so much of what culture throws at them.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: : Tim Wright Books -- The Adventures of Toby Baxter Episode Minute By Minute: 01:00 – Tim's background: pastor, author, and grandfather 03:30 – What does it mean to be a man today? 05:00 – Masculinity vs. "toxic masculinity" 06:30 – Why boys need intentional training 08:00 – The loss of rites of passage in modern culture 10:00 – Character as the foundation of manhood 12:30 – What rites of passage can look like today 14:30 – The ceremony Tim created for his son 16:30 – Why boys need multiple male role models 18:00 – Supporting boys when a father isn't present 20:00 – The Adventures of Toby Baxter series 22:00 – Using story to teach courage, wisdom, and grit 24:00 – Why boys need to rediscover reading 26:00 – Navigating technology and modern parenting 28:00 – Tim's final parenting advice: affirmation and love 30:00 – Where to find Tim's books and resources    

This episode started the way some of our best conversations do — on a walk. Chris and Melissa talk about why the idea of "balance" often leaves families frustrated, exhausted, and feeling like they're failing. Instead, they introduce a different lens that has brought them far more peace over the years: seasons of life. Every season affords certain opportunities. Every season also has real limitations. And neither are permanent. Chris shares a conversation he had with someone wrestling with a big opportunity — one that looked great on paper, but didn't quite align with the season of life he and his family were in. That's when the idea of seasonality clicked. Not as an excuse, but as a filter. They walk through real-life examples — newly married seasons, seasons with little kids, seasons when kids are more independent, seasons packed with sports schedules, and even micro-seasons like coaching a basketball team or building a business. Each season requires different energy, different priorities, and different definitions of success. Melissa reflects on how much pressure we put on ourselves to "do it all" at once — careers, health, friendships, travel, parenting — without acknowledging that something always has to give. The freedom comes when you choose what gives on purpose, rather than resenting it later. They also talk about how comparison makes this even harder. Seeing other families travel, rest, hustle, or expand can make you question your own choices — unless you remember that you're not in the same season. Chris shares one of the most grounding decisions he's made for himself: If I choose it, I surrender my right to complain about it. Whether it's coaching basketball, committing to a business season, or choosing rest — owning your choice removes resentment and allows you to fully show up where you are. This episode is an invitation to pause and ask better questions: What season am I in right now? What does this season afford me? What am I choosing to prioritize here? And can I trust that the seasons will change? Because no season lasts forever. And no matter where you are right now, the belief that the best is yet to come is always available. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Why this conversation started on a walk 01:00 – The power of walks for connection 02:00 – Clarity, commitment, and consistency 03:00 – Why Chris doesn't believe in "balance" 04:00 – Introducing seasons of life 05:00 – What newlywed seasons afford 06:00 – Seasons with little kids 07:00 – When kids get older and independence grows 08:00 – Sports schedules and real-life limitations 09:00 – Evaluating opportunities through seasonality 10:00 – Equity, work, and family alignment 11:00 – Embracing a season instead of resenting it 12:00 – Choosing what gives (and why that matters) 13:00 – Health goals and shifting seasons 14:00 – Comparison and the pressure to do it all 15:00 – Behind the highlight reel 16:00 – Why seasons always change 17:00 – Micro-seasons (like coaching basketball) 18:00 – Choosing presence over forcing hobbies 19:00 – "If I choose it, I surrender my right to complain"  20:00 – Releasing resentment 21:00 – Final encouragement: the best is yet to come  

Couple's Playbook: Getting on the Same Page for the Year Ahead It's easy to start a new year with good intentions — and just as easy to lose them once life speeds back up. In this episode, Chris and Melissa talk about why so many couples want to be intentional but struggle to actually do it together. The issue isn't desire. It's structure. Most couples don't need more motivation — they need a simple playbook that creates the right conversations. They kick things off with a lighthearted look at Chris fully embracing his cowboy era (yes, cowboy hats and horses included), which naturally leads into a bigger theme of the episode: when you don't slow down to get aligned, life starts making decisions for you. Melissa shares how their family has built meaningful year-end and new-year rhythms — from vision boards to reflection questions — and why those traditions work so well, even with kids. Chris explains how reflection and planning became a cornerstone not just in their family, but in their business as well, helping them shape focus, priorities, and direction for the year ahead. The heart of the conversation centers on the Couple's Planning Playbook Melissa created — a simple, guided experience designed to help couples reflect individually, then come together on the things that matter most. They share what it looked like to take the playbook on a date night, fill it out separately, and then talk through it over dinner — including the moment their waitress asked where she could buy it. They also dig into why individual clarity is just as important as shared goals. From health and fitness to parenting and schedules, many goals quietly require two people to succeed — whether we acknowledge that or not. Without alignment, support turns into frustration and good intentions turn into resentment. One of the most meaningful parts of their experience came from walking through questions about each child individually — stepping back from the rush of daily life to really see where each kid is thriving, struggling, or needing extra support. Chris explains how alignment around parenting doesn't happen by accident; it happens through regular, intentional conversations. They wrap up with a hilarious (and very real) story about nearly being manipulated into getting a third dog — a perfect metaphor for what happens when couples don't pause long enough to compare notes. When you don't get on the same page intentionally, decisions get made for you. This episode is an invitation to stop chasing your tail and start leading your family with clarity, unity, and purpose — one simple conversation at a time. P.S.  Get your couples playbook here: https://familybrand.com/playbook   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: Get your couples playbook here: https://familybrand.com/playbook Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Happy New Year and Cowboy Chris makes an appearance 01:00 – Chris's goals, cowboy hats, and qualifying for Vegas 02:30 – Vision boards, manifestation, and setting intentions 04:00 – Family year-end reflection traditions 05:15 – Why reflection without structure feels overwhelming 06:45 – Using the same process for business and family 07:45 – Why couples need an actual playbook 08:45 – Taking the Couple's Playbook on a date night 10:00 – Filling it out individually, then talking it through 11:00 – Why individual clarity matters inside marriage 12:15 – Supporting each other's health and personal goals 13:30 – One powerful question about each child 15:00 – Alignment in parenting doesn't happen accidentally 16:30 – The almost-got-a-third-dog story 18:15 – Why couples need "forcing functions" to align 19:15 – Final encouragement: stop letting life run your marriage    

Wanting to Believe: Re-Enrolling Each Other Into What's Possible This episode came out of a conversation Chris had this week — and it hit him so clearly that he realized he and Melissa had never talked about it publicly before. They've shared openly about the hard seasons in their marriage. They've taught frameworks for having honest, productive conversations about what isn't working. But in this episode, they talk about the missing piece that made all the difference when their marriage was at its lowest: They started talking about what they wanted to create — before there was any evidence it was possible. Chris shares how a couple he was advising had been doing "everything right" — having authentic conversations, communicating well, addressing issues — yet still felt stuck. And the realization was simple, but profound: they were only talking about what was broken… not what they believed could exist on the other side. Melissa takes the conversation deeper, sharing a moment from their own marriage when there was absolutely no evidence that things would improve. No proof. No results. No momentum. And yet, she chose to hold onto something smaller, but powerful: the desire to believe a miracle could happen. They talk about faith — not as certainty, but as willingness. Wanting to believe, even when belief feels impossible. And how that willingness created the foundation for real change. Throughout the episode, Chris and Melissa reflect on how repeatedly re-enrolling each other into a shared vision — "I want to be married to you. I want our marriage to be amazing. I believe we can create something beautiful together." — slowly shifted the trajectory of their relationship. This isn't about ignoring what's not working. It's about balancing honest conversations with intentional vision-casting. Because if the only seeds you plant are about what you don't want, that's exactly what keeps growing. If your marriage feels stuck… if you're tired… if belief feels hard — this episode is an invitation to start where they did: You don't have to fully believe. You just have to be willing to want to. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Chris introduces an unexpected episode topic 01:10 – Why they've never talked about this before 02:15 – Authentic Conversations vs. vision-casting 03:15 – Asking the question: "What are you trying to create?"  04:05 – Melissa reflects on their separation 05:10 – Faith when there is no evidence 06:10 – "Wanting to believe" as the starting point 07:25 – The scripture story and "help my unbelief" 08:40 – Talking about what's possible before it's possible 09:50 – Planting seeds through language and vision 10:55 – When you don't know what a good marriage looks like 11:50 – Looking for models and borrowed belief 12:45 – Re-enrolling each other during hard seasons 13:40 – Choosing to be on the same team 14:30 – Final encouragement: start with wanting to believe    

Couple's Playbook for 2026: Setting the Frequency for Your Year It's that time of year when the Smith family pauses, reflects, and intentionally sets the tone for the year ahead. In this episode, Chris and Melissa walk through exactly how they approach vision boards, words (or frequencies) for the year, and why doing this work up front creates so much more ease as the year unfolds. While they share what this looks like in their own family, their hope is that it gives you practical inspiration you can adapt for yours — no matter what time of year you're listening. They talk about why your "word for the year" is more than just a cute idea — it's a frequency you choose to live at. A lens that shapes what you notice, what you prioritize, and how you show up when life gets busy or hard. Chris explains how reflecting on the past year, looking ahead, and then choosing a word that truly embodies who you want to be can completely change how a year unfolds. Melissa shares a powerful exercise they did with their kids — a timed writing prompt asking "What do I want in 2026?" — and how repeating it helped everyone move past surface-level answers into more imaginative, honest desires. They also explain how they invite their kids into the process by asking what the family could use most this year, then choosing a shared family frequency together. You'll hear Melissa unpack her word for the year — Gather — and how, once she leaned into it, the meaning expanded far beyond what she initially expected. From gathering people, to gathering at church, to gathering growth through using her voice, she shares how the word already seems to be "finding her." Chris shares his word for the year — Partner — and why he's choosing to live more fully as a committed partner in every area of life: with God, with Melissa, with their kids, with their team, and with the people they serve. They talk honestly about how words create identity, how telling people your word builds accountability, and why allowing others to support your focus is one of the hidden gifts of this practice. They also address the real-life parenting side of this process — what to do when kids resist, how to balance support with challenge, and why it's okay if your child's vision board is one picture taped to a page. The goal isn't perfection — it's participation. The episode closes with powerful stories of vision boards turning into reality, sometimes immediately, sometimes years later — and a reminder that choosing a word, a frequency, or a focus plants a seed of possibility. One that has a way of growing when you give it attention.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: http://familybrand.com/playbook Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Why this is the Smith family's favorite time of year 01:00 – Reflecting on the year and setting the tone for 2026 02:00 – Why Chris thinks of words as "frequencies" 03:00 – Choosing your frequency by reflecting on the past and future 04:00 – Melissa's writing exercise: "What do I want in 2026?" 05:00 – How repeating the exercise unlocked deeper clarity 06:00 – Inviting kids into choosing a family word 07:00 – Melissa reveals her word for the year: Gather 08:00 – Unpacking what "Gather" really means 09:00 – How sharing your word invites support and alignment 10:00 – The shower hack: writing your word every day 11:00 – Creating cues so your word doesn't get forgotten 12:00 – Vision boards as visible reminders 13:00 – Using word definitions and etymology for deeper meaning 14:00 – Chris shares his word for the year: Partner 15:00 – What it means to live as a committed partner 16:00 – Telling people your word to create accountability 17:00 – When kids resist the process (and how to handle it) 18:00 – Support vs. challenge in parenting 19:00 – Why imperfect vision boards still matter 20:00 – Stories of vision boards becoming reality 22:00 – Immediate results vs. long-term seeds 23:00 – Final encouragement: choose your frequency and plant the seed

The Power of Boredom: Learning to Live in the Present In this solo episode, Chris shares a personal experiment that quietly changed the way he experiences life. It started with a conversation around a Harvard study shared by Arthur Brooks — research suggesting that one of the biggest challenges we face today is that we never experience boredom. Every spare second is filled. Every pause is interrupted. And in the process, we're losing something deeply important: the space to think, reflect, and be present. While celebrating his 20-year anniversary with Melissa in Spain, Chris decided to test that idea. He completely removed social media from his phone — not with a timeline or rules, but simply as an experiment in presence. What followed surprised him. He read more. He prayed more. He thought more deeply. And slowly, the urge to constantly reach for distraction faded. Chris reflects on how rare it has become to simply be — even for ten seconds at a stoplight — and how reclaiming boredom opened the door to clarity, peace, and freedom. He also revisits one of the most meaningful practices from a book that has shaped his life, The Way of Mastery: ending each day by blessing and releasing it. "I bless and release this day. It has been perfect, and it is finished." That simple practice helped him recognize how often his mind lived in guilt about the past or worry about the future — and how little time he actually spent in the one place where life truly happens: the present moment. This episode isn't about quitting social media or adopting someone else's routine. It's an invitation to run your own experiment. To notice where distraction is stealing your attention. And to create a small, intentional practice that helps you come home to yourself, your family, and your life. As Chris shares, the goal isn't perfection — it's presence. And maybe, just maybe, boredom isn't something to avoid… but something we desperately need more of. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Why Chris wanted to record a short solo episode 01:00 – The study on boredom and constant distraction 02:00 – Why we never let our minds be still 03:00 – The Spain trip and removing social media 04:15 – What changed when the noise stopped 05:30 – Why this isn't really about phones 06:30 – Living in the past and future instead of the present 07:30 – The daily practice of blessing and releasing the day 08:45 – Why presence is where peace actually lives 09:45 – A simple experiment you can try 10:30 – Final encouragement: let boredom work for you    

You Are Firemen: Built to Lead, Built to Last This week's episode is part reflection, part celebration, and part reminder. Chris and Melissa sit down to talk about two big milestones: the recent Family Brand Blitz and the five-year anniversary of The Family Brand Podcast. And instead of just sharing highlights, they unpack the deeper lessons that emerged — about consistency, leadership, and why families are far more capable than they often realize. They reflect on the power of bringing couples together in person at the Blitz, how every family — no matter the stage — is carrying something hard, and why the work of building a strong family culture is always worth doing. They also share a big realization that came out of the event: families don't need more content or bigger programs — they need simpler, more focused tools that actually fit real life. Chris and Melissa talk honestly about the tension between doing more and doing better, and why growth often looks like subtraction instead of addition. As the new year approaches, they invite listeners to consider what needs to be simplified, not added. They also reflect on the hardest part of any meaningful work: consistency. Excitement comes easily. Staying the course when motivation fades does not. Melissa shares what it's taken to show up week after week for five years — even on the weeks she didn't feel inspired — and how consistency is what ultimately allows you to "earn the right" to lead, teach, and have a voice. The episode closes with one of the most powerful metaphors they've ever shared: you are firemen. Challenges don't mean you're failing — they mean you're exactly where you're supposed to be. You were built for the heat. You were sent your kids for a reason. And together, as a family, you are capable of far more than you think. This episode is both grounding and empowering — a reminder that leadership starts at home, consistency builds confidence, and strong families aren't perfect… they're intentional. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sq2figwIX9s&feature=youtu.be  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Holiday check-in and why this episode matters 01:00 – Introducing the Family Brand Blitz 02:00 – Why the right couples showed up 03:00 – Celebrating five years of The Family Brand Podcast 04:00 – Chris acknowledges Melissa's consistency 05:00 – "Earning the right" to have a voice 06:00 – Lessons learned from the Blitz 07:00 – Every family struggles — and that's okay 08:00 – Why families don't need bigger programs 09:30 – Simplifying instead of doing more 11:00 – Addition by subtraction in family life 12:00 – Start, stop, continue: a powerful planning exercise 13:00 – Why this season of life feels overwhelming 14:00 – Consistency vs. motivation 15:00 – What happens when the excitement wears off 16:00 – Discipline, confidence, and earning the right 17:00 – The fireman analogy: facing adversity with identity 18:00 – Why challenges mean you're exactly where you belong

The Family Brand New Year's Kickoff: A Tradition That Builds Culture Every year, right after Christmas — during those quiet, in-between days when no one quite knows what day it is — our family slows down and does something that has become one of our most meaningful traditions. We reflect. We celebrate. And we intentionally step into the new year together. In this solo episode, Melissa walks you through the Family Brand New Year's Kickoff, a simple, free activity that hundreds of families download every year — and come back to again and again. This year's version has been fully updated, and families continue to share how impactful it's been, from sparking meaningful conversations to even becoming the moment they announced a new baby to their kids. Melissa explains why reflection matters just as much as goal-setting, and how looking back before looking forward helps families build clarity, gratitude, and momentum. She shares how to use the reflection questions with kids of all ages (even toddlers), how to keep the process light and pressure-free, and why there's no "right" way to do this — just a way that works for your family. She also breaks down two of the most loved parts of the kickoff: Choosing a family word (or phrase) for the year — a shared language that shapes how your family shows up The annual Family Award Ceremony — a powerful moment where each child (and spouse!) is recognized not for achievements, but for who they are and how they showed up Melissa shares a deeply touching story about a family friend whose son, now leaving on a two-year mission, named this New Year's award ceremony as one of his favorite family memories — a reminder that these small traditions often leave the biggest impact. Finally, she walks through how they create vision boards as a family, why perfection isn't the goal, and shares a beautiful personal story about a vision board image that unexpectedly showed up for her on a bridge in Spain — a moment that felt like a quiet wink from God. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and start the year with intention — not pressure. You don't need a perfect plan. You just need a moment to pause and ask: Who do we want to be this year, together? LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://familybrand.com/kickoff Episode Minute By Minute: 01:20 – Introducing the Family Brand New Year's Kickoff 02:30 – Why reflection is often skipped (and why it matters) 03:30 – How the reflection questions work 04:30 – Keeping it light and pressure-free for kids 05:30 – Adapting the activity for younger children 06:30 – Using everyday moments (car rides, walks) for reflection 07:30 – Choosing a family word or phrase for the year 08:45 – Shared language and building family culture 10:00 – The Family Award Ceremony explained 11:15 – Why awards are about who they are, not what they did 12:15 – A powerful story about a son leaving on a mission 13:30 – Vision boards: why they matter 14:45 – How to make vision boards simple and fun 16:00 – Encouraging kids without forcing perfection 17:00 – Melissa's vision board story from Spain 19:30 – Feeling seen, aligned, and intentional 20:45 – Don't forget to honor your spouse 21:45 – Where to download the kickoff + how to share 22:45 – Final encouragement for the new year

As we head into a new year, Chris and Melissa wanted to revisit a conversation that has quietly shaped their family more than almost anything else: the power of language. This idea — that language creates — was one of the very first topics ever discussed on The Family Brand Podcast, and it's still one of the most talked-about episodes to this day. Because once you see it, you can't unsee it. In this episode, Chris explains why language is never neutral. The words we use are either rooted in possibility or anchored in limitation — and over time, they shape our beliefs, our behaviors, our marriages, our kids, and even what we believe is possible for our lives. Melissa shares real-life moments where she's seen language create identity — including a powerful story about how a single sentence labeled one of their children as "shy," and how quickly that label became part of his self-story. Together, they unpack how easily we talk ourselves out of what we want by using phrases like "I should," "I need to," or "that could never work." They also explore how we often spend far more energy talking about what we don't want, don't like, don't have, or what isn't working — and how simply shifting our language can begin to change how life occurs for us. From an Uber conversation about health, to a heartbreaking post about a mother who hadn't seen her daughter in 14 years, this episode brings the concept of language into everyday life. This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending things are perfect. It's about awareness. It's about noticing the words you use — with yourself, with your spouse, and with your kids — and asking whether they're creating freedom or reinforcing fear. As Chris says, "If you upgrade your language, you upgrade your life." And as a family, that's a powerful place to start.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Holiday season, basketball season, and family life right now 01:45 – Why this conversation matters heading into a new year 02:30 – Revisiting one of the most impactful Family Brand episodes ever 03:10 – "Language creates" — what that actually means 04:10 – Words create either possibility or limitation 05:10 – How language shapes the culture of your home 06:00 – The Uber story: "I should go to the gym" 07:40 – Anchored in limitation vs. rooted in possibility 08:40 – Why guilt and shame don't create change 10:10 – The four language traps: don't want, don't have, don't like, isn't working 11:30 – Shifting energy toward what does work 13:10 – A heartbreaking story about language and impossibility 15:00 – Declaring what you want — then ripping the seed out 16:30 – Why staying limited feels safer than change 18:20 – Language creates identity (the "shy" story) 20:00 – How parents unintentionally label their kids 21:45 – Upgrading language without guilt or pressure 23:10 – Social media, negativity, and reinforcing limitation 24:30 – A simple experiment: change your language for one week 25:45 – Helping your kids shift language without correcting them 26:45 – Final takeaway: talk about what works 27:20 – Family Brand Quiz + free PDF invitation  

Chief Reminding Officer: The Power of Repetition in Your Family If you've ever felt like a broken record as a parent — constantly reminding your kids (or yourself) of the same things over and over — this episode will make you feel a whole lot better. This week, Chris and Melissa talk about something they've been feeling in both their home and business lately: that quiet drift that happens when you stop doing the simple things that actually work. The routines that keep your house running. The systems that make your marriage stronger. The habits that help your family thrive. And the truth they came back to? Most families don't need a brand-new plan… they just need to remember the one they already have. Chris shares a conversation that pushed him to revisit Excellence Wins by Horst Schulze, the cofounder of the Ritz-Carlton. One line jumped off the page: "Great leaders are really just Chief Reminding Officers." At the Ritz, they review the same guiding principles every 21 days — not because people don't know them, but because repetition is what keeps a culture alive. As Chris and Melissa talk through examples from their own home, you'll hear how easy it is to slip into "sloppy" seasons — dishes piling up, routines disappearing, date nights pushed aside. Not because something is wrong… but because we forget what works. Melissa shares why repetition used to feel boring to her — and how she learned to see it as one of the most loving, grounding things you can do for your family. When you remind your kids who they are, remind your spouse what your marriage is about, or remind yourself what your family values… you're strengthening your culture every single time. This episode will make you feel encouraged, not overwhelmed. You'll walk away remembering that you don't need to reinvent your life — you probably already have the tools, rhythms, and values that work. You just need to return to them, repeat them, and keep reminding the people you love most. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Recap: Family Brand Blitz and 20th anniversary reflections 01:30 – Introducing today's topic: becoming the Chief Reminding Officer 02:00 – Why repetition and reinforcement are underrated leadership traits 03:00 – The "authentic conversation" that sparked this episode 04:00 – Lessons from Excellence Wins and the Ritz Carlton's 21 rules 05:30 – "Ladies and gentlemen serving ladies and gentlemen" — defining culture 06:30 – Why repetition sustains identity better than constant reinvention 08:00 – Applying business lessons to family life 09:00 – How Family Brand uses corporate exercises to shape home culture 10:00 – Responding to the "we need something new" mindset 11:30 – The real fix for "sloppiness" in teams and families 12:30 – Why date nights and routines matter more than new ideas 13:30 – How small sacrifices lead to peace and structure 14:30 – The "Family Works When…" and "Marriage Works When…" exercise 15:30 – Writing down what makes your family thrive 16:30 – Reinforcing vs. reinventing: the real job of leadership 17:00 – Melissa's insight: learning to love the act of reminding 18:00 – Final takeaway: stop fighting repetition — embrace it as the path to peace

Have you ever caught yourself saying "no" to your kids' adventures out of pure instinct — only to wonder later if maybe the risk was worth it? In this episode, Chris and Melissa talk about how they're learning to raise kids who are more confident, capable, and adventurous by saying yes a little more often. The idea started after Melissa read The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt — a powerful book that explores how modern parenting and constant digital connection have created more anxious, less independent kids. Together, they reflect on how the shift from outdoor play to screens has changed childhood, and what parents can do to reclaim freedom and resilience for their kids. They share personal stories from their own family — like letting their teenage son navigate New York City solo, their kids exploring Paris and Croatia by themselves, and their 10-year-old's first bike ride to school (which included a coyote sighting and a dog chase). Each story carries the same theme: that a little bit of risk, independence, and real-world adventure is not just okay — it's essential. Chris and Melissa also discuss how media consumption has shaped our fears, why the world may not actually be more dangerous than it used to be, and how giving kids appropriate autonomy builds courage and confidence. They tackle the smartphone dilemma too — why they're rethinking when their kids get phones, and what it means to trade "connection" for constant anxiety. This episode will inspire you to loosen the reins just a bit, trust your kids more, and rediscover the joy of letting them learn through life — not just lectures. As Chris puts it, "Adventure builds confidence. Confidence builds courage. And courage builds character."   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://www.anxiousgeneration.com Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – The inspiration behind today's topic: The Anxious Generation 01:00 – Introducing the Family Brand Croatia Cruise (June 20–27!) 03:00 – Letting their 17-year-old explore New York City alone 05:00 – How independence builds confidence and perspective 06:00 – Kids navigating Paris, Croatia, and new cities on their own 08:00 – The 10-year-old's first solo bike ride (and wild encounters) 10:00 – How small risks create big growth and resilience 11:00 – Is the world really more dangerous than it used to be? 12:00 – The role media plays in fueling parental anxiety 13:00 – What The Anxious Generation teaches about freedom vs. fear 15:00 – Revisiting your family's smartphone rules 16:00 – Chris's powerful analogy: "Would you pay for your child's destruction?" 17:00 – The Harvard study on boredom and why it's good for kids 18:00 – Rediscovering stillness and creative thought 19:00 – Building community around shared parenting values 20:00 – Changing the narrative: why "different" is good 21:00 – Rewriting your family's agreements — it's never too late 22:00 – Holiday reflections: gifts that inspire adventure, not anxiety

Making Jesus Famous One Song at a Time with Angie Killian This week, Melissa sits down with award-winning songwriter and composer Angie Killian, whose music has touched millions of hearts around the world. Angie's songs — like her viral hit "My Own Sacred Grove" — have been streamed over 30 million times and translated into dozens of languages, inspiring faith, joy, and connection in homes everywhere. But Angie's story didn't start with fame or recognition. It began in the quiet moments of motherhood — rocking a newborn in the middle of the night, wrestling with exhaustion and postpartum depression, and hearing a simple melody that became her lifeline. That small spark of light led Angie to write songs for her children about Jesus, love, and hope — songs that would eventually bless families all over the world. Melissa and Angie dive deep into the power of music — especially for children. Angie shares how melodies and lyrics can plant truth deep in a child's heart and why music is one of the most powerful tools parents can use to teach faith. She offers practical ideas for families who want to bring more music into their homes — from listening in the car to singing together at bedtime or joining a local children's choir. They also explore what it looks like to balance motherhood and creative callings. Angie opens up about the guilt she once felt spending time on her music instead of chores or endless to-do lists — and how she came to realize that pursuing her God-given gifts made her a more joyful, grounded mom. From writing songs during nap times to her new preschool project Tiny Disciple Songs, Angie's story is a powerful reminder that light often breaks through in unexpected places — and that creativity, faith, and motherhood can coexist beautifully.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introduction: Melissa shares how she discovered Angie's music 02:00 – The piano over countertops story: a mom's early sacrifice for music 04:00 – How a sleepless night sparked Angie's songwriting journey 06:00 – Writing songs for her children through postpartum depression 08:00 – Learning the craft of songwriting and sharing vulnerable work 10:00 – How music shaped her family life — and how her kids now sing with her  13:00 – The joy of raising musical children and creating together 14:30 – Why children's songs hold unique power for faith and memory 16:00 – Practical ways to use music as a spiritual teaching tool in your home 18:00 – Finding balance between sports, choir, and faith-based activities 20:00 – The rise of Christian music in the mainstream (and why it matters) 23:00 – CCM vs. Worship: understanding modern Christian music 24:00 – Angie's favorite songs and how "I Am Thankful" came to life 25:00 – "Making Jesus Famous" — her mission behind the music 27:00 – The miracle behind My Own Sacred Grove and trusting God's timing 30:00 – Navigating creativity, family, and guilt as a mom 32:00 – Why pursuing your calling makes you a better parent 33:00 – What's next: Holy Road, Wonderfully Made, and Tiny Disciple Songs 35:00 – Final thoughts and Melissa's reflections on using music to teach faith    

Living with Intention: The Daily Habits That Build a Life You Love This week, Melissa continues the conversation from Episode 239 — The #1 Thing Standing Between You and the Life You Want — where she shared the importance of getting clear on what you want. Now, in Part Two, she goes deeper into what to do once you've found that clarity, and how to live with intention even in the middle of life's stress, chaos, and constant demands. Click here to listen to part one on Apple!  Click here to listen and read on our website! In this episode, Melissa shares insights from a workshop she recently gave to women at her church about living intentionally and managing the mental load that comes with modern life. She explains what "intentional living" really means — making choices based on your values and goals instead of defaulting to busyness or comparison — and walks through a practical exercise you can do right now: asking yourself, What do I really want? She guides listeners through a journaling activity that reveals recurring themes, hidden desires, and areas where you might need more clarity. Then, she moves into the second half of the conversation — managing stress in real life. From a day spent painting with her kids that turned chaotic to simple strategies for lowering stress hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, Melissa shows that living intentionally doesn't mean living perfectly — it means noticing what's working and making small, conscious adjustments. She also highlights one of the most underused yet powerful tools for reducing anxiety and increasing self-awareness: journaling. Melissa shares research showing its benefits and how writing down what's in your head — no matter how messy — can be both healing and clarifying. This episode is a gentle, encouraging reminder that you don't have to overhaul your life to live more intentionally. Sometimes it's as simple as pausing, reflecting, and asking: What's one thing I can do today to move closer to the life I truly want?   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Welcome to Part Two of the Living with Intention series 01:00 – Why this episode stands alone but connects to clarity (Part One) 02:00 – What intentional living actually means — and what it doesn't 03:30 – Knowing what you want and living in alignment with it 05:00 – Why this question — "What do I want?" — keeps showing up 06:30 – The writing exercise: ask yourself the question seven times 08:00 – Identifying patterns and themes in your answers 09:00 – How clarity leads to alignment and purpose 10:00 – Transition: managing the mental load of daily life 11:00 – The painting story — and how "small stress" still adds up 12:30 – The four happiness chemicals and how to activate them 13:30 – Dopamine: reward yourself and celebrate small wins 14:00 – Oxytocin: connection through touch, kindness, and service 14:30 – Serotonin: stability through sun, nature, and mindfulness 15:00 – Endorphins: joy through laughter, movement, and music 16:00 – The surprising science behind journaling and stress relief 17:30 – Why journaling is powerful — and why we often avoid it 19:00 – How confronting your thoughts can lead to healing 20:00 – Creating your personal plan of action 21:00 – One small step toward more peace and less stress 22:00 – Closing encouragement: be still, do what brings you joy, and live with intention

You Are What You Consume: How Media Shapes Your Family What we watch, listen to, and read matters more than we realize. In this episode, Chris and Melissa open a conversation that every family needs to have: how the media we consume — from music and books to shows and social media — shapes who we become. It all started with a walk and a conversation about Taylor Swift's latest album, but the discussion quickly turned into something much deeper: how to discern light from darkness in a world full of noise, artificial positivity, and subtle influence. Chris shares the idea of hidden darkness — how things that appear good on the surface can sometimes carry messages that slowly erode our values. Melissa adds practical examples from their own family, from karaoke songs that sounded fun until the lyrics popped up on the screen, to noticing mood and behavior shifts in their kids after certain music or books. They discuss everything from letting kids read Harry Potter too early, to streaming algorithms that quietly shape what we watch, to the way humor and sarcasm in "innocent" family sitcoms can normalize disrespect and contention. Chris and Melissa don't pretend to have it all figured out — in fact, they share openly how they're still navigating this as parents. But they emphasize one thing: the goal isn't perfection, it's vigilance. The takeaway? Be intentional and stay vigilant. Pay attention to what you — and your kids — are consuming. Ask whether it elevates and inspires, or subtly dulls your light. Because as Melissa reminds us, "That's who we become." LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Family Brand Blitz retreat reminder 02:00 – The Taylor Swift album conversation that sparked this episode 04:00 – "Light or darkness?" — Chris on hidden darkness and artificial light 06:00 – How small influences add up: the justification trap 08:00 – The Pink Pony Club karaoke story (and what it revealed) 10:00 – Joy vs. artificial light — how to discern the difference 11:30 – What happens when your child falls asleep to the wrong playlist 13:00 – How books, music, and media can shift behavior 15:00 – The Harry Potter moment: knowing when your kids are ready 17:00 – Recognizing subtle influences in "family" shows 18:30 – Modeling behavior and what kids learn from on-screen families 20:00 – The danger of "it's not that bad" 21:00 – The justification test: if you're defending it, it's worth questioning 22:00 – Artists who choose light over fame — Forest Frank's example 23:30 – Using your family values as a filter for what you consume 24:00 – The Family Brand lens: "Does this elevate and inspire?"    

How to Celebrate Dia De Los Muertos as a Family (and Why You Should) Every year around this time, Chris and Melissa share one of their favorite family traditions — celebrating Dia De Los Muertos, or Day of the Dead. What started years ago as an invitation to a friend's backyard gathering has turned into a cherished Family Brand tradition that connects their kids to their heritage in the most fun and meaningful way. In this episode, Chris and Melissa unpack why Dia De Los Muertos is so powerful, how it has evolved in their home, and why they believe every family can benefit from celebrating it — no matter your background. Far beyond face paint or costumes, this holiday is about remembering those who came before us, honoring their legacy, and helping our children understand where they come from. Melissa shares research from the article "The Stories That Bind Us," which reveals that kids who know about their family history are more resilient, grounded, and confident. Chris adds that Dia De Los Muertos has become their built-in reminder each year to tell those stories, building both identity and belonging for their children. They walk through practical ways to celebrate — from hosting a full neighborhood party with a food potluck and an ofrenda (altar) to something as simple as sharing popcorn and stories about a grandparent at home. Whether you want to go all-out or keep it small, this episode will leave you inspired to make it your own and create a tradition that helps your family feel more connected, seen, and rooted.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: Movie- Disney's 'Coco': https://movies.disney.com/coco Article - "The Stories that Bind Us" by Bruce Feiler: https://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html Dia De Los Muertos Invitation: https://www.canva.com/design/DAFQjqjuXGo/N4wG0U-JXTTSBCdohrtjUw/edit?utm_content=DAFQjqjuXGo&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Intro: Why Dia De Los Muertos matters to the Family Brand 01:00 – What is Dia De Los Muertos and how the Pages started celebrating 02:00 – The meaning behind the holiday: honoring heritage and ancestors 03:00 – The science of family history: "The Stories That Bind Us" study 04:00 – Why knowing family stories builds resilience and identity in kids 05:00 – How Chris and Melissa adapted the tradition for their own family 06:00 – Hosting your first Dia De Los Muertos gathering 07:00 – Setting up an ofrenda like in the movie Coco 08:00 – Bringing food that represents your family's heritage 09:00 – Inviting kids to share stories about relatives and ancestors 10:00 – Why storytelling and tradition make this night unforgettable 11:00 – Making it simple: popcorn, photos, and one meaningful story 12:00 – Turning small moments into powerful family connections 13:00 – Creative ideas: Canva invites, neighborhood gatherings, or movie nights  

Creating Unity in a Divided World In this powerful and emotional episode, Chris and Melissa explore one of the most timely and important topics of our day — unity. The world feels more divided than ever, and yet, as Chris and Melissa remind us, the healing of that division starts at home. Drawing inspiration from past guests like Connor Boyack and Bubba Page, and from recent events in their faith community, Chris and Melissa discuss what it means to "save America at the dinner table." They share how strong, connected, unified families raise strong, confident kids who bring peace and leadership into the world — and how that ripple of unity begins with the way we talk to each other at home. They also reflect on the late President Russell M. Nelson's message, "Peacemakers Needed," and how we can apply it in our homes. From resisting anger and contention to learning the art of response over reaction, the episode dives deep into what real peace looks like in practice — even when it's hard. Chris and Melissa open up about their own marriage and parenting journey, from moments of frustration to raising kids who make their own decisions. They discuss what it means to love your children — and one another — through disagreement and imperfection, reminding listeners that there's no such thing as a perfect family, only families committed to growing together. With stories ranging from spiritual reflection to a fun nod to Bob Marley's "One Love," this conversation is both sobering and hopeful. It's an invitation to look inward, lead your family with compassion, and become a peacemaker — one conversation, one dinner table, and one act of love at a time. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: Article- "Peacemakers Needed" by Russell M. Nelson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2023/04/47nelson?lang=eng Thomas McConkie on the Family Brand Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/51-finding-identity-through-navigating-a-faith/id1536495798?i=1000540847056 Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introduction: Why unity matters more than ever 01:00 – "Saving America at the dinner table" — what that really means 02:00 – Division in the world and how it mirrors our homes 04:00 – Honoring President Russell M. Nelson and his message "Peacemakers Needed" 06:00 – "Anger never persuades, hostility builds no one" — lessons from faith 08:00 – How to respond instead of react: the braided whip story 10:00 – Social media, contention, and how to model peace 12:00 – The Michigan tragedy and practicing compassion online 14:00 – Raising kids who make their own choices — and loving them through it 16:00 – When children disappoint us and how to respond with unity 18:00 – The dangers of polarization and division inside families 20:00 – How to foster unity when your kids feel pressure to "look perfect" 21:00 – Creating stillness and listening for divine inspiration in your parenting 22:00 – The power of asking guiding questions like "Will this create more peace?" 24:00 – Modeling respectful disagreement for your kids 25:00 – Leadership lessons from President Nelson and his counselors 26:00 – Why true courage looks like peacemaking, not fighting 27:00 – Bob Marley, "One Love," and finding examples of real-world unity 28:00 – Closing thoughts: how to be a unifier in your home and beyond