Family Brand: Take Back Your Family

You Are Firemen: Built to Lead, Built to Last This week's episode is part reflection, part celebration, and part reminder. Chris and Melissa sit down to talk about two big milestones: the recent Family Brand Blitz and the five-year anniversary of The Family Brand Podcast. And instead of just sharing highlights, they unpack the deeper lessons that emerged — about consistency, leadership, and why families are far more capable than they often realize. They reflect on the power of bringing couples together in person at the Blitz, how every family — no matter the stage — is carrying something hard, and why the work of building a strong family culture is always worth doing. They also share a big realization that came out of the event: families don't need more content or bigger programs — they need simpler, more focused tools that actually fit real life. Chris and Melissa talk honestly about the tension between doing more and doing better, and why growth often looks like subtraction instead of addition. As the new year approaches, they invite listeners to consider what needs to be simplified, not added. They also reflect on the hardest part of any meaningful work: consistency. Excitement comes easily. Staying the course when motivation fades does not. Melissa shares what it's taken to show up week after week for five years — even on the weeks she didn't feel inspired — and how consistency is what ultimately allows you to "earn the right" to lead, teach, and have a voice. The episode closes with one of the most powerful metaphors they've ever shared: you are firemen. Challenges don't mean you're failing — they mean you're exactly where you're supposed to be. You were built for the heat. You were sent your kids for a reason. And together, as a family, you are capable of far more than you think. This episode is both grounding and empowering — a reminder that leadership starts at home, consistency builds confidence, and strong families aren't perfect… they're intentional. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sq2figwIX9s&feature=youtu.be  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Holiday check-in and why this episode matters 01:00 – Introducing the Family Brand Blitz 02:00 – Why the right couples showed up 03:00 – Celebrating five years of The Family Brand Podcast 04:00 – Chris acknowledges Melissa's consistency 05:00 – "Earning the right" to have a voice 06:00 – Lessons learned from the Blitz 07:00 – Every family struggles — and that's okay 08:00 – Why families don't need bigger programs 09:30 – Simplifying instead of doing more 11:00 – Addition by subtraction in family life 12:00 – Start, stop, continue: a powerful planning exercise 13:00 – Why this season of life feels overwhelming 14:00 – Consistency vs. motivation 15:00 – What happens when the excitement wears off 16:00 – Discipline, confidence, and earning the right 17:00 – The fireman analogy: facing adversity with identity 18:00 – Why challenges mean you're exactly where you belong

The Family Brand New Year's Kickoff: A Tradition That Builds Culture Every year, right after Christmas — during those quiet, in-between days when no one quite knows what day it is — our family slows down and does something that has become one of our most meaningful traditions. We reflect. We celebrate. And we intentionally step into the new year together. In this solo episode, Melissa walks you through the Family Brand New Year's Kickoff, a simple, free activity that hundreds of families download every year — and come back to again and again. This year's version has been fully updated, and families continue to share how impactful it's been, from sparking meaningful conversations to even becoming the moment they announced a new baby to their kids. Melissa explains why reflection matters just as much as goal-setting, and how looking back before looking forward helps families build clarity, gratitude, and momentum. She shares how to use the reflection questions with kids of all ages (even toddlers), how to keep the process light and pressure-free, and why there's no "right" way to do this — just a way that works for your family. She also breaks down two of the most loved parts of the kickoff: Choosing a family word (or phrase) for the year — a shared language that shapes how your family shows up The annual Family Award Ceremony — a powerful moment where each child (and spouse!) is recognized not for achievements, but for who they are and how they showed up Melissa shares a deeply touching story about a family friend whose son, now leaving on a two-year mission, named this New Year's award ceremony as one of his favorite family memories — a reminder that these small traditions often leave the biggest impact. Finally, she walks through how they create vision boards as a family, why perfection isn't the goal, and shares a beautiful personal story about a vision board image that unexpectedly showed up for her on a bridge in Spain — a moment that felt like a quiet wink from God. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and start the year with intention — not pressure. You don't need a perfect plan. You just need a moment to pause and ask: Who do we want to be this year, together? LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://familybrand.com/kickoff Episode Minute By Minute: 01:20 – Introducing the Family Brand New Year's Kickoff 02:30 – Why reflection is often skipped (and why it matters) 03:30 – How the reflection questions work 04:30 – Keeping it light and pressure-free for kids 05:30 – Adapting the activity for younger children 06:30 – Using everyday moments (car rides, walks) for reflection 07:30 – Choosing a family word or phrase for the year 08:45 – Shared language and building family culture 10:00 – The Family Award Ceremony explained 11:15 – Why awards are about who they are, not what they did 12:15 – A powerful story about a son leaving on a mission 13:30 – Vision boards: why they matter 14:45 – How to make vision boards simple and fun 16:00 – Encouraging kids without forcing perfection 17:00 – Melissa's vision board story from Spain 19:30 – Feeling seen, aligned, and intentional 20:45 – Don't forget to honor your spouse 21:45 – Where to download the kickoff + how to share 22:45 – Final encouragement for the new year

As we head into a new year, Chris and Melissa wanted to revisit a conversation that has quietly shaped their family more than almost anything else: the power of language. This idea — that language creates — was one of the very first topics ever discussed on The Family Brand Podcast, and it's still one of the most talked-about episodes to this day. Because once you see it, you can't unsee it. In this episode, Chris explains why language is never neutral. The words we use are either rooted in possibility or anchored in limitation — and over time, they shape our beliefs, our behaviors, our marriages, our kids, and even what we believe is possible for our lives. Melissa shares real-life moments where she's seen language create identity — including a powerful story about how a single sentence labeled one of their children as "shy," and how quickly that label became part of his self-story. Together, they unpack how easily we talk ourselves out of what we want by using phrases like "I should," "I need to," or "that could never work." They also explore how we often spend far more energy talking about what we don't want, don't like, don't have, or what isn't working — and how simply shifting our language can begin to change how life occurs for us. From an Uber conversation about health, to a heartbreaking post about a mother who hadn't seen her daughter in 14 years, this episode brings the concept of language into everyday life. This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending things are perfect. It's about awareness. It's about noticing the words you use — with yourself, with your spouse, and with your kids — and asking whether they're creating freedom or reinforcing fear. As Chris says, "If you upgrade your language, you upgrade your life." And as a family, that's a powerful place to start.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Holiday season, basketball season, and family life right now 01:45 – Why this conversation matters heading into a new year 02:30 – Revisiting one of the most impactful Family Brand episodes ever 03:10 – "Language creates" — what that actually means 04:10 – Words create either possibility or limitation 05:10 – How language shapes the culture of your home 06:00 – The Uber story: "I should go to the gym" 07:40 – Anchored in limitation vs. rooted in possibility 08:40 – Why guilt and shame don't create change 10:10 – The four language traps: don't want, don't have, don't like, isn't working 11:30 – Shifting energy toward what does work 13:10 – A heartbreaking story about language and impossibility 15:00 – Declaring what you want — then ripping the seed out 16:30 – Why staying limited feels safer than change 18:20 – Language creates identity (the "shy" story) 20:00 – How parents unintentionally label their kids 21:45 – Upgrading language without guilt or pressure 23:10 – Social media, negativity, and reinforcing limitation 24:30 – A simple experiment: change your language for one week 25:45 – Helping your kids shift language without correcting them 26:45 – Final takeaway: talk about what works 27:20 – Family Brand Quiz + free PDF invitation  

Chief Reminding Officer: The Power of Repetition in Your Family If you've ever felt like a broken record as a parent — constantly reminding your kids (or yourself) of the same things over and over — this episode will make you feel a whole lot better. This week, Chris and Melissa talk about something they've been feeling in both their home and business lately: that quiet drift that happens when you stop doing the simple things that actually work. The routines that keep your house running. The systems that make your marriage stronger. The habits that help your family thrive. And the truth they came back to? Most families don't need a brand-new plan… they just need to remember the one they already have. Chris shares a conversation that pushed him to revisit Excellence Wins by Horst Schulze, the cofounder of the Ritz-Carlton. One line jumped off the page: "Great leaders are really just Chief Reminding Officers." At the Ritz, they review the same guiding principles every 21 days — not because people don't know them, but because repetition is what keeps a culture alive. As Chris and Melissa talk through examples from their own home, you'll hear how easy it is to slip into "sloppy" seasons — dishes piling up, routines disappearing, date nights pushed aside. Not because something is wrong… but because we forget what works. Melissa shares why repetition used to feel boring to her — and how she learned to see it as one of the most loving, grounding things you can do for your family. When you remind your kids who they are, remind your spouse what your marriage is about, or remind yourself what your family values… you're strengthening your culture every single time. This episode will make you feel encouraged, not overwhelmed. You'll walk away remembering that you don't need to reinvent your life — you probably already have the tools, rhythms, and values that work. You just need to return to them, repeat them, and keep reminding the people you love most. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Recap: Family Brand Blitz and 20th anniversary reflections 01:30 – Introducing today's topic: becoming the Chief Reminding Officer 02:00 – Why repetition and reinforcement are underrated leadership traits 03:00 – The "authentic conversation" that sparked this episode 04:00 – Lessons from Excellence Wins and the Ritz Carlton's 21 rules 05:30 – "Ladies and gentlemen serving ladies and gentlemen" — defining culture 06:30 – Why repetition sustains identity better than constant reinvention 08:00 – Applying business lessons to family life 09:00 – How Family Brand uses corporate exercises to shape home culture 10:00 – Responding to the "we need something new" mindset 11:30 – The real fix for "sloppiness" in teams and families 12:30 – Why date nights and routines matter more than new ideas 13:30 – How small sacrifices lead to peace and structure 14:30 – The "Family Works When…" and "Marriage Works When…" exercise 15:30 – Writing down what makes your family thrive 16:30 – Reinforcing vs. reinventing: the real job of leadership 17:00 – Melissa's insight: learning to love the act of reminding 18:00 – Final takeaway: stop fighting repetition — embrace it as the path to peace

Have you ever caught yourself saying "no" to your kids' adventures out of pure instinct — only to wonder later if maybe the risk was worth it? In this episode, Chris and Melissa talk about how they're learning to raise kids who are more confident, capable, and adventurous by saying yes a little more often. The idea started after Melissa read The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt — a powerful book that explores how modern parenting and constant digital connection have created more anxious, less independent kids. Together, they reflect on how the shift from outdoor play to screens has changed childhood, and what parents can do to reclaim freedom and resilience for their kids. They share personal stories from their own family — like letting their teenage son navigate New York City solo, their kids exploring Paris and Croatia by themselves, and their 10-year-old's first bike ride to school (which included a coyote sighting and a dog chase). Each story carries the same theme: that a little bit of risk, independence, and real-world adventure is not just okay — it's essential. Chris and Melissa also discuss how media consumption has shaped our fears, why the world may not actually be more dangerous than it used to be, and how giving kids appropriate autonomy builds courage and confidence. They tackle the smartphone dilemma too — why they're rethinking when their kids get phones, and what it means to trade "connection" for constant anxiety. This episode will inspire you to loosen the reins just a bit, trust your kids more, and rediscover the joy of letting them learn through life — not just lectures. As Chris puts it, "Adventure builds confidence. Confidence builds courage. And courage builds character."   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://www.anxiousgeneration.com Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – The inspiration behind today's topic: The Anxious Generation 01:00 – Introducing the Family Brand Croatia Cruise (June 20–27!) 03:00 – Letting their 17-year-old explore New York City alone 05:00 – How independence builds confidence and perspective 06:00 – Kids navigating Paris, Croatia, and new cities on their own 08:00 – The 10-year-old's first solo bike ride (and wild encounters) 10:00 – How small risks create big growth and resilience 11:00 – Is the world really more dangerous than it used to be? 12:00 – The role media plays in fueling parental anxiety 13:00 – What The Anxious Generation teaches about freedom vs. fear 15:00 – Revisiting your family's smartphone rules 16:00 – Chris's powerful analogy: "Would you pay for your child's destruction?" 17:00 – The Harvard study on boredom and why it's good for kids 18:00 – Rediscovering stillness and creative thought 19:00 – Building community around shared parenting values 20:00 – Changing the narrative: why "different" is good 21:00 – Rewriting your family's agreements — it's never too late 22:00 – Holiday reflections: gifts that inspire adventure, not anxiety

Making Jesus Famous One Song at a Time with Angie Killian This week, Melissa sits down with award-winning songwriter and composer Angie Killian, whose music has touched millions of hearts around the world. Angie's songs — like her viral hit "My Own Sacred Grove" — have been streamed over 30 million times and translated into dozens of languages, inspiring faith, joy, and connection in homes everywhere. But Angie's story didn't start with fame or recognition. It began in the quiet moments of motherhood — rocking a newborn in the middle of the night, wrestling with exhaustion and postpartum depression, and hearing a simple melody that became her lifeline. That small spark of light led Angie to write songs for her children about Jesus, love, and hope — songs that would eventually bless families all over the world. Melissa and Angie dive deep into the power of music — especially for children. Angie shares how melodies and lyrics can plant truth deep in a child's heart and why music is one of the most powerful tools parents can use to teach faith. She offers practical ideas for families who want to bring more music into their homes — from listening in the car to singing together at bedtime or joining a local children's choir. They also explore what it looks like to balance motherhood and creative callings. Angie opens up about the guilt she once felt spending time on her music instead of chores or endless to-do lists — and how she came to realize that pursuing her God-given gifts made her a more joyful, grounded mom. From writing songs during nap times to her new preschool project Tiny Disciple Songs, Angie's story is a powerful reminder that light often breaks through in unexpected places — and that creativity, faith, and motherhood can coexist beautifully.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introduction: Melissa shares how she discovered Angie's music 02:00 – The piano over countertops story: a mom's early sacrifice for music 04:00 – How a sleepless night sparked Angie's songwriting journey 06:00 – Writing songs for her children through postpartum depression 08:00 – Learning the craft of songwriting and sharing vulnerable work 10:00 – How music shaped her family life — and how her kids now sing with her  13:00 – The joy of raising musical children and creating together 14:30 – Why children's songs hold unique power for faith and memory 16:00 – Practical ways to use music as a spiritual teaching tool in your home 18:00 – Finding balance between sports, choir, and faith-based activities 20:00 – The rise of Christian music in the mainstream (and why it matters) 23:00 – CCM vs. Worship: understanding modern Christian music 24:00 – Angie's favorite songs and how "I Am Thankful" came to life 25:00 – "Making Jesus Famous" — her mission behind the music 27:00 – The miracle behind My Own Sacred Grove and trusting God's timing 30:00 – Navigating creativity, family, and guilt as a mom 32:00 – Why pursuing your calling makes you a better parent 33:00 – What's next: Holy Road, Wonderfully Made, and Tiny Disciple Songs 35:00 – Final thoughts and Melissa's reflections on using music to teach faith    

Living with Intention: The Daily Habits That Build a Life You Love This week, Melissa continues the conversation from Episode 239 — The #1 Thing Standing Between You and the Life You Want — where she shared the importance of getting clear on what you want. Now, in Part Two, she goes deeper into what to do once you've found that clarity, and how to live with intention even in the middle of life's stress, chaos, and constant demands. Click here to listen to part one on Apple!  Click here to listen and read on our website! In this episode, Melissa shares insights from a workshop she recently gave to women at her church about living intentionally and managing the mental load that comes with modern life. She explains what "intentional living" really means — making choices based on your values and goals instead of defaulting to busyness or comparison — and walks through a practical exercise you can do right now: asking yourself, What do I really want? She guides listeners through a journaling activity that reveals recurring themes, hidden desires, and areas where you might need more clarity. Then, she moves into the second half of the conversation — managing stress in real life. From a day spent painting with her kids that turned chaotic to simple strategies for lowering stress hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, Melissa shows that living intentionally doesn't mean living perfectly — it means noticing what's working and making small, conscious adjustments. She also highlights one of the most underused yet powerful tools for reducing anxiety and increasing self-awareness: journaling. Melissa shares research showing its benefits and how writing down what's in your head — no matter how messy — can be both healing and clarifying. This episode is a gentle, encouraging reminder that you don't have to overhaul your life to live more intentionally. Sometimes it's as simple as pausing, reflecting, and asking: What's one thing I can do today to move closer to the life I truly want?   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Welcome to Part Two of the Living with Intention series 01:00 – Why this episode stands alone but connects to clarity (Part One) 02:00 – What intentional living actually means — and what it doesn't 03:30 – Knowing what you want and living in alignment with it 05:00 – Why this question — "What do I want?" — keeps showing up 06:30 – The writing exercise: ask yourself the question seven times 08:00 – Identifying patterns and themes in your answers 09:00 – How clarity leads to alignment and purpose 10:00 – Transition: managing the mental load of daily life 11:00 – The painting story — and how "small stress" still adds up 12:30 – The four happiness chemicals and how to activate them 13:30 – Dopamine: reward yourself and celebrate small wins 14:00 – Oxytocin: connection through touch, kindness, and service 14:30 – Serotonin: stability through sun, nature, and mindfulness 15:00 – Endorphins: joy through laughter, movement, and music 16:00 – The surprising science behind journaling and stress relief 17:30 – Why journaling is powerful — and why we often avoid it 19:00 – How confronting your thoughts can lead to healing 20:00 – Creating your personal plan of action 21:00 – One small step toward more peace and less stress 22:00 – Closing encouragement: be still, do what brings you joy, and live with intention

You Are What You Consume: How Media Shapes Your Family What we watch, listen to, and read matters more than we realize. In this episode, Chris and Melissa open a conversation that every family needs to have: how the media we consume — from music and books to shows and social media — shapes who we become. It all started with a walk and a conversation about Taylor Swift's latest album, but the discussion quickly turned into something much deeper: how to discern light from darkness in a world full of noise, artificial positivity, and subtle influence. Chris shares the idea of hidden darkness — how things that appear good on the surface can sometimes carry messages that slowly erode our values. Melissa adds practical examples from their own family, from karaoke songs that sounded fun until the lyrics popped up on the screen, to noticing mood and behavior shifts in their kids after certain music or books. They discuss everything from letting kids read Harry Potter too early, to streaming algorithms that quietly shape what we watch, to the way humor and sarcasm in "innocent" family sitcoms can normalize disrespect and contention. Chris and Melissa don't pretend to have it all figured out — in fact, they share openly how they're still navigating this as parents. But they emphasize one thing: the goal isn't perfection, it's vigilance. The takeaway? Be intentional and stay vigilant. Pay attention to what you — and your kids — are consuming. Ask whether it elevates and inspires, or subtly dulls your light. Because as Melissa reminds us, "That's who we become." LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Family Brand Blitz retreat reminder 02:00 – The Taylor Swift album conversation that sparked this episode 04:00 – "Light or darkness?" — Chris on hidden darkness and artificial light 06:00 – How small influences add up: the justification trap 08:00 – The Pink Pony Club karaoke story (and what it revealed) 10:00 – Joy vs. artificial light — how to discern the difference 11:30 – What happens when your child falls asleep to the wrong playlist 13:00 – How books, music, and media can shift behavior 15:00 – The Harry Potter moment: knowing when your kids are ready 17:00 – Recognizing subtle influences in "family" shows 18:30 – Modeling behavior and what kids learn from on-screen families 20:00 – The danger of "it's not that bad" 21:00 – The justification test: if you're defending it, it's worth questioning 22:00 – Artists who choose light over fame — Forest Frank's example 23:30 – Using your family values as a filter for what you consume 24:00 – The Family Brand lens: "Does this elevate and inspire?"    

How to Celebrate Dia De Los Muertos as a Family (and Why You Should) Every year around this time, Chris and Melissa share one of their favorite family traditions — celebrating Dia De Los Muertos, or Day of the Dead. What started years ago as an invitation to a friend's backyard gathering has turned into a cherished Family Brand tradition that connects their kids to their heritage in the most fun and meaningful way. In this episode, Chris and Melissa unpack why Dia De Los Muertos is so powerful, how it has evolved in their home, and why they believe every family can benefit from celebrating it — no matter your background. Far beyond face paint or costumes, this holiday is about remembering those who came before us, honoring their legacy, and helping our children understand where they come from. Melissa shares research from the article "The Stories That Bind Us," which reveals that kids who know about their family history are more resilient, grounded, and confident. Chris adds that Dia De Los Muertos has become their built-in reminder each year to tell those stories, building both identity and belonging for their children. They walk through practical ways to celebrate — from hosting a full neighborhood party with a food potluck and an ofrenda (altar) to something as simple as sharing popcorn and stories about a grandparent at home. Whether you want to go all-out or keep it small, this episode will leave you inspired to make it your own and create a tradition that helps your family feel more connected, seen, and rooted.   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.   Links For This Episode: Movie- Disney's 'Coco': https://movies.disney.com/coco Article - "The Stories that Bind Us" by Bruce Feiler: https://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html Dia De Los Muertos Invitation: https://www.canva.com/design/DAFQjqjuXGo/N4wG0U-JXTTSBCdohrtjUw/edit?utm_content=DAFQjqjuXGo&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Intro: Why Dia De Los Muertos matters to the Family Brand 01:00 – What is Dia De Los Muertos and how the Pages started celebrating 02:00 – The meaning behind the holiday: honoring heritage and ancestors 03:00 – The science of family history: "The Stories That Bind Us" study 04:00 – Why knowing family stories builds resilience and identity in kids 05:00 – How Chris and Melissa adapted the tradition for their own family 06:00 – Hosting your first Dia De Los Muertos gathering 07:00 – Setting up an ofrenda like in the movie Coco 08:00 – Bringing food that represents your family's heritage 09:00 – Inviting kids to share stories about relatives and ancestors 10:00 – Why storytelling and tradition make this night unforgettable 11:00 – Making it simple: popcorn, photos, and one meaningful story 12:00 – Turning small moments into powerful family connections 13:00 – Creative ideas: Canva invites, neighborhood gatherings, or movie nights  

Creating Unity in a Divided World In this powerful and emotional episode, Chris and Melissa explore one of the most timely and important topics of our day — unity. The world feels more divided than ever, and yet, as Chris and Melissa remind us, the healing of that division starts at home. Drawing inspiration from past guests like Connor Boyack and Bubba Page, and from recent events in their faith community, Chris and Melissa discuss what it means to "save America at the dinner table." They share how strong, connected, unified families raise strong, confident kids who bring peace and leadership into the world — and how that ripple of unity begins with the way we talk to each other at home. They also reflect on the late President Russell M. Nelson's message, "Peacemakers Needed," and how we can apply it in our homes. From resisting anger and contention to learning the art of response over reaction, the episode dives deep into what real peace looks like in practice — even when it's hard. Chris and Melissa open up about their own marriage and parenting journey, from moments of frustration to raising kids who make their own decisions. They discuss what it means to love your children — and one another — through disagreement and imperfection, reminding listeners that there's no such thing as a perfect family, only families committed to growing together. With stories ranging from spiritual reflection to a fun nod to Bob Marley's "One Love," this conversation is both sobering and hopeful. It's an invitation to look inward, lead your family with compassion, and become a peacemaker — one conversation, one dinner table, and one act of love at a time. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: Article- "Peacemakers Needed" by Russell M. Nelson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2023/04/47nelson?lang=eng Thomas McConkie on the Family Brand Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/51-finding-identity-through-navigating-a-faith/id1536495798?i=1000540847056 Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Introduction: Why unity matters more than ever 01:00 – "Saving America at the dinner table" — what that really means 02:00 – Division in the world and how it mirrors our homes 04:00 – Honoring President Russell M. Nelson and his message "Peacemakers Needed" 06:00 – "Anger never persuades, hostility builds no one" — lessons from faith 08:00 – How to respond instead of react: the braided whip story 10:00 – Social media, contention, and how to model peace 12:00 – The Michigan tragedy and practicing compassion online 14:00 – Raising kids who make their own choices — and loving them through it 16:00 – When children disappoint us and how to respond with unity 18:00 – The dangers of polarization and division inside families 20:00 – How to foster unity when your kids feel pressure to "look perfect" 21:00 – Creating stillness and listening for divine inspiration in your parenting 22:00 – The power of asking guiding questions like "Will this create more peace?" 24:00 – Modeling respectful disagreement for your kids 25:00 – Leadership lessons from President Nelson and his counselors 26:00 – Why true courage looks like peacemaking, not fighting 27:00 – Bob Marley, "One Love," and finding examples of real-world unity 28:00 – Closing thoughts: how to be a unifier in your home and beyond    

In this episode, Chris and Melissa get real about what it means to truly support your spouse—not just when it's easy, but through every season of life and marriage. Inspired by a listener question, they dive into what support actually looks like when your goals, energy, and responsibilities are constantly shifting. From the early days of raising five kids under nine to their current phase of parenting more independent children, they reflect on how their definition of support has evolved — and how communication has been the key at every step. Chris shares a powerful mindset shift: that supporting your spouse isn't just something nice to do, it's part of the commitment of marriage — a responsibility to breathe life into each other's dreams. Melissa opens up about learning to ask for help (and release the guilt around it), while Chris admits the times he didn't show up as fully as he could have. They talk about everything from balancing business and family life, to handling burnout and travel seasons, to how "leaving each other alone" can sometimes be the best form of support. Through honesty and humor, they show that the healthiest marriages don't avoid conflict — they communicate through it. Whether you're newlyweds or empty nesters, this episode is full of practical wisdom, grace, and laughter. You'll walk away encouraged to check in with your spouse, redefine what support looks like in your current season, and remember that you're on the same team — even when life feels messy. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Welcome + Family Brand Blitz retreat details 02:00 – Listener question: how do you support your spouse's goals? 03:00 – Chris's shift from "it's her responsibility" to "it's my privilege" 05:00 – How support changes with each season of marriage 07:00 – Supporting each other through early parenting years 09:00 – Asking for help and releasing the guilt 11:00 – The danger of "you should just know" in marriage 13:00 – Roping, hobbies, and finding balance in personal passions 15:00 – Learning to let go of scorekeeping and resentment 17:00 – Getting clear on what you want instead of complaining 18:00 – Different definitions of support (even when it's takeout for dinner!) 20:00 – Communication as the foundation for support 23:00 – The power of challenge: pushing your spouse to grow 25:00 – Melissa calling Chris out on chasing others' dreams 27:00 – Investing in each other's dreams and identities 29:00 – Navigating travel seasons and defining family goals together 31:00 – How alignment and communication make everything easier 33:00 – Why date night is key for staying connected 34:00 – Support vs. complaining: use your energy for creation, not criticism 35:00 – Final thoughts and encouragement to support each other better  

Clarity: The First Step Toward the Life You Actually Want What if the reason you're not living the life you want isn't because you're lazy or unmotivated — but simply because you haven't gotten clear on what you truly want? In this powerful conversation, Chris and Melissa kick off a two-part series on living with intention, starting with the one thing that has to come first: clarity. They unpack why clarity is so often missing in our lives — from distractions and busyness to fear of what the truth might require from us. Chris shares how clarity is the gateway to intentionality and why it's impossible to build a life on purpose without first defining what matters most. Together, they discuss how too many people settle for "good" and miss out on "great," how the phrase "I don't know" lets us off the hook, and why it's so important to confront our deeper desires even when it's uncomfortable. The episode also dives into the practical side of clarity. Chris shares how he and Melissa once created a "creation list" for their marriage and life — and how that act of defining their goals completely transformed their future. They offer a simple exercise for listeners: reflect on five key areas (faith, family, fitness, finances, and fun) and define what's most important in each right now. Even one sentence of clarity in a single category can start a powerful ripple of change. This episode is an invitation to stop drifting like a tumbleweed and start designing a life you love — one that reflects your deepest values and highest purpose. Clarity takes courage, but as Chris and Melissa remind us, everything you want is on the other side of getting clear. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Kicking off a two-part series on clarity and intentionality 01:00 – Defining "intentional" and why it matters 03:30 – Clarity as the gateway to intentional living 05:00 – Why clarity is hard: noise, fear, and feelings of unworthiness 07:00 – "I don't know" — the most dangerous phrase in our vocabulary 09:30 – How "good" can become the enemy of "great" 11:00 – Creating a "2.0" version of your life after success or change 12:30 – The power of vision boards and the "creation list" 15:00 – How couples drift apart when they stop dreaming together 16:30 – Getting clear individually, as a couple, and as a family 17:30 – Everything you want is on the other side of clarity 18:30 – Why focusing on what you do want matters more than what you don't 19:30 – Practical exercise: the five F's of life 20:30 – Homework: Identify where you're least clear and define what you want 22:00 – Final encouragement: clarity can change everything    

Faith, Fatherhood, and Leading at Home with Intention In one of the most heartfelt episodes we've ever recorded, Chris and Melissa sit down with Bubba Page — a single dad of eight, serial entrepreneur, and unapologetic follower of Jesus — to explore what it really means to lead your family with faith, intentionality, and purpose. Bubba's story is raw, real, and deeply inspiring. From building and selling companies to walking through heartbreak and healing, he's discovered that success means nothing without faith and family at the center. He shares how his relationship with God transformed after a season of humility and loss, and how daily spiritual practices — from prayer and scripture study to worship and journaling — helped him discover God's will for his life. This conversation goes far beyond business. Bubba opens up about spiritual warfare, discerning the "three voices" we all hear, and how to cultivate strength and clarity to follow God's plan. He also shares how we can turn our deepest trials into the very source of our light — a message every parent and leader needs to hear. As a father, Bubba's mission is crystal clear: to raise warriors for Christ and equip parents with practical tools to lead their homes. He's now building the Fatherhood Movement and writing The Father Operating System, a guide that applies business principles — like KPIs, meetings, and mission statements — to family life. The goal? More intention, more connection, and more joy. If you've ever wondered how to bring more purpose, structure, and spiritual depth into your home, this episode will leave you inspired, challenged, and ready to step into your calling as a parent and leader. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://linktr.ee/bubbapage Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Welcome and how Chris met Bubba 02:00 – Girl Dad memories and the story behind the name "Bubba" 04:00 – Why the world needs your light (and why darkness can't exist where light is) 06:30 – Bubba on sharing faith, fatherhood, and entrepreneurship 08:00 – Discovering purpose and the mission God has for your life 10:30 – How humility and failure led Bubba to deeper faith 13:00 – Creating sacred space, daily prayer, and deeper spiritual connection 15:00 – Hearing God's voice and discerning the three voices we all hear 20:00 – Spiritual warfare and raising warriors for Christ 22:00 – Turning pain into purpose and the power of Jesus to heal 25:00 – Doing the inner work: healing, attachment, and triggers 28:00 – Understanding why God gave you your life experiences 30:00 – Fatherhood as a divine calling and the duty of parents 32:00 – Leading your home with structure, intention, and vision 34:00 – The Father Operating System: bringing business tools into parenting 35:00 – Creating a family crest and legacy 38:00 – Bubba's greatest hope and legacy for his children 40:00 – Where to connect with Bubba and follow his work

What if the future of our country doesn't hinge on elections, courtrooms, or political battles—but on family dinner conversations? That's exactly the vision today's guest, Connor Boyack, shares with us. Connor is the bestselling author of over 50 books, including the wildly popular Tuttle Twins series, which has sold more than seven million copies worldwide. He's also the founder of Libertas Network, a think tank and collection of family-centered initiatives that have changed over 100 laws and empowered kids and parents around the globe. From teaching free-market principles to launching kids' entrepreneur markets, Connor is passionate about helping families raise critical thinkers and problem solvers. In our conversation, Connor shares how his journey—from web developer to outlaw beekeeper to social entrepreneur—unfolded step by step through what he calls "the adjacent possible." We talk about why most adults underestimate kids' capacity for deep conversations, how parents can break free from simply outsourcing education, and why intentionality is the key to raising thriving children. We also explore entrepreneurship for kids, why college isn't always the right answer, and how his programs like Praxis are creating debt-free pathways to meaningful careers. Most importantly, Connor reminds us that transformation doesn't start in Washington—it starts in the home. Strong families create strong communities, and strong communities create a strong nation. This is a powerful and practical conversation that will inspire you to invest in your family as intentionally as you do your business or health. Whether you're a parent, entrepreneur, or educator, Connor's message is clear: the family is where the real work of building a freer future begins. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand familybrand.com/quiz familybrand.com/retreats.  Links For This Episode: https://tuttletwins.com https://kidsmarkets.com https://act.libertas.org/dinner Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Welcome + introduction to Connor Boyack 01:00 – Connor's journey: from web developer to author and activist 03:00 – The "adjacent possible" and saying yes to new opportunities 05:00 – How the Tuttle Twins series began 07:00 – Why kids are ready for deeper conversations than we think 09:00 – Connor's favorite Tuttle Twins books and why they matter today 13:00 – Why saving America starts at the dinner table, not the courtroom 15:00 – Root problems vs. hacking at branches: why family comes first 17:00 – Why well-meaning parents struggle with civic and economic conversations 19:00 – How Tuttle Twins equips parents to have better family discussions 21:00 – Why families resist investing in their own growth 23:00 – The problem of outsourcing education, belonging, and values 25:00 – Building an industry for proactively strengthening families 27:00 – The importance of intentionality in parenting 30:00 – Kids Markets: empowering children through entrepreneurship 34:00 – Praxis: a college alternative for young adults 38:00 – Rethinking college: intention vs. the conveyor belt 42:00 – Creating a portfolio and being the "signal" in a noisy job market 45:00 – Connor's family brand: Boyacks stand up and solve problems 47:00 – Dinner conversation starters: free resource for families 48:00 – Final encouragement: strong families = a strong future    

Getting Off the Sidelines Have you ever looked around and realized that too many parents are sitting on the sidelines of their kids' lives? Chris had this exact thought during a recent Girl Dad camp, where he noticed how many dads struggled to fully participate in simple activities like soccer, frisbee, or even just running around with their daughters. It broke his heart—not out of judgment, but out of empathy. Because every parent wants to be in the game, not watching from the bench. In this episode, Chris and Melissa unpack what it really means to stay active and engaged—not for vanity, but for energy, presence, and connection. They share stories from Disneyland, conversations with inspiring elders, and even Chris's intense bodybuilding prep that showed the tradeoffs and sacrifices health sometimes requires. The theme is clear: your health isn't just about you. It's about the people counting on you. Melissa highlights how health impacts every other family value—from talking and bonding, to appreciating and prioritizing one another. Without the physical ability to engage, everything else becomes harder. Together, they remind listeners that choosing short-term sacrifice leads to long-term freedom—and that even small decisions today can keep you off the sidelines tomorrow. Chris also shares a powerful, raw perspective: as dads, are we strong enough to be "dangerous" in defense of our families? Not reckless, but capable. Strong enough to wrestle, hike, run, play, and even protect if needed. It's about being prepared to show up fully in every sense of the word. This episode isn't about six-pack abs or gym selfies. It's about creating energy, joy, and capability so you can fully participate in the lives of the people you love most. If you've ever felt tired, stretched thin, or sidelined, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to step back onto the field.   LINKS: 1. familybrand.com/quiz 2. familybrand.com/retreats.  All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Continuing the Girl Dad conversation from camp 01:30 – Chris's sad observation: dads on the sidelines 03:00 – Inspiration from an 80-year-old still wrestling with his grandkids 04:30 – Are you physically able to participate in your kids' lives? 05:30 – Disneyland story: when health limits parents' ability to join in 07:00 – Sacrifice vs. participation: health choices that pay dividends later 09:00 – A healthy person has a thousand wishes… an unhealthy person has just one 11:00 – Family Brand Academy and why health became a core family value 13:00 – Without health, every other family value gets harder 15:00 – Hard choices now = easier life later 16:00 – Chris on being "dangerous" enough to defend your family 18:00 – Health as energy: why it ripples into every area of life 19:30 – Fitness is the best free "drug" for your mood and spirituality 20:30 – Final encouragement: get back in the game for your family    

Helping Teens Connect at Home If you've ever felt like your teens are drifting toward their rooms, screens, or independence a little faster than you'd like, you're not alone. In this episode, Chris and Melissa open up about the rhythms, struggles, and small wins of keeping their three teenagers connected and interactive with family life. They share the real-time lessons they're learning as parents—from literally pulling kids out of their rooms to setting boundaries around phones at the dinner table. You'll hear how mealtimes (even if it's just one-on-one breakfasts), family check-ins, and weekly rhythms can create the space for deeper conversations you might otherwise miss. Chris and Melissa also dive into the importance of one-on-one time—what they call "kid dates"—and how even something simple like ice cream or a walk can help teens open up. They talk about managing screen time with curiosity rather than control, and why it's worth finding activities (like movies, bowling, or camping) that everyone in the family can enjoy, from eight to eighteen. Most importantly, they remind us that our words matter. Shaping a positive narrative around teens—rather than joking about how "awful" those years are—creates a home where kids feel safe to share their ideas, opinions, and hearts without judgment. If you're looking for encouragement and practical ways to keep your family connected, especially during the teenage years, this conversation will give you fresh perspective, hope, and a handful of actionable ideas you can start this week.   LINKS: 1. familybrand.com/quiz 2.  familybrand.com/retreats.  All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand   Episode Minute By Minute: 00:00 – Settling into new rhythms as school starts 02:30 – Why teens drift to their rooms (and how to pull them back) 05:30 – The power of mealtimes and making "no phones" a family rule 09:30 – No one eats alone: small moments that spark big conversations 11:30 – Family meetings and one-on-one check-ins 13:30 – The magic of kid dates and individual time 15:00 – Screen time: helping teens regulate with awareness 17:30 – Finding activities everyone can enjoy together 19:30 – The gift of camping, bowling, and going where phones don't work 20:00 – Fostering open conversations without judgment 23:00 – Why listening is more powerful than teaching 26:30 – Rejecting the negative narrative about teens 28:00 – Final encouragement for creating deeper family connection    

This week's episode is a special one—Chris is back from Girl Dad Camp and we're unpacking everything he experienced alongside our daughters, Ivy and Indy. Hosted at BYU and organized by the women's athletics coaches, Girl Dad Camp is a weekend built for fun, connection, and, most importantly, confidence-building. With stations like pickleball, gymnastics, bracelet-making, and journaling, it's a mix of sports and soul work designed to strengthen the father-daughter bond. Chris shares everything from fun moments (like their epic dance competition!) to sobering stats about girls' confidence and body image. You'll hear powerful takeaways about how dads—and all the men in a young girl's life—can affirm, support, and shape a daughter's confidence in the face of a world that too often tries to shrink it. We also talk about: Why girls drop out of sports at higher rates than boys How to speak life into your kids—even when it feels awkward Ways brothers can help build their sisters' confidence Practical ideas to uplift and empower your daughter this week Even if you didn't attend the event, we hope this episode inspires you with simple, intentional ways to show up for the young girls in your life. Their confidence can't wait. LINKS: 1. familybrand.com/quiz 2.  familybrand.com/retreats.    Episode Minute By Minute: 0:00 – Welcome + Family Brand Blitz retreat reminder (Nov 7–8!) 2:30 – What is Girl Dad Camp and why Chris went with Ivy and Indy  4:10 – The sports stations, the dance-off, and the Believe Station experience 6:45 – Why this camp is actually about building confidence 8:15 – The shocking statistics about girls' self-worth and sports dropout rates 10:30 – The heartbreaking impact of uniforms on girls' confidence 11:30 – Chris's big takeaway: write more notes, give more encouragement 12:30 – How dads can shift focus from outcomes to effort 13:45 – Sticky notes, mantras, and being "her guy" until someone else is 15:00 – Indy's powerful declaration: "When I grow up, I'll be a powerful woman" 16:10 – Dads as protectors, affirmers, and permission-givers 17:30 – How Melissa noticed Indy embodying her powerful dreams 18:30 – Encouraging girls to dream—and letting those dreams change 20:00 – The cultural need for girls to hear "you belong" from their dads 21:00 – What to say if this language feels unfamiliar or awkward 22:00 – Why teens still need the affection, even if they don't show it 23:00 – Final invitation: be the voice of courage in your daughter's life 

Hey friends! It's that time of year again—backpacks, new shoes, and… big decisions about school. In this week's episode, Chris and I open up about what school looks like for our family this year. With five kids in different grades (and different learning styles), we've never taken a one-size-fits-all approach to education—and this year is no different. From public school to community college to homeschool with a neighbor, we share why each of our kids is doing something unique this year and how we've learned to give them a say in the process. We also reflect on how our views on education differ as a couple, how we prepare our kids emotionally and spiritually for the school year, and why the words they speak about school really do matter. This isn't about promoting one path over another. It's about showing up with intention, remembering that you get to choose, and making space to parent each child individually. Plus, we talk about: Why we brought in a neighbor to help homeschool Indy How Chris is learning not to rush everyone out the door Our back-to-school blessing tradition Practical ways we're setting our mornings up for peace (not panic) Whether you're homeschooling, doing public school, or a little bit of everything—this episode is for you. Let's start the school year strong—together. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand Episode Minute By Minute: 0:00 – Intro: Why this back-to-school season looks different 1:30 – Every child, every year: how school changes for our family 4:45 – Melissa and Chris's different philosophies on education 6:20 – A breakdown of what each of our five kids is doing this year 10:00 – Letting kids help decide their education path 11:20 – Why Melissa brought in outside help for homeschool 13:30 – The power of outsourcing in a season of change 14:45 – Preparing our kids mentally for the new school year 15:50 – Why language matters: school isn't boring unless we say it is 17:00 – "You chose this": a powerful reminder to ditch the complaints 18:00 – How we use our back-to-school dinner to set intentions 19:00 – Our tradition of giving each child a blessing before school starts 20:15 – Teaching our kids to look out for the new kid 21:00 – Daily habits that build spiritual and emotional armor 22:00 – The importance of clear family agreements for school mornings 23:30 – Recap on Tate and how his senior year is evolving 24:30 – The reminder: no two kids are the same, and that's a gift

Hey Family Brand, it's Chris and Melissa here! We have something really special to share with you today. If you've ever felt like life is moving too fast, like your family is surviving more than thriving, or you just wish you had space to reconnect and refocus—this episode is for you. We're inviting you to something we've been dreaming about and working on behind the scenes: our Family Brand Live Event, coming this November. This isn't your average seminar or parenting workshop—it's a full weekend experience designed to bring your family together in a powerful, life-changing way. In today's episode, we pull back the curtain on why we're hosting this event and what we hope families walk away with. We talk about our own journey—how our family felt disconnected years ago and how creating a family brand brought us clarity, unity, and a sense of purpose. This event is built on the exact framework that changed our home. And now, we want to share it with you—in real life. We walk through what the weekend will look like, who it's for (spoiler: if you're a parent who wants more for your family, it's for you), and the kind of transformation you can expect. This is about more than just tools—it's about intentional time together, meaningful conversations, and building a vision for your family's future. Whether you've been part of the Family Brand community for a while or you're just getting started, we'd love to see you there. You don't have to figure it all out alone. Let's do this—together. 👉 Visit familybrand.com/live to learn more and grab your spot before it fills up!   LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand Episode Minute By Minute: 0:00 – Why we're so excited about this upcoming event 2:00 – How this event was born out of our own family's transformation 4:15 – What the Family Brand Live Event will include 6:30 – Why gathering in-person creates powerful change 8:20 – What makes this weekend different from anything else out there 10:15 – Who this is for (hint: it's not just "perfect" families)11:40 – Our personal invitation to YOU  

Hey Family Brand! It's Melissa here, and if you've ever tried to hold a family meeting that ended in chaos, eye-rolls, or zero follow-through… this episode is for you. We're diving into a topic that might sound boring but can truly transform your family culture: family meetings. Trust me, I get it—most of us didn't grow up doing these, and if we did, we may not have the best memories of them. But what if family meetings didn't suck? What if they were actually helpful, hopeful, and maybe even a little fun? This idea hit me recently while working with a coaching client who was really passionate about optimizing his family meetings. That conversation reminded me that even if we've covered this before, it's something worth revisiting—and often. When life feels a little out of sync or chaotic, a family meeting rhythm can be the very thing that brings us back to center. In this episode, Chris and I talk about how meetings are often a reflection of how well (or how poorly) things are running in any group—your family included. We share how being intentional with simple, consistent family meetings has helped us stay connected and work as a team. You'll also hear why "too many meetings" or "not enough meetings" can both be problems—and how to strike the balance. We get real about the resistance you might face—yes, especially from your kids—and how you can gently but firmly lead with vision. I also share our free Family Meeting Guide, which includes videos and a printable PDF to walk you through everything step-by-step. You can grab it at familybrand.com/meeting. And don't worry—we're not saying you need to overhaul your entire schedule overnight. Start small. Even a quick weekly check-in over dinner (with snacks, of course!) can work wonders. At the end of the day, we want to help you build a home where your family communicates, feels seen, and works toward shared goals. Family meetings might not be flashy, but they're powerful. Let's make them work. LINKS: All Links Family Brand!  stan.store/familybrand   Episode Minute By Minute: 0:00 – Why summer's end has us craving more structure 1:10 – The connection between meetings and family culture 3:00 – Common mistakes families make with meetings 4:40 – Real talk: meetings that don't work (and what does) 6:30 – Using existing rhythms to "bake in" intentional time 7:45 – Overview of the free Family Meeting Guide 8:30 – Start small: choose one type of meeting to try 9:15 – Tips to overcome resistance (snacks help!) 10:00 – Reflecting on the influence we have as parents 11:00 – Why this matters most in the long run