Demystifying Mental Toughness

In this episode of Demystifying Mental Toughness, David begins a new eight-part solo series exploring how mental toughness shapes the coach–athlete relationship in sport. Today's focus is Life Control — a part of mental toughness that influences whether people feel able to shape what happens to them, or whether life simply "happens" to them. David explores one of the most common and frustrating mismatches in sport: the high life-control coach and the low life-control athlete.  High-life control coaches are driven, organised and solution-focused. They believe effort changes outcomes. Low life -control athletes, often younger or more emotionally sensitive, experience sport as something that happens to them. Their confidence fluctuates, motivation comes and goes, and excuses become a way of protecting self-esteem. What looks like laziness or lack of commitment from the outside is often helplessness on the inside.  This episode shows how this clash creates tension and how, when handled well, it can become one of the most powerful developmental partnerships in sport. David also draws on research from Sophia Jowett on the coach–athlete relationship, highlighting how closeness, commitment, complementarity and shared understanding allow athletes to grow in confidence and responsibility. >> Key Takeaways High and low life control are not "good" or "bad" they are different ways of responding to pressure Low life-control athletes are often emotionally sensitive, creative and adaptable. Coaches who provide structure, chunking and emotional safety help these athletes thrive. If you enjoyed this episode, check out our previous podcasts on all things mental toughness: Ep302: Doug Strycharczyk - Why You React the Way You Do Under Pressure Ep293: Stuart Barnes - High Challenge, High Support: Mental Toughness in Cricket Ep249: Edward Hall - Workplace Collaboration in Team Sports Coaching Environments Ep201: Dr John Perry and Doug Strycharczyk – Even The Mentally Tough Can Find Things A Struggle Without Self Awareness Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn  

In part 2, David Charlton is again joined by Doug Strycharczyk from AQR International to explore how mental toughness shapes the way we make decisions especially when information is incomplete and pressure is high. Doug explains that confidence is not just about believing in your skills, but also about having the interpersonal confidence to work with others, challenge ideas, and avoid the trap of groupthink. In teams and organisations, those with higher interpersonal confidence are more likely to think divergently, question assumptions, and protect ethical decision-making rather than simply follow the crowd. The conversation then moves into "challenge" and its two key components: risk orientation and learning orientation. Some people are naturally willing to step into uncertainty, but what really separates high performers is whether they learn from what happens next. Doug also introduces the idea of mental toughness as an enabler not an outcome.  It helps explain why we behave the way we do, so that we can optimise rather than try to change who we are. For athletes, coaches, and leaders, this episode reinforces why self-awareness, reflection, and purposeful practice sit at the heart of long-term performance. >> Key Takeaways ·         Confidence is both personal and interpersonal it affects how well we think and how well we collaborate. ·         Risk-taking without learning leads nowhere growth comes from reflecting on what didn't work. ·         Mental toughness isn't about being "better" it's about understanding yourself well enough to optimise performance. DISCLAIMER: David committed a schoolboy error!  Sincere apologies for the poor sound quality in parts! If you enjoyed this episode, check out our previous podcasts on all things mental toughness: Ep302: Doug Strycharczyk - Why You React the Way You Do Under Pressure Ep242: Doug Strycharczyk - What Is The Difference Between Mental Toughness And Resilience Ep201: Dr John Perry and Doug Strycharczyk – Even The Mentally Tough Can Find Things A Struggle Without Self Awareness Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success Ep001: Doug Strycharczyk – The Importance of Mental Toughness Connect with Doug Strycharczyk: ·         LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougstrycharczyk/ ·         Email: headoffice@aqr.co.uk Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In Episode 302 (Part 1) David Charlton is joined once again by Doug Strycharczyk, CEO of AQR International, to explore how mental toughness shapes our decision-making under pressure. Drawing on over 30 years of research and applied practice, Doug breaks down the 4C's model of mental toughness and focuses specifically on Control and Commitment, two components that heavily influence how athletes, students, and performers respond when it really matters. A central theme of this conversation is that mental toughness is not judgemental. High or low scores on any dimension are not "good" or "bad"; instead, they represent different default responses. For example, high life control often shows up as a strong can-do attitude, while lower life control can reflect a more cautious, reflective approach, both of which can be highly effective depending on the situation. Doug also unpacks emotional control, explaining why routines (think Jonny Wilkinson or Cristiano Ronaldo have used) help performers stay focused under pressure. The discussion then moves into commitment, exploring the difference between goal orientation (sense of purpose) and achievement orientation (emotional drive to achieve), and why curiosity can actually be a hidden strength for those lower in achievement orientation. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to develop self-awareness, manage their mental and emotional reserves, and recognise their own default responses, whether in sport, the workplace or in everyday life. This episode sets the foundation for a deeper understanding of performance psychology and why one size never fits all. >> Key Takeaways ·         Mental toughness is neutral, not judgemental.  Different responses to pressure can all be effective success depends on matching your response to the situation, not forcing a single "ideal" mindset. ·         Self-awareness creates better decisions under pressure.  Understanding your default response (freeze, rush, over-analyse) gives you the option to pause, reset, and choose a more helpful behaviour. ·         Manage your mental and emotional reserves.  Lower energy makes even simple tasks feel overwhelming. Breaking tasks down, resting, and refuelling are performance strategies, not weaknesses. DISCLAIMER: David committed a schoolboy error!  Sincere apologies for the poor sound quality in parts! If you enjoyed this episode, check out our previous podcasts on all things mental toughness: Ep242: Doug Strycharczyk - What Is The Difference Between Mental Toughness And Resilience Ep201: Dr John Perry and Doug Strycharczyk – Even The Mentally Tough Can Find Things A Struggle Without Self Awareness Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success Ep001: Doug Strycharczyk – The Importance of Mental Toughness Connect with Doug Strycharczyk: ·         LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougstrycharczyk/ ·         Email: headoffice@aqr.co.uk Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

Happy New Year! This special compilation episode of Demystifying Mental Toughness brings together powerful reflections from multiple experts across sport, performance, and personal development. Rather than offering quick fixes, this episode invites listeners to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with what truly underpins sustainable performance: self-awareness, authenticity, focus, and self-trust. A recurring theme throughout the episode is the importance of the internal narrative. The conversations we have with ourselves shape confidence, behaviour, and decision-making under pressure. Listeners are encouraged to question unhelpful self-talk, recognise vulnerability as a strength, and understand that mental toughness is not about being "bulletproof", but about knowing yourself and responding wisely. The episode also explores the value of building a support network a "board of directors" made up of real or imagined mentors who guide thinking, perspective, and behaviour. Alongside this, the myth of multitasking is challenged, reinforcing the power of focus, presence, and committing fully to the one thing that matters most. Fear, mistakes, motivation, and setbacks are reframed not as barriers, but as essential ingredients for growth. Listeners are reminded that action often comes before motivation, progress is rarely linear, and joy and creativity are vital for long-term engagement in sport and life. This episode is a timely reminder that mental toughness is human, flexible, and deeply personal and that rediscovering enjoyment, trust, and purpose is just as important as striving for results. Key Takeaways You are the thinker, not the thought, self-talk can be shaped and trained Mental toughness exists on a spectrum; sensitivity is not weakness Authenticity matters more than approval or fitting in Build a "board of directors" to guide perspective and decision-making Multitasking is a myth, focus deeply on one thing at a time Fear can be used as fuel when recognised and harnessed Motivation is cyclical; action often comes before motivation Vulnerability and self-compassion support long-term performance Mistakes and setbacks are essential for learning and growth Joy, creativity, and presence reconnect performers with why they started Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         LinkedIn   Relevant Podcast Episodes To Improve Your Mental Toughness as Relayed in Episode 301 Ep001: Doug Strycharczyk – The Importance of Mental Toughness Ep028: Peter Clough MBE – Why is Mental Toughness Important? Ep035: Dr John Perry – Thrive, Don't Just Survive 2021 Ep037: Penny Mallory – World Class Thinking, World Class Behaviour Ep041: Paul McGee – How to Develop Interpersonal Confidence Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport Ep066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist Ep068: Andrew Nicholson – How Hard Is It To Become A Tour Professional Golfer?  Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity Ep098: Jon Bartlett – Do You Know Your Why?

In this milestone episode #300 of the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, David Charlton is joined by former Newcastle United defender and current Assistant Loans Manager Peter Ramage. In the second part of our conversation Peter shares powerful insights into what truly drives progression and resilience in young footballers. Peter discusses the importance of personal responsibility in career development highlighting how top performers take ownership of their learning, habits, and mindset.  Through examples such as golfer Matthew Fitzpatrick and Harry Kane, he explains why success is never defined solely by minutes played, but by growth, adaptation, and the ability to fight for a place. A major theme throughout the conversation is the redefinition of success on loan spells.  Peter emphasises that adversity, periods of not playing, dealing with pressure, or competing for a spot is often the very challenge that shapes long-term success.  He also explores the dangers of external hype, the importance of staying grounded, and the value of breaking performance down into controllable actions. Listeners gain a behind-the-scenes look at loan player support, including emotional wellbeing, communication, and the powerful role of peer-to-peer mentoring.  Peter also reinforces that speaking up and asking for help is not weakness, it's a critical part of thriving in football. >> Key Takeaways Success Isn't Linear: Loan spells and tough periods are vital learning experiences, not signs of failure. Take Responsibility: Growth accelerates when players own their development, behaviours, and mindset. Stay Grounded & Speak Up: Managing hype, living in the present, and asking for support are essential parts of sustaining performance. If you enjoyed this episode, check out our previous blogs and podcasts on all things football, mental toughness and player development. For more on all things football or soccer psychology, check out these resources: Ep299: Emotional Flexibility & Adaptability: Inside the Minds of Professional Footballers on Loan with Peter Ramage Ep086: David Charlton - Observations: How to Learn from Setbacks Blog: The Psychology of Loan Moves: How Football Coaches Can Build Mentally Tough & Adaptable Young Players Blog: 5 Reasons Why Being Released from a Football Academy is Difficult Research Review: When the Dream Ends: What Academy Release Really Does to Young Footballers Soccer Psychology and Mental Skills for Football Library of Resources Connect with Peter Ramage ·         LinkedIn ·         Instagram Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In this episode of the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, host David Charlton is joined by former professional footballer and coach, and current Assistant Loans Manager at Newcastle United, Peter Ramage, who pulls back the curtain on what it's really like for young players when they go out on loan. We talk about the often-unseen side of the loan pathway: adapting to new environments, dealing with being away from family, handling uncertainty and change, and the social-media comparison trap that many players fall into.  Peter provides real world insight from his time at clubs like Newcastle United and Crystal Palace and how versatility and flexibility becomes a mindset, not just a tactical attribute, and how building relationships and trust with teammates and coaches is absolutely key. Whether you're a footballer, coach or parent, this conversation throws light on how mental toughness emerges from more than just performance.  It's about mindset, adaptation, presence and communication. We also tie this back to themes we've covered before such as the 4 C's model of mental toughness (control, commitment, challenge, confidence) and creating psychologically safe and growth-focussed environments. >> Key Takeaways Adaptability is everything – Being able to thrive when you're out of your comfort zone (new club, new role) is a super-power. Comparison is the silent pressure – Young players often measure themselves against highlight reels on social media; learning to focus on your journey matters. Relationships build the foundation of success – Trusting teammates, coaches and the environment gives you the mental platform to perform and grow. If you enjoyed this episode, check out our previous blogs and podcasts on all things football, mental toughness and player development. For more on all things football or soccer psychology, check out these resources: Podcast Ep151 - Football Psychology: 50 Ways You Can Improve Your Performance Podcast Ep173 - How To Deal With Other People In Professional Football #BITESIZE Blog: The Psychology of Loan Moves: How Football Coaches Can Build Mentally Tough & Adaptable Young Players Blog: Footballers are People, Like You and Me Blog: Do You Start Matches with a ONE-NIL DOWN Mindset? Book Review: Soccer Tough 1 and 2 with Dan Abrahams   Connect with Peter Ramage ·         LinkedIn ·         Instagram Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In the second part of our conversation David Charlton speaks with endurance athlete, coach, and world record holder Pierce Showe, who completed 153 consecutive half marathons to raise awareness about health and nutrition.  Together, they explore what it really means to run your race in sport, business, and life. Pierce shares his philosophy of focusing on your own journey, avoiding the comparison trap, and finding strength through faith and purpose. He also talks about how goal setting and discipline form the foundation for consistent growth and long-term success, lessons that resonate far beyond running. If you've ever struggled with comparison, motivation, or the post-goal "what's next?" feeling, this conversation will inspire you to stay consistent, stay grounded, and stay faithful to your process. >> Key Takeaways Run your race – Focus on being better than you were yesterday, not on others' achievements. You're capable of more than you think – True growth comes through daily discipline and consistency. Faith and purpose fuel resilience – When your identity isn't tied to performance, you find freedom and deeper motivation. Listeners and Viewers to the full conversation will receive inspiring lessons on endurance, focus, and belief. Feel Free to Tune In! For more on this topic, check out these resources: Ep297: Pierce Showe - How Endurance Challenges Build Mental Toughness Ep002: Steve Judge - How to Deal with Adversity Blog: Developing Mental Toughness in Young Athletes: Coaching Lessons from Ultra Running Blog: Run Your Race: Coaching Young Athletes to Build Mental Toughness, Faith, and Consistency Book Review: Chasing Excellence – Lessons for Young Athletes on Building a Winning Mindset Documentary Review: Running for Good: Lessons from Fiona Oakes for Young Athletes Connect with Pierce Showe ·         Instagram ·         Website   Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In this powerful episode of the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, David sits down with endurance athlete, coach, and world record holder, Pierce Showe.  From a lacrosse player to completing gruelling 200-mile ultra marathons, Pierce shares his journey of developing resilience, faith, and belief through extreme endurance. Pierce opens up about how early life challenges shaped his hunger for growth, the defining moment that unlocked his belief system, and why mental toughness isn't something you're born with and it's built through hardship, practice, and reflection.  He and David also explore the psychology of endurance, how to manage setbacks mid-race, and how techniques like segmentation and staying present can help athletes, business professionals, and anyone facing adversity stay composed under pressure. >> Key Takeaways Mental Toughness is Built, Not Born: It grows through consistent exposure to challenge and reflection.  Segment the Impossible: Break big goals into smaller, achievable chunks, focusing only on the next step.  Reset and Reframe: When things fall apart, rest, refuel, and reset your mindset.  This can change everything.  Listeners and Viewers to the full conversation will receive inspiring lessons on endurance, mindset, and belief. Enjoy Tuning In! For more on this topic, check out these resources: Ep215: Fenwick Ridley - How Ice Swimming And Cold Immersion Can Help You Take Control Of Your Destiny Ep214: Ellen McDermott – How To Create Helpful Eating Habits To Benefit Your Sport Performance Blog: Developing Mental Toughness in Young Athletes: Coaching Lessons from Ultra Running Blog: Coach Development – Helping Athletes Overcome Fear of Failure Conversations With Kids – Grit and Determination Connect with Pierce Showe ·         Instagram ·         Website   Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In the second part of our conversation, David Charlton talks with anxiety and fear coach Matt Young about why emotional control and emotional mastery is the key to lasting confidence and calmness under pressure. Matt challenges the common idea that we can only manage our emotions.  Instead, he explains how emotions like anxiety, fear, or procrastination are learned traits that serve a purpose.  By understanding why they appear, athletes and coaches can start to take ownership and use their emotions intentionally rather than reactively. Drawing parallels between sport and everyday life, Matt and David explore how to create a personal emotional playbook, a structured process for handling stress, setbacks, and performance pressure. From dealing with being dropped from a team to managing social comparison and jealousy, Matt outlines a practical roadmap built on three pillars: >> Key Takeaways – The 3 Pillars Take Ownership: True change starts with personal ownership, looking inward instead of blaming others helps you regain control and create emotional stability, regardless of circumstances. Develop Emotional Control: Move beyond "managing" emotions to mastering them.  Learn to enhance confidence, calm, and self-connection so emotions serve you rather than control you. Shape Your Environment: Surround yourself with growth-minded people and positive influences. The right environment accelerates emotional mastery and supports sustained mental resilience. Listeners and Viewers will come away with a different lens on mental toughness, one rooted in emotional mastery, self-awareness, and daily process habits that promote confidence and resilience.  Enjoy Tuning In! For more on this topic, check out these resources: Blog - Why Emotional Control Matters in Youth Sport  Blog - Why You Should Meditate To Improve Your Sport Performance? Ep295: Matt Young - How Emotional Control Builds Resilience and Freedom in Sport Ep099: Trevor Jones – How to Deal with Overthinking on the Golf Course Conversations With Kids - Emotional Control in Sport Conversations With Kids - Helping Young Athletes Thrive Under Pressure Connect with Matt Young ·         LinkedIn ·         Website   Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In this episode of Demystifying Mental Toughness, David Charlton speaks with Matt Young, an anxiety and fear coach and former professional footballer, about how emotional control can help athletes and coaches achieve lasting freedom and confidence, on and off the pitch. Matt shares how his playing career at Southampton and other clubs exposed deep insecurities and a constant need to control outcomes including; selection, performance, and judgment from others. That same drive for control, he explains, often leads athletes into anxiety, superstition, and burnout. True freedom, he argues, comes from looking at emotional control differently, not trying to control everything around you. The conversation explores how many athletes mask vulnerability, hide behind their sporting identity, and only seek help when things "break down." Matt advocates for a proactive approach, helping clubs and athletes emotionally prepare in the same way they prepare physically and tactically. He also shares what sets top performers apart; urgency, emotional awareness, and consistency in pursuing growth rather than waiting for crises to act. If you're an athlete, coach, or parent, this episode offers powerful insights on emotional mastery, identity, and resilience, key ingredients for sustained performance and wellbeing. >> Key Takeaways 1.       Emotional Control Beats External Control - True confidence doesn't come from trying to control every situation, opponent, or outcome.  It comes from mastering your internal state, your emotions, thoughts, and reactions so that you can stay composed and perform freely, no matter what's happening around you. 2.       Masks and Identities Can Limit Growth - Many athletes hide behind their sporting identity or project confidence to cover insecurities. Over time, this emotional masking can lead to anxiety, burnout, and confusion about who they are beyond sport. Building emotional awareness helps athletes reconnect with who they are, not just what they do. 3.       Be Proactive, Not Reactive with Mental Skills -  Too many athletes wait until they're struggling before seeking help.   Matt encourages a proactive approach developing emotional resilience and mental fitness before challenges hit.  Just like a physical MOT, regular emotional check-ins can prevent breakdowns and keep performance consistent. This episode is packed with insights for athletes, coaches, and parents of young athletes about the importance of emotional control and emotional mastery for better more consistent performances and enhanced well-being. For more on this topic, check out these resources: Blog - Confidence Under Pressure: The 3-Second Reset Technique Blog: - Control Your Thoughts on the Golf Course Ep167 Karl Morris – How To Manage Your Emotions To Improve Your Golf #BITESIZE Ep280 Colm O'Donoghue - How To Help A Golfer Who Struggles Playing Strokeplay Conversations With Kids - How to Help Kids Stay Calm Under Pressure Conversations With Kids - Helping Young Athletes Thrive Under Pressure Connect with Matt Young ·         LinkedIn ·         Website   Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

High performance in cricket and sport in general is about far more than technical ability. In this episode of The Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, I'm joined by Stuart Barnes, Bowling Coach at Warwickshire County Cricket Club, for the second part of our conversation.  Together we explore the unique pressures cricketers face and how coaches and psychologists can work hand in hand to support player growth, confidence, and resilience. The Player at the Centre Stuart highlights the importance of a joined-up approach between coaches, psychologists, and teammates, with the athlete always at the centre.  Players often need space to talk, offload, and process challenges. Stuart shares how his own journey as a "failed professional cricketer" shaped his empathy and perspective, allowing him to connect with players authentically. Slowing the Game Down Under Pressure Cricket is both a team and an individual sport, making the psychological demands unique. Stuart describes how small pauses, two to five seconds between deliveries help bowlers reset, design a plan, and avoid rushing into a threat mindset.  He shares practical questions bowlers can ask themselves in pressure moments to regain clarity, confidence, and control. Handling Selection Pressures One of the toughest realities in professional cricket is being dropped.  Stuart emphasises the value of focusing only on what players can control; fitness, preparation, mindset, and energy in the dressing room.  He describes these as the "free stuff" that costs nothing but adds significant value to team culture. >> Key Takeaways Slow the world down – Use strategies to pause, reset, and regain focus under pressure. Keep growing – There is no standing still; consistent small improvements matter. Build belief through actions – Confidence grows when you fulfil your daily commitments to yourself. This episode is packed with insights for cricketers, coaches, and parents of young athletes about the importance of mental toughness, supportive environments, and developing confidence from within. For more on this topic, check out these resources: Sports Psychology for Cricket Players ·         Ep 293: Stuart Barnes: How Cricket Coaches Build Mental Toughness: High Challenge, High Support   Ep 115 - Jeremy Snape: Mental Strength to Succeed: Learning Lessons from International Cricket ·         Blog Mental Preparation for Bowlers in Cricket ·         Blog: Thriving Under Pressure: Mental Toughness Lessons from Cricket Coaching   Connect with Stuart Barnes ·         LinkedIn ·         Website   Connect with David Charlton ·         Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·         Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·         LinkedIn

In this episode of the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, I'm joined by Stuart Barnes, Bowling Coach at Warwickshire County Cricket Club. With over 27 years of coaching experience, Stuart shares fascinating insights into the demands of elite cricket, the brutal nature of today's schedules, and the importance of balancing challenge with support. We dive into how coaches can help players thrive under pressure, the role of self-awareness and process, and why some athletes fear success. Stuart also discusses the fine line between surviving and thriving in professional sport—and what coaches and athletes alike can do to stay grounded, resilient, and ready to perform. >> If you're a cricket coach, player, or parent, you'll take away practical ideas for building mental toughness, staying adaptable, and managing the pressures of high-performance sport. For more on this topic, check out these resources: Sports Psychology for Cricket Players Podcast Ep 115 - Jeremy Snape: Mental Strength to Succeed: Learning Lessons from International Cricket ·        Blog Mental Preparation for Bowlers in Cricket   >>  Key Takeaways The brutal reality of elite schedules – how constant travel and games affect both players and coaches. High challenge, high support coaching – why asking deeper questions and showing empathy helps athletes grow. Process over outcome – why elite performers focus on their routines, not just results. Self-awareness as a competitive edge – how slowing things down and resetting builds resilience. Fear of success – why some players avoid growth to escape heightened expectations. The power of anchors – small rituals that help athletes enter their performance state under pressure. Lessons from failure – why comfort is the enemy of growth, and failure can be the gateway to long-term success. Connect with Stuart Barnes ·        LinkedIn ·        Website   Connect with David Charlton ·        Sign Up To The Mental Edge ·        Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub ·        LinkedIn

Today's episode is the second part of my discussion with Gayatri Bhushan, co-founder of Mind Matter Performance.  We go onto continue to explore the importance of being curious and open to learn about the experiences of others in sport.  Gayatri goes onto share further insights from India and the Middle East, where cultural, social, and gender barriers can put limits on opportunities for different athletes, participants and coaches. Key Learning Points: ·         The discussion highlighted the significant impact of Premier League Football in India, with personal stories illustrating the feeling of belonging that fans can feel. ·         Challenges in sports accessibility in India are apparent, including socio-economic barriers, gender disparities, and cultural norms. ·         Sunil Chhetri's unfulfilled potential due to bureaucratic hurdles, underscored questionable policies and procedures. ·         Sport can transform the lives of families. Connect with Gayatri Bhushan Mind Matter Performance Website Connect with David Charlton The Mental Edge with David Charlton Instagram LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For All Athletes and Participants Ep291: Gayatri Bhushan - From India to the Premier League, Sport Psychology, Belonging & Barriers Ep290: Gordon MacLelland - Stop Focusing On Results: Developing Life Skills Through Sport Ep287: Duncan O'Brien - Is A Blame Culture In Team Sports Helpful For Performance? Ep286: Nathan Sherratt - How To Understand Neurodiversity Better In Football Refereeing Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources

Join us for an inspiring episode as we welcome Gayatri Bhushan, HCPC-registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist, who shares her deeply personal journey into the world of sports psychology. Born in India and now based in New Delhi, Gayatri reflects on her early years as a national-level 400-metre athlete and the pivotal challenges she faced, from performance pressures to the lack of mental health support. Her story of searching for guidance—often in vain—sparked a passion for ensuring no athlete is left without support, especially young girls navigating the complex intersection of sport and well-being. Having studied at Loughborough University and worked with Premier League clubs in London, Gayatri discusses the profound impact of being immersed in diverse sporting environments. She highlights the crucial role of equality, diversity, and inclusion in building mental toughness, emphasising that access to psychological support should not be a privilege but a right for all athletes. Tune in to gain insight into the challenges, learnings, and the ongoing journey toward a more inclusive and resilient sporting world. Key Learning Points: ·        The implementation of regulations and standards to protect the title of Sport Psychologist in India is important. ·        Advocate for more inclusive and diverse staffing policies in sports organisations to improve relatability and representation. ·        Encourage athletes to be comfortable in their own skin and not suppress their emotions and cultural identity. Connect with Gayatri Bhushan Mind Matter Performance Website Connect with David Charlton The Mental Edge with David Charlton Instagram LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For All Athletes and Participants Ep290: Gordon MacLelland - Stop Focusing On Results: Developing Life Skills Through Sport Ep287: Duncan O'Brien - Is A Blame Culture In Team Sports Helpful For Performance? Ep286: Nathan Sherratt - How To Understand Neurodiversity Better In Football Refereeing Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources

In the second part of a dialog with Parents in Sport founder, Gordon MacLelland, the conversation goes onto discuss the importance of resilience and normalising failure in sports when communicating with children.   Such discussions between parents, coaches and children can help kids develop positive coping mechanisms.  David and Gordon also touched on the potential risks of early specialisation in sports at a young age, such as burnout, overuse injuries and the potential to drop out from the sport altogether.  The benefits of diversifying sports participation and the importance of developing multifaceted kids were also talked about. Key Learning Points: ·        Seek to focus on long-term development, such as aspects of mental toughness and resilience, rather than just results and outcomes. ·       Get to know yourself as a parent  as well as your child, seeking to improve your self-awareness. ·        Understand what burnout in sport symptoms are for your children. ·        Encourage regular check-ins between coaches/organisations and parents to manage expectations. ·        Explore ways to better support and train coaches and volunteers in sports clubs to have more effective conversations with parents. Connect with Gordon MacLelland Parents In Sport Website Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Useful Youth Sport Psychology Resource  Youth Sport Motivation Checklist Parental Sport Motivation Checklist Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For Children Ep289: Gordon MacLelland – How To Support Children To Enjoy A Positive Relationship With Sport Ep288: Duncan O'Brien - How To Overcome Intense Emotions From Football Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep280: Colm O'Donoghue - How To Help A Young Golfer Who Struggles Playing Strokeplay Ep279: Ger Fitzgerald - How To Help A Young Cricketer Overcome Selection Difficulties Relevant Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For Children Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment Blog - 9 Tips for Children from Olympians Blog - 5 Tips for Parents to Help their Children Perform with Confidence Blog – How to Help Young Footballers Find the Zone Blog – How do You Give a Young Golfer Self Confidence Youth Sports Psychology Library – For Parents Stuart Brown PHD – Play: How it shapes the brain, opens the imagination and invigorates the soul Susan Jackson, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – Flow In Sports

In episode 289 of Demystifying Mental Toughness, the founder of Parents in Sport, Gordon MacLelland, shared his journey from having a promising sports career, to coaching and teaching to supporting parenting in sports.   He emphasized the importance of understanding individual children's motivations when considering their sporting experience.   Also highlighted were the challenges of balancing fun and competitive pressures.  The conversation underscored the importance of self-awareness as a parent and being an intentional in the love and support that you offer your children, as a parent in sports, whilst accepting that you and your child are human. Additionally, David and Gordon stress the benefits of participating in sports on child's character and mental toughness development, over winning, and the need for realistic expectations. Key Learning Points: ·        Understand your child's motivations for playing sports and why they do it. ·        Have regular check-ins with your child to understand how their motivations may change over time. ·        Avoid asking questions like "Did you win?" or "Were you the best?" and instead focus on character traits with questions such as "When were you brave?" or statements "I noticed how you bounced back positively after your team lost the first goal by the way you were calling for the ball. ·        Be mindful of the timing and approach when having difficult conversations with your child about their sports performance. ·        Recognize that success in sports should not be solely defined by performance outcomes, and focus on the wider benefits of participation. Connect with Gordon MacLelland Parents In Sport Website Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Useful Youth Sport Psychology Resource  Youth Sport Motivation Checklist Parental Sport Motivation Checklist Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For Children Ep288: Duncan O'Brien - How To Overcome Intense Emotions From Football Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep280: Colm O'Donoghue - How To Help A Young Golfer Who Struggles Playing Strokeplay Ep279: Ger Fitzgerald - How To Help A Young Cricketer Overcome Selection Difficulties Ep233: David Charlton - How To Help A Young Footballer Overcome Fear Relevant Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience For Children Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment Blog - 9 Tips for Children from Olympians Blog - 5 Tips for Parents to Help their Children Perform with Confidence Blog – How to Help Young Footballers Find the Zone Blog – How do You Give a Young Golfer Self Confidence Youth Sports Psychology Library – For Parents

In a continuation of last week's conversation, David Charlton and Duncan O'Brien discuss the impact of shame on athletes, particularly footballers.   Self-esteem, the self-recognition of multiple-selves and self-compassion are also features of the conversation.  They go on to discuss the impact of poor performances on an athletes' mood.  Solutions to shift perspective are discussed to aid the understanding of sport coaches and parents to support athletes effectively.  They also touch on other strong emotions, such as anger and how to harness it. Key Learning Points: ·        Explore ways to normalise emotions and have open conversations about them. ·        Developing an openness to learn more about yourself, your athletes or children is vital. ·        Understanding and connect with the state of being at you best can transform your mindset. ·        Potential dynamics where an athletic identity can become entangled with self-esteem and confidence resulting in negative mental health implications should be considered. ·        Athletes should be aware of their own triggers and to have strategies for managing anger effectively. Connect with Duncan O'Brien LinkedIN Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Ep287: Duncan O'Brien - Is A Blame Culture In Team Sports Helpful For Performance? Ep286: Nathan Sherratt - How To Understand Neurodiversity Better In Football Refereeing Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep249: Dr Edward Hall – Understanding Workplace Collaboration In Coaching In Team Sports Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Professional Women's Football Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources

David Charlton and Duncan O'Brien discuss the emotional challenges in football, focusing on blame, shame, guilt, and anger in this week's episode of Demystifying Mental Toughness.  Duncan, influenced by Brene Brown's work, emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and collaboration in coaching.  He highlights the need for coaches to create supportive yet challenging environments, using tools like Clean Language to foster self-awareness and resilience.  They explore how emotions like shame can manifest in players, affecting their performance and behaviour.  The conversation underscores the significance of coaches communicating effectively and setting clear expectations to help players navigate stress and criticism, ultimately fostering a more supportive and effective coaching dynamic. Key Learning Points: ·        Explore using clean language techniques in football coaching to help players develop self-awareness. ·        Encourage players to ask questions of each other rather than giving direct orders or criticism during challenging situations. ·        Educate coaches and players on the difference between shame and guilt, and how to address feelings of shame in a constructive way. ·        Mistakes are common in football and pointing the fingers, blaming can lead to guilt, impacting players' confidence and bravery. ·        Vulnerability is essential to encourage courageous behaviours and collaboration, however it is dependent on the relationship and trust developed between coaches and players. Connect with Duncan O'Brien LinkedIN Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Ep286: Nathan Sherratt - How To Understand Neurodiversity Better In Football Refereeing Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep249: Dr Edward Hall – Understanding Workplace Collaboration In Coaching In Team Sports Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Professional Women's Football Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources

Today, the conversation delves into the experiences of a neurodiverse referee, referee educator and coach, Nathan Sherratt, the owner of The Third Team.  We discuss the challenges faced in education, the workplace, and on the pitch, highlighting the importance of structure and accountability.   David and Nathan also emphasise the need for understanding and support, particularly from clubs, organisations and governing bodies such as the FA, to better accommodate neurodivergent individuals in sports.   Nathan goes on to share personal strategies for managing sensory challenges and the significance of self-care, including physical activities like walking and golf.   The importance of continuous learning, adaptability, and the value of support networks in achieving success is also a feature of the episode. Key Learning Points: ·        Explore ways to manage the sensory challenges, such as the cold weather or noisy crowds. ·        Neurodiverse traits can change over time. ·        Every individual's experience of living with autism is different. ·        Adapting the use of comms kits in professional games and the difficulty of managing multiple conversations simultaneously should be considered by the FA when thinking about supporting Neurodiverse referees and assistant referees. ·        It is important for governing bodies to invest in supporting and educating people who are neurodiverse to future-proof specific individuals in sports. Connect with Nathan Sherratt Instagram Website - The Third Team Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Ep285: Adam Batstone - Football Coaches: How To Help Neurodiverse Players Thrive Ep249: Dr Edward Hall – Understanding Workplace Collaboration In Coaching In Team Sports Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Professional Women's Football Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources

In today's episode David Charlton and his colleague Adam Batstone emphasised the importance of psychological support in football and sport coaching with children.  They particularly acknowledged the need to foster rapport with parents to address their concerns about disclosing their child's challenges.   David and Adam highlighted the need for adaptability in coaching methods, especially for neurodivergent children, who may require more personalised approaches.  They discussed strategies like framing sessions, providing clear routines, and using non-confrontational prompts to maintain engagement.  The conversation also touched on the significance of life skills development beyond football, noting that coaches can help children build resilience and emotional flexibility, crucial for their future success in various fields. Key Learning Points: ·         Seek to explore ways to incorporate more flexibility and adaptability in training sessions to better accommodate neurodivergent players. ·         Develop strategies to build trust with parents, encouraging them to openly share information about their child's needs. ·         Provide training for coaches on recognizing and supporting neurodivergent behaviours, and implementing effective intervention techniques. ·         Investigate the feasibility of creating designated "safe spaces" within the training environment for players to self-regulate when needed. ·         Factor in the psychological planning of training sessions to consider the emotional responses of players. ·         Utilise additional coaching resources to provide one-on-one support for players who may need it during sessions. Connect with David Charlton Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIN Podcast Episodes To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Ep249: Dr Edward Hall – Understanding Workplace Collaboration In Coaching In Team Sports Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Professional Women's Football Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport Other Valuable Resources To Encourage A Positive Sporting Experience Podcasts for Sport Coach Development Cricket Psychology Resources Hockey Psychology Resources Rugby Psychology Resources Soccer Psychology Resources Podcast Episodes To Help Children Have A Positive Sporting Experience Ep074: David Charlton – How Can I Make My Child Feel Confident? Ep112: David Charlton – How to Deal with Physical Insecurities as a Young Athlete Ep217: Chris Cook – How A Marginal Gains Approach Can Help You Perform Better Resources To Help Children Have A Positive Sporting Experience Helping Young Athletes Manage Emotions Does Your Child Worry Too Much About What Others Think? My Child Can't Find "The Zone" Other Valuable Resources To Help Children, Young Athletes, Parents and Youth Sport Coaches Youth Sports Psychology Library Conversations With Kids Ideas Frequently Asked Questions - Sport Psychology for Children and Parents