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September is a weekly podcast for Loveships. It explores the tools and technologies that build and sustain life-changing love relationships. Hosted by writer and facilitator Alexis Pauline Gumbs and artist and entrepreneur Sangodare Wallace, this intimate show draws on their 17-year partnership built on the premise of Loveship as a spiritual practice and Loveship as a resource in community.
From conflict and contrast, responsibility and repair, to emotional intimacy and navigating the ever-changing seasons of life, Alexis and Sangodare share insights that nurture not only couples but also families, friends, and communities.
Tune in each week for heartfelt conversations that honor relationships as sacred ground—an offering to ourselves, our people, our ancestors, and spirit.
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Alexis and Sangodare host a magnetic live recording at Gladys Books and Wine. They discuss the origins of the “love ship” and introduce the idea of “polyrhythm,” where each person carries different beats, such as one handling business while the other opts out. They offer three “North Stars” and address audience questions about social media’s impact on dating and relationship visibility and approaches to conflict and repair. What Is a Loveship and Origins and Boat MetaphorPolyrhythm and Rela...
On this episode Alexis and Sangodare discuss attraction, complementary energies, and how partners can evolve beyond fixed gender roles, drawing on Toni Cade Bambara’s “On the Issue of Roles” to emphasize revolution as freedom. They share an Ifa initiation transformation, offer three “North Stars,” and answer a listener question about spouses in business conflict: align on shared goals, seek support, honor differences, and use curiosity and play. Attraction, Masculinity/Femininity & Lett...
Sangodare and Alexis delve into the importance of physical intimacy and the practice of embodying love. They reflect on their personal journeys with working out, the significance of ancestral figures like Pat Parker and Audrey Lorde, and the scholarship of Mecca Jamila Sullivan. They emphasize the interconnectedness of our hearts and bodies, providing practical insights into embracing one's physicality, and the role of dance in reclaiming one's body. Through gratitude practices and personal a...
On this episode Alexis and Sangodare delve into the concept of creating personal and communal ceremonies that honor individual and collective cycles. They explore reclaiming traditional holidays like Valentine's Day and a look at the importance of defining what is sacred in relationships. The hosts share personal stories and rituals, emphasizing transformation, consistent presence, and the liberation that comes from conscious repetition. They also address a listener's question about redefinin...
In this episode Alexis and Sangodare explore what happens when relationship conflict shows up in the body. They discuss the powerful practice of expressing emotions and using physical manifestations, like a crick in the neck, as signals to address hidden feelings. Drawing on wisdom from classic TV and their own experiences, they encourage listeners to relax, relate, and release. They address a listener's question about maintaining realistic views of relationships while staying open to their m...
In this episode Alexis and Sangodare explore the profound importance of self-love as a foundational practice in relationships. The episode draws inspiration from black feminist literature and discusses the concept of 'romancing the stone'—the idea that we should lavish love and care on ourselves before extending it to others. Practical advice includes creating accessible self-love practices, breaking away from traditional gender roles, and nurturing deep, authentic connections. They also answ...
Hosts Sangodare and Alexis delve into the concept of 'Wingspan' to illustrate how supporting each other enhances our capacity for love and connection. Drawing on Audre Lorde’s challenge “I am not supposed to exist. But I do,” the episode meditates on flocking, and the supposedly impossible flights on bees to celebrate the power of shifting the energy and moving towards the futures we envision for ourselves through collaboration. The hosts address a listener's question about managi...
In this heartwarming and insightful episode, Alexis and Sangoare highlight the philosophy of 'staying in the ship' despite disagreements and hardships. It includes a hilarious anecdote involving nature and it’s wild things, a powerful insights from Bayard Rustin about the enduring power of love and a listener’s question about self-acceptance and readiness for partnership. This question initiates a thoughtful discussion on the importance of being present, loving, and having faith in the unpred...
How do you reconcile a childhood vision of knights, white horses, and Babyface soundtracks with the reality of queer love and liberation? To kick off the new year, Sangodare circles back to a foundational conversation about the definition of Loveship. While technically still on hiatus (Alexis returns next week!), this episode bridges the gap between Sangodare’s childhood "hopeless romantic" past and the liberative, spiritual partnership practiced today. Sangodare and Alexis break down the dis...
In this episode, Sangodare weaves today's conversation with an archived conversation wherein hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on the power of one's call to support us to find home in our own bodies. The hosts draw insight and inspiration from Bayard RustinFannie Lou HamerJames Baldwinand ancestral legacies.For more on our coaching and community building offerings, Click Here https://www.mobilehomecoming.org/loveship To go deeper into your self-love journey access the replay of Alexis’s “I L...
In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on the intertwined nature of boundaries and blessings in personal and communal relationships. The discussion includes practical advice on setting boundaries while maintaining community connections, supported by an awesome listener question and personal anecdotes. The hosts emphasize the importance of honest communication, creative solutions, and mutual support. They conclude by encouraging listeners to share the episode and use it as a tool ...
In this episode, hosts explore the themes of vision and possibility. The discussion includes creative processes for visioning, such as making vision boards and asking generative questions, inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's concept of “organized curiosity.” The hosts offer three 'North Stars' for expanding vision and conclude by promoting their audio course 'Wide Futures'. Vision and PossibilityVision Board Practices, Rituals and TechniquesNorth Stars for VisioningConclusion and Resources Fo...
In this episode, hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss the continuous journey of self-discovery and self-love, drawing inspiration from Essex Hemphill's ceremony of affirmation in the face of external and internalized oppression. They share personal experiences of self-realization, touching on the challenges and triumphs of understanding one's identity. The hosts outline three 'North Stars' to guide listeners on their journey, and address a listener's question about cultivating patience while se...
In this episode, Alexis and Sangodare reflect on the impact of family-of-origin dynamics on how we love romantically. With a grounding sacred text from Audre Lorde's essay “Eye to Eye”, they reveal how recognizing these patterns can lead to healing and liberation. The episode emphasizes intentionality in relationships, the importance of community support, and celebrates the love and influence of family, exemplified by a super special listener testimonial. The session concludes by inviting lis...
In this solo episode, Sangodare unpacks afformations (not to be confused with affirmations) and their transformative power in all areas of life. Sangodare explores their learnings from the book ‘Afformations: The Miracle of Positive Self-Talk’ by Noah St. John, emphasizing the importance of belief, generative practices, and asking the right questions. They highlight how altering self-talk can create new possibilities and enrich the relational experience while addressing the challenges of bala...
In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis celebrate the power of joy and gratitude within their community, relationships, and personal growth. they emphasize the importance of celebrating their elders, relationships, and the journey of black lesbians. The hosts introduce celebration as a technology, which they leverage to foster community and progress. They share personal anecdotes about turning gratitude into tangible growth, illustrating three 'North Stars' guiding their practice: always f...
In this episode, Alexis and Sangodare unpack the power of making requests, emphasizing the importance of learning to make and receive requests in relationships as a practice of vulnerability and community building. They discuss how asking for what we want can enhance cooperation and trust. The episode encourages listeners to see requests as acts of generosity and steps towards deeper connections. The Power of RequestsPracticing Requests in RelationshipsThe Importance of an Honest Yes and an...
In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis discuss profound themes around communicating desires and boundaries in Loveships. They share personal anecdotes, highlight insights from black feminists like June Jordan and Prentis Hemphill, and provide guidance on practicing healthy caring, non-codependent relationships. They emphasize the importance of community, mutual respect, and open communication in fostering spiritual growth within intimate relationships, and they address a listener's...
This discussion highlights our universal need for love and intimacy, and how the perceived scarcity of these elements can lead to lowered standards and feelings of unworthiness. Drawing on Ntozake Shange’s mantra “I found God in myself and I loved her fiercely, the episode underscores the importance of recognizing our intrinsic worth and the examples of love and intimacy that truly resonate with our authentic selves. The Universal Need for Love and IntimacyScarcity and Compromising Standard...
In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis delve into the concept of heartbreak as a crucial part of spiritual growth and self-awareness within relationships. The episode shares personal stories of past heartbreaks and the lessons learned from those experiences, emphasizing the importance of intuition and self-trust. They outline three 'North Stars' guiding through heartbreak: understanding it as a spiritual milestone, the essential role of community in healing, and viewing the capacity to c...
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