Breakup to Blessing

Are you missing who they actually were, or who you hoped they would become? This is the question that changes everything. In Episode 2 of the 28-Day No Contact Challenge, we get real about the difference between facts and the stories you're telling yourself. We'll explore why some days feel impossibly hard even when you thought you were making progress, and why grief doesn't follow a straight path to healing. What You'll Learn: The difference between missing the person and missing the potential How to separate facts from the story you're hoping is true Why living in delusion keeps you stuck (and costs you your agency) Why grief comes in waves and doesn't follow the "stages" you've heard about What progress actually looks like (hint: it's not about feeling good every day) Exactly what to do on the really hard days Key Topics Covered: Reality vs. the fantasy you're holding onto How delusion steals your power and keeps you waiting Why your ex would be with you if they wanted to be (the hard truth) Non-linear grief and why setbacks don't mean you're failing Why some days feel harder than others for no reason Measuring progress by your responses, not your feelings This Episode Is For You If: You keep replaying conversations hoping they'll come back, you're struggling with days that feel like you're back at square one, you're holding onto the potential of what the relationship could have been, or you need permission to have hard days without judging yourself. Action Steps: Write down the facts vs. your interpretation - get brutally honest Give yourself permission to have hard days without judgment Notice your grief patterns - when are you most triggered? Tough Love Truth: "You can't heal from a fantasy. You can only heal from reality. If your ex wanted to be with you, they would be with you. That doesn't mean you have to like it - but you do have to accept what is actually happening so you can heal from it." Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

Going through a breakup and can't stop thinking about your ex? Your brain is literally in withdrawal - and understanding why changes everything. In this first episode of the 28-Day No Contact Challenge, I break down the neuroscience behind why breakups feel like physical pain, what's happening in your brain when you can't stop checking their Instagram, and why no contact is the most powerful tool you have for healing. What You'll Learn: The science behind breakup pain (and why you're not weak for struggling) What dopamine withdrawal actually means and how it affects your healing Why any contact - even "just checking in" - resets your progress The truth about closure (and why you can't get it from your ex) What no contact really is (and what it's NOT) How to identify your vulnerable moments before they derail you Key Topics Covered: Neuroplasticity and rewiring your brain after a breakup The dopamine highway your brain built with your ex Why cortisol is keeping you exhausted and anxious The closure myth and why you need to stop waiting for answers Creating distance to gain perspective on your relationship This Episode Is For You If: You're struggling with the urge to reach out, wondering if no contact actually works, questioning whether you can make it through, or feeling like you need "one more conversation" to get closure. Action Steps: Recommit to no contact - for yourself, not them Identify your vulnerable moments (late nights, loneliness, after drinks) Practice self-compassion - you're going through withdrawal, not weakness Book a consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Work with Sylvia and Book a 10x session package here

I'm so excited to announce something I've been wanting to do for you all—a 28-Day No Contact Challenge starting next Monday. If you've been struggling to maintain no contact on your own, if your resolve keeps wavering, or if you just need support to keep going, this is for you. Over the next 4 weeks, I'm releasing 2 episodes per week to walk you through this journey together. This isn't just about not texting your ex—it's about rediscovering who you are, understanding your patterns, and using this experience as a catalyst for genuine transformation. With the end of the year approaching, this is your opportunity to show up as a different person so you can create a different outcome for next year. In this episode, I break down what to expect, why now is the perfect time to start, and what's waiting for you on the other side of these 28 days. We'll talk about connecting to your why, the opportunity in front of you, and how to set yourself up for success. This challenge is for everyone—whether you're actively reaching out or your ex just occupies too much mental space. If you're ready to redirect all that energy back to yourself and step into what's possible, let's do this together. Get the 28 Day Challenge episode sent straight to your inbox https://sylviasuwan.kit.com/28daychallenge Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

In this episode, Sylvia explores how our need for control and rigid life plans often block the very love, joy, and opportunities we're hoping to find. From relationship timelines and dating expectations to the stories we tell ourselves about how things "should" unfold, Sylvia unpacks why flexibility and openness are key to true connection and happiness. Through real-life examples and client stories, she reveals how letting go of rigid beliefs allows life to surprise us in the best possible ways. You'll learn how to recognize where control is holding you back, how to question the beliefs you've inherited from others, and how to open yourself up to the unexpected paths that lead to growth, love, and fulfillment. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your need for control might be blocking love and happiness How rigid beliefs and timelines create unnecessary pressure in relationships The difference between having standards and being inflexible Practical ways to become more adaptable in dating and daily life How letting go of "the plan" helps you attract what's truly meant for you Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Ready to work with Sylvia? Book a 10x session package and start your healing journey today: 10x Coaching Session Package

In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we're diving into one of the most powerful shifts you can make in your relationships — learning the difference between speaking from fear and speaking from true vulnerability. So often, when we feel hurt, rejected, or misunderstood, our words come out as accusations, defenses, or silence. We push the people we love away while desperately wanting them to come closer. But what if there's another way — one that actually builds trust, intimacy, and safety instead of conflict? In this conversation, I unpack: ✨ The three ways fear-based communication shows up (and why it never works) ✨ What true vulnerability really sounds like — and why it's not weakness ✨ How to create emotional safety while expressing your needs ✨ What someone's response to your vulnerability actually reveals about them ✨ How to rebuild trust and rewire your fear of rejection through small, safe steps If you've ever found yourself saying things you don't mean when you're scared — or shutting down when you most want to connect — this episode will help you understand what's really happening underneath and how to change it. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation If you are ready to work with Sylvia book a 10x session package and start today: https://sylviasuwan.com

If you've ever found yourself lying awake replaying conversations, analysing every text message, or feeling an overwhelming wave of panic that makes you want to pull away from someone you care about — this episode is for you. In today's episode, we're diving deep into anxiety in dating and relationships — what it looks like, why it happens, and how to begin healing it. You'll learn: The hidden ways anxiety shows up in your dating life Why your nervous system reacts as if emotional vulnerability is a threat How to tell the difference between intuition and anxious overthinking Why the right person can help you rewire your nervous system — and the wrong person can reinforce your fears What it actually takes to feel safe, secure, and open in love again Sylvia also shares a personal story about her own experience with anxiety in a healthy relationship, and how understanding her body's trauma response helped her rebuild trust and calm within herself. This episode will help you: ✨ Understand what's happening beneath your anxious thoughts ✨ Learn how to regulate your nervous system in the moment ✨ Identify whether your relationship is healing you or hurting you ✨ Realise that you are not broken — you're healing If you've ever thought "Why can't I just relax and enjoy dating?" — this conversation will give you clarity, compassion, and hope that you absolutely can. Key Quotes: "Your anxiety isn't trying to ruin your relationships — it's trying to protect you." "The goal isn't to eliminate anxiety, but to create safety so you can stay present even when it shows up." "With the right person, your nervous system learns that vulnerability can be safe." Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation If you are ready to commit to your dating and relationship goals, work with Sylvia: 10x Session Package

In today's episode, I'm exploring a concept inspired by Steven Bartlett's book The Diary of a CEO: 33 Laws of Business and Life — specifically his idea of "The Five Buckets." When I read this, it instantly clicked for me how perfectly it applies to dating and relationships. Steven's framework explains how success is built — starting with knowledge and skills, which then create your network, resources, and ultimately your reputation. But what happens when we skip the foundation? When we try to jump to the outcome — the successful career, the perfect relationship — without building the emotional and personal groundwork first? In this episode, I connect Steven's Five Buckets to the world of dating. You'll hear about: 💡 Why attraction alone isn't enough for long-term love 💡 How emotional maturity creates true relationship compatibility 💡 The danger of chasing a "bucket five" partner before you've built your own foundation 💡 What it really means to become the kind of person you want to attract You'll also learn how to apply this framework to your own growth — building knowledge of yourself, developing emotional and relational skills, and creating the kind of grounded confidence that naturally attracts healthy, lasting love. Because just like in business, if you skip the foundation, the relationship eventually crumbles. But when you build from the ground up — with self-awareness, growth, and emotional intelligence — everything else starts to fall into place. Listen if: You're tired of short-lived connections and want to build something real. You're doing the inner work and want to understand why it matters. You're ready to stop chasing and start becoming. Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

Are you months or years post-breakup and still feeling worse than the day it happened? You're not alone. So many people tell me they're doing all the right things—going to the gym, journaling, talking to friends, maybe even booking a retreat—yet they still feel stuck in pain. In today's episode of Breakup to Blessing, I'm diving into why actions alone aren't enough to heal, and what's really missing when you feel like you're "ticking all the boxes" but not moving forward. We'll explore: Why support from friends can sometimes keep you stuck instead of helping you heal. The difference between healthy venting and reinforcing a victim mindset. How to journal in a way that actually brings clarity, self-awareness, and growth (instead of just rehearsing your pain). The science of affect labeling and why naming your feelings reduces their intensity. How to shift your mindset so your healing practices truly work for you. Why the people who transform most after heartbreak aren't the ones doing the most, but the ones willing to change how they think. If you've been working hard to move on but still feel weighed down by the past, this episode will help you understand why—and how to finally shift things. Show Links: Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation  

Why do we keep getting drawn to partners who can't give us what we need? In this episode, I explore the fascinating neurological and emotional reasons behind our attraction to emotionally unavailable people. You'll learn how the same attachment systems that formed in childhood with your caregivers continue to shape your adult romantic relationships—and why rejection or abandonment can feel so overwhelming. I also break down the role of bonding hormones like oxytocin, dopamine-driven reward circuits, and stress regulation systems in how we connect with others. We'll look at: How your early attachment patterns influence who you're attracted to. Why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so familiar and "comfortable." How unspoken childhood needs show up in adult relationships. The subtle ways we recreate childhood wounds in dating and partnerships. Practical steps to break the cycle, shift your perspective, and create healthier connections. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode will give you the tools to spot unhealthy patterns, communicate your needs more effectively, and begin building relationships where you feel seen, safe, and valued. 👉 Don't forget to hit follow or subscribe so you never miss an episode—and share this podcast with someone who needs to hear it. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

When a relationship ends, it's easy to get stuck in denial—replaying "what ifs," clinging to hope that your ex will come back, or creating a fantasy that things weren't as bad as they really were. But staying in this space only delays your healing. In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I talk about the difference between denial and reality after a breakup, why false hope keeps you stuck, and how facing the truth (even when it hurts) sets you free. You'll learn: The common signs you're living in denial after a breakup How denial protects you emotionally—but also keeps you from moving on Practical steps to shift from fantasy into acceptance Why facing reality is the key to healing, growth, and creating space for the love you deserve If you've been holding onto an illusion or waiting for your ex to change, this episode will help you take that powerful step into freedom. Show Links: Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Follow me on Instagram: @sylviasuwan

Are you obsessing over getting your ex back, finding "the one," or stopping the pain after a breakup? In this episode, I reveal why our outcome-focused thinking is actually sabotaging our success in love - and what to do instead. What You'll Learn: Why focusing on outcomes keeps you stuck in breakups and dating The counter-intuitive truth about getting an ex back How to shift from desperate outcome-chasing to empowered process-building Why dating with a "find the one" mentality backfires My personal story: How my husband and I broke up, grew apart, and came back together as different people Practical steps to become process-focused instead of outcome-obsessed Key Takeaways: The Breakup Paradox: The way to get your ex back is to become someone who doesn't need them back. When you focus on healing and growth instead of reunion, you either attract them back as a choice (not a need) or you become ready for someone better. The Dating Trap: When you're so focused on finding "the one," you miss valuable practice in connection, conversation, and authenticity that actually makes you more attractive to the right person. The Process Promise: Focus on who you're becoming today, and the outcomes you want become inevitable tomorrow. In This Episode I Share: How my 4-month relationship ended with no intention of reconciliation Why breaking up was the best thing for our eventual marriage The growth that happened when we stopped trying to make it work How we came back together as completely different people Why I couldn't have shown up properly without that time apart Action Steps: Identify where you're being too outcome-focused Define what the actual process looks like for your goals Set one process goal for this week Practice celebrating process wins, not just outcomes Build trust in the journey, even when you can't see the destination Perfect For You If: You're struggling to get over an ex You keep hoping they'll come back You're frustrated with dating and haven't found "the one" You feel stuck in patterns that aren't working You want to build genuine confidence in relationships You're ready to stop chasing and start becoming Connect With Me: Instagram: @sylviasuwan Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Love this episode? Leave a 5-star review and share it with someone who needs to hear this message!

We often think being single means being lonely – but that's one of the biggest relationship myths out there. The truth? You can be single and completely fulfilled, or in a relationship and feel totally disconnected from your partner. In this essential episode, I'm breaking down why we confuse relationship status with happiness, and what to do about the loneliness that has nothing to do with whether you're coupled up or not. What You'll Learn: The four relationship states we all cycle through – and why only one of them actually matters for your happiness. Why being in a relationship and feeling lonely is actually worse than being single and lonely (and what this taught me about my own patterns). How to tell if you're staying in a relationship just to avoid being alone – and why this keeps you stuck in disconnection. The real markers of a successful relationship (hint: it has nothing to do with how long you've been together). What to do when you're single and lonely – including how to meet your connection needs without jumping into the wrong relationship. How to reconnect with your partner if you're feeling distant – and the questions that will tell you if it's worth the effort. Here's the reality: Whether you're single or partnered, there are specific things you can do right now to reduce loneliness and build the connections that actually fill you up. The goal isn't just to be in a relationship – it's to create a life where you feel genuinely connected to the people around you, starting with yourself. If you're feeling lonely right now, this episode will help you figure out exactly what you're really looking for and how to find it in ways that don't involve settling for the wrong person or staying stuck in a relationship that's making you feel more alone. Key Takeaways: Being single ≠ being lonely (and being coupled ≠ being connected) Quality relationships are built on connection, not just commitment Loneliness is about disconnection, not relationship status You can reduce loneliness whether you're single or partnered The importance of taking action rather than waiting for someone else to fix your situation Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

Breakups can leave you questioning everything about yourself — your value, your identity, even your worth as a person. You might be doing all the "right things" people recommend after heartbreak — staying busy, seeing friends, diving into hobbies — yet still come home to that deep, overwhelming emptiness. In this episode, I explore why so many people feel worthless after a relationship ends, and why it can seem like you only exist in relation to your ex. Together we'll unpack: ✨ The missing piece most people overlook when healing after a breakup ✨ Why you've been giving your ex all the credit for the love and connection you shared ✨ How to reclaim your role in creating intimacy, joy, and partnership ✨ The belief that keeps you stuck thinking your ex was "the only one" ✨ Practical steps to reconnect with yourself and rebuild your self-worth You'll walk away with a powerful reminder: the love, connection, and intimacy you miss didn't come from your ex alone — they came from you too. And if you could create it once, you can create it again. If you've been feeling like you only exist in relation to your ex, this episode will help you see your worth in a whole new way. Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

What if the pain you're in right now is actually the turning point of your life? When life falls apart — through heartbreak, betrayal, or unexpected change — it can feel like everything is over. But what if this crisis could be the moment that transforms you into someone stronger, wiser, and more authentic than ever before? In this episode, I'll share how to stop staying stuck in anger and blame, and instead use disruption as a catalyst for growth. You'll learn how to see relationships more clearly, build deeper connections, and make choices from courage instead of fear. Whether you're navigating a breakup, family struggles, or any kind of life shake-up, this conversation will help you: Recognise the hidden power you have right now Reframe your story so the pain becomes part of your strength Create ripple effects that improve not just love, but friendships, parenting, and even your career Step into a future where you feel proud, resilient, and fully yourself You can't control what happened — but you can choose what you do with it. This episode will show you how.

Going through a breakup and don't know what to do with yourself? This episode is for you. Whether you're in shock, having a breakdown, or feeling completely detached, all reactions are normal. Instead of the typical breakup advice, I'm sharing 4 practical, actionable steps that will set you up for your next chapter - one that's better than before and intentionally focused on creating your best life. What You'll Learn Why your breakup reaction is normal (and often learned from childhood) The 4 unconventional steps to take immediately after a breakup How to use this ending as a catalyst for building an amazing life Why healing isn't passive and requires intentional work How to shift from reactive mode to creative mode The 4 Steps to Transform Your Breakup 1. Create Your Values List Find "values exercises" on Google (takes 5-10 minutes) Examples: integrity, loyalty, connection, authenticity, adventure Use your values as a compass for all major decisions Notice where you're expending energy that doesn't align with who you want to be 2. Complete a Life Wheel Exercise Rate 10 life areas on a scale of 1-10 (health, career, finances, relationships, spirituality, etc.) Identify which areas have been neglected while focusing on your relationship Get an honest assessment to rebuild intentionally Focus energy where it will create the most balance and fulfillment 3. Commit to Something Outside Your Comfort Zone Choose something that makes you nervous but excited Examples: learning to surf, guitar lessons, solo travel, art classes Build evidence that you can handle uncertainty and figure things out Expand your world instead of shrinking it after a breakup 4. Write Down Your Perfect Day Visualize from wake-up to sleep - be detailed No limitations based on current circumstances Your ex cannot be part of this picture Use it as a north star for decision-making Ask: "Does this move me closer to or further from my perfect day?" Key Takeaways There's no "right" way to react to a breakup Your reaction is likely a coping pattern learned in childhood Healing requires intentional work, not just waiting for time to pass This breakup is giving you a clean slate and opportunity to rebuild consciously People who come out stronger use disruption as a chance to make conscious changes You get to choose what to keep and what to leave behind Resources Mentioned Values Exercise: Search "find my values exercises" on Google Life Wheel Exercise: Search "life wheel exercise" on Google or book a consultation with Sylvia Personal Consultation: DM @sylviasuwan on Instagram for booking link Connect with Sylvia Instagram: @sylviasuwan Book a Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Quote to Remember "The people who come out of breakups stronger, happier, and more fulfilled are the ones who use the disruption as an opportunity to examine their lives and make conscious changes. They're the ones who refuse to just go back to how things were before."

In this episode, we dive deep into the often unseen—but deeply felt—impact of untreated emotional wounds and how they shape our everyday lives, choices, behaviours, and relationships. Whether you're someone who feels "stuck," overwhelmed, or confused by recurring patterns in your life, this episode will help you understand how unhealed pain manifests and why acknowledging it is the first essential step toward healing. 💔 Topics Covered: Why emotional wounds don't disappear with time or avoidance How unresolved pain can influence your choices and decision-making The role of fear, shame, anger, and grief in unhealed trauma The way emotional wounds distort our behaviours in relationships Real-life examples of how wounds show up in everyday interactions What true healing looks and feels like (and what it doesn't) How healing leads to emotional freedom, deeper connections, and peace 🧠 Key Insights: Emotional wounds can cause us to choose from fear, avoid opportunities, and recreate old patterns. These wounds often manifest as people-pleasing, withdrawal, hypervigilance, or emotional shutdown. Relationships act as mirrors that reflect our unhealed parts, offering opportunities for growth—or deeper pain if we're unaware. Healing is not about forgetting—it's about reclaiming your power, restoring presence, and choosing love over fear. ✨ What Healing Actually Looks Like: Feeling your emotions without being ruled by them Being present instead of stuck in the past or fearful of the future Responding with compassion—for yourself and others Cultivating peace, resilience, and genuine joy Book a free consultation with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com Ready to work with me? Book a 1:1 coaching session here

In this episode, we explore a game-changing framework for understanding relationship issues: the hierarchy of relationship problems. Just like Maslow's hierarchy of needs, relationships have different levels of problems that must be addressed in the right order to create lasting, healthy partnerships. The Relationship Hierarchy (Bottom to Top) Foundation Level: Basic Relationship Needs Respect Trust Safety (emotional, physical, psychological) These are non-negotiable - your relationship equivalent of food, water, and shelter Middle Tier: Communication and Connection Effective communication about difficult topics Emotional intimacy and connection Shared values and alignment Healthy conflict navigation skills Top Tier: Passion and Fun Romance and passion Adventure and excitement Fun activities and shared experiences The "magical" aspects of relationships Why We Get the Hierarchy Wrong Top-tier focus is more appealing - Romance and passion are exciting to think about Foundation work isn't "sexy" - Boundary conversations and trust-building feel less romantic We try to fix symptoms, not root causes - Like putting a bandage on a broken leg Pattern repetition - Without addressing foundational issues, we recreate the same problems with new partners The Foundation Checklist Ask yourself these critical questions: Safety: Do you feel completely safe being yourself with your partner? Can you share your real thoughts, fears, and dreams without judgment? Trust: Do you trust them completely? Not just fidelity, but follow-through, honesty, and having your best interests at heart? Respect: Do you feel genuinely respected? Are your input, time, feelings, and perspectives treated as valuable? If any answer is "no," that's where your work begins. Common Mistakes Planning romantic dates when you can't have conversations without arguments Trying to improve physical intimacy when emotional safety is missing Focusing on shared activities when basic respect is absent Sweeping foundational issues under the rug hoping they'll resolve themselves The Exercise That Changes Everything Identify the foundational cracks - What basic issues in your current/past relationship weren't addressed? Examine why they weren't addressed - Lack of skills? Fear of conflict? Believing you didn't deserve better? Recognize the pattern - Are you trying to solve the wrong problem at the wrong level? How to Use This Hierarchy Step 1: Get crystal clear on your foundation-level non-negotiables Define what safety, trust, and respect look like for you Don't compromise on these basics Step 2: Develop middle-tier skills Learn effective communication techniques Practice building emotional intimacy Develop healthy conflict resolution skills Step 3: Enjoy the top-tier benefits Plan romantic experiences Explore passion and adventure Create magical moments together Key Takeaways Most relationship problems are hierarchy problems - People try to solve issues at the wrong level You can't build a healthy relationship on an unhealthy foundation - Surface fixes won't address deeper structural problems Foundation work comes first - Safety, trust, and respect must be established before focusing on passion and fun These are learnable skills - Communication and intimacy skills can be developed with practice The Bottom Line Stop trying to create passion when you need to create safety. Stop planning romantic gestures when you need to establish basic respect. Build from the ground up, address problems at the right level, and create relationships that are not just exciting—but sustainable, secure, and lasting. Questions for Reflection What foundational issues have you been avoiding in your relationships? Are you trying to solve surface problems while ignoring deeper structural issues? What does safety, trust, and respect specifically look like for you? What skills do you need to develop at each level of the hierarchy? Work with Sylvia - Book a free consultation https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation  

Are you stuck in a loop of anger and hurt months or even years after your breakup? In this powerful episode, Sylvia explores the crucial difference between resistance and acceptance—and why one keeps you trapped while the other sets you free. If you've been replaying what happened, wishing things could go back to how they were, or feeling like life is happening TO you instead of FOR you, this episode will show you the path forward. What You'll Learn: The Two Paths After Heartbreak: What resistance really looks like (and why it keeps you powerless) How acceptance differs from giving up or condoning what happened Why acceptance is the key to reclaiming your choices and your future The Science Behind Staying Stuck: Why negative emotions can become addictive (featuring insights from Dr. Joe Dispenza) How your brain gets wired for familiar pain The chemical patterns that keep you craving stress and drama Breaking Free from the Victim Mindset: The real reason we resist taking responsibility (it's not what you think) How to move from "life is happening to me" to "I'm happening to life" Why feeling "ready" is a myth that keeps you waiting forever Practical Steps Forward: The confronting question that changes everything How to use your breakup as fuel for creating the life you actually want Why arguing with reality always makes you lose Ready to take the next step? Book a free consultation: sylviasuwan.com/consultation Connect with Sylvia: Instagram: @sylviasuwan Website: sylviasuwan.com If this episode helped you, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps us reach more people on their healing journey. This episode contains references to the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza on emotional addiction and neuroplasticity.

Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. In today's episode, we're diving into two of the most common – and most challenging – emotions that come up after a breakup: loneliness and anxiety. If you've ever felt isolated after the end of a relationship or found yourself spiralling into "what ifs" about the future, you're not alone. We talk about why these feelings show up, what they're really trying to tell us, and how we can begin to respond with compassion and connection rather than fear. We explore: Why loneliness and anxiety are normal, not a sign of failure The loss of identity that often follows a breakup The pressure to "find yourself" again – and why that's not always the right question How friendships can become your most powerful form of healing Why we often feel like a burden when we're vulnerable – and how that belief keeps us stuck The gendered challenges around reaching out (especially for men) What it means to reconnect – with yourself, with others, and with your life This episode is a gentle reminder that you don't have to do this alone. Whether you're newly single or deep in the healing process, this is your invitation to soften, reach out, and rebuild your sense of connection — not just romantically, but through meaningful friendships and community too. Listen now to hear: Why anxiety ramps up after a breakup and what your brain is really trying to do How modern relationships can leave us emotionally isolated What Simon Sinek and Esther Perel can teach us about friendship, purpose, and healing Practical ways to begin reconnecting — even if it feels awkward or scary A message of hope for anyone feeling unseen, unloved, or unsure where to go next Show Links: Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation Follow me on Instagram: @sylviasuwan

Do you find yourself constantly trying to earn love? Staying in relationships where you're always proving your worth? In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most painful beliefs that keeps us stuck in the wrong relationships: "I am not enough." This isn't about blaming your parents—it's about understanding how childhood experiences shaped your sense of self and how those early messages still run the show in your adult relationships. From conditional love to emotional invalidation, we'll explore the common patterns that create this deep-seated belief of unworthiness. But more importantly, you'll learn practical tools to break free from these patterns, including a deep dive into reparenting yourself and working with your nervous system when you're triggered. What You'll Learn Why "I'm not enough" shows up in almost every difficult breakup 6 common childhood patterns that create feelings of unworthiness The difference between emotional validation and healthy socialisation How your nervous system gets activated in relationships Practical reparenting techniques that actually work Why you can't think your way out of triggered states How to practice emotional abundance instead of scarcity Concrete homework to start shifting these patterns this week Book a free consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation