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What happens when grief changes more than your relationship with someone who has died? What if it also changes how you see your family, your past, and yourself? In this episode of New Ways New You — Beyond Grief, Susan Ways welcomes Jane Garnett, an Oxford-educated speaker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), EMDR practitioner, and author of This Time with Feeling. Jane shares her deeply personal experience of losing her father after a lifetime of emotional distance. His death brought unexpected changes to her family relationships and helped her recognise patterns of codependency, feeling responsible for others, and trying to carry emotional weight that was not hers alone to bear. Through their conversation, Susan and Jane explore how grief can expose unresolved family dynamics, challenge the stories we tell ourselves, and create opportunities to reconsider how we want to live and relate to others. They also discuss EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing), a therapeutic approach Jane uses to help clients process difficult experiences and develop a different relationship with painful memories. Jane explains why healing is not about erasing grief or forcing yourself to feel happy, but about making room for your feelings, building resilience, and finding a way forward that feels authentic. In this episode, you'll discover: How grief can reshape family relationships and bring longstanding patterns to the surface What it means to rewrite the story you tell yourself about your past Recognising codependency and the habit of carrying other people's emotional burdens How personal rituals can help honour a loved one and transform the meaning of their story What EMDR is and how it may support people processing grief and trauma Why healing is about changing your relationship with pain, not pretending it isn't there Why positive affirmations may not be enough when they conflict with deeply held beliefs How to identify the feelings you genuinely want to move towards, such as peace, steadiness, or a greater sense of self-trust The difference between individual trauma processing and supportive group-based resourcing Why working with a qualified therapist can be important when navigating overwhelming experiences A gentle reminder You don't have to rush your grief or force yourself to feel differently before you're ready. Healing can begin with curiosity about what you're experiencing, compassion for yourself, and support from someone who can help you work through it. As Jane shares, grief can open the door to examining old patterns and discovering new ways of relating to yourself and the people around you. Your next step doesn't have to change everything. It can simply be one small move towards understanding yourself more deeply. Connect with Jane Garnett Website: https://www.janegarnett.com/ Book — This Time with Feeling: https://www.amazon.com/This-Time-Feeling-Jane-Garnett-ebook/dp/B0GX2QJWN7/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebananajane/ Psychology Today profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/jane-garnett-venice-ca/1479365 Special offer for podcast listeners Jane is offering podcast listeners a private 60-minute session for $250, normally $400. Choose between: EMDR session: Focused support for working through a specific emotional pattern, trigger, or experience. Psychedelic integration consultation: Personalised support for preparation or for processing experiences and emotions that arose during a psychedelic journey. To claim the offer: Book your session here: https://calendly.com/garnett-jane/zoom-therapy-session?back=1 Email Jane at [email protected]. Mention the code FEELING250 and specify which type of session you would like. Connect with Susan Ways New Ways Barre: https://newwaysbarre.com/ Book a barre class: https://classpass.com/studios/new-ways-barre-gaithersburg Susan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sueways/ New Ways Barre on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/newwaysbarre/ About New Ways New You — Beyond Grief Hosted by Susan Ways, New Ways New You explores grief, healing, relationships, movement, mindset, health, and the small decisions that can help us move into a new chapter of life. Through honest conversations and practical insights, Susan explores the power of taking life one inch at a time. If this conversation resonated with you, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. It helps more people discover these conversations when they need them most. Take care of yourself, and remember: you don't have to figure everything out today. Sometimes, the next small step is enough.

What if your home could become more than a place to live? What if it could help you heal, feel supported, and make room for what comes next? In this episode of New Ways New You — Beyond Grief, Susan Ways speaks with Paula Agudelo, interior designer, house therapist, and founder of Sacred Interiors, about the connection between our homes, our emotions, and the process of healing. Drawing from her own experiences with loss, Paula shares how rearranging her room as a child helped her find comfort after her father's death—and how that experience eventually shaped her work helping women create spaces that support their lives. Together, Susan and Paula explore how to honour the memories held in a home while opening yourself to new possibilities, even when moving forward feels difficult. In this episode, you'll discover: How your home can support you through grief and life transitions Paula's H.O.M.E. Method: Healing, Opening to Possibilities, Making It Beautiful, and Energising Your Space Why decluttering can feel emotionally challenging after a loss How flowers, plants, and meaningful rituals can bring moments of hope into everyday life Simple ways to create a calming bedroom and welcoming entryway How intention, colour, lighting, and personal objects can make a space feel more supportive Why grief and excitement for the future can exist at the same time Small steps you can take to make your home feel more like a sanctuary You don't need to redesign your entire home to begin. Sometimes, it's as simple as making your bed, bringing home a few flowers, or creating one small corner where you can sit, reflect, and let yourself feel what you need to feel. Your home doesn't have to be perfect. It can simply be a place that supports who you're becoming. CONNECT WITH PAULA AGUDELO Sacred Interiors Explore Paula's approach to intentional design and creating meaningful spaces. Website: https://www.sacredinteriors.design/ Interior Design Services: https://www.sacredinteriors.design/interior-design House of Her: Learn about Paula's programme for aspiring sacred interior designers. https://www.sacredinteriors.design/startyourinteriordesignbusiness CONNECT WITH SUSAN WAYS New Ways Barre Explore Susan's boutique barre studio in Gaithersburg, Maryland. Website: https://newwaysbarre.com/ Book a Barre Class: https://classpass.com/studios/new-ways-barre-gaithersburg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sueways/ New Ways Barre on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/newwaysbarre/ ABOUT THE PODCAST New Ways New You — Beyond Grief with Susan Ways explores grief, healing, relationships, movement, and the small choices that help us find our way forward. Because beginning again doesn't mean forgetting what came before. It means discovering how to carry your experiences with you while making room for what comes next. If this episode resonated with you, please follow, rate, and review the podcast. Your support helps these conversations reach others who may need them. Take care of yourself, and remember: you can start creating a little more space for healing right where you are.

What if losing someone physically doesn't mean losing your connection with them? In this episode of New Ways New You — Beyond Grief, Susan Ways sits down with Sheri Perl, spiritual healer, ordained interfaith minister, author, and EVP researcher, for a deeply personal conversation about grief, healing, consciousness, and connecting with loved ones who have passed. Sheri shares her extraordinary journey—from being diagnosed with severe Crohn's disease and Hepatitis C as a young woman, to discovering spiritual healing, studying with Jane Roberts and the Seth Material, and eventually exploring Electronic Voice Phenomena (EVP) after the loss of her son, Danny. Susan and Sheri talk about: Sheri's experience with distance healing and her recovery The loss of her son Danny and how it changed her work What Electronic Voice Phenomena (EVP) is How Sheri records and listens for possible communications Her experiences hearing what she believes are messages from loved ones Grief, love, and maintaining a connection after death How beginners can explore EVP for themselves Sheri's work supporting bereaved parents Sheri also shares resources for anyone interested in learning more about EVP and her work. Learn More About Sheri Perl Visit Sheri Perl's Website Explore Sheri's EVP Slide Show Learn About The Prayer Registry Sheri's website also features her books, EVP recordings, healing resources, and bereavement work. Sheri Perl Connect With Susan Ways & New Ways Barre If you're ready to take your own next step toward movement, healing, and a New You, connect with Susan: New Ways Barre Book a New Ways Barre Class Follow New Ways Barre on Instagram Follow Susan Ways on Instagram A Note From Susan If this conversation resonated with you, subscribe, rate, and review New Ways New You. Your support helps these conversations reach more people who may need them. And remember: you don't have to figure out everything at once. Sometimes, you just need to take the next step.

Welcome to New Ways, New You—a new chapter in my journey. I'm Susan Ways, host of Tendrils of Grief and owner of New Ways Barre, and I wanted to bring these two important parts of my life together. After years of conversations about grief, loss, healing, relationships, and finding our way forward, I've realized something: moving forward isn't always about making one giant change. Sometimes, it happens one inch at a time. That idea is at the heart of this new chapter. In this episode, I talk about the power of small, intentional movements—not just in our bodies, but in our lives. Whether you're grieving, rebuilding your career, healing a relationship, working on your health, or simply trying to become a healthier version of yourself, you don't have to figure out the entire journey today. You just need to find your next one-inch movement. Just like in barre, where tiny pulses, holds, and adjustments repeated consistently can create meaningful physical change, the small choices we make every day can create profound emotional and personal transformation. I also share some of my own experience with grief and how beginning a simple gratitude practice helped shift the way I saw the world. Healing didn't happen overnight. It happened through small decisions, repeated again and again. So this is an invitation to stop staring at the entire mountain. What's the one step you can take today? Maybe it's getting out of bed. Maybe it's taking a walk. Maybe it's having a difficult conversation. Maybe it's walking into a fitness class for the first time. Maybe it's simply taking your next breath. Whatever you're facing, your experience is real—and you don't have to compare it to anyone else's. This is New Ways, New You. A space for movement, healing, growth, and becoming the person you haven't met yet. And we're going to do it one inch at a time.   🔗 Connect With Susan & New Ways Barre New Ways Barre Proudly serving the Kentlands, Gaithersburg, Maryland and surrounding Montgomery County. New Ways Barre is a boutique studio focused on low-impact, high-result movement and creating a supportive community for physical and emotional well-being. 🌐 New Ways Barre Website 📅 Book a Barre Class 📸 New Ways Barre on Instagram 📘 New Ways Barre on Facebook 🎙️ Connect With Susan Ways 📸 Susan Ways on Instagram 📘 Susan Ways on Facebook ✉️ Email: [email protected] 🌿 About New Ways, New You New Ways, New You is the next chapter of Susan's work—exploring what happens when life asks us to begin again. The show brings together movement, healing, grief, relationships, health, personal growth, and the small choices that help us move forward. You don't have to change your whole life today. Sometimes, you just need to take the next small step.

Healing isn't about forgetting. It's about helping your nervous system understand that what happened is in the past, while allowing your heart to remain open to love, connection, and hope. Sometimes the greatest freedom comes when we gently release what was never ours to carry. In this episode of Tendrils of Grief, I welcome Dr. Laurel Parnell, psychologist, internationally recognized trauma expert, and developer of Attachment-Focused EMDR, Resource Tapping, and Multidimensional Integrative Healing, for a deeply insightful conversation about healing after loss. For more than four decades, Dr. Parnell has helped people recover from trauma by integrating psychology, neuroscience, attachment theory, and spirituality. She has trained thousands of clinicians around the world and continues to advance the field of trauma healing through her clinical work, teaching, and writing. Together, we explore one of the most important questions in grief: What if some of the pain you're carrying was never yours to begin with? Drawing from her newest book, Releasing What Isn't Yours, Dr. Parnell explains how grief, trauma, inherited beliefs, and emotional burdens can become stored in the nervous system, affecting the way we think, feel, and respond to life's challenges. We also discuss how Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) helps the brain process painful experiences so they become memories of the past rather than experiences that continue to overwhelm the present. Rather than erasing grief, EMDR helps people remember with less emotional distress, allowing healing to unfold naturally. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Parnell offers a compassionate perspective on trauma, resilience, spirituality, and the remarkable capacity each of us has to heal. Whether you're grieving the loss of a loved one, working through childhood wounds, or simply longing to experience greater peace, this episode provides hope that healing is possible. 🔑 What We Talk About What EMDR is and how it works Why trauma becomes stored in the nervous system Attachment-focused healing Releasing inherited emotional burdens The connection between grief and trauma Spirituality and psychological healing Living from your authentic self Finding peace after profound loss 🔗 Resources Dr. Laurel Parnell 📖 Releasing What Isn't Yours: Living From Your True Self Through Multidimensional Integrative Healing 🌐 Parnell Institute 📚 Learn more about Attachment-Focused EMDR and trauma healing 🌿 Continue Your Healing Journey Healing doesn't happen only in our minds—it happens through movement, connection, and caring for our whole selves. If you're looking for another way to reconnect with yourself, I invite you to explore New Ways Barre. Proudly serving the Kentlands, Gaithersburg, Maryland, and surrounding Montgomery County. 📅 Book a class: https://classpass.com/studios/new-ways-barre-gaithersburg 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sueways 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/New-Ways-Barre-61570706490968/ Join me on the path toward healing, hope, and moving forward—one breath, one step, and one day at a time.