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If you are struggling with constant doubt and anxiety about whether you are in the right relationship, you’re not alone, and you’re in the right place! In this podcast, we delve into the complexities of Relationship OCD (ROCD), a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts, chronic doubt, reassurance-seeking, rumination, and intense anxiety and avoidance that show up in our romantic relationships.
I'll help you explore and understand the deeper roots of your Relationship OCD (ROCD), and ultimately, how to heal it. We will discuss topics like fear of making the wrong choice, fear of making mistakes, lack of attraction, numbness, hyper-fixation on flaws, breakup urges, guilt, jealousy, and more!
We examine how ROCD overlaps with attachment styles, especially fearful-avoidant attachment, and how our childhood wounds are at the core of this issue.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, healthy vs unhealthy relationships, and what real healing from Relationship OCD looks like, beyond coping. Through IFS (Internal Family Systems), Attachment-based Healing, and what I call the Conscious Relationship Framework, this podcast offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing roadmap for healing your way to love, peace, and wholeness.
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Are you worried that your doubt, fear, avoidance, and anxiety are signs from your intuition that you have to leave this relationship? Are you worried that none of this is Relationship OCD and that you must just be lying to yourself, and trying to convince yourself that you do want this relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you, and I'm confident it will help you feel even just a little bit more at peace than you did before! Join my new Course &a...
If you are terrified of losing your partner and that all of your thoughts about leaving are true, then this episode is for you. I break down the root cause of Anxious Attachment and give you practical steps for healing this side of your insecure attachment style! Join my new Freedom from Relationship OCD Course & Community! https://www.rocdcourse-forloveweheal.com/sales-page-6756-8810-8850-8583 Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root? Book a Free Discover...
Wondering why it feels like your truth that you're not in the right relationship? Why you struggle with break-up urges, emotional avoidance, disgust, or "grass is greener" mentality? In part 3 of the comprehensive framework series, we talk about the Avoidant Attachment system, and we cover these topics in detail! Join my new Freedom from Relationship OCD Course & Community! https://www.rocdcourse-forloveweheal.com/sales-page-6756-8810-8850-8583 Want one-to-one support for healing Relation...
Part 2 of this series involves understanding the root cause of OCD Obsessions and Compulsions. OCD is an adaptive response to anticipating and avoiding mistakes that will lead to attachment disconnection (abandonment) and being shamed. OCD originates from attachment injuries resulting from a spectrum of parental emotional immaturity to narcissistic abuse. We talk about this in detail and offer a simple practice to be able to heal shame. Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (RO...
Dive into this 4-part series where we break down our comprehensive framework for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root. Learn how Internal Family Systems Therapy, The Conscious Relationship Framework, and Attachment Healing can literally rewrite the subconscious programming that drives your obsessions, compulsions, and leave you stuck between that exhausting Fearful-avoidant oscillation between stay and leave. Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root? ...
In this episode, I follow up with Karena from Episode 24, where a profound piece of IFS work allowed her to heal her wounds of failure, disappointment, and shame, leading to a sustained ending of doubt in her relationship. Karena is now happily engaged, but has felt the impact of things moving quite quickly, which led us into a new piece of healing in which we uncovered more parts asking for attention. If you haven't listened to part 1, you can find it here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701...
If you are struggling with an internal pushback against your decision to commit to your relationship, then this episode is for you. In this episode, Rory opens up about her struggles with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how, in the past, self-betrayal and people-pleasing put her into situations that were painful. We explore the internal rebellion she faces now due to this self-betrayal, and I help her find a way to heal her past, reclaim her option for choice, and step into her power. Need help h...
Right before Karena's engagement with her soon-to-be fiancé, we do this transformational session where we explore her fears and obsessions around commitment and potentially making a mistake. Karena's honest recount of her experience with Relationship Anxiety (ROCD) and a piece of deep inner work allow us to find that her fears were rooted in feelings of being a disappointment and a failure, a sentiment that has been with her since childhood. There's so much more to this episode, and I can't w...
Akiva joins me for a follow-up session after our first one, where we talked about her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment, & Relationship OCD, which you can find here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701/episodes/18065421 In this session, we continue her work with a vulnerable inner child (exile) in which we offer the ideal parent figure she had been longing for since childhood. Need one-to-one therapy or coaching? Book a Free Discovery Call - https:...
In this episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach Michelle Roehab on the impact that narcissistic parents have, particularly on highly sensitive and highly empathic children & adults, and how that shapes we way we navigate our relationships in the present. We speak about how it erodes our sense of self, contributes to guilt, shame, and self-blame, feeling responsible for other people's feelings and well-being, and makes us question healthy, secure leaning relationships. It also contribu...
In this episode, Grace and I candidly discuss our personal journeys with parentification, a hidden trauma and role reversal where children take on inappropriate adult responsibilities. We share how this experience shaped our roles as the family comedian and planner, and the emotional toll it takes, leading to things like people-pleasing, anxiety, depression, self-trust issues, and various other relationship issues. We delve into the importance of recognizing these patterns for healing, the ro...
In this session, Erin shares her journey of dealing with Relationship OCD (ROCD), attachment insecurities, and the challenges of seeking external validation in her relationships due to co-dependent patterns. She discusses her pattern of anxious attachment, the pursuit of unavailable partners, and the impact of these behaviors on her mental health. Through our session, Erin explores themes of self-trust, perfectionism, and her fear of making mistakes. Book a Free Discovery Call (Therapy/Coachi...
In this episode, I help Akiva unpack and do a piece of healing around her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment & Relationship OCD using the Internal Family Systems Therapy Model. Watch Akiva go from a shut down, dissociated state to being able to access her parts and do a piece of healing, leading her to feel a lot better at the end. Upcoming workshop "Bridging the Divide Within" https://www.rocdcourse-forloveweheal.com/sales-page-page Need one...
In this episode, Kleo shares her journey of navigating Relationship OCD (ROCD) and Disorganized Attachment. During our session, we worked on helping Kleo connect with her avoidant parts, something she had long resisted due to the intense overwhelm these parts often triggered. In the past, their activation would lead to spirals of anxiety, helplessness, and eventually depression. By gently reassuring these parts and creating a sense of safety, we were able to facilitate a profound moment of he...
In this episode, I help Andriy explore a chronic anxiety that he's been experiencing for most of his life, in addition to Relationship OCD and Disorganized Attachment. By focusing on this anxiety, Andriy was able to connect with a one and a half year old inner child that was abandoned by his mother due to her own mental health issues. Through Andriy bringing compassion and presence to this part of him, this inner child received the physical contact and loving embrace that he has been seeking ...
In this powerful episode, I sit down with Grace, who courageously shares her journey of living with and healing from Relationship OCD (ROCD). Grace captures the wild oscillation between fantasy, infatuation, and limerence and intense disgust, anxiety, and obsessive thinking, which has gotten considerably better with all the healing work she has been doing over the years. If you've ever experienced any of this or you’ve ever wondered, “Am I in the right relationship?" or "Do I really love my ...
In this session, Emily shares her struggles with ROCD that began in her early years. We explored themes of guilt, shame, and the fear of making mistakes, which are deeply rooted in her past experiences, including family dynamics and personal relationships. Through our conversation, we discussed how these feelings impact her current relationship and how shame is really at the root of her obsessions, compulsions, and the oscillation between "stay" and "leave." The session concluded with a hopef...
In this episode, Devin discusses his experiences with Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD), which often manifests as feelings of disgust or lack of attraction towards his partners. He describes how these feelings can be sudden and intense, leading to confusion and anxiety about the relationship. Devin shares that these emotions are not necessarily reflective of the partner or the relationship itself but are symptoms of ROCD, which can distort his perception, creating a lot of anx...
In this conversation, Molly shares her journey with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how it has impacted her relationships, particularly with her husband. She discusses the patterns of infatuation and fear of commitment, the role of attachment, and the challenges of vulnerability in her marriage. The conversation delves into childhood influences on her attachment style and the healing process she is undergoing, including the importance of self-compassion and embracing her authentic self. The sessi...
In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Christine shares her journey with Fearful Avoidant attachment. She discusses the complexities of emotional connection, the impact of trauma, and the role of intuition and spirituality in her healing process. The conversation delves into the cycles of numbness and disconnection that arise in relationships, the importance of self-discovery through therapy, and the challenges of being neurodivergent. Christine emphasizes the significance of acknow...
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