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Breakup coach Dorothy, outlines the steps to get over your ex without it "just taking time".
She has combined her background in psychology with her life coach certification tools to provide actionable insights so that you're not only learning the why but you're learning the HOW to getting over your ex.
Note: Dorothy utilizes the "he" pronoun when talking about her ex but this work can be applied to anyone. All genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply the tools.
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Have a breakup or bigger & better life question? Submit it here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/
She has combined her background in psychology with her life coach certification tools to provide actionable insights so that you're not only learning the why but you're learning the HOW to getting over your ex.
Note: Dorothy utilizes the "he" pronoun when talking about her ex but this work can be applied to anyone. All genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply the tools.
Loving the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast?
Grab your free masterclass "How to FAST FORWARD getting over your ex - without spending months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable" where you'll learn 3 mind blowing moments that will completely change your breakup journey and help you apply everything you're learning here on the podcast!
Your free masterclass: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexcoursepodcast/
Have a breakup or bigger & better life question? Submit it here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/
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Valentine's Week doesn't have to be something you do alone. Feb 9-13, I'm opening The Breakup Hotline. 5 days of live support and real-time coaching to help you create clarity and closure in your breakup so you can feel confident in a better future. Free to attend. The line opens Monday, February 9th. Register here and submit for coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/hotline/
Dorothy sits down with Kirstin Sarfde, expert binge eating coach and host of How to Stop Binge Eating, to talk about why breakups so often trigger binge eating and what actually helps when willpower, distraction, or "just stop" advice doesn't work. We break down how heartbreak dysregulates your nervous system, why food becomes the fastest coping mechanism in moments of emotional overwhelm, and the specific shifts that help you interrupt the binge–shame cycle without turning food into another thing you're fighting. This conversation is practical, grounded, and deeply compassionate, especially if you're scared something is "wrong" with you because you can't stop binge eating after your breakup. Kirstin shares tools you can start using immediately to feel more in control, less ashamed, and more supported as you heal. Find Kirstin Sarfde Here: Website: https://coachkir.com/ Podcast: https://coachkir.com/mypodcast/ Instagram: @stopbingeeatingcoach
If you're in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process. Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/
If you're spiraling about dating after your breakup, convinced there's no one out there for you, replaying every fight you had, and quietly wondering if the things your ex disliked about you mean you're asking for too much, this episode is for you. We're unpacking why the exact issue you used to argue about in your last relationship might not be a flaw at all, but a signal of misalignment, and why that same trait could become the foundation of real connection in your next relationship. You'll learn how incompatibility gets mistaken for unworthiness, why your brain keeps turning past arguments into evidence against your future, and how to stop shrinking yourself to feel chosen. This episode will help you see your desires clearly again. Not as liabilities, but as clues and restore hope that the right relationship won't require you to change who you are, only to be more of it. Check out our free breakup clinic (go beyond your breakup to build your bigger and better life): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
Starting a new year after a breakup can feel paralyzing when the idea of a "clean slate" brings pressure instead of hope. In this episode, I walk you through a simple, structured process to help you move forward without forcing clarity you don't have yet. Using the Breakup Life Wheel (or Bigger & Better Life Wheel), you'll learn how to assess where you actually are, identify what needs attention now, and turn that insight into three clear intentions with concrete actions you can take in real life. We'll also land on a single word for 2026 that anchors your decisions and gives you direction when motivation wavers. If you're standing at the beginning of the year unsure how to rebuild after a heartbreak, but ready to start anyway, this episode will give you a grounded place to begin. Have a question you want Dorothy to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/ MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Jules Acree: https://www.julesacree.com/
If you're staring down 2026 wondering what your life is actually going to look like and whether anything is really going to change, this episode is for you. Dorothy pulls back the curtain on what determines whether the next year becomes a repeat of the last or a genuine turning point, and makes a direct case for why who you work with matters more than willpower, timing, or trying harder on your own. If you're done hoping 2026 will be different and want a clear path for how to make it different, this episode will show you exactly where to start. The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/
This week, I coached women who went from devastated to empowered in days, not months. Women who thought they needed all the answers before taking action. Women who discovered that external validation was always internal all along. This episode is a compilation of the most powerful coaching insights from just ONE week inside the Get Over Your Ex program—proof that when you have the right method and support, transformation happens fast. If you've been wondering what's actually possible when you stop doing this alone, listen to this. The Get Over Your Ex - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If the thought of running into your ex with their new partner makes your stomach drop, or you find yourself mentally rehearsing what you'll say, how you'll look, or how you'll fall apart, this episode is for you. Worrying about that moment keeps your nervous system on edge and your brain stuck in threat mode, even when nothing has actually happened yet. In this episode, Dorothy teaches a breakup protocol designed specifically for these high-stress encounters, so your brain can stop spiraling and start feeling prepared. You'll learn how to move from panic and comparison into calm, grounded confidence. If you're tired of obsessing over a scenario that hasn't even happened (or maybe it did and went very poorly) and want a plan you can actually use in the moment, this episode will change how you walk into those situations forever. Get Over Your Ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/ Free training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
If you're closing out 2025 in the middle of a breakup, this episode is your reset button. When everything feels like it's ending, your relationship, your plans, the version of you that existed with your ex, it's easy to panic and drag old patterns, fears, and expectations into the new year. But 2025 is a "completion year," and instead of fighting the ending, this episode shows you how to use it. I'm walking you through three journal prompts that will help you identify what's truly finished, what you're willing to make space for in the unknown, and who you're becoming as you step into 2026. If you want 2026 to feel nothing like the year you're leaving behind, start with these three questions. They will change how you end this chapter and how you begin the next one. Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If it feels like your ex walked out with your entire life and took everything with them, this episode is the reality check your brain desperately needs. We're breaking down what your ex actually took (and the list is a lot shorter than you think) and exposing the invisible gains you can't see yet because heartbreak has you zoomed in on the loss. You'll learn why the space they left behind isn't a void, it's raw, open territory that's now available for your next chapter. And I'll walk you through two questions and one action step that will show you, in real time, why you didn't lose everything… you gained room to build something better. If you're stuck in the narrative that they "took your life," this episode will give you back the power you thought you lost. The Breakup Clinic (free live event Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If it feels like you "lost everything" when your ex left, this episode will change your life. Inside, Dorothy breaks down the difference between what you think was taken from you and what was never truly yours to begin with… and then shows you the invisible gains that heartbreak makes available the second someone walks out of your life. You'll learn the three concrete steps to make those gains visible THIS week, so you stop fixating on the life that ended and start building the one that just opened up. If you're done staring at the empty space they left behind and ready to see what's possible in front of you, you need this episode. The Breakup Clinic (free live event happening Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic
If your breakup feels overwhelming, impossible, or like you keep getting stuck in the same emotional loop, this episode will change the way you think about your "breakup problems." Most breakup suffering comes from low-quality breakup problems. The kind that feels justified and absorbing, but leads nowhere: Why isn't he texting me? Did he ever really love me? What if he moves on first? They feel important, but they keep you spinning, proving your pain instead of solving it. Dorothy shows you how to spot when you're caught in low-quality breakup problems, how to redefine them into high-quality breakup problems that actually move your life forward, and how to approach your breakup problem-solving with the same mindset you bring to challenges you want to solve. This episode will help you upgrade the questions you're asking so you can create solutions you're actually excited about. Reminder! The Breakup Clinic (free live event, Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
The Breakup Clinic is happening December 8-11. Four days to go from white-knuckling no contact to genuinely not wanting contact. Get your diagnosis, your prescription, and your treatment plan, plus live coaching from Dorothy. Free to attend. Register now: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic
If your breakup has your body in panic mode, constantly tense, anxious, or waiting for the next shoe to drop, this episode is your lifeline. Dorothy breaks down why your nervous system doesn't feel safe, and reveals the three pillars that create real, grounded safety: spiritual, physical, and mental. You'll learn what's actually happening when your system codes loss as danger, how to rewire that response, and the practical tools that help you move from survival mode to expansion. Whether you're fresh in heartbreak or building your bigger and better life, this episode will teach you how to feel safe enough to move forward, for real this time. The Breakup Clinic (free live event December 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
If you've been saying "I'm so overwhelmed" about your breakup, whether it's the grief, the urge to text them, or starting over… this episode is about to change everything. Dorothy exposes how that one word secretly convinces your brain you can't handle what's happening and gives you a simple, powerful switch that rewires your response in real time. You'll learn the one-word hack that turns panic into presence, helps you move instead of spiral, and proves that you're far more capable than your mind wants you to believe. If you've felt like you're drowning in the breakup waves, this is the episode that teaches you how to swim. The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you've been stuck replaying the thought, "I wasted so many years on my ex," this episode is going to blow your mind. Dorothy breaks down why those years weren't lost, they were the reason your life is about to move faster, clearer, and bigger than ever before. You'll learn how to spot the exact places your breakup actually added years to your life, financially, emotionally, physically, and even generationally. And how to stop handing your ex both your past and your future. If you're ready to turn what feels like lost time into the greatest comeback advantage of your life, hit play. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You've done the work. You've cried, journaled, coached yourself through the heartbreak and then one text, one trigger, one spiral later, it feels like all your progress vanished. In this episode, Dorothy shows you why that's not true. She breaks down the real reason those moments don't erase your healing, the biology behind why your brain still reacts that way, and the three simple steps to close the gap between who you were in that moment and who you're becoming. If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be further along than this," this episode will help you calm the shame, find your footing, and remember: all your healing still counts. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/
If you can't stop thinking about the life you were supposed to have with your ex, the love, the home, the family, this episode will shift everything. Dorothy shares a personal story about realizing she did get the life she once imagined… just in a version that was richer, deeper, and more aligned than she ever could've planned. Inside, she helps you understand why it feels like everything you wanted was stolen from you, and how to see the missing piece that's actually being built for you right now. If you've been scared you'll never get what you lost, this conversation will remind you why your story isn't over, it's just getting a better rewrite.
Feeling stuck on how to actually build your bigger and better life after heartbreak? This episode takes you behind the scenes of Dorothy's Bigger & Better Life Mastermind and shows you why simply "wanting more" isn't enough to move the needle. Dorothy walks you through the Life Wheel assessment to pinpoint where you're stuck, explains how the Attachment Cycle helps you release the grip on what's holding you back, and shares three mindset shifts that have helped her clients collapse timelines on everything from career pivots to finding love again. If you're ready to stop circling the same goals and finally start living the life you say you want, this episode will show you where to start. The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
If your divorce or breakup feels like the worst thing that's ever happened to you, this episode is for you. Dorothy walks you through why trying to squeeze your pain into cheerful reframes keeps you stuck, and demonstrates a clearer alternative: how to hold the real hurt without it defining you, rewrite the story in a way that's honest and authentically yours, and use one simple prompt to start making calm, powerful decisions from. Listen if you're done pretending your wounds look pretty and want a practical, compassionate way to move forward that keeps your integrity intact. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
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that was amazing 👏