Man, Listen - Mental Health Conversations for Black Men

The most important conversation you’ll ever have isn’t with your boss, your partner, or your boys. It’s with yourself. In this episode, Mark sits down with licensed mental health counselor Heather K to unpack the power of self-talk and why the way Black men speak to themselves is either building them up or quietly breaking them down. If nobody ever taught you to be kind to yourself — this episode is for you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’ve been told our whole lives that quitters never win. But what if staying is what’s actually costing you? In this episode, Mark gets real about knowing when to walk away — from the job, the relationship, the habit — and why choosing yourself is never quitting. It’s winning.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when your own community questions whether you’re Black enough, or strong enough? In this episode, Mark gets real about growing up a fair-skinned (light skinned) black male, the “harmless” jokes that aren’t harmless, and the mental toll of having your identity challenged from the inside. This one hits different.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever walk into work exhausted, frustrated, or overwhelmed—but still put on a smile and say, “I’m good”? There’s actually a name for that: surface acting. It’s the practice of forcing emotions you don’t really feel in order to meet expectations at work, (even home) and research shows it can quietly drain your mental health.In this episode of Man, Listen, we unpack the hidden toll of constantly performing happiness, professionalism, and emotional control—especially for men who feel pressure to always appear strong and composed. From burnout to emotional exhaustion, we explore how surface acting creates a cycle that can leave you disconnected from yourself.But there’s hope. We also talk about practical ways to break the cycle, protect your energy, and create moments where you don’t have to perform for anyone.Sometimes the most exhausting part of the job isn’t the work—it’s the mask.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's two simple words, that could make a difference. We say it all the time—but how often do we really mean it?In this episode of Man, Listen, I picked up the phone and called two friends I care about and said these 2 words. What followed was honest, raw, and real. This conversation explores how many men carry stress, pressure, and pain in silence—and how one intentional call can create space for truth, connection, and healing.This episode is a reminder that checking on the men in your life isn’t just polite—it’s necessary. Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is reach out and say these two words. Intrigued? We hope so! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this powerful episode of Man, Listen, we ask a hard question: Are you being kind… or are you afraid to say no?People pleasing often looks like loyalty, love, or “just being a good person.” But underneath it can be fear, insecurity, trauma, or the need for validation. From childhood conditioning to cultural expectations — especially for Black men taught to carry, fix, and endure — we unpack how constantly prioritizing others can quietly damage your mental health.Joined by mental health counselor Heather K, we break down where people pleasing begins, how it shows up in relationships and work, and why boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re necessary. Heather offers professional insight on the connection between people pleasing, anxiety, burnout, and low self-worth, and provides practical steps to start reclaiming your voice. Learning how to exercise your boundaries is not selfish. If you’ve ever said “yes” when you meant “no,” this conversation is for you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this follow‑up episode of Man, Listen, we return to the powerful conversation from our previous episode and go deeper — not just naming what’s broken in our communities, but exploring why it broke and how we begin to put the pieces back together.Continuing the discussion from last week’s episode, this installment focuses on practical insight and meaningful steps toward healing. We break down the underlying causes of trauma, especially for young Black boys and men, and talk through the emotional, social, and systemic barriers that too often go unnoticed. Together with our guest, we explore what it truly takes to understand the wounds that run deep — in families, in schools, in communities — and how we can support each other in healing.This episode isn’t just an explanation; it’s a path forward — a conversation about accountability, compassion, resources, and the real work of transformation. Whether you heard the first episode or you’re joining us now, this discussion offers clarity, context, and encouragement for anyone invested in change.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Man, Listen, we sit down with Albert, a dedicated professional from Missouri’s Department of Social Services, who works closely with children in the system—many of them young Black boys. Al brings raw insight into the complex layers of trauma these kids experience, from unstable home environments to the systemic challenges that impact their development and emotional well-being.We explore how early intervention, emotional support, and trauma-informed care can help change the trajectory of a young person's life. Al also shares what it’s like working on the front lines of child welfare and how important it is to see, hear, and understand the unique needs of Black youth.This episode sheds light on what’s happening behind the scenes and reminds us why supporting the mental health of our children—especially our boys—is more urgent than ever.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Grief doesn’t follow a schedule, and for some, the pain of loss never truly fades. In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and father Kareem Thompson, who opens up about losing his 18-year-old son in a tragic unintentional accident. We explore how grief can reshape a person’s mental, emotional, and spiritual world—especially for Black men who are often expected to “be strong” and carry the weight of pain in silence.Kareem’s story is one of heartbreak, healing, and hard-earned perspective. From growing up in poverty with a father battling addiction to becoming a published author and advocate, his journey reminds us that vulnerability is strength—and grief, when shared, can become a powerful connector.This episode offers real talk, raw emotion, and a safe space for those navigating life after loss.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this candid and thought-provoking episode of Man, Listen, host Mark McCray sits down with two dynamic Black women to unpack a timeless question: Do nice guys finish last? Together, they explore the complexities of masculinity, availability, attraction, and expectations in modern relationships.Are nice guys seen as weak, or are we just defining “nice” all wrong? What does confidence look like in a good man—and why do some women still chase the “bad boy” archetype?This episode dives deep into real experiences, cultural expectations, and the emotional toll this narrative takes on Black men. Whether you’re a “nice guy,” know one, or are just trying to understand dating and identity better, this one’s for you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this deeply personal episode of Man, Listen, host Mark McCray shares the emotional journey of surviving a brain tumor — from diagnosis to recovery — and how the physical battle sparked a mental health awakening.Mark opens up about confronting mortality, the emotional toll of being strong when you're feeling weak, and the psychological aftermath of navigating a serious illness. This episode isn’t just about survival and recovery — it’s about resilience, vulnerability, and the unseen mental scars that can follow a health crisis.If you’ve ever faced a health challenge, supported someone through one, or just want to understand how physical pain affects emotional wellness — this episode is for you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of Man, Listen, I sit down with licensed mental health counselor Heather to unpack what really happens in a therapy session. We share personal stories, real talk, and social truths — especially around why turning to friends and family for mental health advice might not always be the move.If you’ve ever been curious, cautious, or just confused about therapy… this one’s for you. Let’s break it down and take the fear out of healing.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we sit down with Al Harper, a father of two, for an honest and vulnerable conversation about fatherhood, identity, and emotional resilience. Al opens up about the moment he learned that one of his children was not biologically his—and the shock, pain, and confusion that followed. Together, we explore what it means to process betrayal while still showing up as a father, how Black men are often expected to carry pain in silence, and how love, responsibility, and commitment can exist beyond DNA.This episode dives into navigating co-parenting, being a stepfather, and redefining masculinity and fatherhood in the face of unexpected truths. It’s a conversation about grief, growth, and what it really means to be a dad—especially in the Black community.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever feel like you're waiting on the universe to tell you what to do next? This episode is that sign. In “If You’re Looking for a Sign… This Is It,” host Mark McCray invites listeners to pause, reflect, and take action—whether it's checking in with a friend, finally scheduling that therapy session, or just drinking some water and breathing deep.Backed by honest reflection, a powerful list of real-life calls to action, and the kind of grounded motivation we all need, this episode is your reminder that growth doesn’t require perfection—just intention. From fatherhood and forgiveness to physical health and emotional healing, this is an invitation to do one thing today that future-you will thank you for.If you’ve been stuck, doubting, or just going through the motions—this moment, this message, this podcast? It’s your sign.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode we talk about abuse masked as "tough love". It is important that we understand the difference and make sure when we are fathering, mentoring and coaching it comes from a good place. Being tough is fine, but it has to have elements of love in it, or its abuse. Generationally, this toxic abuse can be disguised as tough love and it is important that we know the difference. We discuss some of the obvious differences of tough love v/s abuse and share some personal stories that might be beneficial. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The holidays aren’t always happy for everyone and that's ok to talk about. In this episode, we sit down with Heather, a mental health counselor, to talk about navigating the season when you find yourself in a dark or difficult place. It’s more common than many realize to feel down this time of year due to family dynamics, lack of community, past trauma, grief, and more.We explore practical coping strategies, how to break free from ancestral and social pressures, and share relatable stories. We also discuss ways to handle challenging family situations, financial limitations, and feelings of loneliness during the holiday season.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode we discuss a thought that many of us have that keeps us down and slows down our progress. Mark McCray dives into this sensitive issue that we may not realize is robbing us of our joy. It's something small we all do, but the people who are truly happy have learned to stop doing this. Intrigued? Let's discuss. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we sit down with retired record executive Mike Kelly — a thoughtful, driven Black man who’s worn many hats: industry leader, father, mentor, and survivor.From being abandoned before reaching puberty, Mike opens up about the men who stepped in, the ones who showed him what strength and love could look like, and how he turned pain into power. Through storytelling and reflection, we explore his evolution — from broken beginnings to a legacy built on resilience, fatherhood, and career excellence.Mike’s journey reminds us that where you start doesn't define you — it's how you finish. This episode is rich with lived experience, wisdom, and the kind of truth that speaks directly to the hearts of Black men navigating life, healing, and responsibility.Let’s talk.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Positivity is a vital component for a healthy life. Mark McCray shares a life changing moment where he employed positive thinking to sway the outcome of his life and progression of his healing. Mark is a brain tumor survivor and he shares this dark time for him and how he used the power of positive thinking to overcome this rare challenge. Its a good conversation to share that may help anyone who struggles with negative thoughts. Maybe share with someone who can benefit from this conversation.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Licensed mental health counselor Heather K, talks with us about the problems that she sees with black men in therapy. The challenges and underrepresentation of men, black men in particular, using and working in therapy.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.