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Welcome! I’m Jaclyn Proper, a Jungian Depth Coach, Educator, Explorer, Underworld Doula, Artist & human doing my best on Earth. This channel is about what it means to be an explorer of shadow and self. We dive into shadow work, eroticism, spiritual psychology, kink, neurodivergence, sexuality, travel, and authentic living through the lens of my personal journey and Jungian psychology. If you’re an unconventional soul, queer, kinky, neurospicy, or simply shadow-curious, you’ll find lighthearted yet no-nonsense conversations here to help you embrace your edges, and uncover the truth of who you are.
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In this episode, we’re talking about death and grief in shadow work—the ego death / ego grief phase that happens when your old identity starts dissolving and your nervous system is like… “wait, who am I now?” I’m sharing this after a few months of being quiet because I’ve been in my own inner winter—the void, the fog, the liminal space between identities. If you’ve been feeling confused, low energy, unmotivated, or like your old life doesn’t fit anymore… you might not be “off track.” You migh...
If you’re afraid there’s something “dark,” “evil,” or fundamentally wrong inside you… this episode will change everything. In this deep dive on childhood trauma, the Golden Shadow, and IFS protectors, I’ll show you why those scary inner voices or impulses aren’t signs that something is wrong with you—they’re actually psychological protectors guarding your brightest, most authentic self. Here’s what we’re getting into: When people with developmental or childhood trauma start doing shadow wor...
This episode we are diving into the Collective Sexual Shadow — the unconscious web of repression, guilt, and control that shapes how we experience sexuality on a cultural level. We’re exploring how patriarchy, colonialism, and religious conditioning gave rise to the Madonna–Whore Complex, splitting the feminine into “holy” and “sinful” and leaving generations disconnected from their bodies and erotic truth. We’ll talk about how this split still plays out in our modern relationships, gender dy...
Do you ever sabotage what you actually want — love, success, attention, pleasure — because being seen feels terrifying? This episode dives into the fear of being seen, the shadow behind self-sabotage, and how it’s wired into your nervous system, sexuality, and self-expression. You’ll learn how fear of visibility connects to: ✦ Fear of success, failure, and rejection ✦ The throat chakra and difficulty speaking your truth ✦ Performative vs authentic sexuality ✦ Nervous system dysregulation and ...
Are you in the void — that confusing, restless space where the old you has dissolved but the new version hasn’t fully formed yet? 🌑✨ In this video, I share my personal experience with the liminal space of shadow work, also known in Jungian psychology and alchemy as the negredo — the stage of psychological death and rebirth. We’ll talk about what it feels like to be in the void, why it shows up during spiritual growth, and how to navigate it without forcing premature action. You’ll learn: What...
So… what actually happens when you commit to shadow work for real? In this episode, I reflect on the last 5 years of doing deep unconscious work — the kind that changes your entire life, nervous system, sexuality, body, intuition, relationships… all of it. This isn’t some fluffy “just journal and light a candle” version of healing. This is what it actually looks like to unravel your trauma, identity, addictions, and ego defenses and rebuild from the soul up. I talk about how becoming a domi...
In this episode, we explore the father archetype and father complex—and how your relationship to this energy impacts your confidence, ambition, leadership, and sense of inner authority. Whether you had an absent father, a tyrannical father, or a passive one, these early dynamics shape how you relate to power, responsibility, and success as an adult. We dive into the psychological and somatic roots of the father wound, what it means to build an inner father, and how shadow work can help you h...
Why does growing up feel like punishment? Why do creatives, rebels, and free spirits often sabotage stability or crave constant freedom? In this episode, we explore the eternal child archetype (also known as the puer/puella complex in Jungian psychology) and how it shows up in modern life, sexuality, and your relationship with power. Whether you're queer, kinky, neurodivergent, or just deeply allergic to conformity, this one's for you. 🔍 We’ll cover: The shadow side of freedom & magical t...
Ever feel terrified of being wrong, looking stupid, or not knowing enough? You’re not alone. This shadow is sneaky AF and can show up as perfectionism, overachievement, avoidance, shutdown, or even aggression—especially in sex, relationships, and creative expression. In this episode, I unpack: What the incompetence shadow really is and where it comes from (especially if you were a gifted kid, overparented, or had trauma) How this fear secretly runs the show in your adult life, career,...
Unlock the truth about your relationship with your mother—and how it’s still shaping your nervous system, attachment style, and romantic life. In this episode, we explore the Mother Archetype through a Jungian lens, including the wounded forms like the Devouring Mother and Possessive Mother, and how these patterns affect intimacy, emotional safety, and your inner world. I break down: How your nervous system is wired in utero by your mother’s regulation (or dysregulation) Why epigenetic trau...
In this raw and revealing episode, I sit down with Bella Kitsune — a professional dominatrix, somatic therapist, conscious kink practitioner, and neurodivergent healer — to unpack the deep intersections of sex work, trauma healing, archetypes, somatics, and BDSM. 💋 Topics we explore: The healing potential of the mommy dom and soft dom archetypes ADHD, autism, and dopamine-driven sexuality How trauma shapes desire and kink Sexual shame, body disconnect, and the somatic path back to ple...
Let’s talk about the part of your psyche that freaks out right before everything changes. In this episode, I’m breaking down ego resistance—what it is, why it shows up during shadow work (especially sexual shadow work), and how to tell the difference between genuine unreadiness vs your ego just being loud AF. I share client stories (including one who almost missed his alignment session and went on to have life-changing results), personal examples from my own shadow work journey, and a real l...
If you want to see the accompanying slides (not necessary but may be helpful) [you can watch the Youtube version here] Welcome to this free shadow work workshop on sexuality, embodiment, and the unconscious mind. This is a deep-dive into sexual shadow work from a Jungian lens—so grab a notebook and get cozy. We’re going way beyond the sacral chakra and into the 8 layers of sexual shadow that influence your desires, identity, confidence, shame, and relationships. Whether you’re kinky, q...
Dark, taboo, and even violent sexual fantasies are way more common than people admit—and no, they don’t make you a monster. In this episode, I dive into the psychological, symbolic, and energetic reasons behind these fantasies and how they relate to your personal shadow, trauma, and even your spiritual path. As a sexual shadow work coach (and former pro dominatrix), I’ve seen it all. Whether your fantasies scare you, confuse you, or just feel like your only way to get off—this video will hel...
Today we’re diving deep into how exploring your sexuality can unlock your full potential — especially if you’re kinky, queer, neurodivergent, or just done pretending to be someone you're not. So, what is the shadow? In Jungian psychology, the shadow contains all the repressed, denied, or taboo aspects of who we are — often shaped by trauma, conditioning, and fear of rejection. And surprise, surprise: our sexual desires, fantasies, and kinks are some of the most potent shadow content we carry....
In this candid and unfiltered episode, we’re diving into the consequences of avoiding sexual shadow work—what happens when we bury our shame, desires, and trauma instead of facing them head-on. I use the example of my own manipulation shadow and talk about the costs of ignoring shadow work. You might find this episode useful if: You attract manipulative or unavailable partners You struggle to express your desires authentically You carry shame around your kinks, fantasies, or sexual identity...
Many people wonder whether their kinks or sexual desires are problematic or rooted in trauma. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the difference between healthy kink expression and compulsive or shame-driven desires. As a Jungian depth coach & former dominatrix, I’ll help you understand how sexual shadow work can transform your relationship with your desires—so you can step into full confidence, sovereignty, and pleasure. 🔥 In this video, we’ll cover: ✔️ Why being kinky is completely...
Is your childhood trauma secretly shaping your sex life and attraction patterns? Today, we’re diving into sexual shadow work—a powerful Jungian psychology tool to uncover how early life experiences impact intimacy, pleasure, and relationships. In this episode, we’ll cover: 🔥 How childhood trauma creates unconscious sexual patterns 🔥 Why you're drawn to emotionally unavailable or toxic partners 🔥 The link between trauma, kinks, and compulsive behaviors 🔥 How sexual shadow work helps you recla...
In this episode, I sit down with Electra Rayne, a seasoned sex worker, adult content creator, and founder of QueerCrush.com, a site dedicated to authentic queer representation. Electra shares her journey into the industry, from her early experiences in stripping and adult film to working at a legal brothel in Nevada. We discuss what it’s really like to work in a brothel, how legal sex work differs from independent work, and the misconceptions people have about the industry. Electra explains h...
How is political stress affecting your relationships, mental health, and overall well-being? In this episode, Jungian coach Chuck Gafvert joins me to dive deep into political polarization, projection, tribalism, and the hidden psychological triggers behind political stress. 📍 How does political identity become an unconscious projection of deeper wounds? 📍 What does Trump—or any political figure—reveal about our collective and personal shadows? 📍 How can shadow work help you find peace no mat...
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