Co-Parenting with Confidence

In this encore episode, I'm diving into the real differences between positive thinking and toxic positivity, and why learning to embrace the full spectrum of emotions is essential for co-parenting with clarity, compassion, and confidence. So many of us have been told to "look on the bright side," "stay positive," or "just get over it," especially after divorce. But none of that helps us heal. In fact, it often makes the hard moments feel even heavier. I share how I approach positive alignment in my own life and with my clients—rooted not in denial or forced optimism, but in deep self-compassion, emotional awareness, and acceptance of the as-is. I talk about why negative emotions matter, how resisting them creates more suffering, and how allowing them actually restores our strength. You'll hear my personal reflections on grief, resilience, and the 50/50 nature of life, as well as three powerful tools to help you build a positive mindset without bypassing your real experiences. Takeaways: Why "just think positive" can actually create harm How accepting the as-is builds true confidence Why allowing negative feelings increases emotional strength Three tools to cultivate grounded, healthy positivity If this episode resonates, I'd love to hear from you. Reach out anytime and let me know what landed for you. You're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken—reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ You can always email me at hello@mikkigardner.com. © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Five years ago, I started meditating simply to quiet my mind. What I didn't realize was that I was building something much deeper — a daily conversation with the divine, a foundation of self-trust, and a regulated nervous system grounded in the present moment. In this episode, I share what five years of consistent practice have taught me: how stillness strengthens us to meet life as it comes, how repetition heals our systems from the inside out, and how the simple act of showing up — every single day — transforms who we are. The biggest lesson? Whatever we focus on is what we practice… and what we practice, we get better at. Meditation has become the training ground for how I now live — more grounded, more flexible, and more connected to myself and the world around me. Tune in and explore what your own stillness might be teaching you. If this resonates… You're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken—reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ You can always email me at hello@mikkigardner.com. © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

In this episode, Mikki Gardner explores what it really means to change from the inside out. So often, we think transformation happens when something outside of us shifts — a partner, a job, a child's behavior — but lasting change always begins with self-regulation. Mikki breaks down the connection between our mind, body, and emotions, showing how awareness becomes the bridge to choice. You'll learn how to strengthen your self-regulation "muscle," recognize when you're operating from reactivity, and return to calm so you can lead yourself — and your relationships — with more clarity, confidence, and compassion. She also reminds us that this journey isn't meant to be walked alone. Community, mentorship, and consistent practice are what sustain growth and emotional intelligence over time. If you're navigating relationship conflict, parenting stress, or personal transition, this episode is your invitation to slow down, wake up, and start creating change from the inside out. Key Takeaways: True change begins with awareness — not reaction. Self-regulation gives you access to choice, clarity, and compassion. Your thoughts and emotions are your responsibility. Growth happens through consistent practice and supportive community. Regulation isn't perfection — it's returning to center, again and again. It's time to stop reacting and start creating lasting change from within. If this resonates… You're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken—reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ You can always email me at hello@mikkigardner.com. © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

After a season of change and messy transitions, Mikki returns to the mic with a powerful new direction for the podcast. In this solo episode, she opens up about navigating her own life shifts and why thinking our way out of relationship struggles doesn't work. Mikki explores the three key paths we face when relationships feel stuck — repair, release, and re-imagine — and why true clarity comes from nervous system regulation, self-trust, and inner stillness. Whether you're questioning a marriage, navigating co-parenting dynamics, or simply ready to stop looping through the same patterns, this conversation will help you expand your perspective, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and take grounded steps forward. It's time to stop overanalyzing and start listening to the truth within. In this episode, Mikki shares: Life transitions are rarely neat or linear. Even when change is intentional, it can feel messy, emotional, and uncertain — and that's normal. True clarity begins with nervous system regulation. Stillness allows you to hear your own inner wisdom and make grounded decisions from within. There are three main pathways forward in stuck relationships: Repair — Rebuilding trust, boundaries, and emotional safety. Release — Grieving and letting go to create space for something new. Re-imagine — Evolving the relationship to match who you are today. Rigid "either/or" thinking keeps us stuck. Expanding your perspective opens new options you may not have seen before. Self-trust is a muscle. Hearing your inner nudges is one step — building the willingness and capacity to follow them is the real work. Our children should never carry adult emotional baggage. How we choose to navigate relationships directly impacts the legacy we leave for them. You always have a choice. Even if others aren't choosing well, you can decide how you want to show up — with clarity, integrity, and leadership. Bible verse from Psalm 46:10 (KJV): "Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth." If this resonates… You're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken—reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ You can always email me at hello@mikkigardner.com. © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Conflict after divorce is one of the hardest challenges to navigate—especially when you're co-parenting with a difficult ex. I know firsthand how overwhelming it can feel to avoid conflict on the outside, only to create even more of it inside yourself. That's why in this episode of Co-Parenting with Confidence, I'm breaking down what conflict really is, the hidden patterns that keep us stuck, and the third option we often miss when we feel trapped between speaking up or staying silent. I share insights from Jason Gattis' book Getting to Zero along with my own journey of learning to self-regulate, set boundaries, and choose authentic responses instead of falling into people-pleasing or avoidance. By understanding your "relational blueprint" and recognizing your coping style, you can begin to transform conflict into an opportunity for growth—for yourself, and for your kids. Takeaways: Why conflict is normal—and not something to fear. Four common coping styles and how they show up. The "third choice" that stops self-betrayal. Practical ways to decide which conflicts are worth engaging in. If you're ready to stop feeling powerless and start showing up with confidence, reach out—I'd love to support you. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Today we continue our look back at some of the most popular episodes of Co-Parenting with Confidence. In this encore episode, I share one of my favorite truths: your feelings don't come from your ex, your circumstances, or the outside world—they come from your thoughts. When I discovered this, it completely shifted how I showed up as a mom and co-parent. Understanding that I'm not at the mercy of anyone else has been both liberating and empowering, and I want the same freedom for you. I'll walk you through how our thoughts create our feelings, how those feelings drive our actions, and how awareness is the key to taking back control. You'll also learn a simple but powerful tool—four questions from Byron Katie—that can help you reframe the painful thoughts that keep you stuck. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, frustrated, or hopeless in your co-parenting journey, this episode will give you the mindset shifts you need to reclaim your peace and confidence. Takeaways: Your feelings come from your thoughts, not external circumstances. You always have the power to choose how you think and feel. Awareness creates freedom and choice. A simple 4-question tool can help shift painful thought patterns. If you're ready to stop feeling powerless and start showing up with confidence, reach out—I'd love to support you. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

In this encore of episode #2, Mikki explores the emotional challenges faced by co-parents and emphasizes the importance of understanding the origins of our feelings. She discusses how our thoughts shape our emotions and actions, empowering listeners to take control of their emotional responses. Mikki introduces tools such as Byron Katie's four questions to help individuals reframe their thoughts and create positive change in their co-parenting relationships. What You'll Learn: Understanding that feelings stem from our thoughts, not external circumstances. We have the power to change our thoughts and, consequently, our feelings. Being aware of our thought patterns is crucial for emotional well-being. We cannot change others, but we can change our reactions to them. The importance of questioning our thoughts to gain clarity and control. Byron Katie's four questions can help reframe painful thoughts. Living on autopilot leads to feeling like a victim of circumstances. Choosing intentional thoughts can lead to positive actions and outcomes. Self-awareness is the first step towards empowerment in co-parenting. Old thinking patterns will not yield new results; change is necessary for growth. If this resonates ... you're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken — reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Today we start our look back at some of the most popular episodes of Co-Parenting with Confidence. In this encore of episode #1, Mikki introduces her journey as a life coach and co-parent, sharing her personal experiences and insights on navigating the challenges of divorce and co-parenting. She emphasizes the importance of mindset, self-awareness, and emotional regulation in becoming a confident co-parent. The episode outlines key pillars of co-parenting, including the power of belief, recognizing choices, and being present with the co-parent in front of you. What You'll Learn: Co-parenting requires confidence and intentionality. Divorced families can be whole and complete. Our beliefs shape our feelings and actions. We have the power to choose how we respond. Good co-parenting involves seeing the current reality, not past expectations. Self-regulation is key to effective parenting. We can be a stable influence for our children. Creating space allows for better decision-making. Emotional awareness is crucial in co-parenting. This podcast aims to provide actionable tools for co-parents. If this resonates ... you're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken — reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Just a quick message to let you know that I'm taking a short summer break. My son and I are embarking on a new journey and I need to step back from the podcast temporarily. BUT over the next few weeks, we'll be releasing encores of my most popular episodes. Be sure to tune in for episodes you may have missed OR for a refresher on the challenges of co-parenting. Email me: hello@mikkigardner.com DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikkigardner/ Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

If stress has left you overwhelmed, disconnected, and unsure of your next step — this episode is for you. We unpack why so many women feel stuck in survival mode and how real, lasting change doesn't come from controlling others or chasing the next quick fix — it comes from coming home to yourself. You'll learn how your nervous system holds the key to building true inner capacity, helping you rewire your reality, and how breath, stillness, and emotional processing are potent tools for reclaiming peace and power. This is an invitation to stop outsourcing your energy, anchor into your knowing, and finally make space for what you deeply want. In this episode: What stress really is (and why it's not your fault) How to stop wasting energy trying to change other people Why nervous system regulation is the foundation for clarity and confidence How breath and presence help dissolve anxiety and open access to your inner wisdom The power of curiosity and allowing space for your emotions If this resonates ... you're not alone. And you don't have to figure it out on your own. If you're ready to build a foundation that can't be shaken — reach out. Let's talk. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

This episode is for the woman who is doing it all — the one who looks like she's thriving on the outside but feels like she's drowning on the inside. You tell yourself you don't have time for therapy, coaching, movement, or rest. You've become so used to tending to everyone else's needs that you've forgotten what it feels like to choose yourself. But here's the truth: life won't slow down until you do.  In this episode, we look at the turning point — the decision to stop arguing for your limitations and start reparenting yourself with the love, boundaries, and truth you've always needed. This is the moment you stop waiting and start choosing something better. If you are sick of your own excuses and want someone to walk you through another option, let's talk. Grab a spot on my calendar so we can discuss what is happening for you and create a roadmap to liberation. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

After divorce, we're often so focused on survival — holding everything together for our kids, managing co-parenting, and keeping up appearances — that we forget we're allowed to change. In this episode, I share a personal story about the worst haircut of my life — how it became a symbol of my lowest point, and why I avoided cutting my hair for 10 years. What started as a simple act of self-care became a wound I carried far longer than I realized. Until now. This is a conversation about shedding outdated identities, releasing the fear of becoming someone new, and learning to choose yourself again. Whether you're newly divorced or years into this journey, this episode will remind you: healing gives you permission to evolve. I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use this link to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Infidelity can leave deep wounds — but it doesn't have to define your future or your parenting. In this episode, we explore what it really takes to move forward after betrayal, not just for yourself, but for the well-being of your children. We'll talk about why slowing down is the first courageous step — giving yourself space to feel, process, and begin the inner healing work. You'll learn your greatest tool for reclaiming peace, breaking reactive patterns, and building a more grounded co-parenting dynamic. Because healing isn't about pretending the past didn't happen; it's about making sure the past doesn't dictate your future.  I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use this link to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

In this episode, we explore how tuning into your inner wisdom and core values can be your greatest guide in parenting and co-parenting — especially during times of conflict or stress. When emotions run high, it's easy to react rather than respond. But by reconnecting with your deeper sense of self and what truly matters, you can parent from a place of clarity, confidence, and calm. We'll discuss practical ways to cultivate self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and make decisions that align with your values, even in challenging situations. Whether you're co-parenting after divorce or navigating everyday parenting struggles, this episode will help you stay grounded and lead with intention. Key takeaways to help you stay grounded and intentional: Your Inner Wisdom is Your Greatest Guide – The answers are already within you. Pause and ask, What kind of parent do I want to be in this moment? Regulation Before Reaction – A dysregulated nervous system leads to reactive parenting. Breathe, ground yourself, and respond from clarity instead of stress. Values Over Ego – Parenting challenges can trigger fear or the need to "win." Shift your focus to love, patience, and wisdom rather than control. Detach from Drama, Focus on What You Can Control – You can't change your co-parent's behavior, but you can control your own energy and responses. Emotional Independence is Key – Your child thrives when you model emotional stability. Their well-being is shaped by your regulation, not external circumstances. Decision-Making from Integrity – When making parenting choices, ask: * Does this align with my core values? * Will this serve my child's emotional well-being in the long run? Repair Over Perfection – You won't always get it right, and that's okay. Model repair by taking responsibility, apologizing if needed, and reconnecting with love. Parenting is not about getting it perfect — it's about showing up with intention, emotional steadiness, and trust in yourself. Which of these resonates with you the most? I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use this link to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

No matter what has happened in the past, you have the power to create a healthier, happier future for yourself and your kids. In this short but powerful pep talk, I'll remind you that your past does not define you — your choices today do. We'll talk about how your energy shapes your child's future, why self-compassion is the first step to healing, and how small shifts can create a big impact. If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or doubting yourself as a parent, this episode is for you. Take a deep breath — you've got this. If this episode resonated with you, share it with another parent who needs a reminder of their strength. I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use this link to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Divorce is stressful, but staying stuck in the same reactive patterns makes co-parenting even harder. In this episode, we explore how nervous system regulation and breathwork can help you break free from cycles of frustration, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm. Learn practical techniques to shift out of survival mode, improve communication, and create a calmer, more connected co-parenting experience. Whether you're feeling triggered by your ex, overwhelmed by single parenting, or just exhausted from the emotional rollercoaster, this episode will give you the tools to reset, rewire, and reconnect — with yourself and your children. Tune in for real talk, practical steps, and a reminder that your future is wide open. I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use this link to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Divorce can feel like an emotional roller coaster — grief, anger, relief, and fear all rolled into one. When you're newly separated and carrying the weight of trauma, how do you keep moving forward? And how do you leave space for things to get better, including your perspective on your co-parent? In this episode, we explore the messy, unpredictable journey of healing after divorce. We'll talk about managing emotional ups and downs, finding stability in small daily actions, and shifting your mindset to allow for a better future — even if you can't see it yet. Whether you're struggling with resentment, overwhelmed by co-parenting, or simply trying to take it one day at a time, this conversation will remind you: You won't feel like this forever. Healing is possible, and a new chapter is waiting for you. Tune in for real talk, practical steps, and a reminder that your future is wide open. I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use the link below to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Feeling stuck in the same old arguments — whether they're happening in real life or just playing on repeat in your head? You're not alone. In this episode, we're tackling the negative thought patterns that keep co-parents trapped in the past, stuck on blame, and spinning in conflict. We'll break down why these mental loops happen, how they affect your co-parenting dynamic (and your kids), and most importantly, how to stop them. You'll learn practical strategies to shift your mindset, stay present, and move forward with more peace and clarity. Whether it's reframing your perspective, using quick mindfulness tools, or setting mental boundaries, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help you show up as the best version of yourself — for you and your kids. Ready to break free? Tune in and take the first step toward emotional independence and healthier co-parenting! I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use the link below to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

In this episode, we discuss the sobering and powerful connection between your mental health and your child's well-being. Parenting is challenging, and co-parenting adds unique dynamics that can impact your emotional state — and your kids' too. But here's the good news: taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to support your children. Join us as we explore: How stress, anxiety, or burnout in parents can affect kids emotionally and behaviorally. Practical tips for managing your mental health while navigating the complexities of co-parenting. The science behind emotional modeling and how it shapes your child's resilience. Ways to foster a nurturing environment across two households. Whether you're co-parenting amicably or facing challenges, this episode provides actionable insights and expert advice to help you and your children thrive together. Because when you care for yourself, you give your kids the greatest gift: a healthy, happy parent. I am always here to help you get clarity on the next step in your life, whether that is making a big relationship change, shifting your parenting, or determining what support you need. Use the link below to book a Breakthrough Call with me to create your roadmap to your next steps. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call If you are a woman living in the Metro Detroit area and want to step into a community of other like-hearted women in 2025, please check out our Intentional Living Collective here: https://www.mikkigardner.com/IntentionalCollective For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

As the new year begins, it's the perfect time to take a step back and reflect on your journey over the last year. In this episode, you will explore a comprehensive year-end process designed to help you audit your life and co-parenting dynamic. I offer practical strategies for assessing what worked, what didn't, and how to realign your priorities for the year ahead. Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or simply looking to create a more balanced and fulfilling life, this episode will provide actionable insights to help you start the new year with clarity and purpose. Tune in and discover how to move forward with intention and harmony in both your personal life and co-parenting journey. If this process feels overwhelming, no worries - I'm here to help you. I offer a personal audit experience where you'll work directly with me in the Life Audit process. You'll have me as your own coach via Voxer for two weeks as I help you implement the changes. This unique coaching experience will help you intentionally choose how you show up in your life and relationships and will help you experience the genuine sense of calm, clarity, and ease that comes with it. Grab your audit today at this link https://www.mikkigardner.com/offers/dC8iRBKy/checkout and use the promo code 2025 and receive a $100 discount during January and February 2025. For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching