Love Thy Neighbor Show

Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "The Dinner Divorce" (LTN48) Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: intro debate. The hosts argue over whether they need to introduce themselves at the top of every show. Tom calls it pointless since listeners already know who they are. They float making a new intro with names in it for year two, to mark the show's anniversary. What's a food divorce? Colette talks about her recent news appearance on "food divorce," which is when couples eat separately and each person handles their own meals. She puts it alongside other trends like sleep divorce. Dan asks why those couples even live together. The Dennis family dinner. Dan says he and Andrea sit down to dinner together every night, while Maisie often eats at dance. He calls the ritual almost as important as sex because it's when Andrea opens up, including her project manager work gossip. He also covers meal kits like Home Chef and Blue Apron and his weekly meal prep for Maisie. Colette on connection rituals. Colette explains that shared meals are one of the few unstructured connection rituals couples have left. People who grew up eating as a family tend to keep doing it. She shares how she ate alone in her room as a teenager after her parents divorced, making prank conference calls. Tom at the head of the table. Tom's family eats together too, and he likes sitting at the head of the table. He jokes that nobody should introduce themselves there either. He complains that his kids share nothing, eat slowly, and ignore his celebrity stories (he recently talked to the actor who played Puddy on Seinfeld). Colette suggests word games to liven things up, and Tom says his car-ride games haven't gone well. Dan's date nights. Dan says he's recently enjoyed date nights at a local tavern known for crispy pizza, where he mostly just listens to Andrea talk. Quiet Kobe. Tom's wife took their youngest son Max to Hamilton at Dr. Phillips, so Tom took his oldest son Tommy to Kobe Japanese Steakhouse. The two barely talked all night, then Tommy turned on the TV as soon as they got home. Lots of jokes about the oil, the "double white" rice, and the aftermath. Tom also recalls quiet car rides with the men in his family, including a story that started with "one time I killed a man." Companionable silence. Colette reframes the Kobe night: small talk isn't necessarily more connecting than silence, and parents shouldn't feel guilty about quiet moments. Dan and Andrea both thought the outing was great. Dan mentions upcoming one-on-one time with Maisie while Andrea travels for work. In defense of food divorce. Colette says her household basically has a food divorce because of schedules. She wants quiet after a day of doing therapy, and she and her husband still share meals a few times a week. She also points to GLP-1 use and the mental load of meal planning, often carried by women. Her takeaway: do what works, but make time to be present. "What's for dinner?" prank. A host describes his favorite prank: asking his wife what's for dinner at her most stressed moment. It works every time. Email: friend in a scam. "Baltimore Beef Stew" writes about a friend putting $50,000 into an MLM-style unclaimed property scheme despite being warned. Colette says he's already said his piece. Adults have to make their own choices, and he can set limits on what he'll do if it goes badly. Florida Treasure Hunt. The hosts explain that Florida's unclaimed property site, fltreasurehunt.gov, is a real government website even though the name sounds like a scam. They guess the scheme is built around middlemen charging people for money they could claim themselves. When it's your money too. Colette says it's different when a bad decision will land on you financially, like an elderly parent you'd have to support. She shares that she once voiced doubts when her late mother gave money to a questionable religious organization, then let it go. Ask before advising. Tom admits he's a blunt truth teller with the people he loves. His example is laughing off the Grizz's AI-assisted spy novel, and his wife says he comes off like a jerk. Colette's fix is to ask whether someone wants your opinion first. She notes that offhand comments can stick with people for years, and that it's okay to say you're not ready to hear someone's take. Tom's coward approach. Tom says he nods, checks his watch, and then says "that's not going to work" after the person leaves. Also a riff on a past helicopter pilot dream. You don't have a crystal ball. A host says he often stays quiet and then watches things play out just as he predicted. Colette counters that she has seen couples she privately doubted turn things around. She says it's unethical for therapists to tell clients whether to end a relationship, and references Dolly Parton hearing her plans wouldn't work. Joke about the Nigerian prince actually showing up. Email: wife in a hard season. A longtime listener says his 47-year-old wife is moody and down on herself, their kids are about to leave home, one child is struggling, and she has open heart surgery coming up. His compliments aren't landing. Colette says it could be any mix of perimenopause, health stress, empty nest, or feelings about the marriage. She recommends a conversation, possibly a few therapy sessions, and simply being present instead of trying to fix it. Name your own experience. Tom riffs on everything a husband should never say. Colette advises using "I" statements, like saying you feel helpless and worried, instead of telling the other person what's wrong with them. Empathy between genders. Tom says he's glad he never has to go through "the change." Colette lists what women deal with, and Tom agrees men have it pretty easy. Colette warns against letting online anger, tied to a recent news story, turn into hating all men. Perimenopause 101. Colette explains that perimenopause can start in the 30s (a chat room listener said hers began at 39) and that 51 is the average age of menopause. Technically, menopause is a single day, one year after the last period. She shares that she's had few symptoms, and that a past uterine ablation makes it hard to tell where she is. Next week teaser and close. Colette teases a story about a possible perimenopausal outburst that "traumatized" her husband. Chat room member Ryan coined "Quiet Kobe," and Colette jokes her book's paperback will be called The Cost of Kobe. Plugs and sign-off. Key Dates / Plugs Mentioned Recently: Colette appeared on the news talking about food divorce. Recently: Tom's wife and Max saw Hamilton at Dr. Phillips Center through her season subscription. Year two: The show is celebrating its anniversary, which prompted the new intro idea. Upcoming: Andrea's work trip to Austin, Texas, which means one-on-one time for Dan and Maisie. Upcoming holiday (Presidents' Day, per Dan): Dan has a day off to plan an outing with Maisie. Next week: Colette's perimenopause outburst story. Ongoing: Insights from the Couch, the hosts' other podcast. Ongoing: Send emails to [email protected]. Ongoing: fltreasurehunt.gov, Florida's official unclaimed property search. Notable Guests/Callers Baltimore Beef Stew: Listener email (made-up name) about a friend caught in an unclaimed property MLM scheme. Anonymous longtime listener: Email from a husband whose 47-year-old wife is going through a difficult stretch. Ryan (chat room): Coined "Quiet Kobe" / "The Cost of Kobe." Chat room listener: Said her perimenopause started at 39. The Grizz (mentioned, not on air): Friend whose spy novel Tom dismissed.

Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "Let's Talk About It Now" (LTN 47) Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: rough restart. The hosts explain that last week's show was skipped because Colette had food poisoning. The opening goes sideways fast, and the hosts joke about starting over. Colette says she's fully recovered. Puking vs. bed-wetting. One host brags that he hasn't thrown up in eight years. That leads to ribbing about his past habit of wetting the bed after heavy drinking, which he says happened on multiple mattresses and family camping trips. TikTok vocabulary breakup trend. Colette brings up a viral trend where women quiz their boyfriends on hard words like "pamplemousse" and break up with them if they get it wrong. She calls it performative and mean-spirited, and points out there are many forms of intelligence. The hosts agree it feels like part of an anti-men strain online, while noting that women face real disadvantages. Is the man always dumber? The group talks about the classic TV trope of the dumb husband (Flintstones, Honeymooners, Simpsons). Dan jokes that he's smarter than Andrea, just less organized. The hosts credit their wives' smarts, and Colette notes that her husband Steve is stronger than her in some areas and she is in others. Dan says Tom is good at business math and at knowing what things are worth. Intelligence, success and ego. Tom and Dan say they don't understand men who feel threatened when a partner is smarter or earns more, and they joke about wanting to be "kept little dudes." Colette mentions that Steve was a proud supporter at her book launch. The group talks about how men still face more stigma for earning less, and how women are still judged harshly on looks. Giada and Dancing with the Stars. Colette tells how she and Steve were watching the new season of Dancing with the Stars. Steve said out loud that he'd always found Giada De Laurentiis attractive, then looked up her age and was surprised to find she's three years older than Colette. The hosts react to the blunder. Colette talks about double standards on aging, and about the late-night text she sent Steve afterward that got no reply. The group jokes that husbands can't win and that "everything's a trap." Feeling desired in a relationship. Colette explains why the comment didn't wound her for long: she feels secure that her husband is attracted to her. She says that in her practice, "my partner isn't attracted to me anymore" is a common complaint, and that it can feed everyday conflict. Validating feelings vs. arguing facts. A host admits he tends to dismiss his wife's feelings by stating "the facts" (that he's into her), which doesn't solve anything. After some crude joking, Colette advises validating the feeling first, then asking how you can show it better. Catcalling your own wife. A host shares a new habit: over-the-top catcalls and "damn girl" comments when his wife walks by or is stretching. His wife seems to like it. Colette says spontaneous compliments work as long as there are no strings attached. Tom and compliments. The group teases Tom for rarely giving or accepting compliments. He says compliments make him suspicious of being sold something. They compare this to someone who says "I love you" many times a day. Dan and Colette's friendship. Dan tells Colette how much their friendship means to him after 31 years in a business where close friends are rare, and mentions a heartfelt message he sent her. Colette says it brought her to tears. The group jokes about Tom's much less sentimental responses and a pretend "timeout" for husbands who say the wrong thing. Monday Night Football fight. Dan describes a long bedtime routine before a Rams Monday Night Football game, interrupted when his wife brought up a large, unexplained credit card charge. He shut down and gave her the silent treatment. It turned out to be a legitimate YouTube TV/NFL package purchase on the right card. He calls it a "clash of anxieties": her financial anxiety against his fear of letting her down. Naming the shutdown. Colette suggests naming the urge to shut down out loud and asking to revisit the topic later, or agreeing to push through if it can't wait. She shares a similar moment with Steve, who talked about prices at an expensive sushi dinner. The group agrees that asking "is this a good time?" helps both sides. Late-night bombshells. Tom says Crystal often hits him with stressful news right before sleep, like money running out by November, but he just lets it go and deals with it in the morning. Running out of things to talk about. Tom notes that long-term couples fall back on a few topics (chores, bills, future vacations) and suggests shared hobbies like scuba diving. Colette talks about the dopamine of anticipation. Dan says Maisie's dance schedule means a lot of trip planning that never happens. Colette describes her love of "what if" dreaming and how her more literal husband has learned to play along. Wrap-up: relationships are work. Colette sums up: anxieties clash, timing matters, partners won't always be on the same page but are still on the same team, and how you react often matters more than the issue itself. The show closes with plugs. Key Dates / Plugs Mentioned Last week: Show skipped due to Colette's food poisoning. Current season: New season of Dancing with the Stars, featuring Giada De Laurentiis. Monday night: Rams Monday Night Football game at the center of Dan's argument story. This football season: NFL package ad pitching about $30 a month for eight months. Thursday night: Episode air night (Colette jokes about telling Steve not to tune in). November 1: Tom's joke about Crystal saying they'd be out of money by then. Christmas: Joke about giving Steve a Giada cookbook as a stocking stuffer. Next week: Hosts promise to answer listener emails they didn't get to. Ongoing: Colette's book, The Cost of Quiet, available wherever books are sold. Ongoing: Colette's other podcast, Insights from the Couch. Ongoing: Follow Colette on social media at Colette Jane Fehr. Ongoing: Send anonymous listener emails to [email protected]. Notable Guests/Callers None: No in-studio guests, phone-in callers or voicemails this episode. Chat room listeners: Mentioned as relating to the late-night money talk and bedtime-bombshell topics.

Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes - LTN 46 - Pity Sex Hosts: Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, Colette Fehr | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No dedicated sponsor/ad-read segment in this transcript. A supplement brand targeting low testosterone/low libido is referenced in passing during the discussion (not a formal read). Segment Rundown Cold open: double hello — Tom opens with an intentional double "hello," and the hosts riff on bookending the greeting. Middle age banter — Colette and Dan joke about being in their 50s (Colette close to 53) while Tom is younger; references the "back nine" phrase from a Peloton instructor to describe midlife. Wives running hot — A bit built on the double meaning of women "being hot," landing on hormonal overheating/hot flashes rather than looking attractive. Setting up the libido topic — Dan raises that hormonal changes often come with lower libido, and partly blames husbands for not being compassionate enough to help the situation, while admitting he doesn't always act on it either. "Taking one for the team" — Discussion, sparked by an anonymous listener email, of women having sex out of obligation rather than desire, and whether that leaves either partner satisfied. Male vs. female arousal — Colette explains men are generally ready for sex on short notice while women typically need an emotional or physical "warm-up," compounded by hormones, exhaustion, and modern overload. The "poke/jab" bit — A running comedic riff on how men signal interest, including a story about hiding/sneaking around the bedroom to avoid rejection. Conversation as an aphrodisiac — Colette says being present and curious with a partner is a turn-on; the hosts joke about zoning out during a recent date-night conversation. Normalizing the "sex talk" — Colette explains that bringing up a stalled sex life is scarier in anticipation than reality, and encourages couples to name it directly. Evolutionary tangent — A riff on ancient humans, sex tied to survival and risk (including pregnancy danger), versus modern comfort and much longer relationship lifespans. Dan's own experience — Dan shares that he and Andrea have talked openly about libido, including her hormone replacement therapy, and how communication ("putting in a trouble ticket," as a running show joke) improved things. Sex as emotional connection for men — Colette notes men are often misunderstood as wanting sex "just physically," when it's frequently their main channel for emotional closeness. Testosterone/libido supplement bit — Tom jokes about a sponsor-style ad claiming a supplement would make his wife want him more, doubting that premise. "Libido" running joke — Tom describes long having thought "libido" was just another word for an erection, including a bit about (jokingly) explaining it that way to his young daughter. Interest fading both ways — The group notes wives can also feel their husbands lose interest as they age, tying it to testosterone decline and effort put into making a partner feel wanted. Twitch chat question — A viewer named Jen asks whether a lot of men dislike their partners; the hosts broaden it to say resentment runs both directions, and cite that a majority of divorces are initiated by women, framing many marriages as being "ridden out." Mall people-watching tangent — A comedic aside about judging couples' relationships by watching them at the mall, with an acknowledgment that it's not a fair sample. Practical advice segment — Colette stresses asking a partner directly what would help, rather than assuming their lack of interest is personal rejection. Money and sex as taboo topics — A chat comment (from Dan's wife) that money and sex are the two hardest subjects for couples to discuss; hosts agree and joke about preferring to talk about vacations instead. Relationship maintenance — Dan reflects on once believing love just "happens" without effort, likening relationship upkeep to car maintenance; Colette introduces Dr. John Gottman's "state of the union" weekly check-in concept. Vitality and libido — Colette explains that feeling generally alive and fulfilled (hobbies, friendships, purpose) fuels sexual desire even when hormones are working against it, and validates couples who mutually choose to step back from sex. Email: "Hard to Finish" — An anonymous listener on Zoloft describes delayed sexual response as a side effect and worries about his wife feeling inadequate; hosts advise direct communication. Dan discloses he's on Lexapro with a similar side effect and how being upfront with Andrea about it removed the guesswork for her. Vulnerability and masculinity — Discussion of men's fear that opening up will make them look weak, with Colette arguing the opposite is true — vulnerability builds closeness rather than undermining it. Email: partner "pushes buttons" — An anonymous listener describes his wife escalating arguments until he loses his temper, then being blamed for the reaction; Colette advises taking responsibility for one's own reactions, communicating a boundary in advance, and removing oneself from a conversation before it spirals rather than assigning blame. Live call: Concrete Mike — Recurring caller Concrete Mike asks for advice on his wife's low libido during menopause; after some ribbing, Colette gives serious guidance on leading with compassion, asking his wife what kind of closeness she's open to, and considering professional help if needed. Outro/plugs — Wrap-up encouraging listeners to email or call in, with the show's regular schedule and Colette's book/podcast mentioned again. Key Dates / Plugs Mentioned Ongoing: Email the show anonymously at [email protected]. Weekly: Show airs live Thursdays around 10am (schedule can vary). Ongoing: Colette's book, The Cost of Quiet, available wherever books are sold. Ongoing: Colette's other podcast, Insights from the Couch, available wherever podcasts are found. Ongoing: Listeners can also call in or leave a voicemail for the show. Notable Guests/Callers Colette Fehr — Co-host; licensed therapist perspective throughout the episode. Concrete Mike — Recurring phone-in caller; asked for advice about his wife's low libido during menopause. Jen — Twitch chat commenter whose question ("a lot of men don't like their partners") was read and discussed on air.

  Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes Episode: "Take Me Line Dancing" Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads appear in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: 80s cover band night — The hosts open by discussing a Molly Ringwald's-themed 80s tribute show one of them attended, riffing on how great cover bands can be at delivering pure nostalgia. A shoutout goes to a local DeLand cover band called The A-Team, friends of one of the hosts who mostly play high school reunion parties. The non-dancing spouse — The hosts dig into the dynamic of one spouse being an enthusiastic singer/dancer while the other stands stone-still at concerts. They joke about husbands who show zero reaction, the frustration of feeling like your energy gets "sucked out," and the impossibility of forcing a partner to perform enthusiasm they don't feel. Lionel Richie / Earth, Wind & Fire concert recap — A host recounts going to a last-minute Lionel Richie show in Orlando with Earth, Wind & Fire opening, including praise for how enduring EWF's catalog is. They note the band's drummer is currently in intensive care and had to cancel a planned interview. The host admits being annoyed at the show because her husband, drained from a same-day flight back from Iceland, wasn't showing any enthusiasm; he apologized the next day. The line-dancing "map" — The conversation turns to a real situation: one host's wife left him a treasure-hunt-style map leading to a barn, asking him to take her line dancing. He's reluctant, citing fear of embarrassment, being a bad dancer, and especially the risk of being filmed and mocked on social media. He compares the ask to his wife asking him to go skydiving — something outside his comfort zone. Ordering for your spouse / gentlemanly gestures — A tangent breaks out about husbands ordering food for their wives at restaurants and pumping their gas, debating where thoughtful gentlemanly behavior ends and controlling behavior begins. Bids for connection — the therapy take — Returning to the line-dancing dilemma, the group discusses the idea of a "bid for connection": a partner's request doesn't have to be about the literal activity, and dismissing it outright can reinforce a partner's fear that they're never prioritized. The advice is to have an honest conversation about the discomfort rather than either refusing outright or faking enthusiasm. Standing like a statue in public — More examples of unengaged spouses at social events — looking like "security guards" at a book launch, standing silently at a graduation party — and discussion of how that body language can embarrass or hurt a partner even if unintentional, balanced against the point that people shouldn't have to fake their personality. Colette's viral "Sweet Child O' Mine" moment — Colette Fehr describes posting a video of herself screaming along to "Sweet Child O' Mine" at the 80s show to her Instagram story. Her adult daughters messaged saying it sounded bad and was unprofessional for her public/therapist brand; a former high-school acquaintance also sent a snarky comment. She took the video down but later second-guessed that decision, especially after her husband said the reaction seemed like an overreaction and he liked the authenticity. Social media out of context — The hosts discuss how a moment that's totally normal live (singing/dancing at a concert) reads as strange or cringey when reduced to an out-of-context clip for people scrolling at home — "had to be there" — and how authenticity gets punished online in a way it wouldn't in person. Curated photos vs. real moments — Related tangent on how posed vacation photos (endless retakes for the "perfect" shot) are arguably less real than a single unedited, in-the-moment clip, and how younger generations may read spontaneous/unpolished content differently than older ones. Vulnerability as connection — The hosts tie the social-media embarrassment back to the show's broader relationship theme: being less guarded and more authentic — admitting insecurity, trying something uncomfortable for a partner (like line dancing) — is what actually builds connection. Should a therapist look "put together"? — Debate over whether a relationship therapist sharing goofy, imperfect content undermines professional credibility, using analogies to wanting your surgeon or pilot to appear buttoned-up versus wanting a therapist to seem human and relatable. Does a therapist need a great relationship to give advice? — Colette Fehr discusses whether being single or divorced affects credibility as a couples therapist. She argues clinical skill and evidence-based methods matter more than personal relationship status, though she feels her own experience with marriage, divorce, and remarriage helps her relate to clients. She references a recent Substack post she wrote about the importance of "play" and silliness in relationships. AI and losing authenticity in communication — A short segment on how running emails through AI tools to "perfect" them strips out personal voice and humanity, paralleling the episode's theme of authenticity versus polish. Listener email: the six-foot snake — An anonymous listener writes in that her husband's coworker relocated to Texas and left behind a ball python, which now lives in a tank in what she wanted to be a home office. Her husband refuses to get rid of it and deflects when asked. The hosts frame this as not really being about the snake but about her feeling excluded from household decisions, and give advice on addressing communication patterns and resentment when one partner repeatedly feels unheard, tying it back to the "bids for connection" theme from earlier and plugging Colette's book, "The Cost of Quiet." Bookstore tangent / AI paranoia — A closing aside about a crowded Barnes & Noble reopening, hope for an "analog backlash" against tech, and a joking bit about AI reading and shredding physical books as evidence of a coming robot takeover. Wrap-up — The hosts close by half-committing to a group outing combining line dancing and karaoke, one host jokes about working on being less passive-aggressive with his wife, and they sign off with the listener email address. Key Dates / Plugs Mentioned Ongoing: Colette Fehr's book, The Cost of Quiet, is available wherever books are sold. Ongoing: Listener questions/emails can be sent to [email protected]. Notable Guests/Callers Anonymous listener (email) — Submitted the "snake" household-conflict question discussed in the listener-email segment.

Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes Episode: "Mama Coco's Milk Vortex" Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor or ad-read segments appear in this transcript. Segment Rundown Cold open: age is just a number — Banter kicking off the show about embracing/celebrating age, and the Southern-raised taboo against ever asking a woman's (or grandma's) age. Aging double standard — Men vs. women on how aging is perceived: "silver fox" jokes, wanting a host's wife to grow out sideburns, riffing on cosmetic work and turning into a "lion man." Colette on confronting her own age — Her childhood nickname "Coco"/"Mama Coco"; a moment where her daughter's friend reacted with shock to old photos of her, leading to reflection on vanity and reframing this life stage as empowering rather than a decline. Public scrutiny of women's looks — How actresses and especially female news anchors face harsher criticism than men; a detour praising a former colleague of a host's wife ("Amy Koffel") for her natural beauty and kindness. Lindsay Clancy trial — The Massachusetts case of a mother on trial for killing her children; hosts say it's too disturbing to fully engage with and speculate it reflects severe untreated mental illness (possible postpartum psychosis) rather than a comprehensible motive. Postpartum depression/anxiety discussion — Colette's own postpartum anxiety after her first daughter 25 years ago (largely unacknowledged at the time); a host's wife's postpartum depression after their first child; group discussion of the lack of structured protocols/support for new mothers and the loss of "village" community. Peer-support comparison — Likening the need for new-mom peer support to AA-style group models; the value of connecting with others going through the same experience. "Booby buffet" breastfeeding story — Colette's anxiety-driven story about breastfeeding her daughter Charlotte for only 5 minutes per side, and the Orlando hospital program that weighed the baby before/after feeding to prove she was getting plenty — the origin of the "Milk Vortex" nickname/episode title. Breastfeeding vs. formula pressure — Judgment from lactation advocates (La Leche League) and Colette's choice to combine breastfeeding and formula with her second daughter without shame. Childbirth war stories — Hosts recount witnessing childbirth firsthand, how much more intense/graphic it is than movies portray, with tangents into C-sections, doulas, perineum massage, and placenta capsules. Historical maternal mortality tangent — Comparing childbirth risk historically vs. today, with a pop-culture aside comparing it to Game of Thrones/House of the Dragon birth scenes. Hayden Panettiere memoir — Hope that high-profile cases spark better postpartum care, plus discussion of Panettiere's memoir covering postpartum depression, domestic violence, addiction, and giving up custody of her children. Arnold Schwarzenegger "Broomhilda" debate — Hypothetical/listener-style debate sparked by Schwarzenegger's affair with his housekeeper: is it worse to be cheated on with someone less attractive than yourself, tying in the song "Jolene." Colette on the psychology of affairs — Drawing on her therapy practice with infidelity/betrayal trauma clients, she explains affairs are rarely about looks and usually about proximity/emotional needs, with a personal anecdote about dismissing a coworker as a non-threat to her marriage. Hypothetical infidelity scenarios — Riffing on young men attracted to older women, a personal anecdote about an attractive older nanny, nostalgia for "barely legal"-era pop culture, and debate over which infidelity scenario (same-sex affair, more successful rival, etc.) would hurt each host's ego most. Wrap-up — Closing thoughts on the double standard for men vs. women in scandal, a "Rock"/Moana wig tangent, and sign-off with a call for listener relationship questions and plugs. Key Dates / Plugs Mentioned Ongoing: Lindsay Clancy trial, Massachusetts. Recently released: Hayden Panettiere's memoir. Standing: Submit relationship questions to [email protected] (anonymity offered). Plug: Colette Fehr's book, "The Cost of Quiet." Plug: Colette Fehr's other podcast, "Insights from the Couch." Notable Guests/Callers No in-studio guest or phone-in caller this episode. Ryan — listener who proposed "Mama Coco's Milk Vortex" as the episode title via the live chat room. ### Website: https://tomanddan.com/ App: https://tomanddan.com/app Become a BDM: https://tomanddan.com/registration Merch: https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomandDanLive Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/tomanddanlive Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AMediocreTime Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomanddanlive/ X: https://x.com/TomAndDanLive TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@tomanddanlive Reddit: https://reddit.com/r/tomanddan ACT RSS: https://feeds.libsyn.com/61976/rss AMT RSS: https://feeds.libsyn.com/18904/rss