Three Shades Of Grey

Nobody opens their relationship thinking, "You know what would be great? More calendars, more processing, and less sleep." And yet… here we are. In this episode, we get honest about the moment when non-monogamy stops being sexy and starts feeling like work. From emotional exhaustion to double bookings to the pressure to be the "cool" partner who's always down, we talk about the side of the lifestyle that rarely makes it to the highlight reel. We unpack burnout vs. disconnection, the guilt that comes with slowing down, and why joy should always come before performance. If you've ever loved this lifestyle and also quietly needed a break, this one's for you.

In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party, Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her. From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense of self. She talks about letting her inner Domme out, feeling unexpectedly energized in scene, and how this moment became part of a much bigger reflection on the year she's had and the woman she's becoming. Along the way, the conversation takes a cozy Pajama Party turn—because of course it does—with side quests into banana bread & date balls; and the comfort of laughter, and softness after growth. It's an episode about power, permission, embodiment, and honoring your own evolution… with a little kitchen-table chaos mixed in. Slip into your PJs and join the party.

In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield—musician, meditation teacher, life coach, and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College  Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment show up in poly relationships, how religious frameworks influence our views of love and commitment, and how polyamory can become a practice in conscious, intentional living. A thoughtful and grounding conversation for anyone curious about the intersection of spirituality and non-monogamy. 🎧 Listen now and go deeper.

Rules. Everyone has them.  But where do they come from—and do they actually work? In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect. We talk about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, how some rules help couples feel safe, and how others quietly create more anxiety than security. We also explore how rules evolve over time, which ones tend to backfire, and what healthier alternatives can look like as couples gain experience. If you've ever wondered whether your rules are serving your relationship—or holding it back—this episode is for you. LINKS Three Shades Of Grey | Website Episode 008: Setting the B.A.R (Boundaries, Agreements, and Rules) Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of Women in Open and Poly Relationships Pinky's Audiobook PolyPoet.com The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

Pinky and Ava turn up the heat as they dive into one of Ava's favorite pleasures—and one of Pinky's former fears: spanking. Ava teases Pinky as her "pampered princess," while Pinky gets real about how letting go of control and stepping into trust changed everything. With a safe space, a little surrender, and a lot of curiosity, Pinky discovers that pushing boundaries can feel very good. It's playful, it's daring, it's deliciously intimate—just the way pajama parties should be. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website Sentinel Bear Normalizing Non Monogamy | Emma & Fin Check out Pinky's debut book of poetry Check out Pinky's debut poetry audiobook!! PolyPoet.com

Pinky and Ava talk about being hot—but not in the way you think! In this candid and empowering conversation, they sit down with Dr. Cherie Little , a doctorally prepared, dual-certified Family and Women's Health Nurse Practitioner and founder of Xena Health in Las Vegas. Together, they get real about women's health issues that are often ignored or misunderstood—like menopause, hormone replacement therapy, and painful sex—while sharing laughs, insight, and a healthy dose of honesty. Key Topics Discussed     •    🌸 Menopause Myths & Realities: What's really going on during "the change" and how to navigate it with confidence.     •    💊 Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT): When it's right for you and how it can transform quality of life.     •    💔 Painful Sex & Hormonal Shifts: Causes, treatments, and the path to rediscovering pleasure.     •    💬 Breaking the Silence: Why women's health needs open, shame-free conversations. LINKS: Xena Health | Website EMFEMME 360 'Tis but a scratch: a critical review of the Women's Health Initiative evidence associating menopausal hormone therapy with the risk of breast cancer Estrogen Matters, by Dr. Avrum Bluming  The New Menopause, by Dr. Mary Claire Haver The Menopause Moment, by Dr. Kelly Casperson

What happens when curiosity meets consciousness? In this episode, Ava and Ramone share their five-day journey at the New England Conscious Arts Festival, a transformative Tantra experience that brought together about 130 open-hearted souls—most exploring non-monogamy, self-discovery, and deep connection. From eye-gazing ceremonies to "liquid love" sessions, emotional alchemy, and even firewalking; Ava and Ramon open up about what it's like to strip away shame, lean into vulnerability, and embrace some unexpected lessons though Tantra. Ava reflects on her shift from skepticism to surrender, while Ramon shares how emotional and sensual exploration deepened his understanding of connection and consent. By the end, both walk away forever changed—and perhaps a little more open-minded than ever. #ThreeShadesOfGreyPodcast #TantraFestival #NonMonogamy #ConsciousConnection #LiquidLove #EmotionalAlchemy #OpenRelationships #TantricJourney #SexPositive #PersonalGrowth #AvaMoore #PinkyGreyman #AnthonyGreyman  

Its a real sleepover this time!  Pinky and Ava are cozied up in pajamas, kicking back with laughs, secrets, and a little mischief. In this special pajama party episode, the ladies dive into a round of "Would You Rather?"—but not your average playground version. These spicy, flirty, and thought-provoking questions were generated by ChatGPT, keeping the fun unpredictable and oh-so-naughty. From playful hypotheticals to steamy scenarios, Pinky and Ava don't hold back as they reveal what turns them on, what makes them squirm, and what they'd never choose in a million years. Grab your favorite PJs, pour a glass (or two), and join in on the giggles and gasps—you'll definitely be asking yourself how you'd answer these questions. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website MiamiSwings Swinger Podcast | Website "Florida Couple" Rooftop Resort Normalizing Non-Monogamy | Ava, Pinky, (& Anthony) We Gotta Thing — Episode 136 | The Enneagram- Know Your Numbers! Expansive Connection | Non-Monogamy Coaching

Think being a single guy in the lifestyle is easy? Think again. Pinky and Ava put Anthony and Nirvana Lover (aka P*$*y Destroyer) in the hot seat to talk about what it's really like. They cover everything from etiquette to ego checks, building a good name, and yes… that time Hot Mama "pimped" them out. Buckle up—this is the single man's guide to staying in the game without becoming the cautionary tale. #ThreeShadesOfGrey #NonMonogamy #LifestyleCommunity #PolyLife #SwingersLife #OpenRelationships #EthicalNonMonogamy #SingleMen #SoloInLifestyle #LifestyleEtiquette #HotMamaPimped #StagLife #MythsMannersMayhem #SingleButNotSorry #SoloButPlayingNice #CautionaryTales #PodcastLife #RelationshipTalk LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website Splash Takeovers 

School may be out, but Pinky and Ava prove the learning never stops—especially when summer adventures are the teachers. In this episode of Pinky & Ava's Pajama Party, the ladies spill the tea on their travels, trysts, and everything in between. From steamy liaisons to unforgettable getaways, they share the lessons, laughs, and little indulgences that made their summer sizzle.

Buckle up, because this Naughty N'awlin's 2025 recap is anything but tame. With Ava stuck at home living that #MomLife, she grills Pinky and Anthony about their wild, laughter-filled, and occasionally chaotic journey to the Big Easy. From travel headaches that almost kept them from the party, to Pinky pushing herself out of her comfort zone (and loving every second), to a whirlwind of classes that ranged from eye-opening to downright delicious—this episode serves up the play-by-play you didn't know you needed. Whether you're here for the travel drama, the sexy education, or the cheeky behind-the-scenes stories, you'll feel like you were right there… beads, bourbon, and all.

Ever wonder what really gets Pinky and Ava going? In this intimate and unfiltered episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party, the duo dives deep into their turn-ons—and they're not just talking bodies. From the thrill of emotional freedom to the buzz of a partner's confidence, from shared laughter to shared lovers, they explore the layers of satisfaction that light them up. It's real, it's raw, and it's ridiculously relatable.

In this episode of we take a moment to own our sh*t. In the past, we might've made it sound like there's only one right way to start a non-monogamous relationship. But thanks to some wise friends of the show—and a little bit of grown-folks (Foxy) "magic"—we realized we goofed. Non-monogamy isn't a one-size-fits-all situation, and there are many ways to build strong, thriving, sexy connections right from the start. So, we gathered around the mic with our extended poly pod squad for a heartfelt (and hilarious) roundtable. We revisit the conversation, acknowledge the error, and explore the beautifully diverse ways people enter non-monogamy with intention, flexibility, and love. Tune in for some laughs, lessons, and the reminder that getting it wrong can sometimes lead to getting it really right

It's time to clear the air, and maybe burst a few egos along the way! In this episode Pinky & Ava get real about one of the most frustrating misconceptions in the non-monogamous world — that being open means being easy......Spoiler alert: We Don't "F@(k" Everybody!!! The ladies share some cringe-worthy, hilarious, and downright annoying stories of people who thought "non-monogamous" was code for "no standards." From awkward assumptions to bold propositions, they set the record straight on what it really means to be selective — even when you live life outside the lines. If you've ever been misunderstood in your open relationships — or just want to hear some entertaining tea — cozy up and press play. Pajamas optional… standards required.

What happens when your non-monogamy is no longer a secret? In this episode, we go deeper with Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing Podcast to unpack the emotional journey of being outed to their church (and family)—and how they handled it with grace, honesty, and strength. We share our own fears around exposure and talk about how to prepare for conversations you might never want to have. Whether you're out loud or staying low-key, this episode is filled with tools, perspective, and solidarity. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website We Gotta Thing | Mr. & Mrs. Jones Desire Riviera Maya Pearl  

In this double bonus episode of Three Shades of Grey, Anthony shares the summer plans for the crew and takes you inside his first-ever Splash Mocha, an interracial and hot wife hotel takeover in Atlanta, Georgia. While he couldn't make it with his wife Pinky or girlfriend Ava (thanks to #MomLife and a preference for smaller scenes), he experienced it all with his babygirl, Bree. Anthony sits down with Socrates of The Bull Brotherhood and Michael C. of Keys and Anklets to unpack their Splash Mocha experiences, the interracial hotwife lifestyle, and their perspectives as podcasters in the space. Real talk, real connections—don't miss it!

The girls are back in their jammies and this time they've brought a special guest—Dragonfly returns for another round of real, raw, and playful conversation. In this episode, Pinky, Ava, and Dragonfly dive deep into the delicious topic of pleasure: from the power of self-connection to the fun of toys, and why prioritizing intimate time with yourself is more than just self-care—it's self-celebration. So grab your favorite toy (or take notes for later), because after this episode, you won't have homework… you'll have homeplay.  LINKS: Three Shade Of Grey | Website Dragonfly Somatic Wellness SOCIALS:  Pinky's Instagram Ava's Instagram Dragonfly's Instagram  

In this episode, we dive deep with Bobby, one of the driving forces behind Splash Takeovers, the multi-city lifestyle hotel takeover experience. Bobby shares his personal origin story and how he found his way into the lifestyle, giving us a behind-the-scenes look at his journey from attendee to organizer. We also explore the wide range of Splash events held throughout the year in cities across the country—and get an exciting preview of new events on the horizon. Bobby talks candidly about what he's observed in the lifestyle over the years, from shifting dynamics to evolving community norms, and sprinkles in some hilarious and heartwarming stories along the way. Whether you're a seasoned vet or just curious about dipping your toes in, this episode offers a fun and entertaining peek into one of the best hotel takeovers in the scene. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website Splash Takeovers EROTICON 2026 | August 6-9, 2026 SOCIALS: Anthony's Instagram Pinky's Instagram Ava's Instagram

In this episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party, we welcome back relationship coach Elizabeth Cunningham for a deep and juicy conversation about eroticism and pleasure. Elizabeth reminds us that eroticism isn't just about sex — it's about the full range of aliveness, desire, and connection in our lives. Together, they explore how to tap into your wants and needs, whether in polyamory, sexually, or in other parts of your relationships. Plus, Elizabeth, Pinky, and Ava offer practical ideas for asking for (and getting!) what you want. If you've ever struggled to express your desires or felt unsure about navigating pleasure with multiple partners, this one's for you! LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website Elizabeth Ann Cunningham | Website Miss Jay | Erotic Blueprints How To Have Difficult Convos | Website Ro Moed | Writer & Relationship Coach

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Dragonfly Lee and her partner E from Pure Orgasmic Love, two passionate guides in the realms of non-monogamy, somatic work, and holistic intimacy. Pinky first connected with Dragonfly at Naughty N'awlins, and it was clear from the start that her energy and depth of experience needed to be shared with our community. In this conversation, Dragonfly opens up deeply about her personal journey — from navigating health challenges to embracing a life of embodied pleasure and conscious connection. E adds his own thoughtful insights, sharing how they work together to help people rediscover intimacy, trust, and empowerment in their relationships. We explore the origins of Pure Orgasmic Love, the transformative power of somatic practices, and how they hold space for individuals and couples to step into their fullest, most authentic selves. With moments that are playful, vulnerable, and deeply educational, this episode is a beautiful reminder of how our personal healing journeys can lead to expansive love lives. Plus, Dragonfly and E are offering a special gift just for our listeners! Check out the exclusive offer linked below. SPECIAL OFFERS:  Hearts and Hips Membership. Use the code "3SHADES" for 30% off the first month; after a 2 week trial. Free Guided Audio with Dragonfly LINKS: Three Shade Of Grey | Website Pure Orgasmic Love Naughty N'awlins Erotic Blueprints and Breakthrough with Miss Jaiya SOCIALS: Anthony's Instagram Pinky's Instagram Ava's Instagram TikTok