Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Infidelity can feel like one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through, and in this encore episode, I talk about why it cuts so deeply — and how healing is truly possible. I explore how betrayal impacts us not only emotionally, but at a primal level, threatening our sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth. I also share parts of my own story and explain how infidelity can reopen old, unhealed wounds that have nothing to do with our partner's choices. One of the most powerful frameworks I discuss is the Buddhist concept of the two arrows. The first arrow is the betrayal itself. The second arrow is the meaning we attach to it—the self-blame, shame, and stories that often create even more pain. While we cannot control the first arrow, we always have a choice about the second. Whether you are considering staying or leaving, this episode will help you understand how to reduce the impact of infidelity, reclaim your power, and stop hurting yourself with stories that are not true. Healing does not require perfection. It requires compassion, honesty, and courage. In this episode, I cover: Infidelity hurts deeply because of both biology and meaning The second arrow of self-blame is optional Your partner's choices are not a reflection of your worth Healing is possible, whether you stay or leave If you're ready to move forward with strength instead of shame, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing journey. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you one of the most powerful tools I use in my coaching: the thought model. This framework helps you see, with clarity and compassion, how your thoughts create your feelings, actions, and ultimately the results you're living with right now. This isn't about positive thinking or forcing yourself to feel better. It's about awareness — learning how your brain works so you can decide, on purpose, whether the thoughts you're believing are helping you or holding you back. I walk you through real-life examples to show how the same circumstance can lead to very different outcomes depending on the thoughts driving it. When you understand this, you stop living at the effect of other people or situations and start reclaiming your power. You learn how to interrupt old thought patterns, create intentional results, and build a life that feels expansive instead of constricting. In this episode, I cover: Why circumstances don't create results — thoughts do How to identify the thoughts running your life What a daily thought download is and how to use it How to create intentional results instead of repeating old patterns If you're ready to feel more grounded, confident, and in control of your healing, I invite you to reach out and work with me. You don't have to do this alone. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you. I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention. I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through. Key takeaways: Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer You can learn to trust your own judgment again Commitment builds confidence over time Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence by Jeffrey R. Holland: https://youtu.be/pCSs4f9DlVM?si=OihbR5qlp-5c1Nky If you're facing a decision right now and feel overwhelmed or unsure, reach out. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to move forward is actually a normal response to emotional trauma—and how your brain is trying to protect you, even when it's keeping you trapped.   I walk through three common scenarios I see again and again: staying when you're afraid to leave, being left and drowning in self-doubt, or choosing to stay but feeling unable to trust or feel peace. If any of these sound familiar, you're not broken. Your brain is wired to seek ease, avoid pain, and cling to what feels familiar—even when that familiarity hurts. I also share how real change begins by reconnecting with your future self—the version of you who already knows what's possible. When you get clear on what you want and why you want it, you can start creating movement, even in small ways, and reclaim your power. Key takeaways: Feeling stuck is a protective brain response, not a personal failure Avoiding pain often keeps us locked in familiar suffering Clarity about what you want is the way out of stagnation If you're ready to stop feeling trapped and start moving forward, reach out. You don't have to do this alone. I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12 More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, and the old roles we unconsciously keep stepping back into. I explore why these patterns return even when we believe we've healed them, and I share how breaking these loops requires something deeper than waiting for someone else to change. It requires choosing differently for ourselves. I walk you through how relational contracts form, how they expire, and why trying to rebuild inside an outdated contract keeps you stuck in pain. I share what it means to create a new contract — one based on truth, self-responsibility, and clarity — whether with the same partner or within a new chapter of your life entirely. My intention is to help you see your patterns with honesty and compassion so you can step into a more empowered way of relating to yourself and others. Takeaways: Old relational contracts can expire long before the relationship ends. Loops break when I stop abandoning myself. A new relationship contract requires truth, clarity, and personal power. Growth begins the moment I choose differently. If this resonates and you're ready to break your own patterns, I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12 More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this very first episode of my podcast, I share my personal story and the experiences that shaped the work I do today. When this show originally launched, I opened with my journey because I wanted listeners to understand not only what I teach, but why I teach it.  Today, I'm presenting this episode again as an encore because so many new listeners have joined us, and this story continues to be the foundation for everything we talk about on the podcast. My hope is that hearing where I came from will help you feel more grounded, more supported, and less alone in your own healing. In this encore replay, I walk through the early years of my marriage, the painful moments that led to my awakening, and the decision to rebuild my life from the inside out. I also share the fears, doubts, and turning points that taught me how to trust myself again and ultimately led me to coaching. Takeaways: Why my personal story is the foundation of this podcast How fear and indecision kept me stuck for years What finally empowered me to rebuild my life Why I'm sharing this as an encore for new listeners If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/   More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sits quietly underneath so many of the patterns that show up after infidelity: codependency. This isn't about weakness or being "too much." It's about the survival strategies many of us learned long before betrayal ever entered our lives. For me, this past year has been one of shedding—shedding identities, patterns, and ways of disappearing inside relationships. I'm inviting you into that same gentle, honest exploration so you can begin reclaiming your own energy, boundaries, and clarity. I share the real signs of codependency, why it intensifies after infidelity, and how to begin unhooking from patterns that pull you away from yourself. You'll learn how to shift from survival mode into a grounded, independent place where your choices come from truth, not fear. Takeaways: How codependent patterns form (and why they're not your fault) Seven signs you're losing yourself in the relationship How to begin reclaiming your energy and boundaries Why independence is a necessary step before rebuilding trust If something in this episode stirs something in you, that is not a problem. It means you're waking up. If you're ready to untangle these patterns and rebuild trust in yourself, I'm here to support you. Reach out — I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/ More from me: Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I dive deeper into a topic that has the power to change the way we move through our lives: our energetic yes and our energetic no. After betrayal or years of people-pleasing, it's common to lose touch with the truth your body is trying to communicate. Today, I explore how to recognize the physical signatures of alignment — the openness of a yes, the contraction of a no — long before the logical mind tries to negotiate, justify, or override them. I share examples from my own life, moments when choosing alignment meant disappointing others, and why honoring my energetic truth has become a key part of rebuilding self-trust. I also offer practical guidance for how to pause, listen, and make decisions in real time, even when fear or doubt follow closely behind. If you're trying to navigate life after infidelity or simply want to reconnect with your inner guidance, this episode will help you listen more closely and lead yourself with integrity. Takeaways: How your body signals yes and no in real time Why your first sensation is more honest than your thoughts How honoring your truth rebuilds self-trust Practical steps for tuning into your energetic signals If you want support applying this work to your own healing, reach out. I would love to help. https://andreagiles.com/. More from me: Protect Your Peace Through the Holidays - Free Live Class: Tuesday, November 25, 2025: 10 am MT /12 pm ET Register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/november-25-live-class Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm diving into a topic I've been learning on a much deeper level: energetic boundaries. After betrayal, it's common to feel like your energy is everywhere except inside your own body. You might find yourself over-functioning, scanning for danger, tracking moods, or trying to manage other people's emotional states. Even when someone is doing everything "right" on paper, your energy may still feel drained or scattered. In this conversation, I break down what energetic boundaries actually are, why they matter, and how to recognize the signs that yours have become thin or compromised. I share examples from my own life and from the healing work I do with clients, especially around emotional fusion, hyper-attunement, and the feeling of losing your clarity or intuition. I also walk you through simple but powerful practices to call your energy back, create more groundedness, and reconnect with your own truth so you can make decisions from a place of strength rather than depletion. Takeaways: What energetic boundaries are and why they matter Signs your energy is being pulled outward How to ground yourself and restore your own energetic field Why reclaiming your energy strengthens clarity and intimacy If you want help building strong internal boundaries and restoring your sense of self, please reach out. I would love to support you https://andreagiles.com/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

There are moments when the pain feels too deep to describe — when every step forward feels impossible and healing seems out of reach. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to those of you who are there right now, carrying heartbreak that feels unbearable. I'll walk with you through the truth about pain — how it's not a sign that you're broken, but a sacred invitation to healing. You'll learn why pain isn't an interruption to your growth, but the very doorway to it. Together, we'll explore how to stop circling your wounds and instead tend to them with compassion, so that the pain can finally release what's ready to be freed. If you're tired, scared, or wondering if you'll ever feel peace again, this episode is for you. Take a breath, lean in, and remember — you don't have to do this alone. Healing begins when you stop abandoning yourself and let others walk beside you. Takeaways: Pain is not proof of brokenness — it's a signal to heal. Avoiding pain prolongs suffering; facing it opens peace. Healing requires compassion, patience, and presence. You don't have to heal alone — support is available. If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are — and what they're actually about. So many people believe emotional affairs are about the "other person," but I'll show you why they're often rooted in something deeper: unmet emotional hunger, self-abandonment, and the longing to feel fully alive again. You'll learn why these relationships can feel electric, why secrecy distorts truth, and how both partners can begin to heal — not by policing behavior, but by learning to be honest without self-abandonment. Whether you've been betrayed or have strayed yourself, this conversation will help you understand what your deeper needs are and how to meet them with integrity. Key Takeaways: Emotional affairs are about unmet needs, not just betrayal. The healing path begins with radical self-honesty. Integrity isn't the absence of desire — it's staying present with it. Growth means learning to choose yourself without self-rejection. If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful. I walk through how shame forms, what the "shame loop" looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others. Key Takeaways: Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it's a lie. Recognizing the "shame loop" is the first step out of it. Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame's grip. Healing begins when we stop proving shame right. If you're ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. Mentioned in this episode: Men's group waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/mens-group-waitlist Couples coaching waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/couples-coaching-waitlist More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn't a punishment — it's a teacher. I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I've learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity. You'll learn why slowing your timeline, grounding into your body, and naming what's true right now can shift the way you experience uncertainty. The in-between may feel shaky, but it's also where growth and truth emerge. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be. In this episode, I share: How to stop making uncertainty mean something's wrong with you Simple tools to ground yourself in the present moment Why waiting doesn't mean nothing is happening A compassionate perspective on in-between seasons If you're tired of spinning in "not knowing," I'd love to help you walk through it with strength and support. Apply to work with me and let's do this together. https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation. I share how surrender isn't submission—it's the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally see things clearly and choose from strength. Vulnerability, meanwhile, is about daring to show up fully, to feel your feelings, and to trust yourself again—even when there are no guarantees. You'll learn how to recognize your armor, soften it, and reconnect with your heart so you can reclaim your authority over your healing and your future. Takeaways: The difference between surrender and submission Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal Practical steps to release resistance and lean into healing Ready to go deeper? Apply to join my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program and start your healing today at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of navigating sleepless nights after infidelity. Yana shares her journey of turning her own struggle into a calling to help others, and she gives us practical, compassionate tools to reclaim restful nights. Together, we talk about why sleep matters so deeply in the healing process, the three "dials" you can adjust to improve your sleep, and how to shift from anxious, perfectionistic thinking into gentle, supportive habits that allow your body to rest. If you've been battling insomnia after betrayal, this episode is for you. Healing is possible—and peaceful sleep can return. Takeaways: Why insomnia is so common after infidelity The three dials that influence healthy sleep How to calm nighttime anxiety and surrender to rest Practical habits to gently reset your sleep rhythm If you're ready to find hope, rest, and resilience, reach out—I'd love to support you on your journey. YANA'S INFORMATION: Yana Vriesinga is a journalist turned certified sleep coach, specializing in helping people reclaim their nights after the shock of infidelity. She knows firsthand how betrayal can hijack the nervous system, leaving even the strongest sleepers among us wide awake at 3 a.m. Drawing on her own story, her background in health reporting, and certification in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Yana has developed a clear, compassionate approach to what she calls post-infidelity insomnia. Through her coaching and her free email course, 'Sleep More, Heal Stronger', she equips betrayed partners with practical tools to calm their bodies, quiet their thoughts, and finally get the restorative sleep they need to stay resilient.  Join her free course at ResilientDays.com (https://www.resilientdays.com) and start sleeping better tonight.  More from me: October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and mentor, Molly Claire, to talk about courage, resilience, and what it really means to rise from life's hardest moments. Molly has been a guiding light in my own journey—teaching me how to honor desire, trust myself, and step into a life I intentionally create. Today, she shares her story of transformation, from navigating divorce and single motherhood to building a thriving coaching practice, and how she now empowers other coaches to master themselves so they can better serve others. Together, we dive into themes of self-trust, resilience, and inner authority, exploring how we can stop minimizing our feelings and start believing in our worth. Molly also introduces her new book, She Rises, a powerful anthology of stories from master coaches who've walked through some of life's deepest challenges. This conversation is an invitation to choose yourself again and again, to lean into your truth, and to believe in what's possible—even when you can't yet see it. Takeaways: Why honoring desire is essential for healing and growth How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal and loss The power of resilience through shared stories   GET MOLLY CLAIRE'S BOOK! Be sure to get on Molly's early access list here https://www.mollyclaire.com/book-waitlist so you can get a copy of She Rises - Insights and Wisdom from the Women of the Masterful Coach Collective as soon as it's released! More from me: October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it's making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these "power grabs" may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships. I share both my own story and my clients' experiences of trying to reclaim control after betrayal, and why these strategies rarely bring the connection we truly crave. Real power looks very different—it's about honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and staying present with ourselves and our partners. If you've ever felt caught between longing for closeness and pushing it away, this episode will help you recognize where false power shows up and how to move toward grounded intimacy instead. Takeaways: Why "power grabs" sabotage the connection we want How false power erodes trust and safety The difference between control and real power Steps to cultivate intimacy through vulnerability If this resonates, join me inside my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group to experience deeper transformation. More from me: A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister's milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were "good" choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed. Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it's deciding to stay or leave a marriage, how much truth to share with children, or when to seek therapy, peace often comes from aligning with what matters most—not from finding the "perfect" answer. Grief and peace can coexist, and learning to hold both allows us to move forward with confidence and compassion for ourselves. Takeaways: Peace often comes from alignment, not perfection. Hard decisions can hold both grief and relief. Listening to your values helps anchor your choices. True confidence grows when you honor your own inner knowing. If you're ready to create peace even in difficult decisions, I'd love to help you. Reach out and let's walk this journey together. More from me: A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Register here for Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don't seem to match the effort you're putting in. Whether it's journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it's easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I've been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel. I share why this "lag phase" is actually part of growth, how seeds take time to take root, and why redefining success in small, everyday shifts can help you keep moving forward. You'll hear personal stories from my own journey and learn how to stay grounded in your "why" even when outcomes aren't immediate. If you've ever felt stuck or questioned your worth because change wasn't happening fast enough, this episode is for you. Takeaways: Why progress often happens "underground" before you see it. How to recalibrate your expectations during healing. Why consistency matters more than quick results. Simple ways to redefine success and stay encouraged. You don't have to go through this alone. If you're ready for real support, I invite you to apply to my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program today. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I've used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it's easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn't about your value—it's about which "team" each person chooses to play on. I share insights from my own experiences and client conversations about what it means to hold yourself to a higher standard, to face pain instead of avoiding it, and to recognize when someone is willing—or unwilling—to meet you on the same field. Sometimes your partner may actually be on the same team but playing a different role. Other times, they may simply not be willing to put in the effort required to compete at that level. This episode is a call to stand firmly in your truth, choose your team intentionally, and stop making someone else's choices mean less about you. Takeaways: Why your partner's actions don't define your worth How to recognize if you're truly on the same "team" The role of resilience and facing pain in real healing Choosing higher standards without making yourself wrong If you're ready to find clarity and strength after betrayal, I'd love to walk alongside you. Reach out to me today for support. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles