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Be You Podcast
Author: Jill Herman
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The Be You Podcast by coach and spirituality and wellness enthusiast Jill Herman is all about women helping women to unbecome everything they thought they had to be and unapologetically embracing their truest self. Jill covers topics like healing, parenting, self-love, women helping women, spirituality, and much more.
Through the Be You podcast and her work with the Be You Collective, Jill makes the challenging process of healing approachable, especially when it comes to parenting and self-love. She draws on her personal parenting experiences, her own healing journey, and wisdom from coaches and thought leaders like Glennon Doyle, Lisa Bilyeu, Luke Storey, Christine Hassler, and more.
Whether you're looking for parenting advice, a community of women helping women, or you're on your own healing journey, the Be You Podcast is for you.
Instagram:
@jillhermanbeyou
@beyoupodcast_
Glennon Doyle on being yourself: "Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world." - Glennon Doyle
Glennon Doyle on women helping women: "People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don't need help." - Glennon Doyle
Glennon Doyle on healing: "What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?" - Glennon Doyle
Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women: "Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally." - Lisa Bilyeu
Lisa Bilyeu on healing: "If you're still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror." - Lisa Bileyu
Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women: "Choose your life's board members like you're building a Fortune 500 company." - Lisa Bilyeu
Tucker Max on being yourself: "If people try to judge you or shame you for doing safe, consensual things that make you happy, I can guarantee you they're bad people." - Tucker Max
Tucker Max on healing: "Pretending to be something you aren't because you're trying to please a bunch of judgmental hypocrites and shitheads is not the way to be happy. Living the life you want to live is." - Tucker Max
Tucker Max on healing: "Men will treat you the way you let them. You get what you demand from people." - Tucker Max
Luke Storey on healing: "Within self-honesty and self-awareness is a modicum of humility and that's all you really need to affect change." - Luke Storey
Luke Storey on healing: "The foundation to your healing is to not be committed to your lies." - Luke Storey
Christine Hasler on healing: "Know that the qualities you admire in others are the qualities you need to recognize and nurture inside yourself." - Christine Hassler
Christine Hasler on parenting: "People come in and out of our lives to share them with us, contribute, support us, and teach us, but they never complete us." - Christine Hasler
Christine Hasler on healing: "It is in the most undesirable of external circumstances that we discover internal qualities like courage, faith, compassion, inspiration, acceptance, and love." - Christine Hasler
Through the Be You podcast and her work with the Be You Collective, Jill makes the challenging process of healing approachable, especially when it comes to parenting and self-love. She draws on her personal parenting experiences, her own healing journey, and wisdom from coaches and thought leaders like Glennon Doyle, Lisa Bilyeu, Luke Storey, Christine Hassler, and more.
Whether you're looking for parenting advice, a community of women helping women, or you're on your own healing journey, the Be You Podcast is for you.
Instagram:
@jillhermanbeyou
@beyoupodcast_
Glennon Doyle on being yourself: "Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world." - Glennon Doyle
Glennon Doyle on women helping women: "People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don't need help." - Glennon Doyle
Glennon Doyle on healing: "What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?" - Glennon Doyle
Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women: "Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally." - Lisa Bilyeu
Lisa Bilyeu on healing: "If you're still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror." - Lisa Bileyu
Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women: "Choose your life's board members like you're building a Fortune 500 company." - Lisa Bilyeu
Tucker Max on being yourself: "If people try to judge you or shame you for doing safe, consensual things that make you happy, I can guarantee you they're bad people." - Tucker Max
Tucker Max on healing: "Pretending to be something you aren't because you're trying to please a bunch of judgmental hypocrites and shitheads is not the way to be happy. Living the life you want to live is." - Tucker Max
Tucker Max on healing: "Men will treat you the way you let them. You get what you demand from people." - Tucker Max
Luke Storey on healing: "Within self-honesty and self-awareness is a modicum of humility and that's all you really need to affect change." - Luke Storey
Luke Storey on healing: "The foundation to your healing is to not be committed to your lies." - Luke Storey
Christine Hasler on healing: "Know that the qualities you admire in others are the qualities you need to recognize and nurture inside yourself." - Christine Hassler
Christine Hasler on parenting: "People come in and out of our lives to share them with us, contribute, support us, and teach us, but they never complete us." - Christine Hasler
Christine Hasler on healing: "It is in the most undesirable of external circumstances that we discover internal qualities like courage, faith, compassion, inspiration, acceptance, and love." - Christine Hasler
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It's the end of January, and Jill is here to pause the momentum of her current New Year series to offer something a little bit different – an invitation to stop and ask for help. After weeks of reflecting on 2025, easing into 2026, and clearing physical and emotional clutter, Jill introduces a "pattern interrupt" or a week devoted not to doing more but rather to opening ourselves to guidance from whatever each of us understands as infinite love, source energy, God, or support beyond ourselves. Jill highlights that every person has a sovereign relationship with their own form of guidance and that the language which we use is far less important than the willingness to ask. Jill also shares how reading the book Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe unexpectedly unlocked a shift for her, not by teaching her anything new but by affirming a way of living that she already takes on: being receptive to messages via everyday experiences, strangers, nature, and intuition. She reflects on the difference between trusting intuition and constantly seeking external validation and how she previously believed that she didn't need "signs" because she trusted her intuition. She shares, however, her surprise at having realized that asking for specific, clear signs isn't about doubt or testing the universe but rather about play, curiosity, and expanding our relationship with guidance from the universe. Jill explores reasons why so many of us miss signs even when they're right in front of us (stress, disconnection, nervous system overload, and lack of trust), and she offers some practical ways to create the right conditions for receiving guidance whether through journaling, quiet time, prayer, or simply being more present. This episode of the podcast is sure to set the tone for what's coming next in the series: releasing what no longer fits, naming what we're done with, and making room for what we truly want for 2026! Show Notes: [1:28] - Jill asks listeners to rate and review the podcast because it helps others find it. [3:06] - At January's end, Jill feels proud of the podcast and credits her commitment to it, not the message. [5:30] - Jill encourages listeners to name what we want and release what we won't carry. [8:25] - Together, we clear clutter, voice what we're done with, then call in our desires. [10:17] - Jill asks listeners to pause and seek guidance without rigid spiritual labels. [13:21] - Jill shares how signs affirmed her spirituality, though guidance feels different now that she is away from nature. [16:09] - Hear how the book Signs showed Jill that guidance doesn't always require learning anything new. [19:17] - Jill realized that she could ask directly for specific signs instead of relying solely on intuition. [22:38] - After asking for signs about her grandson, Jill received immediate, unmistakable confirmations made entirely of rocks. [26:07] - Jill explains that seeing signs requires nervous system regulation, trust, and creating conditions that support intuitive awareness. [29:09] - This pause invites playful openness to guidance, which Jill believes is always available to us. [31:57] - Here is to 2026! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Jill returns to talking about the New Year this episode as she reframes the start of the year by separating what the calendar says from what the body, spirit, and nervous system are actually experiencing. While the 1st of January might mark a date change as per the Gregorian calendar, Jill explains why she doesn't energetically follow it and how aligning with the lunar calendar reveals that many of us are still finishing the work of the previous year. If January has felt heavy, confusing, or unexpectedly intense, Jill offers a compassionate perspective on why delayed emotional "shedding" could be surfacing now. Jill also gets a little personal and reflects on her word for 2025 – freedom. She discusses the unexpected way that it manifested for her: through saying goodbye. She shares what it looked like to release fantasies, roles, and relationships that she was holding together through hope rather than truth. With vulnerable honesty, she opens up about long-term family estrangement, the grief of letting go of a beloved home and era of life, and the moment when she realized that freedom sometimes requires releasing the dream that things will change. It's not about bitterness or giving up but is rather about choosing reality over self-abandonment. She also revisits the idea of "wintering" as an active phase, not a passive one, and explains why this slower season is incredibly important preparation for what's ahead. She offers grounded ways to work with this energy such as purging physical clutter, creating space in your calendar, gently moving your body, and examining relationships that may be held together by guilt or obligation. Rather than forcing goals or resolutions, Jill invites listeners to focus on the feeling that they truly want to experience. Jill warmly reminds listeners in this episode that space is not emptiness and that letting go can very much be the doorway to what comes next! Show Notes: [1:46] - Hear how Jill prefers to follow a lunar rhythm, viewing current overwhelm as delayed shedding from last year. [4:42] - Instead of resisting wintering energy, Jill allows a quiet pause before inevitable forward movement. [7:21] - Reflecting on 2025, Jill emphasizes lessons, gratitude, and recognizing its unexpected theme: saying goodbye. [9:16] - For Jill, freedom became possible only through letting go of certain relationships, illusions, and long, loving goodbyes. [11:15] - Jill opens up about how the deepest farewell was releasing the dream that estrangement with a family member would someday be repaired. [13:20] - For Jill, letting go also meant ending overgiving, initiating less, and accepting some people's commitment to misunderstanding. [15:03] - Hear how Jill's letting go created freedom, unexpected friendships, and new beginnings aligned with her true 2025 theme. [18:11] - This season for Jill is about intentional preparation - purging clutter and gentle body movement. [20:48] - Hear how daily grounding practices now prevent future pressure while also leading to physical, emotional, and energetic space. [23:47] - Jill asserts that healthy relationships flow without guilt, tests, or forcing, and require courageously reclaiming time and energy. [25:52] - Jill closes by honoring listeners and encouraging surrender, slowness, breathing deeply, and releasing what doesn't belong. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
We are halfway through January already, and Jill invites listeners into a gentler, more intentional way of approaching the new year, one that says no to urgency, pressure, and the push to immediately produce results. Speaking to both longtime listeners and those who are just finding the show, she reintroduces her idea of "wintering": a conscious pause marked by rest, quiet, and reflection as an active, not a passive, practice. She shares how choosing not to rush forward has already begun to shift things for her in really big ways. Via some personal stories, including a recent loss and a challenging family moment, Jill reflects on what it looks like to choose love, forgiveness, and self-trust when discomfort would be easier, and she explores how small, values-based choices (especially those that are rooted in compassion rather than fear) can redirect the course of our lives. Rather than framing outcomes as rewards or punishments, she describes them as the natural flow of how we show up, what we plant, and what we're willing to claim. This heartfelt episode of the podcast also touches on Jill's ongoing work with nontraditional healing methods and the clarity that emerged from a recent session, leading her to make an unexpected decision that would seem to go against logic but feels undeniably right in her heart. Throughout the episode, she gently challenges listeners to consider whether honoring their own alignment might actually be an act of service rather than selfishness. Jill also encourages those listening in to sit with uncertainty, boredom, and the space between decisions - trusting that something meaningful can reveal itself there without being forced. She then closes with a spontaneous crystal alchemy singing bowl sound bath. This is a truly reflective and especially intimate episode of Be YOU that you will not want to miss! Show Notes: [2:10] - "Wintering" via rest and quiet is an active, powerful alternative to rushing the new year. [5:33] - Jill views outcomes as the fruit of chosen actions, not rewards or punishments. [8:08] - Listeners are invited to "winter" by honoring soul-aligned choices and trusting what can't yet be seen. [10:45] - Jill puts forth the idea that growth comes from pausing after release and allowing for mystery. [13:42] - Hear how, for Jill, surrender revealed self-advocacy that signaled that the new year had already begun. [16:26] - The episode closes with a crystal singing bowl sound bath. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
This episode of the podcast truly sets the tone for what's ahead: a slower, more intentional start to 2026 that is grounded in truth, humor, reflection, and trust, so if you have ever felt pressure to rush forward before you're ready, then this conversation will feel like permission to breathe. Jill welcomes everyone to the first episode of 2026! Tune in as she opens up with a heartfelt welcome and a moment of celebration after discovering Spotify Wrapped named the show a 2025 marathon show, fan favorite, and one of the most shared podcasts of the year! Jill breaks down what those numbers actually mean (nearly 1,000% growth in new listeners, increased followers, and global reach) while grounding the win in gratitude for the community and team behind the scenes! Jill's conversation then shifts into something far more personal, with her reflecting on a holiday season that didn't look the way she expected: a Christmas without her family home, without beloved decorations, with illness, only fragments of time with all five kids together, etc., and she shares how those changes stirred old childhood wounds that she points out are tied to scarcity, safety, and control. She also discusses how the loss of aesthetic rituals revealed just how much they mattered to her, not out of perfectionism but as a form of healing and self-expression! Jill also features stories of last-minute wrapping paper, forced "Christmas Eve," and learning to laugh at herself when things fall apart, and she revisits her now-signature practice of closing out a year intentionally, explaining why she doesn't rush into January 1st as a clean slate. Jill discusses slowing down, reflecting, releasing, and allowing the year to end on a proper note before welcoming the next. She draws from lunar rhythms, personal intuition, and years of guiding others through this process, and rather than resolutions or hustle, Jill invites listeners into stillness, clarity, and boundaries as preparation for the coming year of the Fire Horse! Show Notes: [0:08] - Jill welcomes listeners, shares a Wrapped surprise, and celebrates five years and over 300 episodes. [3:16 - Hear how Spotify crowned Be YOU Podcast a 2025 favorite! [5:22] - Jill explains how a 13% follower increase shows intentional loyalty and global reach. [8:07] - Jill reminds us that holidays are messy, social media lies, and envy dissolves when there is truth. [11:35] - Jill discusses how Christmas felt strange because she lacked her home. [14:46] - Giving defines Jill, but lost traditions and fractured schedules quietly deepened the holiday sadness for her. [17:25] - Hear how Christmas felt chaotic for Jill even though she embraced imperfect moments and reflected on her love for aesthetics. [20:28] - Jill accepted what she couldn't control, finding meaning and joy despite a messy holiday. [22:56] - Last week's episode replay can help listeners anchor lessons, release burdens, and close the year consciously! [25:35] - January is for slow reflection, preparing thoughtfully for 2026 instead of ushing forward. [28:50] - Jill elaborates on how the year of the fire horse signals growth, intensity, and embracing life's expansion. [30:10] - Hear how Jill eased into the new year gradually, reflecting deeply, letting go, and trusting her soul's guidance. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram, Facebook, and their website! Sales end on January 10th, 2026 at midnight, so be sure to grab your Be YOU apparel while you still can! To close out 2025, Jill is replaying episode 258 from last year. Before diving into the replay, though, she spends some time reflecting on how she's come to reject the traditional idea of January 1st as a strict "new year" and instead embraces a more mindful approach. For Jill, the end of December is a time to pause, reflect, and honor your rhythms rather than chase resolutions or expectations. She shares that over the past five years, she's aligned more with the lunar calendar's timing and has found value in winter as a season for rest, inward reflection, and acceptance. Looking ahead to 2026, Jill highlights refinement over resolutions, describing it as a year of powerful energy and momentum. She recounts the personal and professional shedding, shifts, and deep trust that 2025 gave her, including stepping back from work, grieving her father, and embracing meaningful relationships with her soul tribe. Jill also touches upon the importance of honoring boundaries, self-care, and reflection during the holidays and beyond, stressing that pausing, releasing, and celebrating lessons learned are so important to entering the new year with gratitude, clarity, and purpose. Jill then replays last year's episode, in which she invites listeners into a reflective space to close out 2024. She, as she does this year, highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and honoring the lessons learned over the year. The replay episode offers a calming ritual to help listeners pause, breathe, and consider their personal experiences from the past year, with Jill guiding listeners in creating a clean slate for the following year by exploring practical ways to process the year such as reviewing old photos to sorting experiences into lessons, things to let go of, and cherished memories to hold onto. Listen in for a blend of guidance and gentle encouragement to close the year with heart and intention, and don't forget that time is running out to snag your Be YOU apparel! Also keep in mind that Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [0:00] - Jill embraces reflection over resolutions, honoring personal timing instead of January 1st expectations. [4:15] - Hear why Jill has chosen to rerun episode 258, finding reflection a meaningful way to close the year. [7:59] - 2026 is the year of the fire horse and promises bold, visible energy, inviting action, leadership, and grounded preparation in January! [6:08] - Jill cautions that Be YOU merch will only be available until January 10th at midnight! [10:39] - Hear how Jill has used pauses to navigate grief, trust, and life transitions. [13:29] - Jill reflects on having shed unbalanced patterns, discovering her soul tribe, and witnessing personal and family transitions. [16:13] - Jill also reflects on the five-year anniversary BeYOULive event. [19:05] - Jill stresses the importance of post-holiday self-care, boundaries, and intentional moments to recharge for the new year. [22:16] - Hear how Jill begins the year by reflecting and releasing during the winter before stepping into anything new. [25:20] - Releasing the past and celebrating lessons learned attracts more love and clarity in the new year. [27:28] - Jill argues that pausing to reflect ensures a smoother, more intentional start to the upcoming year. [30:11] - Jill recommends creating a personal ritual, reviewing photos, and approaching year-end reflection with intention. [33:03] - Jill guides grounding via deep breathing and listing significant events over the year. [35:55] - Inviting spiritual support, Jill encourages presence, observation, and reflection before documenting key experiences. [38:29] - Jill reviews her own year milestones, personal growth, family moments, and profound experiences that she might have forgotten. [42:11] - Jill guides listeners through categorizing experiences into lessons learned, things to release, and moments to anchor emotionally. [44:37] - Burning your list and moving the body can help release the year and close it fully. [47:34] - Hear how reflecting revealed a packed year, with boundaries, play, and focus shaping Jill's growth. [50:53] - Jill explains how rituals can help release self-judgment, honor all emotions, and enter the new year unburdened. [54:44] - Jill ultimately encourages holding onto small joys, expressing gratitude, and returning to love and self-trust. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram, Facebook, and their website! Jill's episode for you this week is a brief, heartfelt check-in that is perhaps perfectly timed for the current holiday season! Listen in as she opens up about a sudden family health crisis - her mother-in-law, usually healthy, having fallen seriously ill and spending several days on a ventilator. Amidst the worry and unpredictability, Jill brings listeners into a personal conversation about presence, perspective, and finding grounding even when life throws curveballs! Jill reminds listeners that holidays rarely unfold perfectly according to plan. Rituals and traditions can anchor us, but they aren't always enough when unexpected challenges come up. She encourages listeners to step out of the comparison game - the "should haves" and "could haves" - and to instead find safety and calm within ourselves. Breathing, pausing, and acknowledging the moment can transform how we experience the holidays, even when circumstances aren't what we had hoped. Drawing from her own experiences, Jill also shares a simple but powerful lesson about embracing spontaneity. A plan to enjoy Christmas lights with her grandson didn't go as as the Norman Rockwell perfection she had imagined - no hot cocoa, just the joy they found together which far exceeded her expectations. It's truly never too late to create meaningful holiday experiences, even if they're different from what you had envisioned! This episode of Be YOU also, of course, explores the metaphor of the pearl born from irritation inside an oyster. Jill reflects on how challenges, pain, and unexpected disruptions can produce something beautiful when we face them fully, acknowledging and working through the difficulties rather than avoiding them. The pearls aren't the pain itself but rather what emerges when we engage with it consciously! Listeners of the show are invited to reflect on their own "pearls" this holiday season and to approach the coming year with awareness and gratitude, and Jill signs off with warm holiday wishes and a preview of the annual year-end episode, where she'll guide listeners in uncovering the lessons, growth, and gifts of 2025 before stepping into the new year! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [1:29] - Jill opens up about a family health crisis and encourages finding safety and calm within oneself. [4:52] - Jill models embracing spontaneity and finding joy in imperfect holiday moments such as unexpected Christmas lights. [6:59] - Jill reminds listeners that it's never too late to savor small, meaningful holiday experiences. [8:20] - When acknowledged, pain and challenges can transform into something beautiful, like a pearl forming. [10:33] - Jill invites reflection on life's "pearls" and previews the annual episode celebrating lessons from 2025. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram, Facebook, and their website! This week, Jill brings back one of the most downloaded episodes in the history of the show, episode 15 titled "Bad Mutha" from 2020, long before she really had any idea what this podcast would become. She shares how she didn't reread or rework it and how that is honestly part of the point. She was overwhelmed, anxious, and convinced that she was screwing everything up as a mom, but now, five years later, after a whole lot of therapy, journaling, and soul-searching, she has realized that the guilt that she felt then is the same guilt so many of us are still carrying now. In this replay episode, you will hear Jill wrestle with the old stories that she used to tell herself such as the story that she was a bad mom, that every mistake was permanent, that other mothers were doing it "right" while she was just keeping her head above water. You'll also hear the moments that still tug at her heart such as the night that she chose a spotless kitchen over watching a Star Wars movie with her daughter, memories that she has replayed endlessly as if punishing herself could rewrite them. However, this episode is about naming what's actually underneath mom guilt: perfectionism, comparison, and the old wounds which we drag into adulthood without even realizing it. It's about understanding why we cling to the belief that we're failing, even when the evidence says otherwise, and it is, of course, about the uncomfortable truth that guilt doesn't make us better mothers; it only teaches our kids to carry the same shame that we're trying to outrun. Jill encourages listeners to remember that every parent has their private struggles, no matter how shiny their family looks from the outside. Every child grows through their own challenges, and every mother, whether she believes it or not, is doing the absolute best she can with the tools that she has, so if mom guilt has been background noise for you or if you're ready to let go of the impossible standards that have followed you for years, this revisited episode will meet you exactly where you are! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [1:31] - This episode is a replay of episode 15 of the podcast, titled "Bad Mutha." [5:04] - This episode is all about mom guilt. [7:11] - Jill admits that she long believed that guilt made her a bad mother. [10:54] - Jill realized that her "bad mom" narrative was not offering her truth. [13:32] - Jill shares a story of how a missed movie with her daughter still reminds her of how her anxiety misguides choices. [15:58] - Unspoken stress led Jill's daughter to feel disappointed and hurt. [17:20] - Jill recognizes that her haunting memories are exaggerated guilt that she can't rewrite. [20:07] - Perfection is impossible, and self punishing stories aren't reality. [22:11] - Hear how Jill realized that unresolved personal issues amplified comparison and perfectionism, intensifying guilt unnecessarily. [24:29] - Jill rewrote her story, collecting evidence of love to take on guilt and perfectionism. [26:59] - Comparing ourselves to other parents steals our peace because everyone struggles behind closed doors. [28:46] - Jill discusses how perfectionism exploits unresolved wounds, making parents feel inadequate despite their efforts. [30:37] - Healing needs to involve inward reflection, honest conversations, apologies, and self-forgiveness to move forward. [33:09] - Jill argues that real mothering comes from self-healing, not guilt, so that children experience joy and wholeness. [35:13] - Hear how observing a highly present mother reignited Jill's anxieties, despite her own progress in parenting. [37:10] - Jill chose self forgiveness after realizing that her parenting evidence showed love rather than failure. [39:07] - Jill reminds parents that their guilt reflects perfectionism, not the reality of their kids' futures. [42:11] - Jill found freedom by accepting her children's independence and releasing expectations driven by perfectionism. [45:52] - Kids' choices reflect their own paths, not parental failure or shame. [49:34] - Jill encourages moms listening to journal guilt and affirm their worth on a daily basis. [53:04] - Jill also encourages sharing these reflections with friends! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique for Black Friday! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram and Facebook! Join Jill this week as she invites you to slow down with her - not "when things calm down" but right now, in these last days of the year. She kicks things off by sharing a few recent reviews that genuinely meant the world to her, including reflections from women who joined her at the recent BeYOULive event in October. Their words remind her why she shows up every week with no script, no notes, and ultimately no plan other than to be fully present and fully herself. When it comes to this episode's conversation, if you have listened to episodes 299, 301, 303, 304, and now 305, then you have likely already realized that Jill has wandered a bit into an accidental mini-series. Nothing was outlined ahead of time, yet each episode has been building on the last, first exploring what we want to feel, then what we don't want to carry into the holidays, and now shifting into something more concrete. What do you actually want to do with the rest of this month - not for your kids, not for your spouse, not for the thousand invisible jobs you take on. What do you want? Jill also shares her own words for the season - joy and, unexpectedly, "Christmas," which means something to her that she couldn't explain even if she tried. She then walks listeners through a simple practice of writing a list by hand of everything that you personally want to experience in December. They can be big things, tiny things, silly things, meaningful things, etc. Afterwards, choose five non-negotiables, things that are absolutely happening no matter what - whether the month goes smoothly or, as Jill's mom would say, "goes to hell in a handbasket." From there, Jill guides you through bringing your chosen word into each experience, documenting it, and actually acknowledging how it feels to finally put yourself back on your own list. Jill is even doing this with you herself, so if December has flown by too many years in a row, this episode is your invitation to claim even a few moments that are entirely, unapologetically yours! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [1:58] - Jill shares a couple of positive reviews left by listeners recently. [4:04] - Jill has realized that her recent unplanned episodes formed a mini-series building toward concrete December actions. [5:36] - Jill chooses "joy" and "Christmas" as her words and en listeners to handwrite a personal December list. [8:01] - Jill encourages listeners to list personal December wishes and to then choose five non-negotiable experiences for themselves. [11:56] - Jill encourages documenting each activity and taking note of how it felt to finally prioritize yourself. [13:07] - Listeners are asked to honor their chosen experiences and to reflect on choosing themselves. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique for Black Friday! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram and Facebook! Listen in this week as Jill takes listeners into the final stretch of 2025! With only thirty days left in the Year of the Snake (a year defined by shedding, releasing, and uncomfortable but necessary evolution), she invites everyone to step into December with intention, and she reminds longtime listeners that her annual December 29th ritual is coming: a fresh, guided closing of the year that includes a meditation and a revisit of the photos on your camera roll. Before that episode gets here, though, Jill returns to conversations from the past few weeks, revisiting the work around holiday expectations, letting go of traditions and obligations that drain us, and imagining the season the way we've always wished it could feel. She loops back to exercises around the worries we speak aloud without realizing how much weight they carry, especially when directed at the people we love under the guise of "concern." Jill takes this concept even further, proposing a simple but effective system: two jars - one for every spoken worry, criticism, or fear masquerading as care and one for every moment we consciously choose the opposite. There is no punishment or shame, just visibility, honesty, and reinforcement. She reveals how this practice exposes the stories we cling to like childhood security blankets and how shifting those stories changes far more than our mood; it affects our energy, our relationships, and the tone of our entire day. Via personal reflection and practical suggestions, Jill encourages listeners to clean up their emotional and energetic space now, not in January. December can be steady, clear, and intentional if we're willing to actually work with what comes to the surface and allow yourself to feel everything. Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [1:27] - Jill urges listeners to end December intentionally and skip traditional resolutions for a gentler New Year. [4:05] - Jill revisits last episode's holiday exercise returns so that we can recommit to letting go of fear and instead choosing joy. [6:51] - Jill suggests tip-jar "games" to curb speech that is based on fear and to reward healthier patterns. [9:18] - Hear how embodiment helps reduce worry by replacing mental loops with grounded nervous-system habits. [11:41] - Jill explains how childhood conditioning makes toxic behavior feel familiar, creating looped patterns as an adult. [14:44] - Negative talk influences your health, relationships, and the energy that you broadcast. [16:49] - Hear how December sometimes causes old pain to resurface. [19:34] - Jill's advice is to allow yourself to feel everything fully while balancing joy and grief without being overwhelmed. [21:23] - Jill recommends a morning gratitude prayer to feel joy and holiday presence. [25:13] - Jill recaps the episode's themes and invites listeners to shape their month with intention! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Merch and apparel is now available through an exclusive collaboration with Confetti & Cloth Boutique for Black Friday! Comfortable and stylish sweatshirts, hats, coffee mugs, and more! Available while supplies last. Find them on Instagram and Facebook! The holiday season is here, and Jill is also here to share her thoughts on how to avoid the holiday season being the stressful period that you probably believe it to be. Focusing particularly on Thanksgiving in the United States, she directly challenges listeners, stating that if you are tired of doing the holidays the same way every year, then it is you who has the power to make a change! Jill encourages listeners to examine your holiday routines and question whether those routines are truly serving you, and she cautions against falling into patterns of resentment, self-sacrifice, and victimhood. Jill also walks listeners through a quiet exercise to reconnect with yourselves through breath, body awareness, and intuitive movement. She suggests writing exercises to uncover what you no longer want to participate in during the holidays and then to envision your ideal holiday experience. Jill stresses the importance of believing that you deserve this, being open to receiving it, and committing to holding onto that vision. While Jill acknowledges that making changes to holiday traditions may be difficult and cause conflict with family members, she also highlights the fact that with love, clarity, and compromise, you can rewrite the holiday narrative in a way that serves you, and she encourages listeners to have the courage to say no, set boundaries, and prioritize your own needs and desires! Jill ultimately wraps it all up by expressing her belief that when listeners stop making yourselves last on the list, the holiday season will look very different (and better) than years past, and she reminds listeners that you have the power to create the holiday experience that you truly want! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [1:36] - Jill welcomes listeners and reminds them they already contain their best selves. [4:44] - Hear Jill discuss her raw, unscripted approach to the podcast. [6:51] - Jill urges women to claim their agency and to stop repeating holiday "obligations" that drain them. [8:59] - Unspoken resentment can destroy relationships. [11:16] - Jill invites listeners to find quiet pauses to reconnect with the body and inner guidance. [13:32] - Jill describes building intuition via silence, body awareness, and gentle movement free of judgment. [16:35] - Jill encourages listeners to free-write holiday boundaries to release tension. [19:29] - Hear how imagining detailed, desire-filled holiday scenarios increases the likelihood of you eventually creating them. [22:19] - Jill highlights the importance of claiming permission, deserving joy, and welcoming a holiday experience that you truly want! [25:29] - Jill encourages rewriting holiday patterns via boundaries, self-worth, and intentional loving action. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Join Jill this week as she discusses the difference between someone feeling truly heard versus someone hijacking a group setting. She uses the example of a Zoom call in which two participants dominated the conversation, going on lengthy tangents instead of following the facilitator's instructions. Jill offers the possibility that such behavior is not meant to be malicious and discusses some possible reasons for it, including nervous system dysregulation, ego protection, and general lack of self-awareness. As the leader of a group, Jill stresses the importance of politely yet firmly redirecting someone who is monopolizing time and energy in order to maintain the structure of the container for the entire group, and she provides some specific suggestions for how to handle these situations with compassion. Jill also touches on the holiday season quickly approaching and promises to share tools and strategies in an upcoming episode to help listeners navigate family dynamics and personal boundaries during this time of year! She also spends a little bit of time discussing the recent in-person BeYOULive event which was the 300th episode of the podcast. She describes how she forgot to give away two of the raffle prizes at the event and reveals the winners in this episode of the show! After spinning the virtual prize wheel, Jill announces the winners of the 5-month house cleaning service and the $1,500 dinner at her favorite local restaurant! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [01:27] - Jill emphasizes the fact that her podcast centers on self-worth and has naturally evolved into mostly solo episodes. [03:31] - Jill reflects on having hosted her recent first ever live event. [06:55] - Jill announces prize winners from the recent BeYOULive event! [9:00] - Popular Be YOU merch, especially the green sweatshirts, will be sold through an upcoming boutique collaboration! [11:19] - Hear Jill read a recent glowing review from a listener. [12:44] - Jill is contrasting being heard with hijacking a space after witnessing two men dominate their introductions in a Zoom meeting. [15:11] - Jill suggests that over-talking can stem from nervous-system dysregulation masquerading as control. [18:10] - Jill explains that performative over-talking often reflects insecurity, masking a need to feel relevant. [20:51] - Grounded people share concisely, unlike those compensating through dominance. [22:45] - Jill argues that leaders need to gently interrupt rambling participants to protect the group's structure. [25:11] - An effective leader prioritizes the group's container over one person's comfort or ego. [27:37] - Jill suggests that if the facilitator won't reestablish structure, you can respectfully interrupt to save time. [30:33] - Jill previews some upcoming lessons on aging, boundaries, and taking on holiday pressures with self-confidence. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
This week on Be YOU, join Jill as she revisits an exercise from two episodes ago in which listeners were asked to do a "brain dump" of their fears and worries and then rewrite/reframe them in positive ways. She encourages listeners to continue doing this exercise, even affirming that many people around the world are participating! The key part of the exercise now? As Jill explains, be aware of when you are speaking your fears and worries out loud, and immediately "flip the script" by saying the positive version out loud instead. Jill gives some examples, like if you find yourself complaining about someone being irresponsible, you could instead say out loud that they are learning and growing. She highlights that it's really important to say the positive version out loud and not just think it. Jill makes the argument that the words that we use have a lot of power and energy and that we often speak our fears and worries into existence without even realizing. By consciously flipping the script out loud, she reiterates, we can change the way we see the world and the people in it. Jill also takes a moment to plug a book written by a previous guest of the podcast, Lisa Morton – a book titled Aligned at Home: How Feng Shui and Holistic Design Can Restore Your Energy and Well-Being. Grab a copy here! Also, don't forget - Jill will be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering a deep dive into self-discovery. Head to jillherman.com for more details! Show Notes: [01:59] - Jill encourages listeners to leave podcast reviews, and she praises her hardworking editing team. [04:53] - Jill is revisiting episode 299, highlighting the power of words through a "flip-the-script" exercise. [07:03] - Listeners all over the world are encouraged to speak positivity out loud, recognizing how words manifest energy and truth. [09:22] - Jill advises literally "striking and reversing" negative self-talk by instead saying affirming statements aloud. [11:39] - Jill reflects on how speaking of our worries only reinforces negativity. [13:55] - Jill plugs the book Aligned at Home, written by previous guest Lisa Morton! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Although she is in disbelief that she is finally saying this, welcome to the 300th episode of the Be YOU podcast! This week, Jill shares some highlights from the recent four-hour BeYOULive event where more than 150 women from around the world came together to celebrate 300 episodes and being themselves! At its heart, the event was really all about helping women let go of the "masks" they wear in everyday life - roles, behaviors, and ways that they see themselves that are preventing them from showing up as their true selves. Through a series of exercises, attendants, without shame or judgment, identified the masks that they tend to hide behind, wrote them down on actual masks, and then took them off as a symbolic act of release and self-reflection. Women were also encouraged to be vulnerable, share honestly, and lift each other up, with Jill highlighting choosing self-compassion over self-criticism (or the salve over the salt). Beyond the mask activity, the event included dancing/movement, journaling, and small group conversations, all designed to help the women reconnect with who they really are. Jill really highlights how powerful of an experience that it was, with women bravely having opened up about their various hopes and fears. Several women, for example, share their experiences with holding back from pursuing wants and desires out of fear - such as wanting to cut or even shave their hair but fearing that they don't have the "right" face for it. This was truly a memorable leg of the Be YOU journey for Jill, and she is sure that it was for most of the over 150 women who attended as well! That's why she wraps up with a VERY exciting announcement: she has changed her mind about not hosting a retreat to focus on her upcoming book! That's right – Jill WILL be hosting an upcoming retreat - the More of Me retreat - offering an even deeper dive into self-discovery, so be sure to tune in and head to jillherman.com for more details! SPECIAL THANKS TO: Pacula Diamonds, Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, Barrett McNagny LLP, Coletech Quality Woodworking Inc., Tolon Restaurant, Waddell & Associates, & Wilcox & Associates Show Notes: [1:27] - Jill is celebrating the podcast's 300th episode, thanking loyal listeners worldwide for embracing the podcast. [5:19] - Jill welcomes attendees to the BeYOULive event, introducing button distinctions. [7:48] - Jill further recognizes more attendees with special buttons. [9:14] - Lindsay is gifted a custom $2,400 jewelry piece from Pacula Diamonds as Jill praises those who traveled far to attend. [11:51] - Sydney from Pacula Diamonds explains how her jewelry design symbolizes passion and reminds wearers to follow their true selves. [12:45] - Jill spends a few minutes thanking sponsors and everyone who helped make this happen. [16:32] - Jill explains the event's flow, inviting attendees to relax and simply be themselves. [19:43] - Openness, physical movement, and emotional safety are all encouraged. [22:12] - Jill leads women in acknowledging some shared vulnerabilities. [25:09] - Alicia shares that women often feel pressure to hold everything together for everyone else's well-being. [28:05] - Jill explains that personal growth means shedding old protective layers. [31:13] - Self-development isn't about fixing flaws but rather evolving into your true potential. [33:44] - Jill encourages reacting to self-protective behaviors with compassion instead of judgment. [35:15] - "Masks" such as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overconfidence are mentioned as examples. [37:16] - Humor, keeping busy, and emotional suppression can also be self-protective masks. [39:03] - Jill leads a symbolic mask-removal exercise. [42:03] - Participants are instructed to label and release their personal "masks" for a silent reflective walk. [46:38] - Jill lists some common emotional masks such as perfectionism, control, people-pleasing, success, and constant caretaking. [49:29] - Jill invites women to view themselves with the same compassion that they show one another. [51:46] - Jill contrasts self-criticism ("salt") with self-compassion ("salve") in healing old emotional wounds. [53:56] - Jill demonstrates using "of course" statements to replace shame with compassion. [56:42] - Self-compassion helps soften harmful patterns and promotes growth. [59:25] - Cynthia reflects on finding calm and connection through a flute-themed mural that resonated with her. [1:00:42] - Alicia reflects on how enabling others' behavior can harm herself even though she does it to seek peace. [1:03:32] - Attendee (not host!) Jill compares the exercise to a form of religious confession, helping her process and release her emotions. [1:04:15] - Erin shares that embracing self-compassion helps her heal from feeling like she always has to be strong. [1:07:43] - Hear how Daniella felt a sense of unity and calmness seeing all the other women walk together after removing their masks. [1:08:17] - Lydia reveals how she often gives others advice that she doesn't give herself. [1:10:03] - Jill urges women to see flaws as protective gifts with value. [1:14:00] - Jill recalls cutting her hair short across three decades and women admiring her bravery to do so. [1:16:54] - Jill invites participants to admit if fear or others' opinions has ever stopped them from changing their hair. [1:18:11] - Alicia expresses wanting to shave her hair off but feels uncertain about how it will look now. [1:19:42] - Hear Misty share that cutting her hair gave her a sense of empowerment and ownership. [1:22:02] - Drastic hair changes often reflect preparation for deeper personal change. [1:25:09] - Cynthia volunteers for a haircut, expressing courage and self-acceptance. [1:28:47] - Tracy realized that embracing bold, colorful clothing boosts her confidence and makes her feel empowered. [1:30:41] - Jill thanks generous attendees who bought group tickets and describes the powerful "unmasking" heart display. [1:33:09] - Nervous system health means staying present with emotions rather than suppressing them. [1:34:58] - Jill notes how the women let loose and had a good time and emphasizes that the mask exercise doesn't mean no longer wearing masks but more so being aware of them. [1:38:20] - Jill reflects on having ended the event imperfectly but finds comfort in attendees' healing words. [1:41:03] - Listeners are invited to find a guiding word within themselves as Jill announces her plans for a new retreat! [1:44:27] - Jill further explains her upcoming More of Me retreat, offering flexible payment options. [1:46:18] - The More of Me retreat is a three-day transformative experience for women to rediscover their true selves. [1:49:05] - Jill reiterates her gratitude for the event attendees' courage, believing that everyone present contributed to healing and growth. [1:52:11] - Jill closes the episode with a deep breath exercise. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
We are only a few days from BE YOU Live!! Tickets are almost sold out! Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Barret McNagny Law, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Learn more and get tickets at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill We are getting so close to the upcoming BE YOU event celebrating five years and 300 episodes of the podcast, and this week, Jill is providing listeners with some important details - both reminders and updates - about the event. She stresses that while this episode is primarily for listeners who are definitely going to the event, everyone else is invited to listen as well in case you're on the fence about whether or not you want to go and/or just want an idea of the energy and atmosphere that will be experienced at the event. Jill encourages listeners to find ways to seek out the same sense of authenticity, connection, and support that will be present at the event, whether it be through creating your own gatherings or your own social circles, and she stresses that the event is about dropping masks, letting go of competition and comparison, and simply being yourself! For those who are attending the event, listen in as Jill provides some helpful details, from the event schedule to the dress code (which is essentially no dress code at all). She promises attendees that the event is designed to make them feel safe, seen, and held, without any pressure for vulnerability or deep work beyond what they are comfortable with. She also shares her vision for the event, a place where women can simply be themselves without feeling a need to perform or impress. Ultimately, Jill invites listeners to fully embrace the opportunity, whether attending the event or finding ways to create a similar experience in your own lives, and she passionately encourages an attitude of openness, surrender, and trust in the process as she promises that the event will be a transformative and literally unique experience! Join Jill for a short and sweet episode this week as she discusses the importance of being mindful of our words. She invites listeners to join her in a special exercise over the next few weeks, explaining that she feels called to do a "tuneup," or a period of self-reflection and reprogramming of her mindset. Jill encourages listeners to make a thorough list of all their worries, fears, and negative thought patterns. After releasing that via writing, she suggests connecting with nature, doing some movement and breathwork, and then reframing those negative thoughts into positive affirmations. Jill highlights the power of our words and how they can shape our reality, sharing some examples of how speaking positively, even exaggeratedly, about relationships and situations can help manifest that reality. Listeners are invited to write out these positive affirmations, display them, and read them aloud daily, connecting to a higher power or their own inner wisdom! Jill reveals how she plans to do this exercise alongside listeners over the next two months, sharing the changes that she notices not just in herself but also in the people and circumstances around her. She encourages listeners to make this practice their own and trust their intuition. Jill also, of course, reminds listeners that there are still tickets available for the upcoming live 300th episode event! Get your ticket now before it's too late! Show Notes: [01:28] - It's nearly the 300th episode of the podcast! [02:53] - Hear why this is a shorter episode than usual. [05:45] - Jill encourages writing a handwritten list of every fear, then grounding through movement and nature. [07:58] - After deep breathing, Jill advises listing ten fears and then rewriting them as bold, positive affirmations. [10:46] - Jill also encourages listeners to thank the universe as if their desires already exist. [12:39] - Everything is energy, including words. [15:19] - Jill reveals that she plans to share her own results after two months. [17:37] - It's not too late to buy a ticket for the upcoming event! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
We are just 12 days out from BE YOU Live!! Tickets are almost sold out! We are closing doors for ticket sales on Sunday, October 19th at midnight so don't wait! Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Barret McNagny Law, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Learn more and get tickets at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill We are getting so close to the upcoming BE YOU event celebrating five years and 300 episodes of the podcast, and this week, Jill is providing listeners with some important details - both reminders and updates - about the event. She stresses that while this episode is primarily for listeners who are definitely going to the event, everyone else is invited to listen as well in case you're on the fence about whether or not you want to go and/or just want an idea of the energy and atmosphere that will be experienced at the event. Jill encourages listeners to find ways to seek out the same sense of authenticity, connection, and support that will be present at the event, whether it be through creating your own gatherings or your own social circles, and she stresses that the event is about dropping masks, letting go of competition and comparison, and simply being yourself! For those who are attending the event, listen in as Jill provides some helpful details, from the event schedule to the dress code (which is essentially no dress code at all). She promises attendees that the event is designed to make them feel safe, seen, and held, without any pressure for vulnerability or deep work beyond what they are comfortable with. She also shares her vision for the event, a place where women can simply be themselves without feeling a need to perform or impress. Ultimately, Jill invites listeners to fully embrace the opportunity, whether attending the event or finding ways to create a similar experience in your own lives, and she passionately encourages an attitude of openness, surrender, and trust in the process as she promises that the event will be a transformative and literally unique experience! Jill spends some time this week reflecting on some of the lessons that she has been learning as she plans her upcoming event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast! She gets into the personal growth that she has experienced via planning this event, acknowledging her tendency to take on too much responsibility and do everything herself, even though this often leads to burnout and resentment. However, after realizing that she was slipping back into this pattern as she planned the event, Jill had an epiphany - the true lesson was not about her own limitations but about fully surrendering and trusting that the universe will provide what is needed, so rather than trying to force herself to sell every single ticket, Jill has decided to let go and allow the seats to fill organically. She declares that there will be 200 women in that room, and she is going to "dance, breathe, sound bathe" her way to that outcome, rather than grinding and hustling. Jill also shares that this event is not just for the attendees but is also a gift to herself, acknowledging that she has often put others' needs before her own. She invites listeners who may also struggle with holding too much responsibility to reflect on their own patterns, and consider how they can let go and allow the universe to support them! Enjoy this vulnerable and insightful reflection from Jill this week as we get closer and closer to the big event! Show Notes: [1:29] - Jill encourages even those not attending the upcoming event to seek out authentic community. [4:49] - Jill invites participants to join a WhatsApp group for connection and friendship building prior to the event. [6:46] - Jill advises women to quiet their minds, set intentions, and tune in to the energy of the event. [8:42] - Jill encourages being open to unexpected growth and self-trust while releasing control and tendency to compare. [11:21] - The event will feel safe, genuine, and deeply affirming without forced anyone to be vulnerable. [13:28] - Jill promises an authentic four-hour experience that's grounded in sincerity and connection. [16:38] - Listeners are reminded that this is the one and only time in history that this exact event and experience will happen. [19:42] - Jill promises that no one in the room will feel that they don't belong but warns that she might not be able to individually talk to all attendees after the event. [22:04] - Jill has felt divinely guided to create the event, referring to it as 'annointed." [25:47] Jill shares some logistics such as arrival time, snacks, parking, and tips for maximizing comfort. [28:10] - It's reiterated there is no dress code; Jill wants attendees to be comfortable! [30:50] - Be YOU will be one of only 2% of podcasts to make it to 300 episodes! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill Jill spends some time this week reflecting on some of the lessons that she has been learning as she plans her upcoming event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast! She gets into the personal growth that she has experienced via planning this event, acknowledging her tendency to take on too much responsibility and do everything herself, even though this often leads to burnout and resentment. However, after realizing that she was slipping back into this pattern as she planned the event, Jill had an epiphany - the true lesson was not about her own limitations but about fully surrendering and trusting that the universe will provide what is needed, so rather than trying to force herself to sell every single ticket, Jill has decided to let go and allow the seats to fill organically. She declares that there will be 200 women in that room, and she is going to "dance, breathe, sound bathe" her way to that outcome, rather than grinding and hustling. Jill also shares that this event is not just for the attendees but is also a gift to herself, acknowledging that she has often put others' needs before her own. She invites listeners who may also struggle with holding too much responsibility to reflect on their own patterns, and consider how they can let go and allow the universe to support them! Enjoy this vulnerable and insightful reflection from Jill this week as we get closer and closer to the big event! Show Notes: [02:14] - Jill asks listeners to please subscribe to the show and also to rate and review it. [04:49] - Jill discovers how stepping outside of her comfort zone reveals hidden strengths, resilience, and even surprising superpowers! [07:13] - When Jill carries too much, her body crashes, reminding her to delegate instead of be a martyr. [09:47] - Even though her perfectionism still resurfaces, Jill accepts help, hires support, and confronts her old "do it all herself" pattern. [12:43] - Hear how Jill learned the lesson on top of the lesson - catching herself before repeating the toxic cycle. [14:58] - Jill saw her nervous system crave safety, but delegation and support prevented old destructive habits. [17:48] - Determined, Jill knew that she could sell 200 tickets through sheer grit, creativity, and drive! [20:18] - Instead of proving herself through exhaustion, Jill embraced surrendering and trusting that the right women will come to the event. [23:04] - Hear how Jill realized that the lesson wasn't settling but rather receiving abundance and trusting support to arrive. [26:21] - Jill reflects on having realized that the event is also a gift for her, not just attendees. [29:10] - Jill declares that 200 seats will be filled via joy, creativity, prayer, and absolute trust. [31:26] - For Jill, taking care of everything herself tends to feel safe, but embodiment work helps release old burdens without self-criticism. [34:10] - By loosening her grip on control, Jill invites magic, ease, and unexpected gifts to unfold! [38:01] - Listen as Jill reframes attendance: focus not on sacrifice but on potential gains, growth, and connection! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Thank you to our BE YOU Live Event sponsors: Surack Enterprises, Franklin Electric, The Pearl, Tolon Restaurant, Wilcox and Associates, Coletech Quality Woodworking, and Waddell & Associates! Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULive on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill Join Jill this week as she discusses the upcoming Be YOU event called "Be You Live" which is celebrating its five-year anniversary and 300th episode! Jill acknowledges that this event may not be for everyone, as our nervous systems can sometimes try to prevent us from doing things that will expand and challenge us, but she encourages listeners to truly listen to their intuition to determine if this event is right for them in spite of any doubts or excuses their mind may come up with. Jill also spends time this episode discussing her perspective on true friendship, describing the type of deep, authentic friendships that she has built upon – ones in which there is radical honesty, vulnerability, and a willingness to challenge each other to grow – and she contrasts this with more surface-level friendships that avoid difficult conversations. Jill shares her own experience of having to have a "clearing conversation" with someone she cares about but ultimately having realized that they were not meant to be close friends. She highlights the importance of shedding relationships that no longer serve us but doing so with self-compassion rather than judgment. Jill ultimately encourages listeners to reflect on the quality of your own friendships and your relationships with yourselves, suggesting journaling, self-reflection, and allowing yourselves to fully feel emotions as ways to pave the way for the type of meaningful connections she talks about in this episode, believing that when we can be that kind of friend to ourselves, we will attract those kinds of friendships with others! Show Notes: [01:31] - Jill is urging listeners to overcome fear that's preventing growth and attend the upcoming Be YOU event! [04:35] - She challenges the idea that self-sacrifice is noble and insists that true belonging comes from being yourself. [07:20] - Real friendships mirror growth and honesty and first require self-acceptance. [10:04] - Jill teaches compassion toward yourself, and she notes how friendships reflect inner healing and might naturally dissolve. [13:12] - Jill accepts that not all connections align, affirming her high standards. [15:43] - Jill values friendships with honesty and sincere feedback. [18:25] - True friendships, Jill insists, honor authenticity and the highest self, not old wounds from childhood trauma. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULiveEvent on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill Listen in this week as Jill shares the unexpected origins of the podcast which is now ranked in the top 100 podcasts in the highly competitive "Entrepreneurship" category on Apple Podcasts! Jill highlights how her podcast is considered a "spiritual" podcast, with an underlying current of connecting to one's inner truth and intuition, despite discussing topics like competing as women and dealing with trauma. She reflects on her very engaged, "sticky" audience that listens from start to finish each week, recognizing that Be YOU listeners have very much become a community. Jill also reflects on how she used to obsess over download numbers and metrics until realizing that focusing on those who aren't listening takes away from fully appreciating those who are. She now instead measures the podcast's success by how much joy, inspiration and transformation it brings to her listeners! She also gets vulnerable, sharing that there are times when she doesn't feel fully energized or present for an episode, but she chooses to show up authentically rather than strive for perfection. You can also expect to hear Jill further discuss her upcoming Be YOU live event, sharing some of the lessons that she is learning through the planning process, even when things don't go as expected! Show Notes: [01:35] - Jill shares how she launched Be YOU by intuition, later realizing that she had unknowingly manifested it. [03:58] - Be YOU hit Apple's top 100, proving its global reach! [07:18] - Jill reflects on why she stopped tracking downloads, valuing loyal listeners' consistency. [10:14] - Hear how Jill shifted focus from absent listeners to cherishing those who listen. [12:22] - Success now means joy in creating and the podcast's impact on listeners' lives. [15:40] - Jill explains how she reframed her lifelong "I'm the only one" wound with compassion and grace. [18:36] - True healing comes from loving people and projects as they are, not expectations. [21:16] - Jill discusses how self-criticism and control stem from childhood wounds, but compassion can soften both. [23:57] - Jill argues that accepting painful experiences as lessons creates growth rather than complacency. [26:58] - Jill reframes her high standards as a superpower and rejects gendered labels like "picky." [30:05] - Jill expects accountability with kindness, noting an important difference between high standards and toxic perfectionism. [31:36] - Jill promises that the upcoming event will foster safety, healing, and true connection among women. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULiveEvent on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill The clock is ticking - the Be You celebratory event is just over a month away on October 25th in Fort Wayne, Indiana! Jill is so excited but also feeling the pressure of planning this large event on her own, and she shares that she's learned some valuable lessons, such as how it's okay to jump in even if you haven't spent much time in the "kiddie pool" before. Jill is asking for help from her listeners, inviting a select group of her most dedicated podcast fans to a special birthday celebration dinner for the 5-year anniversary of the Be You podcast. To be considered, listeners should email Jill and share the impact the podcast has had on them. She is asking listeners to record a short video talking about how the podcast has made a difference, which she plans to use at the event and for other promotions. The event itself promises to be an expansive experience, not a deep transformational one. Jill states that attendees will be beautifully reminded of not just who you are, but how freaking amazing you really are, and topics will include people-pleasing, perfectionism, comparison, and the connection between our inner selves and our leadership/work lives. While Jill highlights the fact that this event is not a necessity, it is an opportunity for those who feel called to it, and she encourages listeners to say yes to themselves and invest in their own growth while also honoring that the decision is a personal one without pressure! Show Notes: [01:31] - Remember that the upcoming Be You live event is October 25 in Fort Wayne, with hotel discounts available! [03:22] - Jill realizes how hosting alone is overwhelming but asks listeners to share how her podcast impacted them. [07:09] - Listeners are encouraged to film short selfie videos to support her event. [08:14] - These listener videos will be used for promotion, the event itself, and a future project. [09:17] - Sponsors are offering prizes, including a $1,500 dinner, jewelry, beauty package, and inspiring experiences! [12:26] - The upcoming event explores self-worth, leadership, and expansion beyond perfectionism. [14:32] - Jill urges women to choose themselves and to stop overcommitting out of guilt. [17:19] - True generosity isn't self-sacrifice; women need to instead embrace rest and community. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.
Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You'll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn't know you had and didn't realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women. You'll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you'll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou Search #BEYOULiveEvent on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill Jill shares her thoughts this week and experiences around the podcast, which she reminds listeners she does without any commercial sponsorships or monetization. She explains that she wanted the podcast to be a creative outlet where she could be her authentic self, without feeling any pressure to do it in a certain way. Jill goes on to discuss the upcoming Be YOU event that she is organizing and how she was able to secure corporate sponsors for it. She also shares some details about the sponsors, including a $5,000 donation from a billion-dollar company and how the sponsorships have allowed her to market the event in new ways. Stay tuned for a a personal update as well, as Jill reveals that she will be starting peptide treatments soon and that she has made the difficult decision to pause her popular "Plot Twist" group coaching program in order to focus on writing a book that she feels called to create. She acknowledges that this decision may disappoint some of her loyal listeners but explains that she needs to honor her intuition and creative process, even if it means turning down guaranteed income. Ultimately, Jill reminds listeners of the importance of alignment and not trying to "sell" everyone on what you're offering, highlighting that when you are true to yourself, the right people will naturally be drawn to you without the need for convincing or forcing! Show Notes: [01:28] - Jill discusses podcasting as a pure art, valuing authenticity and connection over sponsorships or money. [04:00] - For Jill, podcasting embodies authenticity, joy, and a shared permission slip to be real. [05:19] - Hear how intuition led Jill to secure sponsors for her event while embracing compensation free of guilt. [08:07] - Sponsors invested because Jill's authentic vision inspired trust. [11:24] - Every creation carries a unique signature that cannot be precisely duplicated. [13:59] - Jill announces that she has started on peptides. [16:30] - Jill has chosen to pause coaching programs and retreats to prioritize finishing her book Bad Mother. [18:49] - We learn that Jill is focusing solely on podcasting and writing Bad Mother while offering free texts and referrals. [20:15] - Jill reflects on rejecting guaranteed income to follow uncertain but divinely led paths. [22:59] - Alignment doesn't require forcing, selling, or shrinking; what resonates will flow toward you naturally! [24:22] - Rejection, Jill feels, isn't personal but simply a sign of misalignment and differing paths. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Be You Podcast!" ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out.




So many mums will benefit from this episode, including myself.
you described me to a T. I need to learn to say no, I have mom guilt, I have head trash. can't wait to time in weekly.
Great practical advice and action steps to get out of our own way...every.single.day. I've got some work to do.
Wonderful podcast! It offers the opportunity to tune into yourself and surround your mind with positive words, understanding, and encouragement from other women. What a gift, love it!
oh my this was great info and wish I had all this info when my daughter was young!😍
self love❤❤❤
Jill is an amazing trainer, leader and friend. If you are not afraid to dig deep and get real with your personal journey to a better you then this podcast is for you! You owe it to yourself to say yes to the Be You journey!
I would not be where I am without you or your journey.