Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

If you've ever hit that one-year mark and thought, "Okay. That's it. Something's wrong with me…" this episode is going to land in all the cells of your body. In today's Held in Her Stories episode, I sit down with Chelsea — one of the incredible women inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery — and she lets you into the real behind-the-scenes of her journey: Not the polished Instagram version. The crying to a friend because it's been a year version. The buying every book, every supplement, every device version. The "I'll try anything that worked for someone else" version. You know… the human version. Inside this episode, we go there: The moment she realized she'd spent so much money trying to "do it right"… and why none of it actually touched the part of her that was truly hurting What it really means to be "in tune" with yourself when you're TTC (hint: it does not mean you're pregnant yet, and it does not mean you never have fearful thoughts) The HUGE shift that happened when she stopped outsourcing her decisions to doctors, family, and the internet — and started trusting her own channel again The wild sign she and her husband received on a hill in San Francisco… from a dog… with the exact name they want to give their baby 😭 How FMBM helped her go from critiquing her body (former dancer life, mirror always on "what's wrong") to thanking her body for a cycle and feeling her emotions as proof that she's alive This isn't a story about someone who did one mindset shift and got pregnant overnight. This is about a woman who reclaimed her self-trust, her body, her voice, her creativity, and her life while still on the journey to her baby. Meaning, you don't have to keep waiting to feel good.  Listen if… You've bought all the things, done all the things, and still feel like you're failing somehow You secretly believe you have to be perfectly healed / perfectly positive / perfectly self-loving before your baby will come You're tired of fertility content that talks at you instead of making you feel less alone and less broken This episode is a love letter to the part of you that is so done performing and so ready to be loved and accepted — exactly as you are. Let it release all that tension while you go for a walk, fold laundry, or lie in bed doing absolutely nothing productive. You get to be human here. AND incredibly fertile. 👉 LISTEN NOW!

If you've ever thought… ⭐️"I should be further along by now." ⭐️"Once I finally get pregnant, then I'll feel okay." ⭐️"If I don't control this, it won't happen…" …then this week's Fertile Ground episode is for you. It's part of my Held in Her Stories series — real women, real fertility journeys — and this one with my client Macey is… a lot. In the best, most honest way. Macey got pregnant the very first month she tried. Then she miscarried two months later. She was still bleeding from her loss when her best friends announced their pregnancy — the friends she had always dreamed of being pregnant with at the same time. From there, she went straight into:"I need to get pregnant again. I need to catch up. I need that baby back. Once I get that baby, I'll be okay." Every period felt like reliving the miscarriage. Every cycle felt like proof she had "failed" again. Until she found my book Fertile Ground, and then joined Fertility Mind-Body Mastery — not because she was in a good place, but because she was miserable and would've tried anything to feel even a tiny bit of peace again. (Hint: You don't have to feel perfect to ask for help!) In this episode, Macey shares: The moment she realised her suffering was coming more from her perspective than from her circumstances. How she went from obsessively needing a baby to realising, "If I never had kids, my life is actually… beautiful." The difference between clean grief ("I'm sad this didn't happen") and dirty grief ("I messed up, I failed again"). How she stopped treating her body like an enemy and started seeing it as a teammate. The wild month she genuinely found herself looking forward to her period — not because she didn't want a baby, but because she knew she could hold herself through whatever came. Why getting a puppy instead of waiting for a "hypothetical baby" became a nervous-system-level turning point… and what happened right after. 😉 This is not a before-and-after "I suffered, then I did this program, and now everything is perfect" story. It's a story about: ✨Letting go of the pressure to prove you're worthy. ✨Taking the baby off the pedestal (without pretending you don't want it). ✨Learning that you don't have to be "doing more" to deserve love, support, or a beautiful life. ✨What it actually looks like to get your life back while you're still on the fertility journey. If your heart has been heavy lately… If the holidays amplify the ache… If you feel like everyone else is "moving on with their lives" while you're stuck in baby limbo… I would love for you to curl up with a tea, take a deep breath, and listen to this conversation. It's soooo healing!  👉 LISTEN NOW!  

If we're honest… for a lot of us, TTC quietly turns our partner into a project. Did you take your vitamins? Don't get in the hot tub. Drink more water. Not that beer. Let me just manage literally everything so this can finally work. On top of tracking, appointments, and Google spirals… you end up carrying the mental load for you, your body, and your partner. And suddenly, the person you fell in love with feels more like… a fertility coworker you're constantly correcting. 😬 Today's podcast is medicine for that part of the journey. 🎧 New episode: Held in His & Her Stories — with my husband, Dan. In this episode, I bring my husband Dan (yes, the famous spreadsheet-loving money guy 😉) onto the mic to talk about: What happens in a marriage when control becomes your default survival strategy How our differences (he's a doer, I'm a feeler) almost pulled us apart… and then became our superpower Why healthy conflict is not a sign something's wrong, but the doorway to deeper intimacy What it actually feels like, from a man's perspective, when he's being micromanaged vs. trusted The quiet, very un-Instagrammable power of vulnerability — and how it made our marriage feel like a dream again (his words, not mine 🥹) We also share really honest stories about resentment, asking for what you need, emotional check-ins, and the moment I stopped being "mom" to my husband… and started letting him rise as my partner again. If you've ever thought: "If I don't control this, it won't happen." "If I let go, everything will fall apart." "I'm exhausted from holding all of this by myself…" …this episode is for you. And if your partner is open to it, this is a beautiful episode to listen to together. Let it be a starting point for one honest conversation about what you each need right now. LISTEN NOW!

Ahhh – you don't want to miss this one! The 2nd episode in our HELD IN HER STORIES series is for the woman who's smart (Like, scientist smart), resourced, doing all the things… and still feeling anxious underneath it all. Today I'm talking to a member of FMBM with a PhD who came into fertility like it was a science experiment — 5 rounds of IVF, deep in the research, treating her body like a problem to solve. And then she walked through IVF and miscarriage… and had to learn how to trust her body again after loss. This convo is raw and so, so validating. We get into: That belief: "If I don't control every detail, it won't work" — and how it actually creates more contraction in the body Anxiety and OCD on the fertility journey (we actually name it) and what it looks like to stop resisting the resistance. Moving from "I can think my way out of this" to "my body is telling me in real time what it needs" Rebuilding trust after loss And the sweetest part: creating relationship with baby before they arrive (her French blue nursery curtains are iconic) She said: "I realized how much I withheld love for myself. Once I let myself have it, I became a better wife, daughter, and future mom." And I have to say it plainly: what she learned inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery was how to love herself before becoming a mother — so she didn't need a positive pregnancy test to give her permission to do it. The amazing news? Self-love isn't just a cute concept — it's biology. Because when you start loving yourself, your body finally feels safe. Your nervous system settles. Your hormones find balance. Your heart opens up to receive life again. LISTEN NOW!

I'm thrilled to share something brand spankin' new with you — a special Fertile Ground podcast series called HELD IN HER STORIES. These are real conversations with women inside my program, Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, who are rewriting and rewiring what it means to trust life, their bodies, and themselves. Each story is a living example of what happens when we stop trying to "get it right" and start letting ourselves be held — by the messiness of our emotions, the safety of community, and the unseen forces conspiring in our favor. In today's chat – I sat down with Amber, a returning FMBM member who got pregnant with her first baby inside the program. She came back — not because she was broken — but because she wanted to see what this fertility, this pregnancy, this baby had in store for her. In this episode, we explore the moment Amber realized she'd tied her value to a number—and how she gently untied it. We talk about why we so often think we're failing when we're really not, and the difference between shame-based self-awareness and compassionate self-awareness — how one closes you while the other opens you. You'll also hear what joy actually feels like in the body (think: grilled cheeses, pumpkin carving, laughter at the park) and why receiving your real life now isn't "giving up" but actually getting you closer. Plus, we dive into fear vs. desire — letting your desire be just a little louder so your life can change — and how modeling sovereignty for our kids helps them learn to trust themselves, too. "I stopped looking for proof that something was wrong with me, and life got a thousand times easier — even though nothing outside me changed." If you've done all the work and still secretly wonder, "What's wrong with me?" — this one's for you. LISTEN NOW!

Let's talk about a belief that's quietly running the show for so many brilliant, high-achieving women trying to conceive:   ✨ "If I get support… if I make this easier… then I won't be/feel worthy of my baby."   I believed that for years.   But it's a bullshit lie — and it's one that's keeping way too many brilliant, sensitive women stuck in cycles of shame, burnout, and isolation.   In this week's episode, we're naming it all. The stigma. The pressure. The perfectionism.   And we're diving into the shocking research that reveals just how little emotional and mental health support women TTC are actually receiving — even though up to 40% meet the criteria for anxiety or depression, and less than 7% get help.   Let that sink in.   So many women are suffering in silence — doing everything "right" on paper, while quietly breaking inside.   In this episode, I share: ✨ Why shame is sneakier than we think — and how it's the biggest barrier to change. ✨ All the ways perfectionism makes you think you're being a "responsible good girl" when really, you've  just been taught you need to prove your worth. ✨ The trap of believing "ease = not enough effort = highly unlikely to create new outcomes" ✨ How "waiting to feel better once you're pregnant" is secretly delaying what your body needs now   This one's juicy, honest, and full of truth bombs you didn't know you needed.   Listen now!   Because support is not a f*cking  luxury. It's part of the medicine.  And you don't have to suffer your way to your baby.   Not anymore.

I've noticed more and more people online saying "there's no such thing as unexplained infertility." That if you just test enough, fix enough, try enough… you'll find the root cause.    And although that may sound comforting to some — I respectfully and fully — disagree.   All those years I was TTC, I do not believe my body was missing something that I could have found in a test.   I believe I was being asked to trust something deeper.   To stop playing the martyr.  To stop micromanaging every second of my life in the name of "doing everything right."  And to start seeing fertility not as a puzzle to solve…but as a relationship to build.   This episode isn't for everyone. But it is for the woman who's: Tired of being told to focus and search for what's wrong with her body, her cycle, or her timeline—only to feel more anxious and less hopeful. Noticing that the constant testing and tweaking is affecting her mental health. (Like it was for me) Starting to wonder if there's another way—because fixing and forcing hasn't worked, and maybe… just maybe… it's time to try trusting in the mystery of fertility instead. If that's you, come listen here.   And if you listen and think, "Okay, this is what I want — but how do I actually do that?"  Then come join us inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery.   That's where we take this truth and make it tangible. Where you learn how to regulate your nervous system, trust your body, and create the conditions for life to feel safe to land.   No more perfection. No more proving.  Just deep trust, steady support, and powerful transformation   Listen now!  

I have to tell you about one of the most powerful full-circle moments I've ever witnessed in my coaching career — and now you get to witness it too. In the latest coaching call of the Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, something magical happened. One of my longtime clients — who just completed her third (!!) round of FMBM — shows up to her very last call… with her newborn baby in her arms Baby Daniel. (Yes — partly named after a good man. My husband Dan, actually ) But that's not even the most touching part. She opens up about a powerful force she felt all throughout trying to conceive. One she thought was pressure… or obsession… or maybe even her "crazy" for wanting another baby.  But the moment she gave birth? That force left her body. And she realized… It was never fear. It was never lack. It was never selfishness. It was love. It was purpose. It was something far bigger than her, moving through her.  A divine current saying: I choose you for this And now that Daniel is here, she can feel the peace again. Not because she finally got what she wanted… but because she followed the call. So my love, that's what this episode is all about: What if your desire isn't coming from you… but for you? What if that ache isn't a problem to fix… but a guide to follow? What if you're not crazy for wanting more… but chosen for it? This is one of those episodes that will soften every harsh voice in your head and help you feel safe to trust your desires again — especially if the world tells you you're asking for too much.

Let's cut the fertility fluff. You say you want the baby. And I 100% believe you. But the real question is: Does your nervous system—the bodyguard of what gets let in—believe it's actually safe to receive this? This week's episode is not for the surface-level manifesting girlies. This is for the woman who's done so damn much and still feels like she's stuck in fertility purgatory. Because here's what no one tells you:  Sometimes, it's not the heartbreak you're scared of anymore. It's the vulnerability of letting yourself have it. This episode will hit if: You see your baby in a meditation—soft cheeks, tiny toes, you even feel their energy in the room with you—and without even thinking, you snap your eyes open and shake it off like it was too much. Too real. Too soon. You tell your friend, "Honestly, I'm okay either way." But you feel your throat tighten—because you're not. Not really. You just don't want to sound desperate. You told yourself you'd rest today… but suddenly you've "accidentally" created a 12-point plan for optimizing your fertility routine again. Spoiler: That's not self-sabotage. That's nervous system survival mode just doin' its thang. This week on the pod, we're diving into: 4 reasons why receiving can feel like a threat, not a reward. How perfectionism kills your ability to hold paradox which is what regulates your nervous system. And how to stop managing the fertility journey like a job ...and start actually becoming the woman who can let it in that baby!  LISTEN NOW! And if this episode lands like truth in your bones? Omg you have to join my new program HELD at www.spenserbrassard.com  It's where we stop gripping, overthinking, and efforting... and start building real capacity to receive. Because yes, you want the baby.  But deep down? You want so much more than that. You want your softness back. Your peace. Your permission to have a full, juicy, supported life And that's exactly what we're practicing together inside HELD. We start May 7. It's $149 Let this be the season you stop pretending you're fine with "maybe someday."  Let this be the season you become the woman whose God damn ready to receive.

If you're not in the space to hear about pregnancy loss, please take care of yourself and skip this one. But if you've been through it—or are in it right now—this is for you. My intention is to honor you. To walk beside you. To name the sacredness of this experience in a world that often doesn't know how. In this episode, I share my own story: a pregnancy loss I had this past December. I've had two healthy boys, and three miscarriages—each one a portal that cracked me open. This most recent one, especially. Not from fear, but from surrender. Pregnancy loss brings you into direct contact with life and death at once. And yet, we don't freaking talk about it. We don't honor it. We very often resist it. In this episode, we'll explore: Why we don't honor pregnancy loss in our culture (and how that creates suffering)  ️How to gently, soulfully honor a loss in your own life Spirit baby communication & what it means to be in equal relationship with that soul ️What to do with the fear of it happening again And 5 beautiful, creative ways to mark your loss with love This isn't about fixing anything. It's about witnessing the deeper truth of an experience that is too often shamed and dismissed  in our culture.  This episode is an offering from my heart to yours. Not to rush you. Not to force meaning. But to remind you that meaning will come. And that you're not in this alone.  Listen to the episode now

This week's episode is for the woman who has been through a lot lately. Has life asked you to carry more than most in the past season of your life? You've been the strong one. The responsible one. The one with deep resilience. You still show up — even when your heart feels shattered. Even when no one notices how much you're really holding. And maybe you're starting to wonder… What happens if I stop holding it all? What happens if I don't keep over-giving, over-doing, over-functioning? That's exactly what we're talking about on the podcast this week: Entering Your Season of Restoration and Receiving  Not because you're weak. Not because you've given up. But because you're finally wise enough to know… You don't have to suffer to be worthy of the life you want. We're unpacking: Why women resist receiving (even when they crave it) The identity shift it takes to feel safe in this new season of your life. What receiving actually means and looks like IRL— on a soul and body level And the truth that might crack your heart wide open: Your desire for your dream life must become bigger than your fear of judgment. This is an invitation to step into a new season. A season where you feel nourished. Supported. Loved. And absolutely fucking worthy of a fabulous dinner out… even if you did nothing all day. This episode is a portal  (I'm not kidding. Listen to it and see…)  And if you're ready to be deeply held, to soften your grip, and to trust your body and your path again — come join us inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. This is the work. This is the place. This is YOUR season.

Out of 156 podcast episodes, I've never done one on IVF—which is honestly kind of wild.   And if I'm being really honest with you… I think it's because I've been so careful with this topic. I know how deeply emotional IVF is, and I never want to add to anyone's pain. But this year, I made a promise to myself: to speak my truth fully. Because when I hold back out of fear, I also hold back from the women who need to hear this message.   Here's the truth: IVF isn't just a medical process—it's a deeply emotional one. And yet, so much of the focus is on numbers, medications, and test results… while no one asks how you're actually feeling in all of this.   I know firsthand how easy it is to attach your worth to your IVF outcome. I've lived the shame of feeling like my body was failing me. But the most powerful shift I made—the one that changed everything—was realizing this:   Your worth has nothing to do with how your baby comes to you. You are not broken. You have done nothing wrong. IVF isn't something happening to you—it's something you're choosing (more about this inside of the podcast) and that shift alone is game-changing.   When you approach IVF from this place—not from fear, but from deep trust in yourself—it doesn't justfeel better… There's ample research that it improves outcomes.   Studies have shown that when IVF patients apply mind-body tools, it leads to a higher quality of life and improved pregnancy rates. And yet, most women go through this process without knowing how to take care of themselves through it all.   Not on my watch!   In this episode, I break down: The shame so many women carry around IVF (and how to release it) The small but massive mind-body shifts that can transform your experience Why mind-body work isn't about "being calm" but about staying connected to yourself How to move through IVF feeling stronger, not smaller.   If you're thinking about IVF, going through it, or trying to heal from it—this episode is for you.

This weekend, something happened with my sweet 17-year-old Yorkie-Poo, Abby, that really hit me hard and made me reflect on how we all react to uncertainty.  As we got ready for our Sunday family walk, Abby did something she's never done before — she sat there, refusing to move. For the first time in her life, she didn't want to go for a walk. I panicked: Shit. My girl is really slowing down. What does this mean about the future? In that moment, I was flooded with fear—not just about her future, but about my own. The uncertainty of what was happening to her made me feel unsafe. I didn't want to feel the grief of it all. It triggered a primal response in me to freeze. I felt paralyzed by all of my emotions.  And it reminded me so much of how I used to feel when TTC… The fertility journey can bring up the same emotions. You're hit with so much uncertainty, and suddenly you just feel totally overwhelmed with all of these flavors of emotions, that you can barely freakin' move. And in those moments, life feels completely on hold. We all have those moments when we feel like…"Bah, it's just all too much!"  And I remember when I was TTC, spending hours in bed, just wanting to stare at the ceiling for the rest of the unforeseen future. Even the smallest tasks of going for a neighborhood walk felt like too much work.  But just because you WANT to freeze, doesn't mean you can't retrain your nervous system to keepflowing – despite uncertainty. It's about choosing a different, more compassionate RESPONSE when you are feeling yourself freeze –even when everything inside you is telling you to pump the brakes. In today's podcast, I'm talking about how to navigate those moments when you feel stuck and frozen in place: Why you freeze when faced with uncertainty and how to understand it. How to soften the freeze response without forcing yourself to feel better right away. How to keep living your life despite uncertainty/grief/sadness — even when you don't feel "ready." How to know if you're avoiding feeling how you really feel.  Redefine what 'honoring your fertility journey' looks like, so that you can still feel safe to live your life, despite not being pregnant yet. (And how this actually increases fertility) This podcast will show you how to let go of the pause button, finally press PLAY   and get back to doing what you love—while still holding space for the unknown. A life skill you'll have forever, promised to bring you so much peace   Listen to the full 30 min episode now!

I want to ask you a hard question: How's your relationship with your body right now? No, really. How are you actually treating it? In today's episode of the Fertile Ground podcast, I'm breaking down something that's been on my mind for a while: how women have been conditioned to have a transactional relationship with their bodies.  We've ALL been taught that our bodies are like machines. That they're here to serve us. That they somehow OWE us. To perform when we tell them to. To fit into these narrow boxes of what "healthy" and "acceptable" look like.  And when they don't? We judge. We criticize. We ignore. We disconnect. How many times have you caught yourself thinking things like: - "I'll rest only if I see everything done." - "I'll love my body only if it gets pregnant." - "I'll trust it only if it behaves how the doctor wants it to." That's the transactional thinking I'm talking about. It says to your body (who by the way, is a living, breathing ecosystem) "I will only be in a relationship with you, if you give me what I want"—and that's not how I think you actually WANT to be in relationship with your body  When we stop fighting against our bodies, when we stop seeing them as broken or unworthy of love UNTIL "fill in the blank"  then we open up a space for healing—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And it'sthis healing that can have a profound impact on fertility. Click here to listen to this podcast now!

I know what you're thinking.   Yoga? For fertility?   How the hell is lying on a mat and breathing supposed to help when you get pregnant when you're not even breaking a sweat? When every part of you feels like you need to be doing more, trying harder, pushing through?   That's exactly why I invited Jennifer Edmunds onto the Fertile Ground Podcast—to flip the script on what the 5000 year old 🤯 practice of yoga is really about. (dude that's SO old!)   When Jen was TTC, she used yoga –  not as a means to an end – but as a way to slow down the urgency, come back to the power of her body, and—shockingly—to do less to create more.   She shares how yoga helps her and the women she works with, to regulate their nervous system, regulate their cycles, and get pregnant after loss and IVF.   My favorite part? She calls out the BS of pushing through the ebbs and flows of your monthly cycle like a goddamn man. Newsflash: You're not supposed to have energy all month long. She teaches you why honoring your body's cycles makes you more powerful—not less.   She breaks down: 🤰The numerous different diagnoses she had and eventually, still was able to create 2 beautiful children. 🧘‍♀️ Alternative ways to measure progress on your fertility journey that actually make you feel like you're killin' it. ⚡️ Why more effort isn't always the answer (and how that mindset is draining you). 💥 How yoga teaches you to respond to pain instead of fear it. This episode is exactly what you need if you're sick of feeling like you're never doing enough.   Listen now 🎧   Let's disrupt the hustle.

Does it feel like the Universe is giving you the silent treatment? You're doing sooo much and yet – you're hearing crickets… WTF…am I right? It just doesn't feel like there's any proof that things are working I remember the grief that came with every cycle and the belief that if I just did more—restricted myself more, stayed home more, or moved to a fucking forest— then I'd have more control.  In this week's podcast, I'm challenging that belief. What if those "crickets" aren't really crickets?  What if they're a reflection—a mirror from the Universe inviting you to see yourself and your life more clearly. In this episode, I'm diving into: The concept of manifestation, but not the kind that leaves you feeling like you're never good enough or that you have to be perfect to receive what you want.  Why do women believe "the more I sacrifice, the more I deserve?" Some freakin' amazing journal prompts to get you closer to your truth.  How to expand  your nervous system capacity for pregnancy. If you're tired of feeling like you're being ignored by the Universe, tune in. Cause YOU'RE NOT!   Let's break down this idea of "nothing happening" and reveal the truth that there's so much more going on beneath the surface.

Kaitlyn had been TTC for five years. Five years of doing everything "right." Five years of putting her emotions aside and pushing through. Five years of trying to bepositive because she thought feeling anything else would ruin her chances.   So when her best friend got pregnant unexpectedly (without even trying), she wanted to be happy for her. But instead, she felt a wave of anger so strong it scared her.   Then came the shame.   She told herself she shouldn't feel this way. That she was being a bad friend and wrong for having strong emotions.   But here's what no one tells you: Shaming and suppressing emotions doesn't make them go away. It just makes them louder in other ways.   When Kaitlyn found Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, she didn't know if she could open up about all of this. She worried she'd be judged. That maybe she was the problem.   But when she imagined joining, her body felt lighter and relieved. When she imagined staying where she was, her body felt heavy and overwhelmed.   That was the first time she really listened to herself and her body.   And inside this week's podcast episode, she shares what happened next…   💛 How she stopped feeling broken every time something didn't go as planned. 💛 How she learned to ask for what she needed instead of shutting down. 💛 The HUGE impact of guilt vs. shame on your nervous system (and why it matters for fertility). 💛 How the "homework" inside FMBM isn't just theory. You'll learn all the different ways it changes your real life immediately.    The biggest shift?   She stopped treating her emotions like the enemy. And in doing so, she stopped treatingherself like the enemy.   If you've ever felt like your feelings were too big, too much, or just "in the way" of getting pregnant—this episode is for you.   ✨ Listen now ✨

I know what it's like to feel like you have to earn your baby by walkin' that tightrope of perfection. (That's literally what it felt like for me…)   But to be blunt: perfectionism doesn't create life. It kills it. It takes your humanity—your emotions, your sadness, your joy, your utter aliveness—and convinces you that because you feel things, then you're "not there yet". That your humanity is the problem. That if you just try harder and control yourself more… then maybe it will finally happen if you're a good enough girl.   I want you to take a deep breath with me right now. What if there's a new approach to getting pregnant that is rearing its head to disrupt the fertility industries subliminal expectations of perfection?   This week on the Fertile Ground podcast, I'm talking about how perfectionism sneaks into the fertility journey, where the hell it comes from (not you), how it impacts your nervous system, and most importantly—how to bring life back to the journey of conception.   Because here's the truth: The more alive you feel now, the better your chances are for conceiving life.   I know the approach I talk about inside of this podcast is different. I know that learning to accept your imperfections sounds wildly wrong to a particularly egoic part of your brain (and lovely to your body). And I know it goes against the grain of 90% of what "fertility experts" are saying. But I also know, from my 8 years TTC and the women inside Fertility Mind-Body Mastery, that it works to realizing: That you are whole now. Helps tremendously to cope with the ups and downs of the fertility journey.  It increases the likelihood of conception by up to 55%. Who the hell wouldn't want that? Win-win. Badabing. Badaboom.   So if you're tired of feeling like nothing you do is ever enough… I invite you to listen to this episode. And if it wakes up your aliveness, know that Fertility Mind-Body Mastery is open for enrollment. Inside, you'll be treated like a human And learn simple yet powerful mind-body tools to step out of perfectionism and into trust, so you can create a life (and a baby) from a place of wholeness now.

Perfection is a big f*cking fat lie. I know. It's tough. Every day, that little voice in your head whispers: "If you just do everything right, you'll avoid pain and only feel immense pleasure." And this belief is holding you hostage. (Just like it did to me, for years while TTC.) This BELIEF is making your journey feel like an uphill battle – and no matter how hard you push for "perfection," your dreams of pregnancy will always seem just out of reach. I'm calling out the myth that has you stuck, confused and blaming yourself,, and I'm bringing in someone who cracked the perfectionist code.  Meet Eva – the woman who thought a perfect career, house, body, and even a "perfect" baby would bring her peace. For years, she ignored her nervous system's signals, pushing for that impossible perfection. And what did she get in return? Exhaustion. Shame. And a constant feeling of "not enough." But then Eva joined my program, Fertility Mind-Body Mastery (link here Vanessa), and everything (slowly) shifted. Here's what she learned: You are not broken. (Like, actually.) She realized while being a part of the FMBM community and hearing other women's coaching, that your thoughts and struggles are normal and not a sign of something wrong with you. It's just cultural conditioning trying to sell you a lie. Pain is not the enemy. It's part of life. Stop trying to avoid it – feel it, process it, and watch it pass way faster. You are allowed to rest. It's not about pushing harder, it's about listening to your body and honoring what it truly needs. Perfection is overrated. You'll never be perfect. But you are already worthy of everything you want – right now. Eva now knows how to show up for herself – even when things feel messy. (She gives plenty of examples of this in the podcast) And guess what? She got pregnant with a baby girl inside the program If you're utterly exhausted striving for the unattainable and ready to finally let go of the pressure to be perfect, it's time to get on board. Listen to this week's podcast now: Imperfect and Still… Got Pregnant, and hear Eva's in depth, super vulnerable full story. Then, make 2025 the year you stop trying to "do it all right" and start embracing the messy, powerful, beautiful woman you already are. Join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery today. You don't need perfection. You need you.

Here's a question for you: When you think about your fertility journey, what comes to mind? The tests, the memories, the treatments, the hope and disappointment... all of it, right? But what if I told you that the real key to navigating this journey isn't just about those things? What if the missing piece to creating the life you want is something a little more unexpected? And deeper? It might sound a little strange, but hear me out. In the first Fertile Ground podcast episode of my Self-Love Series, I'm diving deep into the one thing that has the power to transform how you approach not just fertility—but your life as a whole. It's not something you can just Google or buy in a bottle, and it's definitely not another "hack" or quick fix. The medicine: It's learning to truly love yourself – even… or better put especially in the hard times, the triggers, the times when you really need… you.  And I don't mean the "treat yourself" kind of love. It goes beyond taking a bubble bath. I'm talking about the kind of compassionate self-love that helps you feel safe in your own skin, trust your body, and—believe it or not — attract (not chase) the outcomes you truly desire. If you're feeling like you've tried everything on your fertility journey, but still haven't found peace, or if you're just exhausted by the emotional rollercoaster… then this episode is for you. This isn't about feeling good enough once you've reached some milestone or goal. It's about being enough, right now—on the journey and realizing that when you embrace yourself fully, your body can actually relax, heal, and flow in a way that might surprise you. Curious to hear more? Click here to listen!