The Affair Recovery Podcast

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Ep. 023 | How to Forgive When You Can’t Forget

2026-09-1401:19:33

Whether it's been months or years, carrying the weight of betrayal can feel like something you'll never be able to set down. You'd let it go if you could, but forgiving feels like saying it was okay, or letting them off the hook. In this episode, we sit down to answer listener questions about forgiving what you can't forget, sharing what forgiveness looked like in our own recovery and starting with the piece so many people miss: what forgiveness actually is, and what it isn't. In this episode...

Ep. 022 | His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both are Betrayed

2026-08-3153:02

Two years into their marriage, Ryan confessed an addiction. In the painful years that followed, Jessica had affairs of her own. In their words, they “set their marriage on fire.” Twenty years later, they are both therapists helping couples heal from infidelity, and in this episode they tell their own story. In this episode: Ryan and Jessica's full story, from his confession to her affairs to the three disclosures it took for the whole truth to come outWhy Jessica says affairs don't cause affa...

Bonus Ep. | Rebuilding What You Broke: Boundaries & Safety after Infidelity with Jim Ramos

2026-08-2435:27

A promise is not a boundary. Jim Ramos, author of Guardrails and founder of Men in the Arena, joins Jeremy and Rick Reynolds to lay out the practical guardrails that rebuild safety in a marriage, and why saying “you can trust me” changes nothing on its own. In this episode: A guardrail breach begins small and compounds from thereWhat a spouse is asking for when they ask for a boundary, and why it is not an attempt to manage anyoneWhy the charge of legalism misses what is actually at stake in ...

Ep. 021 | Triggers After Infidelity: What To Do When They Hit

2026-08-1758:28

A song. A street you have to drive down. A photo your phone decides to resurface. You were fine five minutes ago and now you cannot breathe, and nobody warned you that this is what recovery would feel like. In Episode 21, our team focuses on 24/7 triggers: what they actually are, what to do when therapy or group is not available, and how the unfaithful can support their spouse in navigating these unexpected moments that rob everyday life. In this episode: What a trigger actually is, why it fi...

Ep. 020 | White-Knuckling vs True Recovery: The Road Map to Healing Sexual Addiction

2026-08-0358:18

What does a true recovery roadmap look like? Does reaching the final destination simply mean stopping the addictive behaviors? In Episode 20, we welcome back Matt Wenger, Clinical Director at the Begin Again Institute, for part two of a conversation on healing sexual addiction. We get practical about the difference between sobriety and recovery, signs that someone is ready to address his/her addiction, how an unfaithful spouse can support a traumatized partner while doing their own healing, a...

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