Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just hitting the ceiling? Does God feel distant lately even though you’re still reading, praying, and trying? Do you secretly wonder if His silence means you did something wrong? After narcissistic abuse, spiritual disconnection can feel deeply personal. You may start wondering if God is disappointed in you, if you did something wrong or if His silence means He stepped back. In this episode, I share a vulnerable moment when I felt that exact way — angry, confused, and convinced God was choosing not to respond.  I'm sharing 3 simple, healing tips that calm your body, quiet the internal noise, and make space to notice where God is already showing up. If you’ve been asking, “Why can’t I feel God anymore?” or “Has God gone silent on me?”, this episode will remind you that He is still close to the brokenhearted — even when you can’t sense Him. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever thought you were doing “better”… only to be blindsided by anger, grief, or resentment out of nowhere? Do you feel confused or ashamed when something still hurts? Have you ever wondered, “Why am I still affected by this if I’m healing?” In this episode, I’m unpacking why “moving on” after narcissistic abuse  isn’t really healing. I’ll talk about the pressure to get over it, why your body doesn’t let you skip grief, and what real healing actually looks like when emotions keep resurfacing.  Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you avoid making decisions because you’re afraid God hasn’t spoken clearly enough? Do you call it “waiting on God,” but feel stuck and unsure how to move forward? Do you worry that trusting your judgment means you’re not trusting God? In this episode, I’m sharing how God actually designed decision-making to work—and why faith doesn’t require fear, paralysis, or perfect certainty. We’ll look at biblical discernment, why abuse disrupts trust in your God-given faculties, and how to make God-led decisions with confidence instead of staying stuck. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you second-guess even simple decisions after narcissistic abuse? Do you feel anxious or frozen when you have to choose—worried you’ll get it wrong again? Do you know you’re capable, but don’t feel safe trusting yourself? In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making feels so hard after narcissistic abuse and how to rebuild self-trust without overthinking. You’ll learn the three internal anchors that restore clarity and confidence—so decisions stop feeling paralyzing and start feeling steady again, even when fear is still present. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever sense something but immediately question if you’re just making it up? Do you struggle to trust your inner knowing or spiritual discernment? Feel like you can’t tell the difference between God’s voice and your own thoughts? In this episode, I'm exploring why discernment feels so shaky after abuse and how God’s leading differs from manipulation. I'm also sharing three practical ways to strengthen discernment after narcissistic abuse to rebuild trust in the place where God often speaks — your inner knowing. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  Ever feel like you believe God is good — but you’re afraid to depend on Him again? Do you trust God in theory, but struggle to trust Him emotionally after betrayal? Find yourself always bracing for disappointment instead of expecting faithfulness? In this episode, I’m unpacking why trusting God after betrayal isn’t a faith issue and how real trust is rebuilt after emotional trauma and narcissistic abuse. Related Episode: Episode 12: A 5-Minute Reset to Heal Your Nervous System Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever known what the right thing to do was — but still felt afraid of how someone else would react? Do you find yourself shrinking, explaining, or hesitating even after learning about boundaries? Do you feel anxious when you think someone might be disappointed with you? In this episode, I’m unpacking why people-pleasing continues for women healing from covert narcissistic abuse. People-pleasing isn’t kindness, humility, or love — it’s fear-based self-protection that develops when safety and worth feel conditional. This episode explores how narcissistic abuse disconnects women from their voice, discernment, and identity, and why people-pleasing becomes automatic even after the relationship ends. Through a personal story and biblical truth, we shift the focus from behavior to identity in Christ — learning how living from identity, rather than for approval, restores clarity, peace, and emotional steadiness. This episode is about healing at the identity level, not trying harder to stop people-pleasing.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel pressure to keep everything together just to feel okay about yourself? Do you feel guilty when you rest, need help, or can’t hold it all together? Do you notice your confidence drop the moment you feel like you’ve disappointed someone? In this episode, I’m uncovering the quiet lie that slowly destroys self-worth, especially after covert narcissistic abuse. This episode breaks down how that belief forms in emotionally unsafe relationships, how it affects confidence, healing, and discernment, and why it keeps women stuck in over-functioning and self-doubt. You’ll also hear the deeper truth that restores stability from the inside out. This episode is for women healing from narcissistic abuse who want to rebuild self-worth, emotional steadiness, and confidence without striving or self-abandonment.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you wonder if your past makes God keep His distance from you? Do you assume God avoids your story because it’s complicated? Have you been hiding parts of your life — even from God? In this episode, I'm looking at the story of the Woman at the Well in a way that feels real and relatable especially if you’ve been carrying shame after abuse. If you’ve ever felt like your past disqualifies you from hearing God, this episode will help you see why that’s not true — and what changes when shame stops filtering everything you hear. Related Episodes: Episode 13: Why You Still Can’t Hear God Clearly After Narcissistic Abuse (It’s Not Your Faith)   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Feel like hearing God became harder after narcissistic abuse? Ever wonder if God is silent because you did something wrong? Do you question whether what you’re sensing is really God — or just you? In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked reasons hearing God feels difficult after covert narcissistic abuse: shame. I share how shame quietly forms through abuse, how it distorts spiritual clarity, and why struggling to hear God doesn’t mean your faith is broken. This episode will help you understand what’s really happening internally. I pray this episode gives you clarity and blesses you.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.    

Do you ever have days where your body just will not calm down? Your heart is racing for no reason, you feel jumpy, your thoughts won't slow down, and your whole body feels tense and anxious? In this episode, I’m walking you through a simple, five-minute nature-based reset designed to help calm your nervous system and signal safety to your body after narcissistic abuse. I talk about why your body can still feel unsafe long after the danger is gone, how God designed nature to help regulate your nervous system, and a gentle, practical reset you can do anywhere to help your mind come back to the present and your body begin to relax. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel like a shell of yourself — like you're there, but you're not really there? Are you exhausted all the time, struggling with brain fog, or feeling emotionally numb? Have you been wondering why simple decisions feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm breaking down why narcissistic abuse leaves you feeling depleted — emotionally, physically, and spiritually. You'll learn how chronic stress and survival mode affect your body, mind and spirit, why healing requires more than just emotional work, and I'm introducing you to the NEWSTART principles for holistic healing. Plus, I'm giving you 6 simple, practical steps you can take this week to start rebuilding yourself from the inside out. If you've been feeling unlike yourself, this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and a path forward. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you look at where you are now and wonder if you'll ever feel joy, peace or have purpose again? Are you afraid that what happened to you has somehow disqualified you from the life you were meant to live? In this episode, I'm getting real about what the last six years have looked like since I got away from a covert narcissist. I'm talking about standing in the ruins-- the moments when I couldn't see past the pain. If you're in a place right now where hope feels impossible and you're not sure you have what it takes to rebuild, I want you to hear this. Because what I thought was the end turned out to be something completely different.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you ending this year still waiting for things to make sense? Do you feel like you should have more answers by now — like your healing should look more finished than it does? Does the uncertainty of what’s next still make your heart race, even when you’re trying to trust God? In this episode, I’m talking about something we don’t discuss enough — what it’s like to end the year without all the answers. Not because you haven’t done the work, but because healing doesn’t always wrap up neatly. I’m sharing about the quiet shift that happened when I stopped needing to understand everything before I could trust God with it. If you’re tired of waiting for certainty before you allow yourself to feel at peace, this episode is for you. Related Episodes: Episode 7 - Why The Holidays Are Hard After Covert Narcissistic Abuse   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Does Christmas feel quieter than you expected after narcissistic abuse? Are you confused by feeling emotionally neutral — not distressed, but not joyful either? Do you worry that feeling “less” might mean something is wrong with your healing or faith? In this episode, I’m unpacking what emotional quiet actually means after covert narcissistic abuse so you can stop misinterpreting neutrality as disconnection or failure.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do the holidays feel heavier or more emotionally triggering than you expected — even though you're away from the covert narcissist? Are you confused by feeling flat, overwhelmed, or unsettled instead of peaceful or joyful? Do you find yourself wondering if these feelings mean your healing isn’t “working”? In this episode, I’m explaining why the holidays can be emotionally difficult after covert narcissistic abuse — even when you’re no longer in the relationship — so you can stop interpreting normal nervous system responses as personal failure. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Does every boundary you set turn into an argument, guilt trip, or emotional meltdown? Do you feel unsafe or guilty the moment you say "no"? Have you ever wondered why such small limits cause such big reactions? In this episode, I'm breaking down why covert narcissists react so strongly to your boundaries and what their resistance reveals about your healing. You'll learn why boundaries threaten their control (it's not about the boundary itself — it's about their loss of access to you), why their reaction is NOT your responsibility, and how their pushback is actually confirmation you're changing and growing. If boundaries feel scary, this episode will give you clarity, empowerment, and peace. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse Episode 5 - Enough People Pleasing Already! 3 Tips to Set Healthy Boundaries   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you say “yes” when everything in you is begging to say “no”? Do you feel guilty for having needs, limits, or preferences? Do you feel responsible for keeping everyone comfortable even when it hurts you? Do boundaries feel scary because you’re used to keeping the peace at your own expense? In this episode, I’m breaking down why people pleasing is not your personality; it’s a trauma response. You’ll learn why boundaries feel terrifying after narcissistic abuse, how your nervous system learned to equate “no” with danger, and three practical boundary tools you can start using right away. If you’ve ever felt guilty, selfish, or scared for protecting your peace, this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and finally take your power back.     Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel disconnected from God and unsure if you can trust Him again? Does praying feel empty, scary, or like “what’s the point”? Have you been carrying silent anger, disappointment, or confusion toward God? In this episode, I'm sharing why doubt feels safer than faith after narcissistic abuse, and three gentle, practical ways to start trusting God again — even when it feels scary. You'll learn why your ability to trust God has been shattered (and it's not your fault), how doubt is actually keeping you stuck instead of protecting you, and simple steps you can take to rebuild trust in God one small moment at a time. If you've been struggling to pray, struggling to believe, or feeling isolated from God — this episode will help you understand that you don't need perfect faith to move forward. You just need to take one small step. And God is ready to meet you there. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you replay conversations over and over, trying to figure out if you "heard it right"? Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "imagining things" so many times that you've stopped trusting your own perception? Do you feel unsure if you’re hearing God or just “making things up”? In this episode, I’m breaking down how gaslighting affects your spiritual discernment and why it becomes so hard to trust your own thoughts after abuse. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between God’s voice and the noise trauma left behind and practical ways to rebuild your confidence in hearing Him again. This episode is for the woman who feels spiritually disconnected, unsure, or constantly doubting what she senses in her own spirit.     Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.