Brad Carr Podcast

Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter00:00 In This Episode00:29 Introducing 00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior-Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing13:21 The Value of Self-Love-Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted-Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!1:33:46 Further Recommendations-Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgERESOURCESPrevious interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgEPrevious interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrsInterview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJMPeter and Deb's book: https://amzn.to/3SNwIZPPeter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/Peter on YouTube:  @DrPeterSalerno  Deb's lab: https://liebermanlabs.comDeb's business: https://rdqnlabs.comBrad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNpIn this episode, Dr. Debra Lieberman and Dr. Peter Salerno discuss how to rebuild self-trust after suffering from covert relational abuse.

Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter00:00 Understanding the Lindsay Clancy Case02:39 The Role of Mental Illness in Violence05:53 Medication and Its Impact on Behavior11:41 Postpartum Psychosis and Its Implications17:38 Female Mass Murderers: Characteristics and Patterns26:50 Postpartum Screening for Mental Health32:12 Understanding Psychotic Symptoms and Mental Status Exams33:31 Challenges in Early Identification of Psychosis36:08 The Impact of Stigma on Mental Health Disclosure40:56 Destigmatizing Mental Illness and Treatment Options51:59 Nuances of Motive and Responsibility in Mental Illness57:18 Cluster B Personality Disorders and Motive01:03:12 Responsibility and Psychotic Disorders01:04:28 Gender Differences in Violence and Psychosis01:06:12 The Role of Hormones in Violence01:08:57 Contrasting Mass Murderers and Serial Killers (The Unabomber)01:11:40 Analyzing The Unabomber, Ted Kaczynski01:17:46 Violence Is More Prevalent in the USA01:23:37 Interventions and Rehabilitation Strategies01:30:11 Further Recommendations-Previous interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzoRESOURCESPrevious interview with Ragy Girgis: https://youtu.be/go577VfZKzoRagy Girgis Faculty Page: https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/profile/ragy-r-girgis-mdRagy's book: https://www.strandbooks.com/on-satan-demons-and-psychiatry-9781532699894.htmlBrad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNpIn this episode, Dr. Ragy Girgis discusses the complex relationship between mental illness, medication, and violence, with a focus on postpartum psychosis. We explore how psychiatric conditions are misunderstood and the importance of nuanced, informed perspectives.

Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter00:00 In This Episode00:35 Introducing Dr. Harry Reis01:08 The Signs That You Are Loved02:02 Love Causing Sadness02:43 The Key to Happiness03:38 The Answer to Pain and Being Unloved04:57 Writing with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky05:46 Why Relationships Must Come First07:38 The Happiest Countries (Not the USA)08:55 Feeling Unloved Vs. Feeling Lonely10:55 Healing the Pain of Loneliness11:44 Harry's Pioneering Relationship Research14:44 Where to Look for Love17:15 Red Flags In Finding Love19:44 Relationships With Dangerous People24:02 What to Share With People25:50 How to Listen Well. Attention Is Key.28:24 How to Learn to Connect With People30:30 The Cost of Talking With AI Chatbots31:50 The Seesaw: Mutual Support34:42 Gut Feelings and Trust37:00 Gut Feelings and Breaking Up38:22 Gut Feelings and Implicit Cognition42:09 Gut Feelings and Love at First Sight43:39 Multiplicity: We've All Done Bad Things48:09 Distressed Marriages and Feeling Loved48:51 How Much Should We Tolerate In a Relationship?51:33 Cognitive Dissonance and Feeling Loved54:02 Sincere Apologies and Lying59:57 How to Recognize a Liar57:23 Finding Love After Pain59:14 The Cost of Being Alone1:00:21 How to Find Love After a Loss1:02:32 Reappraisal: The Cure for Rumination1:05:45 Don't Give Up On Relationships1:07:33 The Risk and Pain of Divorce1:08:35 Put Away Your Phone1:10:11 Love Languages1:11:38 find Dr Harry Reis online1:12:28 Teaching the World About Relationships1:13:47 Further RecommendationsRESOURCESInterview with Jennifer R. Young: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiIHarry Reis's book: https://amzn.to/4ycIgVCBrad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNpDr. Harry Reis explains how to distinguish genuine love from manipulation tactics such as love-bombing and deception that ultimately lead to toxic relationships.

Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter00:00 In This Episode00:32 Introducing Dr. Peter Salerno00:44 Predatory Relationships: The Most Common Patterns02:40 Why You Are Targeted by a Predator04:59 Who Is Vulnerable to a Social Predator?08:11 The Tactics of a Social Predator10:07 The Psychological Structure of Predatory Behavior13:29 Learn to Use Patterns Not Diagnoses16:14 The Lingering Upset Effect18:38 Gut Feelings and Predators20:40 Questions to Ask Yourself In Relationships22:27 Finding Useful Information on Personality Disorders-Peter Salerno on Narcissism and Genetics: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM25:40 When to Stop Studying Predators26:58 Group Therapy and Recovery28:47 Phase 1: Idealization (Trust)36:19 How Idealization Ends37:45 Phase 2: Devaluation (Control)40:04 Intermittent Reinforcement and Gaslighting42:18 Identifying Intentional Harm46:49 Maintaining Control Over a Target48:02 Why We Can't Recognize Devaluation49:22 Social Isolation and Immersion Tactics51:40 How Devaluation Ends52:30 Phase 3: Abandonment (Avoiding Accountability)53:13 Shocking the Target54:58 Publicly Replacing the Target57:28 Tactics of the Abandonment Phase58:40 Recycling Tactics of Idealization1:01:41 How Abandonment Ends1:02:18 How to Disengage1:03:04 Phase 4: Post-Relationship Abuse1:04:16 Tactics of Post-Relationship Abuse1:05:38 Smear Campaigns and Reputational Destruction1:08:02 Preparation for Post-Relationship Abuse1:10:37 Are Predators In Denial?1:12:37 The Most Important Thing to Understand1:13:43 Trance and False Intimacy1:14:48 Callousness: The Most Important Trait1:17:32 find Dr. Peter Salerno online1:18:04 Upcoming Project with Dr. Debra Lieberman-Previous interview with Peter and Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE1:19:50 Further Recommendations-Previous interview with Peter Salerno: https://youtu.be/lt8AC7x34S8RESOURCESPrevious interview with Peter Salerno: https://youtu.be/lt8AC7x34S8Peter Salerno's book: https://amzn.to/4qU7BROPeter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/Peter Salerno on YouTube and Instagram:  @DrPeterSalerno  Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNpIn this conversation we cover why you do not need a diagnosis to identify the patterns of a social predator, the four phases every predatory relationship moves through, and the critical difference between a defense mechanism and what Dr. Peter Salerno calls a preference mechanism: an offensive tactic delivered in the costume of a defense. He also explains the lingering upset effect, the reason one conversation can cost you a week of sleep, and why that particular confusion is installed rather than accidental.Dr. Peter Salerno is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in clinical psychology, trained to administer the Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised, the standard used to evaluate psychopathy in clinical and forensic settings, and a featured expert in the Hulu docuseries Ted Bundy: Dialogue with the Devil. His book is The Social Predator's Secret Playbook: Traits and Tactics of Pathological Personalities and How to Recognize Them.How to Identify a Social Predator (The 4 Phases) - Dr Peter SalernoThe Playbook Every Social Predator Uses on You - Dr Peter SalernoUnmasking Social Predators: The Phases of Exploitation"Predators idealize then devalue to control.""Genuine intimacy takes time, not rapid idealization.""Gut feelings are signals of manipulation."

Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter00:00 In This Episode00:21 Introducing Anna Motz00:44 Background in the Psychology of Female Violence01:37 Dreams and Violence08:21 Freudian Slips and Violence09:10 Expert Witness for Female Violence and Custody11:44 Manipulative Children14:19 Patterns In Female Violence15:53 Münchausen Syndrome by Proxy21:37 Deception and Violent Women28:47 Treatment for Violent Women40:52 Social Environment and Female Violence43:50 Violent Women as Perpetrators and Victims48:50 Mindhunter and Empathy for Violent Offenders1:01:32 Nature Vs. Nurture in Female Violence1:08:26 Working with Violent Women1:11:47 Motives of Violent Women1:15:49 Self Harm and Violent Women1:19:48 Manipulation and Denial1:23:43 Intimate Partner Terrorism1:24:37 Trauma and Affluent Families1:25:58 Trauma and Predicting Violence1:27:06 Evil People1:27:55 Find Anna Motz online1:28:47 Changing Prisons1:30:57 Further RecommendationsRESOURCESInterview with Fiona Girkin: https://youtu.be/OLQzcOoWBmEAnna Motz's book: https://amzn.to/4xd3jYbAnna Motz on X: https://x.com/motz_annaBrad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq🔔 SUBSCRIBE to help get more guests on the show: https://goo.gl/uEAeNpAnna Motz’s extensive background in clinical psychology, particularly her focus on offender patients, provides a foundation for exploring the psychology behind female violence. She explains that her training in forensic psychotherapy allows her to address both conscious and unconscious motivations that lead to unusual or violent crimes. This dual approach—considering both thoughts and deeper psychological conflicts—offers a comprehensive view of what drives women to commit acts of violence.