Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady! Are you ready to go big in your love life? If you’re ready to make changes that reflect the woman you are today then you’ll definitely want to tune in because Terri and Dr. Dom are dropping gems and spilling tea to help you improve the way you vet your romantic prospects. Lady, by now you’ve heard “choose better” when attempting to find respect and companionship but do you know exactly what that means? Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven questions to ask while dating that will help you make your next decision from a grounded place. Whether you are looking for a good time, not a long time or ready to find your forever person, let this episode you guide you as you engage from a place of personal power, deep self-respect, and high self-regard. Now, you know this wouldn’t be a Cultivating H.E.R. Space episode if we didn’t help guide you into introspective work that will help you identify what you’re looking for in a partner and what you are bringing to the relationship. None of us are perfect and we’re all working on aspects of ourselves so head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and grab a journal so that you can answer the questions that will help you clearly assess where you are in your process so that you can get the love you deserve! And, lady we promised you tea. Join Patreon so you can hear Dr. Dom and Terri spill it. It’s hot, hot, hot in the Aftershow!   Questions You Can Ask to Reveal Someone’s Character “What did your last relationship teach you about yourself?” “What does a healthy relationship look like to you?” “What are you currently working on within yourself?” “How do you typically handle conflict?” “What are your non-negotiables in relationships?” “What brings you peace in your life right now?” “What kind of partner do you want to be?”   Quote of the Day: “Every person you date reflects something back to you—not to judge you, but to show you where you’ve healed, where you’re still growing, and where you’re ready to choose differently.” – Unknown   This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work. Check out Soaking Wet for vaginal health. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! This week we welcome Koya Webb, a globally recognized thought leader, transformational speaker, holistic wellbeing expert, and longevity specialist. She’s known for her groundbreaking Lifestyle Design Method and joins Dr. Dom and Terri for a soul-nourishing conversation about the power we have within us to flourish during this season in our lives. Koya drops truth bombs about some of the environmental factors that have aided to the psychological and spiritual warfare we’ve been assaulted with the last five years. We have been moving through seismic change since the pandemic, collectively and on an individual level, and its true – the body keeps the score. The good news is that we can work this out of our body through intentional movement and an abundance of self-compassion. Koya shares how she came to find a movement practice that works for her and how her journey has evolved over time. Tune in for ways to help yourself understand the natural rhythms of your life and how you can use them to find a movement practice that works for you and can lower your stress levels. Lady, you are the only person who can give you the soft life you deserve. Make that first step towards the most peaceful you that can exist. Tap in!   Quote of the Day: "Your healing is nurtured by the choices you make each day; how you nourish your body, how you speak to yourself, how you pray, and the rituals you embody when life feels heavy.” – Koya Webb   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Koya Webb: Website: Koya Webb Podcast: Lifestyle Design with Koya Webb Pinterest: Get Loved Up IG: @koyawebb LinkedIn: Koya Webb YouTube: @koyawebb   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! These times call for intentional self-care but lady, do you know what self-care really is? By now you know that self-care is more than just sheet masks and massages. What if we tell you that it’s more than even therapy and meditation? This week, Dr. Dom and Terri dive deep into the seven dimensions of wellness to help themselves (and you) create a plan to help you not only sustain but thrive. Grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space journal, brew some tea or warm up some bone broth, and allow Terri and Dr. Dom guide you through your wellness plan with questions that interrogate your deepest self so that you can drill down to what makes you authentically you. Lady, self-exploration and self-examination are worthwhile endeavors that can you help you align with your purpose. When you prioritize the mindsets and activities that help you feel your best, you get to embody wellness and shine your light as brightly as possible.   Quote of the Day: "Wellness is not a privilege; it is everyone's right." – Dr. Dom Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! Life is about balance. Newton states that for every action and equal and opposite reaction takes place. Every act of cruelty, injustice, and genuinely that we see currently seems overwhelming, which is why Dr. Dom and Terri prioritize sharing moments of joy, fun, and pleasure on the show. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri are delighted to welcome Dr. Nikki Coleman, an award-winning licensed psychologist, sexologist, and founder of Dr. Nikki Knows, PLLC, to discuss why making pleasure your focus is a worthwhile endeavor for a healthy life. Dr. Nikki breaks down some of the misconceptions Black women tell ourselves about pleasure, why some women struggle to have the orgasms they deserve, and ways women can advocate for themselves and their pleasure with their partners. Lady, don’t let the pressures of life steal your joy. Learn how to release in ways that feel fulfilling and satisfying. If you want the real tea of how to up your pleasure tune into the Aftershow where Dr. Nikki joins Terri and Dr. Dom for the real lowdown on what it means to be sexy at any age. If you are looking for community and you’re in the Houston-area, join Dr. Nikki March 7, 2026 for an intimate gathering where she’ll help guide you into true intimacy with yourself.   Quote of the Day: “So you’re just never gonna have sex again because you don’t like this body?” – Dr. Nikki   Beducated offers expert-led courses designed to help you explore intimacy, pleasure, communication, and confidence, on your own terms and at your own pace. If you’re ready to learn more about your body and deepen your understanding of pleasure, check out Beducated here: https://beducate.me/pd2606-herspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Dr. Nikki Coleman Website: Dr. Nikki Coleman Workshop: The Sanctuary IG: @drnikkiknows Threads: @drnikkiknows YouTube: @drnikkiknows LinkedIn: Dr. Nikki Coleman   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! If you believe that the children are the future then this week’s episode is for you. Drs. Ann Ishimaru and Decoteau J. Irby are two dynamic scholars who join Dr. Dom and Terri to lay out a purposeful perspective that can help you gain clarity in your plans for creating equitable outcomes for all children. This episode isn’t just for parents. This episode is for anyone who knows that the strength of the community includes all of its citizens, especially children. Drs. Ishimaru and Irby are educators and scholars who are passionate about creating a path forward despite the clear signs of society regressing. The two offer views into what themes they are seeing across schools, districts, and communities, and why this moment is both new and completely different. In their book Doing the Work of Equity Leadership for Justice and Systems Change the scholars offer clear foundational elements to building a more equitable future for our young people. They also lay out small but powerful actions parents can take to be in a healthy and engaged relationship with the educators of their community. Tune in for the specific questions that they provide parents and community members to use in their daily lives. Lady, by now it’s clear. We’re all in this together. Let’s get excited about our work to build the world we wish to leave our children. Tap in and holla at us in our Patreon community about how you plan to build a table where our children are welcome.   Quote of the Day: "Equality is the goal, equity is the mechanism or process we will use to get there.” – Dr. Tyrone Howard   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Dr. Ann Ishimaru: Website: Dr. Ann Ishimaru Book: Doing the Work of Equity Leadership for Justice and Systems Change IG: @annishmaru LinkedIn: Dr. Ann Ishimaru   Where to find Dr. Decoteau J. Irby: Website: Dr. Decoteau J. Irby Book: Doing the Work of Equity Leadership for Justice and Systems Change Bandcamp: Decoteau Black IG: @decoteaublack Twitter (X): @DecoteauIrby LinkedIn: Dr. Decoteau J. Irby YouTube: Decoteau Black Spotify: Decoteau Black Facebook: Decoteau Irby   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! This week, Terri and Dr. Dom welcome the dynamic Maya Elious, businesswoman and founder of Built to Impact, stops by Cultivating H.E.R. Space to motivate women to step away from the sidelines and get in the field so they can achieve their dreams. Maya shares her testimony of growing her business from generating $180,000 to $2 million annually by betting on herself and turning setbacks into lessons that fueled the growth in her business. Lady, if you are determined to stay encouraged during this period of uncertainty then this is the episode for you. Maya drops gems and you won’t want to miss them! Head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop for a journal to capture all of the insights and a space to map out a plan for action. See you at the top, lady!   Quote of the Day: “Not knowing how to get somewhere should never stop you from going.” – Maya Elious This episode is sponsored by VB Health, a woman-owned, physician-led supplement company creating doctor-formulated supplements that work.   We’re featuring Soaking Wet (probiotics + vitamins for vaginal health and natural wetness). Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Maya Elious: Website: Maya Elious Podcast: Work Hard Live Soft Blog: Maya Elious IG: @mayaelious LinkedIn: Maya Elious Facebook: Maya Elious   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We know that right now the onslaught of news is hard to escape. Everyday there is a new anxiety-inducing development, a new manufactured fear to distract us from our mission’s work. We’re here to tell you that if you are having a hard time keeping your head up, you are not alone. What we’re experiencing is not normal, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom invited friend of the show and American Psychological Association President Dr. Wendi Williams to have a heart-to-heart about the psychological toll that’s being levied onto the American populace, particularly Black women. Not only are we witnessing horrendous injustices, confusing schemes, and a barrage of misinformation from the administration but we are witnessing a targeted attack on the Black woman worker in the economy. Dr. Wendi breaks down the historical implications of the reported 300,000 Black women who have suffered job loss or prolonged absence from the workforce. She states that the number is actually higher. You’ll have to tune in to hear why. Dr. Wendi also talks about why her role as the president of the American Psychological Association is critical as we begin to imagine the solutions that will help us fight our way out of this mess. Dr. Wendi keeps it real about the moment we’re in, but she offers perspective that will inspire hope in your heart. Lady, by now you know we all we got. Hold tight to your sister friends and send them this episode so we can keep each other uplifted and informed. Dr. Wendi offers a powerful antidote to the evil we’re seeing with a vision of life where we finally create a world that is sustainable for us to thrive! Keep your head to the sky lady and check out the resources below for additional support, should you need it. If you’re searching for your tribe join us on Patreon where other Black women are walking boldly on their path to empowerment. You’ll fit right in!   Quote of the Day: "Recovery is not about fixing yourself. It's about reclaiming yourself.” – Dr. Wendi Williams   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Dr. Wendi S. Williams: Website: Dr. Wendi S. Williams Podcast: She Been Ready! The Podcast Book: Black Women at Work: On Refusal and Recovery IG: @drwendiwilliams LinkedIn: Dr. Wendi S. Williams   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! This week Terri and Dr. Dom welcome powerhouse visionary Ashley McGirt-Adair to Cultivating H.E.R. Space to broaden your awareness to additional tools and resources available to you as you travel along your healing path. Ashley is a dynamic trailblazer who listened to her inner wisdom and allowed that internal voice to guide her as she built a thriving clinical practice and foundation geared towards helping Black women afford the mental health care we so often need. Ashley is the founder of the Therapy Fund Foundation, a nonprofit focused on eliminating barriers to mental health care in Black and historically excluded communities. She is also the author of the forthcoming book, The Cost of Healing in Silence: Navigating Racial Trauma and the Call for Culturally Responsive Care. Ashley keeps it real about the barriers that keep Black women from tending to themselves and how she found the courage to step out on faith and build the phenomenal service she’s offering to the world. Since slavery Black Americans have experienced a litany of traumatic events and have somehow managed to survive to this present day. The issue is that until we, collectively, address those numerous traumas and all of their manifestations we will continue to just do that – survive. Ashley and her team want us to thrive and they are committed to connecting Black women with culturally attuned and responsive providers who are equipped to navigate the complex and layered issues that we face. Lady, there are many forces in this world that are designed to weigh you down and discourage you from reaching your full potential. But, like the sea turtles making their pilgrimage to the water you, too, can make the arduous trek from being broken and in pieces to being in your power. Tune in to today’s episode for actionable steps and resources you can access right now! Don’t forget you can also book a consultation with Dr. Dom so that you can establish your team of providers ready to help you breakthrough to your next level. We love you for real, lady!   Quote of the Day: "We need access, equity, and action that ensures healing isn’t a privilege, it’s a right." – Ashley McGirt-Adair   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Ashley McGirt-Adair: Website: Therapy Fund Foundation Instagram: @therpayfundfoundation Facebook: Therapy Fund Foundation Website: Ashley McGirt Book: The Cost of Healing in Silence: Navigating Racial Trauma and the Call for Culturally Responsive Care LinkedIn: Ashley McGirt Instagram: @therapywithash Facebook: Ashley McGirt Counseling Services LLC Twitter (X): @TherapywithAsh YouTube: Ashley McGirt   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! Welcome to 2026. We hope this new year is greeting you with restoration, renewal and an excitement for what’s possible in 2026. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom set the tone for what we hope will be an abundant, juicy year. One way we can do that is by being intentional with our time, our attention and our resources. The ladies dive into a timely conversation about considerations to keep in mind while you are setting your intentions, goal setting and mapping out how you’re going to move through the year with ease and flow. The end of the year is usually considered the triage period for burnout. It is often a time where we are working to recuperate and restore after jam packed year full of obligations, commitments, and responsibilities. The demands of the year can leave one feeling depleted. By assessing your capacity early in the year you get to define what taking good care of yourself looks like so that you can put the systems and boundaries in place to make sure that the number one person in your life is well. Lady, we’re excited about what 2026 will bring and we hope you are too! Head to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop and pick up a journal or three so that you have a place to put all of your brilliant plans. We have all of the tools you need including latte mugs for your nourishing tea or bone broth, pillows for your comfort, and fly apparel to let the world know exactly who you are in our shop. And, if you are ready for a true fresh start for the New Year book a consultation with Dr. Dom to establish goals and set up systems so that you move with intention or attend Terri’s Get That Pitch Workshop so you can take your business to the next level. See you at the top, lady!   Quote of the Day: “Just because you have the capacity doesn’t mean it deserves your energy.” – Unknown   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We made it! In this final episode of 2025, Dr. Dom and Terri celebrate all that has happened in this year so that they can honor it with sacred closure and use the lessons learned to fuel a productive, prosperous, and peaceful new year. Lady, what are the rituals and practices that you do at the end of year that help you set powerful intentions to have the year you want to have? Are you a woman who doesn’t play about having the house clean, the Black-eyed peas and greens on the stove when the clock strikes 12 on January 1? Are you a woman who likes to review all that happened this year to reflect on what went well and what could use some improvement…and what just doesn’t need to happen no mo’? Are you the woman who believes in pressing forward without addressing the good and the bad of what they year brought? Or, are you the woman who shuts the laptop, snuggles in bed with your favorite snack, book, show and gets all of the rest you need? We’re grown women so you already know that there is no right way to do life but Terri and Dr. Dom have some tips and frameworks that can help you sort through the year you’ve had so that you walk into 2026 with clarity and a sense of direction. Tune into this episode for journal prompts to walk you through your thoughts so that you’re off to the races when the clock strikes. Cheers to a safe and restful rest of the year!   Quote of the Day: “What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year.” — Vern McLellan   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, as we head into what is hopefully a quiet, restful holiday season why don’t you swap out your phone for a riveting new book that offers an escape into a world where zombies offer a glimpse into the power and beauty that resides in the Haitian culture. Jenna Chrisphonte, a New York-based author and playwright, invites readers on a journey where zombies and voodoo offer a historical perspective of the strength and resilience of Haiti. Talc: A Hatian Zombie Story is a resonant and timely look into how multifaceted revolutionary spirits are and why these stories are important in the Black diaspora. The current regime is trying to assert an oppressive and authoritarian hand in America to quell  any desire for an uprising and they are banking on its citizens to be too tired, too scared, and too poor to fight back. Jenna’s work offers a perspective on how the tapestry of unique cultural experiences can weave together to create a resistance stronger than any dark force can conquer. Jenna discusses how her Haitian upbringing allowed her to gather lessons from her people that can be of use during this time of radical restructuring of our democracy. But, if all of that feels heavy just allow Jenna’s strong prose and attention to her craft whisk you away to world where zombies roam. By the end, you may begin to think that they already walk amongst us. What do we mean by that? Tune in! Quote of the Day: "Theater is the ground where the healing of this nation can begin to take place." – Jenna Chrisphonte   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Where to find Jenna Chrisphonte: Website: Jenna Chrisphonte Book: Talc: A Haitian Zombie Story LinkedIn: Jenna Chrisphonte Instagram: @talcahaitianzombiestory Facebook: Talc: A Haitian Zombie Story   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! You know we’re all about our gentle growth and continuous improvement over here so we’re excited to share an episode that will help grow your toolkit for whatever life may bring your way.As we heal and process it’s common to notice where your childhood has yet again shaped your behavior and caused patterns that at one time seemed normal but now no longer serve you. Growing up in environments where our caregivers were doing the best they could with the tools they had means that we may not have always had the space to be your full self. And, if you grew up in a Black household it’s entirely plausible to not be allowed to feel your feelings and bury them instead.But, we’re grown now and you are not only allowed to feel your feelings but you are encouraged to and there are frameworks that can help. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri present the RULER method, a powerful tool that can help you make your way through difficult and complex emotions so that you can remain in your sovereignty and stand in your integrity.This five-step method can help you meet life as it comes, which will help you loosen the grip of needing to control life. Understanding your emotions offers you more choice in your experience, which can lead to feeling more stable, grounded and having increased capacity to feel the richness and beauty that life has to offer you. Using RULER in Real Life· Recognizing: “How do I know what I’m feeling? What signals does my body send?”· Understanding: “Where did this emotion come from? Is it layered with past wounds?”· Labeling: Talk about the power of language—using words like “disrespected” vs “angry.”· Expressing: “Who is safe to share this with? What’s an empowered way to show this?”· Regulating: Tools and tips (breathwork, journaling, therapy, movement, prayer, etc.)Quote of the Day:“If you don’t know what you’re feeling, it’s hard to know what to do with your feelings.” – Dr. Marc Brackett  Goal Mapping Starter GuideCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeGet That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We’re grown so we know there’s nothing wrong with having a vice or two. But, what happens when that vice becomes an addiction? Analysts estimate that approximately 48.4 million Americans are addicted to something with 9.8% of Americans addicted to drugs and 9.7% of Americans addicted to alcohol. Addiction is a fact of life that many Black women have a relationship with, and many have overcome addiction through treatment, therapy and sometimes medication. But, before they even get there they start with a healthy amount of honesty about where they find themselves with their addiction.The peculiar thing about addiction is that one can find herself there without even realizing it, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom pull back the veil of addiction with a personal testimony about reorienting their relationship with addiction and science-backed, evidence based strategies to build healthy long-term relationship with the vice. Terri offers an authentic look at how she became addicted to marijuana and the gentle, self-compassionate methods she incorporated to set reorient her relationship so that when she engages it’s from an empowered place and not out of necessity. Lady, contrary to popular belief you can become addicted to weed. And, if you are beginning to question where your relationship with weed lies, tune into today’s episode to gain an understanding of the qualities of a healthy relationship with weed and what is veering into addiction. If you’re ready to dive deeper into creating healthy habits and systems to support you living your best life, book a consultation with Dr. Dom. The end of the year is the perfect time to set yourself up for success in the new year. And lady, if you feel like you are in crisis please dial 988 for immediate assistance. We love you for real! Quote of the Day:"It always seems impossible until it's done." – Nelson Mandela  Goal Mapping Starter GuideCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeGet That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We hope you had a wonderful day spent in gratitude yesterday. If you’ve been around our podcast a while you know that gratitude is something we value, and we value it for good reason. Gratitude is an essential element to calling in the abundance that is your birthright. This week, Dr. Darnyelle Jervey Harmon joins Terri and Dr. Dom to help you get your mind right for increase and overflow in 2026!Darnyelle shares her powerful testimony of how she went from filing to bankruptcy to becoming a millionaire in the span of a year. She didn’t allow bankruptcy to defeat her instead she decided to step in the abundance that already has her name on it and let the power of the tongue guide her to success. Lady, we’re going to let you know right now that this is an episode you’re going to want to save and come back to as Darnyelle offers realistic, faith-based framework of doing the real work to shift your life of one that embodies abundance and wealth.Transformation from broke to ballin’ takes time and consistent work. Darnyelle dispels the myth, though, that hard work is the actual work and offers a perspective on how to set boundaries with relatives and mean girls as your wealth grows. Lady, if you’re in a space where you’re reviewing the year and planning for next year, let this episode inspire your visualizations of a healthier, brighter, and more prosperous you! Quote of the Day:"I used to get in trouble for talking too much in class, now I use my words to deliver and set free." – Darnyelle Jervey Harmon  Where to find Darnyelle Jervey Harmon:Website: MovetoMillions.comBook: Move to MillionsFacebook: @growyourbusinessperiodInstagram: @darnyellejerveyharmonYouTube: @darnyellejervey  Goal Mapping Starter GuideCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! We know that the daily onslaught of the news of these times can be distressing and difficult to ignore. There are genuine reasons to feel alarm during the current administration but we are blessed to have a deep history of having visionaries, luminaries, and trailblazers offer a blueprint of how to imagine brighter tomorrows.Octavia Butler is one of the most prescient artists of our time but her life was lived somewhat in obscurity, only coming to prominence long after her death. Yet, her writing gave way to world-building where weird, strange, genius Black women could write themselves into the future by being present with their experience. Dr. Susana M. Morris, a waymaker in her own right as a founding member of the Crunk Feminist Collective and author of Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia Butler, explores how Octavia’s life circumstances, disciplined writing practice, and passion birthed works that offer a clear-eyed examination of society and culture while also giving full permission for Black women to indulge our imaginations for a beautiful future that includes us!Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they have a spirited discussion with Susana about Octavia Butler and her powerful artistry. While Octavia made it clear that she was not a prophet; she was so deeply connected to her dreams and words that she manifested a body of work that has inspired generations of future trailblazers and wayshowers. Quote of the Day:"Black women writers are necessary so that Black women can define and depict their own experiences rather than being objects in the stories of others." – Octavia Butler  Where to find Susana Morris:Website: Susanmorris.comBook: Positive Obsession: The Life and Times of Octavia ButlerInstagram: @susiemayeTwitter (X): @iamcrunkadelicThreads: @susiemaye    Goal Mapping Starter GuideCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with TerriMelanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find...See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! While the Make America Healthy Again movement is in full steam the proponents seem to only offer conflicting messages about exactly what will make America healthy again. And, while you may be no stranger to doing your own research, these days it’s nice when you can find a source you trust.Enter Sherece Brown, the founder of Dr. Pabs, Pineapple is a Berry a holistic company dedicated to vitamins and supplements for your littles all the way up to your teens. Sherece shares how her Caribbean upbringing made a big impact on how she approaches wellness and why her attention to detail makes her company one that families can rely on for additional nutritional support. Tune in to find out about Sherece’s unique journey and how you can grab a bottle or two for your family. Quote of the Day:"The foundation of good health begins with what we put in our bodies." – Sherece Brown  Where to find Sherece Brown:Website: DrPabs.comInstagram: @Dr.Pabs_Facebook: Dr. Pabs Pineapple is a BerryTikTok: @Dr.Pabs_  Goal Mapping Starter GuideCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! You know like we know that sometimes we are…right. It’s never about being right, it’s just the truth that sometimes we have opinions that are actually right even if they may be controversial.This week, Terri and Dr. Dom offer a cheeky look at some real “hear us out” situations that will possibly get them cancelled. The two offer some common sense perspectives about things we may have been socialized to believe that are no longer true (White looks just as good in the winter as it does in the Summer) and some that we have been socialized to believe that were actually never true (sugar belongs in a lot of places…just not grits). Lady, tap in on Instagram and let us know which opinions you have that would get you cancelled (respectfully)! Which one of these opinions do you not so secretly agree with? Quote of the Day:“It’s givin’ ‘I’m right, but let’s discuss it anyway.’"— Every Black woman with receipts and restraint    Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! In these trying times connecting with community is more important than ever. Community is not just your close friends or even your family. Community is the place where you live, work, and play. It contains history, wisdom and can thrive when tended to well. That’s why Dr. Dom and Terri are thrilled to welcome M. Simone Boyd and Andrea Tudhope, hosts of the podcast We Are North Nashville, as they discuss the power of collecting the stories of the elders in the community to create a beautiful tapestry of legacy, love, and pride.Inspired by a series of tragic events that occurred during the pandemic, Simone set out to capture the stories of the elders in her life before it was too late. But, as she soon found out the work was worthy but the emotional labor would take a toll if she didn’t recruit help for her noble mission. Together, with her co-hosts, Andrea and Steve Haruch, the three embarked on a journey of bridge building, record setting, and community preservation that has led to a fulfilling audio project the residents of North Nashville can feel proud of. If you’re in a space where you know you need to build community and you want to contribute to the community you live in but don’t know where to get started tune in to today’s episode. Andrea and Simone offer their perspective on how approaching people and conversations from a heart-centered place can get all of us back to a place where we peacefully coexist and thrive together. Lady, we want to hear from you! Holla at us in Instagram and let us know how you’re building community or working to preserve the stories of the community you’re in. Quote of the Day:"It needs to be pointed out...the things that were done to North Nashville to sacrifice that part of Nashville in the name of progress."– Thomas Wilson  Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Where to find We Are North Nashville:Website: wearenorthnashville.orgPodcast: We Are North NashvilleInstagram: @wearenorthnashvilleFacebook: We Are North Nashville  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram:See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady, this week, Dr. Dom and Terri delve into a topic that affects a third of Black women in the United States – divorce. While the process of divorce can often be painful, tedious, and costly it does not always mean that getting divorced is a bad thing. In fact, it can be one of the most liberating, self-actualizing events to occur in a woman’s life.Terri offers her perspective as a recent divorcee and offers actionable tips to help you think through what life can be like post nuptials. And, Dr. Dom offers her perspective as a licensed clinical psychologist who works closely with women to process their lives pre- and post-divorce so that they can write beautiful new chapters in their full life stories.Together, they provide a framework where women facing divorce, recovering from divorce, or embarking on new horizons as a whole, single woman can all walk forward with their head’s high and excited about their lives.Tune in for a grounded conversation about the highs and the lows of divorce and give yourself grace for wherever you are on the path. Quote of the Day:“Divorce is not a failure: Redefine failure and success for yourself and what you truly believe about life. Not what society tells us. There are many married people who are quietly miserable; is this success?” – Carol Madden  Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, if you’ll remember in season 27, episode 8, Dr. Dom and Terri broke down the truth about feedback. It is, indeed, a gift but it requires nuance, timing, respect, and care. It is a critical piece in building intimacy in relationships and establishing a baseline of respect. So, how do you build a toolkit that is resilient enough to make your own while being flexible enough to appropriately adapt to the situation at hand?Tune in for five actionable strategies about how to give feedback that is constructive. Terri and Dr. Dom not only offer food for thought but also varied scenarios where having these conversations can get tricky. Tune into the Aftershow for more examples of how providing constructive feedback can be important in the development of long-term relationships. Whether it be with your littles or with your elders, feedback is a gift. How you choose to wrap it, the presentation of the feedback, matters a great deal in how it is received. Lady, we want to start a dialogue. Our healing is essential to being the light we need during these times. Let’s grow together – join us in Patreon where you can connect directly with Dr. Dom, Terri, and the rest of our beautiful community. We share resources and our own personal journeys so that we can learn from one another. In the event that you need additional support, check-in with Dr. Dom for a free 15-minute consultation. Consider it a great first step towards your holistic wellness. And, if you’ve got your mental and emotional house in order but want to take your professional career to the next level and want the skills, including giving and receiving feedback, book a 1-on-1 session with Terri. Her expert coaching will ready you for any situation that arises in your professional life.Quote of the Day:"Feedback is a gift — and it’s okay to unwrap it slowly." – Unknown  Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.