Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment

Why do so many adults who experienced childhood trauma struggle with self-respect? This episode explores how early childhood wounds shape self-worth, boundaries, and the tendency to tolerate less than we deserve as an adultI hope by understanding the survival strategies formed in childhood, you can begin replacing the tendency to self-abandon and lose yourself with SELF LOVE...and start rebuilding self-respect today

Today’s episode isn’t an easy listen if you grew up in tough circumstances that impact you today.This episode is especially for you if you ever notice yourself acting in ways that don’t feel true to who you are or if you struggle to hold onto your sense of dignityI explore ‘developmental trauma’ and how early experiences of neglect, misattunement, or ongoing stress can shape your adult life today. When safety, consistency, and validation are missing - children adapt in order to survive. As adults, those adaptations can show up as anxiety, people pleasing, difficulty with boundaries, emotional overwhelm, or a deep sense that your worth is conditional.So if you find yourself acting out of character or doing things that don’t feel truly respectful or loving toward yourself, this episode is definitely for you. Make sure to listen - you deserve to understand your patterns.Sign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠HERE⁠Follow Carly Ann ⁠HERE

Is anxious attachment or worry causing you pain right now? This episode is for the woman that is absolutely determined to stop being taken over and hijacked by emotions, triggers, and the past!What if your journey is not about “fixing” your anxiety or fixing yourself… instead it is about having a new kind of relationship with your anxiety and with yourself?In this first episode of 2026, I’m taking you on a walk with me (no fancy studio, just real talk and nature sounds to add some extra charm). Together, we’ll slow down, get grounded, and chat about what it means for you to truly live with more intention and from a place where you feel like you are in your power - even when anxiety shows up.If you’re tired of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like anxiety is running the show, this episode is for you. It’s about choosing a different way to live….one that feels more real, bolder, braver, and aligned with YOU - your true self, that’s who this episode is connecting you - you’ll feel it!No pressure. No quick fixes. Just honest conversation and a little hope for the year ahead.In this episode, we talk about what changing your relationship with anxiety really means, why it’s okay to focus on intention, not perfection, how acceptance can actually help you feel better, finding the real you under all the anxious thoughts, and starting the year with a bit more courage and self-kindness.Ready to start the year with a fresh perspective? Hit play and join me on this walk.Sign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds HEREFollow Carly Ann HERE

Work with Carly Ann HEREFollow Carly Ann on Instagram HEREThis meditation is a gentle shield for moments that feel overwhelming.Whether you’re navigating difficult conversations, challenging people, intense relationships, or emotionally charged situations, this practice helps you stay grounded without taking everything personally.It’s designed to support you in remaining true to yourself, less reactive, and less triggered—so you can move through life with more ease, clarity, and self-protection. By strengthening your inner boundaries, you’re more likely to cope calmly and respond from a place of balance rather than stress.You can listen to this meditation before entering a challenging situation, or take a short break during the day whenever you need to reset and reconnect with yourself.Brethren, Arise by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Source: http://chriszabriskie.com/darkglow/Artist: http://chriszabriskie.com/

In this episode I (Carly Ann) am honoured to sit with mental health counsellor Lara Land for an honest and important conversation about trauma and recovery.As you will hear, Lara is a compassionate expert - she is qualified, realistic, and so passionate which is what this podcast is all about.This is really one not to be missed if you are interested in trauma recovery for yourself or clients. We talk about trauma, without quick fixes or overwhelming explanations. This episode explores how trauma affects the nervous system, why healing is deeply connected to safety and choice, and how recovery can unfold at a pace that feels supportive rather than scary.We discuss:What trauma is and how it impacts the nervous systemWhat recovery looks likeChoosing the right person to work withWhy choice and autonomy matter What support trauma therapy to be effectiveGood practice in trauma recovery (great if you’re looking for a therapist)Why some tools work for certain moments and not othersHow awareness and journaling can help interrupt familiar patternsThis episode is for anyone who wants a clearer, more compassionate understanding of trauma and what healing truly involvesLINKSClick HERE to listen to Carly Ann on Lara's podcast talking about negative thoughtsPurchase Carly Ann's self-study course HEREWork with Carly Ann 1:1 HEREFollow Lara Land and Carly Ann

Send us a textListen if you self-sabotageIf you’ve ever wondered why you keep falling into the same habits, the same blocks, or the same frustrating cycles, this episode is going to hit home. I'm diving deep into self-sabotage (the quiet, often unconscious ways you get in your own way and hold yourself back from the life, relationships, success, and happiness you’re trying to create)You’ll hear why these repeat patterns show up again and again, even when you know what you “should” be doing, and even when you genuinely want things to change. We explore the inner mechanisms that trigger self-sabotage, the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck, and the subtle ways your mind tries to protect you by doing the opposite of what you need.And because awareness is only the first step, this episode also includes a powerful guided exercise designed to help you interrupt these patterns and start shifting them in real time. If you’re tired of being the one thing standing between you and your goals… if you’re ready to understand why you keep repeating the same self-sabotaging behaviours… and if you want a practical tool you can use anytime you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns - you’ll want to listen all the way through.Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIf you worry and spiral, this episode is with you in mind. I'm thinking of you if you catch yourself fixating on a mistake you made, or worrying about someone abandoning you, or worrying about what might go wrong...and it takes over your mind and can be paralysing.This pattern is truly a therapy insight, this is a key part of education for managing worry and it could really make a difference if you are keen to worry less.Keywords: worry, overthinking, anxiety, mental habits, stress, self-awareness, coping strategies, emotional resilience, mindset, ruminationSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIn this episode, we dive deep into the moments that send us spinning and spiralling. Christina Lane joins us for an honest conversation about what a spiral really is, how to recognise the early signs, and how to support yourself so you can respond instead of react.We explore whether it’s truly possible to stop being triggered by certain things, why triggers happen in the first place, and how self-awareness can shift the entire experience. Christina also shares practical strategies to prevent a spiral, interrupt it once it starts, and guide yourself back before you reach the point of regret.If you’re struggling with spiralling and feeling like it's out of your control - this episode will help you understand the answer and show you how to navigate the moment with more clarity, compassion, and control.Christina would love to gift listeners her free somatic tools -an Audio Reset for Men and a Journal for Women- both designed to bring you back into presence and connection.Listeners can access them through: www.christinalanecoaching.com/emailSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textUnderstanding self-esteem and recognising if you’re anxiety is related to low self-worthIn this episode we will spend some quality time breaking down the most common signs of low self-esteem using the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale which is a trusted psychological tool for measuring a person’s overall self-esteemRecognising low self-esteem is important because it helps you understand the root of how you think, feel, and behave. When you become aware of whether your self-esteem is strong, shaky, or inconsistent, you can start to understand why you react the way you do - why certain situations trigger you, why you feel anxious or stuck, or why certain patterns keep repeating - we need that if we want to change and strengthen self esteemI am Carly Ann, and I’m on a mission to bring the wisdom of therapy beyond the couch — helping people grow, connect, and thrive in life and love. This is not a replacement for therapy, but a space where you can learn practical tools, gain insight, and feel supported as you navigate life from your old self to your new selfFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlyann_therapy/Join stuck to Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course1:1 Therapy & Coaching: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-annFree Workshop: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/free-btc-workshopSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textWe break down the common mindset pattern that shows up in the therapy room over and over again - it  fuels shame, anxiety, and low self-worth - the subtle thinking style that convinces you you’re always behind, always falling short, and never quite “enough.” If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or constantly judging yourself, this episode will help you understand why.If you have goals, dreams, or even the desire to feel better in your own life, you need to stop falling into this trap. You’ll learn how this unhelpful thinking pattern shows up in everyday moments, and you’ll hear a real example of someone who broke free from it.You’ll walk away with a powerful cognitive reframe and guided prompts to help you reflect on your own day-to-day life - so you can interrupt this mindset and replace it with something grounded, compassionate, and truly empowering.If you’re tired of feeling not enough, stuck, or weighed down by who you think you “should” be, this episode is for you, listen todaySupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIf you’ve ever felt like your happiness depends on other people’s approval, or like you keep losing yourself trying to be “enough” this podcast is for you. Stop Giving Your Self-Worth & Happiness to Someone or Something Else is your reminder that you don’t have to keep chasing validation - you can reclaim your confidence, peace, and power today.Carly Ann shares important therapy insights to help you reclaim your power and what is rightfully yours!Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIn this episode you will be given a simple therapy framework that could help you make sense of any problem, and actually interrupt it in real time. This is truly a powerful therapeutic framework designed to give you key insight and understanding into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, and habits. Meaning you can break old subconscious patterns and cycles.You’ll learn this tool applies to common challenges like anxious attachment, procrastination, and worry, and discover how the same process can be used to navigate almost anything life throws your way.We’ll break down each step of the framework, share real-world examples, and give you guided self-reflection prompts so you can start using it for your own growth and clarity right away.Whether you’re a therapist, a self-development enthusiast, or just someone ready to stop feeling stuck, this episode will help you see your patterns clearly, interrupt them compassionately, and create space for change.Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textGetting triggered over and over can be exhausting. It is frustrating when you can't control your reaction to the same trigger. If your triggers have been running the show lately, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into what it means to be triggered. I’ll walk you through four key pieces of psychoeducation that will completely change the way you see your triggers. This is what I always want my client to take-away. Think of this episode as a therapy session for your triggers - one that helps you move from “I can’t believe I did that again” to “Ah, this is how I can move forward”Believe it or not, when you can meet your triggers with curiosity instead of criticism, you stop living in reaction mode and start feeling safe inside yourself again.Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIs morning anxiety a problem? Mornings is one of the times people can feel in a real funkWaking up with a racing heart, a clouded mind, or a sense of dread is a common theme and I believe the sooner we get a handle of our mornings the sooner we can start the day of fresh and feeling more like ourselves (and happy!) In this episode, we dive into how to help when mornings can feel like the hardest part of the day. We explore the roots of morning anxiety.Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textTonight, I’m feeling inspired to share with you.If you’re in the thick of it right now - feeling  triggered, anxious, overwhelmed, maybe caught in your thoughts or emotions - I am meeting you right thereWhere you can't let go, stop worrying, or calm down - I've recorded this for youSometimes we just need someone to pause with us, to remind us that we can soften, breathe, and come back to ourselves. So today, I want to offer a few gentle tools to help soothe your anxiety and reconnect with your calm in real time.This space is for you to slow down even in the middle of the storm.I truly hope it helpsIf you need support right now, check out Stuck to Secure and have me as your coach and mentor: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-courseSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textDo you find yourself endlessly waiting for a text, replaying conversations, or worrying about whether you upset someone? That’s your anxiety showing up and it usually means you’re stuck in old patterns instead of truly feeling your emotions.We act out as a way to feel better, and it often makes you feel worseIn this episode, I’ll explain what it really means to feel your feelings and why sitting with them is so important for breaking anxious cycles. I’ll give examples that anxious attachers commonly experience, like waiting for messages, overthinking interactions, or catastrophising about someone pulling away.You’ll also get a practical checklist you can use to pause, notice, and work with your feelings in the moment, so you can respond to life instead of reacting out of habit.This episode is for anyone ready to stop letting old patterns control their heart, and start learning how to feel without fear.Support the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textJoin stuck to Secure HEREFeeling stuck in a cycle, habit, trigger, or mood you just can’t seem to break? You’re not alone - and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this Workshop, Carly Ann guides you through a powerful 5-Step Therapy Framework designed to help you interrupt the patterns that are keeping you stuck and create real, lasting change. Whether it’s emotional spirals, unhelpful habits, or recurring triggers, this framework gives you the tools to understand what’s happening, reset your mindset, and move forward with confidence. Once you learn it, you can return to it any time, in any area of your life. Expect big “aha” moments - so grab your notebook, your favourite drink, and get cosy. Let’s break the cycle togetherSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textIf you’ve ever promised yourself “this time will be different” only to end up back in the same cycle... the same relationship problems, the same habits, the same procrastination - this episode is for you.Carly Ann breaks down the key areas to focus on if you actually want to create change that lasts. She shares therapy insights that no one else is talking about, sharing the psychology of what it really takes to rewire your mind and behaviour for good.Whether you’re stuck in love, habits, or life itself, this episode will help you understand what you need to focus on in order to break freeSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textDo you have feeling you are made for more?Do you see yourself repeating the same cycles and pattern even though you KNOW it’s not meant for you. You may or may not be aware of your thoughts… especially negative thoughts. In this podcast, I am talking about the beliefs that pull you back, keep you in a loop, and drive anxiety/low mood.As well as key therapy insights, you will also receive motivation to get out of this, and of course - I’ll share a technique with you that you can then use again and again!You are the leader of your life, you get to make a choice, and you can make a change.Listen to this episode if you get stuck in your head overthinking, obsessing, worrying, and losing yourselfSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk

Send us a textAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a proven approach that helps you stop fighting your thoughts and feelings, make peace with what you can’t control, and start living a life guided by what truly matters to youThis episode is for those of you who feel like life just isn’t going your way right now. Maybe you’re stuck in overthinking, worrying if someone is pulling away, or replaying conversations in your head. Perhaps you’re caught up in anxious attachment, struggling to let go of what you can’t control. In this video, I’m sharing some key principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that can help you move forward, make peace with your feelings, and start creating the life and love you deserveSupport the showBOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL Other useful links: Free Workshop: 5-Step therapy Framework for Breaking Cycles Book a Free consult call with me (for online therapy & coaching) Follow Carly Ann on Instagram To discuss how I can support your team or audience, email: carly@carly-ann.co.uk