Claim OwnershipClearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
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Clearer, not Louder Podcast (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast) is a podcast about discernment, the power of the voice, and the intersection of how the two impact you and the world around you.
In a world that encourages constant reacting, overexplaining, and performing, this space is about learning to pause, notice what's actually happening, and respond with clarity.
Each episode explores the subtle dynamics that shape our relationships, decisions, and inner lives- the moments when something feels off, when we ignore our God-given wisdom, or when we realize we've been negotiating with things that don't align with our principles.
Through thoughtful reflections and insightful conversations, Clearer, Not Louder helps you develop the kind of clarity and discernment that doesn't require force or volume but rather, honesty, awareness, and the powerful, undiluted version of your voice.
Because the goal isn't to be louder.
It's to be clearer.
In a world that encourages constant reacting, overexplaining, and performing, this space is about learning to pause, notice what's actually happening, and respond with clarity.
Each episode explores the subtle dynamics that shape our relationships, decisions, and inner lives- the moments when something feels off, when we ignore our God-given wisdom, or when we realize we've been negotiating with things that don't align with our principles.
Through thoughtful reflections and insightful conversations, Clearer, Not Louder helps you develop the kind of clarity and discernment that doesn't require force or volume but rather, honesty, awareness, and the powerful, undiluted version of your voice.
Because the goal isn't to be louder.
It's to be clearer.
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In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder
In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder
Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder
Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giving a peek into the new podcast! The new name! See you in the FIRST episode of the new podcast 3.12.26 xx Beatrice
In this episode we chat: Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat: The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!! How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be sharing 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox... for FREE! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN to attracting the types of men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU through their actions CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless. My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting) Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka WAITING ANXIOUSLY next to your phone and putting it on DND to avoid seeing zero notifications, hinting at him to do more even though you know he won't, and feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat: The Personal Development to Spirituality to "My Truth" Pipeline Manifestation and what they DON'T tell you about the spiritual world God, the Truth, + the Spiritual Realm WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... Why it's VERY HARMFUL to "see" how things are going and "wait it out" when you KNOW he is a walking dealbreaker How to STOP undermining your dealbreakers when you come across the "nice guy" the guy that seems like "the one" What it looks like to have dating/the marriage thing/the man thing be an IDOL in your life The dangers of IDOLIZING a man and therefore putting him in God's place WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... Letting go of OVER-EXPLAINING or JUSTIFYING yourself + your decisions How talking TOO MUCH can actually be a sign of a LACK of confidence Why confident people say LESS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CLICK HERE TO ENROLL IN THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... That feeling of OBSESSION with him wanting you back and what to do about it The surprising reason behind the OBSESSION that I guarantee you are not aware of Leaning on God during this time for strength and the ability to LET GO WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... The ONE wounded feminine trait you have that keeps causing you to get FRUSTRATED and EXHAUSTED by dating The dangers of being unequally yoked mentally and emotionally with a man Why dating a man who is operating on a mental and emotional level that is underdeveloped is a destiny KILLER for YOU.... AND HIM. WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... How to navigate doubting the romantic connection you're in whether you're single or in a relationship The two types of doubt that exist in dating and relationships Walking in God's best for you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... How the patriarchy has distorted your view on your relationship status + what it means about you The privilege in being single that most do not SEE How to THRIVE in your singleness WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... How I was able to bounce back after my break up SO QUICKLY How to RESTORE your belief in love and ability to love after a break up or after someone betrayed your trust Forgiveness after a relationship or betrayal WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... Why it is that the wrong men will waste your time for months, years even and think nothing of it. How boys-- NOT masculine men!-- will waste your time if you're not careful and how masculine men will approach you much MUCH differently. The case for celibacy, why I'm such an advocate for it-- and why I VERY MUCH BELIEVE masculine men will gladly WAIT! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
1In this episode we chat.... Why your STATE of peace + rest should be HIGHLY REGARDED and why the RIGHT MAN would do anything in his power to MAINTAIN your state of rest/peace The consequences of being around people who CONTINUALLY disturb your state of rest How to become someone that LISTENS TO ACTIONS more than words WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
In this episode we chat.... Why every single person on this planet has VISION + an ASSIGNMENT from God The importance of keeping the RIGHT COMPANY and knowing when to zip it when it comes to the vision you have for yourself for MORE out of life How God has a plan + a vision for you and why you should know it! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!
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What the actual ***. So you are saying if your man goes through a phase with financial problems you throw them away because they can not provide? So should they do the same to you?
I’m so happy I stumbled upon this podcast. your voice is absolutely beautiful and soothing! 💘🌸
2025 I am here❤️❤️🌹. Lovely voice and Podcast
It really depends on the relationship and the situation that they are in. If you explicitly see them posting on social media, going on holidays, and… and if their response to you asking why they haven’t reached out is always “I am busy”, then I can not accept that as an excuse for not reaching out because they have things going on.
love this episode, so great
I am thoroughly enjoying your podcast and your gift. Thank you 😊 🙏🏽 💓 Aqua Gang!
so nice and helpful
I disagree with a lot of things in this episode. These characteristics may show narcissism but they are not only for this disorder. It might be other childhood trauma not necessarily being narcissistic.
And what about severe childhood trauma that has caused great discomfort and built negative characteristics? Should you just go on with it? I don’t think this applies to such situations, and it’s more about smaller disagreements. If there is a greater effect involved, they should take responsibility, or people who have killed someone can also ask the relatives to self soothe themselves, and we won’t apprehend them. So it really should be pointed out what situations this is about.
So people should not apologize if they have hurt you deeply?
Good job 👏 I absolutely love the way you talk about trauma and sth like that ,It makes me feel free and glad and be comfortable at the same time, you speak friendly and I appreciate that thank you sis🙏😘
so.... this was an ad for your paid programming. I think that was a first for you since I've been listening. not a fan.
I relate to all 3 types of negative attachment styles. Is that possible and what does it mean about me?
what happened to the previous episodes?! ps strong cover!
the best ever
i enjoy your podcasts
i thought I put myself first, love myself the most. but here I am listening to you, thinking where I stand.
I'm so excited to Bing this whole podcast! self love journey here we come!!
you're great
Just found out about this podcast and God I'm in love. I've listened to 4 episodes just today and I'm learning so much 🙌🏽🙌🏽