Real Conversations About Power, Desire & Control

Welcome to Episode 5: Why Distraction Worsens Premature Ejaculation. This episode focuses on a truth most people miss: lasting longer isn’t only a body skill—it’s an attention skill. When your mind is scattered (worrying, performing, checking out, racing), your arousal curve becomes harder to read, and the body tends to default to fast reflex.In this episode, we explore:* Distraction vs. awareness: why you can’t regulate what you don’t notice* The point of no return: how distraction makes you recognize it too late* Performance anxiety loops: how “monitoring yourself” can actually speed things up* Porn-style conditioning: how novelty and rapid stimulation can train fast escalation* Nervous system state: why mental noise keeps you in “go mode” instead of “slow mode”* Practical tools: attention anchors, breath timing, pacing cues, and strategic pauses* Partner communication: how to stay connected without turning sex into a scoreboard* Training habits: short practice sessions that build presence and arousal mapping over time– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 4: Hacking Your Biology with Delay Condoms. This episode is a practical guide to a simple tool that often gets misunderstood. Delay condoms work by reducing penile sensitivity (usually via a mild desensitizing agent and/or thicker material), which can slow the arousal curve and buy you more time—especially when combined with pacing and breath.In this episode, we cover:* How delay condoms work: sensitivity reduction + friction management + pacing support* What to expect: more control, sometimes less intensity—how to balance that trade-off* How to use them correctly: timing, fit, lubrication, and not overdoing the numbing effect* Partner safety: preventing transfer of numbing agents (and what to do if irritation happens)* Choosing the right option: thicker vs. desensitizing vs. “regular + technique”* Common mistakes: stacking multiple desensitizers, skipping lube, rushing, or relying on condoms alone* Best results: combining delay condoms with arousal awareness, breath, and communication* When to consider alternatives: if sensation loss affects pleasure or if symptoms persist despite tools This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 3: Science Based Treatments for Premature Ejaculation. If Episode 1–2 explained the “why,” this one is the toolkit: a clear overview of evidence-informed options—from training methods you can start today to professional and medical supports when needed.In this episode, we explore:* Behavioral techniques: stop–start, squeeze method, pacing, changing stimulation patterns, and strategic pauses* Arousal regulation skills: breath work, nervous-system downshifting, and learning your “point of no return” earlier* Pelvic floor training: why relaxation matters as much as strength, and how tension can backfire* Condoms & topical anesthetics: how desensitizing options work, and how to use them without numbing connection* Medication options: common categories used for PE (including certain antidepressants prescribed for delay, and other clinician-guided choices) and what to discuss with a professional* Sex therapy / CBT approaches: performance anxiety, attention control, and communication tools that reduce pressure* Combination approaches: why many people do best with skills + support rather than a single “hack”* When to seek help: persistent distress, sudden onset, pain, erection changes, or relationship impact– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 2: The Biological Fix for Premature Ejaculation. This episode is about what “fix” really means: not a miracle hack, but working with the body’s systems—arousal regulation, reflex control, and nervous-system balance—so control becomes trainable.In this episode, we explore:* The ejaculation reflex: why it’s fast, automatic, and highly sensitive to stress* Sensitivity + stimulation patterns: how intensity, friction, and pacing change your timeline* Nervous system state: sympathetic “go” mode vs. parasympathetic “slow” mode—and why anxiety accelerates everything* Breath as a control tool: using exhale length, rhythm, and downshifting to reduce urgency* Pelvic floor mechanics: why clenching can push you closer, and how relaxation training can help* Arousal curve timing: learning your “point of no return” and steering earlier* Training habits: short practice sessions, stop–start pacing, and consistency over intensity* Lifestyle inputs: sleep, stress load, alcohol, and recovery—why stamina isn’t only a bedroom skill* When to seek support: if PE is sudden, distressing, or paired with pain or erection changes, a clinician can help This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 1: The Science Behind Lasting Longer in Bed. This episode is a reality check (and a roadmap): lasting longer usually isn’t about “being tougher”—it’s about understanding your arousal curve, regulating your nervous system, and using repeatable techniques that retrain response patterns.In this episode, we explore:* Arousal mapping: how to recognize your build-up points before it’s “too late”* The arousal curve: why timing matters more than intensity* Nervous system regulation: how stress, pressure, and performance anxiety speed things up* Breath + pacing: why slowing down physically often speeds up control* Technique tools: stop–start pacing, changing stimulation patterns, strategic pauses, and refocusing* Body skills: pelvic floor awareness (including relaxing vs. clenching) and why tension can backfire* Communication: how partners can help without turning it into a “test”* When to get support: how to think about underlying factors (stress, sleep, sensitivity, relationship tension) and when a clinician might help– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 6: “Forced Feminisation BDSM.” This episode is about a common fantasy theme that can be misunderstood on purpose: “forced” scenarios only work when they’re fully consensual, pre-negotiated, and supported with clear safety tools.In this episode, we explore:* What “forced” means in kink contexts: scripted resistance, consensual non-consent (CNC), and agreed-upon roles* Non-negotiable consent: the difference between “role no” and real-world no* Negotiation essentials: limits, triggers, language boundaries, privacy, and intensity pacing* Safety systems: safewords/traffic lights, nonverbal signals, and planned check-ins* Why it’s psychologically compelling: taboo, surrender, permission, and “contained loss of control”* Aftercare and debrief: grounding, reassurance, and unpacking emotions—especially if shame or fear gets activated* Red flags to avoid: vague agreements, pressure, escalation, humiliation-as-default, or ignoring aftercare/repair– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.comSource: https://www.lovehoney.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 5: “Rewiring Identity through Sissy Training.” This episode looks at identity change as a psychological process: the stories we repeat, the rituals we practice, and the rewards/punishments that shape what the mind starts to expect.When it’s done ethically, “rewiring” isn’t coercion—it’s a mutually agreed framework that uses structure to create consistency and intimacy.In this episode, we explore:* What “rewiring identity” actually means: conditioning, association, and self-story (not hypnosis or mind control)* Why it can feel powerful: permission, surrender, vulnerability, devotion, and belonging* Ritual as a lever: language, routines, symbols, and protocols that deepen the role over time* Reinforcement loops: praise, rewards, consequences, and why consistency matters more than intensity* Consent at depth: limits, safewords, check-ins, and the ongoing right to pause or renegotiate* Emotional safety: aftercare, debriefs, grounding, and how to handle shame spikes without using shame as the engine* Common pitfalls: escalation-by-pressure, secrecy-driven spirals, comparison, and “testing” worthiness– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com* Source: https://www.adameve.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 4: “Chastity Training for Hands-Free Sissygasms.” This episode looks at a specific erotic goal—hands-free orgasm—through the mechanics that actually drive it: conditioning, arousal mapping, sensory focus, and sustained anticipation. Whether you see it as feminization play, orgasm control, or devotional training, the same core principles apply: consent, structure, and nervous-system care.In this episode, we explore:* What “hands-free” really involves: attention, suggestion, arousal conditioning, and the body’s learned response patterns* Why chastity changes sensitivity: prolonged anticipation, reduced release frequency, and heightened responsiveness* Training mechanics: rituals, reinforcement loops, consistency over time, and keeping goals realistic* Consent at high intensity: clear negotiation, stop signals, and the right to pause or renegotiate* Pacing and safety: avoiding escalation-by-pressure, respecting physical comfort, and preventing emotional crash* Aftercare and debrief: grounding, reassurance, and reflection—especially when shame or vulnerability gets activated* Common myths and pitfalls: chasing “proof,” comparing experiences, or turning training into self-punishment– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 3: “Rigorous Curriculum of Sissy Training.” This episode looks at feminization role training as a system—not random impulses. When it’s done ethically, “training” isn’t coercion; it’s a mutually agreed framework that uses routine, meaning, and reinforcement to create consistency over time.In this episode, we explore:* What a “curriculum” really means: goals, structure, pacing, and measurable habits* Consent at every stage: negotiation, limits, safewords, and the ongoing right to pause or revise* Ritual + reinforcement: why repetition, symbols, and rewards make roles feel psychologically “sticky”* Accountability without shame: standards that build confidence vs. punishment that erodes self-worth* Role clarity: keeping identity-play intentional (and knowing when to debrief or re-ground)* Sustainability: avoiding burnout, emotional overload, or escalation-by-pressure* Integration: privacy, relationships, stigma management, and “real life” boundaries– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 2: “Total Identity Reconstruction.” This episode looks at the psychological mechanics of long-term feminization dynamics—how a role can move from “something you do” into “something you inhabit,” and why that can feel thrilling, stabilizing, or emotionally intense.In this episode, we explore:* What “identity reconstruction” means in kink: not mind control—chosen structure that reshapes attention, habits, and self-story* Why it can feel so powerful: permission, surrender, symbolism, vulnerability, and belonging* The role of repetition: how routines, rules, language, and consistent reinforcement build psychological “stickiness”* Ritual and meaning-making: why markers (tasks, titles, protocols) can deepen the experience over time* Consent at depth: negotiation, limits, safewords, and the ongoing right to pause, renegotiate, or stop* Emotional safety: check-ins, debriefs, and aftercare—especially when shame, fear, or tenderness gets activated* Red flags to avoid: coercion, isolation, humiliation-as-default, unclear agreements, or pushing past discomfort without repair– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Episode 1 of the feminization series: “The Psychological Wiring of BDSM Roles.” This episode looks at how feminization can become compelling—not as a meme or a stereotype, but as a negotiated role that carries emotional meaning, arousal patterns, and relationship structure.In this episode, we explore:* What “wiring” really means: conditioning, reinforcement, anticipation, and emotional association* Why feminization works for some people: symbolism, permission, vulnerability, devotion, control/surrender* Identity-play vs. identity: how to keep roleplay clear, respectful, and non-confusing if you want it to be* The role of ritual: routines, rules, language, and “markers” that deepen a dynamic over time* Consent as the foundation: negotiation, limits, safewords, and the right to pause or renegotiate* Shame and stigma: why secrecy can intensify desire—and also complicate wellbeing* Emotional safety practices: check-ins, aftercare, debriefs, and repair when feelings get tender– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 6: Psychology of Consensual Power explores what power exchange does psychologically when it’s chosen, negotiated, and cared for. In healthy dynamics, dominance isn’t entitlement and submission isn’t weakness—it’s a relationship agreement built on clarity and trust.In this episode, we explore:* Why structure can be soothing: predictability, containment, and reduced decision load* Motivations on both sides: leadership, service, surrender, standards, devotion, and responsibility-sharing* Attachment & intimacy: vulnerability, reassurance, and the bonding effect of being “held” inside rules* Consent as the engine: negotiation, limits, safewords, and the right to pause or renegotiate* Accountability vs. shame: discipline that builds growth vs. punishment that erodes self-worth* Ritual and reinforcement: how routines, rewards, and consequences shape behavior and desire* Repair: what healthy couples do after missteps, conflict, or emotional drop* Red flags: coercion, manipulation, isolation, humiliation-as-default, and consent erosion– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 5: Why Powerful Men Crave Submission looks at a common pattern: the more control someone holds in daily life, the more they may crave a space where control is shared or surrendered. In a consent-based dynamic, submission can offer emotional containment, nervous-system calm, and a rare kind of intimacy: being known, guided, and held to a standard.In this episode, we explore:* Control fatigue: how constant responsibility creates a hunger for relief* Permission to stop performing: why “I don’t have to decide” can feel euphoric* Structure and accountability: rules, standards, and consequences as grounding (not degrading)* The intimacy of being led: trust, vulnerability, and the desire to be handled with care* Shame vs. desire: how stigma turns a healthy craving into secrecy and self-judgment* Healthy dynamics: negotiation, boundaries, check-ins, and aftercare* Red flags: coercion, manipulation, dependence, and dominance that centers ego over care– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 4: Why Men Pay to Be Powerless takes a clear, consent-first look at the intersection of psychology, power, and money. For some men, paying for a dynamic isn’t about humiliation—it’s about permission: to stop managing, stop performing, and be held inside structure.In this episode, we explore:* Control fatigue: why constant responsibility can create a craving for surrender* The appeal of “no decisions”: containment, clarity, and relief through structure* Ritual + accountability: why rules and consequences can feel stabilizing* Money as a boundary tool: how payment can clarify expectations—and also create risks* Ethics of paid power exchange: consent, negotiation, confidentiality, and respect* Entitlement vs. service: what clients get wrong, and what responsible dominance requires* Shame and stigma: how secrecy complicates desire and mental wellbeing* Sustainability: emotional safety, aftercare, and avoiding dependency or compulsion– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 3: How BDSM Turns Pain into Pleasure explores the “why” behind sensation play—how something that would normally register as “bad” can become erotic, cathartic, or deeply grounding when it’s consensual and structured.In this episode, we cover:* Meaning changes sensation: why the brain processes pain differently when it’s chosen, contained, and trusted* Anticipation + control: how build-up, ritual, and permission amplify arousal* Neurochemistry basics: endorphins, adrenaline, dopamine, and the relief curve afterward* Discipline and surrender: why “being handled” can feel emotionally safe for some people* Calibration: intensity levels, pacing, warm-up, and reading signals* Consent tools: negotiation, safewords, traffic-light systems, nonverbal cues* Aftercare: physical recovery + emotional reassurance (and why it prevents drop)* Red flags: pushing past limits, using pain to punish, shame-based dynamics, ignoring aftercare– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 2: Neuroscience of BDSM looks at what’s happening in the brain and nervous system during BDSM—especially in dynamics that include discipline, sensation, restraint, and surrender. Understanding the biology helps explain why people seek intensity…and why aftercare matters.In this episode, we explore:* Arousal + meaning: why the brain responds differently when an experience is chosen and safe* Reward systems: dopamine, anticipation, novelty, and reinforcement* Stress and relief: adrenaline/cortisol spikes, endorphins, and why “edge” can become calming afterward* Bonding chemistry: trust, attachment, and why shared vulnerability can deepen connection* Subspace / headspace: what altered states can feel like and why they’re not “magic”* Drop (sub-drop / dom-drop): what it is, why it happens, and how to buffer it* Aftercare as nervous-system care: hydration, food, reassurance, decompression, and emotional check-ins* Safety + ethics: how to keep intensity from turning into dysregulation, shame, or compulsion– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Welcome to Male Submissive Discipline, Episode 1: Dominance Instinct—a practical, consent-first look at why dominance and discipline appeal to so many people, and how to turn that pull into a dynamic that improves real life rather than escaping it.In this episode, we explore:* What “dominance instinct” really is: desire for leadership, structure, and direction (not cruelty)* The internet trap: confusing porn logic and performative “alpha” myths with genuine authority* Why discipline can feel grounding: predictability, accountability, and emotional containment* Consent and negotiation: agreements, limits, safewords, and the right to pause or renegotiate* Consequences vs. punishment: what’s fair, proportional, and effective (and what’s just ego)* Consistency over intensity: how routines, standards, and follow-through create change* Common pitfalls: shame-based control, vague rules, resentment, and “testing” instead of bonding– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 6: Why Submissives Hold the Real Power explores the core paradox of power exchange: the submissive’s “yes” is what creates the dynamic—and their “no” is what protects it.In this episode, we explore:* Consent as the foundation of authority: dominance only exists by permission* The submissive as gatekeeper: boundaries, safewords, and the right to pause or renegotiate* Agency in surrender: why obedience can be an empowered choice, not a loss of self* Trust and vulnerability: what submission risks emotionally, and how good dominance protects that risk* Negotiation and leverage: how agreements are made, revised, and enforced* Healthy dynamics vs. manipulation: the difference between consent-based leadership and coercion* Repair and accountability: what happens when someone crosses a line, even unintentionally– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 5: How FLR Actually Work is a grounded walkthrough of the day-to-day mechanics that make a Female Led Relationship function—not just as an idea, but as a lived relationship structure.In this episode, we explore:* Defining the leadership lane: what she leads, what stays shared, and what never gets outsourced* Agreements that prevent resentment: expectations, responsibilities, and the “why” behind rules* Practical routines: check-ins, tasks, standards, and how consistency builds trust* Decision-making systems: how choices get made (and what happens when you disagree)* Accountability that’s fair: follow-through, consequences, and repair without humiliation* Emotional safety: reassurance, aftercare, and handling insecurity in a hierarchy dynamic* Common failure points: vague roles, unequal labor, silent pressure, and misaligned values* Sustainability: how to keep FLR supportive rather than exhausting– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com

Episode 4: Psychology of BDSM Power Exchange takes a clear, consent-first look at what’s happening under the surface when people choose hierarchy, ritual, and surrender in an FLR or BDSM-informed relationship.In this episode, we explore:* Why power exchange can feel soothing: predictability, containment, and trust* Motivations on both sides: leadership, service, surrender, devotion, responsibility-sharing* Attachment & intimacy: how security, reassurance, and “earned closeness” show up in D/s* Control vs. consent: the difference between chosen structure and coercion* The role of ritual: why routines, rules, and symbols can deepen meaning* Reward loops & anticipation: how attention, restraint, and reinforcement shape desire* Repair and renegotiation: what healthy dynamics do when feelings shift or conflict happens* Stigma & shame: why people hide this—and how secrecy can complicate wellbeing– Long-term chastity & control → https://www.oxy-shop.com/collections/all-productsProduced by Oxy-Shophttps://www.oxy-shop.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit creativebliss.substack.com