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In this conversation, Rabbi Yudkowsky and Rabbi Greenwald delve into the subject of friendship, for ourselves and for our children.Rabbi Greenwald outlines three fundamental elements of friendship - the role they play in our lives and the core of true friendships.It also addresses the pain of rejected friendships, especially in children, and how parents can guide their children in building meaningful relationships.Next the conversation touches on the different types of friendships, their benefits, and what sets enduring friendships apart from more transient relationships.It concludes with noting how nurturing and investing in friendships enhances individual and collective well-being.-----------------------Check out Rabbi Greenwald new book:https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422645352.html

Building Trust in the Home: Practical Insights for ParentingWhat does it really mean to build trust with our children, and what quietly erodes it over time?In this episode, Rabbi Yudkowsky and Rabbi Greenwald explore trust not as a technique, but as a way of being in the home. They touch on the subtle messages parents send through consistency, communication, and everyday interactions, and how those messages shape a child’s inner world.The conversation raises difficult and honest questions about control, guidance, and what happens when children struggle or push back. Along the way, the rabbis challenge common assumptions about parenting and invite listeners to reconsider what truly helps children grow into confident, grounded adults.This episode offers perspective, reflection, and a deeper way of thinking about trust, without easy answers or quick fixes.Timestamps0:00 Introduction and Welcome0:05 Creating a Trustworthy Environment1:04 The Marshmallow Experiment2:12 Nature vs. Nurture in Trust Development3:31 Teaching Delayed Gratification4:34 Parental Influence on Trust5:42 The Role of Consistency and Honesty8:49 Challenges in Parenting and Trust15:43 The Importance of Struggles and Challenges21:12 Guiding Children Through Mistakes24:27 The Power of Gentle Guidance25:47 A Fathers Persistent Influence27:18 Creating a Trusting Environment28:15 The Impact of Corporal Punishment31:38 Understanding and Addressing Rebellion34:35 Building Trust with Teenagers43:45 Summary and Key Takeaways on Trust and Parenting

Rabbi Yudkowsky and Rabbi Greenwald explore one of the most complex and emotionally charged challenges of parenting: trust. This is episode two of a three-part series focused on what it truly means to trust our children.The rabbis unpack some common fears that if unacknowledged or ignored can block our ability to trust.They distinguish between external compliance vs internal motivation -- obedience driven by pressure or fear and growth that emerges from choice, ownership, and self-direction. They challenge the assumption that constant intervention leads to better outcomes, examining the subversive impact of control on a child’s confidence, agency, and long-term development.The conversation extends into the religious and spiritual realm, considering the difference between cultivating authentic connection to mitzvot and values as opposed to outward conformity.They describe how trusting our children is an outgrowth of trusting ourselves and having the courage to give our children space to struggle, learn, and grow.Ultimately, this episode reframes trust as an act of faith in the process of growth and in our children’s potential. And it explains how meaningful connection—both in parenting and in Avodas Hashem—cannot be forced, only nurtured. 9f9tjijf-----------------------Check out Rabbi Greenwald new book:https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422645352.html

Rabbi Yudkowsky and Rabbi Greenwald explore what it truly means to build trust with our children. They discuss how trust is formed from early childhood through consistent care, emotional safety, empathy, and clear expectations.The conversation examines trust as a two-way relationship, balancing boundaries with understanding, and allowing children to learn from mistakes without fear. Drawing on parenting psychology, lived experience, and spiritual insight, the Rabbis offer practical guidance for fostering self-belief, responsibility, and emotional security in children.qtqx9ygy

How do we get ready for Yom Kippur wihtout all the fear and anxiety? In this heartfelt conversation, Rabbi Greenwald and Rabbi Yudkowsky explore self-improvement through the lens of Yom Kippur, relationships of unconditional love, and the ongoing journey of getting closer to Hashem.Key Questions Explored in the Episode:How can we approach Yom Kippur with positivity instead of fear?What lessons about growth can we learn from our parents?How do we maintain momentum beyond the “high moments” of life?Rabbi Greenwald and Rabbi Yudkowsky reflect on the process of self-improvement, highlighting how internal dialogue, family dynamics, and motivation all contribute to personal growth. The discussion offers a refreshing perspective on Yom Kippur, portraying it not as a day of fear but as a gift of renewal and self-clarity. Through stories, analogies, and practical insights, they share how to approach life’s challenges with faith, perspective, and resilience. Reminding us that growth is not about perfection but about steady, meaningful progress.Time Stamps:(00:00) Speak to yourself(00:18) The Importance of Self-Understanding(04:26) Yom Kippur(06:17) Personal Experiences and Reflections(06:46) The Concept of Fear and Forgiveness(07:46) Context and Perspective(10:03) The Human Experience and Growth(23:22) Parental Influence and Relationship with God(30:34) Reflecting on Personal Growth(31:11) The Surgeon(33:48) Facing Yom Kippur with Realistic Expectations(36:10) The Marathon of Life(40:47) Course Correction and Continuous Improvement(45:42) Maintaining Growth Beyond the High Moments(49:40) The Journey of Life and Faith