When the f**k did I become old?

When your adult children get married, you're not just gaining an in-law you're potentially entering a minefield of power struggles, boundary conflicts and family drama. This week, we unpack "brat-ults (privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents) through the lens of celebrity wedding wars, then dig into what happens when your first child ties the knot. From Brooklyn Beckham's 6 page Instagram manifesto to the universal challenges of dealing with your kids' partners, wedding ceremonies and prenup conversation. KEY TAKEAWAYSThe "Brat-ult" Phenomenon: Privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents Entitlement vs. Legitimate Conflict: The difference between healthy boundaries and entitled behaviour1st Marriage Milestone: Parents in their mid-50s/early-60s typically experience their first child's weddingThe Partner Question: Do you express concerns about your child's relationship Power Struggles Are Real: Wedding planning can become a battleground between families"Us" Matters: Supporting your adult child's relationship means accepting their partner is their priorityPrenup: Best done when couples are in love and with wealth inequalityGrandchildren Pressure: Being obsessive about grandchildren Independence Is Healthy: Teaching children self-sufficiency early creates better boundariesThe Divorce Reality: With a 48% divorce rate, statistical concerns about marriage are valid but tricky Let Them Make Mistakes: Adult children need to make their own choices  TIMESTAMPS00:30 Brat-ults, cancelling parents and wedding conflicts00:59 - What are "brat-ults"? Dr. Elizabeth McCain's article on privileged young adults in conflict with their parents01:53 - Celebrity examples: Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry03:00 - Jo's frustration with Brooklyn’s entitled behaviour and public family feuds04:38 - The psychology of spoiled children and parental guilt06:43 - Social media's role in normalising parent cancellation, by the rich and famous07:08 - The immaturity of public family conflicts08:22 - Brooklyn Beckham's wedding as the catalyst09:26 - Plot twist: When did the Spice Girls get old?09:52 - Parents in their 50s/60s experiencing their first child's wedding10:24 - Power struggles behind the scenes at the Beckham wedding10:57 - The new family dynamic: Your kid is no longer a kid12:06 - Do you like your child's partner? What if you think it won’t last?13:30 - The importance of "the us" in relationships14:15 -Jo's take on not being married herself15:05 - Mother's sense of loss when a child marries16:43 - Jo's parenting style: Independence from an early age17:23 - Single parenting and teaching self-sufficiency18:33 - In-law relationships: Does it really matter if you don't click?19:20 - Power struggles over the wedding ceremony itself19:35 - Mumzilla vs. bridezilla: Jo's prom dress experience20:33 - Making mistakes and learning independence20:52 - The grandchildren pressure problem22:11 - Kev's statistical approach to marriage advice for his boys23:01 - The prenup debate: When does it make sense?23:47 - Deed of trust: Jo's experience with wealth protection24:33 - Wealth inequality and prenup timing25:20 - Kev - Would you tell your child you don't like their partner?26:06 - Malevolence vs. minor annoyances27:17 - Wedding planning involvement28:52 - Final thoughts: Freedom, boundaries and respecting choices

We celebrate our podcast's 1st anniversary on Valentine's Day by diving into dating after 50, relationship maintenance and why this made-up holiday matters more than we thought.Forget just celebrating Valentine's Day, we're celebrating a full year of podcasting! In this milestone episode, we reflect on our journey from starting with different co-hosts to building an audience (slower than expected!), going viral with 200K views and even getting nominated for a Pro-Ageing Podcast Award.But the heart of this episode is about love after 50. We explore the three types of people on Valentine's Day (singles, established couples, and newly dating), confess how we nearly let Valentine's Day slide after 8 years together and share what people actually prioritise when dating post-50: intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness.We get brutally honest about the challenges of dating later in life, the baggage everyone brings, financial compatibility conversations, health considerations and the reality that 35-40 years of habits won't change. From joint bank accounts (we don't have one) to understanding your partner's "money language," we cover the conversations you need to have before fully committing. KEY TAKEAWAYSPodcasting reality check: We overestimated Year 1 success and learned listeners dip in and out rather than following. Valentine's serves as a reminder to invest effort in your relationship, not just celebrate on one specific date.Post-50 dating priorities shift: Intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness matter most (men add facial attractiveness; women add dependability).Everyone over 50 has baggage; we think it's actually a red flag if they don't.The comfort zone trap is real: Cohabitation can lead to taking each other for granted if you're not carefulMoney means different things: Safety, control, freedom, or love, understanding your partner's "money language" is crucialWe took 4.5 years before moving in together, there's no rush when you're building something real TIMESTAMPS00:27 - Introduction & First Anniversary01:54 - Year One Highlights and Surprises: Viral Posts & Award Nominations02:49 – Lessons Learnt from Our First Year04:10 - The Three Categories of Dating for People over 50 on Valentine's Day05:41 – The Evolution of Our Valentine’s Day06:18 - The Comfort Zone Trap: How We Nearly Let Valentine's Slide 10:15 - What People Over 50 Actually Look For in Partners 11:29 - The Baggage Factor: Everyone Has a History 14:07 - Blended Families & Why We Had It Easier14:55 – Our Primary Motivation When We Started Dating Each Other in Our Mid 50s16:21 - Health & Wealth: The Delicate Conversations – Do you want to be a nursemaid?17:19 - It Is Important to do Things Together19:00 - Financial Compatibility: Joint Accounts vs. Independence 21:21 - Emotional Transparency, Past Relationship Trauma & Understanding Your Own “Money Language”23:34 - Our Relationship Journey  & Philosophies to Dating 25:53 - Our Opinion on Dating post 50 RESOURCES MENTIONED• Anthony Robbins quote on Year 1 vs. Year 5 expectations  • Sunday papers article on dating characteristics post-50  • Research on financial compatibility in couples  • Love languages and attachment styles theory  • Previous viral episode: Should Adult Children Spend Christmas With Us? CONNECT WITH USAvailable on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube Instagram: @whenthefuckdididbecomeold

The midlife crisis isn't dead… it's had a makeover! We explore 5 new stereotypes replacing the old motorbike-and-affair cliché, confess which ones we fit and reveal shocking stats about sex after 50. Nothing is off the table!Forget the leather jacket and motorcycle stereotype! The Times Magazine has declared the traditional midlife crisis dead and replaced it with FIVE new archetypes. Join us hilariously dissect each one;from the LinkedIn Thought Leader to the Midlife Clubber and (reluctantly) admit which stereotypes we have fallen into.But this episode goes deeper than stereotypes. We break the taboo around sex after 50 with eye-opening statistics: 85% of men aged 60-69 are sexually active, 45% of over-50s are having the best sex of their lives, and 1 in 8 are doing it at least 5 times a week!Inspired by the BBC series "Riot Women" and our own midlife experiences, we explore why society doesn't want to see older people as sexual beings, what happens when the kids leave home and the surprising kinks dominating the over-50s bedroom.KEY TAKEAWAYSThe old midlife crisis stereotype (motorbike, affair, leather jacket) has been replaced by 5 new archetypes The Midlife Clubber is real and we are living proof (daytime clubbing, anyone?)45% of people over 50 report having the best sex of their lives RIGHT NOWMedia representation of sex after 50 is virtually non-existent (67% say it's rarely/never shown)Empty nesters experience significant improvements in their sex lives (48% report better intimacy)33% of over-50s are open to multiple sexual partnersConfidence and self-acceptance increase with age, leading to more sexual explorationTIMESTAMPS00:43 - The Times redefines the Old Midlife Crisis Stereotype and a look at the 5 new stereotypes02:20 - Kev's Confession: Living the Stereotype Early 04:04 - Stereotype #1: The Thought Leader (Kyle with his LinkedIn insights) 06:20 - Stereotype #2: The Psychedelic Dabbler (Emma's mushroom journey) 08:05 - Stereotype #3: The Camper Van Fan (Kath's van life obsession) 09:54 - Stereotype #4: The Midlife Clubber – We could be guilty! 12:57 - Stereotype #5: The Open Relationship Advocate (Polyamorous Debs) 14:30 - Sex After 50: Breaking the Taboo 16:07 - Shocking Statistics: Sex Lives of Over-50s 20:16 - The Lelo Survey: Best Sex of Their Lives 23:12 - The Great British Sex Experiment Discussion 25:27 - Top 5 Kinks for Over-50s Revealed 26:20 – Do We Need to Re-do Our Bucket List?26:33 - Which Stereotype Do We Relate to? 30:17 - Creating Their Own Stereotype & Next Episode PreviewRESOURCES MENTIONED• BBC Series: Riot Women • Times Magazine Article on midlife crisis stereotypes • Lelo Survey: Sex Lives of Over-50s • Previous guests: Suzanne Noble (sex advice for seniors)and Dr. Elliott Justin • Previous episode: The Happiness Curve & Midlife MalaiseNEXT EPISODEValentine's Day Special - February 6, 2026#MidlifeCrisis #AgeingUnapologetically #SexAfter50 #MidlifeReinvention #PodcastOver50 #AgeingWell #MidlifeClubbing #Perimenopause #RiotWomen #SexualWellness #Over50AndThrivingSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com  

January isn’t over yet and neither are the resolutions, bucket lists, or existential reckonings. We take a brutally honest (and very funny) look at how our January intentions are actually going, from elusive masquerade balls and long-delayed bucket list dreams, to Dry January becoming… possibly Dry February.Along the way, the conversation turns deeply personal: drinking habits, relationships, sex, sobriety, ageing bodies, and the symbolic end-of-day drink. The episode concludes with a passionate tribute to one of January’s most iconic sons, David Bowie, and why his legacy still matters across generations. Key TakeawaysBucket lists don’t expire - sometimes timing is everything.Alcohol is deeply symbolic, especially in relationships and daily rituals.Stopping (or questioning) drinking later in life is emotional, not just physical.Ageing invites honesty - about bodies, habits, sex and self-image.David Bowie remains timeless, influencing generations long after his death.January isn’t about perfection - it’s about reflection.Timestamps00:53  Our Bucket List Update, The Masquerade Ball - Venice, Versailles, eye-watering ticket prices and alternative02:15 Kev finally ticks off a 23-year-old dream and the emotional backstory involving Jeremy Clarkson, fatherhood, guilt and timing05:56 Kev’s Post-Christmas stubborn weight and why January hasn’t magically fixed anything06:45 Drinking Maths – Kev is drinking 50–70 units a week, 4,000 calories, NHS guidelines and the uncomfortable truth behind “I don’t want to eat less”08:11 He is considering “dry something” because 17.5M people in the UK are doing Dry January09:11 The over-55s are least likely to question alcohol intake, Kev will do a month dry10:16 Jo’s Sobriety Story, why she gave up alcohol over 20 years ago, being a single parent- fear, responsibility and choosing pain over pleasure13:15 Jo & Kev have questions for each other from a recent article13:36 Kev asks if she thinks he is drinking too much15:40 When was the last time we had sober sex16:20 If Kev gives up drinking, there is a possibility that he might be miserable18:43 Kev predicts irritability, garage cleaning and losing the symbolic “end of the day” drink.20:30 Celebrities of our age who have given up alcohol22:10 David Bowie gave up alcohol in 199323:07 David and Elvis were massive icons24:27 Ziggy Stardust was a redhead24:55 The first airplay of “Heroes” played by John Peel, in the same year as Elvis died26:05 Bowie’s cultural impact, he is timeless. He died 10 years ago, he released Black Star. Was that orchestrated?29:20 Bowie was a nonconformist; he shaped music and fashion29:54  A recent article said 10 bands wouldn’t exist without Bowie, including Sex Pistols, Joy Division, The Cure, Suede, Pulp, Placebo and The Kooks38:37 We promise to report back on Dry January/FebruarySubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@WhentheFdidIbecomeold  

In this episode, we dive headfirst into one of the biggest changes of our time: AI.Jo believes AI is moving fast and could be dangerous if left unchecked. Kev? Not convinced and frankly a bit exhausted by constant change.From black-and-white TVs to ChatGPT, VHS barcode pens to Alexa paranoia, we explore how different generations adapt (or don’t), whether AI really threatens jobs or humanity itself and why fatigue, scepticism, and “I just can’t be arsed” might be the most honest response of all.Funny, sharp and unfiltered this is a real conversation about ageing, tech, fear, curiosity, and knowing when to lean in… and when to say no.Key TakeawaysAI feels revolutionary, but so did the internet, mobile phones and Sky TVChange fatigue is real, especially after decades of adaptingAI will replace easy work, not human judgmentCritical thinking will matter more than everAI poses risks around misinformation, fraud, and emotional manipulationThe biggest danger may not be Skynet, but the exploitation of vulnerable peopleYou don’t have to love AI to accept it’s hereCuriosity beats panic (and denial)Timestamps00:29 – Our attitudes to change, in particular to AI01:25 – Kev admits he’s an AI Philistine, he agrees he should know more02:32 – Growing up without phones, internet, or streaming and with black & white TVs03:29 – VHS recorders, barcode pens & early tech miracles04:28 – People said the internet “would never catch on”05:14 – Home automation – The internet of things06:52 – Change fatigue: “How many times can we relearn everything?”07:50 – AI at work: productivity tools & human oversight08:40 – Will AI take our jobs? The “easy work” argument10:30 – AI hallucinations and critical thinking11:24 – What the “big boys” are worried about11:57 – Creativity, charts & AI-generated music, what is real13:16 – AI avatars, grief & replacing dead loved ones14:02 – Kev’s glamourous AI version of Jo15:00 –Useful for the elderly16:06 – Humanoid robots and avatars16:54 – Fraud, FaceTime scams & the elderly17:54 – Cold War fears vs AI panic22:05 – The race to AGI & East vs West24:26 – Medical AI, wearables & privacy dilemmas27:23 – When tech fails the people it’s meant to help28:35 – Jo’s real-life AI uses for podcasts & business31:41 – Kev’s current use of AI and his commitment for 2026Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com  

What if everything we’ve been told about ageing and happiness is wrong?In this episode of When the F**k Did I Become Old?, we dive into the surprising science behind happiness and why life often feels hardest in midlife but better on the other side of it.Sparked by a viral Christmas clip that racked up over 163,000 views and ignited fierce debate, our conversation moves into the World Happiness Report, the Cantril Ladder and the research behind the so-called midlife malaise.Kev shares insights from The Happiness Curve by Jonathan Rauch, revealing why happiness follows a U-shaped curve; dipping in our 40s and 50s before rising again as we age. Together we unpack expectations, resilience, gratitude, emotional intelligence and why getting older may actually be something to look forward to.This is an honest, funny, and deeply reassuring episode for anyone who’s ever wondered:Is this it?(Spoiler: no, it really isn’t.)Key TakeawaysHappiness follows a U-shaped curve, not a steady climbMidlife is often the lowest point — and that’s normalYoung people are optimistic but unrealistic about happinessMidlife pressure comes from expectations, responsibility, and comparisonAfter 50, people become more resilient, emotionally intelligent, and gratefulOlder adults cope better with stress and uncertaintyLife shifts from striving to beingAgeing isn’t the end — it’s often the most fulfilling chapterReinvention and “encore careers” are common and powerful after midlifeTimestamps00:45 – Christmas without children & why it went viral02:40 – Introducing the topic: happiness03:24 – The World Happiness Report & how happiness is measured03:58 – The Cantril Ladder explained05:30 – Happiest and unhappiest countries in the world06:40 – The Happiness Curve & the surprising U-shape08:28 – Why young people are happier (and more optimistic)09:00 – The optimism bias & unrealistic expectations12:06 – The hedonic treadmill: chasing “more”12:50 – Kev’s personal happiness graph experiment16:17– Midlife malaise vs the myth of the midlife crisis16:50 – How longer lifespans changed everything19:46 – Divorce, redundancy & pressure in midlife20:35 – Glass ceilings and career reality checks22:33 – Illness, mortality & emotional turning points24:26 – Reframing and why life feels lighter after 5026:45 – Why comparison changes and people believe they are happier27:38 – Gratitude, perspective & comparison traps28:41 – Increased emotional intelligence, resilience & compassion30:21 – “Having what you want” vs “wanting what you have”31:57 – Encore careers & reinvention after 5033:15 – Why ageing isn’t the disaster we were sold📚 Resources MentionedThe Happiness Curve – Jonathan RauchWorld Happiness ReportCantril Ladder of Life SatisfactionSupporting organisationshttps://www.oddfellows.co.uk/https://www.workingtransitions.com/https://www.proage.org/   

Do New Year’s resolutions actually work, especially as we get older?In this honest, funny and refreshingly unfiltered episode we challenge everything we’ve been told about January self-improvement.From overcrowded gyms and guilt-driven goal setting to the pressure to “start fresh” on January 1st, we explore why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and why optimism, agency and having something to look forward to matter far more as we age.Drawing on insights from geriatric psychiatry, lived experience and bucket-list thinking for over-50s, this episode reframes ageing as a time for renewal, curiosity and choosing goals that genuinely make life more vibrant, not just more “virtuous”.Key Takeaways• Why looking forward to the future is vital for mental health in later life• New Year’s resolutions vs bucket lists and which actually works• Motivation, fitness and goal-setting after 50• Why “boring but sensible” goals don’t always inspire change• How hobbies, travel, social connection and curiosity keep life meaningful• Choosing one achievable goal that makes life richerIf you’re over 50, questioning ageing, fed up with guilt-based self-improvement or simply want to feel more excited about what’s ahead, this episode is for you.Timestamps00:48 - Do either of us actually do resolutions? Kev has traditionally had projects planned.04:07 - Are any of Jo’s regimes cyclical/planned for January 1st?04:38 - Why don’t we do New Year's Resolutions?05:50 - What is a New Year’s resolution and why is it important to make them?09:45 - Christmas is a natural pause, which allows us to reflect10:27 - Optimism and agency  give you the feeling of being in control11:37 - The top 10 New Year’s resolutions for seniors, including exercise, mental health and diet16:35 - Bucket lists vs resolutions: what’s the difference?18:26  -Bucket list ideas for over-50s that actually excite us -Travel dreams, hobbies & new experiences22:03 - Build something amazing22:30 - Our joint bucket list wish list25:40 - The benefits of goals that make a positive change for 202627:35 - Our goals for 2026 https://lifeconnect24.co.uk/blogs/hobbies/50-bucket-list-ideas

In this episode, we explore the complexities of spending Christmas with adult children. We discuss the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics, the evolution of Christmas traditions and the importance of adapting to new realities as children grow up. We highlight the importance of open communication and understanding as our families navigate the evolving landscape of holiday celebrations.Key TakeawaysChristmas with adult children brings new challenges.Creating new traditions is essential as families evolve.Emotional responses to children not being home for Christmas are common.Parents must adapt to their children's changing preferences.The pressure of parental expectations can affect holiday gatherings.Open communication is key to understanding children's needs.Christmas celebrations should reflect the current family dynamics.It's important to allow children to create their own holiday experiences.Financial considerations play a role in hosting Christmas.Navigating adult relationships requires flexibility and understanding.Time Stamps01:14 Our first Xmas with no kids at home01:38 Remembering Xmas as a child06:04 Creating New Christmas Traditions for our kids10:55 How it felt when my daughter asked if she could spend Xmas with her friends13:15 Pros and cons of having Xmas with adult children16:29 Managing expectations17:58 Shifting Dynamics of Family Gatherings18:23 Hosting Xmas is expensive20:41 We think we might be invited for Xmas soon21:21 We have to let our kids create their own Xmas22:00 Main reasons adult children don’t want to spend Xmas with their parents24:24 New Year’s Eve27:35 Is this the last year we go clubbing on New Year’s Eve?29:10 Get to know your children as adults30:14 Redefining Christmas CelebrationsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo sits down with Amanda Forsyth, the co-founder and CEO of LivOn, a new app helping people navigate the transition into retirement by discovering their interests, building purpose and staying connected to their community.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. They unpack identity loss, loneliness and why retirement is far more than finances and how LivOn is redefining what this next chapter can look like. Key Takeaways Retirement is a whole new chapter, not an ending So much of “good retirement” is down to luck Identity loss is a huge, hidden problem Live On is like a retirement coach in your pocket Special support for men & the newly “forced” retired The app is free, with a “tech for good” missionTimestamps 01:38 - What is LivOn 02:04 - Retirement Comes Down to Luck 02:40 - Amanda’s Parents’ Journey 04:28 - The Difficulty of Finding Activities After 60 05:34 - 1 in 3 People Struggle with Retirement 06:04 - We Are Living Much Longer 06:20 - What LivOn Offers (Overview) 07:25 - The Personality Test, designed to help the individual 07:53 - How the App Recommends Activities 09:30 - Helping Introverts or the Newly Alone Make Friends 10:26 - Partnerships & Trusted Sources 11:25 - Supporting Men in Retirement 12:33 - Can Users Add Their Own Groups or Events? 13:42 - If the App Is Free, How Will It Make Money? 14:32 - What Might the Premium Version Include? 15:15 - The Gap in the Market 17:08 - Who Is the App For? (55+ and beyond) 18:35 - Why Aren’t We Emotionally Prepared for Retirement? 19:38 - Jo Talks About Kev’s Forthcoming Retirement Process 22:22 - Why Live On Avoids Health & Finance Advice (For Now) 23:40 - Anonymous Chat Groups (Reddit-Style) 25:56 - The Bigger Mission 28:24 - When Is the App Launching? January 2026 28:46 - Early Testers Wanted Website: www.livon.ai (people can sign up for early access and learn a bit more about what we’re building.)Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode SummaryIn this unapologetically honest episode, we dive into the exploding world of cosmetic surgery, injectables and weight-loss drugs, especially for people over 50. From facelifts to Ozempic, celebrity transparency and the reality of loose skin, we explore what’s real, what’s taboo and what’s becoming completely normal.We also discuss how Gen X is redefining aging, why social media is both inspiring and exhausting and the huge rise in both men and women seeking aesthetic treatments.Topics DiscussedWhy celebrities finally admitting surgery helps everyoneCosmetic procedures growing rapidly in men (up 70% since 2021)The difference between surgery in the 2000s vs todayZoom culture and the rise of self-criticismTop cosmetic procedures for men vs womenJo’s personal experience with surgery & BotoxKev’s reconstructive surgery storyAre facelifts still taboo? Why they shouldn’t be?Brad Pitt rumours (has he or hasn't he?)Fitness culture, shredding and the pressure to look “ageless”Weight loss drugs (Ozempic/Wegovy/Mounjaro) becoming mainstreamThe truth about side effects: sickness, muscle loss & long-term riskLoose skin after weight loss and why it’s driving more faceliftsGen X refusing to “act old” and how culture is shiftingConfidence, comparison and the expectations placed on women over 50Timestamps01.45 – Celebrity honesty & why it matters04:13– Kev’s reconstructive surgery background06:48 – Zoom culture and self-image after 5008:05 – Men vs women: top 5 cosmetic procedures11:05 – Kev on ageing, weight, and “could I be bothered?”13:48 – Jo on Botox, implants & considering a facelift14:48 – “Glamour pusses” over 50: Liz Hurley, Aniston, Kidman18:32 – Gen X is ageing differently, here’s why22:34 – What men really think about women having surgery24:38 – Facelifts in Turkey & risks vs results28:00 – The weight-loss drug boom31:49 – Side effects, muscle loss & poor dosage33:00 – Weight loss → loose skin → facelift trend34:20 – Weight loss drugs and cosmetic work are no longer tabooSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Winter Health: Flu Jabs, SAD, Christmas Weight Gain & Wellbeing in Later LifeEpisode SummaryIn this candid and humorous episode, we dive into the realities of winter health for people over 60, from flu jabs and COVID boosters to Seasonal Affective Disorder, sleep struggles, hydration, exercise, Christmas weight gain and what truly defines wellbeing in later life. We explore how older adults can stay physically and mentally strong during the darkest months of the year.Key TakeawaysMaintaining winter health is a combination of lifestyle, sunlight exposure, exercise, sleep, and nutrition.Flu jabs significantly reduce hospitalisations in people over 65 — but decisions are personal.SAD is more common than people realise and often goes undiagnosed.Christmas weight gain isn't the problem — not losing it afterwards is.The biggest predictors of wellbeing in later life are:cognitive engagement, social connection, physical activity, and housing stability.Timestamps.01:53 Flu jabs: Should we get them?03:34 If I am fit, do I need one?04:59 COVID vaccinations are no longer free? How do you know if you have it?07:43 Herd mentality vs personal choice08:59 Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): What it is & why it hits in winter09:30 Symptoms of SAD in everyday life10:40 Fixing winter fatigue: Light, sleep, and routine12:40 The Ultimate Energy Edge Challenge with Ben Price; go outside15:17 The reality of winter exercise16:56 Ben Price’s advice on sleep and sleep patterns17:38 Christmas weight gain: truth, myths & personal disasters20:57 The recommended steps to not putting on weight at Christmas22:43 Avoid stress eating as a response to bad sleep, sugar cravings, sleep & emotional eating26:00 Kev once made the mistake of having a medical after Christmas eating28:07 Wellbeing in later life: What the new Age UK index reveals29:50 Age UK suggestions on how to improve wellbeing at 60+32:00 Exercise; padel, gyms, social connection & staying activeSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week I welcome my new co-host, Kev Stockbridge, for a deep, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, International Men’s Day, and the often-hidden issue of male loneliness , especially as men age.Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement.From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary.Key TakeawysWhy November matters for men’s mental healthMovember: where it started and what it funds todaySuicide statistics and the shocking gender divideHow men and women differ in social connectionWhy loneliness skyrockets for men over 50The “A.L.E.C.” model anyone can use to support someoneWhy retirement is psychologically dangerous for menHow purpose protects mental healthThe rise of male-only support spaces (Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club)Creating social networks before retirementPractical, real-life ways to support the men in your lifeTimestamps01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches)06:34 – What Movember funds today08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride 09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme11.34 – Why men die younger than women13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same)18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 203020:55 – Why men struggle socially after 5022:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion)29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat”31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around youhttps://uk.movember.comhttps://internationalmensday.comhttps://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/https://menssheds.org.ukhttps://andysmanclub.co.uk Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Put an Erection Ring on it Episode I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor. This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it. Key Takeaways: Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring Designing a device for women How the erection ring can help you Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it Timestamps: • [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin • [01:39] – The Erection ring • [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction • [14:18] – How Women have been described • [16:45] – Database • [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring • [26:02] – Shame and secrecy • [31:56] - Device for women • [32:54] – Your mission Where to get more information on the penis ring or buy one: https://myfirmtech.com/Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this engaging conversation, I talk to Suzanne Noble, host of the podcast Sex Advice for Seniors, we explore the often-taboo topics surrounding ageing, sexuality, and the challenges faced by seniors. Suzanne shares her journey in founding 'Advantages of Age' and the importance of disrupting negative narratives about ageing. We discuss the complexities of desire, the significance of communication in relationships and the need for open discussions about sexual health. The conversation emphasises the importance of community and support in navigating the ageing process, while also addressing the innovations in sexual wellness that can enhance pleasure and intimacy for seniors.TakeawaysAgeing narratives need to be disrupted to reflect reality.Community support is vital for seniors facing challenges.Sexuality does not diminish with age; it evolves.Communication about sexual health is crucial for pleasure.Many seniors lack information about sexual wellness.Desire and libido are complex and influenced by many factors.Lube and other aids should be normalised in conversations.Ageing brings unique challenges that require attention from policymakers.The importance of celebrating achievements in ageing through awards.Everyone's experience of ageing and sexuality is unique.Timestamps01:14 Suzanne is on a mission to smash the stereotypes around ageing and sex02:11 Media narrative around ageing03:03 The Journey of Advantages of Age06:42 Start up School for Seniors – to help people over 50 start a new business08:43 Sex Advice for Seniors explained09:53 This age group used to be sorted13:12 Any surprises?14:22 Getting back into sex in her 60s and reactions17:17 Desire and libido are complex19:30 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration23:40 Interesting interview(s) on Sex Advice for Seniors21:04 How easy is it to communicate about sex with your partner?24:59 Dr Elliot Justin – Penis RingSuzanne's Linkshttps://advantagesofageawards.com/https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pegging-and-the-older-man-how-tohttps://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtechSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we explore the concept of a 'second childhood', emphasising the importance of embracing creativity, passion, and a sense of wonder akin to that of a child. We discuss how allowing oneself to experience these feelings can lead to personal growth and self-discovery.TakeawaysThe idea of second childhood, in a way, it is a second childhood.Allowing yourself to have the same creativity and passions.Absorption in things and awe and wonder as a little two and a half year old.What is wrong with that?Embracing creativity can lead to personal growth.Passion is essential for a fulfilling life.Awe and wonder can be rediscovered at any age.Self-discovery is a lifelong journey.Creativity should not be limited by age.Allowing oneself to feel like a child can be liberating.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of 'When the F*** Did I Become Old?', hosts Jo Parker and Corinne Franceschi explore the complex relationship between ageing and mindset. They discuss the impact of attitude, emotional memory, belief, and cultural perspectives on the ageing process. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, language, and the power of choice in shaping how we experience ageing. Through various studies and personal anecdotes, they highlight that while ageing is inevitable, our perception and approach to it can significantly influence our quality of life as we grow older.TakeawaysAgeing is influenced by both mindset and physical factors.Attitude plays a significant role in how we perceive ageing.Emotional memory can affect our physical vitality as we age.Belief in oneself can lead to positive physical changes.Language and self-talk are crucial in shaping our ageing experience.Cultural perspectives can impact how ageing is viewed and respected.Mindfulness can help us stay present and aware as we age.We have the power to choose our attitude towards aging.Ageing is a complex interplay of various factors, not just mindset.The freedom that comes with ageing can be liberating.Timestamps01:32 Mel Robbins podcast episode with De Ellen Lnager02:46 The Mind-Body Connection in Ageing03:40 Attitude and Ageing: A Complex Relationship05:53 Emotional Memory and Its Impact on Ageing09:50 Belief and Perception: Shaping Our Ageing Experience13:40 How do Faith, Gender, Culture impact your Belief14:46 Negativity around age15:30 Cultural Perspectives on Ageing, how we make it more interesting and fun16:37 The Role of Language and Mindfulness in Ageing21:10 Belonging and Being Accepted17:52 The Power of Choice in the Ageing Process25:57 Is there Something Liberating about Getting Old29:13 We Have a ChoiceSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Corinne Franceschi (ex head teacher)In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers.TakeawaysParkinson's affects everyone differently, with over 40 symptoms.Early onset Parkinson's tends to progress more slowly.There is a lack of awareness about Parkinson's as a growing neurological condition.Caregiving can lead to emotional detachment as a protective mechanism.Support systems are crucial but often lacking in understanding of Parkinson's.The impact of Parkinson's extends to family and relationships.Maintaining personal identity is vital for caregivers.Practical advice includes understanding treatment options and side effects.Finding joy and personal fulfillment is essential for caregivers.Establishing lasting power of attorney is important for managing care.Timestamps01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity22:22 Depression and Dignitas24:23 Going into a Care Home26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney 28:09 Practical Advice for New DiagnosesFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Holistic DentistryEpisode Summary: In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to other things in your body. Key Takeaways: Can toothache relate to something else in my body 1st step is the most important oneDr Elmar Jung’s podcast Timestamps: • [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung• [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry• [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth• [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths • [19:28] – Fluoride • [22:10] – Where can we do our research• [23:47] – How do we start • [27:50] – Root CanalDr Elmar's podcast Tooth Talk https://open.spotify.com/show/2nLSiWifMMs1QjUoXdiCng?si=56e0b821c4994583+-+Tooth+Talk&nd=1&dlsi=eac902f460a543cbRoot Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8 The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQHFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Kev ( my partner)!Finding yourself after divorce...post 50Episode Summary:In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way.Key Takeaways:40% of marriages end in divorceEverything has an end to itFinding your identityTimestamps:• [01:36] – Kev’s divorce• [05:10] – Identity• [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling• [18:44] – Kev going to India• [24:25] – What you do creates your identityFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!Shall we take the kids on holiday?Episode Summary: In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the difficulties of holidays with pets. Key Takeaways: Creating family holidays and memories Paying for older children to go on holiday Why do we take them on holidayTimestamps: • [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets• [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids• [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children• [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday• [22:03] – The last swansongSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/sally@sallyrule.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.