Life Uncut

Hey lifers! We know you love ask uncut! The data tells us that you love ask uncut. They’re our most popular episodes so we have decided that once a month (ish - give or take 😂) we are going to have a guest ask uncut on a Friday! When thinking of the guest line up there was one person that we all unanimously said YES to and it was Toni Lodge! Toni has joined the podcast before (you can listen/watch here). She also joined our live show a few years ago in Perth! Today she is here to answer your deep and burning questions but first we will start with the pettiest hill she’s willing to die on: It’s okay to use your windscreen washer whenever you like; even if there’s someone behind you. Then we jump into your questions! CAN I STOP AFTER I'VE COME?Is it okay for me to have sex with my partner until I come, and then just stop - if I can tell he won't come too? My partner comes about 1 out of 2 times we have sex - and he always has, since we've been together. It used to annoy me but now I accept his sex drive is lower than mine and also, he doesn't think it's an issue. We used to keep going regardless, for fun and because we both enjoyed it. But I'm tired and pregnant, and have a toddler, and I can tell if he won't climax in a session... sooo can I just roll off him when I'm done, or do I have to wait til he calls it quits, even if it takes ages?? CAN I SHAVE IN THE PUBLIC POOL SHOWER?So let me preface this by saying: I have two small children, work part time, study full time and take most of family mental load. I get very little time to myself and very rarely get to shower by myself or uninterrupted. Twice a week I go swimming at the local aquatic centre. It’s my time all to myself, no children. I go to a pool that does not have child facilities so it’s very much me having a grown up moment. I also go during the day when it is not very busy, so the change rooms and showers are all free (this becomes important later). The shower I have after my swim is bliss. I can close my eyes and pretend the hairballs and the foot fungus don’t exist and for a moment I can just stand there. No screams of ‘muuuuum’, no toddler telling me I have a hairy ‘pagina’, no husband fumbling around the kitchen using every pot we own to boil spaghetti. Bliss. So I do everything: I wash my hair, I scrub my body, I double cleanse my face and (this is the gross bit) I shave my legs. Is this considered disgusting? Is shaving in a public shower acceptable, given the circumstances? I’ve posted under a pseudonym because I’m not going to stop (just being honest), but I’m so interested to know your thoughts.   FOUND OUT DAD HAS ANOTHER CHILD AND I’M HURTOkay this might be a big one but I need some advice as I’m really struggling with this. I haven’t had a real relationship with my dad for years after he walked out on me and my family after an affair he had, I have always struggled with my relationship with him and it had been so back and forth for a long time and I was always the one to forgive him and give him chance after chance and would constantly have my heart broken fast forward to 6 years ago when I found out he has another child with the partner he cheated on my mum with, I recently have seen a photo of him with his new family and for some reason it has absolutely broken me, I feel as though I wasn’t enough and so he has replaced me. Although I have no relationship with him and that all ended up being on my end as I was over being hurt by him but I don’t know why I still feel so heartbroken over this revelation. Am I silly for feeling this way? RED FLAG TO HAVE A GIRL BEST FRIEND THAT HE DATED? I just recently started seeing someone. We are in our mid 20s.  We’ve been on about 4 dates and it feels really lovely and steady. On our last date, he told me about a girl best friend. We’re not at the stage of meeting each other’s friends yet, so I haven’t met her yet. He told me they’ve been friends for several  years, they go to uni together being in the same class, and they dated for a year before deciding it was a mistake. She has a boyfriend now. I appreciate him telling me about her, as if things progress we’ll be doing long distance and it would have been easy to hide. I didn’t feel anxious when he told me as he reiterated that the chapter is very closed, mutually. However he’s said they text every day. He was very understanding that it’s unconventional and he’s happy to answer any questions I have. I wanted to take a few days to think about the conversation before I had it. Is this a major red flag, and if it is, what should I be asking him about their relationship or what boundaries should I be putting in place? I don’t want to control his friendship, and he has invited me to meet her in a few weeks, but I’m nervous. You can find Toni on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It’s finally Laura’s 40th birthday (month) and she’s feeling an unexpected way about it; despite what other people in the content world might think!We speak about the feeling of knowing yourself fully and peace that comes as we get a bit older. Can you still have photos of your ex in your phone? Does it depend on what ‘kind’ of photos they are? We unpack a situation that unfolded on MAFS and why we feel weird deleting photos from the past. Plus we chat about the terrifying trend being sold to young men - looksmaxxing There’s this streamer called Clavicular who has blown up online in the past year. On the surface, looksmaxxing sounds like skincare, grooming, self-improvement but this is not just gym bro content, darker.Is this just the male version of long-standing beauty pressure on women?  Or is it a pipeline into something black pill culture?  Are we normalising surgical self-editing as self-care? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning questions! Keeshia has a new haircut that she’s claiming is ‘for the girls’. Laura has an ask uncut of her own and we’ve come to the realisation that sometimes we don’t react in the ways we think we will in some situations.  Vibes for the week:Britt - Reality Check: Inside America's Next Top Model - Netflix  Keeshia - The Babies Kept in a Mysterious Los Angeles Mansion - The New Yorker  Laura - @womenshealthwithheidi Then we jump into your questions! I ASKED MY EX NOT TO MOVE ON FOR 1 MONTH - IS THIS UNREASONABLE?My partner and I (of 3 years) recently separated. We continued living together for a month after this, trying to make it work, but I'm now moving out. He had purchased a house and a dog very briefly before we got together, so they are technically his, which means my whole world is changing, but his stays much the same. I've asked him to not do or start anything with anyone else for a month while I find my feet - I'm absolutely devastated and am so scared of being immediately replaced and having our relationship feel like it meant nothing to him. He has said he isn't in a hurry to move on but can't commit to this. Is my request reasonable? I'm asking him out of respect for me and the life we've had together.  HUSBAND WANTS TO TAKE OUR KIDS TO CHURCH, I’M NOT RELIGIOUSMy husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 4. We have two beautiful girls, a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old. We are currently having some in depth conversations about religion. When I first met my husband he let me know he had faith and grew up as a Christian and went to church as a family. When he and his family moved to Australia they stopped going to church and there was no talk about religion. In the last few years his brother, mother and father have started going to church again. My husband has recently started talking to me about wanting to get involved back in the church and taking our girls. For context, I am not religious and grew up in a non religious household. He would like to start taking the girls to church occasionally and would like me to come as well. I would like to broach the subject of religion when the girls are older and are able to do their own research, learn about all the different types of religion, question it and form their own opinions. I don’t want them going up and thinking Christianity is the one and only way. Please don’t get me wrong I do understand and respect Christianity and certain aspects of it .. like being a kind and selfless person, having grace etc.. I'm just not sure about some of the other aspects as I am not sure I agree with them. How do we find the balance for our family? ENGAGEMENT RING IS SO NOT MEEarly last year my partner and I went and looked at engagement rings. I chose a plain 2mm gold band with a 3 carat oval diamond (lab grown). I always wanted the solitaire to be the main focal point with no diamonds on the band. While we were there I tried wedding bands on as well. Initially I tried on a 2mm band that had small diamonds all the way around which my partner really liked, I said it felt uncomfortable and scratchy against my other fingers and I always pictured myself having small oval diamonds. Fast forward to late last year, my partner got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. There was my beautiful solitaire oval diamond but to my surprise the band had little diamonds around it just like the wedding band he liked. He said he wanted to add a little something special to it. I have never told him how I feel but I really don’t like the ring and every time I look at it I feel like it’s not me. We are currently looking at wedding bands and he has sent me what he wants. He keeps asking me what I want and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t know what wedding band I want now because the one I wanted looks stupid with this ring now that it has the little diamonds around the band. I feel my only wedding band options are a plain gold band or get one exactly like an engagement ring band. I really want to have the diamonds removed so I can have my dream ring but I don’t want to hurt his feelings or seem like a brat. I also imagine having the diamonds removed from the band would be expensive. I’d love your help You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Punch’s $16 IKEA toy selling for wild amount The most revolting hotel 'hack' circulating The lesser known 'looks minimising"  Eric Dane secretly recorded his 'last words' You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s guest is someone many of us grew up watching even if we didn’t realise it. David Holmes was a stunt double in the Harry Potter films, mostly for Harry but he also doubled for quite a few other characters and contributed to one of the most iconic movie franchises of our generation. But during filming, an accident left David paralysed from the chest down at just 25 years old. His memoir The Boy Who Lived and his documentary of the same name tell the story of that accident, but more importantly, what happened after. In the book and the doco, David shares how his friendships are what kept him alive, how his identity has shifted since the accident and the complicated reality of rebuilding a life when everything changes in a second. In today’s chat we speak about: Losing sensation but finding the best s3x he’s ever experienced A particularly beautiful love story - David and his partner (who also has a spinal cord injury) falling in love and ‘heeling’ a lot of themselves together What it was like being a stunt performer for 7 Harry Potter films BTS of Harry Potter and his close friendship with Daniel Radcliffe David’s accident that happened on set  Fighting for 3 years for proper compensation Blame after an accident like this David’s advocacy for disabled people The friendships he has maintained The future of the creative world like stunting with AI “If Someone Offered Me A Magic Pill To Get My Legs Back, I’d Be Reluctant To Take It” You can get a copy of David’s BookYou can find him on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers There’s no ‘big news’ in this episode despite dangling that carrot in the past… Britt has sent some accidental pictures and Laura’s got a story about her fridge that will have you on the edge of your seat! We catch up on MAFS and whether the public ‘punishment’ fits the crime or if the outrage tips the scale.We speak about the really controversial participant and how ‘red pill/black pill’ language has entered the chat.  Confessionals are back! Some are light and easily forgiven, others are… diabolical! Do you tell your partner everything? What about secrets that friends have asked you to keep to yourself? There’s an article in Vogue UK called “Please, Stop Telling Your Partner My Secrets”. When you tell your friend something vulnerable are you actually telling the couple? Because somewhere along the way, we decided that when you’re in a relationship, your partner gets access to everything. Every conversation. Every secret. Every piece of emotional processing.But is that fair? We unpack. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! The start of this episode nearly got vitto-d and maybe it should have stayed that way!Vibes for the week:Laura - Leakproof Milk Bralette  Britt - The Interview': The Woman at the Center of the French Rape Trial That Shocked the World- The Daily Podcast Keeshia - StepsApp added to lock screen widget  Then we jump into your questions!My HUSBAND IS GAY AND HOW SOON IS TOO SOONI got married young and about 11 years in, my husband came out to me as bi. Totally fine, not the biggest surprise and at the time he said he didn’t feel the need to act on it. Cut to 12 months later, we had moved cities and were trying to establish our new circle and life. One Saturday he asked me to bring up the weekend newspaper quiz on his phone and I opened it to an app where he had been chatting with men online. He confessed to masturbating with them live online and that he did feel the need to act on it. Cut to six months later, he told me he was gay and we are getting divorced. Funnily this isn’t actually the crux of my question. Truthfully we were on the rocks for a long time, there was no intimacy (shocking I know) and I had been very unhappy.After we separated officially and some intense tears at saying goodbye to a version of my life that I thought was it, I jumped on the apps for the very first time! After a few non-starters I met a wonderful guy. He is caring, smart and treats me like I am what he has been waiting for. The intimacy is amazing and we have been together for nearly a year. So here it is, this all just feels too good to be true? I mean what are the chances of finding “the one” so soon after my experience? FRIEND DIDN’T TELL ME ABOUT IVFMy friend just told me she is 6 months pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF, which she never told me about either. She said only people who asked her directly were let in on the secrets and that they’ve all been especially supportive through this tough time. Am I entitled to be annoyed with her because she didn’t share this? Is she entitled to be annoyed with me because I didn’t ask? I’m happy she’s pregnant but annoyed that I haven’t been part of her journey until the last minute! DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?Do I shoot my shot at the gym or risk things getting awkward? For reference I go to quite a small group gym (around 35 people per session). I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I started I’ve noticed this one guy who always goes to the same sessions as me. I’m single, not having any luck on dating apps and am wondering how I could potentially get to know this guy without making things awkward. I have no clue if he’s single or not but have seen him arrive with one of the other girls on a few occasions. I don’t even know how to go about initiating a conversation with him as it’s usually quite separated with girls on one side and guys on the other. So my question is, would you guys shoot your shot and try to get to know him more or is it better to keep things as they are and not make it uncomfortable seeing as we go to all the same classes and see each other most days? DO YOU HAVE TO RETURN HAND ME DOWN BABY CLOTHES?I would love your opinion on this. I have a friend who gave me some hand me down clothes for my youngest son, to which I am forever grateful for as I am a single mum of two. However, I’ve just received a message from the friend saying “Hey next time you do a wardrobe clean out, can you just put away whatever I gave you because I want to take it back. I’m starting to collect stuff to give to my brother in law because they’re going to start trying next year.” Now the problem is, I’ve given away most of the baby clothes. I never expected to see them again nor did I expect that I was going to return them to her. So am I right in thinking this is a really weird request? Some of the clothes I’ve donated, some I’ve given to other people. I didn’t realise that she would need them back. Do I tell her that I donated them? How do I navigate this and am I in the wrong?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Forgetting valentine’s day and whether you’d be into a concert proposal Australian Federal Police want to date YOUR criminal exes Brooke from MAFS Announces Pregnancy The Rise of Single-hood The Top Dating Trends to Know for 2026 Who amongst us hasn't turned up to work a little bit buzzed? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The release of the Epstein files has been an incredibly confronting and disturbing time for everyone. The court filings, emails, photos, flight logs and other materials relating to Jeffrey Epstein’s criminal network have exposed so many people in power and most of the world are left wondering whether they will ever have to take accountability for what they’ve done.But they’re also overwhelming and it can be hard to distinguish what is internet theory and conspiracy from what is fact. A few weeks ago on the podcast, Britt’s recommendation was Aaron Parnas. He is a lawyer and a journalist and has amassed 5 million followers on tik tok, 3 million on instagram and  his substak, “The Parnas Perspective” is the top-ranked news newsletter on the site with more than 750,000 subscribers. His content intersects law, media and policy and he is known for his rapid response posting multiple times a day. He has become a go-to for Epstein file updates. Today we speak with Aaron about: How and why he became such a prominent voice in this space Who Jeffery Epstein and Ghislaine Maxwell were and how they became connected with very powerful people Why we are only really hearing about the Epstein files now How Trump is connected to Epstein Could Trump possibly be prosecuted in the future? Whether we will ever see the other 3 million files The people being criminally investigated/fired from their jobs How Trump could pardon himself Unpacking conspiracy theories like pizza gate, jerky and the babies Jeffery’s connection to Russian intelligence and other agencies The inconsistencies around Epstein’s death You can find Aaron Parnas on Substack Instagram Tiktok Youtube  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! Tonight is the first night of our new TV show and we’re so excited to unpack the ins and outs of MAFS.  How does burnout feel for you? Laura had a conversation about interpreting ‘normal’ requests as threats when you’re at the point of burnout and how it’s showing up in every facet of her life at the moment. Are you good at spotting a liar? How about when it’s your own children? Laura can’t tell when her kids are telling the truth or when they’re conspiring to tell perfect fibs. They could be great actors or Laura could be really gullible! We need to talk about the Wuthering Heights chaos. Britt and Keeshia went to the Australian premiere last week and give their takes on what they thought of the in person versions of Margot and Jacob.We unpack whether book adaptations should stay close to the actual story line and why there’s so much criticism about this particular adaptation. We also ask “Why does Hollywood keep adapting the same stories instead of creating new ones?”  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix  Keeshia - Karcher K2 Power Control Pressure Washer Laura - @stevenwommack Then we jump into your questions! 19 WEEKS PREG AND CANNOT STAND MY PARTNERI’m currently 18 weeks pregnant and cannot stand my partner. It feels like everything he does makes me mad. We are currently getting our old house ready to sell so he is spending A LOT of his afternoons there but I struggle with the fact that I’m left to do the majority of the housework at our new place. I feel as though I’m always stuck doing the housework even since before sprucing up the old house. He keeps telling me it will be better once the old place sells but I just don’t believe it. The other part is I am SO sick of being asked the same questions over and over. For example, what weekend something is on or when the next appointment is etc. It also feels as though he asks questions just so he doesn’t have to use his own brain but it’s also ALL the damn time!! I am going crazy. Please help.I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND AND THE OTHER GUY HAS GONE COLD, I FEEL USED AND GUILTI don’t really know where to start and it’s killing me ! I’m Married with 3 kids . My marriage the last year or more has been really up and down. We have had a lot of separation talk .Both of us are not very happy but both are probably too scared to leave.  In October I was out and met this guy (friend of a friend ) . Nothing happened. We added each other on insta and started talking. It went from texts to every morning and night phone call on the way to work. He lives a few hours away from me but comes to where I live once a month . He is also a dad with kids .We spoke for a whole month. It was quite in depth about how our lives could work together if his ex would let him move with the kids to where I live. The chemistry was crazy. I've never ever had that. Fast forward, he came back a month later with his mum and kids and we met up several times and slept together a few times. I met the fam and his kids. I was ready to give it a shot and be together. I was even willing to do long distance. After this he went back home and spoke to his ex who said he is not allowed to move with the kids. Then everything totally shifted. We went from talking every day to nothing. He keeps saying he wigged out cuz I’m married still, and he feels bad about what happened. He doesn’t wanna be the reason to break a family. He also said that he won’t do long distance. He has gone so cold and so quiet. I feel like he is avoidant. A few weeks ago he came back to where I live and no text, no call, nothing. Bare minimum messages and acting like he didn’t give a shit. I’m actually sick to my stomach about how the hell it changed so quickly. I feel used and ick. My husband and I are still together . He is a good man but I feel like I’m not a priority to him and all and we are absolutely roommates. I’ve never ever been unfaithful in my marriage before and would have never unless it meant something. I’m left so confused and gutted. I can’t stop thinking about this other guy and I never really hear from him anymore. I’m so bloody confused. How can you be so hot and then go so ice cold? He has almost turned a little mean towards me. I don’t know what I am asking but I needed to vent to someone! CAN I CHASE UP PEOPLE WHO DON’T GIVE A WEDDING GIFT?My future husband and I are having our wedding in 5 weeks and something that is playing on our minds is people forgetting or not giving us a wedding gift - money haha. I know it sounds ridiculous but I couldn’t imagine going to someone’s wedding and not giving a gift. Would it be bad if we were to send an email saying our thank you and if you forgot or haven't sent your wedding gift to us here are our details? We would word it better as well. CAN YOU BE A REFORMED CHEATER?Can someone be a reformed cheater without any personal work or voluntary accountability? For context, I recently found out my long term partner has a history of cheating. It’s never been to the point of sex, but at some point in all of his past relationships he has looked elsewhere for some kind of attention or sexual validation. For example, sexting other girls. I also found out this happened to me early on in our relationship, which has been very devastating. This is something I have asked him about before, and he has now admitted to lying to me about it because he didn’t want to be ‘branded’ in that way and thought I wouldn’t forgive him. He reflects that he feels bad and wouldn’t do it again. My issue is that I feel he is only taking accountability now because he has no other option now that I found out. Do you think it’s possible that this type of pattern of behavior does just stop on its own (because of maturity/growth or finding the right relationship) or does it require conscious personal work and reflection? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is accepting your Olympic medal the time to confess your cheating ways? What happened with Bumble’s “women first” ethos? Laura's calling bullsh*t on the amount of people using their phone during sex Margot Robbie's attack on torsos Do you know someone who plays the 'dicktim'? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we’re talking with Reuben Williams, whose journey through the justice system will open up one of the hardest but most necessary conversations we can have. Australia has been watching the case of Tom Silvagni for the past few months; a man from a high-profile sporting family who was found guilty by a jury of raping a woman. He has since filed an appeal. That case has reignited debates about how sexual violence is handled, how suppression orders can protect perpetrators, and what survivors face when they speak out. Reuben is unfortunately familiar with how the ‘system’ works, not just as a commentator, but as someone who went through the legal process himself. We speak about what actually happens when someone reports sexual assault in Australia, why justice rarely feels just, and how power, fame, privilege and suppression orders can distort truth and accountability. We also speak about: How and why Reuben advocated for himself and sought a level of justice Reuben’s court case and the process he went through His advocacy for survivors when people on the internet make comments like “they don’t look like a victim” The impact that coming forward has had on him Facing the perpetrator in person The tactics that defence attorneys use Removing 'good character' references If this conversation does bring anything up for you, support is available at 1800 RESPECT  You can find more from Reuben here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It’s another rough start today but not as rough as Britt’s Italian language skills. She’s been trotting around saying something wildly inappropriate. She’s also had the internet come for her after she attempted a different language. While she can’t understand most comments because they’re written in other languages, emojis are universal! Laura has reached a point of sleep deprivation that’s got her wondering which way is up. She’s remembering the last time she went through this and it’s bringing up some… memories.Keeshia’s been stitched up with a licence photo and she’s now stuck with it for 10 years.We’re diving into the super bowl! The halftime show is usually more watched and talked about than the game itself, and this year was bigger than ever. There was a lot of talk in the lead up about whether this half time show was going to be a political statement and what that statement would be. Bad Bunny gyrated all over an incredible Puerto Rican themed set. We unpack all of the Easter Eggs, messaging and ‘family friendly, all American’ alternative show that was offered by the controversial organisation turning point. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - account @aaronparnas Keeshia - The Rest Is Classified. Epstein Files Declassified: Was He A Spy?  Laura - Lacevo bra breast pump  Then we jump into your questions! BF GAVE UP SMOKING THEN STARTED AGAIN YEARS LATER, AND NOW WONT STOP My partner and I have been in a relationship for 6 years and he was a smoker when we met (maybe 2-3 cigarettes a day) but I even said to him on our first date that I never wanted to marry someone who smoked. It’s always been a no go for me - very scared of the consequences and what might happen if he continued to always smoke. Anyway, at the time (v early days of dating) he told me that he would quit one day and definitely didn’t want to always be a smoker forever. In fact, he said he would quit before we ever got engaged. And he did. He quit over 3 years ago, for a period of about a year until one day he had a falling out with his dad and was suddenly smoking again. He hasn’t stopped since and we’ve had conversations (as I have been seriously disappointed by it) and he said “fuck that promise, I smoke, either get over it or leave me”. I’m 6 years in now mate, I wish it was that simple. He clearly has no plans of quitting and I don’t wanna break up. What should I do? Btw we’re not engaged yet - but we’ve been planning our long term future forever. And he is my person, but this habit. It’s soul destroying for me. I wish he would just change because I know I can’t make him. AM I CAPABLE OF LOVE?!I've been with my husband for 8,5 years and married for 3 and we have 2 kids (4 and 2). He's not my first long-term relationship, I had one for 5 years and a few shorter ones way back in my teens. I'm just not sure if I've ever been in love? I (like any parent) love my kids with my entire being, I love my family and friends etc, and while my husband is a great guy and I'm very fond of him (lol), I'm not sure I've ever been in love. My goal was to always have kids (told him that on our first date) and my mum always said to pick a guy who'd be a good dad (my own is definitely meh and that's a whole other story to unpack). I knew he'd be a fantastic dad, which he is, and I think that's a big part of why I committed. Am I awful? Our home life is nice, we have fun and all, but would I be a better person if I "set him free" and let him find love he deserves? HOUSEWORK DIVISION My husband works 40 hours per week in a job that he doesn't particularly like but he has to ride it out a bit longer. I work the regular 37.5 hours in a job that I love. Should I be doing approx 2.5 hours more housework than he is? (Not that I would actually count it- more just the principle). He has never suggested this and is simply the BEST guy, but I find myself sometimes a bit resentful that he's not on the ball with house things as much as I am, and doesn't do quite as much... Mostly because I beat him to it. He's not good at remembering all of those little things like 'coffee machine deep clean' etc. Then the other day it occurred to me: should I be okay with doing more because he works more? Again, he has never mentioned this, and is such a golden-retriever, beautiful, kind man. For context: he is very clean and generally amazing to live with. We don't have kids or a dog: just the two of us! We will start having kids next year hopefully 😊 DAYCARE AND MUM GUILT I have a question I’d love to hear Laura talk about as she has little kids(and obviously get Brit’s ideas on too because she’s AMAZING) I’m a working mum. I work as a lawyer and I’ve always worked full time. I just had my first baby (he’s 4 months old) and I’m thinking about when I go back to work (probably when he’s 10 months old) and putting him in daycare. I’m feeling mum guilt about this so I’d love to hear your thoughts on being a working mum and will my baby be ok and still thrive as a daycare kid.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!Britt is starting her weekend with a fresh shot of nutrients that came directly from Laura! We chat: A 7 year situationship seems to sum up modern dating life The AI chatbots are bitching about humans How important is height? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beauty standards are a set of rules and guidelines that we’ve spoken about hundreds of times before. We live in a time where it feels hard to keep up with them. We’ve discussed how pretty privilege can quite literally make you more successful in your career, the halo effect and how people with more symmetrical faces are viewed as more trustworthy. But, today we are taking a deep dive into how much social media and AI have changed the way that we view ourselves and if they’re to blame for the impossible beauty ideals that we are expected to live up to! Today we’re joined by someone who has spent years studying the way beauty culture shapes us, pressures us, and sometimes totally warps how we see ourselves. Carly, or Carlz J Söda, is a photographer and a researcher and her thesis looks into how social media, AI, and beauty standards collide and what that collision is doing to our sense of self. We speak about: How we all seem to anticipate criticism that we might get for the way we look, and change ourselves before anyone else has the opportunity to criticise us The concept of ‘digital lateral surveillance’ - a theory of how we police each other  How facetune and photoshop have affected us psychologically Are we to blame for AI’s ‘beauty ideals?’ The cost of ‘beauty’ The Kardashians being victims of the beauty standards that they themselves perpetuate How the selfie camera distorts what you look like You can find more from Carlz at her instagram and her website   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Britt is brimming with salmon…sperm. Welcome to your Wednesday!We’ve been nominated for an AACTA and Britt’s planned outfit is giving Chapel Roan at the Grammy’s but sheer on the other end.Britt’s received a particularly strange gift from Ben and she wasn’t sure whether she should be offended or be grateful for it’s practicality.Laura’s daughter Marlie Mae has been so brave and decided to busk on the busy streets of Noosa. She’s been very successful and it’s left Laura wondering if it was a good or a terrible parenting decision. Kanye, now Ye, West has taken out an ad in the Wall Street Journal apologising for antisemetic and racist behaviour. But is it a marketing tactic? We unpack the apology that Ye took out last week and whether the timing is just a bit too convenient for us to think that it’s sincere when he has a new album coming out next month. We also chat about the complexities of conversations like this when it comes to discussing psychiatric illness and being accountable for immense harm and fuelling hate. You can read the whole statement here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas and offer our most passionate, ‘lived in’ (technically unqualified) advice. We’ve got dilemmas of our own and it involves needing to shave our faces… Someone from our facebook group (that you can join here Facebook Discussion Group) is participating in top tier girl code and gamer boy better look out! Vibes for the week:Laura - UK Traitors Season 4 Keeshia - Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth  Then we jump into your questions! I’M A SW BUT DON’T HAVE SEX WITH PARTNER OF 10 YEARSI’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we essentially don’t have sex — but he constantly guilts me about it. For context, I’m a sex worker and he spent many years seeing sex workers before we met. We’ve always had an open relationship, and I’m okay with not having sex together given the rest of our relationship is amazing. The issue is that I don’t enjoy sex with him — there’s no seduction, no initiation, and it often feels rushed, painful, and disconnected. I’ve tried explaining that effort and communication matter, but he becomes defensive and turns it into “you sleep with your clients but not me.” Even my clients put more care into my experience than he does (I don’t tell him this). We avoid talking about it because he gets immature and blames me. How do I handle the guilt and resentment, and is this something that can actually be fixed — or am I ignoring a bigger problem? IS IT CHEATING IF THEY’RE TEXTING BOTS?Is it considered cheating if your significant other is on apps (e.g telegram) and is messaging “bots” ? A friend of mine has been in a relationship for around 10 months and recently found out her boyfriend had been sending messages to these bots. The messages are on the flirtier side - the bots send through an image of a woman (mostly AI) with minimal clothing and her boyfriend would reply with “” or “looking good” etc. These bots also comment on his appearance, saying he’s hot and sexy etc. She has said that it is cheating and she wants to break up with him as he is seeking sexual validation and attention from these bots. Would love your take on this! PARTNERS COMING TO GIRLS CATCH UPS?I am currently on parental leave. Twice this week I have made plans to meet different friends for walks and coffees with their bubbas, and when I arrived, their partners were there as they are on paternity leave! I really love their partners and it’s great to spend time with them too, but I find it strange that in both cases neither decided to give a heads up. Isn’t this just good manners to give a heads up if someone else is joining? But since it happened twice with two different people I'm just thinking maybe I'm overreacting? JOKES ABOUT HARRY STYLE BEING MY HALL PASS AND BF IS UPSETI love my boyfriend of four years. He is caring, kind and makes me feel so safe. Recently as you would have heard, Harry Styles is releasing new music. I was very excited about this (as a long time one direction and Harry fan!) and suggested to my boyfriend that we try to get tickets to his upcoming tour! He immediately got upset and said he would never go to a Harry style concert with me again. We went a couple of years ago when Harry was last touring. And apparently he was uncomfortable with how excited I got during the concert and from a joke I made about Harry being my hall pass, and saying how much I love him. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but he feels like I was seriously inferring that I want to cheat on him. I think it’s quite common to joke about celebrity crushes and I would have no issue with home saying the same about dua lipa, for example. I don’t even remember this conversation, because I don’t think I said anything serious. I told him that I must have been making a joke about my celebrity hall pass, and that obviously I don’t actually wish to cheat on him with Harry Styles. It really bothers me that he has been bothered about this for years and never once brought it up with me until now. It’s also hurtful to me that he actually believes that I would want to cheat on him, if given the chance. We’re now not talking, and I think the whole argument is completely ridiculous. Help! What should I do? IS IT SELFISH TO NOT SHARE MY BABYSITTER DEETS TO FRIENDS?I am in a big circle of expat friends all with kids all with no family around (aka family who also double up as babysitters on occasion lol). Myself and my partner have recently started to organise some nights out again  now that the kids are a little older- 4 and 2. Like I said we've no immediate family here and only 1 lady in our daycare offers babysitting- which my friend already uses and we tend to do things together within our expat circle. Anyway I found a lovely girl offering babysitting on Facebook, organised a meet up to do a vibe check, checked her credentials and we had some mutual friends from home which I contacted and she checked out. She is great and my kids loved her. She has babysat for us twice in the last 5 months and it's such a relief to know we have someone that we can rely on!.. which leads me to my question.. a friend has asked for my babysitter's details. Am I the ahole for not wanting to share them You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne &  Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! 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Hey Lifers! Welcome to our first episode of off cuts! This is where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is your feed filled with post baby 'bounce back' content?  Would you sign away your whole persona for a billion dollars? Are you protecting your peace, or are you just euthanising your personality? “No Bare Bums.” Lose the G Strings ladies! Skyscraper Man and whether parents should take on high risk activities You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.