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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas and offer our most passionate, ‘lived in’ (technically unqualified) advice. We’ve got dilemmas of our own and it involves needing to shave our faces… Someone from our facebook group (that you can join here Facebook Discussion Group) is participating in top tier girl code and gamer boy better look out! Vibes for the week:Laura - UK Traitors Season 4 Keeshia - Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth  Then we jump into your questions! I’M A SW BUT DON’T HAVE SEX WITH PARTNER OF 10 YEARSI’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we essentially don’t have sex — but he constantly guilts me about it. For context, I’m a sex worker and he spent many years seeing sex workers before we met. We’ve always had an open relationship, and I’m okay with not having sex together given the rest of our relationship is amazing. The issue is that I don’t enjoy sex with him — there’s no seduction, no initiation, and it often feels rushed, painful, and disconnected. I’ve tried explaining that effort and communication matter, but he becomes defensive and turns it into “you sleep with your clients but not me.” Even my clients put more care into my experience than he does (I don’t tell him this). We avoid talking about it because he gets immature and blames me. How do I handle the guilt and resentment, and is this something that can actually be fixed — or am I ignoring a bigger problem? IS IT CHEATING IF THEY’RE TEXTING BOTS?Is it considered cheating if your significant other is on apps (e.g telegram) and is messaging “bots” ? A friend of mine has been in a relationship for around 10 months and recently found out her boyfriend had been sending messages to these bots. The messages are on the flirtier side - the bots send through an image of a woman (mostly AI) with minimal clothing and her boyfriend would reply with “” or “looking good” etc. These bots also comment on his appearance, saying he’s hot and sexy etc. She has said that it is cheating and she wants to break up with him as he is seeking sexual validation and attention from these bots. Would love your take on this! PARTNERS COMING TO GIRLS CATCH UPS?I am currently on parental leave. Twice this week I have made plans to meet different friends for walks and coffees with their bubbas, and when I arrived, their partners were there as they are on paternity leave! I really love their partners and it’s great to spend time with them too, but I find it strange that in both cases neither decided to give a heads up. Isn’t this just good manners to give a heads up if someone else is joining? But since it happened twice with two different people I'm just thinking maybe I'm overreacting? JOKES ABOUT HARRY STYLE BEING MY HALL PASS AND BF IS UPSETI love my boyfriend of four years. He is caring, kind and makes me feel so safe. Recently as you would have heard, Harry Styles is releasing new music. I was very excited about this (as a long time one direction and Harry fan!) and suggested to my boyfriend that we try to get tickets to his upcoming tour! He immediately got upset and said he would never go to a Harry style concert with me again. We went a couple of years ago when Harry was last touring. And apparently he was uncomfortable with how excited I got during the concert and from a joke I made about Harry being my hall pass, and saying how much I love him. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but he feels like I was seriously inferring that I want to cheat on him. I think it’s quite common to joke about celebrity crushes and I would have no issue with home saying the same about dua lipa, for example. I don’t even remember this conversation, because I don’t think I said anything serious. I told him that I must have been making a joke about my celebrity hall pass, and that obviously I don’t actually wish to cheat on him with Harry Styles. It really bothers me that he has been bothered about this for years and never once brought it up with me until now. It’s also hurtful to me that he actually believes that I would want to cheat on him, if given the chance. We’re now not talking, and I think the whole argument is completely ridiculous. Help! What should I do? IS IT SELFISH TO NOT SHARE MY BABYSITTER DEETS TO FRIENDS?I am in a big circle of expat friends all with kids all with no family around (aka family who also double up as babysitters on occasion lol). Myself and my partner have recently started to organise some nights out again  now that the kids are a little older- 4 and 2. Like I said we've no immediate family here and only 1 lady in our daycare offers babysitting- which my friend already uses and we tend to do things together within our expat circle. Anyway I found a lovely girl offering babysitting on Facebook, organised a meet up to do a vibe check, checked her credentials and we had some mutual friends from home which I contacted and she checked out. She is great and my kids loved her. She has babysat for us twice in the last 5 months and it's such a relief to know we have someone that we can rely on!.. which leads me to my question.. a friend has asked for my babysitter's details. Am I the ahole for not wanting to share them You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne &  Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! 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Hey Lifers! Welcome to our first episode of off cuts! This is where we chat about whatever peaked our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is your feed filled with post baby 'bounce back' content?  Would you sign away your whole persona for a billion dollars? Are you protecting your peace, or are you just euthanising your personality? “No Bare Bums.” Lose the G Strings ladies! Skyscraper Man and whether parents should take on high risk activities You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we are joined again by the phenomenal Elizabeth Gilbert. We recorded an episode with Liz last year titled ‘Being Single Needs A Rebrand’  In that episode we spoke about:  What Liz’s life was like before and after the success of Eat, Pray, Love,  If she were to name ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ again it would be ‘Not exactly what I had in mind’ and How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships but now feels being emotionally autonomous  Liz’s latest book “all the way to the river” is an incredibly honest recount of her own experiences of sex and love addiction alongside her wife’s journey through drug addiction and terminal cancer.  Today we speak about: What sex and love addiction actually looks like (it might be more familiar to you than you expect) What it feels like to be out of control of yourself Coping with validation cravings, codependency and grief Why Liz didn’t have a choice but to be honest in this book Having a deep level of intimacy with your best friend A revelation about trigger warnings Being an olympic level people pleaser Why Liz doesn’t read any reviews anymore and what that’s taught her about our sense of self The parameters she’s had to put on herself to reach ‘emotional sobriety’ You can find more from Liz at her website  And on her Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We’re properly back after a few weeks off and we missed you all so much! We also have a brand spanking new TV show that we are hosting to tell you about!Our holidays were very different. Britt has been slothing her way into Italian life and objectively not looking her best. Laura has become particularly acquainted with the young pharmacist and is repetitively speaking about how they are not having a 4th child.None of us took part in the ‘flashback to 2016’ trend because some of us allegedly look like entirely different human beings and those memories deserve to stay in the past! We all interpreted the memo to create 2026 ins and outs differently. Laura is the only one who understood the assignment but we’ve found an unlikely soberish candidate for 2026.  You’ve likely heard of ‘admin night’ but would you try any of these? Batch meal prep party Photo cleanup and memory swap — sort phone photos together and share stories behind old pictures Clothes edit and swap — declutter wardrobes and do a clothes swap with friends Inbox detox session — delete, unsubscribe, and organise your email Password reset party — spend an evening updating passwords and enabling security Swipe party - where you all swipe the apps together   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

 Hey Lifers! Today's ask uncut features special guest and Laura's husband Matt (aka Matty J).Our favourite mum and dad had some issues getting this episode recorded so it's 11pm and there's whispering in an attempt to keep the 3 kids asleep.Also Matt would like a plug for Two Doting Dads and most certainly not to be live edited. It's bad for his flow and bad for his juju.  Matt and Laura firstly answer questions about themselves like what their qualifications are... this could be a genuine or a sassy question! They also speak about: How they've managed going from 2 to 3 kids How they keep the 'spark' alive  Being asked about gender disappointment Vasectomy considerations 'Ageing' in the public eye Plus we answer your dilemmas! IS HE OVER REACTING TO A PAD?I was in the bathroom this morning changing my pad and wrapped up the old one in the sleeve of the new one. My step son who is 10 years old came bursting in so I quickly placed it next to the hair dryer. It was just me and him. He likes to talk and ask strange questions so I answered his questions and I honestly just completely forgot about my wrapped up pad. A few hours later I realised that I might not have disposed it because I got distracted by my step son and I asked my partner if he could check. He didn't respond all day. When I got home he completely lost it at me. He raised his voice, snapped and kept going on and on and on calling me disgusting and telling me to clean up after myself. This was all over a little pad that was wrapped up and left on the side table in the bathroom. Now, I'm not embarrassed by this. I couldn't care less but his reaction feels totally over the top. Is this reasonable or is he out of line? CAN I TELL MY SISTER SHE SELF SABOTAGES?My sister is 23 which I know is young in the grand scheme of things. She's had about 4 boyfriends in the past 4 years and many situationships in between all of these guys. They have all been absolute flogs except for the most recent one. He is seriously just the best guy. He cares for her so much and he went above and beyond for not only her but our whole extended family. She ended things with him after they had a minor disagreement and is now straight back into a 'hoe' phase. Is there a nice way I can tell her that she has f*cked up and that this boy is a rarity that she will likely not come across again. She's quite defensive but she self sabotages every good thing that comes her way and I'd hate for her to lose a guy who was perfect for her. Please help from a worried sister.  MY PARTNER BAILED ON ME FOR A GAMES NIGHT WITH HIS MATESMy grandfather passed away this week at the age of 95. Today we had the viewing for him. I don't know if this is just a Catholic thing, but it happens a few days before the funeral. My partner told me he could not get off work in time to make the viewing at 4:30, which was fine. He had been there for my family and was taking the day off for the funeral anyway. The main annoying thing though, was that I didn't want our two year old daughter to attend. I was hoping that he could stay at home with her. Now, while I'm at the viewing he messages me to confess that he actually did leave work early today, and had gone to his mates place for a game tournament that they do every year. This had been planned for quite some time. I'd forgotten about it with my grandfather's death, and also the fact that I am three weeks postpartum. We have a three week old and a two year old together. Usually he is a great dad and never avoids looking after the kids, etc. but my main issue is the lie and that ultimately he chose his friends over me and the initial lie about having to work. Am I overreacting with postpartum hormones or is this a deal breaker?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Ben Siegrist Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! During our summer break we wanted to revisit some of our most impactful conversations that you might have missed at the time. One of Australia's leading relationship experts (although he doesn't like to be called that) Matthew Hussey! Matthew Hussey has over 488 million views on his You Tube Chanel, and has helped millions of people live happier more fulfilled lives. Today we jump into: The concept of the one Why people stay in toxic relationships The idea of a soul mate Staying in a relationship because you're already so far deep in it and leaving is hard What makes his relationship with his fiancé unlike any other he has had You can find more from Matthew Hussey here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Today's ask uncut features special guest and Britt's husband Ben!They share what they've been up to over Christmas and New Years and how they feel now living in Italy. Ben tests Britt's Italian and this is our apology to any Italian listeners 😂They speak about: Moving from Romania to Italy Being reunited after 3.5 months apart The bedroom problem they've been having How they've changed since being together Their relationship non negotiables How Ben feels being in Britt's content Conflict resolution Tongue wrestling And they jump into your questions! EMBRYO CUSTODYMy ex and I did over 5 years of IVF together and I want him to sign the embryo over to me to use solo and he is refusing. He claims to me that it's easy for him to find someone younger (I'm 6 years older than him) and he will be able to start the family that he wants. When we were together he didn't really want kids. I'm 42 and tried doing a few rounds last year with a sperm donor but they didn't work. That embryo is likely my only opportunity to have a biological baby. The next step for me would be egg and sperm donor. He has said that the only way that he will give me the embryo is if we co-parent the baby. However, he wants to stay on the dating apps and living his best life while I do all the IVF preparation and pregnancy alone. What do you think I should do? PARTNER DUMPED ME ON BOXING DAY My partner dumped me on Boxing Day on our way to my family Christmas celebrations. As you can imagine I feel pretty deflated by this and I'm in shock. My question is, do you think that this was pre planned and that he was thinking about breaking up for a while? He claims that he wasn't but it was completely out of the blue. We weren't even arguing! He just blurted out "we should end this. Let's break up." I know he was frustrated from other things going on in his life so it may have been out of anger but at the end of the day the relationship is now over. I'm also after advice on how to one day get back out there because I am completely put off men and dating.  IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO SOULMATES?I have been with my partner for 4 years. We own a house together, a dog and a cat and I feel like a proposal is on the horizon. He is my soulmate. We have shared values and interests and he is my best friend. He is the person I see myself growing old with and raising kids with. My family and friends love him. However, I've been hiding a secret. There is a guy at work, lets call him George. He is exactly my type and he has the kindest heart. Almost a year ago to the day I had a dream about him and ever since I'e seen him in a different light. Some days I am so sure he is the person I'm meant to be with, however, when I get a bit of space or time off work my feelings die down slightly. We occasionally message non work related stuff and I wonder if he picks up on the vibe too. My heart feels like I'm torn between two people.  I JUST FOUND OUT THAT HE CHEATED 4 YEARS AGOI've been together with my partner for 11 years, married for 7. We have 2 daughters under 5 years old. He recently had to tell me that he cheated on me 4 years ago. I am devastated and heart broken. He has been my only serious relationship and we are close and enjoy each other's company. He has had untreated depression for many years and did not seek help. Since telling me this news, he is now in a mental health ward getting treatment. He is now giving me compliments and telling me he is going to fix everything now that he is getting the help. I feel like everything is too late but he feels like we can fix it. Can I please have your advice? I feel shattered. When he cheated he slept with her twice and exchanged nude photos. They were talking for about 6 months. I look at other married couples and how happy they are and I'm just broken. I feel like everything is ruined. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Ben Siegrist Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, During our summer break we wanted to revisit some of our most impactful conversations that you might have missed at the time. This episode was originally from May 2022 and Jessica Buchanan's story is one that we still think about often! "If I get kidnapped on this trip, will you come and get me?" was the last text that Jessica Buchanan sent to her husband before she was kidnapped by Somali Rebels. In today's episode we were lucky enough to chat with Jessica about her harrowing and heart wrenching story of being a humanitarian aid worker before being kidnapped by Somali land pirates. She was held captive for over 90 days before an elaborate rescue mission from SEAL team six, the same team that found and killed Osama Bin Laden, were sent in to rescue her.  In our conversation with Jessica, she tells us what the experience was like for her. the conditions that she had to live in and what played on her mind each day. Jess speaks about the mental and physical battle of survival and the resilience that this unbelievable story has given her.  You can check out everything of Jess' here.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We hope you’re enjoying your summer period. While we are on holidays we thought it was time for our most requested episode - ASK UNCUT AFTERMATH!! The highlight of our jobs are getting an insight into your deepest, burning dilemmas. We often wonder “what happened next??” And today we have some answers to that question! Some of you took our ‘advice,’ others absolutely didn’t 😂 If you’d like to flash back to the original question and response, each episode is linked below: I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY HUSBAND'S BROTHER  BEEN EXCLUDED FROM FRIEND GROUP  HOW DO I TELL MY HUSBAND I’VE BEEN ADDING TOMATO TO HIS DISHES?!  IS A 6 MIN VOICE NOTE FROM A POTENTIAL DATE A RED FLAG? NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI SEPARATED BUT I NEED SEX - DO I GO THE APPS?! - DON’T WANT EX TO KNOW   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to our favourite episode of the year where we take a walk down memory lane to some of the best and most unhinged moments of our year! It was our biggest year yet! We reached 100 million downloads, focussed on growing youtube this year, we added Ness and Sheri to the team, we released our first spin off mini series ‘Cloud’ and we got to interview some of the world’s biggest celebs, artists and podcasters like Kim Kardashian, Teddy Swims, Sporty Spice and Dr Rangan Chatterjee! Last year for our year in review we shared quite a lot of ask uncuts and interviews but this year we have an ask uncut aftermath coming for you next week and some of our favourite interviews. This year in review is more focussed on the funny moments from the year so strap in if you’re in need of a bit of a giggle.  We will link the whole episode for each of our favourite moments! Laura's summer break last year and Lola’s newest accessory How Britt made the very difficult decision to choose who would be responsible for transporting her wedding dress internationally As a nod to the most streamed TV show in Australia MAFS doing confessions week, we brought back an old segment ‘confessionals’ and these ones were next level! Love worth waiting for Laura sharing the news with us that she was pregnant with who we now know as Poppy!! Finding out the gender of Matt and Laura’s baby! Britt’s wedding(s).  Gen Z could NEVER Britt’s accidental roast Unfortunately I do love Laura’s smurf vag Britt wanting to do a stretch and sweep Poppy’s birth playlist Sporty Spice Melanie C!  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack some of your deep and pressing dilemmas!  Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - Incels podcast  Laura - Picture Postie  Keeshia - The Beast In Me on Netflix  MY BOYFRIEND TAKES VIAGRA BUT HE DOESN’T KNOW THAT I KNOWI’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we have a healthy sex life. There’s been a couple of occasions where he has struggled to maintain an erection and he occasionally brushes it off as just a performance thing. The other day when I was at his house, I noticed a pack of used viagra on his bathroom counter. Now I honestly don’t mind that he uses viagra as personally I just see it as an aid to our healthy sex life. But my question is should I tell him I know he takes it? I don’t want him to feel insecure that he needs to take it if I bring it up. But I also feel like he shouldn’t have to hide it from me as I really don’t mind if he takes it. Help a sister out, to tell him I know or continue just having great sex without him knowing I know IS IT NORMAL TO SPEAK TO AN EX?My ex and I were in a relationship for 8 years. First love, high school sweethearts type of thing and were engaged for a year before it ended tumultuously. A lot of things were left unresolved with no closure. We never spoke to each other since, until now. Fast forward 6 years and he’s appeared on my socials. Now I’ve been married for 2 years and he’s been in a relationship for 3. We’ve cleared the air about how things ended and have genuinely seemed to have formed a friendship again and catching up on each other’s life. I don’t know if his girlfriend knows, but I haven’t told my husband. For context, we’ve had our own issues the last 6 months so it wouldn’t be ideal. My question is can you have a platonic relationship with an ex or am I setting myself up for a disaster HUSBAND HAS BEEN SEX CHATTING OUR WHOLE MARRIAGEI’ve been with my husband for 13 years and we have 3 year old twins. For content- our relationship has been really really rocky ever since the babies were born. I take full responsibility for my part of it and I’m well aware of my personal issues and the fact that I sometimes can be a pain in the ass and difficult to live with (so is he obviously). We’ve been talking things through several times and agreed to stay married because deep down we know that we love each other. We’ve just bought a new bigger house and we both saw that as new, clean beginning Now to my dilemma. A couple of weeks ago, I accidentally looked at my husband's phone (not intentionally looking for something “bad”) and discovered an app installed on his phone that’s only used for sexchatting. I confronted him with this and he admitted that he’s been sex-chatting with other girls for most of our time together, basically since 2012. Even though our relationship was fantastic (before kids) and our sex life pretty awesome, especially in the early years. All these years, he’s been doing it behind my back. Chatting with other girls, sending naked pictures of himself, receiving videos etc etc. He says he stopped doing this a couple of years ago (but I find that hard to believe- why was the app still on his phone) and he’s stubbornly insisting that this doesn’t constitute cheating. To him - this is equivalent to watching porn. This makes me even more sad and angry. I’m totally devastated. I feel grossed out and I do consider this cheating. Just the thought of him doing this while we were newly weds etc makes me sick. I’m absolutely sure that I do not want to divorce him, mostly because of our children. I can’t stand the thought of not seeing my babies every other week. I really want to forgive him and move on from this- but how?? How can I trust he’s never going to do this again, knowing that it’s been going on for years. I’ve suggested couple counselling but he’s hesitant. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Much love from a devoted listener all the way from Sweden! (Would like to remain anonymous:) SHOULD I INVITE MY SISTER TO MY WEDDING?My partner and I are getting married next year, and we’re clashing over one major guest decision: my sister. To put it simply, my sister has caused a lot of hurt and conflict for me and my parents over the past eight years. She struggles with alcoholism, often makes everything about herself, and shows strong narcissistic tendencies.I initially said I would invite her because she’s my sister, but my partner is firmly against it and honestly, I understand why. Every time I’ve seen her in recent years, it’s ended in drama, usually fuelled by alcohol, and I’m left upset and in tears. She hasn’t really shown up for me in any meaningful way and has even taken advantage of me financially.My partner keeps reminding me that our wedding day should be about us, and he’d hate for her to ruin it. I know he has a point, but I still feel guilty at the idea of not inviting her even though our relationship is strained and unpredictable. I’d hate for her to cause drama on our day, especially when alcohol will be served.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve done a lot of episodes about dating in the past. We’ve actually done a few about dating with today’s guest! But we’ve recently had a bit of feedback that some of you in the dating scene are really struggling to find the motivation to keep dating at the moment. Some of you feel exhausted. Others feel a bit hopeless, and it turns out, you’re not alone. There has been a big cultural shift in what women want when it comes to dating and it’s got a trendy new name - “chalant dating”.To break it down with us we have friend of the podcast Logan Ury here! Logan is a Harvard trained behavioural scientist, dating expert, author, host of Netflix’s“The Later Daters,” and Hinge's lead Relationship Scientist. Logan has spent years and years unpacking the science behind dating and finding successful relationships.  We speak about: The dating trends that we’re going to see in 2026 What is chalant dating? Why do we want chalant dating more than what a potential future partner might earn or even look like? Why there seems to be a mismatch in expectations between men and women The toilet paper test The actual green flags around planning energy we should look for What are the ‘successful’ people doing on dating apps at the moment? Do you feel like you’re ‘undateable?’ The steps you can take if you’re feeling burnout from dating The switch from a ‘soulmate’ mindset to a ‘work it out’ mindset How AI will change the dating landscape Summer dating trends, cuffing season and what we tend to see when it gets colder The most popular day of the year on dating apps is coming up really soon You can find more from Logan at her website and her Instagram You can read the whole report from Hinge here  You can find some of our previous episodes with Logan cloud And here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

To our beautiful Bondi community, to all Jewish Australians and to everyone affected we are beyond devastated by what happened last night. Because of last night's terror attack on our community there has been a change to our usual Life Uncut scheduling.  There is no place for antisemitism or violence of any kind in Australia - we stand for humanity for all. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, we’re joined by Konrad Benjamin, the voice behind Punter’s Politics. Punter's Politics is on a mission to cut through the political spin and convince everyday Aussies (or punters) that politics actually matters. Konrad is the guy with the blonde mullet known for calling out corporate power, and using satire to make us understand and give a shit about what’s going on in the world of politics. Today we wanted to speak about political issues affecting young people, independent vs legacy media, housing and of course, gas.  We chat: Konrad’s career switch from being a teacher to being a content creator Some of the less obvious ways that the government can be in bed with corporations The controversy around Aussie gas that is being given away for free How the media can skew your perception of political things Coincidence or corruption? Why Konrad doesn’t think you should cheer for a political team like you do for a sports team Why politics shouldn’t actually be complicated You can find more from the Punter’s Politics website  Punter’s Politics instagram  Punter's Politics Podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! It was lovely seeing all of your spotify wrappeds and every year we are surprised by how much we are able to infiltrate your ears! We think they were sneaky with how they went about ‘assuming’ your age based on your listening and Laura wants it to be clear that she is a mum and the K Pop demon hunters wasn’t her.We know that one time we kind of pulled your leg with a ‘Britt’s big life update’ but this time we actually do have a bit of a life update for you! We chat about all of the changes coming to the podcast next year! Please welcome the offcuts! Britt has sat on telling us all a story for nearly 3 weeks because she’s so embarrassed. In her own words “I’ve done something really stupid” and look, we don’t disagree! Laura has been sucked into a new hyperfixation after Black Friday sales that she’s mostly confused about and doubting the claims that you will see results in 8 weeks. We’re 2 weeks away from Christmas and with it comes an avalanche of feelings and emotions!Tanya Hennessy recently wrote an article titled “I’m homesick for a place I can’t go.” She has a recurring feeling of homesickness and restlessness, not necessarily for a place she grew up, but for a sense of “home” that she can’t define or return to.We speak about experiencing this feeling even when we’re in our own home or with family, reflecting a kind of existential longing rather than literal nostalgia. We also chat about how our sense of ‘home’ has changed so much over the years and at times thinking about what it means now can feel confronting. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. There are two types of people in the world - the ones who shut down their laptop and the ones who never, ever, ever do unless it runs out of battery. Further on this path, are you the type of person who has an ‘order’ that you like your tabs to be in? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Laura - Christmas trivia Keeshia - @scotteeisfat Britt - Allison after NXIVM from Uncover Podcast  Then we jump into your questions! IS TAKING FOOD HOME FROM A DINNER PARTY RUDE?I’d love your thoughts on something that happened at my annual Potluck-Style Movie Night and Dinner Party. I host this every year for 6–8 friends, and I usually provide homemade pizzas, drinks, and an appetiser. Everyone else brings a small dish or extra snacks for the movie. This year, one friend brought cheeses and crackers and told us to keep the leftovers—great! But at the end of the night, another couple (two of my closest friends) went into the fridge, took back the drinks they brought, and packed up the dessert they had made. Here’s the question: What’s the etiquette for a potluck-style dinner party? Is it rude to take home what you brought, or is that perfectly okay? For context, this couple is extremely wealthy—but maybe that doesn’t matter? I’d love to hear your take on this. Am I overthinking it, or is this a social faux pas. I WANT SOMETHING BACK FROM MY EXLadies, I am in a little pickle-dickle and would love your thoughts on the route forward. Now, for context, I am a solo Mama that has recently ended a 3 year relationship with a solo Dad. We both have children of ages sentient enough to feel a loss here, so this was a well-thought through decision on my part, based on repeated avoidant patterns and lack of communication. He did not take it well and proceeded to block all communication herein. No worries, his prerogative. My conundrum is that he has a few things of mine I would like back, including a brand new motorcycle helmet I know he was envious of and is likely now using for himself and my 8 y/o’s scooter. I cannot contact him at all as far as I understand. My daughter’s father, with whom I have an excellent relationship with, has offered to message him to collect it... However I feel that looks really petty and like I am pitting two burly dudes against each other so I politely declined. His wife also offered to reach out....again, I don’t feel great about asking someone else to do my dirty-work. What would you do? Snail mail? Show up unannounced (which I do not feel particularly safe about doing…so that is all but off the table), message one of his family members? Or cut my losses…even though I hate the fact he is very likely wearing my shiny-new helmet and giving his kids my daughter’s electric scooter. GAY MAN - WHO SHOULD I GO FOR? I’m a 26 y/o gay male who’s been going on lots of dates after a bit of a romance slump, and now I’m seeing two guys and getting to the point where I need to choose who to keep pursuing. Guy 1: 26, lives super close (very convenient), but doesn’t have stable work, only gets a few event shifts, and isn’t really working toward any study or long-term career goals. Guy 2: 28, lives much further away, works as a podiatrist and is also doing his PhD. Me: I’m 26, a speech pathologist, and hoping to move into more acute hospital/rehab work in the next year. I’m attracted to both, and the chemistry is pretty equal, maybe slightly stronger with Guy 1, but I’m stuck on who fits better long-term. They are both great and although chemistry is stronger with Guy 1 the lack of career drive makes me nervous, Guy 2 seems like a safer option but travel considerations and the chemistry is just a bit lower. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we’re sitting down with someone who went from aspiring acting and hospo shifts to viral content creator and comedy queen. Maddy MacRae is someone whose face and skits are likely familiar to you. She’s grown a following of 3 million people collectively across social media. Today we wanted to talk to Maddy about how she carved out her own path in acting, what some of the realities of content creation are like and the ever evolving goal posts of content that had her living in an airport for a week! We chat: How Maddy got the career she has and the commercials that led her there What her first viral video wants The law of detachment and how it impacted Maddy’s life The one reality TV show Maddy would love to do Content fatigue and being in a period of burnout The contrast of having an amazing job but the loneliness and isolation that comes from it The current dating scene The post that Maddy really regrets You can follow Maddy on Instagram  And on tiktok    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We have a new drinking game for you all based on our individual ‘habits’ (flaws) and Ben has a very important question for Keeshia that could tear the team apart. Black Friday sales have got the better of some of us and Britt has a nice challenge for Laura during the busiest time of her year. Laura’s really showcasing how different things can be for the 3rd kid. Poppy’s actual birth date and full name are TBC. Britt shares a crazy story about how her dad spent most of his life not knowing his age! In a recent episode of Oprah’s podcast, Oprah tackled the rise of “going no contact” where adult children cut ties with parents or family. Is it destroying families, or is an act of ultimate self preservation and protecting your mental health? We speak about: The conversation around emotional safety, mental health and boundaries has changed What was once taboo (cutting ties with parents) is now being discussed openly — especially by our generations There doesn’t seem to be a line in the sand for what is and what is not ‘valid’ for going no contact Why family are the only people we are ‘willing’ to accept bad behaviour from Have we gone too far with ‘boundary’ talk/ don’t have enough grace for our parents? If validation and self reflection are the only solution You can watch the whole episode of ‘Oprah Explores the Rising Trend of Going No Contact with Your Family’ If you’d like to listen to a previous episode where we spoke about estrangement, you can here: Narcissistic parents Sam FischerEm Carey Bridget Hustwaite Melissa Leong  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.