Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

There are 3 different styles of comparison in the comparison trap. I'll walk you through the psychological benefits and costs, as well as how to stop comparing. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

As a clinical psychologist who met my wife on a dating app, I’ll share strategies to stop endless swiping and texting, and start making real connections. I want to help you actually meet someone without falling into the common traps most people face. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Download the full list of 15 ways I became more self-confident here: http://bit.ly/4nbjDUA To improve your social confidence, you can get my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

After years of working on overthinking--called "post-event rumination" to us psychologists--I've come up with a 4 step process that has been pretty successful for me. I lay that out for you in this episode. You can get more info on all these idea in my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Discovering who you truly are can transform your life. In this episode, I break down the science of self-concept clarity, a cornerstone of self-awareness, using the psychological research and my experience as a clinical psychologist. You’ll learn why understanding yourself matters, how it leads to greater happiness, purpose, and self-confidence, as well as actionable steps to build deeper self-awareness and self-fidelity. For more on psychology and personal growth, get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  

Have you ever stared at your reflection and thought, “If I could just fix this one thing, I’d finally feel confident”? This video aims to help with that. I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA If insecurity has held you back from connecting with others, this book might help: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Ever worry you’re too quiet to be charismatic? This video will help with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA

Learn 4 psychology-backed pathways to actually recharge. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, so I bought the book and here’s what I found. You can get my dating anxiety book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Or just have AI write one for you... Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

I read almost 100 science articles on flirtation. Here's what I figured out. There are 3 core principles that guide flirtation. When things go wrong, it's generally because we're breaking one of these unwritten rules of flirting.  I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  

This personal strategy has been a game-changer in social situations. Over the past 20 years, whenever I’ve found myself in a setting where I knew no one, this rule has been my lifeline. I’ll delve into how setting the right level of performance goals, focusing on factors within our control, and relying on fundamental social skills helps us. Plus, I’ll tell you why I believe basic introductions are the best way to meet new people. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.

Ever feel like your conversations could be more engaging or your social life more fulfilling? You might be lacking in a key ingredient: Social Curiosity. Don’t try to be interesting, focus on becoming INTERESTED. For those looking to dig deeper into this topic, check out my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.   📚 What You'll Learn: How curiosity can deepen your conversations and broaden your social horizons. The research-backed appeal of social curiosity and why it captivates people. Why and how social curiosity can help alleviate social anxiety. Practical techniques to cultivate social curiosity and elevate your interactions.