Family Constellation Guy

All of us have old trauma stuck in our systems smewhere. The question is what can we do about it? and how can we find out what it is. Well ther brain has a fantastic set of tools to distance us from immediate trauma experience, and bury it. And the Family Constellation is a fantatsic set of tools to elicit that information and reference where in your family system that it belongs. As soon as you see where it belongs you no longer have access to the feeling of that trauma, only the knowledge that it exists!

The Rafe Nauen Academy is hosting another Family Constellation Therapy training on 7th/8th Febraury 2026 and this episode is all about whats new! If you expect to be a bit tired, because we are packing in quite a lot of information to help you get quickly to the nub of any issues your clients friends or family have. The training is accredited and certificated and I am assured that insurance companies are happy to add in the certificate to your current Public Liability insurance I offer stage payments if you need that and It will be a fun weekend too.  

As the earth moves us into 2026 it is often a time to reflect on the year past. I recommend going a bit further back, and perhaps reflecting on the things we have picked up out of blunt loyalty. Those things are easy to deal with - of course I recommend Family Constellation Therapy, but other therapies are very capable too!

Sometimes we get told things in early life that stay with us for life. This episode is about some of the starting points for releasing those injuctions, and finding our freedom

This episode explains how it is worthwhile doing just 2 days training in constellation work, some of what you will learn and how the training operates.

I have written a little story based on true facts that gives an insight into the sort of journey hany of the participants ina  Family Constellation workshop will go through. Clara (name changed) presented with an issue around repeating patterns in her journey through life. The constellation helped to unpick that thread!

At Rafe Nauen Academy I teach the constellation model to coaches, trainers, healers, therapists, counsellors, psychologists and others. The 2 day workshop is designed to add to the work you already do, not replace any of it. You will get and accredited certificate, and you'll be able to add it to your repertoire immediately

This episode explores the subject of epigenetics in terms of its impact on the listener from all the ancestral load up to now!

Rafe Nauen Academy launches - this episode explains what it does, and why. It will give you an idea of what to expect and how it would help your own practice especially if you are a therapist or healer.  We pick up influences (epigenetics) on the whole route of our journey. Some of those things will be amazing (the gift of life) and some will be far less useful. Family Constellations therapy gives you the tools to reassign those influences so that they all serve you better

When we go for psychotherapy we believe the expert in the room is the practitioner - after all they have spent years studying and practicing. The constellation model is different. The client has ALL the data for the journey to this moment - even the thousands of years before they were born. The job of the facilitator is to tease out the nuances and hidden dynamics so that they come into clear sight without any prejudice or judgement.   

What happens, and why would you want to go to a family constellation workshop? This episode explores some of the whys and wherefores that suggest a Constellation may help you to live life more easily, without the burdens of the past

Following on from the Netflix series Another Self - a Turkish series about family drama with a constellation in each episode. Rafe Nauen has been running constellation workshops for over 20 years and this series exemplifies the modality.   This episode explains what is going, a bit of the how, and a bit of the why!

We all hide some stuff! but in this episode I recognise that sometimes that can lead to holding values that hurt us or our families, and that the Family Constellatiuon model can help us safely review all that "stuff"

In this episode, Rafe explores the often-asked question: What is a constellation, and why would someone choose to do one? Through personal insight and professional experience, Rafe unpacks the profound impact of inherited emotional patterns—those invisible threads passed down through generations that shape our lives in unexpected ways. From feelings of not being good enough to repeating relationship struggles, we often carry burdens that aren't truly ours. Family Constellations offer a respectful and revealing way to bring these hidden dynamics to light. Rafe explains how this process works, what participants can expect, and how unresolved ancestral experiences—like early deaths, miscarriages, or unspoken grief—can echo through our lives until they are acknowledged and integrated. Whether you're curious about systemic healing, or wondering how your past might be influencing your present, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening introduction to the transformative power of constellations.

It turns out that the precursor cells for male sperm and female eggs can carry significant epigenetic coding on the noncode parts of DNA from 2 or three generations. The egg is complete by the time the mother is born, but the male precursor cells don't start producing sperm till after puberty, and therefore any traumatic experience of the long male may get included in the epigenetic elements by the time the sperm is created. It takes about 4-6 weeks for sperm to be made from precursor cells so, any traumas along the way can get added in, whereas in the female, the precursor cells are redundant by 5 months into the mother's pregnancy

Sometimes we grow up with big chunks of stuff missing, like being seen, or the feeling of love. What sometimes happens is that a symptom, or disease becomes the definition and empathy and sympathy from others appears as a poor relation to love. That can keep us ill - the term secondary gain means the added value to your feeling of life from being dis-eased or ill.

If you were adopted, you have at least 3 parents - and possibly many more! Epigentics teaches us that parenthood is laregly driven by epigenetics not just DNA (I share 60% of my DNA with a banana but little or no epigenetics) So if you were adopted, see ALL of the parents as just that - Parents Epigenetics covers the signals and proteins that every cell, and structure receives. The signals and proteins dictate how the cell develops and changes. Many adopted children feel they need to choose - they do not!

The parenting of children is a complex business and adopted children may have a number of actual parents - not DNA driven, but epigenetically driven. Thus children sometimes look more like their adoptive parents than their birth parents. Strange but true.

You may find you have contracted to be a certain way, have a certain personality for your whole life - even inadvertently - this is a method to extract yourself from those contracts!