Weaponized Marriage

If your marriage feels tense, chaotic, or emotionally unsafe, it’s not a “communication problem”… it’s a leadership problem, and that’s actually good news, because leadership can be learned.  In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt unpack why your relationship can’t rise above your current “lid” of leadership, your emotional regulation, decisiveness, honesty, and ability to create safety at home. If you’ve been stuck in resentment, avoiding hard conversations about money, intimacy, or parenting, or you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around your spouse, this conversation will hit home.  You’ll discover why emotional safety comes before clarity, how a dysregulated nervous system can poison connection, and what it means for a man to “protect the peace” (beyond making money or being physically strong). Whether you’re trying to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, stop constant arguing, or lead your family with calm confidence, this episode gives you a real framework to create a marriage that feels safe, clear, and connected again. You’ll Learn: → How leadership in marriage starts with nervous system regulation and the energy you bring into the home, not just what you do. → Why you can’t create clarity or have productive conflict when your relationship feels unsafe, and how resentment grows when one partner feels unprotected, or when the other feels unwanted.  → Kendra shares a powerful “armor” and “belt of truth” metaphor for honesty without attack, and Ryan breaks down how tone, volume, and intensity can shut down emotional connection.  → Finally, you’ll get the three questions to ask that expose where you’re avoiding responsibility and choosing comfort over growth, so you can raise your “lid” and lead your marriage to the next level. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your marriage hits rock bottom, after an affair, zero emotional safety, and intimacy feels dead? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan share the raw truth behind their 2016 to 2026 marriage transformation, from betrayal and shutdown to rebuilding trust, emotional connection, and a stronger relationship than ever. If you’re navigating infidelity recovery, feeling disconnected, stuck in resentment, or trapped in survival mode, this conversation will help you see what’s really happening underneath the fights, the distance, and the “I don’t feel safe” moments. They unpack the hidden drivers that nearly ended everything: ego, control, anger, unmet sexual needs, intuition ignored, and sedation behaviors like overtraining, porn secrecy, distraction, and social media comparison. You’ll also hear the pivotal “wake up” moment that shifted Ryan into real leadership, and how Kendra rebuilt trust with herself, her intuition, and her femininity. If you want a marriage that feels safe, intimate, and honest again, start here. What You’ll Learn: → Why emotional safety is the gateway to real intimacy → How ignoring intuition breaks self-trust (and relationships) → The difference between conflict and reactivity/anger spirals → “Sedation” habits that keep couples stuck (work, fitness, porn, scrolling) → The leadership shift that moved Ryan from ego → grounded direction → How to transition from work mode to husband/dad mode → A practical way to start changing your inner story (mindset tools + truth-telling) Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re walking into 2026 feeling like you and your spouse are co-existing instead of co-creating, this episode gives you a simple plan to change that, without overwhelm, pressure, or fake “New Year’s resolutions.” In this Weaponized Marriage podcast episode, Kendra and Dr. Ryan share the exact couples goal-setting framework they use to build a stronger marriage, deeper intimacy, and a more connected family life, even with kids, busy schedules, and real-life stress. You’ll learn how to do a marriage reset by reflecting on last year, vision-casting what you actually want next year, and reverse-engineering it into weekly rhythms that stick. They also talk about why most couples don’t plan together, how independence and money decisions can quietly create distance, and how to create more emotional and physical connection without everything turning into a task. If you want a clear marriage planning system, better communication, stronger intimacy, and a shared vision for your relationship, this episode will help you start 2026 on the same team. What You’ll Learn: → The 3-step couple planning process: Reflection → Vision Casting → Reverse Engineering → How to set marriage goals that feel exciting (not stressful) → Why couples fail with “resolutions” and what to do instead (behaviors + rhythms) → Practical examples: vacations, family routines, parenting rhythms, intimacy goals → How to talk about money as a team (without control, secrecy, or resentment) → How to build emotional intimacy when life is busy and task-heavy → Why you should write goals down + review them quarterly (and mid-year) Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your marriage stuck in survival mode as you crawl toward the end of the year? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we walk through our own year-end marriage reset and the 3 questions that helped us rebuild emotional safety and intimacy. This is for married entrepreneurs and busy parents who feel like they’re always bracing for impact and want to feel connected again. What You’ll Learn: → The simple 3-question framework: what to let go of, what to rework, and what to invest in in your marriage for 2026. → How Kendra went from walking on eggshells to feeling safer sharing how she really feels. → Why Dr. Ryan’s instinct to “do more” was actually hurting intimacy, and what changed when he focused on equanimity and emotional safety instead. → The real difference between coexisting and co-creating your marriage (and how to tell which one you’re in). → A practical end-of-year exercise you can do with your spouse to talk about what’s working, what’s not, and course corrections, without it turning into a fight. → How to redefine slowing down as “letting the miracles catch up to you,” especially for high-achieving, hustle-mode couples. → Why counting your wins in marriage first changes the energy before you talk about problems or vision-casting for 2026. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most couples are fighting about money, stress, and parenting, without ever naming the real problem: withholding. In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, we unpack what happens when one spouse hides business or financial stress “to protect the home,” and what honest, soul-feeding communication actually looks like.If you’ve ever felt the energy shift in your home but couldn’t put your finger on why, this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: → How to know which stresses to share with your spouse and which details you can leave at the office. → A simple phrase that tells your partner, “I just need you to listen, not fix,” and why it changes the whole conversation. → The hidden cost of withholding financial reality and why secrecy around money quietly erodes trust and intimacy. → How men and women experience money as energy differently (masculine “logistics” vs feminine “flow”). → The difference between feeding shame vs feeding the soul in your marriage, and specific examples of each. → Why your spouse will create worst-case stories in their mind when you withhold, and how to stop that spiral. → A simple “talk to your spouse like the plant” analogy you can use with each other and your kids starting today. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your marriage feels tense, distant, or sexless, emotional safety is almost always at the root. In this episode, we break down exactly what “emotional safety in marriage” actually means and how to build it using a simple 4-part framework. This is for couples (especially men) who are tired of reacting, fixing, and shutting down, and want real connection again. What You’ll Learn: → The real definition of emotional safety in marriage (not just “listening more”) → Why so many men default to fix-it mode, and how it destroys trust and intimacy → How grief, old stories, and “subconscious spill” show up as emotional overwhelm in your relationship → The 4 A’s Framework (attention, appreciation, affection, acceptance) and how to use it in real conversations → The hidden link between emotional safety and a sexless marriage (and why toys, trips, and date nights don’t solve it) → How avoidant and reactive patterns keep you stuck in the same fight on repeat → Why doing your own individual work + couples work is non-negotiable for a purposeful marriage Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following linksDr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you thriving in your marriage, or just surviving it? In this deeply personal and powerful episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan return from a transformative plant medicine retreat with raw revelations and a bold new framework for intentional partnership. They dive into the difference between coexisting and co-creating in marriage, and what it really takes to build a relationship that lasts. Kendra opens up about the emotional turbulence leading up to the retreat, including her fear of sharing hard truths with Dr. Ryan. What unfolds is a brutally honest conversation about safety, emotional, physical, and financial, and how couples can begin to rebuild trust in places where silence once lived. Together, they unpack how unresolved stories from childhood and unspoken expectations in adulthood can quietly sabotage even the strongest of relationships. The highlight of the episode is their four-legged “Purposeful Marriage” framework, Producer, Protector, Parenting, and Personal, that offers couples a way to assess the stability of their marriage and grow with intention. It’s not just about money or sex; it’s about building something sacred, together. Key Takeaways: How emotional safety is just as critical as physical safety in a marriage Why men need to learn when to pick up the sword, and when to lay it down What to do when old wounds hijack your current reactions The power of the “Purposeful Marriage Table” and its four supporting legs How plant medicine helped them uncover hidden truths and step into healing "If you're not growing, you're staying stagnant, and you're dying." – Kendra Hewitt Draw your own Purposeful Marriage Table, identify your strong legs and the ones that need support. Then share this episode with your spouse or a couple you care about. Subscribe for biweekly truth-telling conversations that cut deep and call you higher. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your marriage surrounded by friendships that strengthen it, or slowly drain it? In today’s episode, we unpack an experience that challenged us to redefine what community really means for our marriage. We’re fresh off a weekend trip to Charleston, SC, where we attended the Wives Meeting of the Chiropractic Knights of the Round Table, a powerful, invite-only brotherhood rooted in faith, values, and purpose. And this time, something extraordinary happened: Dr. Ryan was officially knighted. What started as a curiosity about a mysterious “men’s group” turned into a weekend that left us both reflecting deeply on the importance of intentional friendships, not just individually, but as a couple. From meaningful conversations with women walking the same path, to the symbolism of knighthood and a literal engraved sword, we realized how rare and essential it is to be surrounded by people who elevate your standards, challenge your values, and inspire you to lead with love. Together, we explore the surprising dynamics of building couple friendships, the unspoken expectations we carry into marriage, and why so many of us are starved for deep, value-driven community. Takeaways: True community is built on commitment, values, and intentionality, not convenience. Your marriage reflects the influence of your closest relationships. Friendships in adulthood often default to proximity over purpose, and that can cost us. Couples need shared friendships that fuel growth, not just social plans. Regular, value-aligned gatherings can re-anchor your marriage in seasons of busyness. “This isn’t just a group that meets for sh*ts and giggles, it’s about legacy, alignment, and lifting each other higher.” - Kendra Hewitt If this episode challenged or inspired you, hit “Follow” so you never miss a conversation that helps you fight for your marriage. Share it with a couple you admire, or journal together: Who are the five people influencing our marriage the most right now? Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the secret to transforming your marriage isn’t getting more, but giving more? What if the biggest shift you need isn’t in your spouse... but in you? In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt reflect on the moments shared during the memorial service for Charlie Kirk, especially through the lens of Erica Kirk’s breathtaking eulogy. Whether you knew Charlie or not, this episode unpacks timeless truths about the sacred covenant of marriage, the hard and holy act of forgiveness, and the daily choice to live in service of each other. Kendra shares how one line from Erica, “How can I serve you better?”, stopped her in her tracks and became a call to action in her own marriage and family. Dr. Ryan brings insight on the masculine longing for peace, respect, and shared vision at home. Together, they discuss how forgiveness, when embraced fully, becomes a gateway to freedom, not just for your marriage, but your soul. Whether you’re walking through a tough season, or just hungry for deeper connection, this episode calls you back to the heart of God’s design for marriage. Key Takeaways: True transformation in marriage begins with a shift from “me” to “we.” Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event, it’s a continual act of surrender and healing. Creating a peaceful, welcoming home can radically change your family’s dynamic. Small intentional shifts (like how you wake your kids) can ripple into big emotional changes. A shared mission or vision gives couples purpose beyond the daily grind. “If you're too busy washing feet, you don't have time to throw stones.” Take a moment today to ask your spouse one simple but powerful question: How can I serve you better? Then, share this episode with a friend or couple who needs that reminder too. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that could change your marriage forever. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you building a life together, or just surviving the day-to-day? In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we wrestle with a question that hit us hard after witnessing Erica Kirk speak just days after the tragic loss of her husband, Turning Point USA’s chief operating officer. Her strength, faith, and clarity of purpose left us both shaken and inspired. It led us to ask: If something happened to your spouse tomorrow, would you know how to carry their mission forward? We start off with a conversation about parenting struggles, the pressure to keep up with other families, and why a simple paint-by-number moment ended up revealing something much deeper about creating connection, not consuming stuff. But then the heart of this episode unfolds as we reflect on the unexpected gift of hearing a widow declare that her husband’s mission will not only continue, it will grow stronger. This episode is a wake-up call: to start talking about what really matters. We dig into the importance of having a mission for your marriage, for your family, and for your own life, and what to do if you're not sure what that is yet. Key Takeaways: Your marriage needs a mission as much as your business does. Start asking: What do I stand for? What do we stand for? Consuming isn’t the goal, creating is. Your kids don’t need more activities, they need more connection. You can’t wait for tragedy to figure out what really matters. “Does your message match your mission? Could your spouse stand on a stage and declare what you stood for?” - Kendra Hewitt  Challenge this week: Sit down with your spouse and ask: What do we want to create in 3, 5, and 10 years? Then, subscribe, share this episode, and start having the conversations that truly matter. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're doing everything, and no one even notices? This week on The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan peel back the layers on a topic that’s simmering beneath the surface in many homes: invisible labor. From managing kids’ schedules to carrying the emotional weight of the family, Kendra opens up about the quiet, constant responsibilities that so many women shoulder, and how it’s been silently impacting her relationship with Dr. Ryan. This conversation dives into how unspoken expectations, mental overload, and mismatched communication styles can lead to bitterness, resentment, and disconnection, both in and out of the bedroom. Inspired by a podcast featuring Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Kendra introduces a powerful Venn diagram of “mental load,” breaking it down into personal, immediate family, and extended family responsibilities. The couple shares their personal journey navigating these challenges, from perfectionism and mom guilt to rejection and the pain of not feeling supported. Dr. Ryan offers his perspective as a husband who often felt shut out and rejected, and how recognizing his role in the cycle helped them break free. They reflect on what it took to rebuild their intimacy, trust, and teamwork through honest communication and shared responsibility. In this episode, you’ll learn: What invisible labor really is, and why it’s more than just chores How resentment builds when mental load isn’t shared Why asking for help is so hard (especially for women) How tone and timing can change the outcome of difficult conversations The power of truth and ownership in rebuilding connection “When you tell the truth, even if it’s messy, you set your marriage free to evolve.” - Kendra Hewitt  If this episode hit home, share it with your spouse or a friend, and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss these real, raw conversations. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is it that your spouse can say “You look amazing” every day, but when a stranger says it, it hits different? If you've ever felt unseen in your relationship, even when you're physically present, you’re not alone. In this raw, no-filter episode, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt pull back the curtain on a real-life conversation about why appreciation and affection often miss the mark in long-term marriages. Sparked by another couple’s story, this episode dives deep into the often-misunderstood world of love languages, unmet needs, and why we default to giving love the way we want to receive it. Kendra opens up about her own healing journey and the sexual trauma she had to face in order to rebuild intimacy. Dr. Ryan shares what feeling respected really looks like from a husband’s perspective, and why tone, timing, and teamwork matter more than you think. Together, they unpack how years of unmet expectations nearly broke them, and what changed when they both took responsibility for their side of the story. If you're tired of surface-level marriage advice, this is the episode you’ve been waiting for. Takeaways: Love languages matter, but only if you’re speaking the right one. Repetition can dull the impact of compliments from your spouse. Men often need respect the way women crave appreciation, and both are misunderstood. Healing from trauma isn’t linear, but it’s essential for deep connection. Real intimacy grows when both partners own their emotional blind spots. "You can stay with the person you love or you can run and repeat the pattern, but doing the work is what breaks the cycle." -Kendra Hewitt  If this episode hit home, subscribe, share with a friend, and take 5 minutes to journal what makes you feel most seen and appreciated. Then, ask your spouse the same. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are your kids witnessing a love worth repeating, or a legacy you never meant to leave behind? In today’s episode, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt pull back the curtain on the quiet but powerful ways we model marriage and parenting to our kids. What began as a conversation with the father of the bride at a wedding unfolds into a passionate, vulnerable discussion about admiration, generational patterns, and the hard truth that every moment, good or bad, is teaching your kids something. Dr. Ryan shares how his own childhood shaped what he didn’t want in marriage and how, even after intentionally making different choices, those early patterns kept showing up. Kendra opens up about the emotional weight of parenting, sharing a powerful story of losing patience with their daughter and the realization it sparked. From old wounds to fresh awareness, they challenge listeners to stop “playing house” and start consciously creating homes built on love, clarity, and respect. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why admiration in marriage isn’t optional, it’s foundational How “staying together for the kids” might hurt more than help The unconscious ways we pass down broken patterns How to identify and shift from default mode to intentional leadership Why “clear is kind” should be your new parenting mantra “What I wouldn’t give to sit at a bar next to my dad and just have a coffee… that’s how powerful modeling is.” – Kendra Hewitt CALL TO ACTION: If this episode stirred something in you, share it with your spouse or a fellow parent. Journal one way you want to model love more intentionally this week. And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Weaponized Marriage Podcast. Let’s break generational curses, together. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s really behind the way you and your spouse respond in conflict? Why do some people shut down, while others press in harder? What if the way you love, and fight, has less to do with your partner and more to do with your past? In this episode, Dr. Ryan and Kendra peel back the emotional layers of attachment theory, breaking down the four major styles, secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant, and how each one shows up in real-life marriages. With unfiltered honesty and a touch of humor, they unpack how their own attachment styles have created challenges, triggered reactions, and shaped the way they connect, fight, and repair. Kendra shares how childhood loss and her dismissive-avoidant wiring created trust barriers in their relationship, while Dr. Ryan opens up about being a pursuer and how his need for connection can sometimes come off as attack. Together, they offer practical insights, honest mistakes, and real-time growth as they navigate conflict, parenting, and healing in their own marriage. Key Takeaways: The 4 attachment styles and how they form in childhood How your attachment style plays out in adult conflict and connection Why becoming a “resident expert” on your spouse’s trauma changes everything The “sins of omission” vs. “sins of commission” in relationships How to ask your spouse and kids: What makes you feel loved? “Understanding your spouse’s trauma and attachment style is like learning their emotional operating system. You can’t love them well if you don’t understand what makes them tick.” - Kendra Hewitt Call to Action:Take a moment after this episode to ask your spouse (or your kids): What makes you feel most loved? Then just listen. No fixes. No defenses. Just presence. If this episode stirred something in you, share it with a friend or leave us a review, it helps more couples get honest and grow. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/ Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel stuck in the same emotional loop, initial excitement followed by frustrating fights? This episode tackles the question: Why do so many marriages never move past the honeymoon phase? Discover where your relationship really is, and how to level up. Hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt break down the five transformative stages of romantic relationships, adapted from a thought-provoking Instagram-inspired framework. They explore why most couples stall in the honeymoon or power‑struggle stages, and what it takes to move into acceptance and deeper commitment. With personal stories and real-life examples, they guide listeners through identifying their own stage and recognizing whether it's time to lead, grow, or walk away. You’ll learn: How the honeymoon phase creates blind spots Why power struggles happen, and what they really represent How acceptance can either lead to growth or complacency What genuine commitment looks like, and why it matters By the end, you'll have a clear path forward: either to strengthen what’s real, or to courageously redefine your next step. Key Takeaways: Honeymoon Phase: Intoxicating chemistry can blind you to red flags. Power Struggle: Conflicts arise as deeper values and expectations surface. Acceptance: Recognizing each other’s flaws is important, but only if paired with personal work. Commitment Redefined: True commitment involves aligned standards, values, and joint effort. Clear Boundaries: Setting non‑negotiables around health, parenting, finances, and mutual growth is essential. “Most people never get past level one and two, so honeymoon and power struggle, and they just repeat the cycle over and over.” Call to Action:If this episode challenges you to think deeper, share it with your partner or a friend. Then, journal or talk together about which of the five stages you feel stuck in, and what the next step toward growth would be. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that strengthens your marriage. Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt on the Weaponized Marriage Podcast for a late-night conversation about the delicate balance between saving and supporting in relationships. In this episode, they dive into real-life stories, including their own, to explore how enabling can hinder growth and how true support empowers transformation. With candid reflections and practical wisdom, this episode offers couples tools to foster healthier dynamics and grow together. Key Takeaways: Saving vs. Supporting: Saving a spouse can enable stagnation, while supporting them encourages personal growth and accountability. Letting Them Sit in the Pit: Allowing a partner to face their challenges without rescuing them can lead to meaningful change. Taking Responsibility: Personal happiness and healing are individual responsibilities, not burdens for your spouse to carry. Leading by Example: Healthy marriages thrive when partners inspire each other through actions, not control. Growing Together: Couples should embrace growth at their own paces while supporting each other’s healing journeys. "Your happiness and your healing is your responsibility." – Dr. Ryan Hewitt Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Retirement‑style anniversaries? Not here. When two martinis, miscommunication, and a lake‑house “unicorn” collide, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt discover that the real win isn’t a perfect weekend, it’s how fast you repair when things go sideways. In this raw recap of their 15‑year milestone, they break down feminine storms vs. masculine steadiness, why celebrations are mirrors (not photo‑ops), and how a failed sexy moment turned into their best birthday ever. Key Takeaways: Why conflict‑recovery speed is the new success metric in marriage The “oak tree vs. pine tree” metaphor for masculine stability How ownership is overrated, access and experience build connection A practical way to re‑frame milestones as investments, not afterthoughts Tools for communicating expectations before resentment sets in “To be in your feminine, you need an oak tree. And this time, you didn’t bend. You stayed steady.” – Kendra Hewitt Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt dive deep into a week that started with incredible connection and ended in emotional distance. They reflect on how easy it is for busy, entrepreneurial couples to lose intimacy; not for lack of love, but for lack of margin. From managing businesses and parenting a four-year-old, to forgetting the simple power of presence, they unpack why time doesn’t heal disconnection; intentional time does. With humor, raw vulnerability, and practical insight, they share how a date night turned into a collision, and how that moment of friction became a turning point for deeper clarity and reconnection. Together, they challenge couples to audit their time and redefine what it means to be “present.” They highlight the importance of offloading stress, asking better questions, and being brave enough to say, “I want to feel prioritized.” Whether you're an overwhelmed parent, a high-achieving business owner, or just feeling the weight of everyday demands, this episode is a timely invitation to rethink your relationship with time; and each other. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: Why great sex doesn't fix disconnection without emotional safety The real reason your spouse might feel unseen, even if you're "doing everything right" How auditing your time reveals hidden patterns that steal intimacy What to outsource to buy back connection; not just convenience The critical shift from reactive to proactive marriage leadership Listen now and take the first step toward creating more margin and more meaningful connection in your marriage. “Sometimes the beauty is in the asking; that makes me feel prioritized.” Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links: Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt share seven simple yet powerful rituals to strengthen your marriage and make it divorce-proof. Drawing from their own journey as entrepreneurs and parents, they emphasize intentional habits like daily check-ins, heartfelt hugs, and playful flirting to foster connection and resilience. The episode tackles the critical role of open money conversations, revealing how financial stress, not infidelity, is the leading cause of divorce. With candid insights into their own struggles and breakthroughs, Dr. Ryan and Kendra offer practical steps to protect your relationship from outside noise, repair conflicts quickly, and keep the spark alive. This episode is a must-listen for couples seeking to build a thriving, connected marriage through small, purposeful actions. Key Takeaways Daily Check-Ins: Connect regularly, even when things seem “fine,” to catch issues early and deepen intimacy. 30-Second Hugs: Physical touch, like a heartfelt hug or kiss, boosts oxytocin and lowers stress, strengthening bonds. Shared Activities: Find a joint hobby, like shooting or spin classes, to create fun, shared memories. Quick Repairs: Address conflicts promptly to avoid prolonged disconnection and rebuild trust faster. Money Talks: Discuss finances weekly to align goals, reduce stress, and foster trust and transparency. "If you can get really strong at talking about money together, it opens up more play, more sex, more attraction, more happiness, more freedom—everything." – Kendra Hewitt Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful and unscripted episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt open up about a life-changing week marked by bold decisions, divine downloads, and radical relational healing. From putting a cabin under contract on pure trust to celebrating new friendships, and diving deep into a transformative plant medicine journey, this episode captures what it looks like to live from your heart, not your head. The Hewitts share raw insight about emotional safety, the freedom of truth-telling, and the power of mutual ownership in marriage. For the first time, Kendra describes what it felt like to hear Dr. Ryan share the story of his past affair publicly; without shame, fear, or pain. Together, they unpack what makes emotional safety possible, why your “mess becomes your message,” and how plant medicine played a surprising role in helping them process guilt and step into deeper connection. If you're ready for a marriage built on radical honesty, mutual respect, and heart-led growth, this one’s for you. Key Takeaways: Trust isn’t just spoken; it’s lived. Kendra signed for a cabin Ryan hadn’t even seen.Friendship loneliness in adulthood is real and deserves attention. Emotional safety makes it possible to share the hardest truths without fear. Your “mess” can actually become the pathway to deeper purpose. Healing is a process that requires honesty, not perfection. “What if every freaking mess in your life was actually part of the plan?” Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links: Instagram Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices