Konnected Minds Podcast

From the dangerous mindset that marriage is just about finding the right person to the revolutionary truth that the quality of the players in marriage determines whether you see relationship as competition or collaboration, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that people bring residual effects from their upbringing into marriage without understanding that though you may look polished, educated, and talented, the effect of the environment that raised you is still there and just a little trigger will show where you came from, the young person raised in an environment where you fight for everything creating a competition mentality of survival of the fittest that no matter how refined you appear carries forward into adult relationships, the child who was shifted from one house to another or had wealthy parents who were sound and had everything but gave no time leaving a person devoid of love who had everything going for them but didn't have attention or affection, the partner coming into marriage struggling with trust issues asking can I trust what you are doing because the effect of where I'm coming from is tearing me apart and in my subconscious I'm hearing voices from the past, the realization that the quality of players in marriage is one thing but the pattern of play requires that you fish out your opponent and understand their pattern because no two marriages are the same and you may have a friend whose wife does certain things but you cannot expect your wife to be like that, the wisdom that you must sit down and talk about what are the possible things that can challenge the mindset of a person and bring them to see marriage as competition instead of collaboration, the understanding that when you sit down and truly understand each other that understanding will weave something that brings you to a place of knowing you are a team not competitors, the competition mindset that doesn't happen overnight and may not be resolved by yourself alone but you can get help, the agencies and people coming with competition wanting to prove who is on top which is all lack of knowledge and ignorance that should be sorted out before marriage, the critical truth that there are things that should be sorted out before marriage because if you wait those dysfunctional tendencies will be used as weapons against a fantastic marriage that could have been properly managed for the greatest result, the intense premarital exposure to knowledge and wisdom that digs out a lot about a person because you are not just the man that wears the shirt and trouser in front of me but a combination of a lot of things, the women who are a combination of a lot of things where so many have been broken before marriage and the competitive clamoring is not about competing against you but about the backlog of trauma that may not have been resolved, the women looking for the next victim to lash out on because they may have been violated, abused, molested, talked down to, or considered inconsequential, the beautiful glamorous woman where what you see may just be the container but you do not know the content, the process of knowing the content that takes time starting with meeting the person with the mindset of friendship, the opportunities to create trust that you are not coming as one of the bandwagons of people that abused her one way or the other which will go through rigorous testing where she will test you. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that marriage is 50-50 when it comes to household duties and financial contributions to the revolutionary truth that every marriage is different and whether you bring 50% or 100% to the table doesn't determine superiority or inferiority because marriage is teamwork where both people deserve respect, and why the brutal truth about the question "what do you bring to the table" among Gen Z and millennials is that it's almost always about money when marriage has been seriously misconstrued because where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable according to the late Dr. Myles Munroe, the realization that marriage is more about legacy and dominion than money because if you will refer to the manual for a complicated gadget you spent money on so you don't blow it then how many people have referred to the manual for marriage asking whose idea was it and who instituted it, the argument that the Bible as the manual for marriage is so old it seems traditional making young people believe it doesn't work anymore for them when the real issue is clarity about the purpose for which marriage was created because whatever you don't know the purpose for which it was created you are certainly bound to abuse it, the wisdom that people marry based on likes and what they will gain and free feelings that don't work when the conversation about why God started marriage is completely lost, the revolutionary truth for Christians and non-Christians alike found in Isaiah 14 verses 11 to 14, Ezekiel 28 verses 11 to 14, and Revelations showing that marriage will be corrupted if we don't understand it's not about money or communication but the real reason why God established marriage, the scriptural revelation that Genesis 1 is not where everything started because there was somebody here before time who went up to plan a coup d'état saying I will be like God and take over but the coup failed and he was cast down and destabilized the face of the earth bringing confusion which is why Genesis 1 says the earth was without form and void, the critical question of how can God if this God is so excellent create chaos and something that doesn't make sense or have form when the answer is God never created the chaos but somebody messed everything up, the wisdom that God never reacted to the enemy but said let there be, let there be, let there be and put the world in place and in Genesis 1:28 said let them have dominion over the earth, the powerful truth that marriage was established as the institution that will progress and fill the world so marriage is God's idea for dominion but you must know the common enemy who destabilized everything, the 50-50 debate where a woman who brings 50% to the table must realize that if you have disparity sort it out in the bedroom so you don't create a scenario where children believe you can just confront and insult anywhere because bringing 50-50 doesn't mean you stop his authority since there must be a structure and a family is a place where the next generation is groomed, the man who brings 100% to the table and must be careful not to exercise dictatorship because in marriage there's no superiority and no inferiority so because you bring all of the 100% doesn't give you the right to treat your wife as a second fiddle, the scenario where the husband provides 100% for the household and everything and the wife doesn't have to lift a finger if she doesn't want to but if she wants to that's a different case proving every marriage is different, the marriages where 100% works and marriages where 50-50 works depending on the marriage structure. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From leaving the Tokyo Stock Market as the only black equity analyst to investing over 2 million USD into a fish farm in Ghana, and why the brutal truth about why young Africans miss farming opportunities is that we've been conditioned to see weeding as punishment and farming as something for people who cannot read and write when the reality is that Ghana spends 100 million dollars per annum importing tomatoes from Burkina Faso. Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Meet Seth Boakye-Dankwah 00:03:39 From Japan's Stock Market to Ghana's Fish Farms 00:09:29 The Asian Mindset: Understanding Risk as Opportunity 00:18:42 The $2 Million Investment Decision 00:20:18 Recirculating Aquaculture System Explained 00:34:44 The Hard Truth About Catfish Farming Profitability 00:30:33 Why Family Members Are Banned From The Business 00:25:55 Building a Business That Outlives You 00:38:04 The Marketing Challenge: From Farm to Consumer 00:52:55 Advice for Young Africans: Why Farming is Wealth Creation 01:04:47 Product Showcase and Final Thoughts Guest: Seth Boakye-Dankwah Company - Mordecai Farms Web: https://www.mordecaifarm.com/ Host: Derrick Abaitey IG: https://www.instagram.com/derrick.abaitey YT: https://www.youtube.com/@DerrickAbaitey Join Konnected Academy: https://www.triibe.io/konnected-academy Listen to the podcast on: Apple Podcast - http://tinyurl.com/4ttwbdxe Spotify - http://tinyurl.com/3he8hjfp Join this channel: /@konnectedminds FOLLOW ► https://linktr.ee/konnectedminds #Podcast #businesspodcast #AfricanPodcast

From the dangerous mindset that the devil is the one destroying families to the revolutionary truth that until you tame the common enemy you and your spouse can never be on the same wavelength, and why the brutal truth about why millennials and Gen Z don't trust marriage is because the Bible has been corrupted, ministers and preachers have messed up, the older generation managed broken marriages, and some never saw any marriage at all leaving them with no examples to glean from and take into their life journey, the young people coming from broken homes who came from homes that seemingly looked as if they were standing but had no examples they could use as blueprints for their own marriages, the realization that changing the narratives of corruption surrounding marriage so we can trust again is not about money because if your mind is right then as a man thinketh so everything about your perception of marriage is your mindset, the wisdom that until this mind is reguided whatever conversations we hold about marriage will not go far because it's a thing of the mind, the dangerous saying that love is sweet but when money is inside the love is sweeter which is taking advantage when you must understand the purpose for marriage and the purpose for money in marriage, the candid admission that money is sweet, money is comfort, money makes love go to hell but to make that money work for us there also has to be a corresponding peace on understanding and intentionality, the critical question of should women tell their husbands exactly how much they earn with the answer that it depends on who the woman is married to because it's not a blanket yes or no, the right thing being 101% financial transparency but the reality that not every marriage is the same, the marriage where if a spouse knows everything you earn the children's school fees may not be paid, house rents will not be renewed, certain basic needs and utilities will not be taken care of not because the other person is bad but because of the antecedents that need to be understood going back to how we were raised, the man counseled who said all through his life before he married he never had savings, never opened accounts, chopstick finish and start again chopstick which you can't blame because of the effect of upbringing, the woman who should open up completely if she has a husband that understands management and how to handle finances so the two can join heads together making the best out of finances, the dangerous reality of having a man who even when he knows how much you earn finishes it with drinking or taking it to take care of people when thousands of human beings have been exposed to this reality, the man who when the wife used to hand 100% of her salary to him wasn't unfaithful, wasn't playing around with women but used that money to visit people who are not well and the money finished in two weeks leaving children's school fees pending and money for food finished while he filled the car to run around contributing zero to the household. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that you need huge capital to start a business in Africa to the revolutionary truth that coconut sellers make between 300 to 500 cedis profit daily; proving that genuine wealth building starts with determination and a mindset shift not money. Guest: Priscilla Atta Peters Company: 30Seeds Host: Derrick Abaitey IG: https://www.instagram.com/derrick.abaitey YT: https://www.youtube.com/@DerrickAbaitey Join Konnected Academy: https://konnectedacademy.com/ Listen to the podcast on: Apple Podcast - http://tinyurl.com/4ttwbdxe Spotify - http://tinyurl.com/3he8hjfp Join this channel: /@konnectedminds FOLLOW ► https://linktr.ee/konnectedminds #Podcast #businesspodcast #AfricanPodcast

From the dangerous mindset that women initiate divorces because they get in there and discover comfort is not just about money to the revolutionary truth that they want time, attention, affection, and a number of things beyond financial provision, and why the brutal truth about why divorces skyrocket is that men don't understand that male and female are wired differently so even when the provision is needed and appreciated, if you do not want to become a victim you've got to come up with a shared vision of what kind of family do we want to be, what kind of legacy do we want to create, what kind of inheritance do we want to give our children, are we going to raise survivors or dynasties, the deep conversations around these areas that make a woman know she's not coming into a situation of unilateral decision making when it comes to finances but based on these parameters and a common shared vision, the realization that divorce will really try to be a thing of the past when communication is prioritized but most times divorce comes as a result of the fact that not much is communicated and you just take what you see without engaging on the modalities that make the person feel a part of it, the brilliant question that takes us back to shared vision: should the woman support the business to allow the family to build a legacy or should she do her own thing, the reality that not many women will come into the life of a man who has clarity with regards to where they are headed as a business wanting to expand and build a dynasty unless you've communicated with your wife, the lunch of information that stops women from joining forces because she stumbled on stories that some woman supported a husband and at the end she was thrown out or the mother was thrown out, the effect of upbringing and what she saw that creates premonitions making her unwilling to support based on antecedents, the slice on the husband to bring her to a place where she understands that whatever produced her good or bad is not what is going to be the outcome of who we are, the balance where the man asks about her dreams and aspirations no matter how small because God never created any junk so he believes she has dreams and can encourage her to do something on the side that will bring the best of her out, the peace that reigns when it's not just the woman coming to support the agenda of the man which is 100% good but seeing a man who is also interested in digging deep into who she is and trying to bring her out so that in supporting him her dreams are not dead, the women who completely ignore the fact that they were supposed to come and support and encourage because they feel left out when limited information comes and they feel a sense of threat that oh my god I don't think I'm a part of what is going on, the wisdom that nobody is really wired a certain way, it's the effect of upbringing, effect of environment, and significant emotional experiences that contribute to who you ultimately have as a support base or as a counterproductive human, the football analogy where there's nothing like competition when we have the winning team but how do you have a winning team when everyone has got their dreams and aspirations, the quality of players where competition is knocked out when two partners come to a place of knowing the quality of their lives, and if they cannot fish it out themselves they pay professional help to bring them to the place where they know, the potential wife that will support you so much but if you do not dig you may not know whether she was raised in a home that was dysfunctional and even though she tries to put up a front there will be triggers that will make her go back to her upbringing and the things she saw which you may not even know, Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset of sizing people based on physique and six packs to the revolutionary truth that nobody will remember you for your work achievements more than family and the children that carry the legacy, and why the brutal truth about marriage longevity is that the older generation had a level of tolerance the younger generation doesn't have because younger people are not ready to put in so much and leave when they're not happy when happiness is not a gift that comes in a breath of gold but something you work out with a threshold of patience, the powerful manifesto every couple needs before engaging: a blueprint, a working document that maps out where you want to see your marriage on your 10th anniversary covering finances, children's upbringing, career, spirituality, sex, everything so you don't marry blindly and walk into it without direction, the woman's perspective that values transparency, honesty, truthfulness, faithfulness as four words describing one thing because faithfulness means you are faithful to me and not cheating unless the woman didn't love you and you have somebody outside and it's only psychoning from you to fix the one she's interested in, the 33 years plus of marriage proving that date night and spending quality time means so much to a woman who wants a man whose presence they can feel, the revolutionary advice that most women choose men they can allow themselves to respect because a man is wired for respect as their greatest desire and love language, the capital letters warning to never marry a man you cannot respect because no man wants to marry another man and your intuitiveness as a woman should be mixed with humility because men are logical and don't want to be challenged even if you have a point to make, the realization that you can say good morning and it means good morning or you can say good morning and it means disrespect so if a woman wants their marriage to work and have the man feel like the man in the home give that man respect, the marriages that are not really getting better because the younger generation doesn't have the tolerance older generations had and are not ready to put in work, the happiness trap where everybody thinks if there's no happiness we work out when if everybody is working out what will be left of this institution, the early years of marriage being the most challenging season filled with expectations that get smashed coupled with raising children when you have a husband that is extremely intelligent, hardworking, and out there achieving so much but wasn't really available and you hadn't planned for the lack of availability, the seven years with four children that was big challenging but they set out, understood themselves, and gave him the space to become the best thing he was, the endurance through eight years that was a bit unstable and then started settling in bringing them to a season where father is seven on earth, the other couples whose early years are thrilling and then suddenly something strikes and the storm comes in and you compare the past and the present discovering the early years were extremely smooth but now you're in this challenging and testing season, the sitting back now to say I bless God for everything that happened because it brought the best out of us, the secret to surviving your early years of marriage, and why the ultimate truth is this: stop sizing people based on physique and six packs because that six packs man can put you in grief tomorrow and that lady that is like an angel that got missing from heaven can send you to an early grave, beauty is good and six packs is good but you should slow it down and promise yourself that you receive family that in the midst of the confusion and chaos in the world you will stand out. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the husband who wants to check out because his wife nags and doesn't reason with him to the revolutionary truth that every person has a melting point that determines who they ultimately become, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that we spend years learning careers like medicine and law but expect to master marriage in six months when the microwave mindset of competing with AI and technology will never work in relationship, the wisdom that nothing good comes easy and if we want to fix society we must be willing to pay the price to reorder and rewrite the storylines, the realization that most families have broken people terribly and immensely but it's only the clothes that cover their idiosyncrasies, the challenge to the younger generation that you may have been broken in the family you come from but you mustn't repeat the cycle, the warning that if you haven't looked critically at how to affect the things in your childhood you wish had not happened you're going to give a double dose of that to your children, the dangerous reality that some ladies picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine which is a very faulty and erroneous mindset to have, the call to raise daughters who would not think like that by looking frantically for whoever can take you through psychometric analysis that can tell you about you beyond you to clean the contents of water that had been infiltrated and corrupted, the powerful statement that women don't just blame the ladies, blame fatherhood because the woman is created by God to draw inspiration from the father, the message to present fathers to bless your daughters and look for a woman you can trust to help the process of healing and restoration, the quantum reality check that helps discover the reason why a person is the way the person is because nobody is created to be a nag or irresponsible, something was broken somewhere, the woman who nags because her husband never listens to her and really hears her out, never pays attention when she's talking so she forces him to hear what she's saying without knowing that men are not wired to handle nagging attitudes, the man who goes or complains that she doesn't reason with him and even when he wants to have a conversation it doesn't really happen so he's lost the desire to even sleep with her and is checking out, the question that determines the next line of action: what effort have you made to seek help for both of you, the wisdom that nobody has monopoly of knowledge and you may be excellent at your work and business but you may not know everything when it comes to relationship, the realization that there is no situation that cannot be handled and made better when it comes to these dysfunctionalities if you're willing to pay the price and say I want to marry right, I want to have my marriage work, I want to be a blessing to my partner, the revolutionary belief that we are not also willing to pay the price to fix the family institution and the responsibility raised on the head of the male because they are the heads but the neck turns the head, the neck that you allow to be dysfunctional will tell you the wrong direction so why don't you fix the neck, the critical truth that the content must be sorted out before marriage not six months after you thought you knew them because will you practice medicine or law just by being exposed to tutelage in two months or six months when careers require years of exposure, the challenge that this generation wants to bring microwave mindsets into relationship. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From coming into marriage as a fresh graduate with zero income to 33 years of partnership built on redefining contribution beyond money, and why the brutal truth about why 40% of marriages fail because of finances is that couples limit provision to just the person bringing in monetary means when domestic needs, spiritual assignments, and taking care of children are resources that cannot be quantified but amount to so much, the young bride who wasn't working so her husband was really the one in charge of providing finances but there was no control or superiority because in those times there were no televisions giving so much information about relationship struggles, no telephones, no influence, so information was limited making it easier to respect what each partner brought to the table, the realization that if you don't redefine contribution you destabilize the equation of marriage because the person not bringing in money may feel dehumanized and brought to a level where they feel inferior and not needed, the candid admission that no matter how the other partner tries to make you happy you still feel you could have been better off if you had your own money because of the value society places on money, the wisdom that money is not the only parameter that makes marriage work because there's somebody taking care of domestic needs which might not be quantified monetarily but it's something, somebody taking care of spiritual assignments praying for the family to thrive and succeed, somebody taking care of children which you don't quantify in monetary terms but somebody does that, the husband who recognized that even though she wasn't gainfully employed she was taking care of the home front so there was equal balancing out of what each brought to the table, the respect and management that meant she wasn't scrambling for leftover bread crumbs which happens when people in control of money in a particular season do not value what the other partner brings in, the generational difference where married couples in the past didn't have much marriage counseling and you married based on connection socially or spiritually, where in the context of Christianity once you were Christian you were open to marrying another person who said they were Christian, the modern reality where younger generations must know it's not only money but other things that matter, the ladies who picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine when marriage requires seeing the full picture of contribution, the statistic that women initiate divorces the most because they get in there and discover the reality doesn't match the picture, the question of whether marriages get better or worse after 33 years, the debate about whether if you contribute 50% of your salary to the family and I do 50% should I also help you in bathing the children and cooking, the principle that men should also support their women not just in the home but in business, the wisdom that in your view if a man starts a business the woman should support it not just do her own thing because the quality of the players in marriage determines whether you seek competition or collaboration. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that no one is coming to save you to the revolutionary truth that when you realize at age 12 or 13 that your entire family is waiting for someone else to rescue them you get an awakening that changes everything, and why the brutal truth about becoming a millionaire at 25 and losing it all by 27 is that the first thing that comes to an average Ghanaian person's mind when given an opportunity in business is steal. A deep conversation about the mindset of success with Christian Amoh Guest: Christian Zen Amoh Company - Ohemaa Rice Host: Derrick Abaitey IG: https://www.instagram.com/derrick.abaitey YT: https://www.youtube.com/@DerrickAbaitey Join Konnected Academy: https://www.triibe.io/konnected-academy Listen to the podcast on: Apple Podcast - http://tinyurl.com/4ttwbdxe Spotify - http://tinyurl.com/3he8hjfp Join this channel: /@konnectedminds FOLLOW ► https://linktr.ee/konnectedminds #Podcast #businesspodcast #AfricanPodcast

From the nagging wife who feels unheard to the husband who shuts down because he cannot handle her communication style, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that every person has a melting point that determines who they ultimately become, the woman who nags because her husband never listens to her and really hears her out, never pays attention when she's talking so she forces him to hear what she's saying without knowing that men are not wired to handle nagging attitudes, the realization that addressing brokenness, mindset, worldviews, ideologies, beliefs, and most importantly values is the only way to save a marriage because a woman who has exasperated her husband has not been able to actualize what her values are, the wisdom that when both partners are taken through proper help and therapy they could have the most excellent marriage thereafter because for lack of knowledge people perish but when knowledge hits you realize who you're married to, the revolutionary belief that any two people can make a marriage work excellently well because there is no wrong person only a wrong choice founded on ignorance and things you were not exposed to, the couples who separate over irreconcilable differences and then sit in front of a counselor and independently say I understand now why my husband or my wife was acting that way, now I understand myself, now it's like the veil is lifted, the 25 years of counseling and life coaching and 33 plus years of staying married that proves no matter how much we think we know there is a place of knowing where every veil that contributed to challenges is completely taken off and you see things for how they truly are and then you come to a place of healing, the internet coaches and counselors giving blanket marital advice when what works for one marriage may not work for another because how one person manages their marriage must not ultimately be the way you do yours, the joint accounts that work in some homes but may never work in others, the separate bank accounts that can exist while being one in spirit as long as you know exactly what you are doing financially as a home where you have different accounts but the family income is one, the common purse where both partners send percentages to with investments and children's education funds where you bring 50% of your income into this account, 20% into that account, and leave a percentage for personal allowance, the debate about Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From coming into marriage as a fresh graduate with zero income to 33 years of partnership built on redefining contribution beyond money, and why the brutal truth about why 40% of marriages fail because of finances is that couples limit provision to just the person bringing in monetary means when domestic needs, spiritual assignments, and taking care of children are resources that cannot be quantified but amount to so much, the young bride who wasn't working so her husband was really the one in charge of providing finances but there was no control or superiority because in those times there were no televisions giving so much information about relationship struggles, no telephones, no influence, so information was limited making it easier to respect what each partner brought to the table, the realization that if you don't redefine contribution you destabilize the equation of marriage because the person not bringing in money may feel dehumanized and brought to a level where they feel inferior and not needed, the candid admission that no matter how the other partner tries to make you happy you still feel you could have been better off if you had your own money because of the value society places on money, the wisdom that money is not the only parameter that makes marriage work because there's somebody taking care of domestic needs which might not be quantified monetarily but it's something, somebody taking care of spiritual assignments praying for the family to thrive and succeed, somebody taking care of children which you don't quantify in monetary terms but somebody does that, the husband who recognized that even though she wasn't gainfully employed she was taking care of the home front so there was equal balancing out of what each brought to the table, the respect and management that meant she wasn't scrambling for leftover bread crumbs which happens when people in control of money in a particular season do not value what the other partner brings in, the generational difference where married couples in the past didn't have much marriage counseling and you married based on connection socially or spiritually, where in the context of Christianity once you were Christian you were open to marrying another person who said they were Christian, the modern reality where younger generations must know it's not only money but other things that matter, the ladies who picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine when marriage requires seeing the full picture of contribution, the statistic that women initiate divorces the most because they get in there and discover the reality doesn't match the picture, the question of whether marriages get better or worse after 33 years, the debate about whether if you contribute 50% of your salary to the family and I do 50% should I also help you in bathing the children and cooking, the principle that men should also support their women not just in the home but in business, the wisdom that in your view if a man starts a business the woman should support it not just do her own thing because the quality of the players in marriage determines whether you seek competition or collaboration, the transparency question of should women tell your husband exactly how much you earn with the emphatic answer of 101% yes, and why the ultimate truth is this: life itself is very challenging and finding solutions to issues that have been problems most especially as it relates to relationship requires bringing people to a place of peace, giving clarity on the issue of relationship, family life, marriage, and helping people navigate the rough terrain of life because we are created for relationship, understanding that there are things that should be sorted out before marriage because if you wait until after it's too late, recognizing that being creative for relationship means balancing your pursuit with peace, knowing that transitioning from where you are to where you ought to be within the confines of relationship requires gaining insight and knowledge and wisdom that will guarantee peace for the next 40 to 50 years, and if you want to make money not the problem in a relationship or marriage you must be careful to know that money is not the only denominator because there are other things brought in that if you quantify them amount to so much, and when you understand that provision isn't limited to monetary means, when you respect what each partner contributes whether it's finances or domestic care or spiritual covering or raising children, when you don't let the person in control of money feel superior and make the other feel inferior, you're not just building a marriage that lasts 33 years, you're creating a partnership where both people feel valued, needed, and respected regardless of who holds the financial power in any given season. Guest: Mama Cathy Host: Derrick Abaitey

From childhood neglect and zero attention from parents to building a social selling empire on TikTok making over 800,000 cedis, and why the brutal truth about entrepreneurial success is that the drive to be seen, to be heard, and to finally get the attention you prayed for but never received creates the kind of relentless hunger that turns restriction into freedom and loneliness into financial power, the young girl who grew up with different people getting different types of treatment and being so level headed she didn't misbehave despite having no attention from parents or the people she stayed with, the 14 year old who went to SHS and never went back home, who stayed with her big sister who was mostly not there giving her freedom to be alone and do things on her own, the daughter of hardworking farmers who wake up at 4am every day to go to the farm and never stop even though they are old and could rest because they built their own business and have the option but choose to keep going, the university graduate who watched her parents educate six kids through farming alone without begging for money proving that any small thing if you build on it consistently is going to yield something, the girl who always wanted to be a journalist until a conversation in SHS about an uncle in construction making a lot of money made her realize she likes money because money equals freedom, the business woman who tried nine to five jobs and hated being controlled and supervised because growing up alone made her not like being controlled by other people, the social seller who discovered that she can speak to people, teach, set up the camera and talk about stuff because she wants to be seen and heard and people don't even have what's in her head, the TikTok entrepreneur who made over 800,000 cedis selling products online when haters said she didn't make that money and her response was I don't care because the money is in her account not theirs, the daughter whose mother was against her coming to Accra thinking she would engage in prostitution because that's the perception about Accra but she felt like her mom didn't know her well which is why she was thinking that way, the young woman who never had it easy, who grew up with different people and got different treatment and mistreatment which made her tough but also made her want freedom so much because she was tired of being with people, the level headed girl who had the freedom to be alone from 14 years old and didn't misbehave proving that not having attention doesn't break everyone, it creates some people who say I want to be alone since you're not giving me what I need, and why the ultimate truth is this: not being heard as a child, never having attention from parents, being restricted when it comes to money even though your parents were doing well because your mom is not going to let you have it easy, growing up with family friends and uncles and aunties instead of your own parents because your mom was very busy farming and taking care of six kids, all of that neglect and restriction doesn't destroy everyone, it creates some people who say I want my freedom, I want to be seen, I want to be heard, and when they discover business lets them teach and speak and show people what's in their head, when making money gives them the freedom they never had growing up, when financial success means finally getting the attention they prayed for but never received, they push through with relentless hunger because the alternative is going back to those days of being invisible, and if you want to start a business, if you want to learn how to use social media to promote your business and make something out of it, if you want to know how someone did it alone and believes you can also do it, then this conversation is for you because charity is here for the small business owners, the people who want to start but don't know what to start from, the people who have started but don't know how to go about it, and she's going to spill everything she has done step by step including how to build your own product. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaite

From posting products nobody cares about to teaching 800,000 cedis worth of value on TikTok, and why the brutal truth about selling anything online is that no one cares about your camera, your shoes, or your feminine hygiene products unless you show them the problem it solves, how to use it, and why their life needs it right now, the entrepreneur who discovered that the woman selling products for 350 cedis was just posting pictures assuming everyone knew what it does when ladies had no idea because African homes don't teach feminine hygiene and parents don't sit you down to explain these things, the university graduate who went through problems herself and wished someone was there to help her understand how to take care of herself which created the drive to teach ladies what they need to know instead of just selling products, the TikTok strategy that made 800,000 cedis and more because she wasn't there to dance and fool around but to sit down and give explicit knowledge that celebrities, pastors' wives, and mothers never had, the haters who said she didn't make that money and her response of "I don't care, the money is in my account not yours, I made more than that" because when you know your product works and you're giving value you don't care what people say, the Alibaba journey where she taught herself how to order from China by playing on the app, watching YouTube videos, and learning without waiting for someone to sell her a course or sit her down because no one has your time, you should have your own time, the beginner advice to identify the problem your product solves first before you even think about suppliers or shipping because if you're selling anything you need to know what problem it solves and who your audience is, the FDA approval battles that became her biggest challenge when products come with one name but FDA changes it after she's already marketed it creating confusion, the ingredients research she does on every product because "if I didn't want to die I wouldn't want you to die" so she uses her own products and learns about what's inside them, the lab analysis costing 1,000 to 3,000 cedis and FDA registration for imported products at $500 proving you need money to do things right but you can start by reselling other people's products if you have knowledge about what you're selling, the camera example where posting "I'm selling a camera" means nothing but showing phone camera versus real camera quality, explaining why someone serious would choose the camera, demonstrating the value makes people care, the salon analogy that if you open a salon and don't know how to wash hair it will collapse because you just wanted money or had support but didn't have knowledge about salons, the internet wisdom where she doesn't care about gossip, doesn't go online looking for anyone's business, uses her time to learn instead of looking for gossip because anything you want to know is on YouTube, TikTok, free materials that people make available, the verified suppliers on Alibaba for beginners, the AKT shipping company she's used for years because they're reliable, the Turkey and China trips proving she's willing to travel and learn and build an international brand, the people who want to be taught before they take a step when sometimes you need to start, get the idea, play on the apps, watch videos, and figure it out yourself, the realization that when it comes to products you don't need to do your own production from the start but you need to know something about what you're selling because there are people who swallow when they're supposed to insert and insert when they're supposed to swallow, and why the ultimate truth is this: people are usually more focused on the money than the value they give which is where she picked her form because the woman selling for 350 was just posting assuming everyone knew what the product does when people didn't know, but when she came in teaching ladies how to take care of themselves and using the product in addition to that care, when she gave knowledge that African homes don't teach, when she showed up on TikTok not to dance but to educate, when she learned everything from YouTube and the internet without waiting for courses or teachers, when she researched ingredients and used her own products, when she didn't care about haters saying she didn't make 800K because the money was in her account proving her value was real, she wasn't just selling products, she was solving problems and teaching solutions, and that's the only way to build a business that lasts because no one cares about what you're selling until you show them why they need it. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaitey

From childhood neglect and being too scared to talk to her mother to building a feminine hygiene empire where pricing for sustainability instead of approval is the difference between five years in business with nothing to show and three years of explosive growth, and why the brutal truth about small business success is that you can't pity yourself and tell the world no one is buying from you because people don't want to buy from struggling businesses, they want to know why everyone is buying from you, the young entrepreneur who grew up in an African home where parents don't teach feminine hygiene because they don't even know it themselves, where being bullied and not being heard and nobody sitting you down to understand your problems created a drive to be seen and heard that translated into wanting financial success, the university graduate who left her job and was so broke she stayed with friends who had illegal electricity connections and collected AC water drops in a small barrel just to bathe, the first three weeks selling 500 products on Snapchat and then nothing for months but instead of quitting she invested in influencers and made 25,000 cedis in 24 hours, the decision to go to China for packaging that would entice people's eyes and not get thrown away in their homes because she wasn't getting the quality she wanted in Ghana, the 2000 orders in three days during a sales period proving you don't need a physical shop if you show up online consistently and build trust with your authentic self, the realization that not everyone is your customer and you need to price for sustainability not approval because if you're selling a product for 70 cedis that costs 50 cedis plus packaging plus transportation you're making nothing while someone who prices at 100 cedis and knows how to market sells 500 to 600 pieces in months, the brutal reality that small business owners like to pity themselves saying no one is buying today which sends customers away instead of making people believe they are buying because curiosity about why people are patronizing your business is what attracts new customers, the international expansion shipping to US, Canada, UK, Germany and traveling to Nigeria because the vision was never just a business that wakes up and sells but an international brand that makes waves, the doctors in hospitals who recommend patients to her business because the products actually work and solve real problems African homes don't teach, the customers who fight for her like an army because she connected them to her journey and showed up in her most authentic self not always premium and proper, the China trip where she learned one packaging bag size required 1000 minimum pieces and she needed five sizes meaning 5000 to 10000 pieces which is impossible if you're pricing so low you're not making good money, the advice that changed everything: don't price for approval, price for sustainability because your business needs funds not just profits to push to the next level, the discipline over motivation approach because while customer smiles and solving their problems motivates her, discipline is what pushes her to show up every single day, and why the ultimate truth is this: you don't need to get everything perfect before you start, the packaging doesn't have to be flawless, you don't need a physical shop if you build your online presence well so when people see your page they have no doubts about bringing their money to you, you work on your own timeline not someone else's, you go through the process without rushing because if you're not in a hurry to get a shop and you focus on showing up consistently online you can make 2000 orders in three days, but you must stop being scared to price well, stop trying to make everyone your customer, stop pitying yourself and telling the world no one is buying, because when you price for sustainability, when you're selective about your customer base, when you make it fun and make people believe they need your product, when you understand that people adapt and come back for good products even if the price is slightly above their budget, when you read books like Famio Tadalai's with an open mind focusing on consistency and knowing what you're doing instead of complaining about head starts, you're not just building a business, you're creating an empire that ships internationally, gets recommended by doctors, and proves that discipline, authenticity, and strategic pricing are what separate struggling businesses from thriving ones. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaitey

From 500 products sold in three weeks on Snapchat to 90% of sales driven by TikTok, and why the brutal truth about social selling success is that you can't just post products and expect people to buy because nobody cares about your shoes or your MacBook unless you show them why they need it, how to style it, and what problem it solves in their lives, the first 24 hours when one product posted on Snapchat with one paid influencer brought 100+ orders and 20,000 cedis in sales proving that giving value instead of just posting products is what makes people ready to pay immediately, the supplier who was tired after one day because she was just putting products in rubber bags and sending them out when a product of that magnitude requires proper packaging and branding, the moment when customers were getting angry and going back to influencers saying she scammed them because she took their money but products were sold out and she didn't know how to pause orders, the bold move of ordering 10,000 pieces instead of 3,000 when she realized people were ready to wait and pay if she communicated properly, the Instagram search for wholesale suppliers, designers, containers, and stickers because everything needed to be done fast when customers had no patience, the 80,000 cedis invested in influencer marketing to make sure her feminine hygiene products were on the minds and lips of people even when Snapchat kept deleting her accounts due to competition reporting her, the 600 WhatsApp messages in one day from customers looking for her when she moved platforms because she had built trust by teaching not just selling, the transition to TikTok in 2024 that changed everything because she wasn't there to dance and fool around but to sit down and tell ladies what they need to hear about feminine hygiene, the celebrities, pastors' wives, and mothers who patronize her because they had no idea about the things she talks about and wanted to learn, the 12 to 15 FDA approved products now in her catalog with plans to start her own production of feminine washes after traveling to China to find manufacturers who understood her specific ingredients and target customers, the trip to China where she insisted on a sample phase and FDA approval before committing to large scale production because she's not rushing the process, the decision to move from reselling other brands' feminine washes to creating her own Femlux branded products starting with paw biotech, the TikTok strategy that now drives 90 to 95% of sales compared to the Snapchat era when she had to pay influencers consistently, and why the ultimate truth is this: every product has value whether it's clothes, shoes, cameras, or feminine hygiene, but if you're just posting products without teaching people how to style the clothes, which shoes match which dress, why a camera has better quality than a phone, or why feminine hygiene matters and how to take care of yourself, then no one really cares because you're selling not serving, but when you give value first, when you make customers feel like whatever they're going through you've been through it too, when you're explicit and confident about topics Ghanaians are scared to mention, when you invest 80,000 cedis to put your brand on people's minds and lips, when you teach instead of dance on TikTok, when you show phone camera versus real camera quality or tell business owners why they need an iPad, you're not just building a business, you're creating a community that will find you on WhatsApp when Snapchat deletes your account, that will wait and pay when products are sold out, that will grow your sales from 20,000 in 24 hours to a brand expanding into its own production because value is the basis of every business. In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Charity Boateng, the founder of Femlux who dismantles the dangerous "just post your products on social media and wait for sales" mentality that keeps small business owners stuck with zero engagement, revealing the exact moment when posting one feminine hygiene product on Snapchat with one paid influencer brought 100+ orders and 20,000 cedis in 24 hours because she wasn't just selling, she was teaching ladies why they need the product and giving them knowledge they never had, when the supplier got tired after one day and she had to think on her feet ordering 10,000 pieces instead of 3,000 even though customers were angry thinking she scammed them, when competition started reporting her Snapchat accounts and she moved to WhatsApp getting 600 messages in one day from customers looking for her because she had invested 80,000 cedis in influencer marketing to put her brand on people's minds and lips. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaitey

In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Ama Burland, the popular influencer and founder of Diya Organics who dismantles the dangerous wait until you're perfect before you post content mentality that keeps young people broke and afraid, revealing the exact moment when 10 bottles of hair oil she made for free and posted on YouTube sold out in 30 minutes after a scandal made her want to kill herself, when she struggled for two years not making money because she started with plenty orders and had to beg 20 customers when delivery services embarrassed her, when she shut down her skincare business because someone burned their face with African black soap they left on for 15 minutes instead of one minute. Guest: Ama Burland Business: https://www.shopdiyaorganics.com/shop Host: Derrick Abaitey IG: https://www.instagram.com/derrick.abaitey YT: https://www.youtube.com/@DerrickAbaitey Join Konnected Academy: https://www.triibe.io/konnected-academy Listen to the podcast on: Apple Podcast - http://tinyurl.com/4ttwbdxe Spotify - http://tinyurl.com/3he8hjfp Join this channel: /@konnectedminds FOLLOW ► https://linktr.ee/konnectedminds #Podcast #businesspodcast #AfricanPodcast #ghanapodcast

From childhood neglect and carrying water on her head at 18 to building a business empire where family decisions now pass through her first, and why the brutal truth about entrepreneurial success is that the drive to be seen, to be heard, and to never go back to those days of selling gobe by the roadside and living with people who never listened to your problems creates the kind of relentless hunger that turns restriction into freedom, the young girl who wanted to be a journalist until a conversation in SHS about an uncle in construction making a lot of money made her realize she likes money because money equals freedom, the childhood of growing up with different people getting different types of treatment and being scared of a mother so hard that you couldn't go to her with problems, the father who was soft but you couldn't reach because of the mother's presence, the siblings she didn't grow up with so there was no one to talk to, the 14 year old who went to SHS and never went back home, who stayed with her big sister who was mostly not there giving her freedom to be alone and do things on her own, the level headed young woman who didn't misbehave despite having no attention from parents or the people she stayed with, the prayers for attention that never came so she decided if they're not giving it to me I want to be alone, the realization that parents don't know her well which is why her mom was against her coming to Accra thinking she would engage in prostitution because that's the perception about Accra, the desire for attention that translated into wanting to become financially successful so people would finally pay attention to her needs, the discovery that she can speak to people, teach, set up the camera and talk about stuff because she wants to be seen and heard and people don't even have what's in her head, the tough journey of working very early in life selling gobe and food by the roadside, carrying water on her head from 18 something straight to Risk Cause back and forth knowing how it feels and wanting to be someone who doesn't have to remember those times again, the bad side of being alone since 14 which makes her keep to herself and struggle with networking because she's always at home working not able to go out and meet people, the good side that made her tough and pushed her to want freedom so much she was tired of being with people, the pride in getting here because no one got her there except her and God, the overspending that makes friends say live there she has been through a lot, the transformation from the girl no one listened to into the woman whose opinion family now seeks before making any decision, and why the ultimate truth is this: not being heard as a child, never having attention from parents, being too scared of your mother to share problems, experiencing different types of mistreatment from people you stayed with, all of that neglect and restriction doesn't break everyone, it creates some people who say I want my freedom, I want to be seen, I want to be heard, and when they discover business lets them teach and speak and show people what's in their head, when making money gives them the respect that makes family finally call them for decisions, when financial success means never carrying water on your head again or selling by the roadside, they push through with relentless hunger because the alternative is going back to those days of being invisible, and if they become parents they'll show their kids how to love themselves, pay attention to them, make them friends not make them afraid, because they know what happens when a child has no one to talk to and has to keep everything inside. In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Charity Boateng, an entrepreneur who dismantles the dangerous "money doesn't matter" mentality by revealing the exact moment when she realized at 14 years old that if parents and the people she stayed with weren't going to give her the attention she prayed for she wanted to be alone, when going to SHS and never going back home meant living with her big sister who was mostly not there giving her freedom to do things on her own, when family decisions that once happened without her now pass through her first because financial success finally gave her the voice and respect she never had growing up scared of a mother so hard you couldn't share your problems. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaitey

From AC water for bathing to building an international feminine hygiene empire, and why the brutal truth about business success is that you can't be motivated by money alone because when the orders stop coming in the third month and you're broke living off illegal electricity connections, only passion for solving a real problem will keep you going, the childhood of being bullied, not being heard, not being listened to, nobody sitting you down to understand your problems, growing up in an African home where parents don't teach feminine hygiene because they don't even know it themselves, the mother who didn't want her daughter working in shops because she feared people would laugh at her, wanting the suit and tie 9 to 5 government job instead of the entrepreneurial path that actually creates freedom, the university graduate searching for jobs after national service who would have been miserable five, six, seven years later still looking for employment, the moment after leaving her job when she stayed with friends and they were so broke they couldn't afford to fill their water tanks so they collected water drops from the AC using a small barrel just to bathe, the first three weeks selling 500 products and then nothing, the third month when orders stopped coming but instead of quitting she sat down and asked how can I do this better, the decision to reach out to influencer Dorsey and pay 2,500 cedis for promotional advice when she didn't even have a business name yet, the 24 hours after Dorsey's promotion that brought 25,000 cedis in sales, the bold move of taking that same money and paying Dorsey for one full month, then another month, then another because the vision wasn't just a business that wakes up and sells but an international brand that makes waves, the FDA approval battles blocking products that could help thousands of women because regulations say even pharmacies with knowledge about certain products aren't allowed to sell them, the doctors in hospitals who recommend patients to her business because they know the products work, the international expansion shipping to US, Canada, UK, Germany and traveling to Nigeria to grow the business there, the thousands of recommendations that proved success comes when your products are in the minds and on the lips of people not from posting today and expecting to blow tomorrow, and why the ultimate truth is this: if you're just motivated by money you'll move from one business to another the moment sales drop, but if you have passion for solving a real problem like feminine hygiene education that African homes don't teach, if you're willing to put all your money back into the business when others would take it out, if you understand that creating freedom for women and passing on knowledge that helps them see results is fulfilling a purpose bigger than profit, if your parents are finally proud even though they once wanted you in a suit working 9 to 5 instead of building an empire, then you're not just running a business, you're changing lives and proving that the uncomfortable path of entrepreneurship beats the misery of five years searching for jobs that never come. In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Charity Boateng, the founder of an international feminine hygiene brand who dismantles the dangerous "start a business for quick money" mentality that makes people quit after three months of slow sales, revealing the exact moment when she was so broke after leaving her job that she stayed with friends who had illegal electricity connections and they collected AC water drops in a small barrel just to bathe, when sales stopped coming in the third month but instead of giving up she invested 2,500 cedis in influencer Dorsey and made 25,000 cedis in 24 hours, when doctors started recommending patients to her business because the products actually work and solve real problems African homes don't teach. Guest: Charity Boateng Host: Derrick Abaitey

From three years of job rejections to building a distribution business on credit and integrity, and why the brutal truth about Ghana's job market is that it's a cartel where 90% of positions are filled internally before they're even posted, the young entrepreneur who grew up without a father but with a grandmother and auntie paying school fees while his shopkeeper mom provided breakfast money and pocket change, the university student who couldn't afford hostel accommodation so he slept in a chapel dormitory for three years sharing a room with three people just to complete his degree in business administration, the vacation visits to his grandmother's sister who was a distributor for three big FMCG companies in Ghana where he learned the business of moving consumer goods before she died in 2016, the realization that white collar jobs don't pay in Ghana when the job search turned into rejection after rejection and calls to aunties asking for help securing employment turned into "we'll get back to you" stories that never materialized, the inspiration from Mr. Simpi, the big money man he was named after who had his own business because every Simpi in Ghana didn't wait for someone else to make things happen for them, the decision to pull his own weight and work his own things out instead of waiting for family connections or government jobs that never come, the family business background that taught him how to brand products, how to sell products, how to identify suppliers and look for people to buy, the distribution knowledge gained from watching his grandmother's sister move goods worth hundreds of thousands of cedis proving that money in Ghana is in trade not in white collar office jobs, and why the ultimate truth is this: growing up in a family where people tried to work their own things out, where you're not provided with everything but you're expected to pull your own weight, where sleeping in a chapel dormitory for three years because hostel fees weren't available teaches you resilience, where watching market women buy goods worth 100,000 cedis and pay cash while university graduates sit home waiting for 800 cedi monthly salaries proves the system isn't giving way for the average youth to think beyond employment, creates the kind of young person who says "I actually need to work my own things" and builds a distribution business solving problems in Koforidua and Eastern Region because the Simpi name means you don't wait for someone, you create your own path. In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Kinsley Opoku Simpi, a young entrepreneur who dismantles the dangerous "wait for family connections to get you a job" mentality that keeps graduates stuck in three year job searches, revealing the exact moment when sleeping in a chapel dormatory for three years sharing a room with three people because hostel accommodation wasn't available taught him that comfort doesn't build character, when vacation visits to his grandmother's sister who distributed FMCG products for three big companies showed him that money is in trade not in white collar jobs, when calls to aunties asking for help securing employment turned into "we'll get back to you" promises that forced him to realize he needed to work his own things out just like every other Simpi in Ghana who built their own businesses instead of waiting for someone else. Guest: Kinsley Opoku Simpi Host: Derrick Abaitey