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Using the transformative lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Self Led Love is an exploration of how our inner parts shape the way we love, communicate, and grow in partnership. Each episode invites listeners to deepen self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and cultivate more authentic, connected relationships.
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Do you and your partner keep having the same fight on repeat — different topic, same exhausting pattern? In this episode of Self-Led Love, host and certified IFS practitioner Bahia Miller breaks down exactly why couples get stuck in these cycles and offers a three-step framework for finally shifting them. Bahia walks you through the difference between the content of a conflict (what you're fighting about) and the process (how your protective parts are showing up) — and why the process is almo...
What if your sexual self is already whole and complete? IFS-informed sex therapist Patricia Rich joins host Bahia Miller to explore self-led sexuality, the Six S's framework, internal consent, and how couples — especially parents — can reconnect. If sex feels complicated, confusing, or somewhere you've just stopped going — this episode is for you. This week, Bahia welcomes Patricia Rich, LCSW, CST-S — certified Level 3 IFS therapist, approved consultant, and AACT certified sex therapist — f...
A Three-Part Framework for Walking Through the Fire with Courage, Clarity & Care In this solo episode, Bahia Miller offers a practical, parts-informed road map for having the difficult conversations that matter — not to win, not to blame, but to be truly known and to truly know another. Because here's the truth: avoiding the conversation has a cost too. And more often than not, it's a bigger one. You'll learn: Why difficult conversations are actually an act of self-love, not just relation...
Learning to speak FOR Parts, FROM Self — rather than from a reactive part — can transform the way we communicate in relationships. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller explores the difference between speaking for your parts vs. speaking from your parts, why our impulses to make others change often backfire, and how taking a pause — a U-turn — can help us respond with clarity, compassion, and accountability. She shares practical ways to slow down, understand what’s happening inside, and communic...
What if you could transform your most important relationships — not through big dramatic changes, but through 1% shifts in how you show up? In this episode, host Bahia Miller leads you through a guided IFS-inspired meditation using the Five Ps of Self Energy: Presence, Patience, Perspective, Playfulness, and Persistence. Like the well-known Eight Cs, these five qualities live within all of us — and our parts, when activated, can block them from shining through. You'll be guided to choose one ...
Join Seth for his signature Points of Light meditation. You will be invited to circulate love and light throughout your whole system between parts + self. This meditation can provide a boost of connection and coherence to your system. Enjoy! About Seth Kopald Seth Kopald, PhD is a certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and presenter, training program assistant for IFS Levels 1, 2, and 3, and a longtime member of Dick Schwartz's retreat staff. He holds a PhD in organization...
What if being truly understood by your partner feels almost identical to being loved? In this rich conversation, host Bahia Miller sits down with Seth Kopald — Certified Level 3 IFS practitioner and author of Self-Led — to explore what it really means to let your inner parts make room for love. Seth and Bahia unpack the subtle but profound shift from parts-driven reactivity to self-led connection in intimate partnership. Whether you're deep in your IFS journey or just beginning, this ...
Struggling with recurring fights in your relationship? Wondering how to rebuild emotional safety after disconnection? In this episode of Self-Led Love, I break down the most important relationship skill for long-term intimacy: repair. Using a real story from my own marriage (yes, the dinner where I kept interrupting my husband’s storytelling), I model what healthy conflict repair actually looks like in practice. You’ll learn the three essential components of effective relationship repair: Acc...
ADHD can impact partnerships in all sorts of ways. And without both partners doing the U-Turn to connect with their own parts... resentment builds... and the spark dwindles. In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by Dr. Carol Shilliday—clinical psychologist, IFS assistant trainer, and longtime ADHD specialist—for a grounded, compassionate conversation about how ADHD shows up in intimate relationships. Together, we explore ADHD not as a character flaw, but as neu...
Understanding how our parts show up in relationships can transform the way we connect with ourselves and our partners. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller breaks down the different types of parts — managers, firefighters, and exiles — and how they influence patterns, conflicts, and intimacy in partnership. She explores the protective roles these parts take on, why they sometimes cause friction, and how bringing awareness to them can create space for healing and deeper connection. Reflection: W...
Motherhood changes everything — including which parts of us are in the forefront. In this episode, Bahia Miller is joined by Jessica Tomich Sorci for an honest and tender conversation about the profound identity shifts that occur when a woman becomes a mother. Together, they explore the reconfiguration of our inner parts, the emergence of “mom parts,” and the challenging emotions that come with this season of life. They discuss the impact of new parenthood on partnership, the pressure many pa...
Discover how triggers in relationships can actually be gifts for growth. Bahia Miller guides you in noticing your emotional, mental, and physical reactions, turning inward to understand your parts, and practicing curiosity instead of blame. Learn how to pause, reflect, and respond skillfully to build self-sovereignty and healthier connections. Free Resources Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending ...
Bahia Miller explores three foundational strategies for approaching the question “Can this relationship be saved?”—especially when things have been hard for a long time. In this episode, you’ll learn about: Why detaching from a specific outcome can restore clarity and choiceHow turning toward your pain (and resentment) reveals powerful inner lessonsWhat it looks like to embody your inner work in real relationshipThe difference between saving a relationship and saving your relationship to your...
Bahia Miller defines SELF LED LOVE and the importance & nuance of taking responsibility for your parts, building trust with yourself, and showing up consciously in relationships. Learn how noticing and tending to your inner parts can reduce reactivity, deepen connection, and transform relationship cycles. Self-led love is about awareness, repair, and growth—not perfection. Free Resources: Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship...
Bahia Miller introduces Self-Led Love and her mission to support others in learning to meet triggers with compassion, take responsibility for their parts, and build love rooted in self-leadership and emotional intimacy. Free Resources: Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unb...
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