Self Led Love with Bahia Miller

ADHD can impact partnerships in all sorts of ways. And without both partners doing the U-Turn to connect with their own parts... resentment builds... and the spark dwindles. In this episode of Self-Led Love, Bahia Miller is joined by Dr. Carol Shilliday—clinical psychologist, IFS assistant trainer, and longtime ADHD specialist—for a grounded, compassionate conversation about how ADHD shows up in intimate relationships. Together, we explore ADHD not as a character flaw, but as neu...

Understanding how our parts show up in relationships can transform the way we connect with ourselves and our partners. In this solo episode, Bahia Miller breaks down the different types of parts — managers, firefighters, and exiles — and how they influence patterns, conflicts, and intimacy in partnership. She explores the protective roles these parts take on, why they sometimes cause friction, and how bringing awareness to them can create space for healing and deeper connection. Reflection: W...

Motherhood changes everything — including which parts of us are in the forefront. In this episode, Bahia Miller is joined by Jessica Tomich Sorci for an honest and tender conversation about the profound identity shifts that occur when a woman becomes a mother. Together, they explore the reconfiguration of our inner parts, the emergence of “mom parts,” and the challenging emotions that come with this season of life. They discuss the impact of new parenthood on partnership, the pressure many pa...

Discover how triggers in relationships can actually be gifts for growth. Bahia Miller guides you in noticing your emotional, mental, and physical reactions, turning inward to understand your parts, and practicing curiosity instead of blame. Learn how to pause, reflect, and respond skillfully to build self-sovereignty and healthier connections. Free Resources Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending ...

Bahia Miller explores three foundational strategies for approaching the question “Can this relationship be saved?”—especially when things have been hard for a long time. In this episode, you’ll learn about: Why detaching from a specific outcome can restore clarity and choiceHow turning toward your pain (and resentment) reveals powerful inner lessonsWhat it looks like to embody your inner work in real relationshipThe difference between saving a relationship and saving your relationship to your...

Bahia Miller defines SELF LED LOVE and the importance & nuance of taking responsibility for your parts, building trust with yourself, and showing up consciously in relationships. Learn how noticing and tending to your inner parts can reduce reactivity, deepen connection, and transform relationship cycles. Self-led love is about awareness, repair, and growth—not perfection. Free Resources: Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship...

Bahia Miller introduces Self-Led Love and her mission to support others in learning to meet triggers with compassion, take responsibility for their parts, and build love rooted in self-leadership and emotional intimacy. Free Resources: Self-Led Love Checklist – clarify what’s your work vs. your partner’s work in the relationship: www.bahiamiller.com/checklistUnblending Meditation – slow down after a challenging interaction and get in relationship with your parts: www.bahiamiller.com/unb...