Speaking With Confidence

Have you ever felt invisible on a Zoom call, like your presence barely registers with the group no matter how hard you try? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into the real problem behind our digital disconnect and it’s not your lighting or camera quality. I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m here to help you transform from a digital ghost into someone who truly commands attention in any virtual room. In this solo episode, I unpack the secret sauce that the top 1% of virtual communicators use to create genuine psychological presence. Forget about buying new gear, the real difference lies in how you structure your message, how you engage with others, and the micro-moves you use to project true authority online. I introduce my SyncLink System, a practical framework built around three pillars: clarity, curiosity, and connection. We start by exploring the Clarity Filter, why simplicity is the new authority and how complexity kills engagement in a virtual setting. I share a powerful technique from John Maxwell called the 8th Grade Rule, and give you a three-step process to make sure your ideas land perfectly every time. You’ll hear how this has helped my executive clients go from being ignored to truly leading their meetings. Next, I reveal the Curiosity Protocol: a game-changing mindset shift inspired by Tim Elmore’s ‘Listen Like You’re Wrong’ approach. I walk you through how to lower tension, earn the right to be heard, and transform conflict into connection all while strengthening long-term relationships instead of just “winning” arguments. Finally, I get tactical with the Connection Catalyst the deliberate micro-moves that signal your presence and build digital gravitas, such as mastering camera contact instead of mere eye contact, using intentional pauses for authority, and deploying name anchors and micro-validations to keep your audience truly engaged. I explain exactly how these small behaviors add up to massive results over the course of a typical meeting. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why psychological presence outweighs technical upgrades for digital influence The three pillars of the SyncLink System: clarity, curiosity, and connection How to pass the “8th Grade Rule” and make your message instantly understandable Strategies for winning allies instead of just points in a debate The power of “Listen Like You’re Wrong” and the 10% truth principle Why and how you need to combine camera contact with intentional pauses Tools for name anchoring and micro-validation to make people feel truly seen A simple, step-by-step action plan to build new habits without feeling awkward or forced If you’re tired of dull virtual meetings and want to make your presence felt on every call, this is the episode you don’t want to miss. I also share how to get your hands on my ebook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, plus details on joining the Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world. Let’s bridge the digital gap and help you connect, lead, and be understood no matter where you are. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what it really takes to capture an audience—whether you're on stage, in front of a camera, or just showing up in a pivotal conversation? Today, we're answering exactly that. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I'm diving deep with Cam Beaudoin, a video agency founder who specializes in helping speakers, coaches, and entrepreneurs get noticed, trusted, and booked through powerful, story-driven video content. Cam brings all kinds of energy and insight, and we quickly get into the heart of what it means to project confidence—especially when working with video. We talk about the challenge of connecting through the lens, why you might need to raise your energy even more than you would in a live audience, and how the right tactics can turn your videos from boring to brilliant. You'll learn Cam’s journey from speaking about disability inclusion for IBM to finding a critical pain point in speakers who were overwhelmed or embarrassed by creating demo reels. We explore the myth of thinking you’ve “arrived” as a speaker and the real value of practicing, watching yourself on video, and continually improving your craft. Cam shares practical strategies to critique your own video performances, emphasizing the importance of focusing on both visual and audio aspects separately, and matching your emotional tone to your message. We also tackle the branding dilemma, how to become the go-to expert in your field instead of jumping from topic to topic, and why true authority takes effort, focus, and some soul-searching. Cam shares anecdotes about speakers who struggle to maintain brand consistency, and we discuss how testimonials and real transformations anchor your brand in the minds of event planners and clients. Here's what you'll hear covered in the episode: Projecting energy and connecting with audiences on camera versus in-person Cam’s transition from disability inclusion speaker to video expert for speakers The power of watching your own videos (and using mute/audio to analyze yourself) The opportunity cost of mediocre video and practicing to maximize impact Branding: how to narrow your focus, build authority, and be remembered for one thing The journey and challenges of pivoting within a brand or niche Getting known, getting hired, and why self-promotion matters (even for seasoned pros) Using YouTube as a video showcase for event planners and clients Crafting irresistible hooks for videos with practical examples TEDx and The Moth as storytelling formats—what they teach about engagement and structure Rethinking origin stories, using client success as compelling narratives, and making any story relatable Essential communication skills that cross all formats: empathy, understanding pain vs. pleasure, and focusing on the listener’s needs Defining authenticity, professionalism, and how to dress and act for credibility The role of feedback, openness to critique, and the realities of expert status If you're ready to level up your speaking and video presence, build a resilient brand, and confidently show up in every conversation, this episode has the tools and the real talk you need. Don’t miss my chat with Cam Beaudoin, it’s packed with actionable insights and a few laughs along the way. Connect with Cam: Website: https://www.thefrequentspeaker.com/speaker-booking-agency-landing   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cambeaudoin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefrequentspeaker YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFrequentSpeaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt like a total fraud, trying to perform as an expert instead of actually becoming one? In this episode, I dig into one of the biggest traps communicators face: the expert facade and the fear of failure that keeps us stuck. I'm Tim Newman, former college professor turned communication coach, and today on “Speaking with Confidence,” we're tackling the myth that failure is the enemy of success especially for Gen Z, where every misstep can feel like it's broadcast to the world on a permanent record. We often think that to be taken seriously, we need to show up perfectly, but that mindset actually blocks progress. I share two personal stories the first from my college days where I was so nervous during my first speech that I literally threw up in class, and a second, more recent example where I blanked and spelled my own name wrong in front of a nurse. These moments were embarrassing, but they weren’t endpoints. They were powerful pivots that taught me vital lessons about authenticity and human connection. In this episode, I walk you through my simple, three-part Pivot Protocol designed to transform every failure into a strategic advantage: no toxic positivity here, just practical, clear communication strategy. You’ll learn the difference between “tuition payments” (failures that teach you something) and “tragic errors” (ones you repeat without learning). We dive into why hiding mistakes actually creates communication breakdowns, blocking help and trust from your team or boss. Here’s what you’ll take away from this episode: The truth about why holding up a perfect expert image is a trap that shuts down learning How to reframe failures as essential data instead of identity-defining flaws Step-by-step instructions for using the Pivot Protocol: The Autopsy: A cold, emotion-free look at what went wrong and what it revealed The Extraction: Finding the strategic insight that only failure could give you The Leap: Turning your new insight into a confident, public move forward How I personally moved from being the most nervous speaker in class to a coach who builds real connection through vulnerability Practical questions for breaking down your mistakes, so you stop letting embarrassment run the show Why communicating your learned insights, instead of just the mistake, builds stronger trust and credibility How to shift your team dynamic from defensive and blame-focused to curious and innovative If you’re ready to stop protecting your image and start protecting the lesson, this episode is for you. Progress not perfection is the goal. Try applying the Pivot Protocol to a small failure this week and watch how your communication clarity and confidence grow. And don’t forget to grab your free ebook, The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, at SpeakingWithConfidencePodcast.com or register for the Formulas for Public Speaking course. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. See you next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever looked like the picture of confidence on the outside, while secretly battling feelings of self-doubt or imposter syndrome on the inside? If so, this episode of Speaking with Confidence is for you. On this week’s episode, I explore what it really means to “feel confident,” not just look confident, and how we can bridge the gap between external appearance and our internal belief. I’m joined by the fantastic Joanna Zhang, international speaker, award-winning entrepreneur, and founder of The Operations Genius. Joanna has an incredible story of personal and professional transformation, having not only led her business to multiple international awards, but also overcome her own struggles with the imposter syndrome that so many high achievers face. Joanna and I dive deep into the journey from external validation to authentic self-assurance. We get honest about what it’s like to achieve on paper but still be wracked with self-doubt, and how that pattern shows up for so many high achievers. Joanna shares her firsthand experiences with winning big awards but initially not feeling “enough” on the inside, her transition into genuine self-celebration, and how she began to recognize and embrace her own strengths instead of endlessly comparing herself to others. We reflect on why it’s so hard for so many of us to accept compliments, celebrate wins, or acknowledge our growth and how to start shifting that mindset. Joanna introduces some practical strategies (including the genius idea of a “happy fund” to reward yourself!) for building and maintaining real, lasting self-confidence. We also dive into: The trap of comparing your weaknesses to others’ strengths The pivotal shift from “doing” to “being” and why slowing down is essential for real growth Recognizing the signals that your external confidence isn’t matched internally How to celebrate small wins and why it matters so much for long-term fulfillment Joanna’s journey from operating in a masculine leadership and communication style, especially in a male-dominated field, to finding balance and power in feminine energy and self-acceptance Why skills are only part of being an effective communicator: how your inner state and intention drive impact, connection, and influence Letting go of judgment and perfectionism to speak “from the flow,” and simple exercises to help you break free from fear and just get started (spoiler: you’ll surprise yourself!) The biggest confidence wounds facing the younger generation, and the influence of social media and family on self-worth Concrete actions you can start taking now to build up your authentic confidence, no matter where you’re starting from Whether you’re a leader, entrepreneur, creative, or simply someone seeking a more confident presence, Joanna’s approach is all about acceptance, celebration, and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve you. If you’ve ever wondered why outer confidence and inner confidence don’t always match and what practical steps you can take to finally align the two, this episode will give you encouragement, actionable ideas, and a supportive reminder that you absolutely have the power to change your relationship with yourself, your work, and your communication. Connect with Joanna: Website: https://operationsgenius.net/   LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/zhang-joanna/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entrepreneursoulmate/    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18BGiVkHpK/?mibextid=qi2Omg    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCViTPty9wg9JXwHMvoKWnkA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you can’t just “be more confident,” no matter how many pep talks you hear or inspirational quotes you read? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the frustrating reality that traditional confidence advice is often nothing more than a vibe check—temporary and fleeting, especially when the pressure is on. As a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how misunderstood confidence can be. Today, I take you through a forensic audit of your confidence, showing you how to treat it as a system—not a feeling. We dive deep into the root causes that keep so many of us stuck in cycles of self-doubt, particularly for Gen Z, who face an identity crisis amplified by social media and external validation. I break down the three primary psychological triggers that hold you back: the imposter syndrome amplifier, the perfectionist trap, and the external validation void. These “gaslighters,” as I call them, create toxic narratives that sabotage your confidence and keep you chasing impossible standards. But we go beyond identifying the problem. This episode is packed with actionable strategies to override those default settings. I walk you through a 48-hour trigger journal exercise to pinpoint your specific confidence dips, and introduce the Value Inventory—an evidence-based approach that forces your brain to face the reality of your skills and accomplishments. Drawing on concepts like Ryan Leak’s “chasing failure,” I show you how to use small, intentional failures as research tools to dismantle the perfectionism trap. We build what I call your resilience firewall, connecting your audit findings to the three pillars that matter most: planning, research, and practice. By targeting your vulnerability points with specific plans, actively acquiring competence, and collecting low-stakes feedback, you create evidence-based assurance, moving from the feeling of being an imposter to speaking with unshakable authenticity. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why “just be more confident” is useless advice and what actually works The three psychological triggers that sabotage genuine confidence How to do a confidence forensic audit using a 48-hour trigger journal Building a Value Inventory to fight imposter syndrome with real evidence Turning failure into research, not shame Creating a resilience firewall through targeted planning, research, and practice Why confidence isn’t a fixed trait, but a dynamic system you maintain Actionable steps to start building evidence-based assurance today Ready to upgrade your mental operating system and build real, lasting confidence? Start your 48-Hour Trigger Journal now and collect your first piece of evidence. For more tips and resources, check out speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, grab your free ebook, and register for my Formulas for Public Speaking course. Remember, progress beats perfection every time—and your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what it really means to speak with confidence, and how your words, presence, and mindset can transform every conversation? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I explore that question and much more with a truly remarkable guest. I’m Tim Newman, your host—recovering college professor turned communication coach—and today I’m joined by Antoni Lacinai, an internationally acclaimed workplace communication expert, keynote speaker, and author. Not only has Antoni delivered masterclasses worldwide on compassionate leadership and empathy-driven engagement, but he’s also written and co-written 14 business books, hundreds of magazine columns, a novel, a radio theater play, and even released his first song on Spotify. Clearly, he’s not just a business mind; he's a creative soul with a unique perspective on what it means to be authentic in our work and communication. We kick off the episode by diving into Antoni’s creative pursuits, including his Christmas song written for fellow speakers—because it’s important to show you’re more than just your job title. We talk about bringing humanity and authenticity back into business, how being creative makes us more relatable, and why it helps people see us beyond our professional roles. From there, the conversation moves into pivotal moments in Antoni’s journey that led him to recognize communication as his superpower, such as being the only seven-year-old at a parent-teacher meeting brave enough to raise his hand—and discovering the impact that being listened to can have on a young mind. We discuss the importance of listening and encouragement for children, and how that applies to interactions throughout our lives. We also touch on research showing how positive recognition drives better team performance, and how small acts of kindness—like simply saying “good morning”—can profoundly elevate workplace culture. Here’s what we covered: Antoni’s creative journey and the value of authenticity How pivotal childhood moments and being listened to shaped his confidence The impact of positive recognition and kindness in the workplace Practical ways to build confidence and get into the right mindset before communicating The three communication superpowers: empathy, clarity, and energy How to balance these superpowers for world-class communication The importance of emotional intelligence and practicing new habits The role of analog vs. digital communication and what AI means for human connection Why SMART goals might not be enough, and the alternative model of HAPPY goals Encouragement for listeners to use their voice to make a difference By the end of this episode, you’ll know the secret ingredients to speaking with confidence—and why your words truly matter. Thanks for listening, and as always, remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Antoni: Website: https://www.antonilacinai.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lacinai/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/antonilacinai/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why some networking conversations feel awkward and stale while others just flow with authenticity and connection? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle exactly that question: why those standard "What do you do?" Icebreakers fail so spectacularly, especially with Gen Z, and how you can transform surface-level small talk into meaningful, memorable conversations. I dive deep into the challenges of genuine communication in both personal and professional settings. As someone who's spent years studying and coaching communication, I've seen too many capable people get overlooked not because they're not ready, but because they haven't learned how to confidently show up and connect. This episode is all about stepping off the script and embracing authenticity in every conversation that counts. In this episode, I walk you through my Connection Catalyst framework, designed to help you shift from fact-finding to insight discovery, and show you how strategic curiosity can make you stand out in any room, especially if you’re looking to connect with Gen Z or anyone craving genuine dialogue over tired transactional questions. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why typical networking questions ("What do you do?", "Where are you from?") rarely create real connection The psychology behind scriptive responses and why Gen Z sees right through transactional conversations How boring questions signal a lack of curiosity, and why deep, value-driven questions build trust The three principles of the Connection Catalyst: moving from information to insight, creating a value exchange, and building momentum for deeper conversations Examples of transforming closed questions into open-ended ones that uncover beliefs, vulnerabilities, and real stories (like replacing "Do you like your job?" with "What's a belief you had about your industry that turned out to be completely wrong?") The importance of the hidden value exchange in networking how strategic questions demonstrate genuine interest and build social capital Practical tips for weaving strategic curiosity into your conversations without sounding robotic, including the use of conversational bridges and active listening Why building rapport matters before diving into deeper questions, and how to keep the conversation comfortable and engaging A challenge for listeners: replace one standard question in your next conversation with a strategic one and notice the change in dynamic Reminders on progress over perfection, and resources for public speaking and communication improvement If you want actionable ways to upgrade your networking skills and create conversations that matter, this episode will give you the tools and the confidence to do just that. Listen in, and let’s start having dialogues that actually build connection, not just check boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what separates an effective leader from a high-performing technician, and how personal branding can make or break your success? Today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence dives deep into these questions with practical wisdom, actionable steps, and a fresh perspective on leadership in the modern world. I’m Tim Newman, your host—recovering college professor, communication coach, and curious asker of big questions. This week, I had the pleasure of speaking with Walter Dusseldorp, better known as the Dutch Mentor. Walter’s journey is a fascinating one: from aspiring physician and paramedic, to executive leader, pilot, mentor, and now founder of the Pure Leadership Power program and the Smart Performance app. His story is packed with lessons on adaptability, growth, and communication that anyone can apply. We started with Walter’s unique background, touching on his formative experiences in Holland, responding to 9/11 as a paramedic, and catching the flying bug that led him to pursue piloting as both passion and profession. Walter shared insights about transitions, living with purpose, and the moment that changed his outlook: realizing that dreams need to be lived today, not put off for tomorrow. From there, we explored Walter’s evolution from technical roles into mentoring and coaching—how he recognized a need for better leadership, saw the gap between technical expertise and people skills, and decided to help others make that pivotal transition. He shared how a growth mindset and continuous learning are essential for becoming an effective communicator and leader, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, seeking mentorship, and taking ownership of your own development. If you’re looking for concrete steps to amplify your leadership, hone your communication skills, and clarify your “why,” this conversation is for you. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Walter’s journey from paramedic and pilot to leadership mentor The power of transitions and living with purpose Moving from technical expertise to effective leadership Why communication is the number one reason teams fail—and how to fix it The importance of continuous learning, growth mindset, and daily habits Building and protecting your personal brand (and what mistakes to avoid) The difference between mentoring and coaching Outward-facing leadership and the need for confident humility Why vulnerability and seeking mentorship accelerate your growth Creating a “why” statement that differentiates you in interviews and organizations The perils of groupthink, how it devastated the Challenger mission and companies like Blockbuster The importance of dialogue, civil discourse, and learning to speak the language of younger generations Practical frameworks for leadership, including Lean Six Sigma and the Pure Leadership Power program Walter’s Smart Performance app: what it offers and how to get involved Walter brings a rare mix of technical expertise, personal experience, and pragmatic Dutch wisdom, making this episode one of our most insight-packed to date. If you’re ready to take your leadership to the next level and create a brand that truly reflects who you are, tune in! You can connect with Walter on LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTube, or email him directly at thedutchmentor@gmail.com. The Smart Performance app launches January 1st—reach out if you’re interested in joining as a founding member. Thanks for listening to Speaking with Confidence. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Walter: Website: https://www.thedutchmentor.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/walter-dusseldorp-mba-fache-8965b610/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thedutchmentor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you an introvert who’s ever felt pressured to be “more outgoing” at work? Maybe you’ve been told to “speak up more” or “just be charismatic”—but trying on someone else’s style feels fake and leaves you burnt out. What if your natural quietness isn’t the obstacle everyone says it is, but actually your biggest professional edge? That’s the question we’re diving into in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host—a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today’s episode is all about turning the corporate world’s obsession with extroversion on its head. We’ll explore the evidence that introverts not only belong in high-visibility roles, but often outperform their extroverted colleagues, especially when it comes to leadership and influence. In this episode, I get real about the exhaustion introverts feel under non-stop pressure to network and perform. I break down research from top journals that shows the loudest voice isn’t necessarily the most influential. Instead, introverted professionals possess some major superpowers: deep listening, keen observation, and a thoughtful approach that builds psychological safety and trust on teams. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The myth of extroversion as the only model for leadership (and what the latest research says instead) How introverts’ natural strength as listeners can build powerful trust and influence within teams A practical explanation of the 80/20 listening rule for meetings, so you can contribute with confidence and precision Turning your natural tendency to pause before speaking into a deliberate mark of thoughtfulness (not hesitation) The “pause and pivot” technique: responding to tough questions without panic or filler, and commanding the room when you do speak A real-life coaching case study to show these strategies in action The Precision Protocol: a simple, three-step framework for making every contribution count by preparing smarter, bridging smoothly into discussion, and dropping concise, value-packed insights How using these strengths consistently can build a reputation as the person everyone wants to hear from—no fake charisma required The unique power of this approach for Gen Z professionals, remote workers, and anyone seeking greater authenticity in the workplace A quick-start action step so you can begin leveraging your introvert edge for your next big meeting I wrap up with a reminder: Progress beats perfection, and your voice—used thoughtfully—can transform your entire team, project, or organization. If you want to go deeper, be sure to check out my conversation with Stacy Chasen from January for even more strategies for quiet communicators. And don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free resources and to sign up for my new course. Remember, your quiet nature is a strength you just haven’t been shown how to use—until now. Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll talk to you next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how the world’s top interrogators communicate with calm, confidence, and true connection—even in high-stakes, emotionally charged scenarios? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into this question and so much more with Brad Beeler, a retired United States Secret Service special agent and course manager for interview and interrogation techniques at the National Center for Credibility Assessment. Brad’s career is nothing short of extraordinary: he served 25 years in the Secret Service, spent 17 years as a polygraph examiner, and has conducted more criminal polygraph examinations than anyone else in Secret Service history. Brad's experience spans thousands of interviews with some of the most difficult individuals—often in cases involving the sexual exploitation of children. What struck me in our conversation is how central communication is, not just for uncovering the truth, but for creating safety, trust, and effectiveness in the most challenging environments. Brad shares why calm leads to calm, and how emotional contagion, body language, and tone shape every interaction—whether you’re in a high-stakes interview or talking with your family. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Brad Beeler’s career journey and transition to teaching The power of calm and emotional contagion in communication The science of body language, tone, and presence Listening as a full-contact sport and why neutrality matters Practical strategies for building connections and safe spaces How to research and prepare for impactful conversations Safety and privacy in the digital age, especially for children Insights from Brad’s book, "Tell Me Everything" Understanding horns and halos and confirmation bias The difference between ethical influence and manipulation Treating everyone with respect and the importance of truth-finding You’ll walk away from this episode inspired to rethink how you show up in every conversation—with strategies and mindsets used by one of the world’s top communicators. If you want to connect with Brad, visit BradleyBeeler.com or find him on LinkedIn or Instagram at BradBeeler1865. Thank you for joining us, and remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Brad: Website: https://bradleybeeler.com    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bradbeeler1865/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bradbeeler1865   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt guilty saying no, even when your brain screams that you don’t have the time or energy to help? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle one of the most challenging—and universal—skills for communication and leadership: how to set boundaries and say no effectively, without damaging relationships or your credibility. As I celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary, I’m excited to announce a special giveaway for listeners—a free 3-hour one-on-one coaching package for anyone who leaves a review and tags me on social media. But before we dive into the details of the contest, let’s get real about the Gen Z struggle, which honestly affects almost all of us: we want to be helpful, but we desperately need to protect our time and energy. This episode is all about striking that balance, and learning to say a strategic no that actually builds trust and influence. Today, I’m guiding you through real-world strategies grounded in science and research for better boundary-setting. I start by unpacking why it feels so hard to say no: our brains literally perceive it as a social threat, triggering fight-or-flight mode thanks to the amygdala. Most people fall into two traps when refusing a request—either ghosting (avoiding the person altogether) or becoming a jerk (being overly blunt or aggressive). Both hurt your professional reputation and relationships. Then there’s the spotlight effect, which tricks us into believing everyone will notice and judge our refusal way more harshly than reality suggests. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why saying no feels dangerous, and the neuroscience behind our aversion to refusal Common failure modes to avoid: ghosting and aggressive rejection The Value Anchor Method explained and demonstrated with real-world scripts How to say no to your boss, teammate, or friend without burning bridges Tips for maintaining professionalism and protecting your reputation The mindset shift from seeing boundaries as walls to viewing them as foundations for strong partnerships A practical implementation challenge for listeners to practice the three-part refusal framework Resources for deeper learning, including my video with the NOPE Coach Suzanne Kolberg and my Formula for Public Speaking course Details about the two-year anniversary contest and how to enter If you’re ready to upgrade your communication skills and build lasting influence—plus maybe win some free coaching—this episode gives you everything you need to start saying no with confidence, clarity, and kindness. Let’s turn boundaries into bridges for stronger, healthier connections in both your work and personal life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you find your true voice and lead with confidence when you’re the only one in the room who’s different? That’s the question at the heart of today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence. Today, I had the pleasure of sitting down with empowerment executive coach Varuschka Nagesar, whose rich and diverse background weaves together corporate law, global commercial leadership, and transformative coaching for high-achieving women. If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, felt like the outsider, or navigated culture clashes at work, this conversation is for you. We started by diving into Varuschka’s extraordinary journey, from her roots and legal training in post-apartheid South Africa—a world shaped by diversity, multiple languages, and complex cultural nuances—to major commercial leadership roles in the UK, US, the Middle East, and Europe. She shared powerful stories about learning to honor different communication styles, from deciphering idioms in new countries to gaining respect for those doing business in a second or third language. Her insight: real connection starts with meeting people where they are, not just linguistically but culturally and emotionally. Here’s what we covered in today’s episode: How global and generational diversity shapes communication and trust at work Why language and nonverbal cues matter—and how to navigate misunderstandings across cultures Dealing with being “the only one” in the room and turning that into your strength The difference between confidence and self-belief—and how to build both How self-limiting beliefs show up, and simple, real-world strategies to overcome them The role of core values and intuition in major life and career decisions Real-life stories and mindset shifts that helped Varuschka stop “swimming upstream” and find alignment Advice for listeners on taking the first steps toward authenticity, fulfillment, and empowered leadership If you’re ready to step into your full influence, communicate more powerfully, or simply need inspiration to trust yourself, this episode is a must-listen. Thank you to Varuschka Nagesar for sharing her journey, wisdom, and practical takeaways. And as always, remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Varuschka: Website: varuschkanagesar.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/varuschka-nagesar/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wrapped up a presentation and just felt like something was off? Maybe you had all the right data, your facts were solid, but somehow, the audience just didn’t connect—or worse, you left the room wondering if your expertise really came through. If you’ve had that lingering doubt, you’re not alone, and in today’s episode, we’re answering the critical question: What are the invisible habits that might be secretly undermining your authority and what can you do to fix them? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, host of the Speaking with Confidence podcast, and in this episode, I’m sharing the two biggest culprits I see sabotaging even the most brilliant communicators: a subtle vocal pattern that makes you sound like you’re asking for permission, and body language that screams nervousness instead of confidence. Instead of trying to sound perfect or change your personality, we’re getting practical with the “status reset protocol”—an actionable system you can use straight away to project authentic authority when you speak. It’s just you and me digging deep into the mechanics of presence and authority. You’ll hear real-life examples, simple frameworks, and low-pressure exercises that you can start practicing immediately, whether you’re prepping for a big pitch or just explaining your work to a friend. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why up-talking—that rising inflection at the end of statements—can subconsciously make you sound unsure, even when you’re an expert. The hidden psychological impact of vocal patterns and how your audience’s brains interpret them. The most common physical habits that undermine your credibility, from “T. Rex arms” to the “fig leaf” and the infamous “windmill.” Why leaders look comfortable in their own space and how fidgeting or over-controlling your gestures actually backfires. How to become aware of your invisible communication habits (and why recording yourself is the most powerful tool you have). The “Punctuate, Don’t Pacify” method for transforming your vocal delivery, making sure your key points land with certainty rather than doubt. The “Gesture with Intent” framework so your hands support your message instead of highlighting nervous energy—and how to keep movements purposeful, not robotic. Easy, low-stakes ways to practice these new skills before you’re under pressure in a big presentation. The status reset protocol: picking one habit to watch for this week, building awareness, and gradually building unshakable authority. Plus, I share details about our special giveaway to celebrate the podcast’s second anniversary, including how you can win a free, three-hour one-on-one coaching package focused on communication and leadership skills. If you’re ready to stop unintentionally asking for approval and start commanding the room as a true expert, this episode is packed with practical strategies to make that leap. As always, head to speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for a free eBook, more resources, and info about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember—progress, not perfection, and your voice truly can change the world. Let’s build your confidence, one episode at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could make people say “yes” more often—ethically? On today's episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the science and art of ethical persuasion. Many of us have wondered, “How do I convince people without feeling pushy or manipulative?” Today, we’re answering that, exploring how understanding human decision-making can massively improve your influence—at work, at home, or on stage. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Patrick Van Der Burght, a founding member of the Cialdini Institute, licensed trainer, and business partner of Dr. Robert Cialdini—the author of the legendary book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. If you’re in the communication or leadership space, you already know Cialdini’s name—so having Patrick Van Der Burght join us is a real treat. Not only does he co-host the podcast Ethical Persuasion Unlocked, but he’s been teaching ethical influence to professionals for over two decades, helping them accelerate toward their personal and professional goals using behavioral science. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why “no” usually just means “I don’t know yet”—not outright rejection How most decisions are made unconsciously, and what that means for communication today The difference between being liked and being similar, and how to use both Why giving value first (reciprocity) increases compliance and loyalty How to use testimonials and social proof for maximum impact Ways authority can be established ethically on stage or in business, without losing credibility The surprising power of scarcity and loss framing (“What will it cost you if you don’t act?”) How getting someone to take a small, public action makes them much more likely to follow through Why surveys and focus groups can so badly miss the mark on what truly influences behavior How these principles work not just professionally but in everyday relationships—persuading your kids, family, and friends This conversation is loaded with actionable insight, memorable stories, and some eye-opening science. Patrick is offering a free ebook and other resources—don’t miss those in the show notes. And if you found this episode valuable, please drop me a comment or review—Patrick and I would love to know your feedback. Tune in to discover how you can start hearing “yes” more often—without ever sacrificing your ethics! Connect with Patrick: Website: https://ethicalpersuasion.com.au/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ethicalpersuasionLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-van-der-burght/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ethicalpersuasion/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ethical_persuasion/Twitter: https://x.com/yesmoreoftenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ethicalpersuasionBook: https://yesmoreoften.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a high-pressure, time-limited public speaking presentation—and how a communication coach turns even his own missteps into teachable moments? In this special episode of Speaking with Confidence, I pull back the curtain on my recent experience presenting a Pecha Kucha at PodFest 2026, while offering you practical coaching advice you can apply to your own speaking journey. As we celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary (with a special giveaway—don't miss the details!), I reflect on what it means to embrace confidence, resilience, and the power of vulnerability on stage. This episode is a bit different: using my own Pecha Kucha talk as a case study, I break down the presentation, highlight what worked, where I stumbled, and how you can learn from real-life examples. If you’ve ever let fear hold you back from speaking up, stepping onto a stage, or pressing “record” on a podcast, this one’s for you. I’m joined at the top of the show by Roddy Galbra, who introduces me before I launch into my presentation breakdown. From that point, I take you step-by-step through everything: prepping the talk and building slides under a deadline, battling nerves, and the moment-by-moment coaching insights I’ve gained both from experience and good old-fashioned trial and error. Along the way, I share how tools like ChatGPT can be a feedback partner (and sometimes a brutal truth-teller!) when preparing for big moments. Here’s what you’ll get in this episode: The inside story of my Pecha Kucha experience with only five minutes and 20 auto-advancing slides Candid reflections on starting too fast, handling nerves, embracing pauses, and managing mistakes as they happen Why humor, humility, and authenticity work better than perfection on stage Recognizing the importance of connecting your story to a clear call to action The value of critiquing your own performances—and the difference between authority and arrogance in public speaking Insights into how your fears might be tied up with your identity, and how to use that to fuel growth instead of hesitation Why your audience doesn’t connect with perfect—they connect with “messy,” real stories Actionable advice on what to improve in any talk: punching up your openings and closings, planting your feet, letting silence do the heavy lifting, and giving your audience a repeatable mental model they’ll remember Encouragement to step up, take action, and use your unique voice, regardless of nerves or previous stumbles If you’re ready to move past fear and into progress—not perfection—this episode will encourage and challenge you to take your next speaking risk. Don’t forget, I’m running a special giveaway: leave a review for Speaking with Confidence, share it on social media and tag me, and you could win a free three-hour coaching package with me focused on communication and leadership skills. Tune in, learn from my journey, and remember—your voice has the power to change your world. Talk soon,Tim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How prepared are today’s students for the realities of the workforce, and what can we do to close the career readiness gap? That’s the big question we tackle in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, I’m joined by Mike Wysocki, an award-winning author of Careers by the People and a seasoned veteran with over 30 years in tech sales. Mike’s journey is both cautionary and inspiring. After launching a successful career without the tools or guidance he needed, Mike has dedicated his life to helping the next generation develop the soft and professional skills they need to succeed. We dive deep into the hard truths and realities of career preparation, from what’s missing in both higher education and K12 settings, to the vital importance of communication and other soft skills. We talk about why so many students—especially those who are first-generation and come from working-class backgrounds—are being left behind in a system that focuses more on education as an end in itself, and less on real-world outcomes. You’ll also hear: The story behind Careers by the People and why Mike felt compelled to write it How he gathered authentic stories—from CEOs to actuaries to accountants—to help other students avoid the same pitfalls he encountered Why soft skills (or what some call “power skills”) like public speaking, communication, teamwork, and writing are more important than ever—and actionable ways for students to develop them, whether through Toastmasters, acting classes, or even stand-up comedy Practical strategies for career exploration, including talking to those inside—and outside—the industries you’re considering, seeking out summer jobs, volunteering, and joining professional associations The difference real-world experience makes, and why getting out of your hometown for a first job can open up your world The importance of follow-up and adding value in networking, not just collecting contacts Why students need trusted advisors from a range of ages and backgrounds, and why advice from peers isn’t enough What gives us hope about the next generation, and what still keeps us up at night You’ll also catch us going back and forth on what colleges and employers could be doing differently, how parents and students can ask the right questions during the college decision process, and what we as educators and mentors can do to make the biggest difference. Whether you’re a student, a parent, an educator, or someone thinking about your next step, this episode gives you the tools and real talk you need to move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence. Tune in to hear the full conversation with Mike Wysocki—and stay with us till the end for his tips on making the most of every career opportunity and how to get in touch with him for more insights. Connect with Mike: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mike-wysocki/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@careersbythepeople    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a conversation with a complicated coworker, wondering, “How do I actually communicate with this person to get things moving forward?” In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive right into the core question: How can you effectively communicate with complicated people—especially when, let’s be honest, we’re all complicated in our own unique ways? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m excited to guide you through practical strategies for navigating communication challenges at work. In today’s episode, I reference Ryan Leak’s insightful book, How to Work with Complicated People, which inspired much of the approach I share. We kick things off with an all-too-familiar workplace scenario: a colleague agrees to a deadline with smiles and nods, only to send a passive aggressive note a few days later that derails the project. Your instinct may be to fire back or just give up, but I explain why that reaction rarely solves the underlying problem—because the real issue is how complicated humans communicate with each other. Here’s what we covered: Why communicating with complicated people is a universal challenge The importance of translating your message for different audiences How workplace communication direction changes your approach (up, across, and down) Strategies for communicating up: focusing on outcomes and impact with leadership How to handle peer-to-peer conflict through respect, questions, and common ground Four keys for giving clear, motivating direction to your team The difference between tactical fixes and building a true communication system The foundational skill of knowing your audience and message, and why it’s essential for every workplace conversation Whether you’re reporting to a boss, negotiating with coworkers, or leading a team, you’ll leave this episode with actionable techniques to stop the cycle of miscommunication and start showing up—every single time—with clarity and confidence. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s consistent progress. Before I sign off, don’t forget to grab your free eBook, “The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them,” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and check out our Formula for Public Speaking course. Thanks for listening and always remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why taking action beats raw talent every single time, or how you can leverage new technology like AI without losing the heart and soul of your message? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re getting to the root of what it means to communicate with clarity, build your confidence as a storyteller, and stand out in our fast-changing world. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m joined by the incredible Jim Edwards. Jim’s a true legend in the world of online business and communication, with almost three decades of experience helping entrepreneurs, coaches, speakers, and professionals get their messages heard. Not only is he a bestselling author of over three dozen books, but he’s also helped countless people find their voice and capitalize on their knowledge. Listeners will also hear actionable advice on: Finding and sharing your own stories (even if you think you don’t have any) Developing patience and delayed gratification for long-term success Building confidence as a speaker through preparation and practice Using writing as a tool for clarifying your thoughts and improving your communication Harnessing AI as a creative accelerant, not a replacement for your ideas Understanding the new role of creators and curators in a world awash with content How to recognize and communicate your true value as a coach, speaker, or business owner Whether you’re trying to write your first book, become a more compelling speaker, or navigate the digital landscape with authenticity, this episode offers real, practical steps and mindset shifts that will help you take your message and your confidence to the next level. I’m so grateful to Jim Edwards for joining me and sharing his wisdom (and contagious enthusiasm). If you’re looking for even more confidence-building resources, don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more tools to help you unleash your voice! Connect with Jim: Website: https://jimedwards.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejimedwardsmethod/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejimedwards    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JimEdwardsFan X: https://x.com/RealJimEdwards YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jimEdwards TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejimedwards Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why some leaders inspire trust and action while others leave their audience confused or disengaged? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into a hard-earned lesson from early in my own teaching journey: the dangers of overcomplicating communication. Back when I started out as a teacher, my eagerness to impress led me to present high-level material to high school freshmen and sophomores only to realize that complexity wasn’t a sign of intelligence but a barrier to understanding. That moment of frustration, both for me and my students, revealed something powerful: people can’t appreciate your knowledge if you can’t explain it in a way they can grasp. In this episode, I walk you through transforming the way you communicate, whether you're presenting to a boardroom, pitching a client, or simply leading a team. I draw on insights from leadership expert John Maxwell to introduce the law of simplicity, clarity, brevity, and focus on three mandates that can take your influence to the next level. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: Why complexity pushes people away and can be a career killer How trying to “sound smart” with jargon or convoluted terminology signals insecurity, not expertise What actually builds trust and gets you noticed in leadership roles The 8th grader test: why your message must be clear enough for a middle schooler to understand John Maxwell’s three mandates for powerful communication clarity, brevity, and focus and how to apply them to all your messages Simple steps you can use to audit and improve your own communication before any meeting or presentation The real mindset shift: moving from ego-driven to audience-first How these principles not only change how others perceive you, but directly impact your career progress By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a practical framework to strip away confusion, communicate with true confidence, and make sure your message always lands. Remember, leadership starts with the ability to make the complex clear. I hope you enjoy the episode and start putting these mandates into practice right away because your voice really does have the power to change you. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What separates a good communicator from a truly exceptional one and how can you ensure you’re not holding yourself back from the career you want? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the core of leadership communication, self-awareness, and the ever-changing landscape of workplace communication especially as technology like AI becomes more prominent. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Today, I’m joined by leadership consultant, seasoned executive educator, and author, Michael de Lisser. With over 25 years of experience creating customized leadership development programs, coaching 500+ executives, and shaping the next generation of leaders at the University of Utah, Michael de Lisser brings wisdom, practical insights, and real stories to every answer. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The pivotal reasons leaders get fired and how communication is often at the root Michael de Lisser’s go-to method for transforming communication habits, from videofeedback to new behaviors The power of self-awareness and catching your “blind spots” early Recording yourself: why it's uncomfortable, but vital for growth Filler words, over-explaining, and other common bad habits and how to fix them Why trying to be “perfect” or someone else sabotages both your executive presence and credibility The unique challenges (and strengths) of younger generations in communication How AI is reshaping workplace communication, and why delivery still matters most The case for always customizing your message to your audience (with real boardroom examples) Building relationships to increase your influence and message “stickiness” Developing a pre-presentation ritual to manage nerves and “get in the zone” What executive presence really means and why authenticity wins over style every time How to use your strengths and shore up weaknesses to captivate any room Tips for practicing under pressure, bouncing back from mistakes, and celebrating wins on your communication journey By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit of actionable steps to raise your self-awareness, break through old communication patterns, and show up with confidence no matter the audience or setting. If you’re ready to take your communication skills from good to great (and beyond), this one’s packed with insights you’ll want to revisit again and again. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices