Speaking With Confidence

Have you ever wondered why some networking conversations feel awkward and stale while others just flow with authenticity and connection? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle exactly that question: why those standard "What do you do?" Icebreakers fail so spectacularly, especially with Gen Z, and how you can transform surface-level small talk into meaningful, memorable conversations. I dive deep into the challenges of genuine communication in both personal and professional settings. As someone who's spent years studying and coaching communication, I've seen too many capable people get overlooked not because they're not ready, but because they haven't learned how to confidently show up and connect. This episode is all about stepping off the script and embracing authenticity in every conversation that counts. In this episode, I walk you through my Connection Catalyst framework, designed to help you shift from fact-finding to insight discovery, and show you how strategic curiosity can make you stand out in any room, especially if you’re looking to connect with Gen Z or anyone craving genuine dialogue over tired transactional questions. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why typical networking questions ("What do you do?", "Where are you from?") rarely create real connection The psychology behind scriptive responses and why Gen Z sees right through transactional conversations How boring questions signal a lack of curiosity, and why deep, value-driven questions build trust The three principles of the Connection Catalyst: moving from information to insight, creating a value exchange, and building momentum for deeper conversations Examples of transforming closed questions into open-ended ones that uncover beliefs, vulnerabilities, and real stories (like replacing "Do you like your job?" with "What's a belief you had about your industry that turned out to be completely wrong?") The importance of the hidden value exchange in networking how strategic questions demonstrate genuine interest and build social capital Practical tips for weaving strategic curiosity into your conversations without sounding robotic, including the use of conversational bridges and active listening Why building rapport matters before diving into deeper questions, and how to keep the conversation comfortable and engaging A challenge for listeners: replace one standard question in your next conversation with a strategic one and notice the change in dynamic Reminders on progress over perfection, and resources for public speaking and communication improvement If you want actionable ways to upgrade your networking skills and create conversations that matter, this episode will give you the tools and the confidence to do just that. Listen in, and let’s start having dialogues that actually build connection, not just check boxes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what separates an effective leader from a high-performing technician, and how personal branding can make or break your success? Today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence dives deep into these questions with practical wisdom, actionable steps, and a fresh perspective on leadership in the modern world. I’m Tim Newman, your host—recovering college professor, communication coach, and curious asker of big questions. This week, I had the pleasure of speaking with Walter Dusseldorp, better known as the Dutch Mentor. Walter’s journey is a fascinating one: from aspiring physician and paramedic, to executive leader, pilot, mentor, and now founder of the Pure Leadership Power program and the Smart Performance app. His story is packed with lessons on adaptability, growth, and communication that anyone can apply. We started with Walter’s unique background, touching on his formative experiences in Holland, responding to 9/11 as a paramedic, and catching the flying bug that led him to pursue piloting as both passion and profession. Walter shared insights about transitions, living with purpose, and the moment that changed his outlook: realizing that dreams need to be lived today, not put off for tomorrow. From there, we explored Walter’s evolution from technical roles into mentoring and coaching—how he recognized a need for better leadership, saw the gap between technical expertise and people skills, and decided to help others make that pivotal transition. He shared how a growth mindset and continuous learning are essential for becoming an effective communicator and leader, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, seeking mentorship, and taking ownership of your own development. If you’re looking for concrete steps to amplify your leadership, hone your communication skills, and clarify your “why,” this conversation is for you. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Walter’s journey from paramedic and pilot to leadership mentor The power of transitions and living with purpose Moving from technical expertise to effective leadership Why communication is the number one reason teams fail—and how to fix it The importance of continuous learning, growth mindset, and daily habits Building and protecting your personal brand (and what mistakes to avoid) The difference between mentoring and coaching Outward-facing leadership and the need for confident humility Why vulnerability and seeking mentorship accelerate your growth Creating a “why” statement that differentiates you in interviews and organizations The perils of groupthink, how it devastated the Challenger mission and companies like Blockbuster The importance of dialogue, civil discourse, and learning to speak the language of younger generations Practical frameworks for leadership, including Lean Six Sigma and the Pure Leadership Power program Walter’s Smart Performance app: what it offers and how to get involved Walter brings a rare mix of technical expertise, personal experience, and pragmatic Dutch wisdom, making this episode one of our most insight-packed to date. If you’re ready to take your leadership to the next level and create a brand that truly reflects who you are, tune in! You can connect with Walter on LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTube, or email him directly at thedutchmentor@gmail.com. The Smart Performance app launches January 1st—reach out if you’re interested in joining as a founding member. Thanks for listening to Speaking with Confidence. Remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Walter: Website: https://www.thedutchmentor.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/walter-dusseldorp-mba-fache-8965b610/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thedutchmentor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you an introvert who’s ever felt pressured to be “more outgoing” at work? Maybe you’ve been told to “speak up more” or “just be charismatic”—but trying on someone else’s style feels fake and leaves you burnt out. What if your natural quietness isn’t the obstacle everyone says it is, but actually your biggest professional edge? That’s the question we’re diving into in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. I’m Tim Newman, your host—a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today’s episode is all about turning the corporate world’s obsession with extroversion on its head. We’ll explore the evidence that introverts not only belong in high-visibility roles, but often outperform their extroverted colleagues, especially when it comes to leadership and influence. In this episode, I get real about the exhaustion introverts feel under non-stop pressure to network and perform. I break down research from top journals that shows the loudest voice isn’t necessarily the most influential. Instead, introverted professionals possess some major superpowers: deep listening, keen observation, and a thoughtful approach that builds psychological safety and trust on teams. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The myth of extroversion as the only model for leadership (and what the latest research says instead) How introverts’ natural strength as listeners can build powerful trust and influence within teams A practical explanation of the 80/20 listening rule for meetings, so you can contribute with confidence and precision Turning your natural tendency to pause before speaking into a deliberate mark of thoughtfulness (not hesitation) The “pause and pivot” technique: responding to tough questions without panic or filler, and commanding the room when you do speak A real-life coaching case study to show these strategies in action The Precision Protocol: a simple, three-step framework for making every contribution count by preparing smarter, bridging smoothly into discussion, and dropping concise, value-packed insights How using these strengths consistently can build a reputation as the person everyone wants to hear from—no fake charisma required The unique power of this approach for Gen Z professionals, remote workers, and anyone seeking greater authenticity in the workplace A quick-start action step so you can begin leveraging your introvert edge for your next big meeting I wrap up with a reminder: Progress beats perfection, and your voice—used thoughtfully—can transform your entire team, project, or organization. If you want to go deeper, be sure to check out my conversation with Stacy Chasen from January for even more strategies for quiet communicators. And don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free resources and to sign up for my new course. Remember, your quiet nature is a strength you just haven’t been shown how to use—until now. Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll talk to you next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how the world’s top interrogators communicate with calm, confidence, and true connection—even in high-stakes, emotionally charged scenarios? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into this question and so much more with Brad Beeler, a retired United States Secret Service special agent and course manager for interview and interrogation techniques at the National Center for Credibility Assessment. Brad’s career is nothing short of extraordinary: he served 25 years in the Secret Service, spent 17 years as a polygraph examiner, and has conducted more criminal polygraph examinations than anyone else in Secret Service history. Brad's experience spans thousands of interviews with some of the most difficult individuals—often in cases involving the sexual exploitation of children. What struck me in our conversation is how central communication is, not just for uncovering the truth, but for creating safety, trust, and effectiveness in the most challenging environments. Brad shares why calm leads to calm, and how emotional contagion, body language, and tone shape every interaction—whether you’re in a high-stakes interview or talking with your family. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Brad Beeler’s career journey and transition to teaching The power of calm and emotional contagion in communication The science of body language, tone, and presence Listening as a full-contact sport and why neutrality matters Practical strategies for building connections and safe spaces How to research and prepare for impactful conversations Safety and privacy in the digital age, especially for children Insights from Brad’s book, "Tell Me Everything" Understanding horns and halos and confirmation bias The difference between ethical influence and manipulation Treating everyone with respect and the importance of truth-finding You’ll walk away from this episode inspired to rethink how you show up in every conversation—with strategies and mindsets used by one of the world’s top communicators. If you want to connect with Brad, visit BradleyBeeler.com or find him on LinkedIn or Instagram at BradBeeler1865. Thank you for joining us, and remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Brad: Website: https://bradleybeeler.com    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bradbeeler1865/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bradbeeler1865   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt guilty saying no, even when your brain screams that you don’t have the time or energy to help? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle one of the most challenging—and universal—skills for communication and leadership: how to set boundaries and say no effectively, without damaging relationships or your credibility. As I celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary, I’m excited to announce a special giveaway for listeners—a free 3-hour one-on-one coaching package for anyone who leaves a review and tags me on social media. But before we dive into the details of the contest, let’s get real about the Gen Z struggle, which honestly affects almost all of us: we want to be helpful, but we desperately need to protect our time and energy. This episode is all about striking that balance, and learning to say a strategic no that actually builds trust and influence. Today, I’m guiding you through real-world strategies grounded in science and research for better boundary-setting. I start by unpacking why it feels so hard to say no: our brains literally perceive it as a social threat, triggering fight-or-flight mode thanks to the amygdala. Most people fall into two traps when refusing a request—either ghosting (avoiding the person altogether) or becoming a jerk (being overly blunt or aggressive). Both hurt your professional reputation and relationships. Then there’s the spotlight effect, which tricks us into believing everyone will notice and judge our refusal way more harshly than reality suggests. Here’s what we covered in this episode: Why saying no feels dangerous, and the neuroscience behind our aversion to refusal Common failure modes to avoid: ghosting and aggressive rejection The Value Anchor Method explained and demonstrated with real-world scripts How to say no to your boss, teammate, or friend without burning bridges Tips for maintaining professionalism and protecting your reputation The mindset shift from seeing boundaries as walls to viewing them as foundations for strong partnerships A practical implementation challenge for listeners to practice the three-part refusal framework Resources for deeper learning, including my video with the NOPE Coach Suzanne Kolberg and my Formula for Public Speaking course Details about the two-year anniversary contest and how to enter If you’re ready to upgrade your communication skills and build lasting influence—plus maybe win some free coaching—this episode gives you everything you need to start saying no with confidence, clarity, and kindness. Let’s turn boundaries into bridges for stronger, healthier connections in both your work and personal life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you find your true voice and lead with confidence when you’re the only one in the room who’s different? That’s the question at the heart of today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence. Today, I had the pleasure of sitting down with empowerment executive coach Varuschka Nagesar, whose rich and diverse background weaves together corporate law, global commercial leadership, and transformative coaching for high-achieving women. If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, felt like the outsider, or navigated culture clashes at work, this conversation is for you. We started by diving into Varuschka’s extraordinary journey, from her roots and legal training in post-apartheid South Africa—a world shaped by diversity, multiple languages, and complex cultural nuances—to major commercial leadership roles in the UK, US, the Middle East, and Europe. She shared powerful stories about learning to honor different communication styles, from deciphering idioms in new countries to gaining respect for those doing business in a second or third language. Her insight: real connection starts with meeting people where they are, not just linguistically but culturally and emotionally. Here’s what we covered in today’s episode: How global and generational diversity shapes communication and trust at work Why language and nonverbal cues matter—and how to navigate misunderstandings across cultures Dealing with being “the only one” in the room and turning that into your strength The difference between confidence and self-belief—and how to build both How self-limiting beliefs show up, and simple, real-world strategies to overcome them The role of core values and intuition in major life and career decisions Real-life stories and mindset shifts that helped Varuschka stop “swimming upstream” and find alignment Advice for listeners on taking the first steps toward authenticity, fulfillment, and empowered leadership If you’re ready to step into your full influence, communicate more powerfully, or simply need inspiration to trust yourself, this episode is a must-listen. Thank you to Varuschka Nagesar for sharing her journey, wisdom, and practical takeaways. And as always, remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Varuschka: Website: varuschkanagesar.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/varuschka-nagesar/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wrapped up a presentation and just felt like something was off? Maybe you had all the right data, your facts were solid, but somehow, the audience just didn’t connect—or worse, you left the room wondering if your expertise really came through. If you’ve had that lingering doubt, you’re not alone, and in today’s episode, we’re answering the critical question: What are the invisible habits that might be secretly undermining your authority and what can you do to fix them? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, host of the Speaking with Confidence podcast, and in this episode, I’m sharing the two biggest culprits I see sabotaging even the most brilliant communicators: a subtle vocal pattern that makes you sound like you’re asking for permission, and body language that screams nervousness instead of confidence. Instead of trying to sound perfect or change your personality, we’re getting practical with the “status reset protocol”—an actionable system you can use straight away to project authentic authority when you speak. It’s just you and me digging deep into the mechanics of presence and authority. You’ll hear real-life examples, simple frameworks, and low-pressure exercises that you can start practicing immediately, whether you’re prepping for a big pitch or just explaining your work to a friend. Here’s what we cover in this episode: Why up-talking—that rising inflection at the end of statements—can subconsciously make you sound unsure, even when you’re an expert. The hidden psychological impact of vocal patterns and how your audience’s brains interpret them. The most common physical habits that undermine your credibility, from “T. Rex arms” to the “fig leaf” and the infamous “windmill.” Why leaders look comfortable in their own space and how fidgeting or over-controlling your gestures actually backfires. How to become aware of your invisible communication habits (and why recording yourself is the most powerful tool you have). The “Punctuate, Don’t Pacify” method for transforming your vocal delivery, making sure your key points land with certainty rather than doubt. The “Gesture with Intent” framework so your hands support your message instead of highlighting nervous energy—and how to keep movements purposeful, not robotic. Easy, low-stakes ways to practice these new skills before you’re under pressure in a big presentation. The status reset protocol: picking one habit to watch for this week, building awareness, and gradually building unshakable authority. Plus, I share details about our special giveaway to celebrate the podcast’s second anniversary, including how you can win a free, three-hour one-on-one coaching package focused on communication and leadership skills. If you’re ready to stop unintentionally asking for approval and start commanding the room as a true expert, this episode is packed with practical strategies to make that leap. As always, head to speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for a free eBook, more resources, and info about the Formula for Public Speaking course. Remember—progress, not perfection, and your voice truly can change the world. Let’s build your confidence, one episode at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could make people say “yes” more often—ethically? On today's episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the science and art of ethical persuasion. Many of us have wondered, “How do I convince people without feeling pushy or manipulative?” Today, we’re answering that, exploring how understanding human decision-making can massively improve your influence—at work, at home, or on stage. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Patrick Van Der Burght, a founding member of the Cialdini Institute, licensed trainer, and business partner of Dr. Robert Cialdini—the author of the legendary book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. If you’re in the communication or leadership space, you already know Cialdini’s name—so having Patrick Van Der Burght join us is a real treat. Not only does he co-host the podcast Ethical Persuasion Unlocked, but he’s been teaching ethical influence to professionals for over two decades, helping them accelerate toward their personal and professional goals using behavioral science. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why “no” usually just means “I don’t know yet”—not outright rejection How most decisions are made unconsciously, and what that means for communication today The difference between being liked and being similar, and how to use both Why giving value first (reciprocity) increases compliance and loyalty How to use testimonials and social proof for maximum impact Ways authority can be established ethically on stage or in business, without losing credibility The surprising power of scarcity and loss framing (“What will it cost you if you don’t act?”) How getting someone to take a small, public action makes them much more likely to follow through Why surveys and focus groups can so badly miss the mark on what truly influences behavior How these principles work not just professionally but in everyday relationships—persuading your kids, family, and friends This conversation is loaded with actionable insight, memorable stories, and some eye-opening science. Patrick is offering a free ebook and other resources—don’t miss those in the show notes. And if you found this episode valuable, please drop me a comment or review—Patrick and I would love to know your feedback. Tune in to discover how you can start hearing “yes” more often—without ever sacrificing your ethics! Connect with Patrick: Website: https://ethicalpersuasion.com.au/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ethicalpersuasionLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-van-der-burght/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ethicalpersuasion/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ethical_persuasion/Twitter: https://x.com/yesmoreoftenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ethicalpersuasionBook: https://yesmoreoften.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a high-pressure, time-limited public speaking presentation—and how a communication coach turns even his own missteps into teachable moments? In this special episode of Speaking with Confidence, I pull back the curtain on my recent experience presenting a Pecha Kucha at PodFest 2026, while offering you practical coaching advice you can apply to your own speaking journey. As we celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary (with a special giveaway—don't miss the details!), I reflect on what it means to embrace confidence, resilience, and the power of vulnerability on stage. This episode is a bit different: using my own Pecha Kucha talk as a case study, I break down the presentation, highlight what worked, where I stumbled, and how you can learn from real-life examples. If you’ve ever let fear hold you back from speaking up, stepping onto a stage, or pressing “record” on a podcast, this one’s for you. I’m joined at the top of the show by Roddy Galbra, who introduces me before I launch into my presentation breakdown. From that point, I take you step-by-step through everything: prepping the talk and building slides under a deadline, battling nerves, and the moment-by-moment coaching insights I’ve gained both from experience and good old-fashioned trial and error. Along the way, I share how tools like ChatGPT can be a feedback partner (and sometimes a brutal truth-teller!) when preparing for big moments. Here’s what you’ll get in this episode: The inside story of my Pecha Kucha experience with only five minutes and 20 auto-advancing slides Candid reflections on starting too fast, handling nerves, embracing pauses, and managing mistakes as they happen Why humor, humility, and authenticity work better than perfection on stage Recognizing the importance of connecting your story to a clear call to action The value of critiquing your own performances—and the difference between authority and arrogance in public speaking Insights into how your fears might be tied up with your identity, and how to use that to fuel growth instead of hesitation Why your audience doesn’t connect with perfect—they connect with “messy,” real stories Actionable advice on what to improve in any talk: punching up your openings and closings, planting your feet, letting silence do the heavy lifting, and giving your audience a repeatable mental model they’ll remember Encouragement to step up, take action, and use your unique voice, regardless of nerves or previous stumbles If you’re ready to move past fear and into progress—not perfection—this episode will encourage and challenge you to take your next speaking risk. Don’t forget, I’m running a special giveaway: leave a review for Speaking with Confidence, share it on social media and tag me, and you could win a free three-hour coaching package with me focused on communication and leadership skills. Tune in, learn from my journey, and remember—your voice has the power to change your world. Talk soon,Tim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How prepared are today’s students for the realities of the workforce, and what can we do to close the career readiness gap? That’s the big question we tackle in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, I’m joined by Mike Wysocki, an award-winning author of Careers by the People and a seasoned veteran with over 30 years in tech sales. Mike’s journey is both cautionary and inspiring. After launching a successful career without the tools or guidance he needed, Mike has dedicated his life to helping the next generation develop the soft and professional skills they need to succeed. We dive deep into the hard truths and realities of career preparation, from what’s missing in both higher education and K12 settings, to the vital importance of communication and other soft skills. We talk about why so many students—especially those who are first-generation and come from working-class backgrounds—are being left behind in a system that focuses more on education as an end in itself, and less on real-world outcomes. You’ll also hear: The story behind Careers by the People and why Mike felt compelled to write it How he gathered authentic stories—from CEOs to actuaries to accountants—to help other students avoid the same pitfalls he encountered Why soft skills (or what some call “power skills”) like public speaking, communication, teamwork, and writing are more important than ever—and actionable ways for students to develop them, whether through Toastmasters, acting classes, or even stand-up comedy Practical strategies for career exploration, including talking to those inside—and outside—the industries you’re considering, seeking out summer jobs, volunteering, and joining professional associations The difference real-world experience makes, and why getting out of your hometown for a first job can open up your world The importance of follow-up and adding value in networking, not just collecting contacts Why students need trusted advisors from a range of ages and backgrounds, and why advice from peers isn’t enough What gives us hope about the next generation, and what still keeps us up at night You’ll also catch us going back and forth on what colleges and employers could be doing differently, how parents and students can ask the right questions during the college decision process, and what we as educators and mentors can do to make the biggest difference. Whether you’re a student, a parent, an educator, or someone thinking about your next step, this episode gives you the tools and real talk you need to move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence. Tune in to hear the full conversation with Mike Wysocki—and stay with us till the end for his tips on making the most of every career opportunity and how to get in touch with him for more insights. Connect with Mike: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mike-wysocki/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@careersbythepeople    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a conversation with a complicated coworker, wondering, “How do I actually communicate with this person to get things moving forward?” In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive right into the core question: How can you effectively communicate with complicated people—especially when, let’s be honest, we’re all complicated in our own unique ways? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m excited to guide you through practical strategies for navigating communication challenges at work. In today’s episode, I reference Ryan Leak’s insightful book, How to Work with Complicated People, which inspired much of the approach I share. We kick things off with an all-too-familiar workplace scenario: a colleague agrees to a deadline with smiles and nods, only to send a passive aggressive note a few days later that derails the project. Your instinct may be to fire back or just give up, but I explain why that reaction rarely solves the underlying problem—because the real issue is how complicated humans communicate with each other. Here’s what we covered: Why communicating with complicated people is a universal challenge The importance of translating your message for different audiences How workplace communication direction changes your approach (up, across, and down) Strategies for communicating up: focusing on outcomes and impact with leadership How to handle peer-to-peer conflict through respect, questions, and common ground Four keys for giving clear, motivating direction to your team The difference between tactical fixes and building a true communication system The foundational skill of knowing your audience and message, and why it’s essential for every workplace conversation Whether you’re reporting to a boss, negotiating with coworkers, or leading a team, you’ll leave this episode with actionable techniques to stop the cycle of miscommunication and start showing up—every single time—with clarity and confidence. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s consistent progress. Before I sign off, don’t forget to grab your free eBook, “The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them,” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and check out our Formula for Public Speaking course. Thanks for listening and always remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why taking action beats raw talent every single time, or how you can leverage new technology like AI without losing the heart and soul of your message? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re getting to the root of what it means to communicate with clarity, build your confidence as a storyteller, and stand out in our fast-changing world. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m joined by the incredible Jim Edwards. Jim’s a true legend in the world of online business and communication, with almost three decades of experience helping entrepreneurs, coaches, speakers, and professionals get their messages heard. Not only is he a bestselling author of over three dozen books, but he’s also helped countless people find their voice and capitalize on their knowledge. Listeners will also hear actionable advice on: Finding and sharing your own stories (even if you think you don’t have any) Developing patience and delayed gratification for long-term success Building confidence as a speaker through preparation and practice Using writing as a tool for clarifying your thoughts and improving your communication Harnessing AI as a creative accelerant, not a replacement for your ideas Understanding the new role of creators and curators in a world awash with content How to recognize and communicate your true value as a coach, speaker, or business owner Whether you’re trying to write your first book, become a more compelling speaker, or navigate the digital landscape with authenticity, this episode offers real, practical steps and mindset shifts that will help you take your message and your confidence to the next level. I’m so grateful to Jim Edwards for joining me and sharing his wisdom (and contagious enthusiasm). If you’re looking for even more confidence-building resources, don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more tools to help you unleash your voice! Connect with Jim: Website: https://jimedwards.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejimedwardsmethod/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejimedwards    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JimEdwardsFan X: https://x.com/RealJimEdwards YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jimEdwards TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejimedwards Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why some leaders inspire trust and action while others leave their audience confused or disengaged? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into a hard-earned lesson from early in my own teaching journey: the dangers of overcomplicating communication. Back when I started out as a teacher, my eagerness to impress led me to present high-level material to high school freshmen and sophomores only to realize that complexity wasn’t a sign of intelligence but a barrier to understanding. That moment of frustration, both for me and my students, revealed something powerful: people can’t appreciate your knowledge if you can’t explain it in a way they can grasp. In this episode, I walk you through transforming the way you communicate, whether you're presenting to a boardroom, pitching a client, or simply leading a team. I draw on insights from leadership expert John Maxwell to introduce the law of simplicity, clarity, brevity, and focus on three mandates that can take your influence to the next level. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: Why complexity pushes people away and can be a career killer How trying to “sound smart” with jargon or convoluted terminology signals insecurity, not expertise What actually builds trust and gets you noticed in leadership roles The 8th grader test: why your message must be clear enough for a middle schooler to understand John Maxwell’s three mandates for powerful communication clarity, brevity, and focus and how to apply them to all your messages Simple steps you can use to audit and improve your own communication before any meeting or presentation The real mindset shift: moving from ego-driven to audience-first How these principles not only change how others perceive you, but directly impact your career progress By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a practical framework to strip away confusion, communicate with true confidence, and make sure your message always lands. Remember, leadership starts with the ability to make the complex clear. I hope you enjoy the episode and start putting these mandates into practice right away because your voice really does have the power to change you. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What separates a good communicator from a truly exceptional one and how can you ensure you’re not holding yourself back from the career you want? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the core of leadership communication, self-awareness, and the ever-changing landscape of workplace communication especially as technology like AI becomes more prominent. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Today, I’m joined by leadership consultant, seasoned executive educator, and author, Michael de Lisser. With over 25 years of experience creating customized leadership development programs, coaching 500+ executives, and shaping the next generation of leaders at the University of Utah, Michael de Lisser brings wisdom, practical insights, and real stories to every answer. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The pivotal reasons leaders get fired and how communication is often at the root Michael de Lisser’s go-to method for transforming communication habits, from videofeedback to new behaviors The power of self-awareness and catching your “blind spots” early Recording yourself: why it's uncomfortable, but vital for growth Filler words, over-explaining, and other common bad habits and how to fix them Why trying to be “perfect” or someone else sabotages both your executive presence and credibility The unique challenges (and strengths) of younger generations in communication How AI is reshaping workplace communication, and why delivery still matters most The case for always customizing your message to your audience (with real boardroom examples) Building relationships to increase your influence and message “stickiness” Developing a pre-presentation ritual to manage nerves and “get in the zone” What executive presence really means and why authenticity wins over style every time How to use your strengths and shore up weaknesses to captivate any room Tips for practicing under pressure, bouncing back from mistakes, and celebrating wins on your communication journey By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit of actionable steps to raise your self-awareness, break through old communication patterns, and show up with confidence no matter the audience or setting. If you’re ready to take your communication skills from good to great (and beyond), this one’s packed with insights you’ll want to revisit again and again. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever left a presentation struggling to remember the speaker’s name, or worse, realized you might be that forgettable speaker yourself? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the real root of feeling like an imposter on stage and share practical steps to help you transform into the kind of communicator people truly remember. Today, I’m guiding you through a topic that undermines so many presenters, yet rarely gets the attention it deserves: building your speaker identity. We often chase technique, obsessing over posture, gestures, and slide design, but we forget the foundation that makes those techniques powerful—who we are as communicators and what unique perspective we bring. So, what exactly makes up your speaker identity? I outline the three pillars: Your Unique Value Proposition—what only you can say about your topic based on your expertise, experience, and angle. Your Authentic Communication Style—how you naturally connect, whether it’s humor, data, stories, or questions. Your Signature Stories—the pivotal experiences that shaped your understanding and give emotional weight to your message. You’ll walk away from this episode with: A new understanding of why identity—not just technique—makes speakers memorable Real-world examples of transformation through authenticity The three key pillars of speaker identity and how they work together A step-by-step exercise to claim your own speaker identity Immediate actions to align your presentations with your authentic strengths Insights for tackling imposter syndrome at its root I close by reminding you—progress, not perfection, is our goal. If you want extra support, check out our free eBook or my full Formula for Public Speaking course at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Remember, your voice has the power to change; all you need to do is bring your true self to every conversation that matters. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it really takes to become a confident communicator across cultures, generations, and languages? In this episode, I talk with Maria Rincon, a multilingual public speaking coach with roots in Colombia and China, a background in TV hosting, and experience as a communications consultant for the United Nations. We kick things off exploring Maria’s journey—how she transitioned from television to her meaningful work with the UN, and what it’s actually like inside such a global, multicultural organization. Maria shares stories of teamwork across continents, adapting to cultural diversity, and the powerful lessons she learned navigating different communication styles, both professionally and personally. Maria opens up about her move to public speaking coaching, detailing what she’s learned in her first year as an entrepreneur, including marketing challenges, building confidence, overcoming imposter syndrome, and establishing her unique approach. We discuss working with technical professionals worldwide and dig into foreign language speech anxiety—how it manifests and the practical techniques Maria uses to help clients overcome it, like embracing your accent and slowing down your speech. We also dive into generational communication differences, debunking stereotypes about Gen Z and Millennials, and discussing the importance of empathy and building bridges across age groups. Maria provides a look at how work-life balance differs globally, especially after experiencing the Nordic approach firsthand. Finally, we talk about the power of storytelling for leaders and professionals. Maria provides actionable tips on developing a story “bank,” the importance of practicing stories in different formats, and how to make stories resonate authentically in any setting. In this episode, you’ll hear about: What it’s really like in the UN’s multicultural environment Navigating direct and indirect communication across cultures The ups and downs of starting a coaching business—and lessons in marketing and self-confidence Common obstacles like imposter syndrome and foreign language speech anxiety (with tips to overcome them) Generational communication differences and how to bridge the gaps Cultivating work-life balance across cultures The crucial role of storytelling in leadership and communication You don’t have to be perfect to be an impactful communicator. From personal stories to practical advice, this episode is packed with insights to help you find your unique voice and show up with confidence, no matter the audience. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are you struggling to truly connect with Gen Z team members at work—or maybe you’re a Gen Z professional frustrated by colleagues who don’t seem to get where you’re coming from? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle a challenge that’s becoming more important every day: How can we break down the generational communication barriers at work to build authentic relationships and boost performance for everyone? I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor turned communication coach, and as your host, I’ve spent years watching the dynamics between Boomers, Gen Xers, Millennials, and Gen Z play out both in classrooms and boardrooms. Today, I unpack what really prevents us from connecting and share practical, powerful strategies you can use to start bridging the gap now—no matter which generation you’re in. In this episode, I share plenty of real-world stories from my own career and consulting experience, plus research insights from leadership expert Dr. Tim Elmore. We dive into why the old “positional authority” model just doesn’t work with Gen Z, who grew up with access to unlimited information and have learned to question everything—including your title! Instead, we explore how building trust and authentic connection is the key to motivating and retaining Gen Z employees, and how these skills make us stronger communicators with everybody. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How making people truly feel heard (not just tolerated) leads to better motivation and results The single biggest communication mistake managers make with Gen Z—and how to fix it Why authority means nothing if it isn’t backed by trust and demonstrative competence Three essential pillars for rebuilding your communication style: listening like you could be wrong, radical authenticity, and co-creating clarity with your team Step-by-step ways to transform feedback meetings from judgmental monologues into collaborative, solution-focused dialogues Simple, actionable tactics for onboarding new hires so they feel like they belong from day one—starting with relationship building over rules and policies Real case studies showing how these changes boost performance, deepen psychological safety, and drastically improve retention The difference between high accountability and strong connection—and why you don’t have to choose between the two A practical behavior change you can implement this week: brief, consistent, agenda-free check-ins that help you solve problems before they become resignations Whether you’re a manager trying to motivate your Gen Z talent or a Gen Z professional craving genuine dialogue, this episode will arm you with strategies that work. Join me as we move beyond outdated authority models and start building the trust, clarity, and connection our workplaces—and our world—sorely need. Thanks for listening and don’t forget to check out the free resources and courses at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Let's make your voice—and your conversations—powerful enough to change your world. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered if it’s truly possible to rewire your brain for confidence—and finally break free from fears that hold you back? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into the powerful world of hypnosis with certified hypnotherapist, speaker, and bestselling author Amy Koford. Together, we unravel what hypnosis really is, how it works, and ways it can transform not only our communication with others, but also the way we talk to ourselves. We explore what led Amy Koford to hypnosis, including the pivotal moments and the “inner voice” that told her she was meant to help others in this way. Amy discusses how hypnosis goes far beyond the stereotypical portrayals in movies and television. She unpacks the science of trance states, theta brain waves, and how the subconscious mind can be retrained for breakthrough results. Whether it’s breaking a bad habit, boosting performance as an athlete, or conquering the fear of public speaking, Amy’s method emphasizes releasing limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering ones. I ask Amy about how hypnosis applies to speakers, communicators, and leaders. She draws a direct line between optimal athletic performance and high-impact communication, illustrating how both require clearing out fear, rewriting mental scripts, and visualizing success. We also touch on the challenges faced by self-proclaimed “control freaks” and how hypnosis can help uncover and heal the root causes of that need for control. Here’s what we covered in our conversation: Amy’s path from personal struggles with depression to becoming a hypnotherapist What hypnosis actually is (and isn’t), debunking myths from pop culture How theta brainwaves allow for direct subconscious reprogramming The role of hypnosis in changing habits (like quitting sugar or smoking) How Amy helps athletes “clear the garbage” of past mistakes and perform with confidence—and how this same approach empowers public speakers and communicators The release-and-replace method for eliminating internal blocks and installing new, confidence-boosting beliefs Why we care what others think and strategies to overcome insecurity in high-stakes moments The importance of self-talk and the transformative power of the words “I am” A behind-the-scenes look at Amy’s bestselling book, Hardwired to Rise, and why tackling fear is at the core of healing and communication Practical exercises for taking out the “mental trash” and refocusing on what you truly want Whether you’re looking to overcome stage fright, let go of self-doubt, or simply get out of your own way, this episode is packed with wisdom, real-world examples, and actionable steps you can use to build rock-solid confidence. If you’re ready to take that next step, check out Amy’s resources at amykofoard.com and don’t miss her book, Hardwired to Rise, for deeper strategies on tackling fear and unlocking your most confident self. And as always, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more resources to help your voice make an impact. Your confidence is closer than you think—sometimes, it just takes the right mindset shift. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it actually takes to grow as a speaker—beyond just practicing your presentation in front of the mirror? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned on my own personal journey, including some pretty humbling moments and a behind-the-scenes look at how coaching and mentorship can truly elevate your skills. This week, I’m sharing the story of how I went from a nervous college student—literally the guy who puked in speech class—to a certified, confident speaker and coach. It’s not just about getting over nerves; it’s about shifting your mindset, investing in lifelong learning, and realizing that vulnerability (not perfection) is what really connects us with our audience. I also introduce Roddy Galbraith, John Maxwell’s own speaking coach, who played a pivotal role in helping me shape my story for the International Maxwell Conference’s three-minute speech contest. Roddy’s feedback pushed me to dig deeper, refine my delivery, and focus the message for real impact. If you’ve ever questioned whether coaching is worth the investment, wait until you hear the difference it made—and the advice Roddy gives. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How joining the Maxwell Leadership Certified Team revolutionized my approach to speaking and coaching others What it’s like to compete in a high-stakes, three-minute speech contest—including the importance of timing and preparation, whether you’re speaking to 3,000 or just five people Why I believe coaching is essential for everyone (even John Maxwell gets coached!) A raw story from my past: the first time I had to speak in public—and why it ended with me throwing up in class The critical shift from perfectionism to authenticity, and the power of making your message about serving others Roddy’s actionable feedback: how to tighten your speech, amp up your delivery, and draw out the message that matters A side-by-side comparison of my first version and my final speech—showing exactly how much a story and performance can evolve with the right support My reminders about progress over perfection and the importance of chasing your potential, not letting self-doubt or others keep you from taking the next step If you’re looking for inspiration, practical takeaways, and an honest look behind the curtain, this episode is for you. Plus, I’ll tell you how to grab your free ebook and register for upcoming speaking courses. Your voice truly has the power to change the world—but only if you use it. Thanks for listening and for being part of this journey with me! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What does it really take to lead and communicate with Generation Z in today’s workplace? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I sit down with Dr. Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, bestselling author, and expert in multi-generational leadership. Dr. Elmore has spent decades developing emerging leaders—including an impressive 20 years by the side of John C. Maxwell—and he’s written extensively on what makes great leadership tick, especially in our rapidly evolving culture. If you’ve ever struggled to connect with Gen Z professionals or wondered why their anxiety levels seem so high, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. I’ve long believed that Gen Z is smarter and more entrepreneurial than previous generations, and finally, Dr. Elmore’s new book, The Future Begins with Z, delivers the data to back it up. In our conversation, we explore the shifts in social and technological dynamics that have shaped Gen Z, especially how anxiety (now at levels comparable to psychiatric patients in the 1950s) has become a natural outgrowth of the overwhelming flood of information they face daily. We dig into the critical distinction between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth—how leaders and educators can help foster resilience instead of victimhood. Here’s what we cover in the episode: The roots of Gen Z’s high anxiety and how social media amplifies it Coaching young professionals through stress and building grit with empathy and compassion Key differences between post-traumatic growth and stress, and how to foster resilience How educators and employers can prepare Gen Z for professional success—through realistic expectations and reframing self-talk The “Stockdale Paradox” and the difference between hope and optimism in leadership The misconception that Gen Z doesn’t want to work, and data from real-world focus groups that prove otherwise The necessity of building trust and relationships before offering feedback or correction (“Connect before you correct”), and the ALEG feedback process Teaching and modeling soft skills that Gen Z may be missing due to pandemic-era screen life Why authentic, frequent, and brief communication trumps lengthy, infrequent updates—and why daily check-ins matter How leaders can admit mistakes openly to build trust and model real communication The velvet-covered brick as a metaphor for leadership: balancing empathy with accountability Recognizing and responding appropriately to practical, social, and emotional conversations—especially when leading younger team members We wrap up with actionable steps for leading Gen Z better, starting right now—not tomorrow. If you want practical strategies, stories, and a hopeful look at how Gen Z can make us stronger leaders when we rise to the occasion, you’ll find gold in this episode. I’m grateful to Dr. Tim Elmore for joining the conversation and sharing his wisdom. For everyone ready to adapt, lead, and have more confident conversations with the next generation, this episode is for you. Connect with Tim: Website: https://growingleaders.comWebsite: https://www.timelmore.com LinkedIn: Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices