The Lesbian Breakup Podcast

The duo is back together, and things get hot. 🔥After Zara’s solo episode, she shares the epiphany that changed everything: why she’s actually the least alone person in the world. Then Zara and Elina get into the strange reality of dating when your heart is on the internet. People call it “brave.” They call it work. And no, the person you’re seeing doesn’t need to binge every episode before date three.Elina reports back from a very lesbian “relationship meeting” with Thea, the lover boy who said she wanted love but was also very much into going casual. That opens the big questions: why do dating app labels lock us into boxes we can’t escape? Is it time to finally date older? And what happens when a straightforward older woman on FEELD tells you exactly what she wants?Plus: threesome stories that were better as fantasies, “if you can’t be a daddy, at least be a mommy,” the witchy intuition that tells you how a relationship will end before it starts, and Halloween costume plans.The question of the week: can you have fun with someone without falling in love? Tell us what you think.This episode is sponsored by Jägermeister, supporting queer nightlife and the LGBTQ+ community year-round. 21+. Please drink responsibly.🎙️ All are welcome. Because no one understands heartbreak like a lesbian. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

Hi, everyone, it’s Zara Barrie. And this week on The Lesbian Breakup Podcast, we’re ~breaking~ the format. My brilliant and talented co-host, Elina Street, is hard at work shooting magical things in Ireland, so it’s just *you* and *me* today, getting raw, real, and in ~our feels~ in this cozy solo little episode. Part confessional and part coaching session, this episode is a candid discussion on the messy, non-linear journey of grief—whether it be from death, a romantic breakup, a friendship breakup, a family breakup, or a breakup with a job or a version of yourself. Together, we stare our suffering right in the eye, hand the microphone over to the pain we’ve been silencing, and identify what’s really going on beneath the layers of anger and longing. We figure out what’s keeping us stuck, challenge those limiting beliefs, and find a way to move one tiny step forward—while still honoring the truth. We also talk about how the current state of the culture is squashing our sense of self-trust, how to overcome the epidemic of social isolation and loneliness, and how to start putting ourselves out there again, without overthinking. You’ll leave this episode with tangible tools to help heal your heart and start to get your sparkle back. This is for anyone who has ever experienced any form of loss or is sick of curation and is down for a real conversation. Come feel it all. The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jaegermeister, supporting queer nightlife and the LGBTQ+ community year-round, from Save the Night at the Lesbian Bar Project to the bars and spaces we call home after dark. 21 and over. Please drink responsibly. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

Is she the love of your life—or are you just *high*... on the possibility of her?This week on The Lesbian Breakup Podcast, Zara Barrie and Elina Street get into anxious attachment, the unexpected STING of the FLING, and dating after heartbreak without handing your entire f*****g life to someone you met last night at the lesbian bar.ALSO: Elina turns 35 with a pretty pink princess cake, a MAJOR career win, and a newfound appreciation for a lover who can put on the brakes without killing the vibe or judging us lover girls.Meanwhile, Zara asks what dating someone “on your level” ACTUALLY means: emotional compatibility, self-awareness, and a partner who celebrates your ambition instead of quietly resenting it. A psychic is fabulous, darling. But she cannot be your girlfriend’s entire mental health team. Get a licensed shrink, please and thank you.Plus: blocking the ex you secretly want watching your stories, outgrowing emotional vampires, and the much-anticipated update on Elina’s French Kristen Stewart. There are goats, g strings and finally a direct question. (Peep more on the Lesbian Bar Project Substack—new essay from Elina coming soon!).Can you have fun with someone without eventually falling in love? That is our final question. Asking for a friend…AKA US.The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jaegermeister, supporting queer nightlife and the LGBTQ+ community year-round, from Save the Night at the Lesbian Bar Project to the bars and spaces we call home after dark. 21 and over. Please drink responsibly.Follow us on Instagram: @lesbianbreakuppod @zarabarrie @elinastreet Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

Zara + Elina are finally BACK and recording from the South of France, where the rosé is cold and the grief is hot.In this *very* personal episode, Zara opens up about returning to her mother’s favorite place without her, the “unhinged stage of grief,” and why loss can leave you with zero tolerance for small talk. Zara and Elina get into the difference between boundaries and low emotional capacity, why the truth can calm your nervous system even when it hurts, the cruelty of ghosting, and jealousy versus intuition. PLUS: Elina has a South of France lesbian sleepover and must decide whether to tell her, “I think you’re cute.”Come for the heartbreak and stay for the grief privilege, fabulous/chic storm-outs and Mediterranean lore.The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jägermeister, supporting queer nightlife and LGBTQ+ spaces all year long through Save the Night. For listeners 21+. Please drink responsibly. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe

This week, as per usual, The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is reporting from two very different lesbian frontiers: Elina’s finally back in ~Brooklyn~ after undergoing a cinematic reunion with an old lover in Miami, and Zara’s in the crystalline waters of French Polynesia and ~Hawaii~ having a mermaid rebirth (grief is strange, babes). Elina recounts reconnecting with the ex who once moved to Saudi Arabia, accepting a little princess treatment at the World Cup, and realizing that sometimes the most grown-up ending isn’t a breakup—it’s evolving from lovers to friends. Meanwhile, Zara swims with sharks, gets humbled by a boogie board, sheds her hair extensions, and slowly begins to feel joy after years of survival mode. We yap about unavailable lovers, the safety of long-distance fantasy, writing people back into existence, and the strange, beautiful moment when grief finally makes room for laughter.Plus: a very special announcement about our August break and our upcoming reunion in the South of France. Get full access to MASCARA LESBIAN at zarabarrie.substack.com/subscribe