Coming Home to Her

There’s this anxiety a lot of people in their 20s share: the feeling that you should have it more figured out by now.Even when nothing is technically wrong.Today we talk about why adulthood suddenly feels uncertain, how social comparison warps our sense of progress, and why exploration often feels like falling behind. You’re not actually late — you’re just living a life that doesn’t follow a synchronized schedule.A conversation for anyone who’s ever opened LinkedIn or Instagram and immediately questioned their entire life direction.

We hear “love yourself” everywhere… but what does that actually look like on a random Tuesday when you overthink something you said, feel behind, or let someone affect your mood?In this episode I talk about why self-love is so much harder than loving other people, how our inner voice forms, and why confidence and self-love are not the same thing. I also get into self-love when you’re single vs when you’re in a relationship — and why relationships don’t create your self-worth, they reveal it.This isn’t about affirmations or pretending you feel amazing all the time.It’s about learning how to stay on your own side.

In this episode I share my experience being in a long-distance relationship for a year and a half while living in different countries.We only saw each other once a month, so there was no shared routine — just effort, communication, and learning to trust each other without proximity. I talk about what helped us make it work, why having a future mattered more than constant reassurance, and how distance didn’t create problems… it revealed them faster.I also open up about the parts people don’t really talk about — the quiet after goodbyes, managing your own emotions instead of spiraling, and learning how to love someone while still living your own life.This isn’t a guide to long-distance.Just what I learned from living it.

Moving abroad sounds exciting… until the adrenaline wears off.In this episode, I’m talking about what it’s actually been like moving away from home. The emotional comedown after the excitement, missing things I didn’t expect to miss, and the weird “now what?” phase no one really warns you about.If you’ve moved abroad (or are thinking about it) and felt unsettled, emotional, or surprised by how it all felt, you’ll probably recognize yourself in this one.

In this episode, I’m joined by two of my childhood best friends, Celia and Marina — sisters who have been part of my life for as long as I can remember. Together, we dive into the meaning of sisterhood, the different types of friendships we’ve experienced throughout life so far, and how these relationships are a part of life.We talk about lifelong friendships, evolving dynamics, and the deep understanding that comes from growing up together. This conversation is honest, reflective, and a reminder that not all relationships look the same — and that’s exactly what makes them meaningful.

I’m joined by my childhood best friend, Emma, and we do what we’ve always done best - yap. We catch up on how our friendship has grown over the years, the ways we’ve changed, and what adulthood looks like when you’re figuring it out side by side. It’s an easy, nostalgic conversation full of laughter, reflection, and a lot of yapping.

In this episode, I sit down with my step sister, Nani Loa, for an honest conversation about how she navigates stress, change, and difficult moments in her life. We talk about her approach to grounding herself during hard times, how she moves through challenges, and the perspective she’s gained over time. Along the way, we also reflect on our relationship, how it has evolved as we’ve grown, and what we’ve learned from each other.

Ten days home, and everything feels familiar and also completely different. In this episode, I talk about what it’s been like to return to a place that shaped me after I’ve changed. The subtle identity shifts that come up when you step back into old roles, the strange feeling of realizing that your friends and family have grown too just without you there to see it, and the tension of meeting an older version of yourself while trying to stay connected to who you are now.

I’m Sofia, and welcome to the first episode of Coming Home to Her. I’ve lived in Maui, Copenhagen, Aarhus, Lisbon, and now Vienna — and every move has taught me something new about who I am and what “home” really means. This podcast is where I share those stories and talk honestly about change, growth, relationships, and figuring yourself out along the way. And if you’re in a transition of any kind, you won’t feel alone here.