Shift With Beth

If you’ve been doing the mindset work… noticing your self-abandonment… becoming aware of your inner critic… and still feeling stuck, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we go deeper. Inner child work isn’t about blaming your parents or rewriting your childhood. It’s about understanding that your nervous system learned what safety, love, and danger felt like when you were young. And those patterns don’t disappear just because you grow up. I share my own story of anxiety, insomnia, medication shame, high-functioning survival mode, and the moment I realized my body was reacting to something much older than my current circumstances. This is the episode where we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What happened to me?” What You’ll Learn in This Episode What inner child work actually is (and what it’s not) How early nervous system learning shapes adult anxiety and triggers The difference between big “T” trauma and little “t” trauma Why minimizing your childhood experiences keeps you stuck How shame keeps your nervous system braced A simple, practical way to begin inner child check-ins Why triggers are signals, not character flaws About Beth Beth is a somatic coach, breathwork facilitator, and speaker who helps women and leaders move from survival mode into safety, self-trust, and authentic expression. She bridges nervous system science and spirituality in a grounded, practical way so healing happens beyond mindset. Connect with Beth: Facebook Instagram Website If this resonated, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. And if you know someone who feels stuck in anxiety, shame, or repeating emotional patterns, share this episode with them. Learn more about working with Beth at shiftwithbeth.com.

If your inner critic has been loud lately, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It usually means you’re doing something brave. In this episode, we talk about the inner critic as a protective part of you, not the truth of who you are. It formed early, based on what you learned you had to do to stay safe, loved, and accepted. And while it might sound productive, the energy underneath it is pressure, urgency, and never enough. I share what my inner critic actually sounds like, how it shows up in body image, relationships, and expansion, and the moment I realized it was running my life during one of the most vulnerable seasons I’ve ever walked through. You’ll learn a grounded, body-based way to work with your inner critic using parts work, including a simple practice you can start using today to create safety inside your body and take your power back. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why your inner critic is not your true self, just a protective part Where the inner critic comes from and why it develops in the first place How it disguises itself as “motivation” while keeping you in survival mode Why shame never creates safety, and why safety is required for change What it looks like to work with your inner critic instead of fighting it A simple parts-work script to help you listen, lead, and take your life back Why slowing down is not lazy, it’s how you become aware and create choice Mentioned in This Episode – Internal Family Systems (IFS) / Parts Work – Book: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz About Beth Beth is a somatic coach, breathwork facilitator, and speaker who helps women and leaders move from survival mode into safety, self-trust, and authentic expression. She bridges nervous system science and spirituality in a grounded, practical way so healing happens beyond mindset. Connect with Beth: Facebook Instagram Website If this episode resonated, follow and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. Share it with someone who’s been living under pressure, pushing through life, or stuck in survival mode. Learn more about working with Beth at shiftwithbeth.com.

Understanding Self-Abandonment: Why We Choose Others Over Ourselves Have you ever found yourself saying “yes” to a commitment while your entire body was screaming “no”? Or perhaps you’ve become so good at sensing what other people need that you’ve completely lost touch with what you want. In this episode of Shift with Beth, we are pulling back the curtain on a behavior that many of us mistake for “being nice” or “being easy-going”: Self-Abandonment. What is Self-Abandonment? Self-abandonment is the act of rejecting your own feelings, needs, or boundaries in order to maintain a connection with someone else. It often starts as a survival strategy in childhood or high-demand environments where “fitting in” was a requirement for safety. Over time, this survival strategy becomes a default setting. We become high-capacity, low-maintenance individuals who are “successful” on the outside but feel increasingly hollow on the inside. The Link Between People-Pleasing and the Nervous System From a somatic perspective, people-pleasing is often a “fawn” response. When our nervous system senses a threat—like potential conflict or disapproval—it tries to appease the threat to stay safe. Common “tells” that you are in a cycle of self-abandonment include: The Reflexive Yes: Agreeing to things before you’ve even had a chance to check your calendar or your energy levels. The Emotional Chameleon: Changing your tone, opinions, or personality based on who you are with. The Silent Resentment: Feeling “burned out” by people you love, because you’ve been overriding your own boundaries to serve them. How to Start the Shift Back to Self-Leadership Healing from self-abandonment isn’t about becoming “selfish”; it’s about becoming self-led. It’s the process of rebuilding the capacity to be honest with yourself and others, even when it causes “natural friction.” “We’ve been taught that success requires at least some amount of self-abandonment. But true success—and true intimacy—can only happen when you are actually present in the room.” — Beth Schild Episode Highlights & Timestamps [05:20] Defining the “People-Pleaser” archetype as a protector. [14:15] Why high-demand environments (religion, corporate, etc.) reward self-abandonment. [22:40] The physical cost: How suppressing your truth leads to chronic stress and fatigue. [31:10] Action Step: The “10-Second Pause” technique to interrupt the fawn response. Subscribe: Follow on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to continue your journey. Join the Community: Visit shiftwithbeth.com to access resources and coaching.

Have you ever had a moment where you realized the life you were living wasn’t actually yours? In this debut episode of Shift with Beth, I’m sharing the raw, honest story of how I found my own voice after decades of self-silencing. For years, I lived a life defined by a high-demand religion, a 20-year marriage, and the constant pressure to be “good” and “easy-going.” But everything changed in the most unexpected place: at the gym, with a pair of headphones on. How a Podcast Became My Lifeline In this episode, I share the “lightning bolt” moment I experienced while listening to a podcast. It was the first time I felt truly seen by a stranger’s voice. That moment sparked a series of intentional shifts that led me away from religious dogma and toward somatic healing, self-love, and eventually, the creation of this show. What Does it Mean to “Shift”? We often think that change has to be explosive or overnight. But a shift is different. A shift is an intentional, slight adjustment in perspective or physiology that changes your entire trajectory. On this podcast, we will explore the shifts required to: Move out of “Survival Mode” and into a regulated nervous system. Stop the cycle of self-abandonment and people-pleasing. Navigate the messy middle of life’s biggest transitions—like divorce and faith crises. Use tools like Somatic Breathwork to heal the body from the inside out. What to Expect in Future Episodes This isn’t just a podcast about theory; it’s about practice. Moving forward, we will dive into: Somatic Tools: Practical ways to regulate your stress in real-time. Expert Interviews: Conversations with leaders in psychology, parenting, and wellness. Candid Solo Deep-Dives: Sharing the lessons I’m learning in real-time as a mother, coach, and woman in transition. “Change is inevitable, but a shift is intentional. I’m here to help you make the shifts that bring you back home to yourself.” — Beth Schild