Birds and Bees Don't Fck

 Get your Yes / No / Maybe List HERE Season 3 is officially a wrap, so Arielle is sitting down solo for a long-overdue update on what worked, what definitely didn't, and what's changing before Season 4. After producing 20 episodes as a one-woman show, Arielle talks burnout, questionable audio, why Patreon didn't work, moving the bonus Birds & Bees Don't Read Reddit episodes to Substack, and the launch of Come Again. She also gets personal about the realities of working in entertainment right now, shifting her focus toward hosting and presenting, and why she no longer wants to be "the expert." Plus, The Distinguished Gentleman's Drive returns September 27th in support of Movember and yes, Birds & Bees Don't Fck will be back for Season 4. Check us out on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Venmo: @ArielleZadok  Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, date and experience reviews, and show updates on Substack!  Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Substack: Come Again w/ Arielle Zadok Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet 00:45 Thank You to Hundreds of New Subscribers 01:51 Why the Arts Matter 04:10 The Reality of Producing a Podcast for Free 08:25 Why Patreon Didn't Work 10:30 Introducing Come Again 11:12 Date, Travel & Experience Reviews Through a Sexologist's Lens 13:30 The Reality of Working in Hollywood Right Now 15:52 The Yes / No / Maybe List & What Happens to My Sex Education Resources 16:55 A Career Update + A New Mystery Project 17:35 The Distinguished Gentleman's Drive 18:14 Movember, Men's Health & Why Supporting Men Matters 22:57 Season 4 Is Happening! Here's What I Know 24:15 Why I Have to Take Care of Myself Before Making Another Season 26:35 Late Night Playset & Goodnight with Ben Gleib

Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Ariel Zucker is a producer, director, and writer from Atlanta, Georgia where sex education was taught through abstinence, fear-based messaging, and wildly unhelpful visuals that left her and her peers confused about their bodies and sexuality. In this episode we talk about growing up with abstinence-based sex education, the confusion and shame that comes from fear-driven messaging, how sex education shapes our early experiences, and what it actually means to unlearn all of that as an adult. We get into working in production and storytelling, intimacy coordination and creating safer sets, navigating desire and communication, kink and lifestyle communities, and how humor, curiosity, and real conversations can create better sex education than anything we learned in school. We're going in on the Reddit stories, AZ Style.  Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck _________________________________________________ Where to find Ariel Zucker: Instagram: @arielzucker & @imarealcnt Website: www.arielzucker.com & www.Imarealcnt.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/cntproductions   Where to find Arielle Zadok: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Bonus stories found on Patreon Story 1: My wife (33F) is denying we're married and wants to be called my girlfriend. I'm confused Story 2: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me Story 3: Would I be the asshole if I broke up with my girlfriend for humiliating me Like jewelry with a sexy secret? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet: 00:00 Intro and meeting "the other Arielle" 02:05 Ariel Zucker on working in production and comedy 05:10 Working with Ify Nwadiwe and the LA comedy scene 07:45 Dropout TV, Make Some Noise, and behind-the-scenes production work 11:30 Growing up in Atlanta with abstinence-based sex education 15:10 Fear-based sex ed and early confusion about bodies and sex 19:40 First real sexual experiences and lack of preparation 24:10 Learning about sex outside of school (media, friends, curiosity) 28:20 Why humor and real conversations teach better sex ed 32:50 Intimacy coordination and creating safer sets in film and TV 37:40 Kink, play parties, and alternative relationship spaces 42:30 Communication, boundaries, and navigating desire 47:10 Rewriting sexual narratives and unlearning shame 52:00 The gap between sex education and real-life experience 57:40 What good sex education should actually look like

Alyssa Mei Lue is a traveling burlesque and circus performer, Playboy model, and podcaster from Riverside, California, where her formal sex education consisted of one vague classroom video, a heavily religious upbringing, and getting married at 21 before she had ever seen, touched, or had sex with a penis. In this episode, we talk about performance, survival, and what it actually means to be a dangerous woman. Alyssa shares how she got into modeling during quarantine, why modeling can be just as risky as live performance, and how learning boundaries in those industries changed the way she moves through the world. We also get into catcalling, self-defense, jiu-jitsu, gun safety, growing up in Riverside, and the reality of having almost no real sex education before marriage. Want more of Alyssa and I? Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck _________________________________________________ Where to find Alyssa: Instagram: @alyssameiliu Podcast: Bend Her Backwards Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me. STORY 2: My wife (33f) is denying we're married and wants to be called my 'girlfriend'… I'm confused STORY 3: WIBTAH for breaking up with my gf for humiliating me? Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle Episode Cheat Sheet: 00:20 Meet Alyssa Mei Lue (burlesque performer & model) 02:27 Getting back into performing and winning The Play's Got Talent 04:32 Live performance challenges and adapting on stage 08:46 Why burlesque is more exhausting than aerial performance 10:51 Presence, performance, and why it matters in sex 13:10 Modeling risks, boundaries, and safety 17:44 How Alyssa started modeling during quarantine 19:59 The psychology of angles, posing, and "perfect" photos 24:18 Catcalling, safety, and walking alone as a woman 33:39 Why women stay guarded and how quickly things can escalate 35:54 Self-defense, jiu-jitsu, and learning how to fight back 46:56 Growing up in Riverside and building resilience 50:03 Getting married before having sex (and what happened) 55:52 Why sex education fails so many people 57:06 Pleasure, autonomy, and rebellion 59:06 Patreon preview: Reddit relationship stories

Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Emily Zawadzki (AKA Emily Zed) is a Canadian sex educator who specializes in supporting queer, kinky, and neurodivergent people navigating intimacy, relationships, and pleasure. She grew up in Kitchener-Waterloo, Ontario, where her formal sex education came from Catholic school abstinence lessons, graphic STI scare tactics, and a very cool mom who handed her an educational flap book about how babies are made. In this episode we talk about building a career in sex education, why gender-affirming care isn't just for trans people, and how gender expression can show up in something as simple as hair color. Emily shares what it was like growing up Catholic while questioning her sexuality, the pressure of stereotypes about what lesbians "should" look like, and how discovering her wife's ADHD shifted her work toward supporting neurodivergent intimacy and sexuality. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck  _________________________________________________ Where to find Emily: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyzedsexed Website: https://emilyzedsexed.com Emily's Webinar: https://www.emilyzedsexed.com/neuroqueer-webinar Where to find Arielle:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle Episode Cheat Sheet  02:04 Purple hair babes, identity and gender expression 04:03 What gender-affirming care actually means 06:05 Why queer identities aren't "new" 08:05 Emily's path to becoming a sex educator 11:22 Switching from social work to sexuality studies 14:00 Why casual conversations normalize sex education 18:06 Arielle's early sex curiosity and Dr. Ruth influence 22:00 Producing a sex education podcast for people who hate sex ed 26:00 Catholic school abstinence education and STI scare tactics 27:17 The "cool mom" who provided real sex education 30:20 Why better sex education leads to later sexual activity 33:15 Why showing graphic STI photos to teens is harmful 36:40 Coming out as queer after growing up Catholic 38:50 Unlearning stereotypes about what lesbians "should" look like 41:20 Why labels can be empowering or limiting 45:30 Biphobia and policing identity inside queer communities 50:00 Feminism, patriarchy, and why hating men isn't the solution 55:05 Discovering ADHD in Emily's relationship 56:20 Neurodivergence, sensory play, and sexual arousal 58:12 Why partners need to do their own sex education work 59:00 Where to find Emily and upcoming neuroqueer intimacy webinar

Join us LIVE AT FIVE (PT) on YouTube for the watch party every Wednesday: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Joy Mamey is an actor, writer, comedian, cancer survivor, and improviser currently performing with Sunday Company at The Groundlings who grew up in Los Angeles where her sex ed teacher wouldn't answer her questions so she thought sex was basically naked kissing and that penises had bones. In this episode we talk about the surprising overlap between improv and intimacy, why "yes and" can become a people-pleasing trap, and what happens when we're taught to ignore our instincts to make other people comfortable. Joy shares the sex education she never got, the question her sex ed teacher refused to answer, and why she genuinely thought penises had bones. We also get into body autonomy, consent, patriarchy, impact versus intention, learning to say no, and the importance of listening when your body is trying to tell you something.   Hey, you too can Fck Like The Movies! https://www.rubyisland.media/course Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Where to find Joy: Instagram: @joymamey Website: https://www.joymamey.com/   Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck   Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: AITAH for ending a 4 year serious relationship without even a huge fight? STORY 2: My [M27] wife [F28] showed her friends our sex tapes STORY 3: AIO because my husband 'forgot' to tell me we'd be sharing a condo with his ex-wife during a family beach vacation? Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet 01:20 Meet Joy Mamey 02:45 The Groundlings, Second City & Improv Comedy 03:50 Why "Yes And" Can Become Toxic 06:50 Consent, Boundaries & Learning To Say No 08:00 What Improv Taught Us About Intimacy 12:45 Why Impact Matters More Than Intentions 18:00 Can Bad People Actually Change? 20:50 Psychopaths vs Sociopaths Explained 25:30 Power Dynamics, Comedy & Punching Down 30:15 Why Speaking Up During Sex Is So Hard 32:45 The Problem With People Pleasing In Bed 37:30 The Church Hug Joy Never Forgot 41:00 Why Patriarchy Hurts Men Too 45:45 Growing Up Without Sex Education 48:15 My Sex Ed Teacher Ignored My Question 49:45 "I Thought Penises Had Bones" 52:45 Why Porn Became Sex Education 55:00 Being Called "Exotic" As A Child 58:00 The Kinky Mind Meld Game 59:30 Why Improv Feels Like Great Sex 1:02:30 Patreon Reddit Story Preview