The Liberated Life - When Did You Last Feel Free?

You know the version of you that has an opinion but doesn't say it. That has a desire but talks herself out of it. That works incredibly hard, gives generously, and quietly makes herself smaller so no one feels uncomfortable. You probably don't call it the good girl. You just call it being professional. Being considerate. Being realistic. In this episode, you'll find out why that pattern runs so deep, where it actually comes from, and why no amount of mindset work shifts it if you haven't looked at what's underneath. You'll understand why shrinking isn't a personality flaw, it's a protection strategy, and a very intelligent one at that. You'll hear what it actually looks and feels like to start moving out of it, not by becoming louder or more controversial, but by building enough inner trust that your desires finally get more airtime than your fears. And you'll leave knowing the difference between the audacity that's performed for attention and the kind that quietly changes everything. This conversation with erotic empowerment leader Amy Lavinia is the kind that makes you want to go and do the thing you've been sitting on. → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveThe Audacity - Group Programme

There is a word you say so automatically you don't even notice you're saying it anymore. Someone asks how you are and before you've even checked, before you've taken a single breath, it's already out of your mouth. Fine. And here's the thing about fine. It's not neutral. It's not just a social nicety. Every time you say it, you are training yourself that your actual experience doesn't matter enough to mention. That the complex, uncomfortable, beautiful, confusing truth of how you actually are is too much for the room. And somewhere in that habit is the reason so many high-achieving women feel deeply lonely inside lives that look completely together from the outside. In this episode, you'll understand why the word fine might be one of the most quietly destructive things you say on repeat, and what it costs you in connection, in intimacy, in the simple experience of being known. You'll learn what it actually takes to come back online after years of autopilot, and why one small shift in how you ask and answer that question can change the quality of every relationship you have. This is a short one. But it will stay with you. → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve https://offers.lucymaeve.com/the-liberated-life-retreat-2026/

You have read the books, listened to the podcasts, done the therapy, absorbed the frameworks. You know your attachment style, you understand your nervous system, you can articulate your patterns in impressive detail. And somehow, despite all of that, something still feels off. Stuck. Foggy. Like you're doing everything right and yet the thing you're actually looking for keeps not arriving. What if that isn't because you haven't found the right answer yet? What if it's because you've consumed so many answers that you can no longer hear your own? In this episode, you'll understand why the golden age of self-improvement might actually be making some of us more lost, not less. You'll hear why constantly reaching for the next framework, the next piece of content, the next explanation is the same outsourcing habit that got you here in the first place, just wearing different clothes. And you'll leave with something that no amount of information can give you: a little more space. Space to metabolize. Space to come back to yourself. Space to hear what was there all along underneath all the noise. This is the episode to listen to when you're exhausted from trying to figure it all out. → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveOnline Breathwork

You have probably heard the word psychedelics and felt something. Curiosity, maybe. Fear, possibly. A quiet sense that there might be something there worth understanding, but you haven't quite known where to start or who to trust with the question. This episode is for you. In this conversation, you'll find out what psychedelics actually do in the body and brain, and why the experience is so radically different from what Nixon's war on drugs wanted you to believe. You'll understand why the most meaningful journeys happen not to people chasing a peak experience, but to people who have done enough self-awareness work to handle what comes up. You'll hear why integration is the piece the psychedelic industry consistently under-delivers on, and what it actually looks like to take an insight from a ceremony and turn it into lasting change in your nervous system, your relationships, and your life. And you'll leave knowing exactly where to start if any of this is calling you, without needing to dive into the deep end first. Lucy is joined by psychedelic integration coach Alexandra Artsaglu, who has studied alongside Gabor Maté and brings rigour, warmth and hard-earned wisdom to one of the most important conversations in modern healing.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve @thealexexperienceThe incredible microdosing e-book

You have been told it will just happen when it happens. And for a while, you believed it. You went on the dates, you did the work, you read the books, you know your attachment style inside out. And yet here you are, still getting anxious with the ones who like you, still getting bored with the ones who are actually good for you, still watching everyone around you pair off while quietly wondering what is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. But something is being missed in the advice you are being given, and this episode is about what that is. You will leave this episode understanding why waiting for it to just happen is not comforting, it is quietly disempowering, and why that narrative can cost you years. You will understand what is actually happening in your body when you sabotage something good, and why no amount of understanding it intellectually will change the pattern on its own. And you will hear, from someone who has been exactly where you are, what the real work looks like and why it is so much bigger and more life-changing than just finding a partner. This is the episode to listen to if you are tired of knowing better and still doing the same thing. → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveTrust in Love

You've done enough personal work to know your patterns. You've read about attachment styles, you know your triggers, you've probably even done the therapy. And still, something keeps happening. The ones who feel electric tend to disappear. The ones who are actually available somehow feel wrong. Off. Too easy. Maybe even boring. In this episode, you'll find out why that is, and it's not what the red flag content on Instagram is telling you. You'll understand why anxiety in a healthy relationship is not the same as a warning sign, and why treating it like one might be the most expensive mistake you keep making. You'll hear why your nervous system is not trying to protect you from the wrong person, it might actually be trying to protect you from the right one. And you'll leave with a completely different way of reading what's happening inside you when things get close and real and a little bit terrifying. This is not about lowering your standards. It's about understanding the difference between what feels familiar and what is actually good for you. Because until you can tell those two things apart, the pattern runs the show. → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveFree Workshop 8th February

You have probably dated an avoidant man. Maybe you are in a relationship with one right now. Maybe you have been told, or have quietly suspected, that you have some avoidance of your own. And yet almost everything out there about avoidant attachment is written from the outside looking in, which means you understand the pattern but you still have no real idea what is happening on the inside of it. This episode changes that. In this conversation, Lucy's first ever male guest opens up about what it actually feels like to wake up numb after the best date of your life, why men pull away from the very people they want most, and what the journey from avoidance to real intimacy has looked like from inside a male nervous system. You will leave with a completely different way of understanding the men in your life, not as people who don't care, but as people who are often terrified in ways they cannot name. You will also hear an honest conversation about what women carry towards men, the ancient anger that can poison the most loving relationships, and what it takes to build something that can hold both people without either one disappearing. This is one of the most raw and genuinely useful conversations about modern love and relating that the podcast has produced. Adam Slawson

In this episode of The Ache, I respond to a listener who has built a life she genuinely loves — meaningful work, strong routines, solid friendships — yet feels a deep contraction at the thought of dating. Not because she doesn’t want intimacy, but because she’s afraid of losing herself again. Together, we explore why this fear makes so much sense, how self-abandonment is a learned nervous system pattern (not a personal failing), and why hyper-independence often forms after we’ve disappeared in love before. I unpack the tension between authenticity and attachment, share why relationships tend to activate old survival strategies, and reframe dating as a space for gentle awareness rather than self-betrayal. This episode is an invitation to stay close to yourself in connection, to notice when you drift, and to practice telling the truth — slowly, imperfectly, and with compassion — so intimacy no longer requires you to leave your body to be loved. If you’ve ever thought “my life is good, so why does love feel so scary?” this one is for you.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveThe Ache Submission

In this episode, I tell a very real story about a date that sent me spiralling: lonely, anxious, overthinking everything, and somehow ended with me chasing a man down the street holding a packet of ham. (Yes, really.) What starts as a funny moment opens into something much deeper: the ache beneath dating anxiety, the quiet panic of feeling unchosen, and the old relational wiring that gets activated when connection starts to matter. I share what was actually happening in my body, how childhood dynamics were playing out in real time, and why these moments aren’t evidence that you’re “too much” or doing dating wrong, they’re signals. This conversation is about relational anxiety, responsibility without self-blame, and the moment we stop trying to perform our way into love and start listening to what our bodies are protecting us from. If you’ve ever wondered why dating can make you feel a bit unhinged, why loneliness hits hardest when you’re trying not to need anyone, or why you keep repeating the same patterns even though you “know better”, this one’s for you. Not a how-to. Not a fix. Just an honest invitation to meet yourself with more truth, humour, and compassion, and maybe stop chasing men with processed meat along the way.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveJanuary Event

In this episode of The Liberated Life, I sit down with psychologist and pleasure mentor Bel Litsek to unravel the quiet violence of self-control—and why the path to the love we crave isn’t found through effort or perfection, but through erotic aliveness and nervous system safety. We talk about why Instagram is distorting how we relate and making us perform instead of connect, how the love most of us were taught to want is actually about ownership, not intimacy, why “getting rid of rigidity” isn’t the point—and what it actually wants to teach us, and how pleasure disrupts trauma patterns, unlocks deep softness, and becomes the foundation for sovereign, satisfying love. This one’s a soft rebellion. A sacred remembering. And a call to let pleasure do the work.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve@bel.litsek

In this episode of The Ache, I respond to a listener who describes a quiet, persistent loneliness despite having a full life, a successful career, close friendships, travel, and years of personal growth. We explore why gratitude doesn’t cancel longing, why independence doesn’t erase the need to be met, and how it’s possible to feel proud of your life while still grieving the one you imagined. I speak about complex, often unacknowledged grief, the grief of timing, identity, and unrealised futures, and why this kind of ache doesn’t mean something has gone wrong. Drawing on Carl Jung’s understanding of loneliness, we look at how loneliness is not always about the absence of people, but about the absence of somewhere for what matters most inside us to land. This episode is an invitation to stop shaming the ache, to allow two truths to coexist, and to let longing be meaningful without turning it into a verdict on your life.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve→ Join the waitlist for the group programme

If Christmas leaves you feeling more activated than festive… this episode is your permission slip to breathe. In today’s solo episode, we explore why going home for the holidays can pull you straight back into old patterns — the people-pleasing, the shrinking, the performing, the overthinking — even after all the therapy, the journaling, the self-awareness. Because the truth is: your family isn’t the trigger; your family is the blueprint. In this conversation, we dive into why being around family reactivates your nervous system, the identity you slip into at home (and how it shows up in dating too), the avoidant, anxious, and shutdown patterns that surface during the holidays, how Christmas can become a portal into real relational healing, five gentle things to notice in your body this week, and a simple regulation practice you can use anytime you feel yourself spiralling. This episode isn’t about fixing yourself; it’s about seeing yourself — clearly, tenderly, honestly. Because everything that gets activated around your family at Christmas is the same thing that gets activated in your relationships. When you learn to meet it with curiosity instead of self-judgment, everything begins to shift.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve→ Join the waitlist for the group programme→ FREE breathing Practice

What happens when you stop editing yourself and start showing up in your full, untamed aliveness?In this whirly, wild episode, I sit down with Becca for a soulful conversation on creative freedom, grief, visibility, and the rituals that root us.Together, we dive into:• Letting go of the “likeable” filter and what opens up when you do• The messy beauty of celebrating in the in-between, not just at the finish line• What Unitarian Universalism taught her about belonging, mystery, and meaning• Grieving a beloved friend and how that loss cracked open new clarity around risk, death, and desire• Embodiment as both compass and creative engine• The real talk behind visibility, spiritual weirdness, and what it means to take up spaceFor the woman standing at the edge of her next brave move this episode is your permission slip to get a little wild, get a little loud, and celebrate yourself before the world catches up.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve @wildwomanbecca

In today’s episode, I introduce a new series called The Ache - a space where we explore the truths most women hide behind polished exteriors: the shame, the longing, the patterns that feel impossible to break. Our first submission speaks to a common but rarely admitted experience: “I love my fiancé, but every time I see this other guy, I forget my values. I feel lit up, obsessed, pulled toward him… and then ashamed. I don’t want to sabotage what I have, but I can’t seem to stop.” In this episode, we unravel what’s really happening beneath behaviour that looks “wrong” on the surface but makes perfect sense somatically. We explore why your system might feel more alive with the wrong person than with the right one, why stability can feel threatening if you grew up around unpredictable love, and why your body might confuse familiar activation with attraction. This conversation goes into the deeper layers - the younger parts who still expect love to come with anxiety, the self-protective patterns that show up as sabotage, and the real question underneath cheating: Who do you get to be with this other man that you don’t feel allowed to be in your relationship? This episode isn’t about justifying behaviour - it’s about understanding it. Because you can’t change a pattern you’re still shaming yourself for. If you want your own Ache explored in a future episode, you can submit anonymously through the link in the show notes.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve→ Submit your ache here

In this episode, we explore the truth most women feel but rarely admit out loud: the fear of female intimacy, the awkwardness of walking into a room full of women, and the part of you that signs up for a group or retreat and then immediately thinks, “F***… what have I done?” We dive into the history of the sisterhood wound — how patriarchy separated women on purpose, how witch hunts traumatised female community, and how modern girlhood reinforces comparison, exclusion, and competition. We unpack how this wound shows up today as hyper-independence, intimidation, anxiety in women-only spaces, or the quiet belief that you don’t belong with other women. And we talk about what becomes possible when women feel safe together: deep regulation, co-healing, belonging, and the softening that can only happen in female community. If you’ve been feeling the pull toward women’s circles, groups, or retreats but the fear is loud, this episode will help you understand exactly why — and why that “f****” feeling is often the sign that something powerful is opening. If you’re ready to explore this in community, the link to join is in the show notes.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve https://lucymaeve133.lpages.co/the-liberated-life-retreat-2026

What happens when your partner doesn’t get your path—but you love them anyway?In this intimate, no-holds-barred conversation, we explore the complex dance of staying true to your calling when the person you share your home with doesn’t speak your spiritual language.Together, we unpack:• The moment you realize your partner can’t meet you on the same frequency and how that lands in the body• What it’s really like to build a purpose-led or “witchy” business with someone who’s skeptical• The quiet ways women shrink—or shape-shift—to make love feel safer• Navigating the line between honoring your magic and not making him the villain• How to protect your softness without going silent• The difference between spiritual compatibility and relational compatibility (and why it matters)This one’s for the woman whispering her truth in a house that doesn’t quite hear it yet.You’re not silly. You’re not alone. And no, you don’t have to choose between love and liberation.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve@louiselewis_coach

If you’ve ever tried to “figure it out” — to logic your way out of anxiety, shame, or heartbreak — and still found yourself looping in the same patterns, this episode is for you. Lucy dives into why healing attachment wounding through the mind doesn’t work — because the body doesn’t speak the language of logic. It speaks in sensations, impulses, contractions, and the deep, wordless memory of what love once cost you. You’ll hear why your emotional reactions aren’t irrational, even when they feel that way — and how your body’s “irrational” responses are actually intelligent — shaped by the relationships that taught you what was safe (and what wasn’t). Lucy explores how to begin reconnecting with the body — not to control or bypass it — but to finally listen. Because until you feel safe in your body, your mind will keep running in circles trying to protect you. This is a powerful listen for anyone who’s exhausted from “doing the work,” but still feels stuck, self-critical, or secretly afraid they’re just broken. You’re not. You’re just healing in the wrong language.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve https://lucymaeve133.lpages.co/the-liberated-life-retreat-2026/

What happens when the life you’ve built no longer fits—when the version of you that once made sense starts to feel like a costume you can’t breathe in? In this episode of The Liberated Life, Lucy sits down with Kat Johnson, a holistic practitioner who, at forty, walked away from a twenty-year career in life sciences to follow a truth she could no longer ignore. Her body said enough. And she listened. Together, they explore what it really means to be the heroine between peaks—that raw, tender space between who you were and who you’re becoming. It’s not the glossy “after” moment. It’s the in-between: the unraveling, the trusting, the choosing-yourself-anyway. They flow through the edge Kat’s been sitting in since leaving a career of certainty for a path of purpose; the truth they both wish more women would say out loud about healing and “having it all together”; the often-unspoken realities of growth, motherhood, and what it takes to let your identity evolve; and the deep wisdom that comes from honouring your body’s no, even when your mind screams stay. This is a conversation about the wildness of following your gut when logic says don’t, and the grace it takes to live between the peaks—where the truest kind of growth happens. ✨ For the woman standing at her own edge, wondering if she can trust the fall. You can. Your body already knows the way.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve https://lucymaeve133.lpages.co/the-liberated-life-retreat-2026/

What happens when the version of you that everyone admires… starts to feel like a costume?In this raw and resonant conversation, I sit down with a woman who has shapeshifted through many lives—corporate high-flyer, healer, energy worker—and who knows firsthand the cost of clinging to identities that no longer fit.We explore what it really takes to step out of performance and into presence. How trauma can keep us fused to old roles. And why grief is the often-ignored portal to personal liberation.Inside the episode, we explore:• Why letting go of “the impressive one” can feel like death• The sacred grief work beneath every transformation• Invisible patterns high-achieving women carry in their nervous systems• What true readiness for change sounds, feels, and looks like• The truth about what happens when you stop proving and start livingIf you’ve been teetering on the edge of your old life—terrified to let go but aching for more—this one’s for you. Come listen. Come exhale. Come remember who you were before the world told you who to be.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeveSee what’s in the way of becoming her… and open the door to your next identity: Free Audio from River - Reveal: A Catalyst for Identity AlchemyContact info:www.clearresonancelab.comIG: @iamriverayla

We’ve become professionally overdeveloped and relationally underdeveloped — brilliant at holding it all together, but not always safe enough to let ourselves be seen. In this episode, Lucy shares how her own mask of achievement became armour, and what it takes to feel safe in love, truth, and connection. You’ll explore why success can feel easier than intimacy, how control replaces safety, and what happens when you finally let yourself be real. You don’t need to shrink to be loved — you just need to feel safe enough to stay.→ Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve → Learn more about 1:1 coaching